Bachelor Happy Hour - Self-Love and Daddy Vibes with Parisa! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: May 28, 2025

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re sitting down with Parisa from Grant’s season of “The Bachelor”! Our animal-loving sweetheart is here to give us all her updates, dish out some advice, and so much more. We kick off the episode getting into her experience on the show, including how living in the moment during her journey changed her life! Then, we dive into her dating updates and what she’s looking for in a man. Next, we kick off our advice portion with our question of the day: What would Parisa say to anyone struggling with self-love and confidence? Plus, she helps one of our listeners heal from a major betrayal. Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We're so excited to be back. Another great episode. Absolutely. We've got a very special guest today, but be sure to check out our latest episodes because we always have so much fun answering the questions, chatting with our Bachelor Nation fans. We do. And today, Susan, we have a very special guest. Please welcome from Grant's season, Parisa. Welcome to Golden Hour, Parisa. How are you? Good. Good. How are you guys? Thank you for having me. Every one of you are so beautiful. We have interviewed quite a few, and just one gets pretty,

here than the next. Oh my goodness. Thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here today. And also, I want to say congratulations on the new relationship. Oh, my goodness. Oh, I guess that's directed at Susan Parisa. Huh? Your turn's coming. My turn. You're next. I'm not your lips to God's ears, Prisa. So where are you now? Are you in Michigan? Tell us. Where in Michigan are you? I'm in Birmingham. It's right outside of Detroit. Ah, okay. So tell us, we've got to get into some questions here. What have you been up to? We've got a ton of things to ask.

I know. You just tell us what you want to tell us first. And then we'll drill you, Paris. We're never going to drill you. No, perfect. You know, I've just, you haven't busy working. I've been trying, you know, to meet somebody. But, yeah.

Oh, let's talk about that, Paris. I feel your pain. It's when you least expect it. Uh-huh. That's Susan. It's moniker now, when you least expect it. I'm not expecting anything, so. Well, there you go.

There you go. So I want to know what made you, because people ask us all the time why we applied for Golden Bachelor. Yeah. Why did you apply? What made you apply for the show? So it was actually, you know, really funny story. It was on my birthday.

When your birthday? When's your birthday? March 21st. Happy birthday. Okay. I'm a March, too. And, yeah, I was just not in the best. relationship and I yeah it was on my birthday just was not a good birthday with you know this

person it was just so funny I just I was on Instagram and I saw an advertisement apply now for the bachelor and I'm like you know why I'm doing it that that is exactly what I did I saw an advertisement on Facebook for golden bachelor and I went I could do that click I mean I just didn't think about it just clicked I didn't think about it yeah I thought more of it just like, you know what, I'm going to channel all of this negative energy right now in this application and, you know, press send and I'm hoping, you know, and I never thought about it. And then I hear back. And I'm like, oh, wow. Okay. Were you broken up at the time of the application or were you in the middle of something? Yeah. It was, it was one of those relationships where I'm like, I will fix him. Yeah. Oh, Parisa, Parisa. Parisa. It took me 60 years to realize red dust. and change its color. Yeah, let's just give you this tidbit right now, Prisa. Here's what you can change on a guy.

If you're lucky, you can get him to put his socks in the hamper. You do not change his character, lack of integrity. None of those things can you ever change in a man? Ever. Well, I know that now. Well, that's good. So you're ready for the next one. So I want to know if you could describe, like, in one word, we always ask this question.

What was your experience like on The Bachelor in one word? and then you can expound on it. Hmm. Life changing is two words. That's all right. We'll take that. Tell us how. How did it change your life? It was definitely nothing I ever could expect.

