Bachelor Happy Hour - New Year, New Fan Questions! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: January 1, 2025

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re getting into another round of fan questions! We kick off the episode with our question of the day: What are some things you wish you knew before having children? Then, we get into your questions. Where do you go when you’re stuck in a joyless, midlife work rut? How do you start dating after a finalized divorce? It’s a new year, a new you, and we’re here to help! Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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welcome back to welcome back to bachelor happy hours golden hour thanks so much for joining us for another episode how are you doing today susan i'm so happy to be here in person like it's so much more fun you all don't understand normally we do this um on zoom on the computer and it's like it's just not the same thing, but now I can look at Susan. I can actually see her. She can give me the look if she thinks I'm saying too much.

I can see her shoes, her socks. Today, we're going to be answering more of your fan questions. And you know the drill. If you do have a question, where are they sending it, Kathy? You know what? I can do this. I save my sleep. Guys, it's really, oh, guys, that's women, men.

Say it, Kath. Go. Bachelor. Two, Bachelor, Nation. dot com slash golden hour and send them right on in because we will talk and we want to hear from you all right now that we've beaten that to a dead horse what you say we're going to remind them every time every time we're going to do our question of the day okay cool let's do it all right what are some of the things wish you wish you knew before having children how bad it was

going to hurt does the word epidural mean anything to you my daughter came my water broke and she was born four hours later I was screaming for the epidural and they were like I'm sorry just push Susan let me just say to you when I got pregnant with my first child literally when I went for the pregnancy test and I was positive I asked for the epidural that day oh no you think I'm kidding I did I went to all the Lamas classes and all thinking I'm going to do it and as soon as that hurt I was like oh no no no no me up numb me up but that didn't happen no and then let me just say when I went in to have my first child they were like, I don't know, the barometer had gone down or whatever, the barometric pressure. There were like 10 of us in labor.

And the nurse comes into me and she says, you're getting the epidural right now. Who are you? I said, what do you mean? Who am I? I said, well, there's like 10 of you. And the doctor, my doctor was Dr. Irwin. Dr. Irwin said, give you the first epidural. I said, oh, I'm no one.

He just knows how loud I can be and he didn't want that. He knows I'm going to come back and haunt him if not. What other things do you wish you knew? Like, they didn't come with the directions. You know what I mean? I mean, there's nothing better than having kids, right? Oh, my God, yes. But I will tell you, I will say to you, you never, they're always your children.

Our children, I have children in my, they're in their 30s, and I have a child in his early 40s. And you know what? You always have children. You always worry about them. But what do you wish you knew? That you always have them, that they don't grow up. You didn't realize that? I'm saying that you always.

I should not say you, I always still feel the need to care for them, love them, support them. That's not what I ask. I wish I knew before having them that they were always going to be, I was always going to feel responsible for them. That's a new brainer. They're having kids. They're yours. Are you kidding me? When I got pregnant, I thought, you know, 18 out of college, they're gone.

I know. All right. There was a gift for a life. What to do? Like, I was, like, guessing, you know, how to bathe them? Did you have help when you had your baby? My mom came for a couple weeks because I had Britney and I was in Texas, so. So I, I live, women.

You had, Britney was born in Texas? Yeah. All three of my kids were born in Texas. No, I, my parents did not come when I first had my children, but my next-door neighbor who is still a dear friend, Hazel, if you're listening, hello. She is from Scotland, and her mother, they had fostered like 100 kids. I swear my oldest son would be dead if she hadn't come over and help me. I didn't know what I was doing.

I had no idea. She, I mean, really, I'm not. None of us do. That's what I mean. They don't come with a set of rules. I'm going to see. You know what I mean? And then I wish I knew in the back of my mind I might have known that I don't have to be their friend because I enabled a lot when they were, I gave in a lot.

You know, I'm a mommy. I just love them and, you know, you want them to be good and you want them to be happy. Yeah, but sometimes we're not doing them a thing. any favors? No, we're not. Exactly. And now with my grandkids, I give in all the time. He's like, Mom, seriously? You just said yes to her? I go, well, she's my granddaughter. Of course I do.

