Bachelor Happy Hour - We All Need a Self-Check | ‘Golden Hour’

Episode Date: August 7, 2024

Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are back for another round of advice for your fan questions! We kick off today’s episode with Kathy and Susan’s wedding hot takes. Then, we get into your questions! We dive into lulls after first dates, when friends might have a wandering eye for your boyfriend, and more. Plus, we end today’s episode with another game of Truth or Drink. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We are back. Kathy and I are here to talk again. And we love doing it. And if you haven't listened to our episodes from last week, you really did to check them out. We've been having a great time and you're going to love them. We loved it. It was so much fun. So today, we've got some great fan questions and a couple other fun surprises that you won't want to miss out on. And don't forget, if you have a question for Kathy and I, please send them in. Go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour. We've been getting

so many great questions from you guys. Unbelievable great questions. Please, please do send your questions. But Susan, one of my favorites, we're going to get started with the question of the day. Here we go. Okay. Go ahead. What is a wedding hot take that you have? That means like an unpopular opinion about weddings. Like what is, so for me, an unpopular opinion for me is that like the bride has to always wear white. Or they have the third. throw the garter or all that. I mean, I mean, I've seen brides wear really pretty suits and pink wedding gowns.

Whatever they want. I know, but that's one of the things. A lot of people are like, oh, no, she's got to be in white. Tradition. Yeah, exactly. What's some other ones for you? I don't know that I really have any. I mean, for me, a new one, which is not new anymore, was the first site.

You know, they take their pictures before the cocktail hour, before the actual ceremony. And what my first thought was, oh, but we're not old school anymore. It's not like, some of them still sleep together the night before the wedding, you know? You're absolutely right. And, you know, one of the ones, I hated this at my wedding. I don't know if it's unpopular or popular, but when I got married, it was cute. to take the cake and sort of ram it in their mouth. Oh, gosh, never.

I don't like that. I remember that video that we talked about where he hosed her? I was like, that's unpopular. Like, no, no thank you. We don't need that. No. I don't know. Weddings have changed so much since you and I got married.

I know. It changed with the times, you know. I mean, I think. Does anybody out there have any opinion on that? Because I'd like to hear it. You mean what's unpopular? now? Yeah, what people think is unpopular. I mean, there's so much, so many. I mean, do you remember, you're a wedding efficient? Yes, I am. Do you, what do you think about people writing their own vows?

I love it. I hold it for them. I just did one. Actually, Monday night, it was three hours. It took me to get there, Kathy. Okay, wait a minute. Question. In the old days, it was repeat after me. Do you still do that at weddings? Yes, I do. Yes, I do. That's when they're putting the ring on their finger and what I find humorous. I think they get so caught up and nervous and they're repeating after me. A couple times they were looking at me. I go, no, look at him when you say this. You're not marrying me. Or they forget to put the ring on, it's just holding in her hand. It's so cute. I love it. I don't know. I think, I think when I got married, you know, back when it was black and white television, they didn't you didn't get to write your own vows and i love they also didn't get me to marry you

that wasn't a thing then either oh you know what you're right yeah i don't know if i've told you this not my son that you officiated their wedding back in march not kyle's wedding do you know that my oldest son is a wedding officiant yes yes we talked and i asked kyle i asked him do you want your older brother to marry you? No. Nope. I want Susan. Okay. Let's go. It was great. It was great. All right. Kathy, we have some fan questions. All right. Do you want to go first? All right. So Tara, who is 22, asks, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I really need your help. I'm super stressed out, and I have no one to talk to about this. I think, oh boy, I think my best friend might be into my boyfriend. I've been with John for about a year and a half. He and my best friend, Lindsay, get along really well. When John was looking to

get me a birthday gift, he asked Lindsay for advice. Anytime I have people over or we go out with my friends, it's always a huge relief that John has Lindsay to talk to when I'm chatting with other people or hosting. Everything was great until last week. Lindsay, John, and I, and some other friends were getting ready to go out as we usually do. I noticed Lindsay was acting really weird all night. She was visibly uncomfortable anytime John held my hand or gave me a kiss, which is not out of the ordinary. When we got home from our local bar, Lindsay was crying. John noticed first and immediately grabbed me to see what was wrong. When I pulled Lindsay into my room to figure out what was going on, she just kept saying things like, why doesn't he like me? Why didn't he ask me out?

