Bachelor Happy Hour - Treat Rudeness with Kindness | Golden Hour

Episode Date: October 14, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re getting into some of your questions! We kick off the episode recapping last week’s episode of “The Golden Bachelorette.” Then, we ask our question of the day: How do you feel about blocking people on social media? We also respond to some of your questions! What do you do when a friend’s husband gets a little too close? How do adapt to your body changing as you age? We get into all this and so much more. Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect.

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Thanks so much for joining us today. Kathy and I are actually together in the studio, and it's so much fun. I love it. I can look at her at her face. I don't have to look at her on a computer. it's amazing we are so glad to be back and together and with y'all if you haven't heard our recent episode oh baby oh you are you are really missing but the fact that you're here and you're listening to this all you got to do now is go to bachelor happy hour and hit the follow button that's right

and if you want to send in some of your comments your reviews or even a question that you know we do talk about just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour just send them our way and we'll be sure to cover it we look forward to doing from guys but today we're going to get into some of your questions but first susan we have got to talk about last night's episode of the golden bachelorette and i'm willing to go first if you don't want to no i think it was difficult and i fear that people all felt the sadness. I mean, it was beautiful about the cancer and the knowledge of them raising money for it.

But to watch a show that you want to be hopeful that somebody's going to find love and the feel good, I was a little down last night. It was hard to watch. Yeah, I mean, the positives, the guys doing the strip tease. I mean, that was funny. But it was a moment. They put themselves out there.

It was great. But I, and we love, for those of you out there, We are good friends with Joan. We love Joan. We think she's doing a great job. But here's the thing for us, and for me, I should speak for me. The show is about love and hope. And the next chapter being the best chapter and just the joy that we can find.

And people getting hope from watching. Exactly. And to me, Susan and I were watching this last night together because we are in L.A. And we were, I almost started crying. Like I felt hopeless. It changed our whole mood. Yes, it did. And I think that this show is about hope and love.

And this was so much looking backwards of, and I know Joan misses her husband. And we know that you can't, I can't replace my husband. You know, Joan can't replace hers. And Chuck's mom died. And Chuck's mom died, and that was a real moment. But the thing is, there just seemed to be so much focused last night on loss. Yeah. So.

Let's pick it up from there. there, right? Let's pick it up and move on. I will tell you one of the moments I loved, though, was those guys coming out to say goodbye to Charles Bell. That was the best part of the whole show. I wish we got to do that. I know, right? That was so special. The camaraderie, the love

those men feel for each other, that that was a special moment. But my hats off to the guys doing the striptease. I know how uncomfortable and hard, but they rocked it. They did so, so well. I mean, they really put them out there and kudos to you.

And that's another thing that I think this show is getting us to live outside of our comfort zone and doing crazy things like that. Wait, can I just say back on the strip tease? Jonathan, who said never done it before? Damn, that boy was hot.

You've got a future. If everything else doesn't work out for you, you have got a future as a chip and nail. And may I say, did Chuck know he was going to get the tuxedo? Because he looks. So handsome man, he has a great body. I mean, most of those guys have, they all look good.

They did, they did. I love it. And then Mark saying, I loved it. It was so heartfelt Mark said, you know, the hope, the love will always be there for her, but he has room for more. I love that. But he's open. He's ready.

I think that's why he's on this show. And Joan has struggled a couple times now, not knowing if she was ready. And something she said last night was. I might leave with nobody. Like enough of that. Yeah, I just, I really wanted. I want to uplift now. Give people hope.

