Bachelor Happy Hour - Much Ado About Something | ‘Golden Hour’

Episode Date: August 9, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are back for another round of Friday Fan Questions. We kick off with the question of the day: Do “find the cheater” videos do more harm than good?  Then, we get into some of your questions. We’re talking making new friends after being burned, age gaps in relationships, and so much more. Tune in now to hear it all, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Have a question for Kathy and Susan? Head to BachelorNation.com/goldenhour and submit yours now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hey, Susan. It's so good to see you again. If you have not listened to our episode on Wednesday, I don't know. I keep saying the same thing, but I'm hoping this time they're going to listen. Check it out. Susan and I had a great time, as we always do. We certainly did. We're agreeing more and more.

It's getting me scared, Susan. I'm telling you. I hope you guys are all enjoying us because we definitely enjoy hearing from you. So today, we're going to answer more of our fan questions. We're so excited to get into these. I can't wait. And we've got some great ones today. But don't forget, if you have a question for Susan and me, send them in.

All you have to do, it's really simple. Go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour. Type in your question. We will answer it. We love hearing from y'all. And before we get into these questions, you know what, Kath, we have our question of the day. Wait, how is your week so far? How about this weather?

It's so hot and humid. It's ridiculous. I flew to California on a 24-hour flight, and I just got back, and I don't know. It was crazy. I hear you. You're busy, too. Oh, God. Okay.

You're ready for our question of the day, Kat? All right. Go. Read to me. This is the topic for discussion is with the rise of TikTok, quote, find the cheater, quote, unquote, type of video. have gotten really popular. This is when girls in Vegas at bars and so on will catch a guy on his bachelor party making out with other girls

or doing some other form of obvious cheating. So lots of young women will come to TikTok detailing the entire incident in the hopes that the video will blow up and find the girl so they can warn her. So Kathy, the question today is when it comes to these find the cheater videos that go viral on tic-tok do you think they do more harm than good well since i've got a part-time job filming these guys and getting paid

by the cheaters you know just kidding uh you know i think this comes down what we talk about a lot there is a lot of good things on social media really we're going to post this on TikTok and warn the girl. Think about this for a second. Your daughter or your niece or someone's getting married and they're spending their time on TikTok looking to see if their fiancé has been tagged or they've been tagged. No. I think. You know what? Some things, can I just say this quote really quick? Yeah. Left unsaid. The least, you know, the better. I don't agree with guys before they get married, having an affair or whatever a fling that is, you know, on their bachelor party. Right.

But and then the girl finds out, we had a question like that not too long ago, remember? And she was like, it was years ago and they were all friends. On the other hand, I mean, on the other hand, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. This is my point. No, I think there's just too much. I think, I mean, that this borders on, you know, privacy. it borders on privacy issues. I think it's wrong.

I think that this generation... They're both wrong. Cheating is wrong too prior to getting married. Yes, but I'm saying it's just, it's ridiculous that this generation relies so much on, you know, if it's on the internet, Susan, it must be true. If I saw it on TikTok, it must be true, right?

So... Look at our show, Kathy. All the stuff that was said out there, it's just a question. And they get people's minds going and then all the comments and people think this stuff is really happening. Yeah. I mean, listen, if you're old enough, not you because we are, but if one is, if one is old enough to be getting married to somebody and you're judging the fidelity of your fiancé on a TikTok video, you might want to rethink going down the aisle, getting married under the old oak tree, whatever. You might want to rethink it.

I mean, TikTok has some great things, but all social media, it can be great and it can be misused. And I think this is a clear misuse. If all those of you're agreeing with, they do more harm than good. Yeah, all of you out there, if you are relying on TikTok to decide if you're making a mistake, Mary and your boyfriend, rethink it. Rethink the whole thing. I think leave the cheater alone. Leave him alone.

I would want to know. I just think it's stupid that men need to do that. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. You wouldn't want to know if the guy you're marrying is cheating on you? I wish I'd never knew. Because if I did find out, that would cause a problem. Wait a minute.

How much do I love you? How much do I love you? This big. That much I love you. And I am here to tell you if I find out the guy I'm with is cheating on me. He is yesterday's news. I don't care of. I'm halfway up the aisle. I find that out. The wedding gifts are going back. I'm keeping the ring.

