Bachelor Happy Hour - We Believe in You!

Episode Date: June 28, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, Kathy and Susan are getting into some Friday Fan Questions! We kick off with the question of the day: what does 'when you know, you know' really feel like? Then, we get into your questions! We're helping you find balance as working mothers, navigate dicey situations of romance in the workplace, and so much more! Tune in now to hear it all and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!   If you have a question for Kathy and Susan, submit it now! Go to BachelorNation.Com/GoldenHour and ask away! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, and on the latest episode of Spolitics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives. We continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents. and there's life after Congress. Make sure to listen to this episode of Politics

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where we get to the bottom of questions like that. Why are you screaming? I can't expect what to do. Now, if the rule was the same, go off on me. I deserve it. You know, lock him up. Listen to No Such Thing on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. No such thing.

Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. We are back, and thank you again for joining us. If you haven't listened to our episode from Wednesday yet, you really need to check it out. We had the wonderful Kelsey Anderson on, who is a Joey's fiancé, and is she not the most amazing person? Way mature, beyond her years, and beautiful, and the hair. How about her hair? I can't stop talking about her hair. But, I mean, wouldn't you love to have the life that they're having?

They're talking about moving to New York. They've been in Hawaii and Portugal. And, I mean, they are living the life. their best life, truly. Absolutely. And I just hope that they continue to do so. They're all over the place. But don't they, I mean, she just seems so happy to me.

Did you love the part about teaching Joey about skin care? I know, and he's very interested because I saw him on Instagram with the iPads and so on. But wait, how about she's the baby and the first one to be engaged? Can you believe that? It's so cute. And then did you hear her she wants to have, she wants to be an auntie? I did not know that she wants to adopt children. I did not.

Did you know? She said adopt at least one and then have one. Isn't that special? Oh, I think she should adopt one or two and have two or three of her own. Oh, I think two is good, Joey. Two is good. I'm with you. Remember, man to man to his own defense.

And today we do have some great fan questions. I can't wait to get into these. And don't forget, if you have a question for Kathy and I, send them in. go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and we'll talk about them. We certainly will. We have our opinions. But before we do that, let's get started with today's question of the day. Are you ready, Susan? I sure am. All right. Everyone always says, when you know, you know, what does that feel like? Oh, it's a good feeling. When you know, you know, I think of a positive thing.

right or when you know you know it's a red flag and run it could be quite the opposite but i like the positive what if you know but your partner doesn't you know the other person doesn't know that will suck but i know just i don't know how many times have you known like i knew with my husband do you know this is true story when i met my husband i was at a fraternity party I had just turned 18. The drinking age was 18 back then. And he was at college in New York State. And I went to this fraternity party with my roommate.

And everyone was drinking with red cups. And you just saw the sea of guys in a fraternity with red soap cups. With the red soap cups. And I looked at this guy across the room. And I said to my roommate, I'm going to marry that guy. I just had this connection when I saw him. I remember that story. Yes, I do.

So I knew. So when you know, you know, people. But hopefully you both know. That's exactly. All right. You ready? Let's get into it. Hi, Kathy and Susan.

I love your podcast. I was married for 25 years. My husband and I did not see eye to eye financially. It came to a head when he retired early without us having good financial footing. We opened a business. which left us in a six-figure debt, and then he moved out. Oh, God. To top it off, our divorce was horrible. He sued me for alimony. I came through all of that. God bless you. I met a man who treats me with so much love, devotion, and respect. I am not sure why, but I feel really guilty.

My ex has always struggled financially, and my role in the marriage was fixer. Oh, I know that feeling. feel like I'm not able to move on freely unless I know my ex is okay. I don't know how to let this feeling go. Wow. I can't even. What a good heart at woman she is. There's so many questions I have. I mean, why it came to her head when you retired early without them having good

financial footing and then he sues her for alimony? Because she made more money, obviously. I mean, she's the bread winner now. but you found love he's going to survive on his own he already went through that you can't fix him that's the answer susan you can't you can only fix yourself you can't fix anyone else and god bless you you you found somebody that loves you yeah he's you know i i don't want to sound harsh but literally you've come through six figure debt and he moved out you've you supported them as much as you could it's now time if you'd have a little happiness

if he can't figure it out that's not your problem but I mean I think she it's when she says unless I know my ex is okay okay financially what are you going to support them I'm saying you can't to know he's okay if if he's put them in debt and he's any he you know she says they don't see eye to I financially Obviously, this is not a new problem. I mean, how is she, exactly, how is she going to make sure he's okay? I don't know, but I wish you luck, honey, and be with the guy that loves you right now. You did enough.