When I asked who she was talking about, she would just say, you don't know him or nothing. It's fine. It's been two weeks. and even though she still comes around and acts happier, those mannerisms around John and I still come up. I've asked my other close friend, and she's the one that thinks it might be because he has feelings, sorry, it might be because she has feelings for John based on how she acts around us both.

Since I don't have any evidence, I have no way to go about this. What should I do? Ew. Well, when you started this, I thought maybe something that crushes there. But when you finished it, why would the girl say he didn't ask me out if she was talking about junk? John would not ask her out. Exactly.

They would sneak around or something crazy like that. But Tara, Kathy here. You are 22 years old. I bet you are beautiful. I bet John is fabulous, sweetie. I promise you, you are nervous and anxious, and you have probably some issues around trusting him. I am guessing this, as Shakespeare would say,

much ado about nothing. I'm guessing Lindsay met a guy at the bar that you probably didn't see or didn't talk. And she probably wants what you and John have. And this guy that you didn't see probably didn't ask her out or didn't get her phone number. And that's what this is about. What do you think, Susan? And she could be quite jealous of you or in John's relationship and wants that for herself.

But don't overthink this. I remember, I still overthink things and I'm way better than I used to be. But at 22 years old, don't start something that you're going to be great. I know. And Lindsay, here's the, not Lindsay, Tara, you're young, and I don't mean that in a negative way. No, right. You sound passionate and you sound lovely. But here's the thing. You're 22. Let this play out. I really think he's into you and not your girlfriend. Just, you know, take a breath. Be more secure in yourself. Yeah, be secure in yourself. And if you really, really feel like you can't deal, say something to her. Say, do you like him or something? Like, Or ask her, or ask John, really, do you need to be kissing and hugging her? Maybe like, maybe we should not.

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All right. Already. We have one from. Good luck. Good luck, Tara. Absolutely, sweetheart. Maddie, who is 26, and she writes, hi, Kathy and Susan. I love the podcast. I really hope you see this because I could use some advice. I've been single for the past five years, and I really want to find someone. Almost all my friends are in long-term relationships, and sometimes it's a bummer being the fifth wheel. Oh, we know. In the past year, I've gone on a handful of first day. one was a mutual friend too many to admit to were from hinge and one I met at a bar none of them went past date one I don't know what it is I feel like on at least a few of those dates the chemistry was good we were laughing and talking had similar interest at least had enough success for a second date but every single time I go on a first date I thank them either the next morning or a few hours later that day just to say I had a really great time. Most of the time, I don't even get a response. And the few times I have, they say, me too and are never

to be heard from again. Am I doing something wrong? Should I just not text at all? I have no idea what to do, but I'm so tired of this one date slump. Any advice would be much appreciated. Love you both. oh god i remember feeling like that okay so what i've learned through my past i always say i had a good time too i know i get it maybe just pause on that and wait to see if they say something and then you'll know that they're interested because when you send it out of course most of them will be a gentleman said oh yeah me too don't start blowing them up don't start texting them I got to say, Susan, I never, until you just said that, I had a, you keep talking, but I have a whole different take on it. I'm so interested in this that you're focusing on, and you may be right, that she sounds too eager.

But she's sounding like she's feeling chemistry with all of them, like she's saying, what a great time. I would go out and know in five minutes that I would never see this guy again. Yeah, but I still laughed and had conversation. I made it an enjoyable evening and were just not meant for each other. That's all. I was always the one that had to say it by text, of course. I'm so sorry. As much as I enjoyed your company, I just don't feel were a match.

And that's hard to do, even texting. Well, I think you've hit on a couple of really good points here. Number one, she's 26 and she says, I really want to find someone. So she may be too eager. Looking too desperate? Looking desperate and writing right away. So they're like, you, this is too much.

