Bachelor Happy Hour - Put the Phone DOWN with Lea! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: October 2, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we have Lea from Joey’s season of “The Bachelor”! We kick off today’s episode with the latest on Lea’s dating life. Then, we get into our question of the day: How do you know you’ve really moved on from someone? We also dive into some of your listener write-ins and they are juicy today! How do you handle major damage control after a messy drunk text? Lea is here to weigh in and help our hosts give you the best advice. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I'm really serious. We've been having so much fun answering everybody's questions. so keep them coming, and you can submit them at bachelornation.com slash golden hour. We have some really good questions today that we're going to get to with our special gas. Today, we are going to have so much fun from Joey's season of The Bachelor. We have Leia. Hey, Leia, how are you? I'm good.

How are you guys? It's so good to be here. You're looking. I know, right? We were just going to say the same thing. You're absolutely stunning. do you play that guitar the tag oh susan i was just going to ask that i do play music um mainly i play piano though but i do a little bit of guitar here and there yeah nice i always wish i played piano like how many

years since you study i did susan you guys remember i did that i played piano for you guys at the talent show oh no no i played ukulele yeah i was gonna say no you didn't i was there I'm like, I have short-term memory last, but I did. I did play a little song for you guys. So how are you? What have you been up to? What's going to talk to us? I've been so good.

Anybody new in your life? Um, you know how it is. Do I? We're going to, we are going to get there. We're going to get there. We heard that you, on your TikTok, I want you to school me because. We want details that we heard about the grocery store man

First give us the updates And for those people who didn't see your TikTok Give us a review Tell us what went on Okay so basically I was at the grocery store And then I was looking at flowers Because you know I buy myself flowers You know I don't have a man right now

But I still deserve flowers I'm going to get my flowers And this man comes up to me And he's like you shouldn't be buying your own flowers Like da da da and uh And long story short he buys me flowers on the spot at the grocery store. How sweet?

How old is this guy? I don't know. I would say he was like 30, which like I love that age. I love me a good mature man who's like really ready because I feel like in L.A., they're just not ready until a little bit later. Like about 80?

About 80. About like 80 to the grave is probably when they're ready. But okay, you guys get this. This is the T. So I was, you know, thinking about, okay, maybe I'll go get dinner with him. But then he called me like, I'm not even kidding you, like 13 times. And I was out with my girls. Like, you know, we were busy.

He called me 13 times left nine text messages. And I'm like, none of them. Leah, I'm going to just insert red flag here. Red flag. So I don't know. That was just a lot for me. And I was like, you know what? For anybody?

For anybody, yeah. And I was like, this just doesn't seem right. So, unfortunately, there will be no first date with Mr. Grocery Storeman, which is okay because I'm just enjoying my life right now. I think I have a... You said you've been hanging out with the girls. You've been hanging out with Rachel? Who are you hanging out with?

Oh, I actually saw Rachel and Daisy yesterday. Love them. They're like, you know, I love those girls. Oh, they're just amazing. They just fill my cup up. And then Sydney was just in town. So I've just been spending a lot of time with really good people and good energy. And it's been great.

That's what it's about. Wow. So you, you, I'm still intrigued by those guitars I see. Have you ever played in a band? I haven't played in like a traditional band, but I did sing in my worship band in college. And then I did a little bit. I go to church here in L.A., and sometimes they have me in the choir. So it's a good time.

I'm very... Do they not have a singles group at church? You know, they don't, but maybe that should be a thing. Maybe you should put that in the suggestion box. So tell me what... You know, I love my Rachel, right? Yes. Do you guys hang out a lot?

