Bachelor Happy Hour - That's Awkward! | Golden Hour

Episode Date: June 7, 2024

Today on Golden Hour Kathy and Susan are back for another round of Friday Fan Questions! We kick off today's episode with our question of the day; is 'right person, wrong time' a real thing? Then we're diving into your questions! Some of Bachelor Nation have found themselves in some awkward situations and we're here to help!   From mother-in-law to be drama to finding conversation balance in relationships, we're getting right into it! Tune in now to hear all this and more and make sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.  Do you have a question for Kathy and Susan? Go to BachelorNation.Com/GoldenHour to submit yours now! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness. Psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour.

We are so happy to be back. Thanks for joining us. How are you doing, Susan? Good, honey. It's nice to see you. If you haven't heard Wednesday's episode, to make sure to check it out. Because we had faith with us. How about faith? I know. She doesn't want to do Bachelor Paradise if there is one. Yeah. And then there's you pushing her. I'm like,

forget about it. Forget about it. It's less competition. Bye, Faith. Nice knowing you. See you later. But she looked great, didn't she? She does look great. And she, you know, she is an interesting woman. She lives in the countryside. You know, she doesn't live in a city. She loves her animals, her horse. Her horses, I don't get the horses. But, you know, she just loves her rural life. And I love that she's so independent and leads the life she wants to lead. Good for her. She looks fabulous, though.

She does. And she sounds happier. She sounds happy. And Faith, we're really going to miss you. If there's a Bachelor in Paradise, we'll tell you all about it. But not everything. All right. It's another Friday.

So we're back. with more fan questions. Susan, these are really, I'm going to tell you right now, these are some tough ones. So I'm excited to help out some of Bachelor Nation today, and I need you to help out too. Yes, we really love helping you guys out. So please keep the questions coming. Go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour to send us your questions now. Really, you need to send those questions. We love them. We love hearing from you. But before we get into today's question, Susan, we've got to start with our question of the day. Okay.

What do we have to kick us off today? Do you think right person, wrong time is real? Absolutely. You do? Why? Meeting the right person at the wrong time? What's the wrong time? You're separated.

You're separated. raising young kids, your career is first. I mean, I could think of a hundred reasons that at my stage in life now, no, where I am, where you are, if we meet the right guy, it is the right time for us. I think for me, if it's the right person, I would make it the right time. Okay, how are you going to do that? You're raising three young kids, you're divorced, you've got a full-time job. How are you going to put Mr. Wright first?

Well, he has to know I have children. So if he's Mr. Wright, he'll embrace them as well. What girlfriend, you are living in Dreamland? I always have and always will. I know. I really do think that when you're younger, when those of you out there who are, you know, in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and really even your 50s, your life is so complicated by career and family and so many things that you might meet the right person. What if you met the right person, Susan, who's just coming off of a bad relationship?

What about that? Yeah. Well, no, I hear you. I hear you. Or if you're right in the middle of your career taking off, I mean, there's, yeah, I get it. I mean, you and I are sitting around just waiting for Mr. Wright to come along. So definitely right time for the right guy. All right, let's go.

We're going to do some questions. Yes. You want to take the first one? Sure. This is from Mandy, who is 25 from Kansas City. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm in a tough position, and I have no idea what to do. I'm currently in my first ever long-term relationship.

We've been together for a few years and have lived together for the past year, and I've really enjoyed our time together. However, I'm starting to notice things about our relationship that are worrying me. For example, I'll talk to him about my day, something crazy I saw online. He's not really into social media, really any kind of casual conversation, and I'll catch that he's not listening to me. I don't feel like this all the time, but when I do notice it, it hits me really hard. I know I'm more chatty and he's more of a listener and lots of my friends have teased me in the

past for being really talkative. So that's a possibility. I don't interrupt him when he's doing something like watching TV. But I'm realizing maybe I don't always strike up conversations at the best times. What do you think? How do you balance a chatty partner with a more quiet partner? How do I even bring this up? Being made to feel embarrassed or awkward about how much I talk is a huge trigger for me and really hurts my feelings. I don't want to feel like I can't be myself around my partner, but I also want to respect his space and acknowledge his role in our partnership. Okay. Susan. Yeah. Mandy, this was me with my husband. I'm not kidding. I'm reading this

going, this is, this was me. So I am. very talkative, very garrulous, very outgoing, and my husband was much more introverted and shy. And I often would be talking and I would look at him and say, you're not listening to me. And then I realized, Mandy, that you're absolutely right. There's sometimes that he might be reading a book or watching a show or just decompressing from his workday. and I think you have to read the room a little better than I did. Just give him a little bit of space. What I found worked was I would say to my husband, his name was Daryl, I would say,

