Bachelor Happy Hour - Rachel & Becca Look Back at the Hilarious, Shocking, and Most Dramatic Moments in ‘Happy Hour’ History

Episode Date: April 27, 2021

The countdown to 100 is on! In today’s 99th episode, Rachel and Becca reminisce about some of their favorite and most memorable moments in “Bachelor Happy Hour” history. They reveal what they were thinking during some of the most controversial interviews and share the conversations they had after the interviews ended. From Blake’s in-depth sit-down after his “Paradise” drama to Rachel and Becca’s discussion about race, diversity, and Bachelor Nation, the hosts relive some of their biggest moments. Plus, Rachel shares some major news that you won’t want to miss.   Don’t forget to rate and subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome back, Happy Hour listeners. How is everybody doing? We are thrilled to be here on another Tuesday with you. Rachel, before we begin and before I get into what this podcast episode is going to entail, you recently celebrated your birthday. So happy, belated. How was it? Thank you.

It was good. You know, I was like trying to be. real adult like and say, you know what, it's, I'm a blessed for another year. I'm going to work today and I'm going to celebrate with Brian at night. And as I got into the day and I started to work, I hated it. I don't want to work on my birthday. I tried to rationalize it and say, oh, it's Wednesday, Rachel. Like, what are you really going to do on a Wednesday? You got to still go to work on Thursday. Never again. I'm going to, you know, matter of fact, tomorrow when I go to work, I'm going to take off April 21st, 2022. I'm not doing it again.

Get it in the books. Get it in the books. I'm not going to do it. But other than that, it was a great, it was a great day. It was a blessing. It's hard because there's so much going on in the world. And it's like, it's just hard to celebrate when, when there's just a lot that's on your mind. But try to find, you know, good moments throughout the day. So thank you. A lot, a lot of love from people. I have yet to be able to respond back to any message. I'm like trying to sift through and get to the business of it. But yeah. So thank you for asking.

But in other big news, I can't even believe that I'm sitting here and I'm about to say this. But Rachel, next week, it is officially our 100th episode of Bachelor Happy Hour. And it's like, it's, I feel like I just started working on the podcast yesterday, but it also has felt like 20 years. It's crazy to think that we've, we've almost hit. 100, I feel like we should get the 100, you know, the balloons that people use when they get like 100,000 followers or something like for Instagram. Yeah. Something fun like that to celebrate. But in honor of that next week, we are going to be counting down some of our favorite moments that we've had so far on Bachelor Happy Hour. Bless, stay tuned for the end of this episode because we have

some big exciting news coming from Rachel as well. So before we get into this, how are you feeling after almost 100 episodes. You've summed it up perfectly. It feels like we just started, but at the same time, I feel like we've been doing this forever. I can't believe it's, so really, I mean, we started this in summer,

in the summer, 2019. And it's really been great, just like building this Bachelor Happy Hour audience, not being able to pick out a name for our listeners. Which we still have yet to do. We could come up. We couldn't come. It's so easy to either offend people, people didn't like it.

I don't, we, sorry, you guys. So you're still just our happy hour listeners. But it's like the conversations that we've had, whether it's been fun, whether it's been serious over, you know, like, I feel like we've been able to be an example for, for different people. And, yeah, I'm proud of what we've built with this, with this platform. It's just, it's so much more than The Bachelor. Like, it is The Bachelor, but it's about friendship.

It's about life. It's about current affairs. It's about, you know, it's everything. It's about people. Yes. So true. So well said. And I think for me personally, I was very hesitant to join the podcast because, you know, I mean... You were. I did know that. We have multiple conversations about it. It wasn't something, you know, obviously I wasn't at the beginning with you when it was you and Allie. And I was really on the edge of, you know, do I want to still stay? so inundated in the bachelor world. And especially, I had such like a love, hate relationship with Bachelor Nation for a while. Like, I wasn't used to them being, you know, all up in your grill and just used to them constantly, like, giving their opinions and everything. And so I was like, okay, I could either go one way and be like very, very, you know, still a part of this or I could, you know, just go live my life. And it honestly wasn't until I started just,

I think, being a guest with you. And we did a couple episodes where I was just a guest. co-host and I had such an absolute blast. And it was because of you. You were the reason that sold me because I was like, it's just girl time. And at that point, we were in the studio face to face hanging out and it was just so different than it is now. And that's why. So for everyone listening, it's because of Rachel Lindsay that I'm here, whether you want to thank her or hate her, I don't know. No. You have been an absolute joy to have as a co-host. And I remember when we were bringing different people in and you know like we were kind of testing or not and then like you came in and we just clicked and we had such a good time and then you were like I'm not sure if I want to do it

and it was like wait wait wait wait wait we kind of like really want Becca to do it I remember I told Megan I was like back was really good like that like really flowed Megan's a producer on the show you guys but and she was like I know and then you're like I don't know I thought we had that in the bag I'm so glad that you changed your mind. And I'm glad that what we've been able to do together. It's just, it's been great. Yeah, it has been. And it's just a really cool, special opportunity, I guess, experience to be doing this

