Bachelor Happy Hour - Putting Yourself First | Golden Hour

Episode Date: September 30, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we are back answering fan questions! We kick things off by chatting about Wednesday’s episode of “The Golden Bachelorette.” Then we get into our question of the day: What does being a good parent mean to you? And, of course, we get into some of your questions! How do you navigate belief clashes in a friendship? How do you navigate that first trip away from your kids? You asked, and we’re here to help! Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Eumanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble.

Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your... free iHeartRadio app search emergency intercom and listen now what would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth unfortunately for mark lombardo this was the choice he faced he said you are a number a new york state number and we own you listen to shock incarceration on the iHeart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcast

Every case that is a cold case that has DNA right now in a backlog will be identified in our lifetime. On the new podcast, America's Crime Lab, every case has a story to tell, and the DNA holds the truth. He never thought he was going to get caught, and I just looked at my computer screen. I was just like, ah, gotcha. This technology's already solving so many cases. Listen to America's Crime Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks for joining us. How are you doing, Susan? Hi. I'm so happy to be back. And today we are going to be answering more of your questions. We absolutely love these episodes, don't we, Kathy?

So keep those questions coming. And you know what to do, bachelornation.com slash golden hour and submit them so we can talk about it. No question is too big or too small, right? Susan, we love answering them. But today, we're really excited to get into our questions. But first, Susan, what do you think of last night's episode of the Golden Bachelorette? God, where do I start? First of all, my favorite dress was her in the green at the rose ceremony.

I was texting Carrie going, good job. Okay. I just, I want, if you don't, if you and I do not say this at the same time, Pascal. There's two words. High maintenance. But I love him. I absolutely adore him. Well, you know what, Susan?

Pascal, if you're listening, if Joan hasn't chosen you, you're all Susan's. Yes, Pascal. I'll give you a run for your money. Okay, well, I'm sorry. I haven't done laundry in 40 years. I love that. I would love to be such a queen. I mean, really?

But you won't be a queen, sweetheart. You'll be doing his laundry. No, I will not. No, I would be his equal. So, Pasquil, if you're going to reach out for me, just know, I'm just as queen as you can be. How about Taylor Dane being there? Unbelievable. Who was it that dated?

Jordan, I can't remember. I did not know. Okay, but wait, I loved Greg doing Pascal's laundry. I mean, there is holding them. He was giving him $100 a load. I know, but did you hear what he said? He goes, his clothes, his underwear is more valuable, more expensive than my clothes. I love that.

And the USA untreated sleep apnea. Oh, my God, I was roaring. The guy is great. Because they were all complaining about his snoring, how big. They were mocking his snoring. I don't care. I want to meet him. I don't care if he snores. I don't care. Well, I think you should. Wait, how about the pink tuxedo on Jonathan at the prom? And he was prom king. It was so cute. Can you imagine the girl canceling him right before the prom? Do you know how many times that must happen to people? A lot. But he held on to it for 40 plus years. And he's king of the prom last night. It was so sweet.

Okay, what about, what about guys? was is it break dancing on the floor oh that was hysterical and then the other one came and spun him around the help did you see somebody had to come and lift him up like come on guy but he gets an A for effort the first one on one Kathy I've got vibes okay if you don't know I think I think my guy here is gonna go really I'm sorry he wasn't your guy if you go back and listen no no not my guy you know what I mean I think they have connection Chalk and her have a lot of chemistry. Then Charles talking about losing his wife to an aneurysm.

I know. It was sad. Oh, so sad. And then I'll tell you the one that got me aside from, you know. How about the photo booth? And then she gave him the picture. Oh, my God. I know.

