Bachelor Happy Hour - New Year, New YOU | Golden Hour

Episode Date: January 14, 2026

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re back answering your questions! It’s a new year and we’re here to ring in a new era of positive change for all of you. We kick things off by jumping right with our first question: How do you manage exercise during menopause? Then, we get into some sticky relationships; from an overbearing daughter-in-law to a debacle around an engagement ring, we’re dishing out all the helpful advice. Plus, we’re reacting to more of your confessions — and these are too juicy to miss! Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Kat, how's going? Oh my gosh. It is just rolling through the first week of the new year. Loving it. It's been record warm temperatures in Austin, Texas. Who needs the beach when it can be 86 degrees in Austin, Texas in the first week of January? I do because the blue water is just beautiful. Okay, rub it in.

Rub it in. Susan's still at the beach. All right. Today, Susan and I are back. We are answering some of your questions. This is one of our favorite things to do. It is. Thanks for writing in.

We're so excited to check in with you guys and dish out some advice. So I'm going to do the first one, okay? You ready, Susan? Okay. You go. Chris writes, hi, Kathy and Susan. I have selected the word strength to focus on for this year. I'm 56 and I'm really feeling like I need to focus on taking care of my body and making

it strong again. Kathy, I've heard you talk about the importance of stretching. and I'm wondering if you have specific stretches and strength training that you do. Or if you could share your protocol daily schedule on the podcast. What does working out look like when you're in menopause? I would love to know how you keep in such good shape and stay motivated. Susan, you look great too. I just know you don't like to work out as much as Kathy does.

I appreciate any advice you both can provide. Chris, I just want to say one thing. I do stretch. That is critical. because if you don't, things aren't going to flow. I do. That's true. She's absolutely right.

And thank you, Chris, for your lovely comments about me looking so great. It's a little rough in the beginning of the new year, but we're all getting back into the gym and getting focused on strength and training. So let me give you a couple of easy tips, Chris. First of all, don't jump. Don't become a weekend warrior. That is, don't jump into the gym and work out for an hour and an hour and a half because what's going to happen is you're going to tear something, hurt something, get so sore that you won't do it again. So start small.

I would encourage you to start off walking 10 minutes. You don't have to do it marathon pace. Just walk for 10 minutes. When you come back from the walk, stretch. And let me give you some easy stretches. Line on the floor lifting each leg individually into your. chest slowly, rolling one leg over onto the other side of your body, like making an L, if you will, bending at the waist, and just slowly, don't be bouncing.

Stretching is just that. It's not bouncing. It's slowly holding as far as you can and then letting it go. And there are tons of stretching exercises you can get on YouTube. There's a lot of information. that you can get. The other thing that I would say to you is strength training. So you're probably obviously, well, not obviously, probably in menopause and we lose strength once we go into menopause. And so weight training, although you didn't ask that, strength training slash weight training

is super important. And again, I would encourage you if you have the resources available, get a trainer, work with a trainer two or three times, get him to write out a workout for you. Do that workout for four, six weeks. Not every day. Start out three days a week. That's plenty. And then go after six weeks and get a new workout. Again, there's so many good free workouts online and get yourself.

You can buy cheap weights at secondhand stores. you don't have to order brand new weights. The weight does not change its weight over time. So, you know, look for used weights if that's an issue and take it slow. That is my best advice. And then keep a journal is always a good thing. What weight you used, how long you did it for, and then just build up slowly. You got anything to add to that, Susan?

I do. As far as the stretching when you're flat on your back and you bring your legs up, knees bent, you press the small of your back into the floor. It's a great back exercise and it's also strengthening the core, which is something that I have problems with. Yeah, exactly. Your core strength is everything. One of the things I did do and didn't want to brag, but I just downloaded and join this Tai Chi and I'm going to start for balance. Yeah, good for you. It helps motivate me. And it is a little bit strength. But yes. So Chris, the thing is as we get older and I'm a lot older than you are, Chris, we tend to lose balance. That's why people fall and break hips. Yes. So Susan's right.

Core strength, also balance. Balance. So it all goes together. Strength training, balance, core exercises. There's a lot you can find. And Kathy, do you agree with this? I worked with a trainer last year for a short time, unfortunately, because I started to travel again. But when I was doing like arm curls, for instance, and your elbows are in, she made me go so slow on the way down. And it took so much more time, but it was so much more for the muscle. Right. Because I used to just want to. No, that's not how you do it. So this is why. I learned something. Right. I have done weight since I was 20 years old. And so, I know the proper way to lift a weight.