Are you besties? Yes, we do hang out a lot. She's a gem. She is a gem. She is. what is beautiful as the next I'm telling you all right well I all this girl talking you beautiful women here I have a question for you how do you feel how do you know and how do you once you know it how do you feel once you've truly moved on from an ex partner or a friendship like how do you

know you're ready to move on and then how does it feel yeah I think that you know you've truly moved on when you can look back at it and honor what it was and look back and smile at it and just honor what that was in your life. And, you know, maybe it wasn't your end goal, but you've taken a lot of lessons and a lot of blessings. And I think you know you've moved on when you can look back at it with a lot of gratitude. And realize everybody comes into your life for a reason. Exactly. Maybe a season, but definitely for a reason. It's a learning thing. Yeah. So you are grateful for every relationship you've ever had 100% because you know if i didn't you know get a husband out of it i got a lot of good memories and lessons to be learned and and things i can take into my next

relationship so i'm always grateful i don't think friendships too like girl have you ever had a girlfriend wow yeah and i just don't think it's it's very necessary to harbor hate in your heart i think that takes up more energy than it is to just love someone from afar. Yeah, no, I wasn't suggesting hate. I've just had some people in my life that, you know, the friendship wanes or whatever. It's not, there's no hate or dislike. It's just we've both moved on. Yeah. And I don't look back and necessarily say, you know, what a great friendship it was. That's why I was curious when you said. Oh, okay. Okay. Do you think like after the show, the way you date it changed? Like, I'm sure you dated prior to the show, but what changed for you? Oh, I think that I really realized

one, like my worth and what I'm looking for and what I want. And I think something that's nice about the show is it taught me to not take things so serious. I mean, I'm sure you guys have gotten some pretty crazy things said just about you in general. And so just to not take life so seriously and to just allow things to flow i think has been really um nice to take with me as i as i continue dating um how has that been like i i'm sure you're young you're gorgeous your emails and dms must be like crazy well she just said she's not dating anyone so funny i have i have dated in LA. I will say the dating scene here is a bit crazy. Everywhere. It's so crazy. There's just, you know, there's athletes and rappers and people in the industry and it's like, it can get

very superficial very quickly. And I think that's why sometimes I struggle dating here. I'm from a small island, you know, where like we really value family, we value community. So sometimes when those things aren't valued at such a high caliber, it's hard for me to align with some men out here but I you know at this point I'm at a point in my life where I'm very happy and I think I'm just throwing my hands up to God and

he will he will bring my husband to me and I will not miss him because what's meant you're set on getting married and having kids then that's a definite 100% 100% I want a little family to raise and I just

want to like be in love and love with being in love I love love. I love, too. I think I'm going to be sick in about 30 seconds. Hopeless, romantic. I'm all about it. I'm going to go buy stock and hallmark and send you our car today.

Yikes. I just want to say, I believe in love and I believe it'll happen for all of us. But, you know, I think some of these phrases have become hackneyed when you say, you know, I believe in love's love. And I don't know. I just think being in love. Being in love. Whatever that. See, I can't, yeah.

That it's nothing wrong with that. It's a statement. It's a fact. You don't love when you're in love, Kat? It's been so long. Come on. Think about it. Do you love when you're in love?

Yes. It's the terminology. Look, it's just for me, it's the terminology. You know, I, I, there's all of the kinds of words I would use. But did I love my husband? Yes. It's the repetitive use. I know it's the repel.

I love being in love. You know, whatever. I want to know. Are you making fun of us? Because we're going to attack you right now. We love being in love. Yes, we do, Susan. And then we...

And sometimes love isn't always romantic. Sometimes it's not funny. I love being in love with my best friends. Like, it's just such a good feeling. Yeah, but what I'm saying is the use of the word, we could beat this one to death here. I'm grateful for my friends. I'm grateful for the marriage I had.

I love my husband. But, you know, I just, I want to put on like a red dress with a heart around my. Okay, well, you're, you're entitled to your opinion. All right. I want to know, Leah. We accept your opinion. Thank you. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with a. young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person,

this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jemell Hill, host to the Sports and Politics and Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party.

What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. And that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, You were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents, and there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor.

And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you.

Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Leah, I want to know. Going on the show, you just said really changed your life and your approach to dating and all of those things. So what would you say? I'm always interested in you youngens, your answer. What advice would you give to anyone, male or female, going on the show for the first time? Oh, gosh, I could write a whole novel on this.

But I think go into it and be open, lead with your heart, be yourself, and be, like, don't be afraid. I think don't let fear conquer you as you go into this journey. Like, let go. I don't know. There's so many fears when you go. and something like this. People get nervous. I think just be yourself. And I think if you can be your most authentic self and walk into a room and be that, then your people will find you regardless. And for me, it empowered me being my authentic self. As I hear you say that you were so much

more confident when you came off that show as I was. And I'm sure Kathy was. Well, Kathy's been confidence since she came out of the womb, I think. No, that is not true. But it does. It enlightens you and you got to know who you were, correct? Yeah. But were you not yourself on the show, live? That's what I'm saying is I can't, anyone who knows me knows, I am, Kathy is who I am. And when people meet me, they're like, oh my God, you're exactly what you were on the show

other than, you know, saying zip it, which I agree, Kathy, because I think we had a little bit of a similar journey in that. I was doing what I thought was the right thing at the time. And I think that's all you can do. And I think you learn and you grow as you go. But it's definitely very interesting being on the show and watching things back and what if you were asked to be on Paradise. How do you feel about that? I would pray a lot. Would you do it? I think I I'm at a point where You hear? She's praying. She's praying. Is there anybody that you would hope that would be on there? Gary. Gary's a sweetie. I think he is a little bit out of my age range and for my goals in life. But yeah, there are a few cuties that I met. I don't know. See, I just don't, I'm a big personality gal.

You need to be able to make me laugh. We know we are. You need to be able to hang. Yeah, we have big You need to be able to hang, you know? All right. Well, I want to know if we don't, I mean, supposedly they're bringing Paradise back, but, you know, since I'm not going to be there in a bikini, what, if paradise doesn't happen, what is next for you, Leia? What, what's, you know, what is the next thing you want to accomplish with your life? Because you are young. We make jokes about this, but, you know, you are young. You have your life ahead of you.

So what are you looking to do? What is it that you want to do with your life? Okay. That is a loaded question. However, okay. So I think the bigger picture, the biggest picture is I want to be someone that girls that look like me that come from where I come from, I want to be someone that they can look at and they're like, wow, she did that and I can do it too. I just, I want to be a vessel to empower, especially young women, especially women of color, Filipino women.

How are you going to do that? I think, okay, so I'm working on a few things. So, and actually I'm working on a few things with castmates, which is really exciting things surrounding mental health. So that's really exciting. Hopefully we'll get that going. So kind of just bringing awareness to things like that. And then empowering community.

So I'm planning a few community events here in L.A. and then back home in Hawaii to just get, you know, get the community together. give people a space where they can feel heard and supported and empowered. And then just like on a side note, just being able to to be who I am and do set out, set out to accomplish my big dreams. Sounds like you have a whole lot going on.

Yeah. And you don't really have time for dating. And if you meet the right person, it's going to be totally accidentally, which is the perfect. Yes, exactly, exactly. And I think, if it's the right person, it'll flow, and you'll always make it work if you really,

really care. I wish for that every day. I wish for that for you guys too. I mean, I wish it for all of us. But the thing is, you know, as we say to people who write in, which we're going to get to a couple of those questions in just a second, but you have to, people don't come to your door. And Susan and I talk about this. Like, we have to get out and do things because people do not come to your door. Can I, can I like do a TikTok and like start accepting applications to date you guys and I'll vet them? Absolutely. They can do at my video. Okay. You can even charge them for the application. I will charge them and I will, I'll give you a cut. I'll have to give you a cut. I don't want a cut. I just want to do. Speak for yourself. I'll take the money and the date. Thank you very

