Bachelor Happy Hour - Overcoming Our Limitations | ‘Golden Hour’

Episode Date: August 2, 2024

“Golden Hour” is back with another round of Friday Fan Questions with Kathy and Susan! We kick off today’s episode by chatting about our favorite moments from Wednesday’s episode with Rachel Recchia.  Then, we get into our question of the day: Do you always have to date with the intention of marriage? And, of course, we dive into your questions! From friends in toxic relationships to the woes of trying to meet potential partners, we’re dishing on all of it. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We came back. I hope you did. Hi, Kathy. How are you doing, Susan? Listen, I don't know what to say. If people have not listened to our episode on Wednesday, they missed an amazing episode. They're all amazing episodes,

but you really need to check this one out. We had former... We're all getting surgery together. That's right. We had former bachelorette Rachel Rechia on with us, and it was so much fun. We learned so much about her. We think we've got some surgeries coming up.

I mean, I don't know. This girl, let's talk about this. Going back to work doesn't want a date, and she's gorgeous. How beautiful she is. And has no interesting. and dating and has been really sick with a kidney infection. I know.

How can you be that beautiful when you're that sick? Well, she's getting better. She was in the hospital for nine days. I'm sure she's still beautiful. If I were getting better and been in the hospital for nine days, trust me, I would not look like that. I mean, she is, I love her energy. She's energetic.

She's smart. She knows what she wants. She's going to teach us how to fly. I love it. Ed, that's right, Bachelor Nation, she is going to teach us how to fly, and then Susan and I are going to jump in tandem out of an airplane. It's going to happen.

Maybe. Do you love adventure? All right, let's do the topic of the day. Well, wait, aren't we going to answer some fan questions? Oh, yes, we can do that too. Because, you know, if people do have questions, and we hope you don't forget, all you have to do, if you have a question for Susan and May,

is send them in. And the way you send them in is go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour. Okay, Kathy. But before we get into those questions, now you're going to make me do it. Today's question of the day. All right, we can. All right, here it is. If you want to one day get married, should you always be dating with the intention of getting married? Oh, can I answer that? Sure. Absolutely not. Because you learn a lot about every person you meet and you don't want to marry every person you meet. That's how you find the right one. You know, you kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince. It's also scary if that's your intention. Like people freak out. You know what I mean? Sometimes men don't even have a thought about getting married, but they fall so deeply in love and you're the one. And he proposes great. But if you set out with that intention, I don't. You know, you bring up a, you bring up a good point, Susan. I think if you're dating, if one is dating each guy you meet, is this the one? Is this the one?

I know, right. You may not be a complete person yourself. You may need to do some work on yourself. I hadn't thought about that, that, but that's a really good point. I mean, I would be bummed out all the time. Do you, wait, do you do it now when you, seriously, when you did a guy, do you think, oh, is this guy I want to marry? I don't want to get, so to get married, but I don't. I'm just looking to have fun and adventure.

That's what everyone should be. This is somebody I'd like to hang out with for a while. That's, you know. But if you like the guy, then do you start thinking? And get to know them. I'm thinking about getting married. Okay. I'm putting you on the spot.

Would you get married again? I don't know. Is that I don't know or no? I'd never say never. I'd never say never because I change my mind too often. But I don't need to get married. But I would like to have a partner. my person in life. Yeah, I agree with that. I just, it concerns me. I've actually known women

who break up with guys because they'll say things like he's not marriage material. Yeah. And I'm like, oh yeah. And they were having such a great time. Yeah. A good relationship. Like, yeah. Why? I don't know. I don't get it. I don't get it. Okay. But we're not getting married tomorrow. So I guess we don't have to worry about it. Now we're getting boobs done. And jumping out of airplanes. Okay, here's our first one. You ready, Kathy? I'm ready. Hi, Susan and Kathy. My name is Preston. I'm 25 years old and I've recently moved to New York City for work. I've never been in a relationship before, but I'm ready to start dating. Unfortunately, dating has always been difficult for me. The people I'm interested in aren't interested in me and the people who are interested in me I'm not interested in.