Right? How lucky is she to have found a guy that loves her? Dawn, focus on that. Focus on the new love that you've found and let the rest take care of itself because you can't fix anybody else. And let the guilt go. You don't carry that. Guild is just a wasteful emotion. We wish you left, Dawn.

Let me go to the next question. This is from Anonymous. Okay. Hello, beautiful ladies. I need some wise advice, and I couldn't think of anybody better to ask since my grandma has recently passed. She would have known exactly what to say on this topic. My boyfriend and I are 29 years old and have been together for almost five years. We are talking about taking the next step and getting engaged in the next year or so.

Our relationship is honestly perfect. I think he's the love of my life. We've lived together for three years and have the cutest fur baby together. I knew he was going to be my future husband from the second I laid eyes on him. Sounds like me. Of course, there was a catch. We've both been dealing with some medical issues that are making our sex drive non-existent. We've tried almost everything, including working with our doctors to resolve it over the last two years.

But it seems to only be getting worse. I want to marry this guy, and I do feel ready for that next step. But am I investing into a sexless marriage? Aren't these supposed to be our fun years? We're both attractive, spontaneous, fun-loving people. So it's frustrating to only be having sex once every two months. I struggle with mixed feelings of being shallow and wanting to have a high sex-drive partner. We are very affectionate, just missing the sex.

We are big communicators and understand that both of us are feeling frustrated. I will take any and all advice. I love you, ladies, and look forward to your podcast every week. Well, thank you, Anonymous. Let me get this right. They were both struggling, right? And then she says she has a big sex drive. Are they just one struggling?

He is struggling? I don't know. It is a bit confusing. She says that they've both been dealing with medical issues that are making their sex drive non-existent. So to that end, And, you know, I could make a joke here that I've never known, but let's just move ahead. There are doctors that can help you with that.

If neither one of you are interested in sex, there are doctors that you can go to. They're going to doctors. They're saying, including working with our doctors. Well, I mean a sex therapist. I mean, a sex therapist. I wonder if it's him that lost the desire. Or is it that he can't do it? She says they're both feeling frustrated.

It sounds to me like they're both having the issue. But it's interesting to me that she said the relationship is honestly perfect. You know, first of all, no relationship is perfect. Well, if she says it's perfect, it's perfect for her. So stay with the perfect. And hopefully these medical issues can be resolved in the future. And then you could go back to having great sex. I want to know. Do you feel like if there were somebody else you would have great sex? Is it just him? Yeah, I'm a little confused. Is it medical issues? We need to know more. We need to know more. You know, but here's here's one thing that I think you and I can both agree. They're young. And if she's interested in sex, they better figure it out because that's something that could drive a wedge in their relationship. I think very well could. I agree. And we wish you luck. But if you want to tell us a little more,

Maybe we can help you figure this out, but we wish you the best. Good luck. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet.

So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I never envisioned being with a woman. I'll just be honest. I'm Jamel Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts, Politics. On this week's episode, I'm joined by basketball legend, Candice Parker, who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset, in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out.

Like, when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like, it was never a princess. Like, that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me a long time to be okay with myself. Make sure to listen to this week's episode of Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor.

And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you.

Open your free Iheart radio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Okay, this one's from Katie. Hi, Susan and Kathy. I loved watching you both on The Golden Bachelor, and I'm so happy we get more of you on this podcast. Thanks. My question is this.

I am 33 with two little boys, a five-year-old and a 20-month-old. I've been blessed with an amazing job. where I get to work from home and be a full-time mom and a full-time marketing director. The problem is I never feel like I can be 100% a good mom or 100% a good employee. Recently, a great job opportunity popped up where I would be a teacher. I'd lose my flexibility. I have now, but I get to separate work from home and have summers off. I think I want to take the job, but I'm being held down.

