Bachelor Happy Hour - Soothing the Sting | Golden Hour

Episode Date: September 13, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, Kathy and Susan are back for some Friday Fan Questions! We kick off today's episode recapping our great episode with Lexi Young from earlier this week. Then, we get into our question of the day: when can a 10-year age gap in a relationship work? And of course, we get into your questions. From coping with mom guilt to cheap boyfriends, you asked, and we are here to answer!  Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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and IHeart women's sports production in partnership with Deep Blue Sports and Entertainment on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Brought to you by Novartis, founding partner of IHeart Women's Sports Network. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Susan, we're back.

Thank you all for joining us. So you guys, if you haven't listened to our Wednesday episode, So yet you are definitely missing out. We had Lexi from Joey's season and Kathy. How about her being a blonde. How beautiful. I mean, she was beautiful on his season. Now she's like, what?

So, okay, yes, she's absolutely beautiful, Susan, and she's beautiful as a blonde. She was beautiful as a brunette. But you know what impressed me about her? Oh, yes, I do. Her willingness to talk about her endometriosis and freezing her eggs and searching for the right guy. and just knowing that she's complete as she is.

And I just found her amazingly mature. And Lexi, if you're listening to us today, get over the 26-year-old guys. Start looking for a guy a little bit older because they're not, they're ready for you. I love seeing she was very comfortable in her own skin. She knows what she wants and she does want. And how about her freezing her eggs like she shared? That's a great thing to do, especially with her situation. but she's not afraid to talk about it.

I think she shared with us that Joey helped her. You know what I love is one of the things I love about doing this podcast is Lexi's not alone. There are a lot of women of childbearing years who are dealing exactly with what she's dealing with and to normalize it and talk about it and know that you're not alone. I just love that she can stand for that and people can say if she can do it and get through the surgery, and have this positive outlook, you know, I can do it. I love that. Kathy, did it ever occur to you as it is right now in my brain that the show itself

helps people to grow and find themselves and realize who they are? Remember, when I share with you, when I came off the show, I knew I love myself. I'm good people. And I believe she's come so much further. to hear her talk and be confident in herself. I think she said she's had a lot of seasons. I think being on the show, if you will, is a season. And it changed me.

We've talked about it many times. It's changed you. But I just think that hearing, I think sometimes people feel very isolated, right? And they feel like they're the only one to dealing with something. And to hear what she's dealing with and people hearing what you and I've dealt with. So that's what I love. I love that we can talk about these things and people can know they're not alone.

So that's absolutely. Okay, well, today... We're proud of you, Lexi. We are. And please, could we look like her? Could we go back and look like her? In my next life. I never try blonde.

Maybe I should have tried blonde. Oh, no. Blonde is not in my future. Absolutely not. Okay, today, though, we're going to answer, which we love, more of your fan questions, and we are so excited to get into these because Susan and I have opinions about just about everything. Don't forget, if you guys have a question for Kathy and me, send them in.

Just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and we will read every one of them and maybe you'll even be a guest on here. Okay. And before we get to that, we always start with our question of the day. Are you ready, Susan? Mm-hmm. Here we go. Under what circumstances do you think a 10-year age gap in a relationship can work? First thing that comes to mind is you have to be over 30 or, yeah, nothing less than 30. It would never.

It's too young, 40, 50, well, my age 10 years is just perfectly fine. Yeah, I agree with that. On either way, older or younger. Do you know what came to my mind? What? My son, who you officiated their wedding, who married a woman 10 years as senior. 10 years of senior, I know. I think you're on.

She's a lucky girl. A lucky girl. I think you're on to something, though, Susan. I think if you're too young, it doesn't work. And if you're too old, maybe, you know, then maybe things happen and that it's hard to, you know, deal with someone who maybe is not as mobile. But I think you're right. that those middle years, 10 years just doesn't mean much. I mean, I remember when I was just starting to date late teens and my mother would never

let me go out with a guy five years older. When you're 19 and he's 26 or 24, whatever, that's ridiculous. So 10 years at that age is a lot, I think. But once you're 35, especially 40, you could do 50 or 30. It's like childbearing, right? So, you know, if you're 35 dating a 45-year-old and you don't have kids, you might have kids. I mean, it just depends on the person, I think, as well. But I think it can work.