I also, I mean, we're joking. Some of these are serious and some of them aren't. But I knew, I wish I'd known I was never going to sleep through the night again. I was told that, but I couldn't imagine it. Yeah, well, are you sleeping through the night now? No, probably not. Yes, I do. I pass out.

You sleep through the night? Yeah, well, I get up to pee, maybe. Yeah, well, that's not sleeping through the night. Let me define sleeping through the night. Put your head on the pillow and wake up the next day. I don't know. There's nothing better than happen. I know we all love our children.

You and I talk about a lot. But I think the biggest thing you said is the most important. No, well, that too. But the most important thing you said in all honesty is sometimes it's hard. They don't come with directions? No. Is that we are not their friends. We are parents, and parenting is difficult, and you're going to make mistakes.

We made mistakes, but parenting is a serious job and take it seriously. Yes, it is. It is. God bless everybody just starting. Do you want more children, Susan? Absolutely not. I'll take more grandchildren, though. Yeah, you'll be able.

All right. Well, now it's time to get to some of those listener questions. Are you ready for those? I sure am. Tanya, who's 55. She says, hi, ladies. I think I need some guidance right now. So I thought I turned to my favorite internet friends.

That's us, Scott. Yay. I'm really exhausted by my career. I just don't find joy in it, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life miserable. My husband and I have done well for ourselves, so I'm lucky to be financially able to take a leap of faith right now. How should I navigate jumping into a brand new career? I want to chase my dreams, but I'm insecure doing so at an older age. Any advice would be amazing.

Thank you so much. You know, it's funny. She's telling me she's 55. She's over it. She don't find you. I thought she was going to go travel, and she wants to jump into a brand new one. And I love it. And you know what my advice would be?

Yeah. Think you don't say, Tanya, what you're interested in doing. I'd get out a piece of paper, pencil, or get your computer out, and write down what gives you joy, what kinds of things is it. So maybe it's traveling. So maybe you start blogging about travel or you become a travel agent or whatever. Write down, think about what you want to do and then take a risk. Because, you know, Susan and I never thought we would be here having a podcast

and doing the wonderful things that we've gotten to do. Some of it's luck. Life doesn't stop. But life doesn't stop. So, you know what? Go chase your dreams. you said that you're financially stable and you can take a leap of faith so you know what you got to do tanya do you take a leap makes you happy yeah take a leap of faith and and that age of possibilities

anything is possible don't feel like you're old at 55 i'd like to trade places with her you know what i don't think she feels like she's old well she said she's exhausted from it all from her career she's done with her like it and she doesn't want to be miserable right but is you know that leap of faith, especially because you do have a nest day. That's what I'm saying. Take the leap of faith, Tanya. Go do it. Try something. And you know what? If the first thing you try doesn't work out, that's okay. Try something else. That's the joy of life. We only fail when we don't try. Right. Like you said, like Kathy said, right down your things that you love and what kind of work or career would be with the things we love. Like you said, travel.

And it could be something that you've never thought of. So, think about... Photography, who knows? Yeah. Think about the kinds of things you like doing. If you like photography, maybe you end up being a wedding photographer. Dream big, Tanya, because it's one life. We only get one time around.

Dream big and go after your dream. Absolutely. And if you don't succeed and you're not loving it, try something else. And let us know, Tanya. We want to know what you ended up. And that's a block to you. You can do it. You know what?