I've been on dating apps before and I'm on them again now, but I'm not conventionally attracted. Wait a minute, but I'm not conventionally attractive. So dating apps don't really work for me. I don't get very many matches, which leads to even fewer dates. All this rejection really gets me down sometimes and makes me feel terrible about myself and my appearance. I thought moving to a big city like New York

would give me more opportunities but I've just been met with more of the same rejection as I've had in the past. How do you ladies deal with rejection? How do you not let it affect your confidence or your self-worth? Any words of encouragement would also be greatly appreciated. I love you ladies and the podcast.

I'm about to cry. Okay, wait, wait, Preston, first let me say to you, you're probably going about this the wrong way and by that i mean you should be doing things that you like in life and not seeking to find the one i think you're probably being too hard on yourself yeah but here's the thing first of all remember rachel when we were talking to her last episode last week she was saying she doesn't go on the dating apps on preston maybe dating apps aren't you. I don't care if you're conventionally handsome or not. If people don't look at your

personality and the way they're going to find your personality is not on a dating app because you're right. Dating apps are traditionally, historically, and will be in the future based on your looks at first. It's a swipe. The left to the right. It's about a picture. And some people don't even take good pictures. So he's more than a picture, right? So, Preston, you need to get out and join some clubs and get people to know what kind of person you are. I don't think you have a lot of self-confidence. Your question was, how do we deal with rejection? I deal with rejection by saying, and in all honesty, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I don't know why, but I'm not. And I move on. And I don't let it affect myself confidence

It's because I don't judge myself by what a man thinks of me. I don't. What about you, Susan? Very nice. Well, I want you to know that you would think a big city would have a lot more people. I think it's even harder in a big city. There's too many people and they're involved in their own worlds. They don't.

You're better off in the suburbs, but you're working in the city. But like Kathy said, just be you. It's your personality. I'm sure you have a lot of good in you. and you'd be a great man to date. But you maybe don't go on the dating sites. Or there are some that won't use pictures. It's more about personality traits.

And they match you that, right? You don't get to preview. Because when I preview, I did the same damn thing. You know, he was too short or he was too this. What have I said to you? I always say to you, I'm not going back on dating apps because of my age. Men swipe me by because of my age where I can outrun. as fit as any 60 year old you want to pick out, but that's just, that's life, Preston. So get yourself

out there, do some activities. And you know what? You're a great guy. I've never met you, but believe you're a great guy. Fake it till you make it. Just don't let, don't let the, you know, the, those people get you down. Believe in yourself. Act like you believe in yourself. And you know what? You're going to wake up and say, I'm having a good day. So don't, don't feel terrible about yourself, you're worth more than that. You've got to love yourself. Yes. Feel your confidence, whether it's going to the gym that makes you feel good or whatever it is, just do you for a minute and come back out. Do something that makes you feel good. Do something that makes you feel good and see what comes your way. Get to the gym. Join a boxing club. You know,

join a wine tasting club. Join a walking club. Do something because you'll meet people that have similar interests. And if Kathy and I are in New York, we'll look you up. And if Kathy and I are in New York, we'll look you up and we'll take you out on the tail. You'll feel great. Yeah, he can jump out of the airplane with us. All right. Well, good luck, Preston. Thank you for writing in. Thank you for writing in. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear.

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Listen, I am not here to judge. It is so expensive in these streets. I 100% can see how in just a few months you can have this much credit card debt when it weighs on you. It's really easy to just like stick your head in the sand. It's nice and dark in the sand. Even if it's scary, it's not going to go away just because you're avoiding it. And in fact, it may get even worse.

For more judgment-free money advice, listen to Brown Ambition on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Okay, here's the next one. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I've been a fan since day one. Well, thank you. That's great news. Thank you. I need advice regarding my best friend. We have been BFF since we were eight years old and are now in our 40s.

We were very present in each other's lives until about six years ago when she moved out of state with her military boyfriend. We still talk almost every day and we used to see each other multiple times a year until recently. These last two years, I was a caretaker for a family member and couldn't travel. Her relationship with the military man has always been toxic, and I've never really liked him and voiced my opinion, but I'm supportive nonetheless. They constantly break up and he'll leave their house and go stay with friends on base or something, leaving her there alone, no contact whatsoever, sometimes for weeks at a time. Every time it happens, she is devastated and heartbroken, but never fed up enough to leave him. This most recent breakup, however, has me alarmed. She's trying to cope by drinking every night, alone, all day, on the weekends.

