Bachelor Happy Hour - Mental Health and Maturity with Thomas N. | Golden Hour

Episode Date: November 18, 2024

Today on Golden Hour we have Thomas N. from Jenn's season of The Bachelorette joining us! We kick off today's episode getting into all things Golden Bachelorette Finale! From the tea on the afterparty, to our thoughts on the final episode, we get into it all! Then, we bring Thomas in for a catch up; what's the latest on his dating life? And of course, he helps us give some amazing advice! Tune in now to hear all this and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD,

oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, Psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Hey, welcome back to Bachelor.

Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Kathy, what a good day it's going to be. Oh my gosh. We have a great guest day, but Susan, are you kidding me? We're exhausted. got to talk about all things, Joan and Chalk, the finale. It was fabulous. I mean, first of all, I cried, of course.

I felt so bad for Guy. Okay, well, let's start at the top here. I mean, she looked beautiful. The guys were all there. We were sitting with all them. It was super fun to listen to the thing. But how much courage did it take for Joan to go and knock on guys' drawer? and say it broke my heart i know what was i thought it was so brave of her though well she had to though

because to me that's part of the game okay you go on the show to find love which i truly believe it but somebody's got to have their heartbroken the one of the last two it's just yeah i remember when leslie was crying her eyes out and for joan to say it and do it rather than have them come down and do all that i respected joan for doing that it it is It had to be, it would have been really hard for going to, because, you know, he said he was going to get down on a knee and propose to her. And when she went into his room, he didn't get it at first. I mean, I kept thinking, if you and I had been sitting there and that knocked him on the door, we'd know. You know, a knock on the door when it's close to the end of the show is never a good thing.

Like, don't answer your door. Don't answer your door. No, would you rather have to go down with the ring in your hand and then she'd say no. No, I'm being, I'm being funny. Yeah. So, but you know what? So, I mean, it was such a beautiful proposal when she said she loved him. God, I know. It was a perfect match. I truly believe from the get-go she had eyes for him. It was so obvious. I think she was interested in getting to know guy. I really do. Yeah. It was no greener the way she kissed the whole season. But better than all that, the beautiful proposal is us meeting the guys. It was so much fun of the after 40s. day through? Wow. Yeah. So the guys are super. I think, though, I just have to say something else about,

about, you're usually the one that's crying at these things, but I found myself crying when Joan was saying that he wasn't ever going to replace, that she was worried about her kids. And I started, I started crying because I thought, well, I just thought that that could have been me, you know, It's hard, yeah. But his kids, I mean, they're next to us in the hotel room. They're fabulous. His son and daughter are fabulous Jones kids. Taylor is lovely.

She was telling us how much she loves Joan and how they have Zoom calls with each, the kids and both families. How about her mother? I love her. And her mother-in-law, they're adorable. I mean, that's a family. Wait, Kathy, the best part, how about when we walked in, everybody, Susan and Kathy, Kathy and Susan, oh my God, like they all knew us. That felt so special. Yeah, but you know what, Susan?

Huh? We still don't have a day. It wasn't about us. We don't have a date. It was about Joe and Chalk. And all I can say is I just am so happy for them. I truly do anyone out there, if you don't think this process can work, think again. Because those two are truly in love and people on socials are already saying things. like, I hope it doesn't it but Gary and Teresa. Oh, those people. I mean, you know, they have a point. I hope it doesn't too, but I don't believe it's gone too. I saw the magic.

I mean, I think those two. Can I just say shit happens? Like, you can't control everything. Shit happens. Wait, can we talk about, so Susan and I are sitting there and when shop ever pulls out the key chain for the place in New York, I was like, it's over. I got to say, though, the feeling at the show was, was so warm and fuzzy, and everybody was rooting for them. And then afterwards, so we know the

stylist Carrie who dresses her. He's amazing. She looks stunning last night. Stunning. Stunning. Stunning. So then we get to the after party. In Beverly Hills, mind you wait. This place, people, was over the top perfection. It was grand. How about the staircase going up? To the private, oh my goodness, it was beautiful. Can I just say, though, for me, it was seeing Chalk and Jones so happy. She changed her dress. She had on a gorgeous black dress with beads on, sequins on the top.