Not interested in this. Could be. But I also wonder if she's attracted to the wrong kind of guy. No, we don't know what kind of guy that is. Well, I don't know either, but she says she's had a lot of all of them are first dates. Am I doing something wrong? So, you know, I guess what I would say, Maddie, is I would think about, I think dating apps have their place and lots of people like them, and they've worked for a lot of people. But maybe for you, you need to meet a guy in real life. And so that you can see

your personality and spend some time doing something as opposed to a date, which is, okay, do you like me? Do I like you? Is there chemistry? Also, Maddie, what is it you're talking about? Are you talking about like the future and your conversation? You do a self-check there? Yeah, maybe you're talking. Maybe you come across as, hey, I'm 26 and I want to get married and have children. Are you interested? You're absolutely right. So Susan's right. Look in the mirror. Have a self-check. It'd be good to you. You know, somebody gave me some advice one time. And I didn't take it for a long time, but you have your own list of what you look for in a person. And if they don't check at least half of those off, if not more, then he's not the right person for you.

Don't feel because all your friends are in a relationship that you need to be with in one as well. I mean, we all felt like that from time to time. I'm still the fifth wheel. But I still go out with my friends. I travel. I don't care. I mean, I do care. I wish.

but yeah I know she's just she's younger but you know what it's interesting she says all of them so you know what mattie maybe you're not selective enough maybe you need to think about are these guys really you know everyone can't be the guy you're looking for right so especially on hinge i was on hinge well i don't think you can call out a hinge any more than any other dating site so you know what i susan and i both we wish you all the best in finding the guy but you know what take stock look in the mirror take stock of what you're doing and how you're doing it and maybe try something different because my my little adage here is if you keep doing what you've been doing you're going to keep getting

what you've been getting change it change it up and get some confidence in yourself don't think that every man's the right man yeah you be choosy you do the choosing yeah exactly okay wish you luck mattie good luck mattie okay and let us know by the way if things if you find the guy let us know for sure probably the one your least thought they thought that's right that's right oh is that way all right okay anonymous writes hi kathy and susan i'm in a bit of a pickle and i really need your help i recently rekindled with an old crush from freshman year of college. We're juniors now. Okay, so she's what? Like 20, 21. Okay. I randomly ran into him at a party and we got to talking about grabbing drinks sometime. Well, last week, we actually

went through with it. We spent hours together talking and laughing and eventually went back to his place and we know what happened there. After spending more time chatting, we ended up hooking up. They did it. They did it. Susan's learned what hooking up means they did the deed it was great i ended up spending the night and left in the morning for a pilates class on my way out he told me he text me so i got out of class and sure enough he texted me again about hanging out i was so excited i texted my group chat with my roommates to tell them when i got home i showed them his instagram and they all thought he was super cute Everything was perfect until later that night.

I was heading to a pregame. Susan, do you know what a pregame is? Yes, Kathy. Yes, I do. Okay. I was heading to a pregame with my friend that through the party I saw my crush at. When we got in the elevator, my friend ran into a buddy of his. Suddenly, he asked my friend, hey, do you know when?

My crush is name. Girlfriend gets back from abroad. I instantly froze and felt like I was going to throw up. My crush was actively cheating on his girlfriend with me. My friend also in total shock replied, They're still dating? I thought they broke up before she left. Turns out they never broke up and they've been together for almost a year.

I played it cool until we were finally out of the elevator and my friend consoled me. I would have never even texted him or, made plans to hang out if I knew he was seen someone what do I do is it my place to say something do I confront the guy I am just sick to my stomach about being in the middle of this and I have no clue what to do what do you think bag oh god you poor little thing it stings it stings so badly but you know what he's going to call you again and And I'd leave him hanging if you could. I mean, me, knowing me and my big mouth,

I have to have the last word. I have to get to the bottom of it and say, how dare you do that? You cheat on your girlfriend. You know what? Say less. Leave the whole picture and let him wonder why. Are you saying ghost him?