But that's why, Chris, if you can get a trainer just one or two times, it actually will cut out a lot of the mistakes and the chance of you hurting yourself. And you're how do I stay in such good shape? Chris, it's, it's hard work. She doesn't eat. She doesn't eat. I do eat. It's not like an Italian girl. Well, that may be.

I'm not Italian. But I work, I make a commitment, Chris, to work out. This morning, I didn't want to work out. We had to sit down. I had other things I had to do. But I got up early so I could go out and do my walk. Did I do five miles today? No, I only had time to do four.

It's the commitment. I'm saying it's the commitment to getting out and doing something. But you know what? And how often do you lift weights, Kathy? How many times a week? Three times a week. Three times. Two to three.

Every day. I walk. I walk. I walk, I would say nine days out of ten. So not, you know, I'll skip a day once in a while. But Chris, let us know. I would love to hear back from you. You know, the computer is your friend.

The internet is your friend. Look up some, look up some exercises. Take your time, but just commit to doing it 10 minutes. You will feel better. You will sleep better. Let us know how it goes for you. And yay, I'm glad I have someone who wants to, Get in shape for 2026.

Yeah, you. Thanks for writing in, Chris. We wish you the best. Let us know your progress. Yep, perfect. All right. The next one is from Anonymous. First, thank you for talking about the stuff that other podcasts don't.

My question is about my husband's adult daughter. She is a married mother of four kids under the age of 10 and lives out of state. The issue is she calls. him all the time with reports of rashes who ate all their dinner, the weather, and other useless trivia. She also text hourly with videos and photos of her baking skills, every activity, clips of every sports game where she is screaming in the background. Anything you can think of she's doing. This happens constantly when my husband and I are on vacation or at an outing. The contact doubled when we were on a Europe trip. Ding at dinner, ding at 2 a.m.

He feels an obligation to text back. If he doesn't respond in 10 minutes, she calls. I love that they are so close, but I at times feel like she is in our marriage. I have adult children that I am very close to, but I don't feel in need for more than once a day check-in. We are both healthy and active, so there is no need for over-concern. He visits them six to seven times a year, and sometimes I go along. This past year, I have made excuses as to not go because I am starting to feel uncomfortable as their home is a very controlling household. There are over the top rules, schedules, and harsh punishment.

punishments that make me cringe. Not sure how I bring it up to him or am I being unreasonable. I have been dealing with this for over a year. Whoa. I feel your pain. You want to stab at it because this is so easy for me. Oh my God. Yes, I know it is for you, but not for me.

I would definitely have to bring it up. I would try to calm myself first and write down the important things so you're not bluttering along and you're starting to sound like a whining, complaining. That's one of my things that I do. I go on and on. Just get the facts out that does it have to be like this?

And the harsh punishments that make you cringe, I totally get that. I have to bite my tongue sometimes, until it bleeds. So I would truly have a conversation with him. And if he's that in love with you and you are with him and he wants this to work, there is no reason that she would have to do it that many times in a day, especially when you're on holiday.

Kathy? I have one word. Usually I'm the one running at the mouth and you. I have one word for you. anonymous boundaries. First of all, you are not being unreasonable. Not at all. Secondly, all the examples you gave, one is worse than next.

I think Susan and I agree on that. That's just horrible. However, if your husband, you said that he feels that he must respond. I wonder where the mother is, Kathy. I don't care. I don't care where the mother is. He feels an obligation to text back. The question you have to ask him is why, because they are adult children.

And this to me is beginning, I don't want to sound overly dramatic anonymous, but you're not spending time with him. You're not going on the trips of them to see his family, which is okay. I mean, that's all right. You can go once or twice of the six times. he goes a year. However, if he's spending more time with his kids than he is with you, that's another issue. You need to, I would encourage you, again, I'm not a therapist, but I would encourage you guys to get into therapy because he needs to learn that you are

his priority and that he can love his children, but they are adults and they get to live their lives. He, they doesn't mean that he needs to hear every dot and dash of their lives. If they're lives. So I would encourage you to get some help because clearly if you haven't brought, well, first of all, Susan's right. Bring it up to him first. See if he's really. Know what you're going to say. Yeah. Yeah. Just say. Kathy, I wonder, is there not a mom? Maybe she passed. That's why she depends solely on the dad. I don't care. But there's a fine line. And what about her husband, the girl's husband? Talk to him. Your dad, you don't need to talk to him 20 times a day.