It was gorgeous, rhinestones, whatever you call it, rhinestones. But she looked so happy. But there were like 200-something people in there. They were producers. For you and me, it was not just sure that they're happy. It was a coming home party getting to see the producers of the, it was so much. funny. It was a really super party. Wait, wait, can I

just add something? Can I add something? Yeah. I think, and you guys, you fans, let us know what you think. I think we should be at every single solitary final rooms. Because we get to talk to everybody. We get the real stuff, the real juice

out of the people that didn't make it. And from the happy couple, I think that's our new title, Kat. Yeah. The happy couple? Yeah. Our title? No, I want my I know about interviewing the happy couple and the people that were on the show. Everybody was warm and welcome to us.

And a lot of them follow our podcast. We had quite a few of them say, I want on your podcast, which ladies and gentlemen, they're coming. How about the fan that always brings us a bracelet? I know. We each got bracelets that's saying golden hour pod. How sweet is that? Now we have a bracelet to wear in case we forget what we're doing. We just can look down in our wrist.

Golden Hour podcast. It was such a good night, oh, and on every one of the gentlemen that we spoke to that was there all said, what a great experience. We talked about their bonding with each other like we did. And I don't know about you,

but every one of them said to me, did you only meet Kathy on the show? Yes, it's true. Yes, it's true. So I think they're going to have good relationships. I think we all talk about being part of the same family, but let's talk about some of the golden women who were there to meet some of the.

golden men. Oh, baby. It was like, let's, let's spill the tea on that. Edith was having a good old time with Dan. Holy. That, Dan, if you're listening, you were like a deer in the headlights. We hope you had as much. We were loving watching. I had to go up and interrupt it for a second, like just the same for a minute. Like, okay. I mean, for those of you who don't remember, Edith was on our season. She is gorgeous, silvery, long. Yeah, beautiful hair. She is just, and she knows how to work that here. And she was very entreated to him.

Very excited. So we'll keep our nose to the grindstone to see what we come up with that. What golden couples are coming out. You finally got to meet Jack. Oh, yes, I did. Jack said he's a character. He's a character. For those of you again out there, Susan and Jack, I don't know.

Like, I don't think it can work, Susan. You two are too much alike in the sense that. you're both bigger than life and fun, but I don't think it's going to work. Yeah, it's definitely in the friend zone. Nice person, nice person. I'd really like getting to know Jones friends. She had several friends there and her family. Wait, you and I have a beach invitation.

I know, I know. Wait, we have a beach invitation to go to Jones friends. They were spilling. So when I talked to Guy, I said, how are you doing? You know, you handled herself so well tonight. I know how hard it is. And then I said, well, actually not that I would know. I wasn't left at the altar.

I didn't even barely get a rose. But he started to laugh. And he goes, look to me and he smiled. He goes, I mean, it has been four months. I'm good. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. But imagine that shock that when he cried on there.

That's when I started crying. And you know, Kathy, they do it to us every time. I don't, I'm not a pretty crier. And I could hear Susan's crying. Susan's crying. Get the zoom in. That the cameras come up. Like, seriously.

You know what? I think you were rubbing off on me because I used to just sit there and make it snarky comments. Wait. Oh, look at her. Now I shouldn't have run. I am rubbing off with you

because I always do that, oh, God, with my prayer hands, I turn around, there you go, with your hands up. I go, oh, my God. I got the prairie ends and I'm crying now. It's like, that's what happens with besties. Oh, my God.

You pick up each other. But all in all, the gentlemen were all so real, so nice. Yeah, they were, and they were super happy to be there and excited. They, like us, talked about the great experience they had. We were asking them which bedroom they had.

Remember that? Jack was one of the ones that said, I slept in the rose room. But the thing is, we all shared that. I mean, honestly, it was like a reunion last night of family and friends, the family of the bachelor. Yes, it was great. How about seeing all the producers and all the guys backstage? Like, we haven't seen them.

It's quite almost a year. I was so wonderful seeing everybody, and I'm so, so happy for the two of them. I really am. Okay. Listen, I have a conversation with CHOP, right? We had mad a little bit, and people, I'm standing there trying to get a soda.