Give people hope because you know what? Life is good. And there is so much to be grateful for and thankful for. And I know this journey is hard for June. Number one, opening herself up. And I love the night that she accepted the fact that you're not replacing your husband. Yes. And these men are not replacing.

their deceased wives for you know yeah it's okay to let somebody else in yeah wait the i just thought of another one that i loved um at the uh before the rose ceremony do you remember when joan raised a glass yes and said here is to all of you and finding love and that's the kind of hope that's what we want to hear more we want to see way more of that it's and i love that they acknowledge everybody's lost but that's enough okay yeah it's enough we want happy we want you know and it's not it's not i'm not excusing it or trying to put it away i just think that the premise at least for our show um was all about finding happiness finding love finding friendships looking forward not backward so i i hope that i know joan it was hard for her i'm

sure it was hard but And we wish them all the very best. I can't wait until next week. I was just going to say, can't wait for next week. So today, we're back answering more of your questions. Oh, no, Susan. We're going to do the question of the day first. All right. How do you feel about blocking people on social media? Like, do you think it's rarely necessary? Do you do it often? What does it take for someone, you know, personally, to get blocked?

And I have a great story that I just did. I got a direct message. People always say, you know, Do you get direct messages, people asking you out? No, I don't. But I had a guy the other day ask me if he, I'm not kidding, if he paid me, it was on TikTok. If he paid me, could I entertain him on the Internet? Can I tell you how fast I blocked and reported him? Are there sites for that stuff?

Well, I don't know. I'm not on those either. But I turned him in and I got such satisfaction because you know what happened? They got back to me and they said that he is now restricted from DMing anyone. Good, good, good. So that's when I block them. Do I think it's rarely necessary? It depends on how often somebody says something out of line or of color.

Don't you ignore people sometimes when they send you? I do. You ignore them. Just ignore them. It has to go some for me to block them. But I think what does it take for someone, you know, personally to get blocked? I've never blocked anyone personally. Although we've been blocked.

My people, we've been blocked? Why? I'm not, can't use names for it. Oh, remember? But you know what, I don't do it that often because most people are really kind. Yeah, most people out there, when you write in, you're supportive and your kind. I think really it's just remember that we are real people and people who sit behind their computer throwing out insults and cruelty. I will tell you a lot of times when they say something mean to me, I don't block them.

I write back. I really hope you're having a nice day. It hurts my feelings. It hurts from feelings, but preach rudeness with kindness. People say lots of things about me, but I get more positive than I do negative. And you yourself have told me, don't read those. Yeah. You know, but you like to interact with the people that are your fans and are sharing their experiences.

So we have to read them. Yeah. I think generally, and I know you do too, Susan. I generally believe people are good. And yes, there's some malcontents out there every once in a while. they're just going to, you know, throw something mean at us. There's always a rotten apple. Yeah, there's always a rotten apple.

And you know what? I feel sorry for those people and we keep our days bright. You know what? Positivity. Be kind. Happy life. That's right. All right.

We love it. Okay. We're going to get into some of those fan questions. All right. You ready? You ready? Go first. All right.

All right. The first one is from Anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I love your podcast and I feel like you guys would have a really good perspective on this. My oldest sister got engaged to her fiancé about a month ago. Recently, she asked me if she thought I would be getting engaged to my boyfriend before the end of the year. We've been together for four years and have been living together for a year and a half. I thought she was asking just out of curiosity. So I answered, honestly. I told her that we've

talked about marriage and I know we'll get engaged eventually, but neither of us has expressed a firm timeline because we're not in any rush, but we're open to the idea. she immediately got uncomfortable and short with me when i said that i was really confused so i asked her if everything was okay she said she was fine and changed the subject i'm fine yeah i can hear it okay a few days later our other sister told me she was really pissed off at me apparently our oldest sister doesn't want whoa doesn't want any of us to do anything wedding related until her wedding is over She's getting married a year and a half from now. I understand not wanting me to get engaged at her wedding, like, duh, but to not even want me to get engaged during your wedding year?