much. So we have listeners that write in and they ask us for advice. And we, we all for it. And we want you to help us out with a few. Is that okay? Amazing. Let's do it. All right. Kathy, you want to go first? Okay. So the first one is from Carly. She's 24 years old. And she asks, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I love the podcast and was hoping to get some advice. I went on a date with a guy from Hinge recently and we had a lot of fun. He took me out to dinner and we were laughing and talking nonstop. When the date ended, he said he'd love to go out of again and would text me. Well, he did, but it wasn't what I was expecting. We started texting the day

after our date and planned to see each other again the coming weekend. He didn't make an actual plan until the night before. And the plan in question? Meeting up with him and his friends at our local bars. Not even a pregame together or dinner before. Meeting up? I just gave it a thumbs up reaction. And when the night came, I just hung out with my girlfriends and didn't respond. He didn't text me until almost 12 a.m. to meet up, by the way. I haven't texted him at all and planned to go ghost. But Sunday morning, he texted me asking me if he did something wrong. He said he was sad. I couldn't make it because his friends were excited to meet me. And he asked me if I was okay. I told him I was fine. And he asked if we could get drinks this Friday. I said yes, only because

I'm on the fence about what to do. Was I too harsh? I feel like a meetup after the bars is such a red flag. But maybe I'm just jaded, L-O-L would love your thoughts. Oh, what do you think, Leah? Okay, so here's what I think. I think that as we are dating, you must make your expectations clear. And maybe, you know, that's clearly not up to her standard.

And that's okay because someone will be up to her standard. but maybe just communicate like, hey, that's not exactly my ideal way of getting to know you, which I find value in. And maybe we can, you know, think of something else. But I would prefer something more intentional and more, you know, intimate. And I think there's nothing wrong with communicating those things. I think it's a very mature thing to do. I mean, that's my drop.

I also think that she addressed it as he was asking her. Well, I'd love to meet your friends. However, do you want to come pick me up? Let's get together first. You don't just expect me to go to some local bar with a bunch of dudes hanging out. That I don't know. Yeah. And you know what?

Let them know that you're a queen, that your boss-ass bitch and you're not going to settle for something that doesn't work for you. Because clearly that doesn't work for her and that's okay. That's okay. I don't be afraid to say that. Guys, I think I agree with everything you're saying, but this wasn't a date. He said, it's not a date. No, but I think that I think she misread it. He said he'd like to hang out again.

He didn't, he said he'd like to go out again and he would text me. He did exactly what he said. Yeah, let's go out. Let's meet up at a bar. He did what he said. I think she jumped the gun and thought she took it to mean it was a date. And then, and that's why I think he was confused and wrote like, did I do something wrong? Yeah.

Actually, I don't think he did anything wrong. He said, hey, you want to meet up after my, I mean, I'm not going out. with a guy at midnight. Well, that's wrong right there. You don't expect a woman to be excited about that. I'm saying, as you just said, Leigh, it was up to her to say, well, what time are you thinking? Where do you want to meet up? I think women, I don't know about it in your generation, but in my generation, historically

women have been nervous or uncomfortable saying, oh. How they feel. Yeah. Yeah. Are you asking me out on a date? Like, where do you want to meet? What time? When he said, yeah, let's meet up. I'll text you. He did exactly what he said. She did. And men are straight forward like that. Yeah. They don't think outside the box like we do. They're black and white. We have this big giant gray area. So I think you're right, Lair, she should have said, well, are you asking me out on a date? What time are you picking me? Like you said, Susan, what time you're picking me up?

Or what time do you want to meet? But she did what I consider sort of a passive thing. She was waiting for the guy to reach out to her to tell her where to be in what time. Well, he did. She just didn't like what she got. And she may still like this guy. So I'm glad she said, yes, give him a chance. And then share, you know, like I didn't feel real comfortable with the way that happened.