I wanted a Coke. And he was standing there, and I said, So I'm so happy for you. He goes, I know everything about you. He goes, I've Googled you guys. I listen to your podcast. I was like, I'm impressed. We're going to get them.

on this podcast. We're going to get Chalk and Joan on this podcast. We are going to, we're going to make them totally dish out the team. Dan wants to be on. Guy wants to be on June and Chopp want to be on Chops. Kids want to be on. You know, we might get in date with one of these guys yet. You know, it's not too late. It's definitely not too late. All I can say is, though, it's sad, though. For me, every time there's a finale, it brings home the fact that, you know, we're moving on to a new season. And again, our next bachelor was there. He was so cute. I didn't know he sat in like that.

He has a great voice. I didn't know he played basketball. I can't wait to see the season. Anyway, it was a lot of talk about paradise. I'm getting a little excited that they might do some golden things. We don't know this for a fact. But rumor has it. You know what, Susan?

You know what they're going to have you and me? They're going to have us in a stall. Counseling. Counseling. We're going to counsel. Yeah. Kathy and Susan, room 406. And then my little tiny crush on Habev, he was there.

Oh, my God. I love that kid. I love him. Okay. Producers, if you're listening, keep her away from Hakeeb. It could be dangerous. No, it was a great show. I love everybody.

It was a great show. Yeah. Chalk and Joan, we love you. we are so happy for you. Congratulations. And we're coming to New York to have dinner with you, okay? We want to overlook Central Park, or you can take us to the finest Michelin-rated restaurant. We're easy. We love you, Joan. We love you. Now, Chop. You're part of our family.

You're part of it. And we love your families. And it was so great. And we get hardly to wait for the next season. I know. I know. And we've got to get to talk to Thomas today. Okay. So let's move on. We've got to get talking to Thomas. Maybe he'll have, you know, some insights on what he thinks about golden marriages, golden relationships. We'll find out. Stay tuned. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon.

This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jemail Hill, host to the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives.

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and always will be. Yes, you know, I am always. Before we even get rolling really quick, we were ready, ma'am. Oh, no, no, no. Kathy, just say Kathy. Just say, okay. Okay, okay. I'm from the South, so I'll say it, so you correct me.

You were raised properly. Very nice. But really quick, there's something that we were both doing our little homework and that we read about you. One of your pet peeves about people standing up on the airplane when it lands. Talk to me. Talk to me. I got to tell you, Thomas, you probably sat next to me,

because I get that seatbelt off before they ring the buzzer and I'm standing, I don't care if I'm by the window. I am up. So I want to hear about this. Do you tell. I'm just to go with the flow like very nonchalant, very easy. Like if I'm sitting there, I'm cool being the last

person off the plane. Yeah, Thomas, have you ever had a 30 minute connection? Have you ever had a 30 minute connection? Get your ass up and move. I apply Delta, so I'm always trying to do one straight, get there. Yeah, yeah. That's so funny. Okay. So the other thing that I want to ask you about, there's several things. You're talking about a relationship.

I don't know if you're dating, you know, since, you know, you left the show. If you believe in love and first sight, you're going to tell us all these things. But I was struck by the fact that you said relationships are rarely 50-50, that you some days will bring 20 percent and some days you'll bring 80 percent and hope your partner picks up the slack or whatever. Tom, I want to hear about that. Explain. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. I said that. Actually, when I spent that, I said that in my best man speech for my brother's wedding this last summer. And it's just something that I really resonate with, you know, especially watching my parents, you know, as a child. Everyone has hard days and everyone has rough days.

And it's, we're going to be, let me meet you in the middle, you know. So if you have a hard day and you can only bring five, 10, 20 percent, I think it's part of a relationship for the other person to say, hey, my day wasn't quite as bad as my partners. I'm going to fill that cup. The give and take. I love that. That is such, I mean, it's so, it's such an obvious thought, but it's such a great kind of reminder about relationships and give and take. You know, it's funny, there's a lot of people divorced or widowed.

And when you're growing up as a child, when you have the, if you will, the perfect family, parents that got along. And that's all I have to relate to it. And it sounds like that's what you had, correct? Yeah. I'll give you guys like a quick little background on my. me as well. You know, both my parents were immigrants. They both came to the United States with not a dollar in their pocket.

From where? From Vietnam. Okay. Yeah. That is beginning English. They had no money. And when they got together, you know, when I was 11 years old, my little sister had passed away. And I think the statistics of a couple to stay together through a passing of a child is less than 20%.

