Bachelor Happy Hour - Nothing Is Better Than Something | Golden Hour

Episode Date: January 30, 2026

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re dedicating an entire episode to women and what they’re willing to put up with in romantic relationships. We have some juicy breakup stories and lots of questions that all have to do with settling for less than you deserve. So today, we’re giving you all the tough advice and revealing that sometimes nothing is better than a lackluster something. From breakup revenge to unsolicited advice, today’s stories surround one central theme: That man has to go! Tune in now to hear all the tea, advice, and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Tickets are on sale now. Get yours before they sell out at Ticketmaster.com. That's Ticketmaster.com. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thank you so much for joining us today, and we are so excited to be back. Susan, how are you today, you little Snow Bunny? How's it going? I'm telling you what?

I'm sore, Kathy. If that's not a workout, shoveling eight, nine, ten inches of, the snow. And it's a workout. And when it was coming down yesterday or Sunday, yes, it wasn't bad, but then it got coated with ice, sleet. So, so we're having a boulder of ice like throwing them across the road. My back is killing me. Sorry, get some vodka. You'll be fine. So I have to tell you, you know, I went to Lakeinta to visit a friend. Two things I have to tell you. One, And this whole country has pretty much had this storm. I'm stuck with my daughters because you know I live in the hills and it's all ice.

It's barely above freezing. You can't. There's cars in ditches everywhere because we don't have plows. We don't have salt except the highways. So you literally wait for it to melt. So I'm cooling my heels at my daughter's house. But I just have to tell you the funniest thing. So I went to visit this friend in La Kinta and he had great stuff playing.

and we did the tram in Palm Springs, beautiful views. We did just lots of fun things. One night, though, he took me to the Purple Room, which is in Palm Springs, and it's where the Rat Pack used to sing. And as soon as we walked in, he doesn't like it when people recognize me. He's just a friend, by the way, not a date. He doesn't like it. Well, as soon as I walked in, the host is almost dropped.

Then the Mater D drop, it was not good. They all were like, oh, my God, you're here. He was having a fit. was having a fit. So we sit down, we order dinner, they're sending over free appetizers, they send over free dessert, they're asking for pictures. So we sit, we drink, we get up to leave, and we get to the car, and I said to him, well, thank you so much for dinner. And he looks and he goes, you didn't pay? And I went, I didn't pay, you didn't pay? And he goes, I didn't pay. I said, are you serious? We walk back like four blocks to the restaurant. We walk in. The server says to me,

I've been looking for you. Oh, my God. I was like, I am so sorry. Like, can you imagine they've made this big to-do of us and then it looks like we're skipping out unpaid? Wait, can you imagine if you didn't thank him for dinner? Like, what is wrong with him? He should know to pay.

He just assumed you were paying. You know, I took him out for dinner once while I was there. I don't know. I don't know what he was thinking. But it was the funniest thing. I didn't pay. You didn't pay. And we'd get back of the other.

Could not stop laughing. Susan could not stop laughing. I thought you were going to do. tell me they comp the whole thing because they were sending it appetizers and well they were going to have to comp it but i mean they had sent over during i mean they did more than their fair share but anyway i had to tell that i was i was dying laughing the whole way i'm all right so today kathy we're going to have a little fun we recently did an episode where we asked each other what's something you're tired of seeing women put up with in relationships well today we're dedicated to

an entire episode to that concept. Remember saying that? Like, we could talk all day about this. I was going to say, it's not just, it's not just one thing. I mean, women put up with a lot. I think men sometimes do, too, but I think women put up with more. Do you agree? I do agree. But I feel as if as we age, we put up with less. Oh, that is for damn sure. It's not just with men, with anybody. Really? All right, let's get started. We're going to get started with the question of the day. I can hardly wait for this episode. I'm going to start us off. Okay. Why do you think women put up with such terrible male partners in relationships? And have you noticed a difference in women today versus when you were growing up or does this seem to transcend generations? All right, what do you think? I noticed a huge difference. Huge. Because we came from our parents, right? Yeah. Our parents were, you know, I don't dare say this, but I'm going to. Like the mom, most moms didn't work.