And it was, you know, from day one, being a part of such a great group of girls, everyone was so welcoming. And, you know, right from the start, like, there's our sisterhood. And we needed that because none of us had our comfort, you know, our family, our mom's sister's best friends from at home to help us through this, you know, dating journey. And so we definitely like relied on each other. And it was just, yeah, an experience of, I guess also too, being vulnerable and not only like opening up so quickly, you know, during like kind of a fast-based relationship, but also being vulnerable and showing all of that. on TV with, you know, did you learn anything about yourself? Yes. You know, it was really interesting. I guess throughout the process, I wasn't really aware of how comfortable and open I was, but it was when I got home, you know, you get your phone and you're going back on your socials,

and I pulled up my social media page and I'm like, wow, you know, it's funny. This girl, me on my, you know, Instagram, that's not who I am. Like I, you know, was looking back, and seeing, like, what I used to post, how I would post, and, like, that was what I wanted people to see, like, who I asked, you know, that's what you missed on your socials, what you want people to see. Right. And taking a break from that, living in the moment, and just being my true, authentic self, being accepted, I forgot all about that.

Yeah. Yeah. It's interesting in it? It is. But don't you feel like social media, we always, I think at any age, we put the life we want to have out there. We put what we want people to see. And so other people look at it and say, oh, I want the life that Parisa has.

When really Parisa has the same struggles, right? And so we put out to what we want the world to see not really necessarily the way our life really is. No, exactly. And that's when, you know, like when I meet people too and I'll tell them more about myself and they're like shocked. And I'd be so sorry, I'm like, why are you shocked? And I'm like, well, I've got any of that, you know, from your social media. I'm like, oh, yeah. Yeah.

I want to know more about you. rocks. Oh, thank you for asking. I got a big piece of fool's gold, pyrite. If you need it to add to your collection, I got a huge piece. I got one. Remember from Gary? You got quartz. Yes. I got nothing. Crystal. Yeah. I love rocks. I just think they're so beautiful. I'm more like, I love the geology behind it. When I was younger, I wanted to be a geologist. And it loves the study of rocks, like rock formations, you know, all of And I would go mining down south. There's, you know, some parts like in Georgia and South Carolina, you can literally go digging for like...

Really? Amethysts and quartz crystals. Did you find that? Did you find that? For diamonds? No, no, that's not the part of the world where diamonds grow. Yeah. Wow.

And then bugs? So I also love entomology, so like study of insects and arachnids. I wish, like, I always want to just be a scientist. when I was young. What do you do? Wait, she is a behavior. I want, this is where I want to get to. You're a pediatric behavior analyst. Tell me what that is and can I send my grandchildren to you? Of course. So I work in the field of behavior analysis and basically it's all about behavior change, which is why I thought I could change my ex. So I love. Was your ex 18 months old? They acted like it. Well, therein lies the problem. Okay. Go.

Sorry, keep talking. But, yeah, so, like, in my field, I work specifically with children with autism, and we work on targeting behaviors or skills that we either want to increase, see more of. So if it's, like, something to do with, you know, communication or skills or targeting any challenging behaviors that, you know, disrupt their quality of life. So anything from aggressive behavior, self-interest behaviors. So you do therapy with them to try to change these things? Yeah. So I work closely with like speech pathologists and occupational therapists.

And we work on just like skill development. I can't believe, I cannot believe you're saying this. My daughter's, my granddaughter's birthday was a couple days ago. and one of the children invited is three years old and he's autistic he was diagnosed about two and a half years old and i was asking the mom it's exactly what you do she was saying that they but she didn't call a pediatric behavior analyst she called it something else but she was saying that that it's been the best help because it encourages socialization with other kids and you know he's got his particular behavior is at least at the party he loves to put rocks where water is so he was

lugging rocks, like 50 of them out of my daughter's garden, into the pool, you know, the little children's plastic pool. And, and, and, I mean, he did it for like an hour. He just kept going back and forth. And she said that they're working on trying to diminish those behaviors and encourage more socially, you know, playing with kids, more social behavior. So I found it fascinating. Yeah, with that, exactly. It's, you know, so that would be our target behavior. And then we will find a replacement that is uh it has the same function so he you know feels he's getting the same feeling that he's getting when he you know is yeah those rocks and water and then we try now to associate that so with social skills we would want to associate that with peer play and just kind of like

yeah promoting those social interactions and um but yeah and i love it so much i love i focus more with like play based therapy because i want to make it as natural as possible yeah and i feel like that's when a child is most engaged. It doesn't it feel rewarding at the end, like when you're working with children like that? So do you want children? Yes. Do you want children?