Yes, it is. Yeah. Absolutely. Right. My parents stooped together. You know, when everyone else was, you know, there was so much noise around the outside. that went on in our family, for them to pick each other every single day through the loss of a child, that's something that when I look at like an ideal marriage, it's someone that's

always going to fight for the other person no matter what. We all pray for that. So I don't know you that well. I mean, we've chatted it a few times. But I also read that you believe mental health is a big thing for you and therapy. Can you kind of tell me, obviously the way you talk, you've definitely done some work. you've definitely done some work. Yeah, I've been in therapy for a while or now coming up on eight years.

It went from like getting from being a really, really hard spot. You know, obviously with the loss of my sister, that's something that I didn't really process when I was young. I lost her when I was 11. And it was four days before Christmas. So it was always hard for our family, you know, holidays. I spent like the last several Christmases by myself just because like our family didn't really celebrate Christmas like that.

So, you know, mental health was always something that I always put on the back burner, right? And then it got to the point where it was affecting the people that I love, the people that I cared about, that I wasn't able to process all of those emotions. So I got into therapy about eight years ago, started working on backwards from where I was before processing, you know, the passing of my sister, watching my parents kind of go through what they went through and then get to the point where now it's just check-ins, you know. I love it. It helps. The mental health, it's such a taboo subject, even more so for men. You know, you're supposed to be strong. And I love that you are helping bring that to the forefront, that therapy is good.

It's needed. It's, there's nothing to be ashamed of. And I just love hearing you talk about that. Can I ask, like, if you were going on a date with somebody, maybe the second date, do you share that part of you with? them, would you ask them if they've been in therapy? Is that like an important part of who your partner might be? Yeah, 100%. I think being able to be emotionally intelligent and being able to like understand yourself before like you can tell someone how to understand you. I think

that's also really important. So it's hard to like jump into something where it's where you're basically sharing yourself, right? You're giving yourself to a partner. And if you don't understand yourself quite all that well, it's hard to tell someone, hey, this is me. So I think that's pretty important when you get into a relationship. I like to say, like, I always work on myself and, you know, I try to make sure that I'm as healed as possible, whether it be from past relationships, you know, past traumas, things like that. But I also don't believe that you have to be 100% perfect in order to get into the next relationship. No, and you want to be emotionally available. That's one of the biggest gripes from women. You know, he's not emotionally available.

So wait, I have a question. We're beating around the busher. Tell me about dating since you went off the show. Are you in a relationship? Let's go. Spill it. Lott the tea. Dating has been interesting.

It's been funny. Funny? Do you feel like you're getting more attention? Funny as in ha-ha? Or funny as in... No, do you feel you got more attention now that you were on the show? Yeah, I definitely... I get a lot of pointing and staring.

Yeah, yeah. I usually get. And sometimes I go, and I've been to Lexi's single events here in Atlanta, just to try and support her and show face and do what I can to help her out, whether it's checking people in and things like that. The overwhelming thing that I get is, hey, you don't suck as bad as we saw on TV. I guess I get it all the time. People, two things I get all the time. Wow, you're so pretty in person and you're not mean at all. You're really nice.

Thank you so much. it was it was quite interesting um i'm sure you guys are familiar with the timeline of of my season so from episode four and five yeah to after the final rose things got changed about with people's perception so it was it was definitely interesting to go from throughout the season and interact with people in the public i love it and paradise how do you feel if that were happening in your future um i think I think it's an awesome opportunity. If I was single at the time...

Wait a minute. Are you single? Yeah, I'm single right now. Are you sure? Something you're not telling us? Like, I don't know. Are you dating Lexi? I mean, I want some details. No, no, no. Lexi and I are just friends. Lexi and I just, I'm just supporting her. Great. Who are you dating? Spill, Thomas. I'm relentless. No one. No one. I'm not dating anyone right now. So I'm just, if I was single when Paradise, came and they asked me to you can see yourself on the beach yeah if you put me close to water

that's where I thrive so that's what I'd be happy okay so what is your if you're not did anyone what does your ideal partner what does he she look like um hmm let's start I think I think having a relationship with their family is important my my relationship with my family is is as massive my two brothers are my best friends my sister is like you know just that little punk sister that you always have and like all the stories. So our relationship as it's family good. Yeah, it's something that I hold very dear to me. So having

a good relationship with a family. I think probably a little bit more outgoing. I consider myself kind of shy and reserved. So I think that Yen and Yang balance. I like this. I like this because Kathy and I are very big personalities as you know and we

people have told us. I'm shy. Have told us that we intimidate people. And you need to find somebody the same as you. But I like what you're saying because you're not as outgoing. You want to find somebody that's more comfortable being outgoing. So in opposite. If my partner is out front being wild and doing it, if I can be in the back chairing her on,