They were home, raising the kids, cleaning the house, doing all the chores, cooking all the meals, you know, taking care of everybody. And then our generation, we were taught to be our own person, make our own money. And now I look at my son and his wife, I think I've mentioned this before. it might have been on that episode, that he does his own laundry. I was like, so I think you've hit on, the second part of this question is what we're talking about right now. And that is the change.

The change. And that is because women, more women have careers. And so they're not staying home doing everything. The chores are split more evenly, the grocery shopping, the cooking, the child care. I know in my daughter and my son, who. both have children, they split it with their spouses. They do. They split the, they do their own laundries. They do cooking together. Right. They do. I agree. I don't think, um, I saw, I think that is the biggest difference. Um, but why, I love the first part of this question. Because I think women,

I put up with terrible male partners in relationships because they're afraid that's all they can cat. That's right. They don't have the confidence. They found one and you're going to have to take all the bad that comes with him because he supposedly loves you. Right. But I feel like he didn't have the proper training. Well, or that's just who he is. I don't know about you. And I've said this before. I would rather be alone than have a terrible partner. There's just, I would. And what is your definition of, like where's your line? First of all, anybody abusive that just goes without saying. Well, again, at my age, it's going to look very different.

I am not going to date a man who is not a gentleman, who is not opening the doors for me, who's not going to share my life, who's not financially stable, all those things. I'm not doing it. I'd rather be alone. Now, a terrible male partner, like you just said, that's a loaded word. If he's abusive, that's beyond, exactly, that's beyond terrible. But I have known, we had this a long time ago, Susan, do you remember it was a young woman who was living with her partner and he earns way more than she does and he kept asking her pay half? Remember that?

That would be a terrible male partner. expecting her to contribute half when he sets the standard of living and she can't afford it. I think that's a terrible male partner. I think a terrible male partner with the internet, I think a lot of guys are checking out what else is on the internet and girls are checking their phones. Because they, you know, I don't know. Why do you think they put up with it? I think a terrible partner is somebody that doesn't want to pitch in and the household duties, taking out the trash, cutting the law. lawn like when they don't want to be involved like that's a no-go and then sloppy people you know how

I am yes but you're saying like men should take out the trout you're doing your you're defining male roles no I take out the trash when my husband was alive I want him if I've got a partner and you're younger change the diapers do the dishes go grocery shopping what clean the toilet you know it's not it's not sexist I'm talking about I'm talking about I'm talking about terrible male partner who it doesn't treat a woman with respect who's shopping on the internet for another partner and for some oddball reason they stick around and you're shopping on the internet that's a new word we didn't even say they're married a male partner they don't even have to be married but why are you sticking around that would be my question and i don't know

but i think it's women have a lack of self-confidence i know i hear from a lot of women you know he's not great but have you looked to see what else is out there so i might as well stick with this oh i think it's really sad i mean there's there's got to be a line where there's only so much you can deal with like you said a man that is not polite or is rude to anybody whether it's your server in a restaurant or anything that's just i would never tolerate it never you know what it's it's embarrassing to you like you didn't even do anything and if you're with you somebody that's rude. Yeah. I think I think everyone's got a different idea of what a terrible male partner is. I think you hit it on the head at the beginning of this question. You and I

put up with a lot less at our age. Than our parents. Right. Yeah. And then young we do that and we also put up with a lot less than younger people do. Young kids. Yeah. I mean they don't have to. So, you know, good for them. In the middle of the night, Sasquia awoke in a haze. Her husband, Mike, was on his laptop. What was on his screen would change Saskia's life forever. I said, I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing. And immediately, the mask came off.

You're supposed to be safe. That's your home. That's your husband. to keep this secret for so many years. He's like a seasoned pro. This is a story about the end of a marriage, but it's also the story of one woman who was done living in the dark.

You're a dangerous person who prays on vulnerable and trusting people. Your creditor might go up and good. Listen to Betrayal Season 5 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. New year, new goals, and in this economy, a better money plan is more necessary than ever. I am Matt and I'm Joel.

We are from the How to Money podcast and every week we help you to spend smarter, save more, and make sense of what's going on out there. If you want 2026 to be the year you finally feel in control of your money, we're here to give you the tools and advice to help you make it happen. Listen to How to Money on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What if mind control is real? If you could control the behavior of anybody around you, what kind of life would you have? Can you hypnotically persuade someone to buy a car?