with guilt at losing time with my boys. Do you have any advice? Yes, I do. So don't we bold. You need to do you. You're going to be home in the summer with them and that's a plus. I think that it's one of the biggest fallacies out there that anyone can be a hundred percent great mom and a hundred percent good employee. I think that women really have it tough. You know, historically, we've been asked to do it all, right? And more and more two family incomes are required. And so women, I mean, my daughter, we talk about this all the time. She has a high pressure job and her daughter now is in daycare. You can't do it all, Katie. You can't be 100% great mom 100% great employee now oh by the way you didn't mention this but you need to be a good

wife and partner and we don't know is she happily married maybe she's a single mom I don't know does it say that oh you're right it doesn't say that so so maybe she is single but the point is you can't do it all and we as women are expected to sometimes to do it all you got to cut yourself some slack here Katie and I want to know how you did full-time mom, full-time job at the same time. That has to be difficult. I don't know. My daughter is worked from home and I don't know. You've got two kids

crawling on you. I know. I mean, I'm guessing the 100% good employee maybe is in her mind only but I'm with you, Susan. Katie, take the teaching job. I taught. I loved having summers off. And you like getting out of the house and feeling like they're going to miss you in the beginning. It's going to be a struggle but just now you'll get to spend three long months in the summer with them.

I think that's what. And you know what? When you come home from work, it's better to have, I think, you know, a couple of hours of really good quality time than, you know, eight hours where you're trying to juggle work and family and home. So do take the great job. Yeah, take the great job. Yeah.

You'll be glad. Okay. Hi, Susan and Kathy. I really enjoy listening to your podcast. I work in health care, and one of my patients brought to my intention a situation she is currently in. For some reason, it made me think of you both and was wondering what your advice would be. She is 61 years old. She is a caregiver for a man who is 84 years old.

She lives with him, and both of them are single. They both have kids from their previous marriages. She loves her job and spending time with him. She told me at her appointment last week that her client has asked, her to marry him. He does not have any ailments, dementia included. He wants to leave his house to her and his money. Apparently, he doesn't have a good relationship with his kids. She was shocked. Unsure if this is morally wrong. She admits he has treated her the nicest any man has ever. He has promised her it doesn't have to be sexual either. Just wants her to hold his hand while they

watch TV. She has no idea what to do. I am dying to know what you both think. Love you both. Well, thank you, Susan. That is a lot. What do you think, Susan? Okay, she's a caregiver. So obviously, they're friends now because she's there all the time. I mean, do you have anything in your life other than this man? You know, what about her personal life? She said they both have kids from their previous marriages. They both have children. Right. Okay. So she's not married and she's spending every minute with him. Right. You know, I think, I mean, do you like him? Do you love him? Could you be his wife? This sounds very transactional to me. Yeah. This sounds like, you know, I don't think this person would be asking the question if the guy had no money. It would be,

no, I've got my job. I'm taking care of him. But apparently, and I don't mean to, again, I don't mean to sound harsh, but she says, is it morally wrong? I don't think morals come into it. It's, it's maybe ethically, there's a question of, is it right to marry someone because you're going to gain financial, you have financial gain from it. Well, you know, people, the kids are going to say that. Yeah. But you know what? If he's got an ironclad will, good luck. I mean, I think that's really harsh of him to ask herself how she feels about him right did you hear in this that she loves him anywhere i didn't hear it no i think he cares about her and he wants he cares about her and he wants to leave her the money but you know what she's got she doesn't have to marry him to do that he can

he can leave her money in his will it i think there's more to it i think he wants the i think he wants he wants her he wants someone that 24 hours a day. But you've got to ask yourself, babe, how do you feel? Do you want to be with this man until he gets? 24 hours a day. Yes. Because you will be caring for him 24 hours a day. And Don, just stop worrying about the kids and people's opinions. It's about you, what you want. Yeah. Well, I don't, Susan, will you come and take care of me if I rang in my well? Are you going to leave me all your money? What money?

Okay. The next one's from Club. Joey. And she says, hi, Kathy and Susan. My husband really wants to have a second child. But the more time goes on, the more I feel like I don't. What are your thoughts on how to navigate this? I know you're going to say communicate. Oh, they know us, got. But the problem is that we do talk about it. Ultimately, he says it's my decision. But I know he really, really wants it. What would you do? again on these questions we don't have enough information i want to know why she doesn't want a second child i mean to me that's important if it's because her career you know is taken off and she doesn't want to go back to diapers or whatever you know if that's the issue then then they can talk about what are the ways they could get help taking care of the baby but if it's you know I mean, it's a whole new ballgame when you have more than one. It really is.