Daryl, let's go out and take a walk. It was like a planned time to sit and talk together. And I would talk and I would ask him questions. It was like setting up a daytime to talk. And that really worked well for me. So I have a girlfriend that is extremely chatty. And for me, it makes me anxious. I don't holler, but I look at her and I had a heart to heart with her and said,

there's too many words. There's just, do you lose me? You've lost me. Like, I don't even know what it is you're talking about because you give me background details. And I'm imagining that's what chatty means. It's like you just go on and on and on, and it's a lot for some people. So less is more, but when you want to get something important across to him, he will pay attention if you don't use so many words.

You know, that's an interesting thought. I've never thought about it in that context. But I think that she, Mandy, you hit on something. You said that he's a quiet partner. My husband was a quiet partner. and you know what Mandy there's nothing wrong with that sometimes people are better listeners and are more comfortable being the listener than the talker I think what you're saying is you're a little uncomfortable doing all the talking and so I again and her friends her friends

have told her she's chatty so right there's a point here right right and the point is set some time apart where your husband or your, I guess it's your partner, knows that you guys are going to have conversation and that means two-way conversation. And the rest of the time, you know, let him have his space, talk when you want to talk and understand that he might just be a listener and that's okay. And Mandy, don't be mad at me, but less is more sometimes. It really is because I have a friend exactly like you and I love it at death. But it's a lot sometimes.

Well, we wish you the best, Mandy. And one more quick thing I want to say, they knew each other a year. And it's her first ever long-term relationship. They've known each other a few years. They've lived together one year. Mandy, that's what living together is about. You're not married. It's about finding out about each other.

Maybe you two aren't meant to spend the rest of your life together. So I'm not, I'm not wishing you ill. I'm just saying these are the kinds of things you discover when you live with someone, the good, the bad, and the ugly. So, you know what? And you find out now. Yeah, it's better to find out now. Just, just a thought. But I'm sure he's just used to you, chat, chat, chat. And it just tunes it out sometimes. That's all. And but I would, I would actually on a date night or something, that you're both in a good place and he's paying attention to have the conversation with them. Right.

And say, I'm sorry that, you know, I know I go on and on, but yeah. And you know what? You might be surprised, Mandy. He may say to you, hey, you know what? You're right. You do go on and on. Could you cut it short? Or you know what he might say, Mandy?

I love listening to you. I love you. I love everything about you. So as we like to say around here, communicate, talk to him about what you're thinking and feeling and see where it goes from there. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon.

This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating.

He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics. And on the latest episode of politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party.

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All right. Let's move on to question number two. This is from Becca, from Orange County. And she asks, Kathy and Susan, SOS, I need you. I'm with my boyfriend of four years and I absolutely love him. Between where we're each at and the conversations we've had, I can say confidently that we'll be engaged sometime next year. Hmm. Thinking about marrying him has been something. I've been nothing but stoked for until last weekend. I've met my

boyfriend's parents over FaceTime a million times, sometimes even chatting for over an hour, and they've always seemed so lovely. Between work, their retirement travel, and our own family holiday traditions, our in-person meeting hasn't been possible until now. So last weekend, and we finally got to fly out to them so they could meet me in person. The first few hours were so great until I noticed something on my boyfriend's mother's phone. I won't go into too much detail, but I noticed an Instagram notification that wasn't for her username that I follow. She regularly posed from. I thought I recognized the different username, and when I looked it up, I realized it was an anonymous,

pictureless account that has often sent me hate comments and DMs. I have a decent following, so I'm used to spam DMs and not so nice comments. I was completely in shock, and I still am told my boyfriend, what do I do? I love him and I want to spend my life with him, but if that account is actually run by his mom, I don't ever want to be around her. How do I even talk about this? Oh my gosh. That's a big one. Damn social media. It's just a pain in our ass. Wow. You know what? My first reaction, I don't know that I'd tell him I'd confront her. Confront her? Yes. It's exactly what I was thinking. Oh, we agreed two times today. That's crazy. Absolutely. I would confront her. Screw that. You got a problem with me? Let's talk. like say whatever that name is and say hmm by the way is this you yeah

and my friend she needs to be ready that mom might say yeah and I don't like you yeah it's right I mean seriously and your son does and your son does you know what it's a tough one I'm going to be honest here my my mother-in-law did not love me I can't imagine why but you know my husband was the only son and he was the oldest child, and she just really struggled with letting her son go.