I've told her that I'm worried and have pleaded with her to come here. They don't have any children and she doesn't have family to turn to. But my husband said she could stay with us as long as she needed or wanted. She won't come. She said she's fine, just heartbroken, and, quote, wants him to come. home unquote i haven't reached out to any of her friends out there because they're all military wives and she's mentioned before that they isolate her when she's not with him this has been going on for over a month now and i'm just beside myself i don't have any available vacation time from work

and cannot afford to fly out for a weekend to see her and she won't come here what do i do sorry this is so long but i've heard you ask for more details with previous questions so i tried to as much as I could. Thank you for reading this and for any advice you may have. Wow. And thank you for being so detailed. And you answered one of my questions because the first thought I had was get on out there. Go be with her. Look her in the eyes. And you're worth more than this. And now she's drinking. If that were me, what would you do? If you watch me go through this seriously. Well, I would be at your side in two seconds. I'd take a loan out and I'd be there for you. But clearly, you know, this is a different situation and they can't afford it. Here's the

thing that she's not going to want to hear in life and we have to accept it. Yes, I would be there for you, Susan, and I would talk to you and let you cry on my shoulder and do everything. But ultimately, I can't legislate what you do with your life. All I can do is be there and be supportive. And this person who wrote this question, really all you can do is be there for her. She may drink herself into oblivion for a while. And she's going to break down one day and just be able to pick up the pieces you can't. Or maybe not.

But the point is you, you can make suggestions, you know, tell her to get into a support group. Tell her to, you know, there's all kinds of things she could do. but the point is you can't make her take a step to leave him. It's unfortunate. She doesn't have children. You know, my husband was in the military, and I have to tell you, my husband was an officer in the Navy, and that officer's wise club, man, it's a clicky deal, and everybody knows what you're doing.

And so everyone knows what everyone else is doing. So, you know, it's probably a struggle for her to confide in them because it truly will be all over the base. So I think what can you do? Hopefully she's really down and out and she's going to see what she's doing to herself by all this drinking and feeling sorry for herself and wake up one day and say, you know what? You just said it, Susan.

You just said it. She has to wake up and say she does. You can't fix it. And I'm so sorry, I would be brokenhearted as well. However, you can go and put one of those, what is that fundraiser thing? put out online go fund me go fund me how much is the flight i could give it to you i'm serious go there talk some sense into this girl yeah but you know what i feel you though i have a lot of empathy and and that makes me sad because you're watching your best friend destroy herself right now i think that

she says she just wants it to come home she's probably lacking in self-esteem here we go you know that is an issue susan people need to think more of themselves I think that's an overriding theme in many of the questions, don't you? Definitely is. Definitely is. It took me a long time to believe in myself. So I know. I do think it's part of its age.

We wish you all the very best and stay there, be there for her whenever that day comes. Don't let that friendship go. Be there for her. Be there for her. She needs you. Okay. And thank you for listening to the podcast. Yes.

Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm a mom of two. My oldest is my daughter who is four years old. and my son is two years old. I grew up with an older brother who was essentially my parents' favorite. This put a huge stream on my relationship with my parents,

especially my mother. Their favoritism was so obvious. Both my brother and my grandma on my dad's side took notice. My mom loved being a boy mom and always showed much more interest in my brother's activities, et cetera, than she did mine.

now that I'm a mother, though I've worked through a lot of this in therapy, especially when my husband and I began talking about the potential of having kids. I'm still nervous about doing the same thing to my kids. Do you have any tips on how to monitor my behavior or ways in which I can make my kids feel equally as love? My husband and I have built a great line of communication in general. And when it comes to keeping an eye out on things, Like how we parent, he doesn't have a great relationship with his parents either. But I want to also be able to be a mindful parent. You know what?