I'm certainly hoping so since my son has married that woman. Okay. Ooh, me too. Are you ready to answer some questions? Go. Oh, I think we should. You can go first for number one. Okay.

Kylie asks, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I drive an hour to work and listening to you two times a week makes my drive so much better. Well, we're glad, Kylie. I'm a mom. That's great. You know, just keep your hands on the standing wheel. Okay, I'm a mom of an almost two-year-old and a nine-week-old.

Lately, I've been having terrible mom guilt for losing my patience with my two-year-old throughout the day and not spending enough one-on-one time with my new. newborn. I go to bed feeling so guilty and quite honestly overwhelmed. How do you work through that mom guilt? How did you make sure each of your kids was getting that one on one time with you? Much love and thank you. You're totally normal. I mean, we all felt that way. You do your patients run thin sometimes. I mean, you do snap, but you love them up afterwards, right? I mean, Listen, it is the oldest myth out there that moms can do it all. Have a full-time job, raise their kids.

You know, the old Betty Crocker with an apron and making homemade cakes every day. That's not the way anymore. Everybody works. Susan, it was never the way. So what I would say to you, Kylie, is, you know what, we're not perfect. I think the most important thing is making sure your kids know you love them. I had three, I still do, have three children, and when they were young, I would try to take one one-on-one, one-on-one, and take them to a special thing, like take my daughter to the Nutcracker

ballet at Christmas time, take my son to a baseball game, take whatever it was. Even going to McDonald's for a hour, but when they're young, though, the other ones will cry. I mean, there's a certain age where real young is good. They don't know the difference, but as they get older, you explain it to them. then your day is Tuesday or your day is Sunday. And mommy loves all of you. Right. And I do think you're totally normal.

Yeah, it's totally normal. You shouldn't have guilt. There's enough guilt in life. Don't add to it. Don't add to it, Kylie. Just go easy on yourself. You know what? Give yourself the grace of knowing that you're a busy mom and you've got a lot on your plate.

And at the end of the day, your kids know that you love them. And that's really all that matter. Or do a daddy day and a mommy day. You know, one goes with one, one goes with the other, or a family day. There might not be a daddy. There might be two mommies. Who knows? I'm just saying your kids really at the end of the day, my kids, I don't know about

your Susan, but my kids don't remember the gift that I got them for Christmas. They don't remember the things that they got. They always talk about the experiences that we had, either one-on-one or as a family. So, Kylie, give your kids the experiences. It doesn't have to be all day. Just spend some one-on-one time with them, and they're going to always remember that, always. I remember how I made them laugh and made them embarrassed. We had some good times, but they do remember some of the special guests.

Yeah. And by the way, when Kylie says she's overwhelmed, Kylie, welcome to motherhood. To motherhood. Yeah, call us, write us in about, oh, let's call it 18 years. you're going to feel a whole lot better. You're doing fine, sweetheart. But thank you for sharing it with us, and we wish you the best.

I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Spolitics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years,

into marriage to come out. Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it.

And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeartre Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say, hello, Ed. Hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself. My dad is a farmer, and my mom is a cousin, so, like, it's not, like...

What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. Well, 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage.

Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I don't write songs. God write songs. I take dictation. I didn't even know you've been a pastor for over 10 years. I think culture is any space that you live in that develops you. On a recent episode of Culture Raises Us podcast, I sat down with Warren Campbell, Grammy-winning producer, pastor, and music executive to talk about the beats, the business, and the legacy behind some of the biggest names in gospel R&B.

and hip-hop. This is like watching Michael Jackson talk about Thurley before it happened. Was there a particular moment where you realize just how instrumental music culture was to shaping all of our global ecosystem? I was eight years old, and the Motown 25 special came on. And all the great Motown artists, Marvin, Stevie Wonder, Temptations, Diana Raw. From Mary Mary to Jennifer Hudson, we get into the soul of the music and the purpose that drives it. Listen to Culture Raises us on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Okay, this one's from Anonymous. They say, love your show, ladies. A few years ago, we had a set of friends, Doug and Mary, who asked us to introduce them to another set of friends, Kendra and Gary. Kendra and Gary, that's the first time. Am I saying that right? It sounds like our Gary. It could be Gary or Jerry. It's Gary.

Kendra and Gary owned vacation properties. And Doug and Mary mentioned wanting to be invited there. Okay. My husband and I thought it would be fun. So I introduced the couples after many of an event, including travel together. Mary took it up upon herself to hold a retirement party for Kendra, knowing, we could not attend on the proposed weekend out. We were rightfully upset as we feel it was done on purpose.

Now, the two couples get together, including vacations, and leave us out. We have some relation with Kendra and Gary, but have not spoken to Mary or Doug. Other than Doug reaching out to my husband to wish him a Merry Christmas, are we being too sensitive or are we justified in limited contact would love your insight how what do you think okay i feel bad for them but you know what i think there's the other four just have more fun it's you know there's there's a lot going on here but at the end of the day it would sting me kathy wouldn't it sting you this happened to me this true oh jesus it did it wasn't it wasn't couples it It was a girlfriend of mine.

And I introduced her to another friend of mine. And they kind of went off and literally left me out and would say we're doing this, we're doing that. Do you know that like 10 years later, one of those girls called me and apologized and said, it was hateful what we did. You were such a nice person. I'm really sorry we did that to you. And my answer was. So with that being said, her calling to apologize tells me they knew. what they were doing. Yes. And you know what? That's so mean. Well, but you know what? I would say

in this situation, it was mean, but you know what? Not every friendship or relationship is meant for a lifetime. And the fact is, are you being too sensitive? What's too sensitive? Your feelings have been hurt. Well, they're missing out too. They don't get to go anymore. They're doing it without them. Right. So are you justified in limited contact? You're justified in doing whatever makes you feel comfortable in your friend group. And so... And you're justified to feel what you feel. Right. And if you want to get together with them, get together with them. Invite them over. But you know what? It sounds to me, guys, like Anonymous, it sounds like you're upset and you don't really want to continue the friendship. So give yourself the grace of saying, you know what,

it was good for a time and move on with your life with your other friends. But, Kathy, does you see where she said they helped? a retirement party knowing they couldn't attend at that on that date. One would think if that were happening, oh, I would have spoke up and said, oh my gosh, I can't make it that day. Please have it a different day. But again, as often when we're answering questions, we don't know. Maybe the people were leaving on a trip. Yeah, we don't know. It might have been the only week and that was possible. I think if that was the only event, the retirement party, I'd say get over it. You know, I'm sure there might have been a reason. But the fact that they're spending

vacations together and leaving them out, I hate to say it anonymous. I'd be in. I'd be jealous. But the friendship may have, may have, you know, it may have been for a season and a reason and it's over. And I would say anonymous, go make some new friends and and cherish the memories you had. but don't don't feel And I say it does stick It does sting But it's not You know

Are we being too sensitive? But you do You have to move on You have to You have to move on But I don't want her to think Never to invite I mean never introduce friends again

You know people get like that I'm never going to introduce you to her You're probably like her and leave me You don't worry about me Susan I'm not going anywhere I know you're not I love you back out Love you sweetie