alongside you as the first official Bachelor podcast. And I just feel very grateful for the opportunity that you guys wanted me and that it did flow and we did click. But yeah, it's been, it's been quite, I hate to say the journey like the show, but that's what it's been. So I mean, I think with that, we just got to get into it because you guys, as I said, we're going to be counting down some of our favorite best Bachelor Happy Hour moments in chronological order. So to kick it off, let's just start at the very beginning. We have to cover when this all began, when Bachelor Happy Hour was birth. And unfortunately, I was not an actual

part of it at that point. Rachel, it was just you and Allie. But that this is, this is our starting point, this is number one, the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast premiere. Yes. Hi, guys. I'm Rachel Lindsay. And I'm Allie for the Towsky Mano. And you are listening to Bachelor Happy Hour. This is our first podcast. I know. I'm so excited. We've been talking about this for a while. This is something that we're really passionate about. And we feel like as two former bacheloretts who have two completely different stories, we've got a lot that we can tell. You've been the success story. I am the failure.

Okay. Failure in Bachelor Nation, but not outside of Bachelor's nation. Not in life. Not in life. I know. I'm so excited about this show, you guys, because I have been a super fan of the show ever since I was The Bachelor. It's pretty much a decade ago, 10 years ago now.

We're going to have the most exclusive guests on this podcast. No, we're going to have breaking news. We're going to have guests before anyone else gets them on the podcast. We'll be giving behind the scenes information, only that two former bachelorettes can give. How does it feel listening to that back, episode one? I'm laughing because that Rachel is dead. There's just no other way to say it. I'm listening and there's just so much life and optimism and in excitement and starting something new.

And it was and that was all real and it was, you know, nothing like this had happened before. Outside of the show, there was really nothing that the show was doing for talent. So I was thrilled to be asked to be a part of it. I remember thinking, are you sure you want me to have the mic for opinions? And, you know, it was the whole, Ali and I were a stark contrast to one another, both that's or else, but just like different worlds, different opinions. Yeah, and I listen and I just smile. And I'm like, oh, if only she knew what lies.

oh gosh what a young green rachel that was and that ended so interesting too because that was in the middle of like obviously like when your season aired versus now and like there's so much that has gone on and i think even within the past couple recent seasons so much has changed so i can only imagine what it felt like sitting down in the studio at that point with alley the part that stuck out to me. And I, I, sorry, I'd never listen to the very first episode of the podcast. That's okay. I love when Allie says, you are the success story and I'm the failure and look where we're at now, everybody. It's really come full circle in a completely different way. But it's fun. It's just, I can't believe that was back in 2019. And think of how much,

not only in Bachelor Nation and the franchise of the chain, but like in the world in, what am in the world in general, like how much has happened? Yeah. Oh, it's crazy. So that was actually three weeks before my wedding. So it was like I was in a wild place that premiered three weeks before. We got married on the 24th of August. So it was just a wild time. But it really was, you know, like if I can, like, oh, just a little of me can tap back in and find that, Rachel.

It was exciting because we were going to talk about a show that we were a part of. Whether it was, as Ali said, a success or a failure, we weren't limited on what we could say. We could have these free-flowing opinions. People were either going to agree with us or they weren't, but we were going to have this community, build a community where people could come, they could listen to us, you know, they could argue with us with social media, Reddit, wherever they wanted to, wherever it may be. But I just remember thinking we are starting a community, and that was exciting. And we still have two years later, almost 100 episodes later, here we are with this community.

And it just keeps growing and growing. That it does. And with that, let's just keep going, rolling through our second best Bachelor Happy Hour moment. Rachel, do you want to do the honors of this one? Oh, yeah. So take this one away. You guys remember this one. I caught a lot of heat for this.

This was in the height of the paradise slash stagecoach scandal. This is where Blake did an unprecedented move, where he leaked the text messages that he received from Kalen. Okay? This was, we had a part one and a part two because it was so good. It was so juicy. You guys, here it is. That night, when I released those text messages, I really was, I was breathing into a paper bag. Like, it was incredibly difficult for me.

And a decision like that, you do reach out for advice, and especially advice for people. who have been in situations like me and in Bachelor nation. And a lot of people, they didn't even really say, no, don't do it. They were like, if you do this, know what's the consequences are, that kind of thing. And I did reach out. And some, you know, there were a few that were like, you have, like the thing she's saying, like, you have to do it. Like, I don't see I have any other choice.

And so when people say, you know, what did you was premeditated or whatever, I, it was such a hard decision for me. I wanted to reach out and I wanted to talk to other people and I wanted to see if anybody else had any other ideas. I want to see if there was any other avenue I could take. And at the end of the day, as hard as it was, I felt like that was the only thing I could do to get truth, my truth out there. And because I didn't know a lot of things she was saying. Woo! I was traveling internationally when all of this was going down and I remember hearing about it. All my phone was going crazy when I was in Bali this week. This is why I never would ever want to do Paradise because of this. Listen, I mean, Blake made a bed. He had to lie in it.