I love this. That's how my husband was, Thomas. My husband was very reserved. One-on-ones, he was great. But he relied on me. He would say it all the time, you know, we'd go to a cocktail party or something, some work event and he was like do your magic Kathy because

he hated it so I get it I know exactly what you're saying. I'm a professional Irish good buyer so if you don't see me and I'm gone It takes too much time. If my social battery is on E, yeah we're done here. Peace out. Peace out. He's gone.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well wait a minute Sam maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him, because.

he now wants them both to meet. So do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jemell Hill, host to the Sports and Politics Podcast Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly?

many of them are in fear of their political lives and that's been part of the challenge but we continue to say to them you were elected to defend your constituents to stand up for your constituents and there's life after congress and you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the house of representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years but their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast

called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now.

All right, so we play this little... Let's not play, but we read these questions from our fans. And would they like to get some advice? And we'd like you to join us. you go with that i'm excited yeah okay kathy want to go first okay sean asks hi kathy and susan i have a serious dilemma that i really need help with my best friend michael recently started dating this girl cat as soon as i met cat i knew i had a huge crush on her at first i was just happy for michael because she's hot and then because she's funny and then because she's really smart i'm sure you see

where this is going. I started getting really anxious about it this past week after I had a dream about her breaking things off with Michael for me. Now I can't stop thinking about her and things have gotten worse. Michael's birthday's coming up and he's been planning a big trip to Miami for it. So yesterday he threw us all in a group chat. I expected there to be a few phone numbers I didn't recognize, but I had all of them saved, including cats. I was really confused. I was really confused. since I had never texted her in the few weeks I've known she even exists. When I went to text her individually to make sure it was her number, I saw her full contact name. Cat, name of our local bar, then it all clicked.

I met her during a night out, got her number, and made out with her at the bar. When I looked at the timestamp of when we texted to exchange phone numbers, I confirmed there was definitely overlap with that night. her and Michael dating. Now I have no idea what to do. I don't really have the best memory of that night. It was so late and we were really drunk. I asked my friends about it who were with me that night. They aren't mutual friends with Michael. And all they said was we were talking for a long time and made out a bunch. Then she went home and I went back to my friends. As if being around her wasn't difficult enough with my feelings towards her, now this is even worse. How am I going to

spend an entire week in the same house as her with my best friend who's her brand new boyfriend. I have no idea how to navigate this situation and would love any and all advice. Thank you so much. Okay, Thomas, I want to hear your opinion. You're going first, Thomas. Oh, no. Before you answer, you know what the entire problem stems from being drunk. Okay, Thomas. Go. Oof, I think this is, I'm going to go super easy because I'm going to put this with me and my best friends. And I have the best friend, I would go straight to him and be like, hey, look, this is what happened. This is how it happened and how do you feel?

And if he felt a certain way about it, I would move based off of how he told me to move. You know, that's how, that's how I am with my friends. I'm pretty loyal with my friends. I have four guys that I've known for 17 years and those are my only friends. And so if I asked them, hey, look, this is what happened. If they said, no, no worries. Like, we just started dating. It's not a big of a deal.

Or if they were like, hey, I don't want my friends to ever. Just want to give you a heads up. Yeah. I didn't even think of it that way. I think he's struggling because he has a crush on this girl. But also, again, you know, getting drunk and making out, not remembering what happened, never a good recipe. But it's already done. It's done.

But it's the point is he has a crush on. It's a brand new boyfriend. So if your friend came to you, Thomas, and said, hey, bro, I got to tell you, I was making out with her, I've got a crush on her, but I realize you guys are dating, you know, happy to step back. I mean, what are you going to say? Yeah, there's not much you can't really say. It depends on how, like, if he's got a crush on her and if I'm okay with him liking me or

my girlfriend, then that would be something in terms of like my security, right? How do you feel, especially if it's new, are you willing to. make that feel uncomfortable or if you feel secure in your relationship, then that's something not so worry about. And also if he, if he contacted her first prior to his buddy, that wouldn't look good either, right? Then he looks like he's going behind. He's got to confront the two of them. But I like what you said first that he should go to his best friend. But as far as I think what I took out of this, he's asking, how am I going to be in this house? I got the hots for my best friend's girlfriend.