All right Here's the next one Evie writes Hi there, Kathy and Susan. I want to say how grateful I am for y'all's podcast. It truly helps me get through the tough days. I'm a 23-year-old military wife and a new mom. I was hoping y'all could help me with some issues I've been having with my mother-in-law. She and I had a great relationship while my husband and I were dating and engaged. But as soon as we got married, I noticed a little bit of change in her attitude towards me, but nothing too crazy. But as soon as our daughter was born, all hell broke loose. Anything I do, she has to criticize me. Sounds like my mother-in-law. Anyway, for example, when my daughter was first born, I was exclusively breastfeeding. She would lecture me how I need to be using a bottle because it's better. Once my daughter started getting teeth, I switched to pumping and bottle feeding. She then started criticizing me for using a

bottle and said that I should only be breastfeeding. My husband has talked to her many, many times about the comments she has made towards me, but she always blows him off and continues to make comments. My husband and I also have our daughter on a pretty tight schedule, but with us being military, we don't get to see family often. So when we do travel down to see his family, we're not super strict on her schedule, since we are on such a limited amount of time to visit. But she always manages to make a nasty comment about her schedule. She will say things like, if you're actually a good parent, then you don't need a schedule. Every time my husband calls her out, she always says the same thing. I didn't mean it like that. I'm just very honest. I'm really struggling to have a good

relationship with her. Any advice would be great. Hey, mom, kiss my butt. No, you're not the mother. No, you're not saying that. Evie, no. Can I just tell you? Go ahead. I honestly believe this is my mother-in-law reincarnated. I truly do. You said that before. I mean, I couldn't do anything right with my children. You know what? Mother-in-laws can be opinionated. Not me. I'm not. Are you? No. Honestly, my kids raise. I take my daughter-in-law side all the time I play my son. Yeah, I take my son-in-law. I'm just saying I think that she's, it's really tough because what happens here is, Evie, your husband's in the middle. Unfortunately, he loves it. mom, I'm sure. And you're a new mom, so you're feeling your way. Congrats, by the way, on the

birth of your child. I also was a military wife. I get it. I understand everything you're saying. I also did not get to see family very often because of our orders and where we were stationed. So what I would say to is be careful about putting your husband too much in the middle. let I do as I say not as I did let a lot of it just wash off just you know teflon let it float off your back because mother-in-law sometimes have a lot of opinions and you know what their opinions you know what I have to address this okay the mother-in-law says if you're actually a good parent then you don't need a schedule right then and there wait mom stop could you say that again end, please. Wait, you're saying as the son?

As the son? No, this is the mother speaking. I say, who should say, mom, can you say that again? Who should question her? The daughter-in-law, or both of them, it doesn't matter. Say that again, look at me and say that. How dare you? She's a guy who made you boss? Susan, this child is, this young mother is 23 years old. Are you kidding me? She's not going to be able to do that. All right, then you know what? The good news is you don't have to go often. I don't know what to tell you them because you need to address it. I would not stand for that. That would cause problems between me and my husband because I would complain to him.

It did cause. Such a whatever. Yes, I did. That's what I'm saying. Evie, it did cause problems with my husband and myself. So what I would encourage you to do is smile sweetly at her. Count to 1,000. Have your suitcase packed.

Exactly. Have your suitcase packed. Every night cross a day off the calendar until you leave. It's just what it's going to be. And thank you lucky stars. You don't live next door to her. Or call her on it. Like Susan calls her on it.

Yeah. Susan calls her on it at 20, at 19. I don't care how old you are. With respect, of course. With absolute respect. And maybe share with her, do you know how bad that hurts my feelings? Oh, I didn't mean it like that. Well, this is how I received it.

And maybe, just maybe she'll get it. But, you know, some dogs you can't teach new. Well, especially this woman is not, you know, this woman's an older mom. But Evie, thank you and your husband for your military service. We do appreciate that. And good luck to you and congrats on your child. Yes, and thanks for sharing it with us. And if we could be of any more help, just let us know.

I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcast. Spolitics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in

a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say, hello, Ed. From a very rural background myself, my dad is a farmer and my mom is a cousin. So, like, it's not like...

What do you get when a child? True Crime producer walks into a comedy club. I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear.

The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I don't write songs. God write songs.