He let a few people lie in that bed. But I think what I was very much so, if we're talking about teams, you know, I don't agree with, you know, revealing private messages, but I felt like at that moment because Blake was being lied on and we had actually had a podcast at the time with Kalin that we couldn't even air because there was just so much inconsistency and or inconsistencies and lies and it was just a really messy situation. I was even DMing Amanda, is it Cifre, Cifred, Cifred, I think Cifred. I was DMing Amanda Cifred about it because so many people had opinions. It was a big thing. But I, what I think the best thing to come out of that conversation because I don't want to rehash it is that we had a discussion about mental

health. I mean, Blake really suffered a lot. And I think for the, correct me if I'm wrong, and I apologize if I am, but I feel like for the first time in a long, if not ever, we talked about the problematic nature of the fan base and how people talk to us like we aren't humans, like their words don't affect us. And Blake went to a really, really dark place. And I think that that's why I would lean more towards team Blake because I felt like somebody needed to publicly have his back and I understood both sides of the story. So yeah, I'm proud of that interview because I felt like we gave Blake a platform. I felt like we touched on mental health. And at the same time, listen, they're both better off from it. Like, Kalin seems to be in a great relationship

with Dean and Blake has, you know, found, like learned from that, those mistakes. He's not a fuck boy anymore and Bachelor Nation and really seems I love Blake really I really do I really seems to be doing this thing so DJing or you know whatever so yeah everybody's better off now yeah it's so interesting because at that point in time um Blake and I like weren't really talking obviously I was still in my past relationship and um lately Blake and I have just built up our friendship and have had a lot of conversations about this so I know a little bit more of the back story, but yeah, playing into mental health and the fan base and how much what people watch on an episode that obviously at the end of the day, it's reality TV, but how much stock they put into it and they form these sides and these alliances, but then they turn so cruel and they're like, well, I'm on this side, so here's a death threat coming to the other side's way. It's just it gets really toxic and, you know, people always say like at the end of the day you signed up for a TV. show. It's like, yeah, everyone that's on the show did sign up. Yes, we're all consenting

adults here, but you don't sign up for the hate. And you really can't. And we've said this time and time again on the podcast. You can't expect it. And so I think he was in a very dark place. I think he's since then pulled himself out of there. And as you said, they're both in better places and they're both doing well on their own. And he's really, I think, normalized talking about mental health and having a safe space and having future cast members that are coming from the show and off of the show to have somebody

that they can maybe reach out to and lean on and who would maybe go through something similar. You know, and at the end of the day, it's paradise. Like, everyone talks before the show, right? Like, we've saw it in the past couple weeks. Everyone from different seasons, they're already hanging out. It's like, it's just now

being normalized because of everything that went down two years ago on Paradise. And it's crazy to think. Like, it's been two years since past Paradise. but yeah. And a past and a stage coach. Yeah. Number three, oh, this is one of my favorite episodes. This is one of my first episodes that I ever recorded with you, Rage.

But we had the fabulous Neil Lane on to talk all about how he got his start with the Hollywood stars. And you'll listen right here. And then when I came to Hollywood, I met this amazing young movie stars. They weren't yet famous. And I was friendly with them, like friends. And I started designing jewelry, and then when they became famous where Angela L. Jolie came in and got a Brad Pitt band. I mean, Becca, who are we? No, but you have to understand.

When you say, who are we, you are, you are who you are. You are we, we. You are, though. No, but you are. Because I've dealt with so, I've, I've so many amazing experiences working with Ellen or a ring with Portia. I wanted to share that. I had a lot of stuff to give. And I couldn't just give it from my little store.

First, I didn't have that store that you saw it. I had a little counter. When I first came together, I had a little jewelry counter 10 feet wide. So I wasn't who I am today then. Just hearing his voice puts a massive smile on my face. You know what exactly. See, it's moments like this why I love the podcast because we've all seen Nillang, right? You've seen him on the show.

He opens up the case. You get a little background story on some of the podcast. the rings. And that's it. You had no idea there was so much behind that beautiful man. Neil Lane is a gift. It is a shame. It's almost criminal that they have not given us more and I am so happy that we were able to just, you know, show the audience, Batser Nation, something that they had not seen before. The only thing that shines brighter than a Nealane Diamond is Mr. Nealane, And I'm going to leave it at that. He is a gem to behold. And you know what? I just think we need to

have another podcast episode with him or maybe just have it co-hosts with us. One of the one of the two, because I just can't get enough of him. He's just so vibrant. He just, oh, he just has such a kind soul. He's so funny. Like there's so much to him. So yeah, that that not only is one of my favorite, I think, moments, but favorite episodes that we've ever had. Same with me. We were laughing the entire time. It's one of the first ones we did in person together, if not the first. Yeah, all three of us were together. Gosh, I miss that so much. I miss being able to do the podcast together. I know. There's just something different about being in person. One day soon. Okay. Next one. Next one. We've got Friendsgiving, our first Friendsgiving. We had great

guest, myself. Brian, the husband. Joe, Kendall, Eric Biggers for my season, Tasha, Tasha pre-bachelorette, Katie Morton, and we played a little game, an oldie but a goodie. Never have I ever. We've already talked about this. Never have I ever slid into another member of Bachelor Nation's DMs. In general, did you know them before? Because I've, I DMTHA before. Katie, I feel like you're trying to rationalize it, drink. And just for all of you out there Those who are drinking are Eric Katie Oh I got a drink