If you believe in yourself, everybody, else will believe in you so make sure you let us know where it is because i'm going to be curious now tanya yeah and thank you thanks for writing it by the way should we remind them again tanya if you want to write and let us know okay you ready bachelor nation dot com slash golden hour yay we've got it down all right here's our second question uh it's from sherry and she's 50 okay Hi ladies, I really need your help right now. My divorce was just finalized with my now ex-husband, and I feel so lost. I was with him for 30 years, and now I just feel so lonely. We have two adult children who live out of state and have their own families. I visit them often, and they visit me as well, which is nice, but I need to find some other fulfillment outside of them. How do I start dating again? He's the only person I've been with, and we just, just grew apart. Thank you so much. I love you both dearly. Can I, can I just jump back? We love you. Sherry, you had the answer in your question. You have a family. You just got divorced and you know what

you said? I need some fulfillment outside of them. How do I start dating again with your first question? You know what, Sherry? I'm going to encourage you to not date for a while. Go out and find out what will make you happy, what kinds of activities, what kinds of groups might you join. Expand your world. Go find some joy in your life. You'll have plenty of time to date and find that guy. Find out what makes you happy. I don't know. What would you add, Susan? I like it. I like the sounds of it, getting yourself out there. But sometimes when people get in that little rut, it sounds like she feels maybe her girlfriends are still married and you don't have people to go out with. You do the meet-up groups and all. I did a couple of those, too, and it was awkward at first.

But you got to try. I kept going. Join some single group, Sherry. And then there's the dating sites for the adult ones, too. I mean, there's nothing wrong with it. She just finalized her ex-husband. Yeah, take your time. Take a minute for you.

And you know what? It's okay to feel lost, Sherry. We all did. That's a big change, 30 years of marriage. That's a big change in your life. And I read a couple books about loving yourself, you know, feeling good about yourself. and that helps too. Yeah.

I just, I want you to explore yourself and the possibilities for you before you jump into another relationship. And honor those qualities that you love about yourself because someday somebody else is going to see them and you might meet the right one then. Yeah. And maybe not. I just, I just wish that so many women I talk to and friends of mine who are going through divorce, you know, between 40 and 50 and they're rushing, well, it does suck, but they're rushing

right into dating and I always say to them, why are you rushing into dating? Because they need to feel like they're wanted again. Maybe, and usually it doesn't work out the first date and stuff, but you just have to get yourself over that hump and then maybe not date for a while. Yeah, I guess my, I guess my hope would be that women would feel and learn that they are enough. I know. That easier said than I feel, yeah, I know. But the way to do it is do it, right? Jump in and try. Good luck. Good luck. Good luck. And let us know how things go. We wish you the best sharing.

And enjoy your family when you get time to visit. Don't be sad. And your family will be there for you. That's right. I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker,

who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years. into marriage to come out. Like when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned,

sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor.

And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you.

Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth? Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps,

are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell awaiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming,

and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. nobody tells you anything listen to shock incarceration on the i heart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts okay the next one's from loni hi kathy and susan i was wondering what advice you have for me i graduated college in the spring and am now moving across the country for my first full-time job it was so hard for me to find a job and i'm so great to be and excited but the reality of my life changing is starting to set in what should i do to acclimate to this new city i won't know anyone other than the people i work with thank you it is scary and it's exciting i hope

you're going to a fun city she doesn't say where right no wow that's big that's huge yeah first of lani congratulations on graduating college congratulations on your job getting a job congratulations on taking the risk that those are all exciting things i would say you know what you're going to do to acclimate to this new city you're going to get out and do things you're going to get out and go to bars and restaurants enjoying clubs and find a gym to work out at you're going to go out with a church a synagogue you're going to find your worker your coworkers you're going to build a new a new family, if you will, a work family, a fun family.

You're going to build. And Lonnie, this might not happen immediately. You might go through a little depressed time. Like, it's when kids go off the college. Some kids are, like, so homesick. You might go through that a little bit. Invite a girlfriend out for vacation to come stay with you for a couple days and explore the city.

What is that city known for? What is there, you know. I would say, Lonnie, I'm proud. I don't think, I'm just going to say, Be proud of yourself. I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. The fact that you are going across the country by yourself tells me that you have an adventurous, adventurous spirit, and I think you are going to do so fabulously.