She is a married mother of four kids. She isn't a adult. I don't care if there's a mother, a stepmother. Usually they call the mom for these things. But see, the mom, you could turn this whole question around. It could be the husband writing in that she calls her mom. That's still wrong. wrong. It is wrong. You have every right anonymous to expect that your husband will put you

first in his life. That isn't to say he won't chat with his kids, occasionally once a day even send them gifts. I think, you know, once a day is great. And if something exciting is happening and she shoots over the video, okay, great. But it's not every day. And it's not more than once a day and it's not all these things. I think this is something anonymous that you should try to talk to him about, but I'm guessing you might need to have some counseling here with your husband. And like I said, I'm not a therapist, but. Because he might be blind to the fact that you're bothered by it.

Someone has to bring it to his attention. That's right. Well, she says she's been dealing with it for over a year. Yes, but she hasn't said anything. You haven't said anything. So, you know, I think. I think you listen anonymous men are a lot of things clueless one things that well they may be clueless but one thing they are not is mind readers so tell them what's on your mind and then take it

from there and see what other steps you might need to take and let us know anonymous let us know wish you luck baby because I get it I love you say I love Susan says start softly I'd be in there ranting all right let's move on But let us know anonymous. Seriously, we wish the best. New year, new goals, and in this economy, a better money plan is more necessary than ever. I am Matt, and I'm Joel. We are from the How to Money podcast, and every week we help you to spend smarter, save more,

and make sense of what's going on out there. If you want 2026 to be the year you finally feel in control of your money, we're here to give you the tools and advice to help you make it happen. Listen to How to Money on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or where, you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Dr. Priyanko Wally. And I'm Hurricane DeBolu. It's a new year.

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Hi, Kathy and Susan. You guys give such good advice. Well, thank you, Elizabeth. Hoping you have something good for me. I am engaged in getting married soon. I have an engagement ring, but I never wear it because I just don't like wearing jewelry. Well, I'm not even going to read on.

Elizabeth, send it to me. I'll be happy to wear it for you. Okay. I don't think that's our question, though. All right. I also don't want to feel like I have to wear a wedding ring. It's nothing personal. I just am not a jewelry girl.

My fiancé does not have any problem with this. But here we go. But my family and friends seem to think it's weird and disrespectful to marriage. Is it really that big of a deal? What says you, Susan? I mean, first of all, why did you let him waste this money on a diamond if you don't like jewelry? A simple band would have been good too, right?

But there's something to be said when you're married. You need, I like the idea of wearing a ring. That's you do. Yes. I think, okay. But it's to each his own. If you don't want to, you don't have to. That's where I am.

Hey, Susan. And as far as your friends are concerned, Elizabeth and your family, last time I looked, you're marrying him, not your friends or your family. So there's that. But here's what I would say. We all know lots of men and women. who wear wedding rings and diamond rings with their wedding rings, who cheat on their husbands,

cheat on their wives. So the ring, while it is a symbol of unity and commitment, we all know that it doesn't always turn out that way, right? So I would say, Elizabeth, you seem like a woman who is looking forward to being married and loves the idea of marriage. And I don't hear anything here that you're not sure you want to marry the guy. So as far as I'm concerned, if you are in a committed relationship and you are partners in this marriage,

I don't care if you wear a straw wrapped around your finger, a diamond ring, or no ring at all. It's a symbol. It is not the marriage. It is a symbol. If you don't like the symbol, you know, do what I did. Get your hair dyed black. That can be your symbol of marriage. No, Elizabeth, just do one thing.

for everyone. When you do say your vows, wear the ring. If you don't want to wear it afterwards, you don't have to. I don't care what your family says. Why does you have to wear it? It's part of the ceremony, God.

It doesn't have to be. It's a symbol that they each put on that the wearer is. That's just, hey, you and I can argue this all day long. There's nothing in a marriage. Well, you can have your hands tied in the symbol. That's also another one. I do these. They can do the, I know you do,

but there's no law. that says you have to put a wedding ring on for your wedding. You don't have to say anything. You don't have to say you are going to honor and all that. You don't have to do any of those things. She's, what I got out of it is she just doesn't like, he just doesn't like wearing jewelry, but to appease everybody for the ceremony, you wear it, people look at it. And when you're done, you're on your own.