Tasha Brian I'm looking at you real quick to make sure You're not drinking on this one That's right I was Who lost the game Probably me I don't remember

I love never have I ever That game never gets sold But that was That was a lot of fun Because also it was my first time meeting. I don't think I had ever met Tasha. Ooh, I hope I'm not wrong when to say this, but I think that was my first time meeting her in person. And same with other people's. Other people had met before. So it was really fun getting to know one another for the first

time and on the mic. There's nothing like good old fashioned middle school games. Like never ever, truth and dare. And but there's just, and obviously I wasn't there at this Friendsgiving, but there's just something about going back to just being in person and like being in a group setting with everyone being able to play this game and too like and this is the thing it was probably one of the first times that several of the people at this party met each other for the first time it's like yeah people talk and DM and kind of get to know each other that way but but there's something special just bonds you in a weird way um so yeah if anyone ever once we can be together in public recording playing games again sign me up I want to be at all the never have I ever games all the

Friendsgivings to come. All right. So, well, I guess the next one, finally, I am officially involved in Bachelor Happy Hour when I was announced on January 7th, I think it was, as the next co-host with Rachel. What's up, everybody? Welcome to another episode of Bachelor Happy Hour. Got my girl Becca here, my new co-host. We're very happy right now.

We are happy because I feel like the people have been asking, right? Man, I don't even remember that. Do you know what I remember is, but even before we filmed that, do you remember we were at, I was at The Real and you came up there and we did our photo shoot? Yes. Remember that? We did our photo shoot and like T-Pain was performing. Remember that?

At Tori Lanes and they like walked by. We're like just trying to hold in our roses doing our house. Happy Hour thing. That was funny. I remember that. Gosh. And I was like, oh, this is going to be so much fun. And I remember you, I think you had like a dressing room off the side and you had all these cute outfits and dresses. And I brought like one romper that I probably wore for a press appearance like when I was still a bachelor at or something. And I just remember looking and being like, oh, yeah, this is pretty accurate. Rachel's fabulous. And here I am just like with my paper bag. You looked great. That was so fun. because we didn't do that. I didn't do that with Allie. We didn't have the promo shoot. It's like that we picked different pictures. So it felt very official to do like a professional shoot to announce you at the start of the year.

Oh gosh, that was the start of 2020. I know. What we didn't know was going to happen. It was like 2020, this is our year new co-host. We have like new, what was it? New Year, New Duo or something. That was it. New Year, New Duo.

New Year, New Year, New Year, New. shit. That's what the motto should have been because 2020, good grief. Oh, seriously. If only somebody would have sat us out and been like, look, you guys only will be in studio for two months together. Actually, what I miss most though is remember, I used to drive up once or twice a week to record with you and I would always have Minow. So Minow was like the little office mascot and she'd be jumping all over the place, like chewing on her bones, barking, getting all the attention. But I was going through old photos because I'm trying to clean out my camera because I have zero storage. And I have one of you and I sitting there. I'll send it to you. And Minow is sitting on one of the producers' laps with her

ears poking up and it's just us like with the with the promo shot in the background. It's just a really cute photo. Just so many good memories. I know. I'm with you. Doing it in a person I miss so so so much. But it's so funny how it's not funny, but just like, wow, the way that year started off to where, you know, we are now. Happy we were still able to make the podcast happen from a distance, but man. Oh, yeah. All right, Rich, you're up for this next one. I remember this one.

So this was a big night. It's not just the guess that we had on this one. It was everything that was surrounding it. It's what was supposed to happen, but didn't. Ooh, you guys, this was a night. This was a night, a lot of behind-the-scenes stuff. this is we talked to Hannah Ann after the final rose well after after the final rose and it's about Hannah Ann looking back on her season with Peter and then she just talks about watching the season

and how it gave her more clarity on her breakup who here we go I'll always have you know a special place for him but I mean he's betrayed me misled me and that alone has and watching back the season that really resolved a lot of, like, extra feelings I had for him. I mean, just, I'm watching a play-by-play of me getting deceived. And that alone was, you know, a slap in the face, and it's helped me move forward. But, you know, to be honest, when I looked over at his family, yeah, I did, you know, when it's hurt to cry and just, you know, I felt like, you know, me and Peter just had this awesome situation. and it was like just stripped away from me so quickly.

You know, it was a future that I lost, but more importantly, it was the loss of a person I thought he was. Wow. I feel like that was a week ago that we were sitting, we were sitting right over at the Warner lot with Hannah Ann watching the finale. And to give everyone context, Rachel and I were at the finale. We were not in the crowd, but we were backstage in a holding room with, Mr. Neil Lane, which made everything so much more enjoyable that evening.