Oh, yes. Wait, I have to say, Susan, yet another gorgeous, brilliant, intelligent. Not only is she gorgeous. I'm lovely, you are absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's articulate. She has a great career. Like, what is wrong with these men out there?

That was a rhetorical question. Let me ask you something. Is there anything at all looking back that you would have changed, had to do it again? Like in my life in general? No, about doing the show. Oh, in the show. Any regrets or any? No, I never live with regrets because I look at everything as just like a learning experience.

Like, oh, well, next time we won't do that. Next time I'll do better or I'll try to do better. And that's all we can ask. You got to make those mistakes. in order to know in the future. I think the main thing was I definitely I'm so I'm not you know the type to like interject myself into drama ever but I think towards the end I did mentally so I you know I told myself oh you know we're not going to get in on you know any of that but mentally I did

and I think that distracted me because now looking back there were a few times like my one-on-one moments with Grant. Like, I wasn't prepared. And you have to be prepared because you're only given so much time. And if you don't use that time wisely, then it's just like you're not able to. Wait a minute. I want to know, because I kind of agree with you on my season with Gary, but I'm curious, what do you mean you weren't prepared? Like, can you give me some specifics? So I feel like every, like going in on every group date or, you know, during the cocktail hour, you want to be prepared with, okay, I'm, you know, going to go grab him to talk. talk. I want to talk about this today. And I want to make sure he knows this about me. And I was,

I felt very on top of it throughout my whole time there, um, except that last, my last week. And I would ask myself, as I'm walking to go grab him, I'd be like, oh, wait, what am I going to tell him now? And I start second guessing. Yeah. And I just wasn't, you know, as prepared. And I, I felt like, yeah, there was, you know, a couple times I just, I miss my opportunity to tell him more about me and more about, you know, what I'm looking for in my future. So that's the question. What are you looking for? That is right where I was headed. What are you looking for in a partner? So, and that's a great question. I love, so I'm a, you know, a woman of reflection and emotional awareness. This year was a huge year for me. I turned 30. And I, you know, I'm doing that

reflection asking myself, okay, you know, I'm, what do I want in my forever partner? And usually, you know, those characteristics and, you know, all that stays the same. But there was a new thing now I'm noticing that I'm, like, looking for. And it's those qualities of like, and I use this word as my umbrella term. But I'm now looking for a man that has those daddy vibes. To be not your daddy. You mean a dad. Well, you know, the antipus complex is alive and well.

You mean, you mean a daddy for your children. Yeah. That makes sense. That makes sense. Yeah. Like I want to look at, you know, the man that I'm with and, like, I could hear my future child saying, don't worry, my dad will handle that. Or don't worry my dad will be there. And it will happen.

And you know what? That is, that is, again, so many attributes that you're looking for, I'm looking for, Susan's found. You know, a man that makes us laugh, a man who's honest, a man who's trustworthy, a man who's fun, who makes me. left who has high EQ, all of those things. But the one difference at your age is we don't want children. We're done with that. So we're looking for someone. I would say the correlated, the corollary topic is we're looking for men that can integrate into our families so we can get to know their children. But you're wise to consider that because that's an important aspect of a partner. I mean, I know I remember back when people would say, write a list, write a list.

Like, you don't go out in the world with this list. You know, you kind of, sometimes, chemistry is chemistry, right? Yeah. So when you came off the show, when we first started chatting today, you shared that trying to date. Did you go back on social media or dating apps? Yeah, and it was just one of those things where I really did. I tried, but I think also, too,

It's just maybe my environment that I'm in, you know, like I was born and raised here. And I left for a few years, but then I came back. I think I might just need to get out, you know. Come to Austin, Prisa. I will set you up there so many single guys here in your age group. It's crazy. Really? So how about Paradise, if you're asked, would you be willing?

Oh, yes. Okay. Who do you want to see? You know, this is another thing. I am just so superstitious. I feel like I could just, I can name someone. And then ruin all chances. And then also, too, it's fun to be surprised.