You and they are so different. A lot of men don't wear wedding bans because of their work, where they're labor. Or they just don't like wearing. them. Sometimes they don't. So who cares? You and I are, here we are our first fight of 26. This is not a fight. No, you don't what I'm saying? Our first disagreement. You do not have to wear a ring at the ceremony, Elizabeth. You don't have to wear the diamond at the ceremony. You don't have to do anything with it. You can keep it. If you have children, see if they want it someday. I believe marriage is not about symbols. Marriage is about partnership and commitment. And a ring and a ring is. And a ring is

not that. So if you don't want to wear it, don't wear it. It's not a big deal. Don't get married in it. If you don't want it, don't have rings. Don't do it. If you don't want it. Don't do it. However, he has the ring. Well, she has the diamond ring. She has the diamond ring. She does not have a wedding ring. So you don't want one. Okay. Susan says where to the ceremony? Because Susan performs ceremonies and wants that. And then you could put it in the safe and, you know, whatever. It's fine. to her. It's her. All I can say is your life, your marriage, your man.

And don't let your friends and family tell you what to do. It's your day. It's your marriage. It's your life. And may I also say, I wish I had Elizabeth's problem. Hey, would you, wait, if I called you up, wait, if I called you up and said, Susan, I've got the most gorgeous diamond ring from whoever.

And I don't want to wear it. Give it to me. me, I'll wear it. Or have it made into something else, but she doesn't like jewelry at all. But let's reflect for a second on the last three notes that we received. The first one, 100 percent, it's about getting healthy, stretching, lifting weights, doing good for yourself, right? And it's, and it is a perfect time for everyone. You and I think about it. I hope our listeners. are thinking how they can make their lives. So I love that Chris wrote in because that shows that people,

she hopefully symbolizes a lot of people who are thinking about making their lives better. I know you and I are tried to. And then the one that's sticking in my crawl is, is those kids, that daughter. I want to call her. Kathy, seriously. What would you do? Susan, you know me so well.

Oh, God. She would just like that and it's over. You just, boom. I'm not accepting it, right? I would say to him, forget it. You're not doing this. You're not doing this.

You can choose. So you would give him an ultimate? Not at the beginning. I would say, I would start with tiny steps. You're turning your phone off and you're going to tell her. You are going to have the conversation. Do you want to be with me? This is a conversation I would have.

Do you, let's call him John. John. Do you want to be with me? Do you love me? Because I love you and I love our life together. What I don't love is feeling like your daughter and her children are in our marriage. It's excessive. So are you willing to have a conversation with her?

Do you think it's excessive would be my first question? If he said, no, I think it's fine. We're probably not going to make it. If he thinks that's normal, we're done. I mean, seriously. That's my fear. Does he think that's normal? But if he does, you're not going to change him. If he doesn't want to change, that's the thing that we, Susan, pay attention. We don't change people. We accept people for who they are and we either stick around or we take a hike. And what happens is, is it okay with you who they are? Of course, you accept anybody for who they are. But when it involves you, are you? Are you okay with who they are? And I think Anonymous is nervous.

maybe that he is okay with her daughter, his daughter contacting her 64 times a day. And I think that's why she hasn't had the conversation. She's afraid of the answer. I'm not sure how I bring it up to him. Well, we're going to tell you a couple different ways that you're going to bring it up. The first one for me is when you're about to take a trip, whether you're in Europe, or you're down the street at a hotel. I don't care where you are, what country you're at.

You have that conversation before you leave. Sweetie, let your daughter know, we're going on holiday. And you will not be answering every single solitary text message. It's too much. I disagree with you. Why? Because of what I said to earlier, he, this is you being a control person.

He has to not want it. you cannot legislate change you can't make them not want it you they've got to make some kind of an arrangement no no no this is what i'm saying she anonymous cannot legislate and tell her husband you're going to tell your daughter this this a b and c that's why i said the first question anonymous needs to ask him is are you willing to make a change i think this is excessive are you willing to make changes well yes yes of course that you have to have the conversation but she's going to be a little bit lenient because she's in love with her husband. She's saying, am I being unreasonable?

You're not being unreasonable. You need that conversation like we talked about. And a reminder before you go on a tread. But I'm saying, I don't think you're hearing me. You're saying anonymous needs to tell him. I'm saying, no, that's controlling his life. Tell him that it upsets her. I'm telling them how to do it.

Well, yes, you did. You said tell her to tell the daughter. Tell the daughter, we are going on vacation. You will not be answering every single test. That's telling him how to do it. I'm saying, I'm saying you can't tell a man your partner and have a good outcome if he doesn't want to change it. So. No, no, after their conversation, the beginning conversation that we both agreed upon.