So much better. And we actually, I mean, like, when we went up to the room to record, we thought we were going to be meeting with at that point, Peter and whoever he picked, obviously. That did not happen. There was drama going down in the room next to us, which is all I was thinking about. But that one was so interesting because it was like this mix of emotions. Like, you and I were, like, vibing, having fun together with Neil, but then we were with Hannah who was newly broken up with and having to like relive and rewatch this heartbreak on TV and my

heart was breaking for her because I knew how she felt and it was just such a strange finale in general and I just remember like watching Hannah speak and just like wanting to hold her and be like it's going to be okay like you're so much better off like just if you know just give it time type thing um but the things that stuff do you remember stopping the interview halfway through and you're like, wait, guess who just tweeted about Hannah Ann? Oh, yeah. Kim Kay. Kim Kay.

She was, it was a power girl moment for Hannah Ann that night. At AFR, it carried into the podcast. I mean, she really came into her own. She had those new extensions, like she had the whole new look. She was ready. And rightfully so. She had watched the season. She had a lot to say.

She had so much support. So many people were rallying around her. And I was happy for her. I was proud of her. She won me over during that interview as well. And yeah, it seems that date-wise, that stands out to me because the next day is when the world shut down, like completely shut down. So that will always stand in my mind because it's like we had new coronavirus was here, but we had no idea the impact it was going to have. And that next 24 hours was just crazy, not just the finale, but that.

as well. And it seems like Peters have five lives since then. He mean, he's definitely had five girlfriends, but five lives as well. Yeah, a lot has changed for everyone. That was our, that was our very last one in person. Very last one. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, as you said, the world shut down. Basically, the next day, I flew to Minnesota, did my very last Bachelor live on stage show, and and then it was the 2020 quarantine that lasted forever. Yeah. But, yeah, I I'm glad to, in moments like that, where we finally were able to give Hannah Ann more of a voice. There wasn't much that we saw of her throughout Peter's season. And so it's giving women, especially women, because I'm always wanted champion for the females and men too, but, you know, got a soft spotter in my heart for the girls, to just show more of their personality, show more of their feelings and their emotions and their thoughts and opinions.

And so, yeah, that one is one that will always stick out to me. but the next one is also one of my favorites. It was one that we did. We were in person, but it wasn't in the studio. It was actually when Ben Higgins and I welcomed Rachel onto our tour bus when we were here for an episode of, or when we were here for a Bachelor live on stage show that Rachel interviewed us about on the tour bus. We gave her the grand old tour that lasted about 32 seconds. But then you also came on to the stage that night, which was one of my favorite. favorite most fun shows that we've ever done i i'll tell you yes we we filmed this early it aired later

but um oh yeah yeah i remember we we aired it later but for me this stood out because it was so cool to see you do your thing you know it was so cool to like yes you were my co-host but it was like i was coming into your world literally on your fancy tour bus seeing how you guys lived on the road i was a roadie Absolutely. It was just so fun. And I had no idea. It was one of those things where we heard about Bachelor Live on stage, but you don't know until you know until you get there. And I hear you talk about it, but to see you on stage hosting, interacting with the crowd, interacting, it was a bachelor. Well, they were all bachelors, I guess. So interacting with like the bachelor and the women on stage and like you were shining. And I was like a proud parent. I was like sitting back there. just, it was so cool. So, like, that will always stand out. Like, I hope you guys are able to bring it back or do some kind of form of the, the live on stage, because it was really, really cool. It was a wild show. I remember we went into the audience, and girls were like a mob after Peter. They were like, screaming for Peter. I don't know if they would do that today,

but they were like, Peter, like, pushing me out of the way. And I was like, y'all can have. have them. I was trying to block. And that was the height of his season. Like, he was still, his season was still airing at that point. It was like a week or two, maybe before his finale. But the best part of the night that does not get enough recognition. So if anyone out there is listening and how's the clip if you were at the LA show,

there was one point when I brought Rachel out on stage with me for the lip-sick competition and you were telling one of the girls to get down. on the ground and crawl. And she did it in her dress. So she's crawling on the ground. And I'm like, yeah, Rach, I'm going to take this for future shows. She was great. That girl was great.

She was all in. But no one of it says no to Rachel Lindsay. So, yeah, that was one of my favorite moments. Just having you on stage two. It was just so fun. And like to bring you in with Ben. And like, it was a wild show. It was wild.

Yeah. But let's roll the clip of when you got to see the, uh, crandal tour bus. We knew that Batchermation would show up. You know, we've always known the fans are great. But the moment Ben and I stepped on stage and heard the applause and the cheers and they were standing up cheering for us, I think in that moment I realized, like, this is going to be a wild, crazy experience in the best possible way. And we've all done appearances and meeting greets and have met fans of Batchar Nation,

which is great, but to hear them watching a show and feeling like they're actually watching The Bachelor, Bachelorette. Like, this is how they probably spend their Mondays. It's something so incredible. And every night, I think we've been blown away by the fans and how interactive they are, how much they are cheering or booing sometimes. And it's really cool to see. I wish we could videotape just the fan reaction and the audience throughout the entire shows.