It was so sweet. But Dan. Okay, Dan. So that, my sister has that. A couple of people in my family. have that. It's called a benign non-essential tremor. It's not Harkinsons or anything. It's just a lot of people get it. And he has it in both of his hands. Did you hear when he told the story

that the doctor told him, like your life was pretty much over? I guess it was a mistake. Is that a mistake? Well, since he's still with us, I'm going to go with it. Obviously. But I'm just saying to be able to be that vulnerable on national TV, clearly, I have, a guy I dated has it. It's really hard you know they can't hold glasses they they have to do things with two hands it's it just my hat is off to dan for sharing that um yeah on national tv i took a lot and you know what i also think it helped him come out of his comfort zone you know like it made him deal with what he has and nationally of course yeah and i think maybe he'll be better for it yeah i think i think

you know it doesn't kill you makes you stronger um and then i have to say kim singing that romantic song to Joan about finding his person over the rainbow. Remember, my husband was a naval officer. He was not a captain. I always think of him, Kathy, when he comes up. I mean, but I saw in one of the promos, I saw him on the floor cleaning up. I thought, oh, boy, that is a captain in the Navy. Everything will be shipshake.

What I wish about him, that he laugh a little bit. Like, I don't see his humorous side yet. I think he's very serious. Not everybody is a laugh a minute, and I think he's a genuinely nice guy. I do, too. I'm not saying he's not. He certainly's not. What did you think about Jack going home?

I know. I mean, the cannon ball came. But I love the song at the end. He's my kind of guy, that guy. The cannonball. Wait, I did the cannonballs in the pool. Susan, you and he. I mean, I was diving at the end of the pool, but this guy, you can tell he genuinely left

nothing on the table. He had a great, I mean, I didn't really see Joan and him together. But what a great fun guy. Wouldn't you love to go out on the town with him? All the guys are going to miss him. I'm telling you. He was the entertainment. They were all like, bye, Jack, Jay. But what a cool guy. And some of the other guys that went home, Joan was so sad to send him home. We all would be. I mean, that has to be tough. I know. I just, I feel like she is really caring for their hearts. really is. But she kept that high maintenance, man. Well, okay. I mean, he's a good looking guy. I'm just saying, you know, I think that that's who he is. You got to hand it to him. He's, he's, he's, this is who I am. I don't do my laundry. I, you know, I make his reservation. His Gucci belt in the

closet. Did you see his Gucci? His, I mean, I can't even, I don't even know the names. You know, my Louis Vuitton, my Gucci, my this, my that. You know what I was thinking, Susan? I love it. Then he said we sneak into the mansion. We're going into his closet and we are ripping everything out of there. We're going to sell it on the black market. I don't like that, Pascal. I think he's tall, but he looks a little petite. I don't know if his things would fit me. But it doesn't matter. We're selling them. It's called, you know, we're going to make money on this deal, Susan. But he did an awesome haircut for his talent. I was going to ask you about that. Yes. It was a great haircut. It was 170. $75 haircut. But did he do it in 30 seconds or do you think that was time lapse? No, he did it in 30. Didn't you see him take one chunk off the bat? I know hair. Yeah, he did it. I hate to tell you just lost me as a client. I'm going to Pascal because I don't have. I could do it in 30 seconds. You spent an hour on my hair. You want that blunt clipper cut. You want it sharp. That takes more time. Okay. And and and let's be clear, I'm not paying you $175 here. Obviously. Well, maybe I, you know what? If I sell Pascal's shoes and belts for enough money i'll have no problem for me then i loved also when mark was talking in german yes and at the end he wanted a kiss and then she said you should ask me sooner i know and joe did a great job my son is fluent in german so i i i had a little cheat there i knew what he was saying she knew what a not worse was i i knew what yeah exactly but uh how great was she she really was pretty

able to decipher yes she did good i don't know i think i think this is a great great season. I think Joan is making us proud. She's making the golden people proud. She is handling herself with such dignity and grace and being so kind to all the men. And Joan, if you're listening, so proud of you. And all you guys, Susan and I will put our numbers up very soon. Just stay tuned to our podcast. That's right. No, I absolutely love the whole evening. And as you said, she did a fabulous, fabulous job. I did feel for some of the people that went home. They weren't really ready, but not everybody can stay.