And how do I acclimate? There's no set. We can't tell you the exact thing to do. Just do you. It happens over time. But, Lonnie, you have to let us know. Hey, we want to know what you have to. And we want to know what you've done.

to acclimate. I'll bet, you know, by now, you're probably already well on your way. Don't be scared. Embrace the adventure. You were made for this, Lonnie. You were made for it. For me, my biggest fear like that, like she's saying, I went to Europe for 15 days by myself, my eat, pray, love trip. When I got there, like, she might go through this. As soon as you get there and she's unpacking, I'm thinking, what the heck did I just do? What am I going to do with myself for 15? And it was the time of my life. So you enjoy. best times are those times when we put ourselves out there to do something that feels so risky but it's where we grow and we learn so much about ourselves you're going to grow and

Lonnie we want to I love this I feel like I want to go now let's move call us Lonnie we'll come visit you okay we have one more all right this last one is from anonymous anonymous okay hi Kathy and Susan I just found out I'm pregnant yay congrats and this is mine and my husband first child. We're really excited, but I'm already starting to get really nervous. Well, welcome to parenthood. I'm not always the best at communicating my needs, so I know I really need to get better at this ASAP. How do you suggest I go about talking to my husband about all things pregnancy? How do I ask for help when I already struggle to do so by nature and now have all these pregnancy hormones? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle a first-time pregnancy in general, looking for literally any

advice. I trust you both. Sending lots of love from Texas. Well, call me anonymous. I'll help you. I'm in Texas. I think the very first part is why, I mean, you already struggle asking for things you need or tell me. Maybe she's shocked. Yeah. Well, there are books. The first trimester, the second trimester, the first time pregnant, I would try that first, maybe go to a LaMaz class and talk to other pregnant moms. I mean, your girlfriends. Join groups. Let me just say anonymous.

Everyone is scared having their first child because, you know, there was a book when I was pregnant called What to Expect when you're expecting. Yes. And the answer, you know, you could have written one word, terror. everybody's afraid when they're pregnant the first time everybody's afraid about having a first child everything from the pregnancy to the labor and delivery also with your husband say hon i've never craved anything before it's weird that all of a sudden i want this or hon i have this weird it feels like gas bubbles or something share everything that you're feeling with them that's a great idea

you're going to be really tired the first three months yeah hopefully not nauseous because that sucks when that happens and just share everything don't make it a complaint but i want you to feel what i feel i want you to understand what i'm feeling i will say i think that's a great idea a lot when you and i were having kids at least when i was having kids it was i you know it wasn't we're pregnant as they say now it was i was i was and i can assure you we did not deliver that's right you are doing the work Trust me. But let me just say, I think partners are now much more involved in pregnancy and raising children.

So, you know what, the fact that you realize you struggle to communicate, that's half the battle anonymous. Just take it a step at a time and say, you know, whatever your partner's name is, I'm afraid, I'm scared. And also do your friends, any of our friends have children? You can talk to them. Yeah. But she's specifically asking how to talk to her husband.

Yeah. And I'm saying take it step by step. You know, talk about how you're feeling. Talk about your fears. Pregnancy hormones are amazing. Yeah. And the fact that you admit and you know that you struggle by nature to communicate is half the battle. You're going to do good.

You're going to do great. I know it. I know it. Let me say you're in for the ride of your life. Hopefully it's a nice pregnancy. I had good pregnancies. So did I. But it's raising them.

That's the hard part. Just take it day by day. And remember, there's no. There is no how-to manual for having children and raising them. And those two pregnancies are alike. You can't compare. And literally, I live in Texas. Find me on Instagram.

I'll be happy to answer any questions. I love babies. If you're close, I'll come and help you. Take care of that little munchkin. Oh, thank you so much. And let us know how you make out. And don't be shy. Just say what you feel and share what you're feeling and experiencing.

All right. Now we're going to get to know Kathy and Susan. Well, we know Kathy and Susan, we're going to let Bachelor Nation get to know us more. So today, instead of a game, we thought we'd answer more questions so you guys can get to know us better. We'll switch off reading them, but we'll both answer each one, and I'll start us off. Wait, can I just say, can I just interject one thing here? As you all know, Susan and I did some facelifts, minor facelifts, some laser surgery. I should have did a full.