So it may be that. It may be some jealousy. It may, there's also the chance that you missaw the username, that it was something similar. Hopefully. That's a tough one. I think you have to be ready for the consequences. Do you think so? Definitely.

Definitely. And I mean, if she causes a big stink, the mother, then your boyfriend's going to find out, and just keep a calm, calm voice. You just said you're used to that social media stuff. Some people are negative and others aren't. But I would confront her respectfully and don't back down. Let her know you know. And I wish you luck.

But don't you think she first has to make sure that it is? Yes, absolutely. Well, she saw it. Wow. You're going to have to ask. Yeah, you're going to have to ask and get ready, buckle up because it might get a little uncomfortable. Okay, question number three.

This is from Carol, from Tulsa, Oklahoma. Hi, Susan and Kathy. I'm a huge fan of the podcast. I really love your thoughts. So fingers crossed, you see this. Well, guess what, Carol? We're saying it. Live.

I'm getting married in a year. My fiance and I are really. really two peas in a pod. Even when it comes to wedding planning, which is such a blessing. So he's not my issue here. The other day, we had an engagement party. I'm not sure how other people do their engagement celebrations, but all the guests that were at our party are people that we intend to invite to the wedding. Well, I would think so, yeah. With that said, here is my issue. Out of pure kindness and cheerful tones, our friends were talking about how excited they were for our wedding and the vast majority of the crowd agreed with all the points they made

but everything they were excited for and anticipating like literally everything they think our wedding is going to be will be the exact opposite our wedding will be very traditional long ceremony cake cutting garter toss bouquet toss you name it we're doing it even down to the music the vibe everything they think this day is going to be way more fun question mark my friends spoke of the things I plan on doing is boring and such I know I shouldn't care what other people think of my day but everyone thinks our wedding will be non-traditional and unique because they see me as someone that is very feminist very progressive vibrant and very outside the box this has made me question everything. Am I who my friends think I am? Has wedding plan warped my sense of self? My head is

spinning and I don't know what to do. It's such a weird and awkward position to be in. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but it's worrisome. Realizing all my most important closest guests are literally set up for major disappointment. They're all very kind people. They wouldn't say a thing. They wouldn't say the things they did unless they were absolutely sure they were right. What should I do? I just laughed and nodded along to keep the mood of the daylight. But ever since our party, I'm freaking out. Okay.

I am clearly over the hill. Sweet girl, let me say to you, this is your wedding day, Carol. you and your fiancée have decided what you want for your day. I don't care if you bring a circus to town for your wedding and have cupcakes. You do what you want to do for your wedding and people can get on board or not attend. Sweetie, I know you're nervous. You've probably got some stress going on with wedding planning. But this is your day.

It's a day you want to remember for the rest of your life. It should be exactly what you and your fiancé want. First of all, you're so, so, so lucky that he likes doing this stuff. And you guys both want this. So have at it. If anything, if you're that worried about it, throw in a little something like certain music or something towards the end to get them party in or something.

But do you? Kathy and I agree on this one. This is three times we've agreed. Well, we agreed until that last statement. No, I wouldn't throw anything in to make the little people happy. It's your day. You do exactly what you want. If you want vanilla cake with chocolate frosting and everyone thinks you should have a five-layer

vanilla cake, you do what you want to do. There's nothing wrong with throwing a garter and cutting the cake. That is a wedding tradition. But that's what they're saying, these people. the thing I found interesting, she says they think the day is going, they think this day is going to be way more and then she writes, dot, dot, dot, fun.

Like, I'm sorry, sweet pee. Carol, this day is not going to be fun. It's going to be fabulous. So if you don't think it's going to be fabulous and you're rethinking what you want, that's one thing. Don't let other people determine your wedding. And you're not spending a fortune

to make them happy. This is your day. And you enjoy it. And I couldn't say it more. It's all about you. And by the way, happy wedding, happy life. I hope everything goes swimmingly at your wedding and just a lifetime of happiness. You rock, girl.