Yeah. I remember in our season when we said goodbye to the first batch, it's like, aw. But however, Kath, if you remember that first week when they left, we had three less people in our bedroom. I know. But don't you think that just like when we left, we left stronger and more confident, I feel like those guys did too. Yeah, I think it helps anybody. It's a gift of the show. It's one of the best of the show.

To have that experience, you definitely gain something. Yes, yes. I can't wait till next week. I can't wait for next week. I know me too. And I can't wait for more one-on-ones. That's when you really see people and they tell their story. But don't you feel, wait a minute, but Susan, don't you feel like last night's episode,

unless I can't tell time, which is always a possibility, it was two hours. and I thought it was two hours Maybe it was an hour and a half I think it's supposed to be an hour and a half I know but I again I have trouble you know if it's not digital I don't remember I'm struggling here but I think one of the great things

about Joan's season on top of all these handsome wonderful guys and and watching Joan is that we're getting to know all the guys much faster and better right because there's more time well yeah what we see more that's what I'm saying yeah we see more

I don't know that they have longer time than we did as they sit for those few minutes when they get to chat. I don't know if that's longer. No, no, no. I'm just saying what you said the first time. We're getting to see more of Jones interactions with the guys. And so I feel like I'm getting to know them better. Did you also notice who's coming on next show? Gary.

Are Gary. Okay, so there's been a lot of stuff on social. You know, do you think he's going to try? try to rip Joan back away. I think absolutely not. I think he's just going to support her. I mean, he's our buddy, you know. We made friends instantly, and we still are.

Okay, but still, I want the Gucci loafers, belts, and sneakers. But it's been a great two weeks. Can't wait for the next one. Absolutely. I'm excited. And I loved her fashion, you know. How about her coming out of the limo with the white, with the tool on both sides for prom night?

and then she did her Disney Blue, you know, in Disney World that was so sweet. She did look like a princess She can wear anything. Hello, she can wear anything. She can do anything. We hate you, Joan. No, we don't. We love you, John. We love you. We love you. Unbelievable so.

But we wish you all the very best, and we look forward to next week. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person

writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor

and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the

explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcast Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state

of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. And that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up

to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect.

And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. All right, Susan. It's time for a question of the day. Are you ready?

Boy. Are you ready? No. Oh, wait, it's not the game. Yes, sure, I'm ready for the question. Great. There we go. Okay, the question is, what does being a good parent mean to you?

You know, for me, being a good parent, you'd have to say now, you have to put a time limit on it. Because being a good parent for me, when my children were young, was making sure they were well-fed, got enough slug. sleep, kept safe, exposed them to lots of cultural things, books, making sure they were learning things in school, all those things that you do for young children. But I will tell you now, and I have adult children, and I have two grandchildren, I think being a good parent to me now means listening to my kids and just being there for them and not solving their problems for them as we do you know we have to evolve as parents we solve all their problems when they're young when they get older our job is to listen and just be a support system for them what about you

i agree with everything you said and i also feel good parenting is loving your kids and like you said keeping them safe getting them an education just healthy clean teaching teaching them what they're going to pass on so they could be good parents. What we instill in our kids, although I was a neat freak always, and not all them are neat freak. So, you know, I still do, I still do love to remind you of the time you were sweeping up the table while I was still eating. You know, it's funny when you talk about that, when I am, I think if I could do it over

like most things, I would be, I have great, three great kids, but I think I would be a better parent now. They didn't come with instructions. I know. Well, it's just that you and I, I know you and I've talked about this. We both have three kids. We have great kids.

But we have learned what's important and what isn't. And so all the things that I was so sure were important with my kids just aren't. I mean, I laugh when I think I'm also a neat freak. I used to make my kids clean up their rooms. And I walked in Kyle's room one time. and I told them all to clean the room and Kyle came out I was said

you know be smart be smart Kyle he would come out after five minutes and tell me the room was clean and I would go in well it was clean Susan it was spotless until you looked under the bed and open the closet doors and all that stuff it just all came flowing

so then I would you know throw everything out in the hallway and make him start over so you know do I care would I care now so much nah I just wouldn't care I know. I hope I was a good parent. I think I was. I know we all love each other. Would you, well, I love my children. I do agree. Would I do some things different? Yes, definitely. But you know what, I think of our kids, I never really felt that loved as a child. I know my three kids are totally loved and would feel, would say that that they were loved. Absolutely. Absolutely. All right. Let's get into these fan questions. You want to take the first one?