We're done. All right. Let's move on to our Q&A. I think we should. All right. Let me do the first one here. This is from Anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan. My question is about friendships. I'm 25 living in L.A. And I have a great group of friends. Up until this point in my life, I've always been surrounded by girlfriends. I've always had guy friends as well, but my closest friends have always been women. I've unfortunately lost close girlfriends from high school and college and experienced a lot of really hurtful caddiness each time. Despite those toxic friendships, I'm lucky to say that I currently have a lot of really wonderful women that are close friends. The only problem now is that none of them live near. Near me. Sounds like you and me, Susan. I really miss having girls.

night, getting ready together, borrowing each other's clothes, going out and having a great time. My friends that I see every weekend truly mean the world to me, and I wouldn't trade them for anything. But I occasionally find myself missing those girls' nights. I've also come to realize that being hurt by girlfriends in the past has really wounded my ability to trust women and make new relationships with them. Do you have any advice on anything I can do to make this situation better? so much and love you both well thank you anonymous what do you think susan we love you back so number one she's 25 i think that's a lot of it right there i can as you were reading i couldn't help but think of my daughter and what she went through with things like that it's an i don't want

to call you immature anonymous but you will grow and mature yourself and you'll be able to differentiate the friendships and those that are true and meaningful, if you were hurt by one of them, when you're mature enough, you're going to talk to them about it. And you won't allow things to happen to you. Or you just find new friends. I mean, you don't hang out with those kind of people. Well, so I, scary again, I'm agreeing with you. I love it when that happens. I know. It's like date night. I feel like you're right. Right. But I also think that, you know, friends, people come into our lives for a reason and a season. And so she's learning, right, from all these relationships. It's fair that she misses the girls' nights and she's been hurt by girls in the past. But you know what, Anonymous? Like everything else in life, you have to be willing to take good risks, right? So get yourself out there. Make some new girlfriends. The lessons you've learned in the past will serve you well in your future.

Give it 10 years and you're already going to be knowledgeable. You know what? I think that she was willing to ask this question shows me that she's feeling it. She's feeling it and she's learned from her past. And you know what, Anonymous? We all learn. I used to be a teacher. You don't learn from the things you do right in life, Anonymous.

You learn from the things you do wrong. So get out there and make some new girlfriends and you're going to find your situations a lot better. And one last thing, forgive. and move on. Just forgive. Don't hold on to it forever. Yeah. Thank you for writing. And good luck. I hope you find some great new friends. I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset.

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We'll have an answer. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and there's really only one thing that bothers me in our relationship. He follows a lot of girls on Instagram that post revealing pictures of themselves. Can we stop right there? Can we just stop? Go ahead. Sorry.

I have, here's a good one. I have absolutely no issue with women posting them. themselves. Whatever makes them comfortable and feel beautiful is what's important. Very important line in this. I just find it really disrespectful that he follows them. I feel like having a crush or finding someone attractive is one thing. That's healthy and unavoidable. But those are things you can keep to yourself. Being able to see who my boyfriend finds attractive and going out of his way to follow them, engage with their content on Instagram is something that I think is disrespectful. I tried to talk to my mom about it, but social media is something that I know she just doesn't

understand. So she always says she doesn't get it. She doesn't get what the big deal is. I don't want to go to my friends about it because I honestly don't want them to know. The ability for someone to see that my boyfriend follows a ton of famously hot girls on Instagram makes me feel really embarrassed. So my question is, how do I bring this up to my boyfriend? I always get really nervous because it's such a confusing feeling and I don't know how to tell him it bothers me without making it seem like I'm accusing him of cheating. I don't see this as cheating.

I just see it as honesty. Shitty. What do I do? Oh, she doesn't see it as honesty. She sees it honestly as shitty. As shitty. Whoa, that's a lot. So, yeah.

Well, first of all, I'm anonymous. I can't weigh in because I'm one of the hot hodys that he's following. Wait, famously hotty. So she mean famous people? Like, that's. No, I think. Famously hoti. I don't know.