I only got the bottom here. Yeah, I'm going to probably should have done the full. But can I just say we are in person doing this a podcast and we are both sitting there. If you could see us, we're both sitting there scratching our ears because we're itchy. We're itchy from the healing. It's, you know, healing takes a long time. We're still itching. So be lucky you can't see us because we're just sitting here taking turns scratching.

They might be able to. No, I don't know. All right. All right. Let's get back to this. If we were stranded on a desert island together. A deserted island. Oh, a deserted island.

Sorry. I was going to the desert. I mean, desert desert. If we were stranded on a deserted island together, what would our game plan be? I'd be crying, looking for food. I'd be bitching a cap. Because you'd be there asking me questions. What's Susan?

What are we going to do? How are we going to get out of here? No, I wouldn't. I'm going to say build an arc. No. What I'd be doing is looking for stuff. I'd be finding stones to put on the beach to say, help us. I'd find a way to light a fire.

Listen, put me on Survivor. I'll make it. That's what my game plan would be. How do we let people know where we are and find us? We would panic, not the first. But if I got hungry, if I get hungry, Kathy goes without eating for like a day. Susan would panic.

Oh, my God, it's been an hour. Where am I going to bathroom? It's been an hour since she's had food. The animals are going to smell it. I'm scared. Okay, we're just going to move on to the next one. Wait, if you had to bring one thing, this isn't on here to this. Oh, no, it is.

Exactly. If you could bring three things. Oh, I'm sorry. I was going to. I didn't even read that book. If you could bring three things from your house with you on the deserted island, what would they be? Go ahead. Well, clearly it would be a toothbrush and toothpaste.

I would want water. Fresh water. I would want a book. Of course you would. And when you're done that book, you're going to read it 14 times. I've read many books more than once. I'd probably, you know, want. I would say a phone or a computer, but they wouldn't work.

We'd need to charge them. So any of our electronical... I don't know. I would... I want maybe pictures of my family. It would give me incentive to get off that island. Food water and a toothbrush. Food water and toothbrush.

You're so dear, practically. I don't need the food. Okay. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly?

Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives, knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years, but their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes.

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I'm just like text your ex. My theory is that if you need to figure out that the stove is hot, go and touch it. Go and figure it out for yourself. Okay. That's us. That's us. My name is Curley. And I'm Maya.

In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbrates, men, and, of course, our favorite secrets. Listen to the Super Secret Bestie Club as a part of the My Cultura podcast network available on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. What's a hidden talent that you have that even I didn't know, Kathy? A hidden talent that you have? No, that you have. I'm asking you, what is a hidden talent that you have that I don't know about? I don't play moral quandary here. Do you have a hidden talent that I don't know about?

Well, not so much. I used to be able to sing really well. I did. I can't sing at all. I could dance, but I can't think I told you my talent today that you didn't know about, that I was a gymnast. Oh, yeah. I did not know that.

All right. What is, what's your favorite fun fact about yourself? Oh. I fun fact about my fun fact? That I'm happy and I make people smile. I have empathy. I don't know. That's fun.

Is that fun? I don't know. My fun fact is I like to have fun. You're fun. We like to have fun. I'm a good shopper. Oh, Jesus. People, you just don't know.

I can shop for a living. Let me just say to you, Susan, I've been together traveling, doing some things lately. Susan walks into a store. I walk into a store and I get overwhelmed. I could tell you within three minutes of them. Susan literally laser focuses on a rack and she's picked out three things. I'm still trying to find my size. Wait, how about me walking in the store?

And with it, I scope it out and I go, no, this isn't us. Well, I can do that. Yeah, I mean, I can do that. There's nothing here for us. You all just, if you ever want an experience, you want to go shopping with Susan. That's all I can say. All right, what's your favorite? Oh, this is a good one for Kathy.

Oh, God. It's your favorite local restaurant and why. And he could care less. I do. No, that's not true. In Austin, I love the restaurant, Abba. I just plugged you. Why?