I really don't know many, like, Bachelor alum men. And I, you know, like, of course, I started looking up, guys. But then I'm like, you know what? Like, I'm not doing this. All right, West West, Prop here from Hood Politics with Prop Podcast. You already know our get-down. If you grew up in our urban areas of comforted struggle,

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Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. If you went, what would your strategy be? I'm serious, to meet guys, to pick what, what's your strategy? Because if I get to go, I'm taking your strategy. Go ahead. So my strategy, I feel like, honestly, it's when you live in the moment and you're just having fun.

I want to just, I think my personality, just being playful, it attracts, like, you know, everyone. Everyone wants to be part of that positivity and, you know, just. Absolutely. Absolutely. I agree with all that. But are you going to, are you, I agree with all that and Susan and I are very positive and we're fun loving and people like to be around us because we laugh a lot. We're fun. Having said that, when you get there, if you go, there's going to be from, you know, from other seasons, there's going to be a slew of handsome 12-packed guys strolling on the beach and new ones coming all the time. So how, you know, what's your radar? How do you pick out? How do you? So if you're attracted to somebody, you'll walk, you'll walk, you. You're okay with going up and talking to them and asking them. Oh, yeah.

Oh, my goodness. You've got to shoot your shot nowadays. I mean, you know, sitting. Have you feel about another girl like in the same person? Would that be? I mean, you just did the show. That was different than that. Yeah, I know it's so different.

I, if another girl likes the same guy, it would have to, you know, I feel like that would just be a conversation, which would be just an easy conversation. It's like. Perisa, I'm going to give you some good news. Don't tell her. I'm going to give you some good news. goodness, if I go, if I end up going, you don't have to worry about me.

I will not be going after the same guys that you would be going after. I just want you to know that. I'll support you in your adventure. Thank you. What did you think of the end of your show? Were you surprised who he picked or did you kind of know? I was really torn with the list, too. I mean, yeah, I know.

It was, it definitely, I guess, you know, it's hard because when, so I wasn't there, you know, during, you know, hometowns or, you know, the final three, all that, it's, it's easier when you're there and you have like the inside look throughout, you know, like you can see, you know, the relationship developing. You can see connections. But then, you know, since I wasn't there, then of course, yeah, like, you know, it's a surprise because the way where I left off, I'm, you know, I left off thinking like, okay, these are the relationships that are established. I'm sure it's going to go this way. Yeah.

But I wasn't there to see how things unfolded after hometowns because so much, you know, changes after, you know, just even one little thing. So wait, who, who, who were you really good friends with on the show and are you still good friends with them? You know, tell us, like, I want to hear about the relationships other than Grant. You keep in touch with everybody. Yeah. Yeah, with everybody.

I am really good. I feel like with all the girls, you know, we try, we've been hanging out as much as possible. we were me Seraphina Allie Joe Kelsey we were in Miami

and then that was before AFR that we all everyone met up in L.A. Seraphina me,

Dina and Latia were just in Chicago as well after AFR. I think we're all too like in that travel time you know

on our left like girls trips and just it's fun it's so fun. And I still know it. Yeah, it's fun to see everybody and, and, you know, just catch up.

And it's, do you feel like the relationships are different off the show with the girls? I think we're all so much closer now, for sure. And a lot of us, too, it's, you know, when you're always miced up and the cameras are there, I feel like there's always some, you know, everyone's a little bit hesitant to speak up about things. It's just now it's like we're, you know, nothing holding us back. Now you get to speak freely. All right.

So now we're going to get into our advice portion of our episode. And we want you to be a part of this. So people write in questions. Some give their name. Some are anonymous. And we'd like your two cents on it, if you will. Your advice. Okay.

All right. We're going to start it off with the question of the day. All right. Here we go. All right. What advice do you have for anyone struggling with self-love? and confidence. What says you? You have some good advice, pretty so I'm sure. Yeah, self-love and confidence. My advice is do not seek that reassurance elsewhere. It comes from within.