This honestly isn't a surprise because she's always been like this ever since we were kids. She's always stressed that since she's the oldest, she would get married first. So here's my question. What do I tell my boyfriend, if anything? At first, I didn't think it was necessary to tell him because I don't want to live my life based on my older sister's crazy. he demands. But I would hate for him to propose, have a huge wave of drama come, and he's totally caught off guard when I knew this would happen the whole time. But I also don't want him to be discouraged about proposing if he's planning to do it this year. And I don't want him to think

I live my life around my sister. I would love to get engaged. But I would hate for a special moment to be tainted by stupid drama that could potentially be avoided. I don't know what to do. any advice would be so appreciated. God bless you. She sounds like she's going to be Godzilla, a bridezilla. I think she's already there, Susan. Oh, baby. You know what?

You have a great relationship with your boyfriend and you could share. Guess what she did. You know, guess what she said. Now, listen, if you want to propose to me, don't even think twice. I'll accept that ring. But this is what's happening. I love you. Couldn't disagree with you more.

Why? I don't care. Her sister could say she wants to be the first one to fly to the moon. You know what? If I get an invitation to go on the trip to the moon before her, I'm going. I think this is absurd. I think you're letting your sister. What do you disagreeing with?

I'm disagreeing that she should tell her boyfriend. Oh, I would share it with him. I would. No, because you know what? You know what? First of all, he may not want to, she wants to be engaged. I get it. Yeah.

He may not want her. I said, don't let this stop you, honey. Yeah, but that might be the perfect excuse for him. I would just let it go. I would tell your sister that. Nothing. You tell you, exactly. And I'm sorry, he popped the question and get the lower.

I have to tell you, though, what I did. Wait, wait, wait. Just because she's the oldest doesn't mean you get married first. My sister has three daughters, my nieces. And the baby just got engaged. And we're all happy. Mazel. Okay, now I have to fess up.

I've never told you this before. Oh, Jesus, here we go. So I have a sister. I come from a large family, but I have a sister who is 11 months older than I am. And my now deceased husband asked me to marry him and gave me a ring the day before her wedding. And I knew it was coming.

And let me tell you anonymous, I was very happy to receive that wedding. Right. Does it engage in her ring? I showed my parents, my siblings. Um, my sister was like, oh, that's great. What I didn't do was run around the wedding going, look, look, I'm engaged. I had the ring on, but I didn't, you know, I kept it quiet.

You share it with your, I may have told a few more than, yeah, yeah, yeah, but you didn't make a huge announcement, like the DJs and say, oh, oh, no, no, no, no, so I think anonymous, um, your sister, yeah, I think your sister's pushing a little bit too much here, but I hope you get engaged if that's what you want. I do too. And I hope your sister's wedding is a blast. I hope Bridezilla pulls it off. Absolutely. Thanks so much for sharing that. Let us know what happens. I know.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up.

Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free free. iHeartRadio app search emergency intercom and listen now all right question number two claire asks hi ladies i'm wondering how you personally deal with accepting your changing body as you age i'm only in my 30s but i don't look the same as i did in my 20s and i know this is something

i'm going to continue dealing with as i get old you are both beautiful and radiant confidence oh thank you i don't want to spend my life longing to get back to how i used to be because that's unrealistic and such a waste of energy but i struggle with accepting changes i'd love to hear your thoughts on this subject well claire we do too and that's just a part of life but i think we'll both agree no matter what nip talk or or little tweak we get we're all never going to look like we used to look, accepting, they say, age gracefully. Well, I'm graceful about it. Yeah.

My body, when I look in the mirror, it's not the same as it used to be. But if I could get a little light bow here or a little tuck here or a laser on my face to make it feel better for me, then that's what you do. But you're absolutely right. I mean, I would say, Claire, you know, another little truism from Kathy. I used to wait 200 pounds, so I never got to wear bikinis and all that. And yes, I'm much thinner now, but I never had that great body. Because she doesn't eat.

I eat plenty. The woman does not eat. Plenty. Anyway, my point here is I had to change. It's sort of the reverse of what you're saying. I wanted to look better as I've gotten older. So I work out regularly. I do all the things I can.

But Susan's right. We're all going to age. And you can't hold on to being 20. Guess what? You can't hold on to being 30. But as you get older, Claire, you will begin to embrace who you are inside and out. And that is my wish for you because there's, you want to feel good about yourself for you. But you're going to age.