Because they have a beautiful outdoor. I'm about environment. feeling good they have it's trees and there's big fans and they have great tequila drinks um i just but honestly i can't answer that i have a lot of favorites i'm a foodie i visit a lot of restaurants see i don't care about the food as much i care about the ambience ambiance all right what's something you've always wanted to do wait wait do you think aba will give me a free meal next time i go in austin texas how many more times how many more times do you have to say abba in austin on south congress all right go ahead what's something

you've always wanted to do but haven't done yet and why not i'll tell you me too tell me what you want the airplane flying in air well you are close you know what i we've got wait now we're going to do this together we're going to take lessons gabby yeah give me something you know what i want to do yeah i want to jump out of an airplane i did too and now i'm afraid it's things will break when i was interviewing to be on the golden bachelor i said i did too i checked it off i would jump i still would do it yeah so so why haven't we done it yet well because i worked i raised kids and now's the time we're going to sign up i'm scared to do it i don't really care about flying as much as i'd like to be in the cockpit and see the view but i really would like to jump out with can i fly the plane that you jump out of only if there's

someone flying it that's had 40 years of experience go on all right when was the last oh i hate these questions when was the last time you did something for the first time i don't know i can't answer that one that's something for the first time when was the last time you did something for the first time? I don't know. When I did it. Yeah. I don't know. Next. Next. What's an experience you had that changed your perspective on life? Golden Bachelor. That was easy. Okay, looking back at when you were younger, what was your silliest fear? The dark. No, listen. It's true. I don't believe you're saying this. Are you afraid of the dark? We had a basement in our head. and my mom would send me down and I'd look behind me on the way I'm like oh my god the boogeyman's

gonna get me too my sister my sister and I'm gonna make her listen to this podcast my sister who lives in Canada her name is Susan my favorite sister she like seasons I love susans she had a purple witch it was a little you know those light in the dark things yeah yeah so you'd go to we shared a room she would put when I wasn't around she would put the witch up to the light bulb and then we go to bed and she go, ooh, and fly that damn witch on my bed. Scared to

death. All right. What's your current wallpaper on your phone and why did you choose that? Oh, well, you're going to laugh when I tell you. Come. Actually, this is an answer you would give. I can't show you my phone. I can't choose one.

I have a rolling scroll of all the photos on my camera. I have my grandkids. See, I like, I like, I'm I've got pictures of my husband. I've got pictures of my kids, my grandkids, places I've been. All right. You're next. All right.

What's your... Favorite holiday memory. I'm going rogue. Susan. What's the best date you've had since you got off the show? Really, Cass. Yeah. I'm ambious.

I want to know. Well, you've had some. You got a free dinner? Give me something. So we're going to go back to Christmas. And my favorite. Christmas memory is when I torture my kids with clues. Oh, God.

If you could bring back any fashion trend, oh God, or old slang, what would it be? I have one. My kids still, Mom, don't say that anymore. I still say banging when food is good. Bang and they're like, Mom, stop. I don't know it is. It's freaking banging. No, that's what you do.

That's what people do is, you get, stop. No, Kathy, that's a freeze. No. Yes. It's a freeze. I am so sorry. She don't believe me. Hooking up.

No, it has nothing to work. Get your mind out of the daughter. I'm telling you. It's banging. It was amazing. Okay, everybody right into bachelination. Please, guys, because I'm right on this one. Has anyone ever heard the expression of people banging?

No, you don't say people banging. It was banging. You say it was banging. I don't care with this. All right, move on. Wait a minute. She's really not with it. I just can't even.

All right. What is your comfort movie or TV show? Well, my comfort movie is bridesmaids. That's a comfort room. Like Hallmark. Wait, when she poops in the street with the wedding dress on, I still laugh every time I watch it. It always makes me laugh. But, you know.

Okay, how about the worst? What about you? I said Hallmark. I love my Hallmark. Oh, my Christmas. Wait, can I just tell you, wait. That's a comfort movie. I watched the other night on Hallmark, I can't even believe I'm admitting to this.