Sure. Okay. This is an anonymous. Hello, golden ladies. I've got what I believe is a pretty unique question for you. At the start of this year, I was laid off from a company I'd worked at for over seven years and have since launched a metaphysical podcast and more recently started my own psychic reading business. It's been a major period of growth and self-exploration. hold on the questions i have stems from a long-time friend who has not been supportive of this journey for context we met sophomore year of college through a sorority and have been friends for 11 years i was a bridesmaid in her wedding as well we've always had different beliefs but it's never

gotten in the way of our friendship until now back in april a few weeks weeks after my pod launched, we got lunch, and she told me she hadn't listened. Her conflicting beliefs have made her afraid of my content. I calmly explained that psychic readings aren't like that, and the first few episodes of our show focused on intuitive experiences we've had, mostly predating our friendships, astrology, and human design. I kept it together as we changed the subject, but my heart completely sank. I knew this friendship was or soon would be at a fork in the road, where either she accepted me or I had to end a relationship. Needless to say, I cried on the drive home and felt devastated. Fast forward till now. My podcast has continued and I launched my

business in June. We haven't spoken at all. Normally one or the other of us would reach out to meet in person or do a face time to catch up. I've been reevaluating all of my friendships and how I approach dating to set better boundaries where I'm not always the person to reach out. That shift in tandem with being busy has resulted in the months absolutely flying by. My question is should I, A, reach out to her and act normal and just see if she says anything about what I'm up to and go from there, or B, reach out and directly bring up my concerns, or C, continue doing my own thing and see if she eventually comes to me in her own time. I so appreciate getting your perspectives on this. Also, I'm from Massachusetts and love hearing Kathy represent.

Much love to you both. I really enjoy your show. Oh, thank you, anonymous. That was a lot of information. That was a lot of information. Anonymous, I love that you're from Massachusetts. Yeah. Always love to hear from a fellow Massachusetts. I don't even know what the noun is. Anyway. I don't know. A Massachusetts, I don't know what that is. Anyway, let me say Anonymous. You gave me three choices, gave us three choices. Here's what I would say to you. The months are flying by for you, so you're clearly happy in what you're doing. And sometimes, in life. We all make choices. In your case, it's your podcast and your business and you seem completely involved and thoroughly happy with your decision. So I would say to you,

you can wait or you can reach out to your friend or you can do nothing. Here's the point. Your friend is entitled to believe and feel the way she does just as you are. And sometimes, as Susan likes to say people come into our lives for a reason and I say people come into our lives for a reason and a season so maybe this time is up for you involving this friendship but just accept that not everyone's going to agree with you and you sometimes have to go on your own journey in your own road what do you think Susan it sounds to be like she has moved on and doing her own thing and she's healthy for it but you like just like a relationship you have to agree to disagree.

Not everybody believes what you believe or shares the likeness for what you're doing. And that's okay. I know it probably stung because she was your friend and you wanted everybody to be happy for you and so on. I get it. But like Kathy said, the three things at the end, that's only your choice. Me personally, I would probably think about it from time to time, but I would keep moving forward. Yeah. At the end of the day, your life is your life and it's your journey. And we both wish you the best in your business and your podcast as fellow podcasters. Congratulations to you. And hope only best. Do a reading for us. Okay. Good luck to you, sweetie. So good luck. You got a question number two? All right. Question number two. Casey writes, hi, Kathy and Susan. I am really