So feel good about it. How about what she said, though? You're both beautiful and radiant and confidence. We radiate confidence. But you're looking at us saying that, but we feel the exact same way that you do when you look in the mirror and say, I don't look like I used to. You never will again embrace it. But don't you think there's something good about getting older and learning to accept? I think, Claire, as you get older, you accept who you are.

And that doesn't mean you give up or anything. It means make yourself feel good in any way that you can or that you want to. But understand that with age comes so many wonderful things, benefits that you'll know. Wisdom. So best of luck, Claire. I'm sure you're a beautiful woman. And guess what? You're going to be beautiful no matter what you do.

And stay confident in yourself. And as you age, we have a lot more confidence because of the knowledge and the life experiences that. So what we're saying, Claire, is don't do what we did. No, do what we did. When you get to 67 and 70, get a nptoc, who cares? Right. Or if she wants to do it at 30 and get Botox, go for it. Do whatever makes you feel good.

All right. Thanks, Claire. Thanks for writing in. Let us know. We want to hear. All right. All right. Question, a next question is from anonymous.

I love the anonymous. I like anonymous too. And those of you listening, you don't have to give us your name, just so you know. Okay. Hi, ladies. I've been married several years and so is one of my closest friends. over the years my friend's husband has gotten into the habit of texting me individually without including my best friend or my husband recently the texts have included hidden innuendos

it's almost like he wants to get a rise out of me or shock me but the undertone is romantic ouch yeah ouch i initially thought it was a joke but as the comments have gotten weirder i have stopped reacting via text i am not a flirtatious person at all but am a good listener and very caring. I also care deeply for my close friend and know in the past they have had challenges as all marriages do. I know next time I want to communicate with him directly when he does this. The last time was so shocking. I didn't even know how to react. The problem is that we live in different states and don't see each other face to face. I want to keep my relationship with my friend so I'm thinking maybe I should be there for my friend instead of reacting to our husband's comments.

What do you both think? Can I go on first on this? Sure. Anonymous. I get why you're being anonymous. You need, you don't need to see him face to face. All you need to do is send him a text and say, be direct.

I find your text uncomfortable and not appropriate. Please do not text me anymore these kinds of jokes in your windows, whatever word you want to use, and then say, furthermore, any text you send me, please include your wife and my husband, period. I guarantee you anonymous, it will cease and desist. Or, or a couple choices, ignore, stop responding completely, or really, really, what do you think your wife would think of this? I think you're stepping a little across the line here.

So, behave. Yeah, and I didn't like when she. She said, but I like my friend. So I'm thinking, you know, I should be there for my friend instead of reacting. I don't even know what that means. Use this phrase, but shut that up. Yeah. Don't make excuses.

Yeah, it needs to stop. And you're, you know what, Anonymous, you're a strong woman. You're in control. You need to make it stop. Absolutely. And you need to make it stop yesterday. Nip it in the butt. So good luck and nip it now.

Don't be afraid to say it. They don't absolutely don't be afraid to say, hey, I think you're crossing the line here. This is not cool. And we've been friends a long time and let's not bring a good friendship. Don't blow it. I love you, but don't blow it. I'm going to hurt you. I would say I'm going to hurt you.

Susan brings out the baseball bat on all occasions. All right. Hit the next one. Okay, we got question number four. Another anonymous cat. I love this. Okay. Hi, Kathy and Susan.