It's really cool. I want to cry. I miss it so much. I think I'm glad that that's the clip that, that play. you saying that part because I remember talking about that and I think that's what was so cool is we do this podcast, we only see us. Social media, we're reading comments or we're seeing, you know, whatever, DMs. But that's the first time. Even AFR, it's like such a, it's a limited amount of people to get to come. So Batchel Live on stage is almost like a fan appreciation tour

where you get to see the people who watch every Monday night, who make the show what it is. who make, like, us as contestants on the show what we are. And so it's, it was pretty cool to see people, like, to see the fans. And I don't, and there's nothing else like that that exists at all. So, yeah, that's pretty cool. And that's where it's, especially lately, because we've been so removed and it is just basically social media where you are interacting with people from Bachelor Nation, I don't give them enough credit for like the great, amazing people out there.

There's so much just support and love that, like, it's just special when people, like, could come to the tour and feel like they were finally part of the Bachelor world for a night, whether it was the girls competing on stage who, you know, we would come to their towns and they finally, like, could get dressed up and feel beautiful for a night and feel seen and heard and appreciated. And then to have the fans be able to interact and give their feedback of who they like and who, you know, they want to see the lead succeed. with. It's just, it's something really special. And, you know, I've missed it. It's been well over a year since that ended. And, and hearing that back and the excitement, like, it took me back to just night by night, like, how Ben and I felt and how much we loved it. And we formed, like, the special family on the road. And, and, you know, so long story short, I don't know what's going to happen about drive on stage. I think we're hopeful it'll come back in 2022 early on. So fingers crossed. I'm going to manifest it now

because I have to say I did not, I know I did it, Mino's a Diva. We both did not get enough of that tour bus life. We still want to live like Lady Gaga for a few months. So we're going to manifest it now that it's coming back bigger and stronger and better next year. That's right.

Absolutely. 2022. It's happening. It's a year. Okay, so the next one, this is a pretty cool moment. Most of the times the guests that we have on the show, our former contestants, former leads.

But then I felt like we stepped into having fans that were celebrities on the show. And this was a big one. We thought we were bringing someone on because they were on a judge on Listen to Your Heart. And little did we know that they were a big fan. Check this one out. Okay, Kesha. We have to ask you, how.

was your experience being on this show? Because this is the first time you've been affiliated with the Bachelor franchise. It's quite an experience. You're talking to two former Bachelorette's here. How was it for you? I know. I'm like a little geeking out because I have to tell you I'm such a fan. I've been like a secret fan for a very long time. Me and all my girlfriends, we always like get drunk and watch The Bachelor and Bachelorette. Always the Bachelorette is way more entertaining. I love when the woman has the power. I love that, Kesha. I wish you could see my face right now because I have the biggest grin. That was a wow moment. Oh, seriously. Like, even re-listening to that back, I'm still blown away like,

Kesha, wait, you love this show. You know who we are. What? It's crazy. And, oh, man, that's the cool thing. And I think the fact that listened to your heart came at such a good time, like right when the world was really shutting down and people had no idea how long. quarantine and this pandemic was going to last. It was a new show that I think brought people together in a different way, but allowed us to branch out and not just talk to cast, but to talk to actual celebrities and talented, so talented musicians. It was just a really cool thing for us,

I think, personally, to be able to have Kesha on and just, like, kick it with her. Right. Just so down to earth. It's like totally cool vibe. And I think what's fun, too, is you're starting to now see people not be, and by people, I mean, like, celebrities, not be ashamed to say that they're in Bachelor Nation. And so I think that's what was fun about Kesha saying, like she said, I secretly used to watch it. Now people are like, I'm in this thing.

You know, just like you are with other reality shows, like Housewives or Vanderpump Rules or whatever it may be, Summer House. So it was fun that she owned it. She was a fan of us. It's like, you never know who is watching this show out there. Right. So that was a pretty cool moment. And you guys, she's one of you. That's the thing.

She's one of you. So there's plenty of others out there. And I hope that, you know, as the show continues, the podcast, that more people who, you know, like when worlds cross over, that's what I hear people say all the time. Oh, my gosh, my two worlds are crossing over. So I hope that we're able to cross your worlds over even more by bringing in someone who's a super fan of the show. but you might be a fan of something of their artistry in another way. Yes. All right.

Well, this next episode that we had was, I think, for me personally, one of the most life-changing, impactful ones. It really, truly, to be honest, was just such a catalyst for change in my life personally. And hopefully for many of you listening, it was for you as well. I think it was our most listened to episode to date. I could be wrong, but I believe it was the number one. It is. So this was the one where Rachel and I sat down after the blackout Tuesday, after George Floyd was murdered, where we really set the stage for an important conversation about racism and just overall race and diversity within the Bachelor franchise Bachelor Nation as a whole. So listen in. We aren't new to this. It's just now because of everything that's happening in the world, we have your attention. And so since we do have your attention, It's so important that Becca and I address this right now and we show we give an example of what it is to be a black woman and a white woman and to sit down with each other and have a mutual respect for one another and have these meaningful conversations to hopefully create change because that's what we want to do.