Now, you could talk about having an only child and what that means and think about that you don't want. Would you have wanted, I would say to have another one because I, I mean, I had three children, Chloe, but I would not want my child to have all the responsibility of being an only child. And many of my friends who have had only children, their kids are, you know, they're older now. They've said they wish they had a sibling to share the responsibilities with. I just wanted one child. My husband's career, he was traveling everywhere in baseball, and I got pregnant again with twins, and I was in shock.

I love them to death today, but it was hard. It was hard when you feel like that's all you want. It's a tough decision, but you and your husband absolutely should communicate. Wait, wait a minute. Did you and your husband talk about it? No, it was an accident. Oh, so you really only wanted one child? Wow.

Yeah, because of our lifestyle and how we moved around, and it was just going to be too hard. And it was difficult. I don't regret my boys. I love my boys. But, yeah, I kind of see. I don't know. I don't think it's fair. Do you think it's fair for Chloe's husband?

to say it's ultimately her decision. I just don't think that's fair either. That's not fair. Well, he doesn't want to be the one that she blames if she has a second child and says, see, see, you made me do this, that kind of thing. Yeah, well, you know what? If, Chloe, if you decide to have a second child and you make that decision, then you can never go back and say, you made me do this, right?

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I don't know. I love kids, so I would say, Chloe, have a second one. their blessings, they're fun, they're, you know, don't, there's always going to be more month than money, Chloe, so don't worry about that, right? We wish you a lot of luck. And thank you to everyone who wrote in. Oh, wait, Susan, we have time for one more. Oh, okay. So hold the phone. Roberto, who's 29 from Michigan, high golden hour, I am writing in about my future father-in-law. My fiancee and I have been together for five years, and we're very, very

much in love and looking forward to getting married. I am struggling with my future father-in-law, though, because he is having a very hard time sharing his little girl with me. I am nothing but kind and respectful around their family, but he always finds a reason to pick on every little thing I do. He brings it up with his daughter, but never me, which puts us in a weird position. He feels like he raised the perfect woman, and he's single now, and I don't think he wants to share her with anyone, not just me. One time he didn't speak to me for months and didn't tell me or his daughter why. Any idea on how to try to mend our relationship before the wedding? I want to feel better about all this on the wedding day and to feel like one family. I'm not taking this little

girl from him. We all just love her. Oh, poor guy. Oh my God. So does she know about this? he says he says she didn't he didn't talk to um his family or him for months and they don't know why i'm i got to say i had a similar relation a similar issue my my husband was the oldest of three kids and he was his mom's favorite um and they did not like uh me coming along and it was tough It was tough in our marriage. What did you do? You know, I have to say, I probably didn't handle it the best way. My husband was very respectful to his parents and he loved his parents very much.

But I remember him saying to them one day, saying to his mother, mom, we've been married, I can't remember, like 30 years. I love Kathy. Why can't you accept her? and she just looked at him and said, well, I do, but. I mean, and so I guess my answer is to you, Roberto, you may not be able to change your future father-in-law. He may just hold on to that. Hopefully, once you're married and he sees how you cherish his daughter,

he will warm up to you. But like I repeatedly say, you can only change yourself. I would honestly have a talk with her, and maybe they could approach the father together. You know what I mean? I mean, speak your peace. I mean, it sounds like she doesn't really know what's going on as much as he feels. And I don't blame you for feeling weird about it.

I get it. You want to feel welcome. You want to feel a part of the family. You know, everyone talks about joining families. I mean, did you get along great with your in-laws? I'm sure you did. Yeah. It's hard.

Not everyone does. No, I know. I mean, I love my son-in-law. My daughter-in-law is just precious. I have no issues. I know, that's weird. You and I share that in common, don't we? We both love our in-laws.

Yes, yes. Well, I wish you all the best, Roberto. I hope your wedding is the day that you want it to be and that your marriage is the marriage you want it to be. I know. Or daddy might lose his little girl. You know, there's always that, too. Oh, don't you hate.

Oh, you don't want to make them shoes. No, you don't, but he needs to treat him with some respect. I mean, that's a shame. That could cause problems. Yeah. Well, thank you to everyone who wrote in. We're wishing you guys the best. And if you want to send us a question, head to bachelornation.com slash golden hour and submit yours now.

We love hearing from you. So keep those questions coming. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK story time podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because, he now wants them both to meet. So do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Jamil Hill, host of the Sports and Politics Podcasts Politics. And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly?

many of them are in fear of their political lives and that's been part of the challenge but we continue to say to them you were elected to defend your constituents to stand up for your constituents and there's life after Congress and you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years but their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Imagine that you're on an airplane and all of a sudden you hear this.