When you look at your car, you're going to become overwhelmed with such good feelings. Can you hypnotize someone into sleeping with you? I gave her some suggestions to be sexually aroused. Can you get someone to join your cult? NLP was used on me to access my subconscious. NLP, aka neurolinguistic programming, is a blend of Hypnosis, linguistics, and psychology. Fans say it's like finally getting a user manual for your brain.

It's about engineering consciousness. Mind Games is the story of NLP. It's crazy cast of disciples and the fake doctor who invented it at a new age commune and sold it to guys in suits. He stood trial for murder and got acquitted. The biggest mind game of all, NLP might actually work. This is wild. Listen to Mind Games on the I-Heart World.

radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. As we head into 2026, it's safe to say that 2025 was a year like no other. So much news, so much disruption. And yes, so much division. That's why we're wrapping up this season of next question with a look back at everything that's happened. Things are coming at us with such a velocity. We thought it was important to take a moment, connect the dots, and explore what it all

means. We're summing up the first year of Trump's second term with David Graham on Project 2025 and how many of the goals have been implemented. Richard Haas on foreign policy and the changing world order. Jessica Valenti on reproductive rights and the terrifying consequences of abortion bans. Tina Brown on the year's scandals here and across the pond. The president has upended everything from pardons to the press, so we're covering it all. all. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather. It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

In 1995, my neighbor and a trainer disappeared from a commune. It was hard to wrap your head around. It was nature and trees and praying and drugs. So no, I am not your guru. And back then, I lied to my parents, I lied to police, I lied to everybody. There were years right where I could not say your name. I've decided to go back to my hometown in Northern California, interview my friends, family, talk to police, journalists, whomever I can to try to find out what actually happened.

Isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies in the woods and not the obvious boyfriend? They have had this case for 30 years. I'll teach you sons of a bit to come around. You're in my wife. Boom, boom. This is The Red Weather. Listen to the Red Weather on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Now it's time to answer some of our fan questions, which we love doing. You ready? I'm going to start us off. Okay. This one is from Anonymous. Hi, ladies. I need your help. My best friend told me something concerning about her boyfriend.

And I need to know if I... I was in the wrong. For context, my bestie has been with her boyfriend for almost eight years, and they lived together. Over brunch this past weekend, she told me that she was using his laptop to look something up. Not uncommon. He's very open, and his devices, and she bars his computer all the time. Okay. Well, he left up his chat GPT conversation that started with the search, oh God, how to break up with your long-term girlfriend, along with a pros and con list he had chat GPT make about her. I told her to dump him because, sorry to say, but, duh, but she's refusing to. She hasn't even brought it up to him yet.

Now she's kind of icing me out. Did I do something wrong? I wouldn't have been so brash about it if I realized she was staying. But by the way she was talking about it, I just kind of assumed, as I think anybody would. I was supportive in the conversation, but couldn't hide how horrific that was. They're still together, despite her finding this stuff over three months ago, what should I do now? First of all. Yeah, go.

First of all. What is wrong with that girl that she's not going to bring it up? You mean the girlfriend? Yes. Okay, two things here. Number one. So again, Susan, as always, we don't have all the information we need. But if I believe...

That was enough. Well, did he... She's on his computer and chats and do you think... Do you think perhaps he left chat GBT open? On purpose? On purpose. However, the one question that is missing here is, anonymous, I did not hear your friend ask you for your opinion. And God knows who's, you know, I'm guilty of this all the time. She didn't ask you anonymous. She brought it up at brunch. She told her what happened. But she did. If you're a girlfriend, if I'm sitting there with you, especially, that's a wrong example. If you're sitting there with me and you tell me this. Did I not tell you?

But didn't I not tell you? I've learned in 2026. And have I not done better with you? I don't give you my opinion unless you ask. Have I not done better? I wouldn't go that far, but okay. I'm getting better. And so I don't think she asked.

I think she just, I mean, I think it's deplorable. But you know what? Somebody said that to you? Are you just going to sit there with your mouth closed and not respond? In 2026, I'm going to go, oh, that really sucks. That's really sucks. If that happened to you, I'd say, God, Susan. That sucks. Gee, do you think maybe he left it open on purpose so you'd find it? But I'm not going to say to you, dump his ass.