Brilliant. Good one. Very good. Exactly the truth. And my one tip, because this is one thing that I did, after a really tough breakup, I was living by the phrase romanticize your life. So if, you know, I'm a single woman I love alone I'm going to make myself dinner tonight I'm going to make the best spread the best presentation I don't need someone to be sitting with me eating to you know make that a beautiful

I love that I love that and the thing Prisa is I say this all the time people say you know I want to find the perfect man who will love me I believe that you have to love yourself before you can even think about loving someone else and be comfortable in your own skin right you can't pretend to be

else. And that was one of my issues when I met somebody and got started in a relationship, I would jump into their world and like everything that they liked. And six months down the road, you're like, what about me? What about what I want to do? You forget your own things, you know, because you're excited and it's new. Yeah. What do you think about confidence, Prisa? Do you think confidence, do you think a woman who exudes confidence, confidence is attractive to a guy? Or how do you feel about that? I think that's attractive to a secure guy. A secure. And there's not many of them. Yeah. And I think that's a great way to weed them out too. I mean, if you see a guy who's an issue with how confident and independent you are, then that's just someone that you don't, you know.

I think it's true. Yeah. It is. All right. Now it's time to get into our listeners writing questions for today. And Prisa, are you ready to dish out some advice? Oh, I'm ready. Okay. This is from Anonymous. Ladies, I found out one of my best friends is the owner of a social media account that's been sending me hate comments for years. What do I do? Here's the story. The other night, my friend group and I were out getting drinks. My phone died, so I asked my best friend, Allie, if I could use her phone to show everyone a TikTok. So he handed me our phone and we, went to grab us another round while I looked for the video. Well, she forgot to switch back to her real profile. And yeah, I checked the page's activity to confirm, and it really was her. She came back before I could find the video, so I just changed the subject. What do I do now?

I don't want to be her friend anymore, obviously, but I really don't want to lose my group over this. So how do I navigate this? Thanks, ladies. Wow. She's better than me that she slept on it. Yeah. I'd be right there. Yeah, no, it's always smart to sleep on.

Always smart to think. Think before you act. Always. So my advice, I always ask first when someone's asking, you know, advice, I always ask what end result are you looking for? And I'm from there. Yeah, you will know how to navigate. to get there. So she doesn't want to be her friend anymore, which I'm glad to hear that because that is not a

friend. But it is hard because you share the same friend group. So, you know, I feel like with that, it's asking yourself questions. Are you okay, you know, with acknowledging, you know, this is the situation, bringing it to her attention and just saying like, I just, this is not what I wanted my life. been so I you know I would you ask her why why would you do that to me you've been sending me hate mail from a fake account yeah well wait a minute wait a minute wait a minute wait but paris said all that's true susan but precy you wouldn't well you wouldn't address it right then and there would you because I wouldn't no because also too it's a setting you want to recognize to the setting it's like okay this is time and place I don't think we would you know it would be productive

for us to like you know handle this and I don't think I would get any of the answers that I'd be looking for in the situation right now too right but again it's just asking yourself you know what's the end result you're looking for if you really don't want to you know break up this friend group lose these friends then you would have to ask yourself are you able to tolerate then her being present and you know just you you guys are still a friend group but you have to tell yourself okay this is just someone who I'm on the perfect keep them on the periphery yeah I always say don't ask someone that I would say don't ask a question that you either know the answer to or you don't want the answer to so nobody else feels like I do right now like I'm in I put myself in that

moment yeah she goes off to get drinks I'm reading it all your friends are standing around I'm in shock yeah but you're not going to bring it up Susan right then and there I hope you would she comes back I'm going to hold it there and say do you want to explain this in front of her friends Oh, yes, I would. I know you would. I would. You know, I will admit, that would, that would feel good. But would it get you the ultimately the result you want?