Listen, I think there is, there's more going on here than it meets the eye. How so? Well, for me, it's very interesting that she says in the beginning, the line that you referred to, she doesn't have any problem with women being comfortable and putting themselves out there, da, da, da, da, da, da. Well, okay, great. If you, if your problem is not with the girls that he's following, your problem is with the boyfriend, anonymous,

guess what? You have to kindly go to your boyfriend because really what you're suffering from here, you're either envious

or jealous or worried that he is cheating on you and that this is just a metaphor for what else is he doing?

You know, if he's following these girls online, what else is he doing? I think she's got some trust issues. Cheating's not in it.

She's jealous that he's following these hot babes. That's what I'm doing. I'm saying, I think, I'm just giving you my opinion. I think she said I'm not, coming into it? I think she says, I'm not accusing him of cheating.

No, she's not. In her brain, she's thinking, wow, I wonder if he's cheating. Maybe she's got some self-esteem issues. Maybe she doesn't think she's as hot as I am. I mean, as the other women are. Maybe she should get on there herself and show him how hot. But here's my question. Does he realize she knows about,

who he follows. Is she doing a private eye thing and sneak it around to see who he's following? Does it matter? Well, yes, she'd have to come clean with that first. She would have to say, babe, I checked out who you follow on Instagram. Well, he's on Instagram, but Susan, they're friends on Instagram. The way Instagram works, you know, if I'm friends with you, I can see who your friends are on Instagram. You know, you can see whether people are posting. So I think it's, I think this is a much ado about something. And I'm calling it out. I think the something is she's worried he's cheating. She's nervous and it's such a confusing feeling. And I don't know how to tell him. It bothers you. Distrust is not confusing. Without making it seem like I'm accusing him. I think when you have

this conversation, you're going to come across as jealous. Because he's looking at other women. She's either jealous, envious, or he's cheating or she's worried he's cheating. So she's asking. what do I do? What would you tell her to do, Kath? Same thing you, and I tell lots of people, anonymous, sit them down, say, I love you, honey, whatever it is, wherever you are in your relationship, and say this, you know, use the I statements. I feel badly when I see this. I feel like I'm not enough for you, whatever she's feeling. Because you know what? Feelings are okay. Your feelings are okay. If you say, this, you that, then you sound accusatory, and that's never going to work.

Use the C word, communicate, you got to talk about it, you've got to talk. But it's how you talk about it. Yeah, it's how you talk about it. I think if you come across say, I feel this way, he can at least hear how you're feeling. And I, Anonymous, I'll bet you are a fabulous woman who just doesn't have quite the confidence that you think you have. So go and talk to him about tell them how you feel. So I have one more thing to add to that. I know some women have issues with their husband on porn all the time. A lot of men watch a lot of porn. You know, I don't know that I'd be okay with that if he did that all the time without me. You know what I mean? So he's following these hot babes. Sometimes it's just a sexy body like man looking at playboy or is that so

outdated. You know what I'm saying? Just looking at hot girls is a thing. Engaging in their website is another thing. Listen, what works for one couple may not work for another couple, right? So if it works for Anonymous and her boyfriend, great. But she thinks it's disrespectful. So if she's feeling disrespected, then Anonymous, you've got to tell them how you feel. And that's, you know, that's something I wish more women were comfortable with. You don't have to scream, rant, or rave. Just tell them how you feel. And I wish. Stay comfortable in your own skin, sweetheart. Respect yourself. Once you love and respect yourself, you're not going to hold back. If that's bothering you, just like Kathy said, have a conversation. And use the word I, not because of you.

Yeah. Don't say you do this to me. You do that. The I statements are always better. Nobody can. So, Kathy, give me it. For instance, it's your boyfriend doing this and you're going to say something. How would you go?

I'm going to say. I'm bringing my friend Susan Knowles over. She's got a baseball bat. She's taking it out on you. That's the I statement I'm making. I'm going to sit down and say, hey, babe, you know what? I have a friend.

If I got all sexed up and put myself out there, you follow all these chicks? I honestly, I mean, I see why she's upset because she feels insecure. Insecure, exactly. So you're saying, what would I say to my guy? Yeah, yeah. Say this was you. If it was me, I'd say, look.

I know you're following all these 20-year-olds. Do you want a 20-year-old? Because they don't want you. So let's get back to me. That's how I feel. I love it. So Anonymous, I hope we've helped you. But the whole thing, the whole moral of this story is, talk to him.