Yeah. I'm saying if he isn't willing, I would try therapy after you approach, after you brought you with him, try couples therapy and see if you can get some leeway. But this for me, I think that would actually do, Kathy, couples therapy. See if a therapist could get him to see how unrealistic and frankly insane this kind of behavior is. Just call us. I got I got a couple others that I want to go. New year, new goals.

And in this economy, a better money plan is more necessary than ever. I am Matt. And I'm Joel. We are from the How to Money podcast, and every week we help you to spend smarter, save more, and make sense of what's going on out there. If you want 2026 to be the year you finally feel in control of your money, we're here to give you the tools and advice to help you make it happen. Listen to How to Money on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Dr. Priyanko Wali. And I'm Hurricane de Bolu.

It's a new year. And on the podcast's health stuff, we're resetting the way we talk about our health. Which means being honest about what we know, what we're. don't know and how messy it can all be. I like to sleep in late and sleep early. Is there a chronotype for that or am I just depressed? We talk to experts who share real experiences and insight. You just really need to find where it is that you can have an impact in your own life and just start doing that. We break down the topics you want to know more about. Sleep, stress, mental health and how the world around us affects our overall health. We talk about all

all the ways to keep your body and mind, inside and out, healthy. We human beings, all we want is connection. We just want to connect with each other. Health stuff is about learning, laughing, and feeling a little less alone. Listen on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. A new year doesn't mean erasing who you were. It means honoring what you've survived and choosing how you want to grow. It means giving ourselves permission to feel what we've been holding.

and knowing that it's okay to ask for help. I'm Mike Dolorotcha, host of sacred lessons. This podcast is a space for men to talk openly about mental health, grief, relationships, and the patterns we inherit, but don't have to repeat. Here, we slow down, we listen, we learn how vulnerability becomes strength and how healing happens in community, not in isolation. If you're ready to let go of what no longer serves you, and step into the year with clarity, compassion, and purpose.

Sacred Lessons is your companion on your healing journey. Listen to Sacred Lessons with Mike Delarocha on America's number one podcast network, IHeart. Follow Sacred Lessons with Mike Delocha and start listening on the free IHeart Radio app today. Hey there, this is Dr. Jesse Mills, director of the men's clinic at UCLA Health and host of the Mailroom podcast. Each January guys everywhere make the same resolutions. Get stronger. hard or fixed what's broken. But what if the real work isn't physical at all? To kick off the new year, I sat down with Dr. Steve Polter, a psychologist with over 30 years experience helping men

unpack shame, anxiety, and emotional pain they were never taught the name. In a powerful two-part conversation, we discuss why men aren't emotionally bulletproof, why shame hides in plain sight, and how real strength comes from listening to yourself and to others. Guys who are toxic, they're immature, or they've got something they just haven't resolved. Once that gets resolved, then there comes empathy as in compassion. If you want this to be the year, you stop powering through pain and start understanding what's underneath, listen to the mailroom on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows. A decade ago, I was on the trail of one of the country's most elusive serial killers, but it wasn't until 2023 when he was finally caught. The answers were there, hidden in plain sight.

So why did it take so long to catch him? I'm Josh Zeman, and this is Monster, hunting the Long Island serial killer, the investigation into the most notorious killer in New York, since the son of Sam, available now. Listen for free on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, wherever you get your podcasts. Susan, do you remember when we did in one of our episodes

about anonymous confessions, and we read some of them, we didn't have time to do them? We've got a few more here. Let's do another round of anonymous confection. All right. And these come from Instagram. So these really happened. Okay.

I once dated two people at the same time and accidentally scheduled dates at the same restaurant on the same night. What do you think? I canceled both. I don't know. I mean, that would, I mean, I've done, I've scheduled two dates before, but not at the same restaurant on the same night at the same time like that who you know instagram person that is an amazing confession i think you need to get a little black book bells and chimes on your

cell phone do something because that's like that that that could be deadly right have you ever done i couldn't do it no you've never done have you ever had two dates in one day no well yes but two meetings in one day, not dates. Like when I was on social media dating, I would go meet somebody for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. And I did one in the afternoon one time and one in the evening one time. But that, yeah. All right. All right. What about this one? I stayed in a relationship way longer than I should have because I liked his dog more than him. That's terrible. So can I just say a lot of men, I've talked to you about this, Susan, they have dogs and their dogs come before me, which is like I'm out the door. I don't think, could you stay in a relationship where you liked.