I take dictation. I didn't even know you've been a pastor for over 10 years. I think culture is any space that you live in that develops you. On a recent episode of Culture Raises Us podcast, I sat down with Warren Campbell, Grammy-winning producer, pastor, and music executive to talk about the beats, the business, and the legacy behind some of the biggest names in gospel, R&B, and hip-hop. This is like watching Michael Jackson talk about Thurley before it happened. Was there a particular moment where you realize just how instrumental music culture was

to shaping all of our global ecosystem? I was eight years old, and the Motown-25 special came on, and all the great Motown artists, Marvin, Stevie Wonder, Temptations, Diana Raw. From Mary Mary to Jennifer Hudson, we get into the soul of the music and the purpose that drives it. Listen to Culture raises us on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The next one's from Sophie. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I am such a big fan of your podcast. I had a question for you guys.

Family and friends have so many opinions about this. Okay. My boyfriend of two years, we are in our senior year of college, makes $3,000 a week while I make $600 a week. Due to my major, I am an unpaid intern and I need an internship for my credits to graduate this spring. anyways at the bar and many other things he will never pay for me ever unless i laugh about it and say are you paying ha ha ha and he gets mad and i pay i do feel bad because i do want to pay for myself but i am paying for rent gas and groceries while his parents pay for everything for him and he is living in my house rent free i'm sorry susan could you just repeat that he's living what he's living in

her house rent free i just want to make sure everyone heard that we have been dating we have been dating for almost three years now and it has always been this way it's to the point where my cousin will buy me drinks at the bar and so will my friends while my boyfriend will pay for his friends drinks at the bar but not mine. Am I doing something wrong? Yes, you are. I need advice. Please help.

Oh, Sophie, kick him to the curve. I was going to say, Sophie, that apartment or home that you're living in and he's living rent-free, show him the door and say, see ya on the other side. Wait a minute, Kathy, he pays for his friends. Oh, I got it. And doesn't treat her. Why? Who is this man?

I don't know. Let me get a hold of them. Really? here comes the baseball bat again. Don't to call me. I want to talk to. Sophie, let me just say to you, I don't care if you're earning $600 a week. You don't have to explain about your unpaid internship. This guy is a free-loater. He's a freeloader. He's never going to make you happy. It is, we talk, Sophie, on this show, a lot about red flags. This one is six red flags causing a hurricane. They're waving. Six flags over New Jersey. Yeah, really, six red flags over whatever city you're in.

get rid of him. And you know what, you and I don't say that too often. But this guy, no, we don't. But this guy. We always give somebody the benefit. No. This guy's a douche. Yeah. I do not. I have no respect. No respect. But wait, I have to ask you something, Sophie. You need to get a little bit more respect for yourself. And you do not tolerate anyone, any person, whether it's your boyfriend or a friend or a stranger for that matter. matter to treat you in such a way. That's just so disrespectful. Susan, you couldn't be more right. I love it when we agree. I do too. And this guy's, yeah, Sophie, listen, if you think magically after what, you've been with this guy two years, do you honestly think he's going to change when a man

shows you who he is the first time, believe him? He has shown you who he is. It's been years, Kathy. Three years? She's tolerated this? Well, she says my boyfriend of two years, and then she said they've been dating for almost three years now. Well, dating, he didn't treat her either. Yeah, I'm saying this is not going to get better if this relationship turns into a marriage or a whatever. Offload him now. You're young.

You have a great career ahead of you. Go find someone who deserves you and take Susan's advice, a little self-respect and self-love is what you need. You deserve far better. And I want to know how you pay rent, gas, and groceries on $600. Well, who knows? And how are you doing that? It doesn't matter. That's hard.