Uh-uh. Yeah. Old Kathy would have. So here's the deal. She's she wants, wait, it begs back to our question of the day. Why? What will you tolerate? What will you tolerate? In my mind, I don't really think that he's looking it up for his friend. You know, he's looking it up for him. how to break up with a long-time girlfriend. It's on his computer. He probably hopes you would find it. But you know what? Maybe he's cheating on or maybe he isn't. Again, why is this girl not asking him? Addressing him.

She doesn't want to know. Something to her is better than nothing. Would you be happy living with that information? As the girlfriend or me? Yeah, as the girlfriend. No, as the person in the relationship. Yeah, that's right. Anonymous.

First of all, anonymous, I don't think. you did anything wrong, you just gave your opinion? Yeah, well, here's the thing. The girl, the girlfriend clearly has an issue around self-esteem. She's afraid to be alone. She's figuring something's better than nothing. Exactly what we talked about in the question of the day. For me, if I saw that and you, I would say, hey, you know what? If you left your computer open, you know I use your computer. Is there something you want to tell? me and he goes, what are you talking about? I'd point to the computer. But you know what? She wants, it's what I just said to you. Something to her is better than nothing. I'd rather have nothing

than a guy who doesn't want me. I would feel like an idiot. Like staying. I would feel stupid staying because obviously you're trying to break up with me. Let's have a conversation. Do you want this to end? Okay, then. Wait a minute. Maybe she doesn't have the money. Maybe he's helping to support her. Maybe he takes her on nice trips. Maybe he pays for the groceries. Maybe he bought her a pretty bracelet. She's hoping for something better for Valentine's Day. Who knows what she, you know, who knows?

And the pros and cons. Maybe she should have listed her pros and cons about him and left that up on the computer. Exactly. Here's what I would say, anonymous. What you should do nothing is absolutely nothing. Sorry, what you should do now. Tell her you're sorry. You shouldn't have given your opinion.

and move on in the friendship as best you can. She knows. She knows. Tell her you love her. You're her friend and you're here to listen. Yeah. And you hope things work out for them. That's all you can do anything now.

You can't fix this. It's not you. Yeah. I mean, she couldn't fix it to begin with. But I just want to reiterate, I believe that that girl, the girlfriend, that Anonymous is talking about, epitomizes the question of the day. she's willing to put up with a creep who probably has something else cooking in the kitchen because for whatever reason.

And I wonder why she's icing her out. Because she doesn't want to hear the truth. She doesn't want to hear the truth. She doesn't want to hear it. She knows. We all know in our heart of heart, Susan. We all know the truth. We just don't want to hear it sometimes.

Yeah, sometimes. It takes us a minute. Okay, let's move on. All right. Thank you for writing in and good luck for her. Yeah, good luck, Anonymous. I hope your friendship survives this. Okay, question number two is also from an anonymous person.

Hi, ladies, I need to know if you think I went too far in some breakup revenge. I was dating my now-ex for two years. A few weeks ago, he got arrested and put in jail because his RA found some substances in his bedroom and called campus security. For anybody who doesn't know what an RA is, it's a resident-advarm. and they're like the ones in charge of the dorms. Okay, my parents helped me post his bail. I got him out, helped him get connected with a lawyer, and I'm in the process of helping him get it off his record.

Well, last night I was over at his place to make dinner while he was at the gym. I was using his iPad for a recipe I needed when I saw a text come in. It was from the girl I caught him cheating on me with last semester, and it said, let me know when I'm in the clear to come over. So naturally, I took all of his clothes out of his drawers, brought them to one of the campus fountains. Wait, naturally she did this? Naturally. Brought them to one of the campus fountains with my best friend and set them all on fire safely.

I also called it my parents' lawyer he was using and told him his services were no longer needed. And I maybe also called his parents and told them everything that was going on. I'm sure he's pissed off, but I wouldn't know because I blocked him. Some of our mutual friends have blocked me on social media because they think I went too far. What do you think? L.O.L. Love you guys. Susan's got her mouth gaping wide open.

I'm going to let you take a shot at this one. What do you think she go too far? Girlfriend, I think you were right, man. Now my mouth is gaping open. Why? You think she did the right thing? The sneaky woman wanted to come in. Let me know when the coast is clear when she's not there.