Not a good formula and add liquor to that. We got problems. Here's what I don't say. I mean staying at home. Yeah, I might not go. Yeah, I came down with a sudden case of the flu complicated by COVID. But here's what, but I have one more question on this. If she was so hot and he had her number and they made out, why didn't he call?

That's my next question. What was his name again? What else? Sean, dumbass. Sean, why didn't you call her if she was that hot? And she was in you, so are you a serial bar hopping pickup girls kind of guy? Just asking. Out of sight, out of mind, right?

Out of sight, out of mind. But that sounds like the dating apps, out of sight, out of mind. Next, want to swipe next. That's what your problem is. All right. Don't you agree? I know. I know.

All right, this one's from Kelly. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I need an outside opinion on this, so I really hope you see this. Okay. I'm planning my wedding and am dead set on having it my dream venue. Oh, she wants it at her dream place. Nothing else compares to this place. It's so beautiful and I fell in love with it as soon as I set my eyes on it.

For content, it's just about an hour away from where I live. So the drive is totally doable. However, the only day they have available is a Wednesday. As soon as we found out, my fiancé said, oh man well do you want do you want a tour the place i showed you yesterday i was so shocked that he wouldn't even consider it i told him that i still wanted to go with that venue and that a wednesday isn't a big deal it's not like he or i are working that week i expected my friends to be more supportive of me but when i told them how the conversation went down they were just quiet at first

Now I've gotten two yes RSVPs from my immediate circle changed to a maybe, maybe on the wedding invitation. Our wedding isn't even for another year. It is ridiculous of me, I'm glad she's saying it, to ask my friends and family to go to my wedding on a Wednesday. I really think everyone is overreacting. But no one is really agreeing with me. I have to give the venue an answer and the deposit is non-refundable. Do you think my guests will still come? Any advice would be so helpful.

Thank you. I think there's a whole much ado about nothing. So just for starters, I just did a wedding. I performed a ceremony on a Monday night. And there were a lot of people there. What do you think, Thomas? You're going to a wedding on a Wednesday? It's not as much fun.

Of course. Of course. But I'll play devil's advocate for the bride. can we do the same venue, push it back, keep the deposit down and say, hey, look, I really want to be with you guys. Can we do a Friday or a Saturday? Four months down.

Okay. Wait a minute. Are you saying Thomas push out the wedding? Yeah, so she can get a weekend. If you want to have the venue that badly, but you're willing to make a small sign advice, a little give and take, hey, fiancé, I want the venue. Can we move it to 18 months instead of 12 months away?

And or she's giving people, years notice, who can't take off one day? You're good friends. You can take off a day. I think she might need to find a new friend group. My best friend, his wife, was eight and a half months pregnant. And he flew down to Columbia for my brother's wedding and flew back today. There you go.

That's what you're a friend. See, because he's a real friend. Kelly, we wish you luck. And you know what, if you're stuck, we'll come. We're fine. Yeah, we'll take up two seats. Three will be there. We'll take up to your seats.

All right. We're going to move on. Carly says, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I love your podcast and I really need some advice. I have a group of really good friends that I've had since freshman year of college. We graduated last year. Recently, my mom came to visit me and stayed in my apartment.

On one of the last night she was here, my friends and I planned a dinner with her so they could all meet her. When they all showed up to my apartment that night, my three guy friends could not stop staring at her. Uh-oh, are we talking about a millfair? Okay, my mom didn't really notice, but I definitely did. Throughout the entire dinner, they were complimenting her, trying to charm her, everything. At first, I was really glad everyone liked my mom and made her feel included.