I really need your help. I've been with my fiancé for five years and we've been engaged for a little less than a year. We've wanted to save up for a really nice wedding since we're paying for it ourselves. So we have another eight months until we get married. For the past six months, I haven't wanted to have sex. I love kissing him, hugging him, and cuddling him. But seemingly out of nowhere, I have no interest in doing anything further. I can't tell if it's my mental health stress, a problem with our relationship or something else. We've talked about it candidly, and I told him that I'm just struggling with my sex drive,

but that I don't know how to fix it. Despite it being frustrating for us both, he's very understanding. I really want to get to the bottom of this, but I feel like I'm also a little scared about what I'm going to uncover. I really love him, and I don't understand. why I can't get myself to be intimate. Any suggestions on how to figure out where this is coming from would be helpful. Even past my fears that it's about him, which I really don't think it is, I don't even know where to start when it comes to tackling this. For context,

I'm 30 and he's 32. Love you both. Thank you. Well, I have to address something immediately. In the beginning here, can I reread? She loves, for the past six months, I haven't wanted to have sex. She loves kissing, hugging, cuddling, but out of nowhere has no interest in anything else. She can't tell if it's a mental health stress problem or with our relationship. Why wouldn't you know if it's with your relationship? That's something you would no i think anonymous is it not kathy no help me here i i i'm agreeing with you i think your relationship isn't perfect well she said twice uh even my fears that it's about him which i really don't think it is she says it twice in her question so anonymous i think you're questioning the relationship

and maybe you're afraid to because the wedding's coming up so here's my my advice i think susan will probably agree with this um get yourself to a counselor to a therapist to a doctor Doctor. Well, I would start with a therapist and a doctor because to make sure it's not something chemical in your body, but I think at her age it probably isn't. And then talk it through because if you are starting to doubt, you've been engaged for five years and now the wedding's coming up in less than the air. That is stressful. It is stressful. But maybe deep down, she's changed from mine and she's not Cherise the guy. Well, that's what we can't figure out. We can't figure out. I have a question. I don't even know if I'm allowed to say this on air. what say it like is it that he's not good did he not make you climax i mean could that be a problem who knows she said she's struggling with her sex drive that well if you're not being satisfied that is a stress susan it's been so long for me i don't know what the hell you're talking about you know what that is a problem and not by choice may i say not by choice yeah hopefully he's

satisfying you and if he's not that's a whole new yeah i don't i you know my my women's intuition tells me this is not this is what is happening they're about to get married but I'm saying I think there might be something else just I'm just guessing there might be more to the story. She lost her sex drive at 30 years old you're in your prime I think

I think that's right okay let me see that's either a medical or she's thinking the wedding's coming up and I don't want to get married that could be maybe something hidden problems or like I said and for a therapist she's not satisfied it could be or perhaps

ask yourself this in private when you look at another man do you feel that like you want to you know somebody that you find very attractive that'll tell a lot well yes and no i mean the old you can look at the menu but don't sample at the restaurant if you're in another i mean oh god i'm saying you can look at another guy go he's hot but that's different sometimes you might have a desire like oh man susan you got to get your mind out of the sex bucket i swear it's not a sex bucket it's human nature. Oh, I guess I'm not human. She's not human. Anyway, I think, I think Anonymous, you really do. You need to go to a doctor and make sure there's nothing, you know, metabolically wrong or some issue you're having. And then if that's clear, I'd get myself to a therapist so quickly and uncover maybe what is really going on in your head. I mean, I remember struggling when I was hitting menopause. You know, you kind of lose your desire. She's 30. She's 30. And they talked about it candidly. Yeah. So there is an issue. And I want to say one more, I'm going to go out on a limb here anonymous. If you decide after whoever you talk to that he isn't the guy for you, guess what? You're 30 years old. You have your life in front of you. I'll tell you right now, I'm not wishing this on you. I'm saying if you don't think he's the guy, break up and send the wedding gifts back and cancel the caterer because your life will be far better if you do it now. And that he's understanding and all, but how long do you think he can go without it?

Yeah, that's... I'm just saying, get to the bottom of it anonymous and let us know, let us know if you go through the wedding and we hope that it all works out for you, but let us know. It could be a hormone deficiency, you know? It could be a hormone. We could fix it. How do you make a hormone? You go to the doctor.

No, you don't pay her. Oh, gosh. Oh, gosh, I dread what's coming up next. No, please no. It's my favorite. It's moral quandary. Susan. Okay.