We want to talk to each other and hopefully reach our bachelor nation community and maybe you can then go out and have these uncomfortable conversations with some of your friends, some of your family members. your co-workers. And so hopefully we can all work together to create this change that is necessary for our country. And that one was, that one aired June 9th of 2020. And it is one that still to this day, I think people should listen into and re-listen to. And it's one that I still relisten to to learn from or to take note from or to see us together, you know, sometimes having different opinions and backgrounds and thoughts and just to still be able to come together and have meaningful, impactful conversations. Yeah. I mean, just thinking of my mindset during that time, I was like in a really, really dark place, but I remember wanting to have a conversation

where we could reach people that needed to be reached, you know? It's a different audience than on higher learning or maybe something else that I do. And I feel like people value your opinion, Becca. They value my opinion. And to come together during such a tough time that our country was in or what we were going through personally, and to be able to be bigger than that and have that hard conversation, I'm so proud of this episode. It is by far my favorite.

it. And I still get people who will have randomly stumbled across it and said, hey, I don't watch The Bachelor. I don't listen to your podcast. But somebody forwarded this to me. Somebody brought this to my attention. And that's what I mean when earlier in this podcast and I talk about this, what we do can be bigger than The Bachelor because of what we bring our own personal experience, realness, rawness to this podcast. And so I think that that is the highlight of it to me. I never thought we would be having that type of conversation. Hopefully there are more conversations like that to come. And I hope we inspired a lot of people to do and be better from that one. And I think to, I mean, as you said, you know, people will still stumble upon it and listen to it and reach out to you.

And same for me. Like people still will be. be in my DMs every now and again and they'll send it to me and they'll be like this clip really resonated with me or um you know I look like you and my family grew up in the south and this is kind of our situation whatever it might be but this allowed me to have a conversation and that's one thing that starting here you know June 9th of 2020 and and knowing you know like this is this is the starting point but I need to continue these conversations not only on a public platform but in my white circles back home and with people that don't always see eye to eye and to just keep continuing this conversation, keep pushing forward. That's probably been one of the most, I think, impactful

things just in my life that I've learned I can do and with others. And so the fact that people still to this day will reach out and say, you know, we learned something or we had this takeaway or maybe I could apply this in the future. That's what's really important. That's the special thing. And I don't think when we sat down at that point, we knew what it could potentially turn into or what it could be. So it's been very, very unique, interesting to see, but still one, again, that, you know, almost a year later still applies, right? There's still, yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely applies. It's funny because when we were going to come into that podcast, I was mad at the franchise. It's like, I had written out this whole thing, and I was like, this is what I'm going to say.

And I think I started that way, but then it turned into like what was really weighing on my heart as well. And so, yeah, no, I'm just like, I'm just thinking about it. Like, I'm trying not to go back to that place. It was such a dark place. But I'm so glad something good came out of that moment. All right, Bachelor, happy hour listeners. We do have one more and one that's very important because it's not only. with a fan favorite that we had from Matt's season,

but it's also an impactful episode that we had with Abigail because she, you know, as you know, if you've watched Matt's season, she is a member of the hearing-impaired community. And it was very much more so about inclusivity and really sharing her story with the world and having people within her community feel like they finally have a voice and they can be part of the Bachelor Nation, if you will. So take a listen.

I mean, it was amazing. I think just the traveling to get where we were in the quarantine process, I think it really just made all of us just really appreciate just that human connection of, you know, hugging somebody, talking to somebody, reading their lips when they're talking. So I think it really just made us really appreciate all the efforts that went into this bubble and making it safe for us to date in a way that we're used to. And especially for me, because, you know, just we're just, we're in. a mask in general is very hard because I do rely on lip reading. And so the fact that I could just

talk to Matt, you know, the first time without a mask on and not have to, you know, ask him what, you know, the very first time I'm meeting him because, you know, you just really want that, you know, moment to be as special as possible. I remember that moment hit me and I thought, man, the things we take for granted. Gosh, like never did it even cross my mind that wearing a mask takes away the ability for her to read lips. Like, things you don't have to worry about. We take advantage of it. It was such a slap in the face for me.

And that's why her being on the show is so powerful. And it opens our eyes so much. And that's why representation is so important. That's why representation matters. And she should have been a betty. I'm going to say it. She should have been a betty. Lost opportunity.

Well, I will say after that episode, too, I had reached out to her just thanking her. I try to thank most people that come on, you know, unless they're... You're better than me. Unless they're terrible. But I did DM her and I was just like, look, you know, you have my full support if you, if they want you as Bachelorette.

Yeah, and that's the thing, you know, during Matt's season, we had some not so great contestants, but we also did have a lot of incredible women. That's a great, had some great women. Like Abigail, Maggie, just so many. more people with different life stories that can open your eyes and your views and have you learn something. And so, yeah, to play along, like, you know, when you mentioned it, it was like a slap in the face. After having her on, I tried to pay attention. Going out to dinner, how often is it harder for you to place an order, have, you know, like, hear what your server is trying to say

to you. Like so many times, I'm like, what, I'm sorry. I missed that. And, you know, and I can't even imagine being Abigail where that's so, you know, she relies on that so much more. And so I think it was a really special episode to have her on. I'm glad that we had her on early in the season before all of the chaos really panned out for Matt and some of the women. But yeah, that was a good one. And where you say this is exactly why we need more inclusivity and representation, she is a great example of that. So Abigail, if you're out there, you always have our support. And if you ever become Betty, we have your back girlfriend.