enjoying your episodes and advice on the podcast and could really use your perspective. I am 23 years old and I recently got into a relationship with someone five years older than I. We met on a dating app and I am his first relationship and sexual partner. I have been in relationships previously and had a self-proclaimed ho phase while I was in college. Whoa. He knows that I've been with other men but early on in dating i didn't share just how many partners i have had now that we're in a relationship and are hooking up with each other i'm scared to bring it up do i have to tell him the exact number or is this something we can gloss over thank you so much and i can't wait to hear your thoughts casey darling unless he's putting pressure on you yeah keep your mouth shut oh i'm sorry susan

even if he's putting pressure on her. This was her past. Well, yes. You don't have to tell that. You don't. Because that's going to make him overthink things and think, and he doesn't have to know you had your ho face either.

Yeah, see, I'm stuck, Casey, on, maybe this is my age, and I don't know what you'll go with this, Susan, but I don't like the fact, Casey, that you called it your ho face. I don't like that. That tells me that you, it tells it, I could be wrong, but I sense that you're not respectful of yourself. You don't

respect yourself or you didn't back then. And that's of much greater concern to me than whether or not you tell your boyfriend if it was 8, 10, or 100 sexual partners you've had. It's none of his business, A, it's only his business if you're having sexual partners with other men besides the guy you're dating. And she says, I'm scared to bring it up so he's obviously not even questioning it so leave well enough alone yeah and you know i've had these loss over i've had these conversations with my girlfriends and like you know how many partners and i was blown away by some of my friends like ah what and you know what i didn't judge them for that yeah you know well that's i she's judging herself though yes that's

and i don't like that so casey if you found a great guy stick with that meaning relish, revel in the fact that you found a really great guy. He's five years older. He's got a little more experience. Maybe he's the guy for you. Maybe he isn't. I would say you got a lot of life left to live before you settle down with one guy. But don't worry about your past.

The past is what teaches you how to live your future. That's right. And we wish you luck. All right. Question number three, Alicia writes. Hi. First of all, I love listening to your podcast. My husband and I are planning a trip to Italy to celebrate our 10-year wedding anniversary.

We have three children, ages 3, 5, and 7. It's been two years since my husband and I have had a trip away alone. I know it will be good for our marriage, but I am feeling very anxious and guilty about leaving our kids for eight nights and going that far away. is going on this trip a bad idea please give me any advice thank you oh my gosh it's so good you need to do this for the kids as well so alicia i would say to you uh you know my my kids my daughter it doesn't like to leave her daughter at all um but she'll leave it with me i guess i would ask you alicia who are you leaving your kids with yeah i've thought you was going to tell me if you're going to live with your mom or a sister a family member um that's great

I will say to the first trip my husband and I took away, we were living in Texas and we went to Hawaii and some friends kept our, we only had one child at the time, I cried pulling away from the curb for about 30 seconds. I did. It was the best thing we ever did. You'll have a blast. Are you going to miss your kids? Yes.

You'll be fine. And you'll be buying them things over there. You'll be thinking of them and you're both going to look at each other as you sleep in and go, oh my god this is nice yeah you're gonna you have a great time and you know what this brings up something that we've talked about before you have three young kids and they take a ton of time and energy but you know what needs time and energy your marriage your marriage and relationships take time and energy so give yourself the gift of this time to spend with your husband go relax enjoy yourself you'll come back being in a better place in your marriage and if it's good now it'll be even better

when you come back and you'll also come back a better parent it's a win-win alicia to answer your question no this trip is not a bad idea at all and have a great time and let us know how the trip went send a suppose card what part i'll give me some restaurants yeah really i just got back from italy you're going to have great time My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics,

House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the State of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years.

But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

If you're a crime junkie and you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app.

Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. All right, let's move on to question four. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I've been really stressed out about this situation, and I really think you guys could give me some sound advice. My friend started seeing someone new a few months ago, and I really liked them together. She had a tough past with dating, so I'm really glad she's with someone that's really kind and respectful, but I'm starting to worry that she's about to ruin this relationship. Sorry if I'm being too vague, trying to stay anonymous. Basically, he'll be do things like forget to text her or will show up to parties late, all because he has a really stressful job. Even though she's able to talk herself out of assuming the worst, like cheating, she still gets really upset because it brings her back to when her exes were cheating, but blame things on work. I want to give her advice, but here's my question. Since it's so early on in their relationship, is it worth me telling her to work on it? Or is this just a circumstantial

incompatibility. She definitely still needs to heal, but she's working so hard at it and her emotions just need to catch up. She really likes him, but his job won't stop being demanding anytime soon. He's in finance. So it's honestly, she either learns to deal with it or she deals with these feelings single. What do you think makes more sense? He's patient and an understanding, but I know it adds stress to his plate as well when he gets tied up at work and can't immediately communicate with her. Oh boy, that's a lot. Yeah. Well, I think if you really love your girlfriend, you pull her aside and tell her exactly what you see that she's doing and she needs to get some help by herself, not share it with him because she could very well ruin this relationship. And she's

hurting herself because I get not trusting and you got to be careful and all that. You got to take chances in life and you don't want to be the one to blow it because you had a past that somebody did wrong to you. That doesn't mean this man's going to do wrong. So I would go see a therapist or talk to your girlfriends or whatever you need to do. Well, this isn't her, Susan. This is her friend that's going to do. I know, but I want her to tell her this. Ah, gotcha. So I think that's really sound advice. I totally agree. I think, though, that Anonymous, you have. You have to be careful it's a fine line between inserting your will and your ideas on what you think she should be doing and making suggestions of you know i was looking at you da da da and i think why don't you

think about this think about that you have to be careful not to be too judgey and not too pushy if you will about what you want to do but i think your heart is absolutely in the right place And I agree with Susan. She needs to learn how to trust. That's her girlfriend. Yeah. And she does need to learn how to trust. And I agree with Susan.

She probably needs some therapy, some professional help to do that. Because you know what? A relationship without trust is going absolutely nowhere. And you're smart to see that. It is not a relationship. Yes. Thanks for writing into us. And we wish your girlfriend lots of love.

Let us know. Hopefully she'll get the help she needs. Oh, no. Kathy, do you see what's next? I'm so excited, everybody. I can't do it. We are going to play Kathy's favorite game and Susan's least favorite game. It's called Moral Quandry.

We set it up where one of us reads a prompt and then we have to guess what the other one would do. Susan loves to say what she would do. So I'm going to remind her once again, you're going to guess what I would do. So I'm going to start us off and you are going to guess what I would say or do. Two of your friends are getting married on the day of the wedding. The groom goes MIA for hours. But after a lot of talking and venting, his nerves calm down and he returns before the ceremony begins. The bride is clueless the entire time and asks,

you why you seem so stressed out. Do you ever tell her about this or keep it a secret? What would I do, Susan? You wouldn't say anything. Ever? They're not asking me ever. They're asking me the day of the wedding. No, it says, do you ever tell about this or do I keep it a secret? You think I might tell her or you don't think I ever would. No, I don't think she needs to know that. You know what I would do? I would probably sit, what's the movie where the girl's in love with the same guy and Oh, yes.

And she runs away to the bus station. I'd probably take my friend and sit down and watch that movie and see what a reaction was. Then I would decide if I was going to tell her. What about me? You don't answer that one. You have to do that. No, I am. I'm going to say,

I don't think you would tell her. I think you would let it lie. Yeah. I think you already said that. Nothing good could come out of that. Yeah. I mean, they're already married. That's just going to stress the marriage.

He shows up for the wedding. Yeah, he's there. I'm sure she was going to hear it. Like, oh, my God, he wasn't, he was late, and then she's going to ask him. It's just going to start. But here's the thing. Would it have changed it?

Would she not have married him? So, you know what I'm saying? They're already married. So, you know, like I said, said, I would take a humorous approach and pour a glass of wine and watch the movie. That's right. All right. Here's the next one.