My very first thought is you're on a win-win because you're aware. Everything that you just shared with us tells me you're not going to make that mistake. You love them both equally. I had days where I like this one better than that one because this one was being a pain in the butt. Yeah, I agree. I think you're right on the money, the fact that she's aware of it. In fact, I struggle with people, Susan, my parents were divorced. And when I hear people say, you know, I just don't know how to be a good parent because I didn't have a good role model.

I just want to jump down their throats. I came from a very abusive family, a mother. I was like out of mommy dearest. I mean, really an abusive mother. And I really tried to be a good mom. and my I wasn't perfect so but I was aware but I was aware of the horrible of bringing in the mistakes that my mom my mother made so you know I didn't do those with my kids so I think you're right I think the fact that she is aware of it is and her and her husband communicate real well

like you won't do it and I pray that you feel more confident in yourself you're going to have days that one's better than the other because they get under your skin. I will say something I did with my, yeah, I love them. But one of the things I did to make my, she says, how do I, do I have any tips on how to monitor my behavior or ways in which I can make my field kids equally loved, equally as loved? You know what I used to do with my kids? I would take them on special trips, just one of the three and take them like my, would take my daughter to see the nutcracker at Christmas or, and then.

out for lunch or whatever. I would do things, take my son to sporting events. You know, my, and doing that with my grandchildren. Yes. And I would do it with them. My kids would say, I know I'm your favorite. And I would smile and I would say, how do you know that? And every one of them would say that. I know. And you know what? That made me feel successful because I, each one of them just show them love. Yes. You're going to do fine. Take each one. Make each one. You don't have to do everything as a family. That's my advice. You take each one and do something special with that. and have your special time exactly thank you thanks for sharing that with us but i feel like you have this i really do yeah yeah i agree all right here's our next question hello ladies i love your podcast

and listen faithfully to each one you are so wise and also charming i think that was directed of me susan you are both so wise oh that's what it says sorry you are both so wise and also charming I am 38 and have a brother and two sisters, all of whom are married with families of their own. In the last three years, my youngest sister and her husband have become very possessive of my parents' time and possessions. They have a young child who spends several days a week at my parents' home while my sister and her husband are working. They have even gone so far as to have my mom sign a contract for this. It has made it difficult to ask for help when I, or when a child, my other siblings have needed it. They also push my parents regularly to put their land and

belongings into a trust and mention that they could be on the trust with them. This has caused a large gap to form and our once very close family now rarely speaks. We all used to get together every Sunday for dinner and now two of my sisters rarely come around. I worry about my parents and the stress this is all causing them and I miss the family dynamic we once had. I want us all to be close again. But is that possible when the gap is already formed? Thank you for reading. I wish you both all the best.

Oh, boy. Wow. And I know people. I mean, I'm going through it right now. I know people that share with me what they're going through. And unfortunately, I don't have good news because they don't talk. Their sisters don't talk. And the parents did pass.

And the youngest got everything. They went to court over it for several years. That is so painful. Yeah. But here's the thing. Have a conversation with your parents or that's going to put more stress. Here's the thing. The youngest sister, they, it appears, are the only ones who have a child.

She doesn't, this person doesn't say it, but I think they're obsessing over the grandchild in a good way because we all love our grandchildren. The fact that they've asked their parents to sign a contract to take care of the child, that's a little over the top. That is over the top. And that's very controlling on that younger sister's part. Have the conversation with your sister first. I mean, you could try it. And that's what's going to be my advice. Talk to your parents, if they're signing contracts, I don't know how old you guys.

Well, you're 38. so it says it's interesting this person says it's made it difficult to ask for help when i or one of my other siblings have needed it i'm going to turn the tables here i'd be more concerned about your parents who seem to be being strangulated if you will by i don't know how old they are if they're not thinking clearly or something but if that's the case then your younger sister's taking advantage of this situation that's what i'm saying i'd be worried more about your and not the help you need a 38-year-old. I'm more concerned about your parents.

So I think you can talk to your sister. I think you should talk to your sister. I think you can bring it up to your parents. But, you know, I'm going through it right now. I come from, I told you, Susan, a large family. There were seven of us. My stepsister passed away. So there's six of us.