Wait, whoa. Wait a minute. you think Anonymous did the right. Burning his clothes is better beating them with a bat. Oh my God, Susan. Just when I thought you and I were on the same page for life,

Anonymous. Kathy over here thinks a few weeks ago he got arrested. He had weed or whatever he had in his bedroom. The parents, her parents, got him out of jail,

put up bail. No, that's a hard no. I got him out, helped him get connected with the lawyer. That's a hard no. He could figure out his own life. Then you were over at his place. Oh, and you're also, you are also in the process of helping to get it off his record. Let him worry about that too. Then now you're over at his house cooking him dinner. You, my friend, Anonymous, I'm sure if I met you, I would love you, but you are so needy. You need a bad boy. And you, instead of letting him face his own music, get himself out of jail,

his own bail and figure out his own damn life, you're over there. Some people, Kathy, do help the people they love. They do. Some people are fixers and try to do everything. I would do the same thing. I totally get what she's doing, what she did. He can get his own lawyer. If she can get a lawyer, he can get a lawyer.

Her parents posted bail for him? Let the boyfriend's parents post bailiff. He didn't want his parents to know, obviously. Well, and that's why she is putting up with a boyfriend. that I would never ever. Well, she didn't know she was putting up with anything until this. Oh, no, no. She called his parents.

So she knew he didn't want his parents to know. So she had, it's called. What is it called when you help someone out? I can't think of the word. Enabling. And thank you. That would be the word, Susan. Enabling.

Thank you so much. But I don't think this was enabling because they were in a relationship. It is enabling. He needs to figure out his own problems. Get your parents. But if she had parents that knew somebody, like it's just easier. No, no, no. It's making excuses that way.

But go on, go on. So what else? And I would never have done any of that. And then. You wouldn't have burned his clothes. And you know why? And you know why she knew it was wrong? I would have wrote the girl back.

And you know what? You know why she knew? You know why? Listen to you. And I would answer the door. See, you and I are so different. I, if I saw that on the podcast, I mean on the podcast, on his. computer, iPad, whatever.

I would take his clothes. I'm sorry, I would take myself out of the house. I would walk home. I would block him. And I would never speak to him again. It would be. That's it. No conversation.

Oh, God. Well, there might be a conversation. I would say, hey, I saw that you wanted a girlfriend. So we're over. Burning his clothes in a fountain, it's juvenile anonymous. It is juvenile. Well, that made her feel good. You seriously see nothing wrong with that?

No, I think it's funny. Okay. A woman's scoring, man, don't cheat on me. Asshole, after all the things I did for you, fuck you. Sorry. Nope. Nope, nope, nope, nope. And I'm glad she called her parents.

Let them know. Now you could take care of them. They should have been caring for their son the whole time. They're in college. But they didn't know because he didn't want Mommy and Daddy to know. And obviously, she played along. She played along with it. It never comes to any good.

I'm sorry. Those situations never come to any good. And I'm sorry, Anonymous, but you know what? Grow up. I'm going to tell you, grow up. She just wanted to know our opinion of what we thought. I said if you went, you didn't go too far. You went so far over the cliff anonymous that you're going to be on hand gliding for 20 hours to get to ground.

You went way to. But Susan here is like giving you a. Bravo. That made you feel better. Go for it. It's all over now. Move on. Yeah, that's the other thing.

Keep him blocked. Move on. Breakup revenge should not even be a thing, by the way. Is it a thing for you, Susan? Breakup revenge? No, I don't do revenge. I told you now. I'm friends with everybody.

I right. So you would never... So I don't understand, we've got to move on. But I truly don't understand why you're applauding her burning his clothes. You would never do that. Because he was cheating, cats. Have you ever had someone cheat on you? Only when I was very, very, very young. And these people are very, very young. They're in college.

I don't know. I'm sorry. I just, I don't see it. I think it's funny burning his clothes. I know that would torture me. All right. We're going to do rapid fire advice. Yeah, okay. We're going to, I just have to tell you, I may never call. That question is going to go. Next time someone says to me, what is the biggest question that you and Susan disagreed on? That one's going to be framed in my office.

Burning somebody's close. Burning somebody's close. It's okay. But no, seriously, one more thing. I definitely would have coaxed that text that was coming in said, come now, sweetheart. Oh, dear, yes. And we'd both be sitting there when he walked in.