You get out of your car after arriving at work. And as you walk to your office, you see someone pull out of a parking spot and hit a parked car, leaving a huge dent. Before speeding off, the driver makes eye contact with you and shrugs. You then notice they're leaving a reserved parking spot with their name on it. You discover it's your boss. boss. There's no cameras and you have no idea who the damaged car belongs to. What do you do? I think you would probably write down the license number and put it on their windshield, but not put your name on it. I'd have to tell somebody, but. But you. But you,

But that question is, you, wait, we haven't, don't guess about me yet. Finish, you. I gave you. So you're saying you would not let the person know? No, I would, but indiscreetly. Well, how are you going to let them know indiscreetly? I'd tell somebody else that would tell. Oh, so you'd pass the buck.

What do you think I would do? What you said, take the license plate and leave it on the. I want to believe I would do that. I would probably even think of that. But when you know it's your boss's boss? Yeah. I, you know, I want to believe that I am ethical and that I would just write the license number down and leave it at that. Yeah.

All right, let's do the next one. You meet a really great guy and begin dating. Oh, I like the start of this season, don't you? You quickly learned that he is a widower and has two children in their 20s. After almost eight months, you realize his kids have no idea you exist. You talk about it with your boyfriend, and he reveals that his last relationship ended because she wasn't kind to his kids, and his relationship with his kids took a hard hit from it. He says he'll tell them about you, quote, when he's ready, unquote.

How do you proceed? Eight months, I would have dealt with that. Oh, what would you do? Oh, my God, Susan. I caught myself. You didn't even catch it. I did. Oh, no, I did.

I was waiting for you to do it. Whatever. Go ahead. What would I do? You would have a conversation about it. You would say it's been eight months. I would think you would meet the children be probably by six months. So this actually happened to me with the guy I dated and you know who we're talking about.

And he was exactly the opposite. He wanted me to meet his kids right away. And I was like, nope, nope. I think in this case, knowing me and the kind of person I am, I would have already, if this relationship were going anywhere, I had have already met his kids before eight months. And I think that's exactly what you would do. You would have already met the kids or it's not going.

That's a definite no brain. Okay. You're hosting a brunch at your house. house with homemade Bloody Mary's. Someone accidentally spilled a ton of the Bloody Mary mix. So you're very low on the most popular drink at the party. You bring one over to a guest of yours that you didn't realize was vegetarian. And there's bacon on the garnish.

After taking a sip, they apologize and ask if they could have a brand new one without the bacon. With little despair, a friend recommends just taking the bacon out and giving it back to them. What do you do? What you would do? Yeah. You'd take the bacon out and give it right back to him. Am I right? What would I do?

You don't have to have the bacon. You would say, I have none left. I'll take the bacon out. No, I would say, if there's enough for another drink, I would say, who wants this drink with the bacon in it? I got to make one without the bacon. Like, that's also a no brainer. Yeah, it is. All right.

All right. You're redecorating your home when a friend with a very successful handmade furniture business offered to make you a custom coffee table. You only declined due to the price despite getting a hefty discount. And your friend completely understood. Later that week, you passed by a big competitor of your friend's business and fell in love with a coffee table in the window, priced a little higher than your friend's offer. you really want to buy it but you worry your friend will ask about it the next time they are over what do you do

Susan buys the coffee table and says stuff it if you don't like it there's no i wouldn't say that but but i would buy the one i want it yeah of course you would so what would i do so would you absolutely absolutely and you know what people need to learn that your friend's business you wish them well you hope that they, you know, make a great business and sell lots of furniture, that doesn't mean you have to buy their furniture. No, it doesn't. It doesn't. And I probably, like, feel odd when they came over.

Why? Because I didn't buy it from them. It's a different coffee table. It's a different coffee table. It is. It is. Anyway. That's a new brain or two.

They were easy ones today. I passed everybody out there. You hear that? I didn't fail today. Susan, you are really, you are marking it up here. I am impressed. And that is going to do it. We're going to end it on that happy note, Susan.

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