Pretty much. In short? Yeah. You know, as I got to be honest with you, Susan, when I was younger, I would have gone off on him. Me too. I would have. I definitely would have. Yes, you're right. Yeah. I know you, sister. But as we've gotten older, we have realized, you know what? That guy's a dog. And that kind of dog is always going to have four paws and eat out of a dish on the floor.

therefore move along anonymous he's not changing don't waste your breath you're skinny or you're skinny or you're pretty on a guy like that that is my advice too and you know what don't get involved because you'll be the one that looks bad and you don't confront him because you know what you're not going to change him and you don't tell her either oh yeah uh-uh you because you know what you were innocent. You didn't do it knowingly. You did it thinking it was an old guy. You were giving him an old, you know, date. You were giving him a second chance. But you know what? I don't know, Susan. Maybe she should tell the girlfriend. So that woman knows what he did while she was abroad? Yeah. Is she friends? Wait a minute. Isn't she friends with her?

I didn't say that. Maybe, I don't know. You do what makes you feel good because you didn't deserve that and cough it up as you had a good time with him and that's all I think if you know the girl I think if you know the girl that's a different story if you don't know her back off say the and you know she ever confronts you you can say the minute I found out I you know I had it's I didn't know and I'm so sorry sweetie there's there are plenty more fish in the sea and I know that doesn't make you feel good today but he's not what he's done at least it was only once too you know just call it what it was but you know what clearly she still had feelings for this guy i know i know or she wouldn't have done that i know

i'm sorry but you know what don't don't let his bad behavior make you not willing to trust and go out with other guys he's a bad guy not all guys are bad guys I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out.

Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzor.

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Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Hey, sis, what if I could promise you you never had to listen to a condescending finance, bro, tell you how to manage your money again. Welcome to Brown Ambition. This is the hard part when you pay down those credit cards. If you haven't gotten to the bottom of why you were racking up credit or turning to credit cards, you may just recreate the same problem a year from now. When you do feel like you are bleeding from these high interest rates, I would start shopping for a debt consolidation loan, starting with your local credit union, shopping around online, looking for some, online lenders because they tend to have fewer fees and be more affordable. Listen, I am not here to judge. It is so expensive in these streets. I 100% can see how in just a few months you can have

this much credit card debt when it weighs on you. It's really easy to just like stick your head in the sand. It's nice and dark in the sand. Even if it's scary, it's not going to go away just because you're avoiding it. And in fact, it may get even worse. For more judgment-free money advice, listen to Brown Ambition on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. All right. We have one more. You ready? Okay. I'm ready. It's from an anonymous. Kathy and Susan, I've been a, I have a big question. And I need help stat. How do I tell a guy he sucks in bed? Sorry. Wait. Excuse me. Okay. I've got it together. Go ahead. Okay. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over two months now. Everything is perfect except our sex life. I'm bored the entire time. Based on what he's told me prior to me experiencing it for myself, if you know what I mean, it seems like every other girl he's been with has always just

hyped him up and told him he was great. Now I got to break it to him that he's basically clueless. He's so, so sweet. And what he lacks in skill he makes up for an intimacy. I really don't want to screw up this conversation because I can tell we still have that honeymoon phase like attraction and closeness. I know I have to be honest. I just have no idea how to tell a guy something like this. How do you suggest I go into the conversation? Oh my God. Wait, so much is going through my mind. I don't know. A couple of things. Susan, do you remember when we did the Jennifer Hudson show? And they asked us that question and I blurted out, teach them. What do you do about it?

The question was like, what do you do about a guy who doesn't, who's not great in bed, doesn't know what to do? I blurt it out. Teach him. I mean, she could try that. But I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I have the courage to do this. I might have to let you do it. Do you remember the guy, when we were in Bachelor Mansion, the guy that I had dated who talked about.

Oh, put the hand down there and thought you could have an orgasm that way? Yeah. Did you tell him, Kath? Yes. You did. Yeah, I told him. Because he said, well, let me share this story. Okay, so I'm going to tell part of it.