That's always, you know, what's the end game? Like you said, Prisa, what's the end game? But, you know, this whole conversation brings me when earlier in the podcast, we were talking to you about, people say they're surprised about, when they meet you in comparison to what you put out in social media what do those people say because I'd be curious like this is the kind of thing when people have hidden accounts and such so tell me what people say that it's surprising about you that I'm you know because I'm always posting the glitz and the glam because you know don't get me wrong I love you know getting

dolled up when you're trading you like the post yeah I don't know my sweat clothes yeah no so I love that when they see that, I think that's all that they view me as is like, you know, another. A pretty face. A pretty face. Yeah, this girl dressed up, makeup, you know, materialistic, superficial. You know, those words are always like thrown in. But I mean, I'm, yeah, I think that's only just like the tip of the iceberg of, you know, what I want to be shown. But don't you think people who are thoughtful who, you know, understand social media would say that's just one aspect.

of her? I mean, I want to give people credit and say they would see that you're a beautiful, charming person, but you also have so many other sides. Maybe I'm wrong. So you're saying people will say that you're just this glamour girl. That's how they describe you. Yeah, and I think the majority of the feedback I'd get, you know, it's that, which is, it's fine, because I know too, like, you know, the people that are close to me in my circle, it's, they know who I am. They know you. Yeah. Yeah. I always say that. It's, it's, I don't care. what the bots on social media say I don't care really what anyone says about me

the people who know me are the ones I care about people in your life I mean like this is like another world that I can throw it it's like that world's gone I'll tell you when we were on the Golden Bachelor I didn't miss my phone at all I never miss it the only thing I missed it the only thing

I missed was I knew when I got off the show I had to deal with the thousands of emails that had come in that I had to delete once I got off the show but I did not miss it because I was in the moment. People got to see the real me. So I loved that. I loved that.

Well, Anonymous, you let us know. Here's the long and short of it. I would not bring the other friends into it. Deal with it. Quietly by yourself. Get a resolution that you can live with. Yeah. And let us know.

Let us know. And I wish you luck. And I feel for you, honey. That's me. Yeah, it's terrible. It is horrible. But social media sometimes isn't. Yeah.

And yeah, regardless, you know, if it's a boyfriend that, you know, betrays your best friend. Like, the best, it's, your world just flipped. Best friends are even worse. I mean, that's your best friend. Yeah. Yeah, your best friend. I feel for her.

And I'm sure it happens a lot. Yeah. Well, let us know. Okay. So, Parisa, you know, we've gotten to know you a little better. We want to open the floor to you. Advice for us. Questions, anything you want to know about us or advice you have for us.

Okay, I have a question. Sure. So, in, this has, with dating. So like your approach with dating, how much has it changed compared to, you know, when you were, you know, in your 20s compared to now? Like how much had that the dating world changed? Because then we met people outdoors, out at a social event, a bar, a restaurant, wherever. Now you have to be on, not have to, but most of it comes from dating apps. I marry people for a living. And nine times out of 10, the couple that's getting married met online.

Yeah. I think the way of the world. I think there's a, I think Susan's right, but I also think Prisa there is a push to meet people more organically. I can say for me, I got married very young. I was 20 when I got married by only 10 days. And I was married almost 46 years. So she didn't date. So I didn't date. But I can tell you the way I date now has dramatically changed for me since I came off the show. I mean, I'm, I've always been pretty clear about who I am, but I don't, you know, people say, oh, give them a couple of days. I can, I'm pretty good at sussing out pretty quickly. I know, and so I'm out.

And you know what? I have learned, it's almost the opposite for me, Prisa, because I didn't date. much. So I had a very steep learning curve after my husband died on learning how to date. And so I have learned very quickly a red flag is a red flag. You never turn them green. You know, a yellow flag is something to pay attention to. It could go either way. I mean, those sort of things that we talk about all the time, I've had to learn really quickly. And also, we look for different things from her age. Right. I said, we're not looking for a daddy. You know, we're not looking. You're looking for your whole future. I'm looking for a guy who. I'm looking for a guy who,

to have fun with, to travel with, to have shared experiences with, to be part of my family, be part of his. Like, Susan, I say at ad nauseum, like this is the last chapter of our lives. I wanted to be the longest, the happiest, and the best. Yeah. And so, but I do think dating will change for you as you get older. Oh, yeah. Is your dating for you different now than when you were 20?