So those are our top 10. happy hour happy moments I don't know I shouldn't even say all happy because I think somewhere you know meaningful yeah they were all meaningful great we could have done 10 more

so many great moments from this this show oh man well I'm going to say it now and I'm going to say it probably 17 times next week I can't believe it's almost the 100th episode Rachel it has been an absolute pleasure and blast being able to do this alongside you and before we go I know that you had a message that you wanted to share

with all of our listeners. So I'm going to give you the mic. Yeah. First of all, it's been a pleasure for me to be working with you as well. It doesn't feel like work, but I guess technically it is because we get paid to do this. But, you know, I'm going to make this short and sweet. All good things must come to an end. And I feel like certain things run their course.

And for me, I have run my course when it comes to the podcast. You know, we started off this podcast talking about how much fun it is and it is. And the community that we've started and we're already here with the 100th episodes and I'm proud of it and what it's become. And it started off with Ali, who's fantastic. I feel like I don't give her enough praise. And then Ali had to go and you came in and you like didn't miss a beat. And that's been a lot of fun to get to see our friendship grow through the podcast, just to have. have fun with all the new blood that's coming in from the show, to work through hard moments,

to come here and vent when we're going through something. Like, that's what the podcast gives you that community. But for me, you know, I've, you know, I've been struggling and there's no, that's no secret. And it's been really, really hard for me lately. And a lot of the things that we talk about on this podcast are also about taking care of yourself and finding your peace and protecting, protecting that peace and protecting. your mental health. And so for me, I just feel like I've come to the end of doing the podcast. And I'm glad that I'm leaving on a high note where it's the 100th episode. It's such a big

milestone. This is the first podcast I've ever done. And for me, you know, it's just a step. It's a stepping away. You know, you should never say never. I'm definitely closing the door, but I'm not like locking it and throwing away the key. It's just I have to, for me walk away. And I feel like this podcast is in amazing hands with you. For you, I just feel like this is at a place where I can walk away and I know it's all good and I know it's going to be great. And you've allowed me to have the space to step away when I needed to and I would listen to the podcast on the side and I'm like, oh, she's got this. And like for me, it's like, you can walk away now. I can walk away. I'm doing some other things. I'm sure I'll pop in.

from time to time to say hello, to read somebody, to pop off, to vent. No, actually, I probably won't because y'all scared that out of me, right? Those days are gone. Y'all remember, if you want to remember what was with Rachel, go listen to the first moment we recap today. That was, that, listen to that Rachel to this Rachel right now. She's scared to have an opinion. She's scared to say it. She's scared to be a headline. No, no, no, no. In all seriousness, it's just time. It's just time for me to move on. And I will be supporting you from a distance. All the Bachelor Happy Hour listeners, the community. And I just want to say thank you guys for riding with me for such a long time. Continue to ride with Becca, support her, uplift her, and this podcast as well. Oh, Rachel. I'm going to save a lot of my sentiments for next week because you're not done with me yet. I still got you for one more episode. But I absolutely love you. I'm in awe of you. I'm inspired by you. Your loyalty, your friendship, your charisma, all of the things. Like you've brought so much to this, not only to the podcast, but to our friendship. And so I know you say you're not going to lock the door and I hope you don't. I always will welcome me back with open arms. it's not going to be the same without you. And, you know, I'm selfishly, I don't want you to leave, but I totally understand. I know for your mental health, for your sanity and your sake and your head and your heart. You know, I will always be your biggest supporter in anything that you do

in any way, shape, or form, anything that you need from me. I'm in no, too, because as you started saying this, as you started giving this news, she was sitting right below me and starts growling. So you're going to have, she's going to have a bone to pick with you next week. But I'm going to miss you too. I'm going to miss you too. I mean, I'm not going to throw away the key, but I'm sure as hell going to lose it for a while. Well, you're going to change the scenery. I get it. I don't blame you. You're still stuck with me. I'm still going to pop over. I'm going to make you come here. We're going to have doggy day nights, like, for sure. All of the things. And you guys, thank you for tuning in again and just sticking with us almost to the 100th episode. But please make sure you

tune in next week because even more so than counting down like our top 10 moments that we just did today, we will be counting down all of Rachel's best moments and highlighting her because Bachelor Happy Hour, we could not, we couldn't be what we are without you, Rachel. So it's all about you next week, plus some surprises and you guys will not want to miss it. And in the meantime, as always, please keep writing to us and letting us know your thoughts. You can find us at Bachelor Happy Hour on Instagram and at Batch Happy Hour on both Facebook and Twitter. And as always, if you never want to miss another episode, please subscribe to our podcast, and you can do that on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, the 1-3 app, or wherever you are listening to us right now. Thanks,

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