Thanks for writing. Okay. We are going to try something a little different today. We want to talk about a video that's a bit of a hot topic right now. So, Susan, this video that's gone viral of the groom spraying his bride with champagne. You know, you see that at Wedding's a lot. You hold the bottle, shake it, spray up, but he took it to another level. He completely sprayed her, her hair right in her face.

Did you see the video? I watched the video. Oh, I saw it. What do you think? There's two sides to this. Now, first of all, she has to know who he is and made me expect us. She was laughing in this thing. turned around. She covered her face and turned around and was laughing like crazy and probably

thinking I can't wait to get them back. But if it were me, I'd be like, really, dude, in my face? Like, come on, it's my wedding day. I spent so much time making myself look good and you're going to spray my face. But when I watched it, Kathy, I thought it was kind of funny and she was laughing. There's a lot of controversy out there right now. I know people are talking. We don't know them, right? We don't know the couple.

I mean, people say, well, she knows what she's getting herself into. I don't think so. I mean, unless they have some kind of weird fetish where Friday nights they open up a champagne bottle and see what happens with it, I think that's probably the first time that he ever had a champagne bottle in his hand, shook it up and, you know, aimed it at her face. I think if that were me, when I watched it, I was thinking, I'd be laughing on the outside and crying on the inside. And then I want to kill them on the inside.

Yeah. You know, for precisely what you said, the wedding pictures, the things that you take with you that you go back and look at and her hair and the gown and in her face, makeup running. I mean, I don't think it's funny. I don't think the antics of, you know, when I got married in the dark ages, there was always a thing pushed the cake into her face. and I had told my husband... That's something you talk about prior to. It's exactly what we did. We talked about it before and I said, if you do that,

it'll be the shortest marriage on record. And I'm not kidding. I would have been very angry. Throwing champagne in her face wasn't a thing when I got married, but I would not like it. I wish they would have continued the video after the champagne was done and see how her reaction was.

But when I looked at it, it was kind of comical. Yeah, but remember, there's a video. there. Yeah, he caught it all on tapes so she could kill him later. Exactly. What you're going to do, start screaming. I don't know. I think, you know, there's the word decorum, good taste never goes out of style.

Oh, wait. It did continue, Kathy. And then he goes over with the bottle and holds it. Yeah, and she drinks from it. Yeah, great. She's already doused with the champagne. He also gives her the bottle to let her. And she gets it back.

You know, she can't get him back. the fizz is gone. So what? It's a fun thing. Okay, great. At your wedding. I'm good. I'm going to watch your mascara making you look like a raccoon and I'm going to say,

it's all in fun season. Hope you like it. I'm going to kill you. Yeah, exactly. Well, that was fun. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit.

Well, to come. It's Back to School Week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he needs. now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I never envision being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night,

I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself.

Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

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And we have just enough time to play a quick game All right, ready? Let's do it, Kat. Let's do it. This game is called deal breakers. We're going to say a scenario and then decide if each of us thinks it's a deal breaker for a relationship, okay?

Fair enough. All right. Here it goes. Is it a deal breaker? You're about to move in with your partner. He makes triple your salary, Susan, but still wants to split the bills 50-50. Is this a deal-breaker for you? It's a concern, that's for sure.

If he's making triple, it depends on what she makes, though. Maybe she makes good money, too, but it's worth it. discussion. I don't know about a deal breaker, but yeah, I would have a sit down over this one. So what if his triple salary, if he's putting a lot more into maybe they have a joint savings account? I mean, I think the issue here is they're not married. They don't have combined finances. And even if you're married, they might not have combined finances. But I think it's not a deal breaker necessarily, but I think your point, it speaks loudly to, is he moving in because he loves you or is he looking to cut his cost of living? Yeah, right. That would be a deal record right there,

but hopefully he's saving for their home or, honey, let's do 50, 50, and I'll bank everything so we can buy a house. I mean, we don't know enough. Exactly. It's a little bit that we don't know. However, they're not married because it says partner. And maybe it's just going to be a long-term relationship. I don't know. I don't like it. I want to live with the guy who's going to pay off. that much money. Come on, Susan. That's up. We want to live with the guy who's going to pay all the those days are long gone. All right. Your new partner hasn't posted you on any of their social media yet. And you've been together for six months. When you bring it up, he says, I just don't really post anything. Is that a deal breaker? Well, I have to tell you, I have a friend that this

happened to. And he was posting, he's cheating on her. He's posting, yeah, he's cheating on her. Come on. He's posting pictures of him with other girls. He said, oh, those real girlfriends, I'm looking like, really? I got a wood nickel I want to sell you. I mean, come on. Well, you should know if he does do post. I mean, if he doesn't really post on social media, that is understandable. But, yeah, I would question it. I would definitely question that. If he doesn't post at all, you would question that? I mean, if he's not a guy that post all the time, that's why he's not posting, I would think. So why is that, why would you question that?