I'm not. telling you the rules. I'm going to not waste time in that. We're just going to roll with the cap. We're going to roll and I'm going to start us off and you're going to see how well you do today. I'm grading you at the end of this. Oh, God, help me. Okay? I'm grading you. All right. You're on an eight hour flight and a five-year-old is sitting behind you. For the first hour, the child is non-stop kicking your chair, playing on their iPad with the volume all the way up and loudly whining. Despite asking the parents multiple times to do something, their gentle parenting efforts, not change into the child's behavior.

What do you do? No, no, no. I know. I keep thinking what I would do. I got to think about what would Kathy do. See, look at that, folks. She's learning. I'm taking my time here.

What would you do, Kath? I could tell you what I would do. Kathy would maybe move her seat if there was one. No, are you kidding? Getting on an airplane today is like a cattle call. You're lucky if you get the seat to yourself and you aren't sharing it. Would you tell the flight attendant? what would you do? I can't answer your question. I can't. How, ladies and gentlemen,

when you're asked these moral quandary things, you've got to guess what your partner or your friend. I can guess what you would do. What? I think you would get up and talk to the parents and say, look. This said several times you already talked. You are going to look at the child and say, if you kick my chair again, I'm going to catapult you right out of this airplane. I'd probably give him candy. or something or something drowsy to make them sleep. No, that's a tough one. I mean, none of us would be comfortable with that at all. Let me just say, playing on their iPad with their volume, you can't do that on the airplane.

No, you can't do that anymore. That's for starters. But I would say, I would not see, what you missed on me is I wouldn't have asked five times. I would have made it so clear the first time. I didn't need to say it a second time. And would if they did nothing about it? I'd get up and say, you apparently didn't hear me. this is a very long flight you need to get control of your child and then i'd smile and sit back down

and i'd get the kid's face i just said that that man up there is going to come back and get you do you hear susan this is why children this is why children psychology child psychologists are fully booked because susan walks around threatening them seriously that's a nightmare so i can tell you a little story and it was the person in front of me okay and i believe i was going to europe and she was in uniform. I have nothing but respect. You mean a military uniform? Absolutely. Okay. This woman, like,

you're tight. I wasn't in first class. I wasn't even in business class, okay? For me, I was regular coach. You got three sodas and peanuts. Stop complaining. She's jerking around. My trade table is in my lap. I've got hot tea and cookies, which I love to dunk the cookies

because that's all you freaking get. But I packed me on snacks. It spilled twice. I tapped in front of me on her shoulder she turned around she glared at me and i said excuse me could you not move so much i i can't help it but this stuff is spilling she ignored me she turned around with attitude you know when somebody just does that yes i did well now my cousin's next to me and she's freaking out like oh god oh god what a susan what a do the third time i tapped her the third time i said excuse me if you don't keep still and she i didn't even finish she stands up and she's big

she's a big girl and i'm sure in shape she had an army outfit on it wasn't an outfit it was a uniform she turned around and glared at me and this is what happens i mean i can't her to fly i really can't don't believe her but if you're gonna try and come after me i'm gonna die trying she turned around and just flexed her muscles and looked at me and I said if you don't sit down I'm going to flick you like a fly wait wait wait I'm mistaken it wasn't my cousin it was my ex-husband dickie dickie got up went to the back of the plane got the flight of ten he said you better come up and settle this because my wife is going to go ape on this woman wait this is the woman I just want to point out to everyone listening this is the woman who just said she couldn't

hurt a flea I just I just want to point out the fly catth Whatever. A flea, a fly. A gnat. Who cares? This is the... Don't piss me off. Really? The one who cannot hurt a fly, flea or gnat is saying don't piss her up. But I'm going to tell her behave. Sit to freak down. It's just rude. It's rude. It's rude. Okay. All right along. I want to do one more PSA. If you are boarding a flight and you see Susan Knowles on the manifest, sit next to me. Do not sit next to her. I share snacks. I'm telling you. I'm fun. Yeah, just don't sit behind her or in front of her. A lot of people kicked behind me I turn around and look at them

Like I felt that I felt that Be aware Wow All right My boyfriend's professor Is way too friendly And now I'm seriously suspicious

Oh wait a minute Sam Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit Well Dakota It's back to school week on the okay story time podcast So we'll find out soon This person writes My boyfriend has been hanging out With his young professor a lot

He doesn't think it's a problem But I don't trust her Now he's insisting we get to know each other But I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age.