And he doesn't see that. And he's making three grand. And his mommy and daddy pay for his things, that's never going to get good. Sophie, we love you. And we want to hear what happens. You've got to get back to us on this. But I really, we really hope you get the courage up to show this guy the door here's the door here's your hat what's your hurry maybe maybe if she doesn't want to break it up

then sweetie this is your amount that you're paying to live here this is half of the gas half of the groceries and half of the rent oh i like that and then i'll buy my own damn drinks i like that susan i like that right smart and up so yeah all right we're sorry about that okay but good luck sophia seriously please write us back and let us know how it goes we hope you find your next guy right guy soon the treats you right very soon oh here comes my favorite part Kathy this suck at this game okay so y'all we play moral quandary Susan struggles but today I feel I feel the chemistry's here today she's going to get it okay so let's go Susan start us off with the first one go all right now I'm supposed to guess what you I'm going to guess first what you

would do because you're going to read it okay okay all right you're spending time with your adult child and you overheard them tell their in-laws that they're pregnant you pretend not to know anything but they end up not telling you and go to head home for the day do you confront them about it or wait it out okay so here's what susan would do and don't interrupt susan here's what susan would do she would wait until her daughter let's call her daughter is in labor nine months later and would say oh what a happy surprise and if you believe that i have a wooden nickel i'm going to sell you for a million bucks susan would take her daughter and say brittany what's up how could you tell you're in love and not tell me as it was coming out of her map exactly what would i do i think you'd do the same exact thing you'd think i would right then and there do it oh my gosh i'm so excited as soon as you heard it you would feel thrilled nope you wouldn't that you overheard it they

you pretend obviously there yeah you overheard it she was telling her in-laws so she didn't say hey guess what mom and dad and in-laws she told the in-laws what i would do i would my daughter's katelyn i would the next day or when we got alone i would say hey you're pregnant and you didn't tell me i would but i wouldn't do it right then and there. All right. Here's the next one. Ready? You catch your good friend picking up one of your necklaces and putting it in their pocket while they're over at your house along with some other friends. Do you, does that mean they put other friends in their pocket? Okay. Do you confront her in front of everyone, wait until everyone leaves or let it go for the night and deal with it later? What would I do, Susan? Right then and there. Ding, ding, ding.

you are absolutely right and so would you so would you absolutely that's a no brain that's a no brainer no brainer absolutely because you know what you know first of all if you did that to me i would be like she's not my crying yeah i'd be like exactly you know if you need if i would say to you susan if you need to sell that i'll give you the money if you need that if you really want that necklace i'll give it to you would you pull her aside or would you do it right blatantly in front of everybody I would probably say it depends on the person but were you I'd say Susan get your sticky hands back in your pocket and give me my necklace back you know I'd make a joke of it as I often do I would call you into the other room and say Kathy I'm ready to cry right now I know I saw what you just did please tell me it's not true why you know what I would say what are you talking about it's not true now it's not true right I didn't take that diamond necklace that was sitting on your dresser that's weighing down my pocket right now. You know what, Kathy, I did have a friend do that. However, I did not see them do it.

Well, and that's the danger. And that's the danger if you bring it up later. I didn't take your necklace. What are you talking about? It was bad. All right. So, so far you're doing well at this game today. I just want to commend you.

Oh, am I? You are. You're playing it the right way. Okay. You've decided to throw a New Year's Eve party for all of your closest friends. You send out the invitations and your good friend that recently started. had seen someone reaches out asking for a plus one you tell her yes as long as you get to meet him first he seems really wonderful at first but after one too many drinks he starts getting really

loud and obnoxious do you still give her the plus one or revoke it what would i do oh susan come on you really have to think this hard about this one he'd probably talk to her about it year's eve party for all your closest friends yes you would tell her he can't come unless he doesn't drink you're doing so well up to that point oh no see you do what i do just let him i will let him come who cares it's it's it's new year's eve you're looking at me like this kathy like i should know oh my god she's going to not let him come i'm going to cry by the way you also just told me what you were going to do you didn't let me guess okay i did it i failed you only once you know what it's just like everything else you were doing, I gave you an A in the class and you thought you could slide

and make it. Give me an inch. I take a yard. All right. Go ahead. Do the next one. Your daughter-in-law approaches you and tells you in an emotional state that she suspects your son is cheating on her. Do you confront him, wait to hear him out, or stay out of it? What would I do? Let me say what you would do. There's no question, you would do the, you would have a confrontation. No question. But you would do it nicely and you would do it privately, but you would have a conversation. I would hug her and cry with her and say, please, maybe you're mistaken. No, no, that's not the question. Oh my gosh, Susan, the question I could not stay out of it. You couldn't stay out of it. Would you stay out of it? Wait a minute.