Attention passengers. The pilot is having an emergency and we need someone, anyone to land this plane. Think you could do it? It turns out that. Nearly 50% of men think that they could land the plane with the help of air traffic control. And they're saying like, okay, pull this, and so this. Pull that. Turn this. It's just... I can do my eyes close. I'm Mani. I'm Noah. This is Devin. And on our new show, no such thing. We get to the bottom of questions like these. Join us as we talk to the leading expert on overconfidence.

Those who lack expertise lack the expertise they need to recognize that they lack expertise. And then as we try the whole thing out for real. Wait, what? Oh, that's the run right. I'm looking at this thing. Listen to no such thing on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, before we wrap up of the day, though,

should we play a game of our moral quandary? What do you think, Kathy? Oh, I love this. I love it. All right. All right, let's do it. it. We'll switch off reading the quandary and we'll give our thoughts on what we would do. Okay, Susan, you want to go ahead and start? Okay. Here we go. You've been dating someone for a few months and things

are going well. You discover that your partner had a criminal record from 10 years ago. They've since turned their life around completely and all crimes were nonviolent. Do you confront them about it and does it change how you feel about continuing the relationship? Well, hell yeah, you confront them. You want to know what it was. First of all, how'd you find that out? I mean, communicate. Well, wait a minute. I mean, Susan, we're talking one DUI here. It says all the crimes. How many damn crimes were there? The partner had a criminal record from 10 years ago. Yeah, I mean, I think I would bring it up and ask.

It wouldn't be a deal breaker. For me, it was 10 years ago. Yeah, and people do change. And like they said, it was nonviolent. So it could have been something stupid like a DUI. You're right. Well, I mean, a DUI can be really serious. But yeah, I mean, I would definitely confront him.

Yes. Yes. All right. Here's the next one. All right. You were ghosted by someone you were dating for several months. After a year, they come back and apologize profusely, wanting to rekindle the relationship. Do you give them another chance? You're single and looking. Everything

was great until they ghosted you. Their excuse is that they were going through a tough time, but they don't elaborate further than that. Oh, I'm sorry, darling. No, no, no, no. No. Oh, wait a minute. You wouldn't? No. Oh, I would. Why? Because they don't elaborate. They were going through a tough time.

Well, you know what? Call me and tell me you're going through a tough time before you ghost me. Okay. Wait a minute. By definition, if they ghost you, they're not going to reach out and call you. But here's the thing. They don't elaborate further. Guess what they're going to do before I date them again.

They're going to elaborate further. So I would give the guy a chance. I would give him a chance. I wouldn't say, okay, you know, all's forgiven. Let's start dating again. I would give him a chance and ask him to tell me what happened and why he ghosted me. I think you would do that. I would want to know why, yes, but he did it once.

He may do it again. I don't know. No, I don't feel good about that one. I'd talk to him and hear a story and wish him luck. Yeah, I'm not feeling that one. Okay. Your teenager has been acting secretive and spending a lot of time on their phone. Do you go through their messages and social media accounts to ensure they are safe? You don't want my answer.

Absolutely. Oh, that's why I love you, Susan. You know what I say? I'm paying for the phone? Yes. I'm looking at it anytime I want. And if you don't like it, I'm the parent. I think that's one of the issues today.

parents are sometimes afraid to parent you're not your child's friend you're the parent and god forbid they're getting themselves in some kind of trouble i mean you have to be there right let you got to i think that i think you're absolutely right and i think the fact even if they weren't act i'm being honest even if they weren't acting secretive um my deal i mean my kids when they were teenagers literally we they didn't have cell phones because they weren't there until my youngest you know but they had beepers and my deal was my oldest one I had a beeper what's that called you know like a pager a pager and if he didn't call me right back from a landline because that's what we had back that yeah yeah he was in deep trouble I don't care like that's that's the deal so I think parents

I know I'm probably going to catch some flack for this but do you agree with me susan that you should always be able to go through your child's phone at any time and put controls on it. They're not going to like it. They're definitely not going to like it. But you got to keep an eye on them. They're teenagers. They make mistakes. And their brains are not fully formed. And you're there to guide and help. They're going to hate you for it. Trust and believe me. And my daughter just went through it. I'm like, whoa. And she's telling me the things that her daughter was saying. I was like, ouch. Okay, I got to ask you, what is. I mean, we have grandkids, what age would you give a child the phone?