You got to tell the rest of it because I get embarrassed. Even though no one's listening, there's nobody, you're right? Only half the world. So I was dating this guy who shall go nameless. Okay. He had been married for many years and he had three kids. So clearly, you know, he knew where to put it. but he had put his hand in that general area on the top of her on the top of me and that was it and didn't

and he was waiting for her to have an orgasm and she goes this isn't working for me he goes but my wife but my wife had orgasms like this and i looked i don't know what's that movie um uh i can't remember the movie but it doesn't matter i said you got to be kidding me you think i'm going to have an orgasm with your hand just sitting there? He goes, my wife did. I said, no, she didn't. She was lying to you. And I said, if I get a hundred women in here, 99, the hundredth is going to be your wife,

is going to say, no effing way. Did I have an orgasm? And he goes, don't tell me. So guess what Kathy did? So here's what Kathy does. Ugh. Ugh. Uh, he goes, see, I told you I'm an orgasm.

I said, are you crazy, you idiot? I was pretending. That's what your wife did for 40-something years. Oh, my God. I thought that was hysteric. Oh, though. Sometimes guys are clues. Here's what the deal.

Can I really just say that? It's all good, Kathy, because that really happened. So if you really like this guy, it's only two months. If you feel like maybe you can fall in love with him, then I would take it seriously and say, babe, let's learn some other ways. Like, I want to be able to have an orgasm. I want you to be able to be. able to give me. Did you teach your husband? I taught my husband. We were young. I mean, yeah, I was really young. It was missionary, whatever. But yes, I noticed things that would help me and I would

tell them. I mean, now we had the internet. We didn't have that back then. And it was like, you know, whatever. The internet never helped me. Well, that's because it wasn't around when you were starting having sexes and I hate to tell you. What she says here, I really don't want to screw this up. well okay fine she's dating the guy two months you don't want to not say anything and be together with this guy forever and you'd be bored and bet because that opens a whole other world yeah well so i would definitely teach him or Susan it doesn't open another world it closes this world yeah yeah yeah good luck sweetie yeah we wish you a lot of luck let us know if you could teach him something let us know if you have an orgasm

Oh, boy. Okay, Kathy, before we wrap up today's episode, should we do another round of truth or drink? Oh, God. Do you have your wine? My favorite game. Okay. All right, let's do it, Kathy. You want to start us off? We're going to take turns, reading the questions. We each have to answer it. If we refuse to answer, we drink. Ready? Okay. Go. All right. What's the worst war, wardrobe malfunction you've ever had. I've never had one.

Oh, no, yes, I have. My bathing suit, I was in the water, and my bathing suit came down and my boob was completely, and I didn't know. Everybody knows that one. It happens to all of us. The ocean will do it in a minute you didn't know when you stood up. Is that it? Yep.

And my daughter was there to make. Yeah, that happened. All right, what's the next one? what do you think is your red flag like what is mine is i joke all the time i talk too much they think i'm never serious mine is i'm outspoken i just loud yeah that too but that's not a red flag well to to a guy you need a man with a sense of humor yeah yeah yeah i mean i kind of want to drink but yeah we're not drinking yet okay okay this can i answer this one go go go on the who are three single people in Bachelor Nation you'd like to see in Paradise.

Listen up, everyone. Susan, Kathy, Nancy. Okay, we're done. We're done. You agree, Susan? We're done. Absolutely. Have you ever had a crush on a coworker?

I never did. I have. You really? I never acted on it. Yes, but I definitely have. What did the coworker do? Tell me more. I don't want to share that with you.

So I guess I'm drinking. You're drinking. Oh, drink up, baby. All right. Damn. You always said, now I know you lie. You said you'd never not answer a question. All right.

Okay. I did answer it. I just didn't tell you who. Okay. All right. All right. Has anyone, I have to answer this. Has anyone ever walked in on you hooking up?

my kids my children you too yeah that happens to every household that's a dumb one what's the most scandalous thing you've done in public

you go first I gotta think scandalous well in your case Topless on the beach I mean that's I mean it's not scandalous Oh, well, the one thing I did one time when, I don't think it's scandals, but it's the best thing I can come up with, because I don't want to drink, my husband and I were on a cruise with my mother-in-law, and we met these people, and we were drinking, it was a martini bar, literally, and we were drinking martinis, and I got a little silly, and there was a band playing across, and they said something about dancing on the bar, and then they,

I went, oh, of course, you wouldn't do that. I looked where I went. I wouldn't do that. Watch me. Got up and danced on the bar. My husband, by the way, was appalled. Okay. Have you ever knowingly been the other woman?