Do you confront your son is the issue? Now, yes. Okay, not only you're filming at the game now, now you're having trouble reading. So we're going downhill here fast. Like, like, I can read i was guessing what you would do okay which is part of the game but i was saying what you would do you would confront your son yes okay what would i amongst other things well exactly you would confront your son too susan by the way owns a cadre of baseball bats in all different sizes and colors okay what would i do yeah what would i do what do you think i would do i just said you would confront or you would talk to him no i wouldn't you'd never say a word some mother law you are. She's reaching out, babe. You know what I would say to her? I would say,

I only have one daughter-in-law, so candy. I would say candy, that's something you need to talk to your husband about. You and Kyle need to, and of course I hope I never have this. I don't think I will. They're very happily married, but I get that she's in an emotional state. She is standing there crying to you. I would hug her. I would love on her. I would say, I'm so sorry that you feel this is going on, sweetie, but you really need to talk to Kyle about this. This is your marriage. You're right. I just can't.

But I still say something to my son. But I agree. I get it. Okay, go. Okay. You notice your two best friends that you introduced to each other are hanging out without you more and more. Do you call them both out, try to talk to one of them or just let it go? Well, now you already know, what would I do?

Because we talked about it. Let it go. That's right. I would let it go. You have to let it go. you would let you have to let me guess but you would let i'm telling you yeah you would let it go you might make a joke about my feelings hurt yeah i would yeah i would yeah you would yeah you would but you know what my feelings my feelings oh what you're calling me now what you two are always

together with now wait is this is this the time to tell you that nancy and i are going on a really big vacation you're not invited should i tell it i am too i'm coming i don't care see that's what you I'm not. I need to say I'm going anywhere without you. Wait, you all three bought the tickets, Kat. They can't even use that one. We're all going to St. Martin again. That's going to be wild. Yay. Wait, people. Wait.

I still want to be able to do a podcast from down there on my topless beach. Okay, moving right along. All right. Go ahead. You go ahead. Okay. You've been dating a new guy for about six months. And everything so far has been great.

One night, you catch him going. through your text messages and social media DMs but he doesn't realize you see him. Do you confront him or let it go? All of you listeners out there when we have these moral

quandries, if one of the choices is let it go for the most part when I'm guessing Susan's answer, let it go is not in her vocabulary. Therefore, Susan is going to confront him. 100% correct. This is why we love each other.

What would I do? And don't get this wrong. Think. Well, I'm over thinking, but if you have nothing to hide, maybe you wouldn't say a word. You are so wrong. I absolutely would confirm that. That is an invasion of privacy. He has no right, never mind dating a guy six months.

It says a new guy. I would absolutely say, what the hell do you think you're doing? And if you don't trust me. And if you don't trust me, we can just, this game is over now. So I've had that experience. I've had. Yeah. He was terrible. Oh, my God. All right. Well, he's done. Wow, that's a lot, people. What do you think? How about you guys? What would you do? What would you say? Are you agreeing with Kathy or Susan? Can't wait to find out. And that does it for this episode of our happy hour. Thanks so much for joining us. We have so much fun. We do. Chatting with everybody and reading your questions. Be sure. to submit your questions because if you don't submit them we can't answer them it's really easy all you have to do is go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour we love connecting with you guys

we want to hear what's on your mind we want to give some advice we want to hear about your lives so please keep those questions coming we hope that we give you advice that at least helps you or makes you feel a little bit happier that day and not for anything if you have advice for us we'll talk about it. Right, Kathy, maybe we're doing it wrong. Maybe some people out there know what we should be doing and we don't get it. Maybe they know where to find the guys. I don't know.

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