Talk to him. Be confident. Yeah, be confident in yourself and tell him how you feel. And good luck to you. I know. Okay. Marissa. Moving on.

We've got a name. Okay. Marissa. She's not anonymous. I love it. I love it too. But we don't mind anonymous calls. No, we do.

Yeah, because like I said on another podcast, if you have the question, somebody else does. So feel free. We love hearing your name, but you don't need to do it. Okay. Marissa says, hi, Kathy and Susan. I need some dating advice pronto. I feel like we as women always catch ourselves in the same predicament when it comes to going on dates, trying to find someone. The guy is either too forward and smothering, not into it all, or deceitfully shows interest when he's, quote, not ready for a relationship or whatever excuse they have that particular day.

It's so hard. I don't want to entertain a guy just because he likes me. I want to have someone that I like, like me back. Amen, sister. Why is that so hard to find? I don't know, but Susan, if we find the answer, we have found, we've won the last. lottery. We'll be millionaires. Really. Okay. I keep asking my mom for advice as my friends and I are all basically in the same boat, but she always tells me I never give guys a chance. It's really unfair

because I do. I do. I get to know them. I go on a minimum of two dates with them if I feel like there's a chance and I end things when I know I'm not feeling it and it isn't fair to them. Any and all advice would be much appreciated. Well, I think you're very fair giving of a second date. And if you don't feel it, you don't feel it. What is she doing wrong? Yeah, I'm not, listen.

I don't see a problem here. Marissa, first of all, it's about the dudes out there. Yeah, you're having a lot more dates than Susan and I are combined, so let's start with that. Yeah, we'll start there. I mean, the guys too forward? What the hell is that mean?

Too forward? Whatever. I mean, if his hands are all over you first day, like, slow down, big boy. Or in my case, keep it coming. No, come on. Seriously. So I'm confused to her question about what advice does she want. Like, we can't control what's out there. And you know what? It's all part of the game, unfortunately.

I think she, what I'm hearing is she's tired of dating guys and either they're not into her or she goes on dates like you and I do and we're watching the stop clock saying time to go and Marissa the answer to that is called dating that's what you do it's life and when you meet the guy you know what's going to happen Marissa when you meet the guy that you fall for and he falls for you that clock is going to stop time is going to stop and all of the rest of this is going to fall away

so in my opinion you are doing the right things because every date you have, you learn more about what you're looking for in a guy. So keep those dates coming, throw them to the curb when it doesn't, you know, well, don't throw them that, you know, but politely say, have a nice day and move on. I don't see a problem with this. And as far as I'm concerned, this is a part of life. And you could do what I did if you like. I got off all the dating sites.

I'm taking a sabbatical. Are you on a hiatus? Are you on a hiatus? I'm a hiatus, a sabbatical. Yeah, whatever. You and I both are. You know what, honey? I felt the same exact way.

And then I start feeling guilty because a few men would really be interested and I wasn't. And that's even harder when you have to say, oh, I'm not feeling it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then like Kathy said, you'll know, but maybe just take a break from it all and just do you. Right? I mean, I'd keep dating because that's how she's going to find the guy. but good luck marissa but i wish let us know what happens listen i bet you the best one will come next after this i know marissa do us a favor ask him if their dads and grandpas are married if they

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Okay, Charlese writes. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I need some help with my little sister. For context, I'm 27 and she's 19. About six months ago, she started dating a guy she works with who's 26. She works at a restaurant part time while she's in school. I know she's a smart girl with a good head on her shoulders, but there are some things in life that you just come to learn with age. And age gaps like these are one of them. They don't really have anything in common, and I remember when they were just friends hanging out in the beginning. She would make comments about how she felt bad that he was obviously really into her. I really don't want her to get trapped in a relationship she isn't into. Breakups can already be so difficult, and they become even harder when you're super inexperienced, dating someone much more experience. I trust that she's safe. Our family has met him, and there are no causes for major concern. I just feel like I can tell she's really unhappy because she's not into him.

But I don't want to come off as a know-it-all, big sister, where all she hears is just dump him. How do I talk to her about this? This will be my first time mentioning it as a serious conversation. I've made supportive comments whenever she's casually mentioned him, encouraging her to not get sucked into an exhausting relationship. But I feel it's time to really seriously address this. I just don't want her to miss out on the joys of dating or just being young and single because she can't find a way out of this.