But after a while, I just started to find it really, really annoying. I thought it would end what she left, but now they keep making jokes around me about dating my mom. It's nothing distasteful. My mom actually found it all very flattering. And all of my friends think it's funny and harmless. I'm just so tired of hearing it constantly. The jokes they say around me are like, I don't know, your mom was an angel, or I'm working on myself so I can shoot my shot with my mom's name. Everything blew up the other night when we were all going out. I was having a tough day at work and wanted to blow off steam with my friends at a Friday happy hour. I only got two sips of my drink in before one of the boys made a joke about my mom. I threw my drink at him and

yelled something like, would you shut the F up already? Along with some other choice words I had for him. I went to the bathroom to cool down and after my girlfriends helped me relax, they suggested it might be a good idea to apologize. Truthfully, that just made me even more mad. I bit my tongue because I knew the girls were just trying to make me feel better and help me have a good night. When I came back to the table, I drank my drink and a couple more and ignored the boys the whole night. Now the boys are upset with me and our friend group is divided. They understand my frustration, especially because of the day I was having. But they don't think the guys did anything wrong.

What should I do? Love you guys. We want to hear from you, but I only have one word. Jealous. Jelly. What do you think, Tom? Thomas. I didn't go there, but I know. I went there. I didn't go there. You think she's jealous of her mother. Getting all that attention. Oh, I don't think so. Yep. You think so, Thomas? I can see that, but I was going to go, I had a similar situation happened with one of our friend group as well. And I think that people don't know what's wrong. And so they're told what's wrong, especially guys. I'll happily admit that as well, too. So I think she, told them to put a line with the beer and the cussing.

So I hope that they understand now that it bothers her. And then if they do it again, that's not someone that you want to be around. Like if you have to tell someone more than once, hey, this really isn't what I want to be around, then those are the people that you cut out of your life. But like you said, she should have addressed it in the beginning. Guys, I don't think it's funny. Like, it bothers me. Yeah.

But I don't think she's jealous of her. I think she, and I would feel the same way. I think she just feels it's weird. Like these are my friends. That's why I said, oh, are we in a milk situation here? It's just weird. It's weird, right? It's weird.

I don't think so. Well, you know what? It's just like the last question. I had twin boys and it's happened. The boy's friends always flirt with me. I always said stuff about my mom, you know. And Nick would be laughing like, yeah, right, in your dreams. And Chris would be like, we'll punch you out.

Talk about my mother. You know, things like that. So, yeah. Okay, well, I think she might need to look into a new friend group. I don't know. Good luck, sweetie. Hey, listen, sweetie, let me just say to you, Carly, be glad your mom is so attractive that bodes well for you as you're older.

Jeans, that genetic thing. It's a thing, Carly, so thank you, lucky stars. So one last thing before we end this, I need to know exactly how you feel about what if paradise happens or it is going to happen. What if you're invited? Are you running? I know you said if I'm not in a relationship, but. I'm in a slow jog.

All right. He's gone. I'm definitely, there are definitely some, some people. And, you know, Bachelor Nation is awesome. You know, the people that I've seen. It is. It is. You know, and everyone's stunning.

You know, so I'm, if the opportunity was there and, and they asked me to come. Is there one person that you're kind of hoping would be there if you want to go? I'm going to, I'm going to keep that one to myself. But why? If you don't put it out to the universe, then it might not happen. Or she might not. Does she know? Does she, whoever it be, does she know?

This is your chance, baby. And how are you? Listen, we could be your mother, maybe close to your grandmother. No, mother. No, mother. Listen. I know. Yeah.

I'm telling you, Thomas, if you're interested, let it be known. Put it out there. What's the worst thing that can happen, Thomas? She says, yeah, no, thanks. You'll survive. It happens. I'm going to keep that one in my pocket. All right, all right.

I have one more question. I see a letter. Are you an athlete? Were you an athlete? Yeah. Yeah, I was a college summer and a professional summer for a while. Nice. Wow. What's your stroke? Backstroke.

Backstroke. Wow. That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thank you so much, Thomas, for joining us. We've had a blast talking with you. I'm sorry we couldn't dig her name out, but we're going to keep on it. We are going to keep on that one. We love you. We really do.

And I'm going to secretly DM you and find out who this woman is. That's what we'll do. I'll put it on banish mode so no screenshots. Yeah, we're just going to keep harassing you until you spill. Oh, God. Thank you all out there for joining us. I hope you enjoyed his company as much as we did. And we're all going to be curious now.

And for you guys that wrote in those questions, I hope we helped a little bit. Yeah. And you know what? We really love giving advice. Thomas had some great advice here. So please keep submitting your questions to us. It's very simple. Just go to bachelorination.com slash golden hour or

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