I started to cry. I always do. No, you know, not because of the movie because it's always the same. You know, Girl Meets Boy in Small Town, Falls in Love, was happily ever after. But this was Girl Meets Boy in Ireland. And I was in Ireland last year, and my husband always wanted to go. So I said, and it was filmed in Ireland. So I just sat there crying, watching the scenery.

Wait a minute. There's a favorite movie, and I don't remember the name of it. Can you help me? It's when they switch houses and she falls in love with the girl's brother. over in Ireland, I believe. I don't know. Oh, come on. I don't know.

But I like it. I want to watch it. The holiday. The holiday. Oh, I do. Yes. Isn't that great? Yes.

Thank you. I love it. Thank you. All right. Last one. What's the worst piece of advice you've ever been given? Go shopping with you. That's not advice.

No. What's the worst advice you've ever been given? Don't buy that car. I don't know. No, that was good advice. I don't know. I can't think of it. I don't know.

You know what the difference is? You and I look for the positive things. We make lemon. We make lemonade. I don't have a lemon. It's like what's the best advice. You know, that's what we look for. Yeah, good advice, but bad advice?

I don't know. Susan, bet a thousand on that one at the casino. That's bad advice. Or worse yet, put another penny in that. lot machine you're sure to be a winner don't say pennies don't say pennies they're called penny machines however the lowest bet is like 88 cents i mean i don't know why they're called pennies i can't i mean i and i you were telling you the day i enjoy that wait a second you i thought you literally put money in and like pulled the crank we used to and quarters came out that's all and now you just she hasn't been out in the minute

i'm taking her to bagas i've been to i'm taking you to baggis i like to go into the louis Vuitton shop you can put the pennies and rather spend it there too you know what I can't believe it, but we're having fun. First day of the new year. Did you want to, did you set any goals or make any promises to yourself or something that you wish? Okay. So I never make New Year's resolutions because it's sort of, we've talked about this. It's sort of like Valentine's Day for me.

If it's the person I love, I want to show them every day of the year. If I make a New Year's resolution, I want to make that resolution any day of the year and make it work the whole year. I don't ever choose a day to, you know, to acknowledge like, okay, starting today, I don't do that. But I do think New Year's represents a time of newness of change. It can be. But again, I like to look at the positive. For me, this past year, you know, we're just starting the New Year. The past year has been so great to both of us, the friendships, the traveling, everything, you know, our grandchildren.

And all the things that we've had this year, I think for 2025, I would just like to continue building the joy and the friendships and keeping health, you know, my good health. And then, you know, our world. Well, I know I'm not going to say I'm going on the diet and starting the gym. I did that last year and I've gone four times. That's my point. No, no, no. I know what you're saying. I mean, I would like to say that we both would be.

It's what I'm looking forward to. Right. Yeah. What are you looking forward to? Our trip to St. Martin's first. That's first. First and foremost, and I have a birthday. You look forward to birthdays.

Really, but yeah, I usually celebrate somehow, some way, for an entire month. You know what? I think it's going to be a good year. And all of our listeners that have listened to us in this first year of our podcast, thank you, thank you so much. Oh, my gosh. We wish you. We get on like a golden paradise or I'm hoping for a new show.

I'm looking forward to it. another exciting year. I am. I am too. I feel blessed to be alive. So do I. But I do want to acknowledge all the people that listen to our podcast. So thank you to all of you, wishing you all the happiest and healthy of New Year's.

Healthy New Year. And I hope you've celebrated fabulously. Without you guys, we wouldn't have this. If you guys didn't love this, then we wouldn't be here. So we're grateful for you. We are very grateful. And hope you're all recovering to be celebrated last night. I don't get you wrong.

Hope you're recovering. I might eat too much. Anyway, thanks. That's it for today. And happy, healthy new year from Kathy and Susan. Happy, happy New Year, and we'll see you next time. And we can't wait for the new questions next year, right? Should we say it one more time?

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