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest.

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months but he struggles to open up about his feelings so you haven't been able to get him to speak about it much while he's out of town for work you noticed his journal was accidentally left open in the living room first of all he does that but do you peek out of concern or respect his privacy i know so what you do susan would not worry it would not be of any concern to her nor would you give one flip about his privacy. She'd take the deep dive into that journal and have it memorized in 10 minutes every word of it. And then she'd probably write a handwritten note in there when she found something she didn't like. Am I right? Well, maybe I'd figure it out. Am I right? I don't know if I'd memorize it or write a handwritten note, but yes, I'd look. What would I do? You'd look too. Absolutely.

We agreed and I'm winning the game today. Are you proud, ladies and gentlemen? Here we go. Okay, go. Isn't she you, I just want everyone. I think it's the company. I think it's because you're here with me. That's right. And not just the computer screen away. I'm giving you the snap.

I'm giving you the snap, not the hand clap, the snap. Come on. A guy comes up to you at a bar. I only wish. Okay, sorry, that was not. They never do. Never do. A guy comes up to you at a bar and you guys immediately hit it off.

Ooh. Wait, I like this question. Where are you, sir? He buys you and your friend. Oh, Susan's with me. He buys you and your friend a drink, chats with you. makes you laugh and eventually gives you his number later that same night you see him holding hands and kissing another woman who was a ring on her finger do you confront him tell her discreetly or let it go

what do i do i think we'd do the same thing what would i do you know i walk away yeah yeah no i take you know what i would do loser we talk to each other and say look at this asshole yeah i and then i'd probably lean over to the candle that's on the bar for ambiance and take his nose and take his number and watch it burn or walk by her and say good luck with that one what if it's his wife yeah well i'm staying out of that i'm not that girl listen we're not yeah neither one of us we draw the line that's an easy one so far what am i getting so far scored 100 100 she's got 100 okay your daughter is happily married and loves her in-laws recently however you noticed her husband's mother making snide comments about her when she's not really paying attention.

For example, if someone complements your daughter's home, her mother-in-law will say things like, you can thank my son for that. He's always been the charitable type. What do you do? Kathy, we're going to agree, aren't we? What do you think I would do? You would say,

yes you can thank your son but without my daughter it wouldn't look like this you're close actually yeah you're gonna address it I'm not gonna I'm I'm gonna say I'm gonna be this honestly is where I'm very quiet and kind but I would say quiet did you hear that ladies and so yeah I can be quiet I can be quiet the only time you're quiet yes is when you're upset about something right and you don't want to react that's right well no if I'm really upset I burst into tears um okay you're close I would say

no you're supposed to say oh she fell no you told me what I would do now I'm telling you and then I'll tell you what you would do oh okay so so that is now you're down to a B plus you want to keep going so I would say to that mother-in-law at the right time

very sweet with a big smile on my face you know your son is the best thing since sliced bread aren't you glad that they work so well together and I would emphasize the word together she'd get the drift but I wouldn't you know ran to rave and I think you would hit it directly on

you would just say something straight up because that's who you are so she says the mother-in-law says things like you can thank my son for that what do you think I would do I think you would say something like you can thank my daughter

just as much because without her he'd be nothing. Something like that. I walk up to her and say, do you know what you sound like right now? I don't think your son's real proud of that. It takes too, babe. Shut up. Would you really do that? Yes, it depends. See, everyone thinks how cocky she is.