Knowingly? Knowingly? Noingly. No. No. No. Honestly, I don't think I've ever been. Well, obviously, if I knew it, I would know it.

I've never been the other woman. Yeah, I don't play that way. Well, can I tell you, the guy that had a frozen hand, also when we were on vacation one time, was talking with other women online. Do you understand now why he's a past boyfriend? Yeah, there's a good one. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yeah, with the same guy. Why don't we get him on the podcast?

Like, we can have all, have you, I think most women have faked in order to have to make them feel good. Sometimes you just can't, you know? Yeah. All right. Have you ever kept a secret from a best friend and of yes, what was it? Okay, it's time for me to fess up. Do you know I can't keep secrets, Gus? That's a no trainer for me.

I want to say this loudly. If I could scream into this microphone, Susan cannot keep. A secret. Am I right? I can for a little while, but not forever. Yeah, 30 seconds. She's good. She's good for 30 seconds. I admit it. Can I drink? No, you don't have to drink. You can drink. Sure, knock yourself out.

All right. What's something you think I'm not ready to hear? Oh, you go first. What am I not ready to hear? What is something you think you're not ready to hear? I don't keep anything from you. I know. I don't need this. even do these. You're not good for us. We can't do that one because we tell each other everything.

Everything. Even, I got to tell y'all, Susan hair, she got her haircut so short and like literally, she goes, what do I think of my hair? I went, oh dear God looks like, shit. What did you do? You're like, butchie. Did I not? No, you didn't say shit. You said, your hair is too short. I said, I know. I said, she just cut it again, actually. She did a great job. Okay. What's the biggest age gap you, you've ever had? the hookup or a partner.

Frozen hand guy? No. What's the biggest age gap? I'm saying. Same guy. It's the frozen guy. We don't care who it is. What's the age gap?

Five years. Older. That's it? I'm going to drink because I'm not telling you. It was young. Yeah. No. Okay.

Next. what's something embarrassing oh okay susan you got a vouch for me what's something embarrassing you've done while drunk i don't really get drunk have you ever seen me drunk no we can't answer that i mean we we don't have to drink i mean we will drink who from bachelor nation do you think is most like your younger self we're both going to answer the same one i think we're both thinking maria but it says younger self. I wasn't. Oh, yeah.

I, um, yeah, I, I, I don't know, believe it or not, I was a little bit quieter when I was younger. I was never quiet, but I wasn't as. I was still funny, but I wasn't quite as outgoing. I don't know. I don't know. I got a drink. I don't know. How about what's the silliest reason you've rejected or broken up with someone?

Silliest reason? silly they're never silly there's always a good reason yeah yeah come on guys have you ever pretend it to like a gift and if yes what was it oh yeah many times many times i would never want to hurt somebody my husband you i got we talked about this before initially he just had horrible taste and clothes and you know i was like thank you honey i love that look at the follow-up question have you ever we gifted a bad gift yeah susan you just you saw your birthday gift, I re-gifted it. There you did.

You used it all the time. No, a gift I gave you. It's the best gift I've ever received, Susan. I swear God, you don't only suck at moral quandary. Have you ever re-gifted a bad gift? I've re-gifted a gift before. It says a bad gift. If it was something that was so bad, no, I wouldn't.

Because then it looks bad on me. So I'm going to tell you. do it as a gag thing or something. That's exactly what I was going to say. I save them. I have a gift drawer. And when we go to like, in my golf group. Chinese Christmas. Exactly. All that stuff. And like people go, where the hell did that come from? I'm like, yeah, two Christmases ago. Hope you enjoy it. I know. Oh my God. That was so much fun, except I didn't get to drink enough wine. I know. I only had like two sips.

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