Oh, well, today in today's world? If you had kids today, how old would they be if you gave them a phone? 10, 12, yeah. So give me a grade. What grade? Sixth, middle school. Yeah, see, I'm, again, people aren't going to like this. I don't think children need phones in middle school.

If I were the educational czar, there would be no phones at all in schools. Well, there shouldn't be phones in schools. There shouldn't, but they should have one in their backpack. Not to take them to class, of course, to call home, to call for the ride people. There's two working parents today. How did you and I make it without cell phones? Kathy, times have changed. Okay.

I just think young kids' phones are trouble and there's just too much on the Internet. think it's asking too much. But I'm sure people aren't going to agree on this, but that's why you and I love each other. We have different opinions. But definitely check it. Definitely. You're in charge of that phone. Yep, for sure. Okay. Okay. Your boyfriend of six years gets an amazing job offer in a different country. You've just started to settle into your current city and love your own job. Do you uproot your life to support their career or ask them to reconsider the move for your sake? well that depends on how many commas are in the figure that the man's going to make oh wait i thought you were going to go with where i was going your boyfriend of six years why are you

married i mean or living together you know why haven't you made that um yeah different country that's always exciting it depends on how old you are where you're at in your own career where he's at But if it's a big, huge thing, it's an experience. I know. See, you and I, that's the difference. We have lived long enough that if that opportunity came our way, we'd be like, hell yeah, the suitcase will be packed and, you know, loaded for the airport before they had time to reconsider. But it does depend on a lot of, how old are you, right?

Yeah, I mean, do you want to marry this person or do you want to live with this person? Do you uproot your life? I don't know. Do you want to spend the rest of your life for this guy? or this woman, whoever it is, you know, it's an amazing job offer. Is your job so fabulous? Can you work remotely? Can you get another job?

Do you, are you going to be resentful? I mean, if it were you and me? Six years, six years boyfriend. That's, yeah, maybe they don't want to get married. Maybe they don't want to be married. Well, maybe they just live together or do they live together. But that's up to you. But you and I can agree, we'd be packed and ready to go.

depends on the country of course okay well there's there's there's a few i might not want to go to i don't all right amazing job sweetheart do you and once again communicate with them you know see how big of a job this is already so you discover that a colleague is taking credit for work you've done which has led to them receiving a promotion do you confront them or go do you confront them or go do you directly to your boss, risking workplace harmony. Oh, go. What a jerk. Well, there's always two sides to the story.

The guy's a jerk for doing that. Maybe it was a group project. We don't know all the details. Okay. But I can tell you what I wouldn't do, I would not go to the boss, and I would not confront the person. Because you know what? The other person already has the promotion.

So that ship has sailed. I would make sure that I am front and center on other projects and that my boss takes notice of me so that the next promotion is mine. I feel a little bit differently. I agree with not running to the boss and be a little snitch, tattletail. But I would definitely confront him in a quiet place that nobody sees you, but you need to let him know that you're aware. and watch out, bitch, because I'm on you.

How dare you? How dare you? She worked hard, or they worked hard for this? We don't know the situation. Was it a team effort? Maybe it was. That's what I'm saying. If it was a team project?

Maybe, you know, I mean, we only know. But she says, you discover that a colleague is taking credit for work that you've done. Boom, right there. Well, you know what? If there's no documentation, I feel sorry for the boss because the boss probably, you know, isn't, isn't detail oriented if they're not taking notice of that. I don't know. That's a tough one. But I definitely would make sure that the work you do in the future, there's ways to make your boss aware of the work you're doing.

But this happened. So what is? I said the ship has sailed. So, you know, it's not going to do any good to bring it up. And I don't like people like that. But you know what, karma's a bitch. Did it ever happen to you? No.

No, and I've never done that to anybody either. I would always give somebody credit. Even if I helped on it, you know? Oh, that's a good one. You know, I love the way people just write in, and they're frustrated. They don't know what to do. And that's why we're here. Sometimes we can't give you the best answers, but we will give you our opinions.

You know what? What I noticed, Susan, is that you and I, give, I think, different answers now than we would have when we were in our 20s or 30s. Absolutely, absolutely. You know, what is that, what is that, youth is wasted on the young? Yeah. Is that right? Yes, it is.

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