I'm guessing it is. She doesn't. She knows now. she's looking for something different like her list has changed but do you still care about you know the fun the humor would you move for example would you relocate no definitely I think that was another thing too you know a few years ago I was always telling myself I'm looking for someone to grow old with but then I'm like you know I think life I mean especially during you know today's climate is so it's just so tough and you know there's so much negativity and it's just I'm now I'm

looking for someone, I want to stay young with. I want to have fun with and be people. Good, good phrase. Yeah, like, we don't, like, we have to do. Were your DMs blowing up after the show? Were you getting all kinds of messages from strange men? No. Not me either.

Yeah. No funny. I'm thinking. I'm like, oh, like, if this doesn't work out, like, you know, it might meet someone, you know, through Instagram and no way. Yeah, yeah. Well, Susan made a very good point on another podcast. For our age, men are not on social media.

They don't know how to DM. They're not on Instagram. They might be on Facebook and they know how to hit the like button. But at your age, everybody's on social media. And that has its good side and it's bad size, right? It's good and bad at the same time. Yeah, I feel like it's tough now too because I think a lot of people rely on that and they hide behind their screen. So now we're in public, no one's coming up to me or anyone.

I mean, I just, we don't see that. Well, wait, Prisa, what do you do for fun? Because that's another way to organically meet people. How do you get out? I love traveling on the weekends as often as I can. Going to new cities, you know, trying new restaurants. I'm a huge foodie, so I love trying new restaurants. And do you travel by friends that you go with?

Yes. That is so funny. I was going to say, do you travel by yourself? And Susan said, do you travel with a group of friends? Or also, like, having friends in other states is amazing because then you just travel. You go visit. Yeah. Yeah.

It's great. See the world. Do you ask your friends to fix you? Like friends, if you have friends in. Georgia, do you ask them to fix you up with guys? Yeah, like I'll ask if they know anyone to. And then it's just, that hasn't worked out either. And then everyone, everyone's getting engaged now.

And so it's like, and that must put a little something in you too. You're like, why not me? My daughter said that. That's exactly what my daughter said when she was 30. What's wrong? And my daughter's as pretty as you are, prehist. And she was like, what's wrong with me? You know, and I said there's nothing wrong with you.

And she least expected it. She met them. well yeah well yeah she met a guy they were out on a boat on the lake here in austin with a bunch of friends and he was he was it was his boat and so she chatted with them and she at first she thought it was sort of pompous anyway they fell in love and they're married and they have a baby so uh but she didn't meet him until she was 31 I think okay you have plenty of time though you don't rush it don't rush especially too it's just like you those things you really you don't want to rush So that that's forever.

Would you relocate if you fell in love with somebody that? No, of course, my family. Everyone's all spread out all over. Yeah. Where's your dream place? What's next for traveling? For travel. So I two, Montana and Utah.

I've been to both. They're gorgeous. I want to do a hiking trip, horseback riding, just anything with the outdoors, nature. Are you a skier? Yes. Yeah, I love skiing. Utah's got some great skiing. And so does Montana, actually.

Well, you know what? I think you're absolutely stunning. You are. We'll find the right person. You will. Oh my gosh, both you ladies as well. I thank you so much. And I hope you go to paradise.

Yeah. I hope I go to paradise. You go to paradise. Wow. It would be changing opportunity, you know? Life change. That's right. You know what?

It's an opportunity and you never know what comes from opportunity. Don't miss it. You don't want to miss it. All right, guys, believe it or not, that does it for this episode of Bachelor happy hours, golden hours. Thank you so much, Prisa, for coming and dishing out good advice and just sharing your life with us. And we wish you all the best.

We loved having you. We loved getting to chat with you, Prisa. Really, you are lovely and intelligent and you are the full package. So thanks for sharing part of your day with us. And thank you all. They're wanting to be a daddy, you know, have a family with a beautiful wife and a child, you know, where to love. We're celebrating you here, Prisa. We're doing it for you, DM her.

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