And I and my brother are responsible for the estate because my mom also passed away last year. and let me tell you it is money is it's horrible it's just there's hateful things have been said and i think you got to try to be switzerland you know you got to try to find the soft spot if you want to regain a relationship uh but again i think this is more dealing with your siblings Maybe you could have, you know, a summit with your, not your parents, but the kids, the siblings and say, you know, I want to talk to you. And again, get all the siblings together, you're saying. Yeah.

But, you know, what Susan, how often do I say? You cannot change anyone else's behavior only yourself. So it may be a dead end. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. That's right. You know what? I wish you would a lot of luck. Yeah, it's hard.

Families are tough and, and, you know, you don't know why the parents are taking care of the grandkids all the time. But hopefully, hopefully you guys can rebuild a relationship. It is tough. Don't let it get too out of it. Like, the longer it goes, like you said, your other sisters don't even come now. The more space you put between you, the worse it's going to be. You're right. Just try.

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want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

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as part of the MyCultura podcast network on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Susan, we got to move on because it is now time for my favorite thing in our podcast. For all of you listening, Susan is learning the rules of the game called Moral Quandry. And I don't like it. And here's the problem. We're in school, and the teacher asks, Susan to say what the other person would think, but Susan wants to say what Susan thinks.

So we're going to give it a shot today and see how we're going to try. I'm going to try. Your friend is unemployed and really wants a job at your company, but you know they're not qualified. Do you recommend them anyway or tell them the truth about their chances? What do you think I would do? Tell them the truth about their chances. you're right but I would do it very kindly this actually has happened to me it's actually happened to me and I've had to say you know you you lighten it you don't say are you kidding me you want to

commit an accountant and you can't add two plus two I mean I don't do that but I will just I will I will I will soften it by saying you know it's a tough market out there I think you need to put your application several places I can't promise anything that's I would say and I'll say To be honest with you, I don't think that you're as qualified as you should be, but I'll, you know, do the best I can for you. Oh, so you would put the person up? Huh? I would tell them that I don't think their chances are very good, but I'll share and maybe tell the boss, they could be taught. Oh. No. I wouldn't. You know, you need to protect your own job. And if you recommend someone for a job who doesn't have the skills, set what's your boss going to think of you yeah no I mean that's a tough one wait I was about to tell the person it's not a person this is the game that's right I'm telling you folks Susan really

struggles with moral quandary and by the way you did again what you would do you didn't let me say just saying you did I said what you were going to say and then when I tried to say what you would do you jumped in your turn all right I got it half right again I got on Kathy move on All right. Here we go. Your rich friend that is a, yeah. Hello, Susan. Your rich friend that is a really bad tipper, that's not you. Okay. Hold on. Your rich friend that is a really bad tipper puts their card down for a group dinner that you'll all Venmo them for. While they're in the bathroom, the waitress returns with the card and receipts. Do you sign for them and leave an appropriate tip or do you wait for them to come back? and say something. What do you do? Wait a minute. They all put their cards in and they put the tip on it already.

You have to put the tip on it when you sign it, right? The person puts their card down. So you would put your card down and we're with eight other bachelorets and then you got to put the tip down on the deal, right? So then you would say, you all owe me. this much. The question is, do you sign for them because the person's in the bathroom and leave the appropriate tip? There she goes. I saw it. I caught myself. Good. You're learning. Do you sign for them and leave an appropriate tip or do you wait for them to come back and say something? I'm telling you,

you would never sign for them. You, I know what you would do. You'd reach in your purse. You'd get out extra money and you see how folks. You see how well I know. I think he would too. Or you would look and say, Susan, I've done it. You know what I do? Again, I don't try to make people feel badly. You know what I've done? I'll look at what the bill is. And then when everyone gets up, no, when everyone gets up and leaves, I'll say, oh, I forgot something.

And I'll go back and hand the guy 20 or 30 bucks and say, you did a great job. There's no point in embarrassing anybody else. You're not going to change those people who are cheap tippers. but I'm going to make sure my server is well taken care of. But you've missed the little part of me because I have a friend that does this and I call her on it. I do say, no, no, no, no. I won't say her name.