So maybe it'll work, and we wish you a lot of luck. Yeah. Let us know what happens. I don't think it's, Carly, I don't think it's necessarily a red flag. I don't. I think go on the next date, the first date, really. See how it goes. See how he treats you.

And then if you see a real red flag, you know, nothing lost. That's a whole game. Yeah. All right. And send him to Leia. She'll straighten them out. She's not going to the local bar to meet the guys. No, I'm not.

No, ma'am. No, I'm, no. But thank you for asking. And do let us know if you like them after this next date. But do share how you felt about it. Be honest. That's all. We want to hear for sure.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jemell Hill, host to the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were

elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips.

And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app.

Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. All right. The next one's Anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan. Please don't judge me, but I'm a huge mess. And I need your help. My best friend was with her ex for about a year. A year and a half.

Oh, wait. My best friend was with her ex for. for about a year and have been broken up for a little over six months. I always thought he was a great guy, but I feel like she felt he wasn't obsessed with her enough. He's really sweet and always went out with her and paid for things and so on. But the only thing she ever seemed to care about was that he didn't buy her flowers or didn't give her a card on her birthday, things like that.

But she's my best friend and I support. her either way. The other night, while we were at the bar together with some other friends, we ran into her ex, Tom. Tom was really sweet and said hi to all of us. He offered to buy us around the drinks, but my friend wanted to go over to a guy's table, so she declined. I felt really bummed about the whole interaction, but went with my friends. Well, I got pretty drunk and in the morning realized that I ended up texting Tom around 4 a.m. I thanked him for his offer on drinks, oh boy, and said that it was good to see him, all things that my friend would not mind at all.

He became really close to our friend group while they were together. But I also told him that he was way too good for my friend and that I'd be lucky to date someone as sweet as him. And I also said, I just can't believe you're this great and super hot. It's insane. I immediately had a panic attack after reading what I said. He just responded the next day saying, good to see you too. Thanks.

And my name. I am mortified. My friend would be devastated if she knew I did this. But I feel horrible keeping it from her. What do I do? Please help. I love you both. go first laia because boy i got i got a mouthful to say go laia i i would love to actually i would

for me this is so insane and i this would i don't know i feel terrible i don't know i would love to hear your guys's advice because i just would never put myself in the situation it just sounds like first of all you're drunk but you know what you're doing don't no no no no susan i disagree i think a lot of people this girl sounds like she she was blackout drunk i think she isn't dating. I don't think this other girl is her friend. I think she needs to put away the phone. Young people text drunk all the time and then they wake up and go, oh shit, what did I do? I'll tell you what to do the next time, anonymous, put your phone down when you get drunk. And if you're not dating anyone and you want to date this guy, I would have handled it a whole lot differently than what you did.

however this when you say i want to tell my friend um you probably need to re-read your text here because you said i told him he was too good for my friend i wouldn't tell her that baby i don't think she's your friend i think you need to reevaluate anonymous well i also think she's got a secret crush on this guy and he did not respond the way she wanted him to respond i think he responded the way she was putting it out there they would be going out right now and that would be a whole other story so you have to take a look inside at yourself drunk or not you know I've always thought that people that have been drinking too much open their mouth but they say what they really feel yeah that's what this is about she's got a crush she wants him but do you but do you think she's

friends what do you think Claire do you think that this girl's really good friends with this I don't No, because I don't, I don't think those are aligned with like a really good, loyal, strong friendship. And I think if that's something that you'd be willing to do and like in your heart, then maybe, yeah, take a look at your friendships. And like, is this really someone you value and care about? Because I think if you cared about someone so deeply, you would never put yourself in this situation drunk or not. So, yeah, I don't know. This one's a little hard. You need to keep this buttoned up and pray he never tells her.

Tells. I don't think I would tell her. They're broken up anyway, so what does it matter? It really doesn't matter. But I will say, I give great props to the guy who I think took the high road and said, thank you, you know, anonymous, whatever her name was. And it was good to see you. He took the high road.