Because I like the dog. Well, or their daughter or something. You know, you like the kid or the. How about I told my friends and family we broke up mutually when I was very. very much dumped. I think a lot of people do that. Yeah, to save yourself. I mean, I think a lot of people, I, I, I, I, you know, in our, in my middle year now, it's usually

not me. I'd be like, put me, it's something very dumped my ass. I think people, I think people, um, in the younger day, wait, younger people are not worried about it. They're going to say he dumped me. I do. I think for the most part. Yeah, of course you do.

I found out my boyfriend was cheating from his VEMO transactions with a girl. Huh. You know, you know. What do you say to that? I can tell you what I say from that. She was in his phone. She was in his phone. Yes, she was.

So, so to that young lady, I would say. No, sometimes VEMO. No, no, no, no. She didn't have to be on his phone. demo shows unless you hit private. I see all kinds of people who pay in people. Oh, okay. I know that for a fact.

That's true. All right. How about this one? I Google this one, see. But wait, no, I want to know. What would you do with that? If you saw that he was the same girl over and over that, but wait, why would he be given her money?

You know what I would do. I would ask him. Hey, I saw 84 transactions for 1095. You know, it was it a cheap date or, you know, I would ask him what is going on? But why would he be Venmo? And why would he be Venmoing? It may, you know what? It might be completely innocent.

It might be. She says I found out he was cheating through. No, no, no. She's saying because he's sending money. So she's talking. I think this person from. Instagram cheating means he's having contact with the girl. It might be his barber, might be a female.

It might be a dog walker. You know, who knows? But I would ask. You ask me, I would ask. All right. This happened. This I've known a lot of people. I stayed with someone because we'd already booked a trip together.

Yeah. I think I've done that. I've actually known people who did that, who booked a trip together. Even though in your heart, it was over. Yeah. So, God, that would be a lousy trip. Okay. Go ahead.

You have one? Yeah, yeah. I once broke up with someone and then immediately hooked up with their friend. No. Well, that's, that's bad code. you know, that's just not, yeah. I don't think I would be doing that. I'm kind of speechless on that one.

Yeah. I mean, you know what, that gets down to talking about what kind of integrity you have. You know, that's just bad code. What about I told someone I love them back at a pure panic, even though I wasn't in love yet. I think that happens a lot too. I have to like put on the spot or something. I mean, I feel like I think so.

I don't know. How can I answer? I think that sometimes maybe people are afraid of losing the person before they know whether they want them in their life or not. So they say I'm in love. I don't know. I haven't done it. But I feel sorry for people who get themselves in these fixes.

It's hard to get out of. How about this one? I googled I might have been guilty of this a few times. I googled my date so deeply that I knew his cousin's wedding location before we met and accidentally let it slip on the date. I've never done that. But I have Googled my dates pretty much. Oh, yes, you have. And found out some very interesting things I might answer.

Oh, God. Wait, have you ever done that? Have you ever done that? Google to date. I think I've asked you to Google somebody before. Wait, I have to tell you, I have a friend. I'm going to be very, very secretive here. I have a friend who has access.

Oh, maybe I shouldn't say this. Never mind. Nobody will. Let's just say I have access. Okay. I broke up with someone via text and then ran into them 20 minutes later. that sucks um let me think uh let me think uh let me think that just sucks you broke up with them via text okay then you run into them you're like

you know what that is that's the dating god's saying you should never break up over text that's what that's saying don't break up over text do it in person and then when you bump into them you can say you know can we just be friends okay wait let's be can you make up from that wait i want to make up one that would be so crazy i'm going to do that i'm going to come up with one i can't do it right now but i am definitely going to come up with one that i would have put on my instagram and see your best one ever was on your show kathy when you said i once slept with another man while my husband was sleeping i didn't say husband i said partner anyway yeah that was that was one of my father moment All right.

All right. Well, that was a lot of fun. And thank you so much to all our listeners. We hope you enjoyed it and got a kick out of it like you. You know, I would love. I'm sure. We got to go. We got to go.

But I would love to just sit on Instagram and find out some more embarrassing moments for people. No, seriously, though, to all our listeners and a lot of you write me and I do appreciate it. I want to know what you think about the woman whose husband's daughter blows his phone up. Seriously, I need a people poll on this one. Let me just tell you something. This is going to be in Susan's mind. We're going to finish this podcast. She's going to call me and say, can you?

I already know where this is going. I told you everybody agrees. That's right. Well, in the meantime, be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out every week and you don't want to miss even one. Absolutely not. And make sure to listen to Bachelor Happy Hours. golden hour on the IHeart radio app or wherever you listen to your podcast. And until next time,

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