I could be wrong, but I need to know for sure. Charlize, I'm so grateful that you wrote that sentence, I could be wrong. because you could be. And you could be asking all this for nothing. I mean, all right, the kid's 19. I think, I mean, listen, you, there is, when you're 19 and that's a seven-year age difference, and I actually agree with Charlize at that age. My parents did, that's for sure.

Yeah, it's a big age difference. It is. However, however, just because this, her sister said, you know, she felt bad. that he was obviously really into her, all those things, I mean, she may have changed her mind. I think that you can talk to your sister. And again, it's all in the way you approach a topic. I love you. I love you. You said that, Kathy. It's the approach. It's the, yes. It's so, you know, sit down with your sister. Go out for a coffee. Go out for a glass of wine. Oh, wait, she can't drink legally yet. You know, sit down and chit chat.

with her and say if you guys have a good relationship you can tell her what your concerns are i think the big warning here is be careful that you don't come across as i'm smarter than you i'm older than you and i have all the right answers because as you just said i know it would be wrong yeah you're not you know as well as just say i'm worried about you sis but the part that she's trying to avoid her sister to avoid to protect her as going through heartbreak. She has to go through heartbreak to get past it. I mean, I don't wish it on anybody. I can count how many times I've cried my eyes out growing up and you think it's the end of the world.

But she does have to experience this. And I love that you love her that much. But you know what? I think Charlize says all her sister hears is just dump him. If Charlize, if that's all she's hearing, then modify your approach, change your words, and see if you can't get into a better conversation about it and where she feels your love. Yeah. Love her, love her.

Because you know what? Family is so important. It is. It is. And she's 19, so get ready for anything. Yeah. But thank you for asking us, and I wish you a ton of luck. Good luck with your sister, Charlize.

Oh, boy, Kathy. I hate this game. I never do it way, right? It's time. We're going to play a game. Moral quandary. I love this game. And as soon as Susan learns how to play it, I don't know, in the next six months or so, it's going to be even more fun.

All right. I'm going to give you the directions again, Susan. Pay attention. I know. I'm supposed to guess what you would do, right? Oh, there you go. A for effort. Today. All right, so we're going to take turns of reading the quandary, give our thoughts on what we think the other person would do. And here we go. I'm going to give you the first one. Okay. You notice a former hookup. Now, now you know what a hookup is. Oh, my God, yeah. All right. You notice a former hookup has been liking your pictures and Instagram stories that are just of you. When you go to his page, you see his girlfriend in a bunch of recent posts. So you're able.

to find her page pretty quickly. Do you DM her to tell her about what he's been doing or keep it to yourself? Now, Susan, what would I do? Would I DM her or would I keep it to myself? Don't think too long.

I don't think you would DM her. You're so right. Congratulations. I knew you. I don't think I would either. I was going to say my, no, see, you didn't let me guess. Oh, shit.

I got it half right. Okay. We're now six and a half months in. Susan's still learning the role. No, no, five and a half. I got half right. Okay. All right. I'll give it to you. Um, so yeah, I would not. I mean, I, lots of people like things. You know, we put too much emphasis on someone clicking a like button. Get over it. Don't worry about it. Let them work out their life. You live your life. Let them live theirs and move on. I mean, he's not asking you out formally. He's liking something. He obviously liked you because you hooked up. So, Let it go. Yeah. Yeah. All right.

All right. You and your best friend are at home watching a movie together with both of your boyfriends. Oh, Susan, this sounds so much fun. Let's do it. She is notoriously a talker during movies, but it's never bothered you. You always just answer her questions if she has any, or don't even really notice, if she just has an audible reaction. Suddenly, you realize your boyfriend is getting seriously irritated by it. How do you proceed?

Well, I can't tell you, after I tell you you, then I'm going to tell you a funny little story. I think you would say, Kathy, shut the hell up. Zip it. I was going to say, zip it after the freaking movie, Kat. That's what you would do. You're right. I would probably do something. I'm supposed to guess what you. Five months.