He probably knew she was drunk. So whoever you are, sir, I hope you're listening. And he might not have been into her, you know. Yeah. obviously there's so many fish in the sea there are so many there's four billion men i'm sure you can find another one that's a little bit i have dated three billion nine hundred and ninety nine thousand mine are to minnows really all right leo we are of a certain age so you know here's your opportunity do you have any questions for us before we let you go i do i do okay well i just want to hear like

what is your guys advice to someone who's in their 20s who's, you know, trying to navigate life? Okay, advice on life in general and then advice for like dating and love. Go, sis. Which one do you want first? I think you're doing the exact thing you should be doing, focusing on what you want to accomplish and the rest will follow. Do you be educated? Do you dream, reach your goals, aim for your goals. I get it about finding love. If you were telling me this when I was your age, I probably would have ignored me. But it isn't the, you can't hunt it down. It has to happen. Yeah. I would, I would, I would add a little bit to it. I think that a lot of, you're beautiful Leah. You obviously have a lot of perspective on life and you have a lot of dreams and

things that you want to accomplish. But I also think that you have to take a strategic, everyone does, a strategic approach, not just to your career, but to finding that love that you want. And I've said this many times, I think you need to put yourself in situations, not at bars at one in the morning, like we were just in that last question. I think that if you put yourself in situations doing the things in life that you love to do whatever that is hiking boating whatever it is put yourself in situations where you will be thrown literally together with people of like mind that you will that is that's that gives you the opportunity to meet people where you already have common interests and so that's how some of the good people come into your life and you know friends your good

friends if they know you they might work with someone so it's it's sort of like networking in a way but you have to put forth the effort i think a lot of people think that prince charming or princess charming will float into their lives and it really is something that you have to put some if you're sitting on the couch they're not going to come knocking on the door i mean i've said that a million times you know you have to you have to actively engage in life and i think you're I love that. I love that. She's young. She's engaged. Actively engage. And I think you are actively engaging, but I think if you want to meet a guy, you know, you can go on any of the dating sites, but really all they're looking at is you're beautiful and you are beautiful. But I don't think you are looking for a man who just wants a beautiful piece of arm candy. And so that's why one of my issues. with dating apps. So I would encourage you to, you know, take some time for you, take some time to do things and take up new hobbies because that's really how you will broaden your circle and meet

new people. And hopefully something or someone in that adventure will say, wow, I met this great girl while we were whatever it is. And believe it or not, the dating apps are, I've married so many couples that met on a dating really it does happen the majority of the weddings that I perform have met on a dating act I mean it happens

so you can meet you never know yeah I'm not saying you take breaks no I know but you take breaks from it you get to see the same old people you never know you don't just be open and stay happy within you yeah I think LA is a hard place I know my daughter lived in New York City

and she said the same thing my daughter is as beautiful as you are and she would say things say to me it's so hard mom i'm on a date with a guy and we're having a great time and then as we're walking i see him looking at another woman as we're walking and and he and he believe me my daughter's beautiful she and happily married but she would she would say it's like they think you're beautiful that they think you're smart they think you're great oh wait what else is out there yeah the only the problem with And that's, she just found guys didn't want to commit too many choices.

Yeah. It's so true. It's so true. Yeah. You, I wish you all the best. And the next time we're out in L.A., I want you and Rachel come hang out with us. Yes. Yes, I would love nothing more.

You guys are so awesome. Thanks for having me. We'll teach you how to play golf. Yes, I would love that. I'll tell you, by the way, that's a great place to meet single guys on a golf course. That is true. Truly, it is. So take a few golf lessons and see what comes your way. But we really have loved having you here. You are amazing. Thank you for joining us. And for everyone else, be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour because we have guests like Leah. Leia, I just mispronounce your name for the first time. It's okay. It happens. No, but I'm very funny about names. So I apologize. But we have lots of great guests coming up and we know that you won't want to miss it. So be sure to tune in.

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