If the guy doesn't post it on? If he doesn't post, then you're good. But if he posts a lot of times and just hasn't post about them, then yes. Yeah. That's a difference. There's a problem. But this one, she says he doesn't post. So he doesn't post, he doesn't post.

It's like saying, you know, he doesn't smoke cigarettes. Is it a deal breaker? No, I mean, whatever. He doesn't do it. All right. Here's the last one. That was an easy one. I love that we're agreeing so much, don't you?

I know. What is happening? All right. You see a text conversation between your partner and their friend that has a history of making you feel uncomfortable. In the conversation, you see your partner sent a red heart when he thanked you thank for paying for his beer when they were out with some other friends. Is this a deal breaker?

Oh, God. I mean, you've got to know more. These are, hmm. I put hearts after everything. I heart everybody. I heart everybody about everything. I know. Don't overthink it.

If in the text conversation, if there's a phone number and call me after six, I'll be home. Or last night was great. Can't wait to see you. Yeah. then you can worry. But short of that, I mean, love you, thanks for buying me a beer. It's harmless. I think, you know what, I do think, though, this brings up an interesting issue.

This generation has been raised on social media. That's how they connect. That's how they discuss. They don't have what we would call verbal, as much verbal interactions. And so people, there's no, there's no feeling with the text message, right? So instead of saying, I love you, Susan, thanks for buying me a beer. It's just a quick heart. It's a red heart, you know.

It's nothing more, nothing less. And I think that's one of the dangers of social media. Yeah, yeah. And texting even, you know, you can't read their emotions, you know. That's exactly right. Actually, we do have time for one more quick one here. Okay. Your partner reveals that they have a significant amount of debt that they have not previously mentioned. They assure you they have a plan to pay it off, but it will take several years.

Is this a deal breaker? Oh, how big is that debt? And can he afford to do what we're doing as well as pay off his debt? Well, it says it takes several years. So I don't think, I don't think it's an extra bag of groceries we're talking about here. Man, I mean, I don't know if it's a deal bigger, but, man, I'd be a little annoyed. I'd be more than annoyed. If it's my partner, this person did not say boyfriend or girlfriend said partner, which tells me they've been together longer than 10 minutes. If I've been with someone and for some amount of time that I'm calling them my partner, then I would assume that I would know if they'd previously been married. if they'd been arrested

and if they have a significant debt to be paid off that will take several years. I've got to say for me, that might be a deal breaker. It could be. It depends on how big it is. I need a little bit more information. Yeah, I would think I would need to know a little more as well, but it truly is a conversation.

Well, and think about it. I don't know the law, but I don't want to take on someone's death. Exactly. You get married and boom, that's your debt then. Well, then it's called a pre-node. yeah i guess so i mean it's very complicated doesn't it does modern day yes we never worried about that shit you had one checking account you know although kathy katherine there was always more month than money how many people that get married today have their debt from college i mean there's tons of college

loans and people have to pay it off right maybe that's what it is is it a gambling debt is it you know I don't know. Depends on what it is. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I'm not as concerned about what the debt is as I am that he or she has not known about it. Yeah. Has not told the other person about it until this time.

And I, you know, oh, if they're going to hold that, what else are they holding? Surprise right before we do this. Yeah. Yeah, by the way, I owe $106,000 to. Hey, Susan, are you my good friend? Yes, I am. Can I borrow a couple hundred thousand? I got some serious debt to pay off.

I just paid my debt off yesterday. I was happy. That means you can now have a partner. You can pass go, collect $200. You're not going to jail. I am debt-free America. Yeah, give her 10 minutes. She'll be shopping.

I've never to use my card like three times. Oh, goodness. That was great, Kat. That was fun. And that's all for today's episode of Golden Hour. Thank you so much for joining us. Yes. Thank you all so much.

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