That would give me more pleasure than burning clothes. What are you going to do now? Dumb-Dum. But see, I just, that takes so much effort, Susan. I wouldn't want to put the effort into that. I'd rather go run. What effort is that? You're responding.

Yeah, come now. And then sitting and making him deal with it. I just walk out. Take my self-respect and walk out the door. In the middle of the night, Sasquia awoke in a haze. Her husband, Mike, was on his laptop. What was on his screen would change Saskia's life forever. I said, I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing.

And immediately, the mask came off. You're supposed to be safe. That's your home. That's your husband. So keep this secret for so many years. He's like a seasoned pro. This is a story about the end of a marriage. But it's also the story of one woman who will be.

is done living in the dark. You're a dangerous person who prays on vulnerable and trusting people. Your creditor might go up and good. Listen to Betrayal Season 5 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. New Year, new goals,

and in this economy, a better money plan is more necessary than ever. I am Matt. And I'm Joel. We are from the How to Money podcast, and every week we help you to spend smarter, save more, and make sense of what's going on out If you want 2026 to be the year you finally feel in control of your money, we're here to give you the tools and advice to help you make it happen.

Listen to how to money on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What if mind control is real? If you could control the behavior of anybody around you, what kind of life would you have? Can you hypnotically persuade someone to buy a car? When you look at your car, you're going to become overwhelmed with such good feelings. Can you hypnotize someone into sleeping with you? gave her some suggestions to be sexually aroused. Can you get someone to join your cult?

NLP was used on me to access my subconscious. NLP, aka neurolinguistic programming, is a blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and psychology. Fans say it's like finally getting a user manual for your brain. It's about engineering consciousness. Mind games is the story of NLP. It's crazy cast of disciples, and the fake doctor who invented it at a new age commune,

and sold it to guys in suits. He stood trial for murder and got acquitted. The biggest mind game of all, NLP, might actually work. This is wild. Listen to Mind Games on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. As we head into 2026, it's safe to say that 2025 was a year like no other. So much news, so much disruption. And yes, so much division.

That's why we're wrapping up this season of next question with a look back at everything that's happened. Things are coming at us with such a velocity. We thought it was important to take a moment, connect the dots, and explore what it all means. We're summing up the first year of Trump's second term with David Graham on Project 2025 and how many of the goals have been implemented. Richard Haas on foreign policy and the changing world order. Jessica Valenti on reproductive rights and the terrifying consequences of abortion bans. Tina Brown on the year's scandals here and across the pond.

The president has upended everything from pardons to the press, so we're covering it all. Listen to next question with me, Katie Couric, on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather. It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea. In 1995, my neighbor and a trainer disappeared from a commune. It was hard to wrap your head around. It was nature and trees and praying and drugs. So no, I am not your guru.

And back then, I lied to my parents. I lied to police. I lied to everybody. There were years right where I could not say your name. I've decided to go back to my hometown in Northern California, to interview my friends, family, talk to police, journalists, whomever I can to try to find out what actually happened. Isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies in the woods and not the obvious boyfriend? They have had this case for 30 years. I'll teach you sons of

to be around her in my wife. Boom, boom. This is The Red Weather. Listen to the Red Weather on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. We are going to end off on a little segment called Rapid Fire Advice. Susan's answer to all these are, burn your clothes. Okay. We'll switch off reading the prompts and we'll give each, excuse me, we will each give the first piece of advice that comes to mind. I'll start us off. Here we go. Your best friend tells you her boyfriend has screenshots of your Instagram saved on his phone. What do you say? Your best friend tells you her boyfriend. Susan, let me make this simple. Frederique. I tell you that

Frederique has screenshots of me on his Instagram saved on his phone not on his Instagram pictures of me saved on his phone what are you going to say oh

I mean you're my friend I don't care all right you don't care I didn't look at it like it was a bad thing I mean I think if it was a picture

of me from the beach or something we were there fine but if if you see on Frederic's phone a bunch of pictures of some other girl saved onto his phone? Screenshots.

Screenshots, not my Instagram pulled up, that he's got screenshots from my Instagram, and he's got him saved on his phone. You don't think that's a little weird? Yeah, it's probably a little weird. I don't know. That one didn't get me that bad. I'd lose him, too.