That's not enough. You need to tip her properly. So you do call him out. Yes, I do. So I think we've solved the dilemma of the bad tipper. Susan will tell the person they're a bad tipper. Kathy will secretly go back in and hand the guy 20 bucks. All right, here's the next one.

Okay, here we go. During a fit of really bad anxiety, you snoop through your partner's phone. As you start to calm down, you realize this is wrong and a huge breach of their privacy. And you put their phone down. Do you tell them what you did or keep it to yourself? What would I do? Keep it to yourself? Absolutely.

Yeah. You would keep it to yourself too. I'm not going to bury myself. That's a no-brainer. Move on. Yeah, move on. We're not even going to. All right, here you go.

You're at a close friend's wedding and see a guest wearing a completely white gown. Your close friend is the bride, and you can see she's visibly upset. Her bridal party and mother are busy comforting her. Do you confront the guests, ruin the guest's dress, or leave it alone? How do you ruin the guest's dress? Spill your red wine on it? Oh, gotcha. What would you do?

I'm going to tell you what you. I don't think you would say anything. And I'll tell you why you wouldn't, because what can she do about it? She can't go and change. What can either one of us do about it? That's what I'm saying. You can't change unless she's got another dress. However, I will tell you, do you remember at Teresa's, was it her final rose?

Do you remember I bought this? It was. Yes, the same dress, yeah. I don't know, here's, here's, but you didn't wear it. I didn't know she had it. I know. I had a white dress and sort of at the last minute I thought, you know, I probably shouldn't do this because theoretically, Teresa's going to get engaged, you know, at the end of the show, I shouldn't

wear a white dress. And so I didn't wear it. And I was sitting next to you, Susan, when she came out, do you remember me keeling over? Oh, my God. How embarrassing with that event. So, no, folks, if you're out there listening, there's a lot of colors. the rainbow. Pick one other than white to a wedding. Don't wear white to a wedding. Okay. Do we have time for one more? I don't know. Oh yeah. Sure we do. Okay. After working really hard to repair her relationship

with men, your best friend goes back to the worst ex she's ever dated. You've tried tireously to remind her how badly he treated her, but she's convinced he's changed. Do you distance yourself? Let it go and wait for the next blow up or keep trying to get her to see the problem with the situation. What would Kathy do? There you go, girlfriend. Kathy would never give up ever. She would continue riding me. If it was you, you're right.

If you're right. Best friend, I mean, that's, yeah, best friend. I don't want to see you suffer, Susan. and I don't want to see my friend suffer. I would, I got to be honest with you, I have a friend right now, and then we'll get to you. Literally, she is dating.

I won't say her name because she listens, but you've met her. And I love her to pieces. She is dating a narcissist. They broke up. I think this is the sixth one. I think six time. I think she's going to get clean now.

I said to her, it's like you're like an addict. The drug, he's a drug to you and she kind of knows it. But I will tell you, I care about her. And so I still talk to her. I still try to get her to see the, what would you do? Exactly the same thing. Yeah, you have to.

Although when you get to the point where you're telling me, please stop, Susan, I'm in love with him. Then I have to, I'm your best friend. I don't have to agree with you, but I have to accept. Absolutely. And I'm learning that with you. When you say, Kathy, I hear you. but I want A, B, or C, even I don't like A, B, and C.

Even if I have to do it the hard way and learn my lesson, yeah, but just be there. Yeah, okay. Absolutely. Support is a big thing. It is. And that's best friends, which we are, Kat B. I know, but you know what? The thought of us having a breakup, we got to meet the guy first.

What do you mean? A breakup. I'm going back to this last thing. I thought you meant us breaking up. No, no, no, no, no. I ain't going anywhere. I'll just holler. No, I'm saying like you and I going back, I mean, we had this conversation before.

You said that you would never go back to an ex. Remember, we asked Rachel about that too. Yeah, yeah. Have you changed your mind? Would you go give a second chance? No. Really? Because I get over people.

Like my heart heals and I always care. And I might be their friend. I'm always their friend. But, yeah, I wouldn't want to relive the same thing. I'm going to check with you in about a month and I'm going to ask you that question again. Okay, that does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour, Golden Hour. We really enjoyed this. I hope you guys did as well.

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