Everybody thinks I am so direct. I couldn't do that. I really couldn't. But I do it with a smile. Just like once before you said, Susan, if I told somebody to go bank themselves, they would hate you or crucify you, call you out on it. But if I do it, you go, well, I hug them afterwards. I do. Right in their eyes, I look at them and tell them, now come in here and give me a hug and don't let that shit happen again. That's it.

I mean, it's true. She's a miracle with that. All right. What do you think? This was a good episode. Oh, no, we got one more. Oh, we do. Boy, I'm going to fail.

I'm doing a good, too. You're doing a great job. All right. All right. Your boyfriend is throwing a party to celebrate his birthday. during the party a plus one of one of your guests makes a rude comment about your boyfriend not knowing who you are the comment oh the comment happens to be about an insecurity your boyfriend has opened up to you about in the past how do you proceed now before you answer me you make sure you understand here the party during the party a plus one of one of your guests so you probably don't know this person okay what do you think i would do Oh, no, I'm answering you. What do I think you would do?

Okay. You would look at that person and say, I don't know if you know who I am, but Joe over there is my boyfriend and... No, I think that's what you would do. Okay, well, you're right. I thought that's what you would do too. No. I'm similar, but no. All right, what would you do?

I'd pull them aside and say, I don't know who the hell you are or how you got here. But that's my boyfriend you're talking about, and that is something. That's real. How dare you? See, I couldn't, I couldn't do that. But I would also, then later, if I got him alone, I would say, and by the way, you had no right to talk about something. You're telling me you would go up to him and say, that was my boyfriend. No, you're overhearing him.

He makes a rude comment about your boyfriend and you're right there. You would. Yes, I said I would speak right up. We're agreeing. We're agreeing. I'm still giving you a B plus, so you didn't get totally right. No. No. You know how bad I am at this game. I did excellent today. Ladies and gentlemen, please, I beg of you. I beg of you right in, right in to tell me I didn't get an A today. Okay? I know people listen to us. Please write in. Every week. Please write in and tell her she didn't get an A. That's what I want them to do too. That's what you just said. I got an A. That does it. That does it.

I just want to say one more thing. Susan is a great grubber. I bet the teachers loved her at school. please can I do extra credit please yeah I got straight A's and failed conduct I'm shocked my mouth wait wait what do you think I got seriously straight A's on both yeah I did I know I'm I'm afraid to break whatever all right you are afraid to break rules well only snows were made once I broke can I just tell you let me one last thing before we close Susan and I were driving down 95 well Susan was driving I was on for dear life. She was driving down 95 and all of a sudden the girl hits the brakes because there was a state trooper parked on the left side of the, you know, in the median.

And I'm like, oh, Jesus, she's, I mean, she's like 25 miles over the speed limit. So she hits the brake, slows down. And then as we go back, she goes, oh, it's only a dummy. It doesn't matter. And speeds up again. I'm like, oh, my God. Isn't that what you do? No, you obey the speed limit.

You go no more than five. Do you know who she is? Can you imagine us being best friends? I only go five over the speed list. Polar opposite best friends. Okay, that does it for today. That does it for this episode of Happy Hour. Thank you so much for joining us.

I think next week we're going to do the whole episode of Moral Quandry. I can hardly wait. I know. I'm absent, but make sure you keep these questions coming and you know what to do. Send them to bachelornation.com slash golden hour. We really like getting connected with you guys. and we love all your questions. We want to know what's on your mind.

We want to get some advice. We want you to join us in moral quandary maybe because Susan needs help. But in the meantime, listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour on the IHeart Radio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Thanks so much for joining us. We have fun. We have a great time. In the meantime, until next time. Puller, opposite and I get an A.

I want you people to write it in. Write it in. I just wanted to prove it to Kathy. I did good today. You did well. Not good. I love you, too. Love you.

Have a great week, everybody. Chow. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime Podcasts on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect.

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