I'm telling you, my thing to you is lose these men, and I wonder why I'm not dating. All right, go ahead. All right, here's one. Your friend just found out, the guy she's dating still Venmo's his ex for coffee advice. No, still... For coffee advice?

No, still Venmo's his ex for coffee. For coffee. Meaning they go out for coffee together. My advice lose... My advice is lose the guy. If he's dating somebody else and having coffee with his ex... She's not his ex friend. offload him. But see, I think differently because Dickie and I will go have a cup of coffee.

That's different, Susan. You were married and you don't hide that from Frederique. That's not what I'm... Of course not. Well, your friend just found out. They just found out. I don't know. I don't get it. Wait a minute. Is he just given money so she could have coffee? I don't care. That's just weird. It's weird. Again, offload him. An ex, whether he's buying her, coffee giving her money for coffee or or the the Venmo that says for coffee is really for sex and he just writes this for coffee I don't care any guy that's dealing with his ex I'm not interested in goodbye okay all right here's the next one take the next one your friend says her partner doesn't believe in labels after six months what do you tell her oh that's the same for you

You know what I tell her? Nothing. She didn't ask me. I don't care. What did we care? You don't want a label? I don't put a label on it. I don't care.

Put a label on it. Who cares? That means I'm free. I mean, I tell her they've, yeah. If you don't want to, they don't want a label, you don't want a label. Your friend's boyfriend liked her best friend's bikini picture from 2018 at 2 AM. What's your take? Why the hell did you know he was up at 2 a.m?

looking at her picture. You're going through his phone. That's my advice. Stop going through his phone. People that go in and see who likes what, don't you have a life? It all goes back to the question of the day. These women do not trust themselves. They don't have enough self-confidence. Why would you stick with a guy who's up at 2 a.m.? Why are you checking his phone? You're checking his phone because you don't trust him. Your best friend's bikini pick from 2-8. She's not checking his phone. She saw this, I guess, online. Your friend's boyfriend liked her best friend's bikini picture from 2018, and he liked it at 2 a.m. So he saw that. Who cares?

I don't care if you liked it at high noon. Why is, what's your take? My take is why is he liking if you just don't mess around with exes? You don't like their pictures. You delete them from your phone. It's her best friend. Again. Your boyfriends, your friend's boyfriend.

Can I just say what this episode is proving? I'm single forever. I swear. I'm single forever. All right. Your friend found a hidden folder. Here we go on her partner's phone. Again, going through the phone.

Your friend found a hidden folder on her partner's phone labeled receipts with screenshots of text from her. What do you tell her to do? friend with screenshots it's listen these are all these are all variations on a theme it's a friend there's three people involved here usually a partner the partner's partner and a third person so your friend found a hidden folder on her label receipts label receipts with screenshots of text from her not from the girlfriend or the other from her again number what do you tell you Tell her to do?

Get off his phone and dump him to the curb. Yeah. There you go. I mean, it's just, it's all the same. Because if you're in a non-trusting relationship, nothing is going to be good. If you have to go spy, I know curiosity sometimes takes over, but it's just stupid.

Is it curiosity or is it what you just said if you don't have trust? I think you were right the first time. It's a non-trust, yeah. It's non-trust. And that's why these relationships don't work. because, you know, if it smells like fire, looks like a dog, whatever those expressions are. It's going to burn. It's going to burn.

All right. Go ahead. Okay. Your friend says her situation, situation ship introduced her as my friend at a party. That's happened. What? And it feels awkward. You're in a situation ship?

you're with a guy that you think you're dating. I mean, yours are a thing. And he says at a party and introduced you as my friend. Well, they are friends. Yeah. I've said that. And I've been called on it too. Well, you know, again, here we back to labels.

My advice is if you don't like being labeled a friend, then figure out what the situation of the situation ship is. All right. Your friend's partner says they don't post her because they're private, but they post everything else. What do you say? I've actually had this, friends that have had this happen to.

Your friend's partner says they don't post her. In other words, you're getting confused with the pronouns. The partner doesn't post pictures of the person because, he says their relationship is private, but that person posts everything else. What do you say? There's a reason. Why do you have me a secret? Yeah, there's a reason, girlfriend.

I'd be curious. They, him, he, whatever. However, if you label yourself, there's a reason. I would ask why. Ask why. And you know what? The running theme of today is you might want to be considering, do you want to stay in the situation of this situation where your partner may not be your holy partner.