All right. What would I do, Susan? I'm gaming. gaining. Now, you do the absolutely same thing because if you guys are friends, it's annoying when somebody talks through a movie. My best friends, Kathy, you're going to meet them. We're going to go to Cali and see them. My Italians from Italy, Angela, Angelo talks to it. He explains the entire movie to me. And his wife's like, and stop, and stop. I go, Angelo, I can't follow the movie. You keep talking.

I know exactly. I used to do this with my husband. I used to ask Quest. and he would answer the same thing he would answer them and he did and one day he looked at me he goes could you just save your questions till the end of the movie because i promise you most of the questions are going to get answered if you just watch the movie so i stop zip it all right you know zip it i'm telling you zip it works in so many occasions oh my god doesn't it doesn't it i was smart when i said that okay here we go during the night out a stranger is incredibly rude to your group as a whole. Three of your friends decide to stand up for you all and the stranger is being nothing but rude back. You don't see what the big deal is, but no one on

either side is backing down. Do you apologize on behalf of your friends? Let them handle it or proceed another way. What would I do? And I bet you don't get this right. During a night out, a stranger is being rude to your whole group, right? Three of your friends decide to stay. stand up. So basically there's an altercation here. You've got three friends telling this guy off who continues to be rude. Now, no one's back in that.

Exactly what you do. Oh, really? You would not apologize. You would say dude, you're being rude. They're right. Move on. No? For all of you out there, I'm shaking my head. You know what I would really do? What? You've forgotten. Believe it or not, Bachelor Nation

won't believe this either. I run from altercation. I would turn around and walk away and wait for y'all to finish that's exactly and i think you we're back to five and half months you would absolutely jump in there and say what the hell shut up leave my friends alone get over yourself you would you take them up no no no i do it kindly though trust well no no you'd be kind but you would say you'd get the point across that you'd had all the fun you could handle and he needed to back off do you do this every day to every day to every Do you think that's attractive?

I'm sorry. I know. We don't have time for this. You know, it's like having a political conversation. You're never going to get that person to agree with you. All righty. Okay, you have a friend that always post terrible pictures of the two of you where only she looks really good. For your birthday, she posted one that you explicitly asked her to delete when it was taken.

Do you confront her about this? get even or let it go so susan this is so easy so easy if you if i did this and posted a picture of you i'd kill you yeah yeah couldn't let me say it you'd kill me you would say i told you not to post that picture i'm coming after you i would say i'm so sorry and i would delete it and what would you do cap i don't know you're going to tell me what would i do you'd say susan really you had to pick that one. Didn't I tell you to delete that one? And you would do the same thing. You would say, I'm really sorry. I'll delete it. I don't think if you told me you hated that picture, I wouldn't have posted. Well, I wouldn't have either. I wouldn't have either. And, and you know what? If it's

really a good friend, you're probably not. I'd cut you out of it if I look that good. I just cut you out and post it of me. First, she'd blow it up, make it life size, put it on poster board and moving right along. She'd put it in Times Square and then. All right. You're pet sitting your friend's cat oh this will be right up my alley your pet sitting your friend's cat while they're away for a few weeks and you notice the cat is constantly being overfed do you mention this to your friend change the cat's diet without telling her or keep proceeding as you were instructed to by your friend oh you have cats I have cats are you going to try to change the diet or you're going to talk to your friend that you feel like they're being overfed

You would do that, I think I would do what? You would talk to your friend When they got back You'd keep the schedule And say, listen, I own cats too And I feel like you're overfeeding Right?

No. Mind your own business. I wouldn't say a damn thing. First of all, I wouldn't cats sit. I would, you would for me. Would you for me? Oh, God, I do anything for you, cat. God, you're annoying.

I love you. I love you, I've cleaned your pool for you. As long as it comes in a rally. As long as it comes with a cabana boy, do you mention, I would never mention that to you. I would, it's your cat. It's your dog. All right. Exactly.

Oh, boy. I don't know. I don't know if we can do anymore. All right. That does it for another episode of Bachelor, Happy Hour's Golden Hour. We've had so much fun. Thank you to all our listeners for joining in and sending us such great questions. We hope we helped you today.

Kathy, we had so many questions today. We didn't get to talk about us. I mean, sometimes we've got to talk about what we're doing in life. So next time. we're going to squeeze that in. But I do want to thank everybody for listening. And make sure to follow us at Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out every week.

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