Holy smokes. Good luck with that. Okay, your friend caught her boyfriend deleting text as she walked into the room. What's your advice? I know what Susan. I know what you're going to say. You know what? They're not deleted.

They're there for 30 freaking days. Go look. Pull it up, bitch. Let me see what you're having. I knew you were going to say that. Susan's going to say go to those three dots and undo delete messages. I'm going to say let it go because if your partner is cheating on you, you're going to find it out for sure. He might be, I delete text all the time.

I do too. So it's, you know, not everything is somebody cheating on you. Really. You know, if you, if you. I know. He's just deleting crap maybe. Yeah. I mean, if you're buying your ex, vener in your ex for coffee, that might be your vener for, you know, sexual favors.

But if they're deleting text, wait, wait. for a little more proof. Just, you know, wait for a little more. All right. Jeez. All right. Your friend says her partner follows 300 thirst trap. Oh, 300 plus thirst traps, but never compliments her. What do you say? Do you know what a thirst trap is? Okay. So a thirst trap, I'd look it up. It's something on social media, it's a social media post intended to entice viewers sexually. Okay? So her partner. Your friend says her partner. So he's looking at sexual post that invites sexual.

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. What do you say? That's like the guy that likes to go to the strip club, but maybe that's what turns them on. But if he's not hiding it, I guess it's okay. I don't know.

He never compliments her, but he's, but he's, he follows 300. That means he's got thirst traps all over his Instagram, all over his phone, but he's, but does he compliment them or he's just following them? I don't care. He never compliments her. Again, Susan. What do I say? Call him on it. You know what I say? You're going to put yourself down now?

Why are you going to ask a man that if he isn't treating? So you rather cut and dry, no explanation, you just leave the scene where I want to talk about it. Well, because that's exactly what I said for the last question. This, your partner friend is giving you other hints. He's not just following 300 thirst traps. If that's all he's doing, so he's got a fetish, whatever. Yeah, that's what I mean. But if he's never complimenting you, he might be taking it to another level.

Look at the relationship. Just because you're following doesn't mean he's complimenting them. He's just not a complimentary guy. It's intended to entice them. If he's following them, he's reading them, he's looking at them. He might well be interacting with them. I mean, I would show him the door, but that's just me. I mean, I keep saying the same thing to you.

Okay, your friend is considering moving in with someone she's never argued with. Advice? I think they're going to, you know what? Move in, you're going to have your first argument very soon after. Okay, so what did you think about this game? You know, honestly, this whole episode, I've repeated myself 26 times, so I'm going to say one more time. I think this whole episode is about not necessarily women, but I think, unfortunately, it's more with women that men, having, not having the self-confidence. Instead, they try to make excuses.

They post-bail. They get lawyers. They try to get things taken off their records. They try to fix their fixers. Women need to stop being fixers. Take responsibility for yourself. and your own happiness and let your partner, if it's a guy, whatever. Don't deny yourself.

I mean, you're worth it. Believe that, that you are worth more than just respect or any of it. But, Susan, if you believe you're worth more, you have to take action, which is not putting up with disrespectful. No, I agree 100%. And I'm now depressed because I'm never going to have a date ever again, Susan. I mean, really. And that does it for today's episode.

Thank you so much to everyone that's listening. And I think you guys out there listening probably agree with us. Well, you agree with one of us for sure because we're on opposite ends. Listen, while you're working on your fabulous relationships and building up your own self-esteem, please be sure to keep sending us all your questions and comments. It's easy. Just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and submit away. We really want to hear with, we want to hear from you.

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. If you only listen to one thing to make sense of the news this year, make it this. The final episode of this season of Next Question pulls together the most important conversations of the year. You'll hear David Grub. on Project 2025, Liz Oyer on the plethora of presidential pardons, Tina Brown on the year's biggest scandals here at home and across the pond, plus much, much more. It's a crash course

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It was nature and trees and praying and drugs. So no, I am not your guru. Back then, I lied to everybody. They have had this case for 30 years. I'm going back to my hometown to uncover the truth. Listen to the Red Weather on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This show contains information subject to, but not limited to personal takes, rumors, not so accurate stats, and plenty more. What's up, man? This is your boy, Nav Green, from the Broken Play Podcast.

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