Bachelor Happy Hour - We're All in the Same Boat! | 'Golden Hour'

Episode Date: August 23, 2024

Today on Golden Hour, we are back with another round of Friday Fan Questions! After a quick catch up with Kathy and Susan, we kick off with our Question of The Day: what is the #1 piece of dating advice you'd give younger you? Then, we answer some of your fan questions! We're tackling big challenges and brand new experiences; from roommates to brain surgery, we're getting into it all. Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Hi, Susan. We're back. Thanks for joining us, everybody. Hey, and if you're not listening to our episodes and you didn't hear the one from Wednesday, you're crazy. It was a good one. you had to hear Kathy and I go at it.

So we have another solo episode, and it's going to be a lot of fun. Okay, let's talk about what's new with you, what's new with me, what's going on in your life, Susan? Ooh, I had a fierce couple days. Actually, Kathy, I was in New York, and I heard that the Goldens from our show, plus the ones from night one, they were all meeting at Carmines. I was in Soho meeting people from a different show that I did and having dinner. So I said to the girl that was with me, come on, we're going to go surprise them. You know Carmines, you've been in a carmines, right?

They're loud. It's Italian. Well, here we go. The screams that came out. I were sitting there having dinner, I probably would have left. Well, but it was great to surprise. Everybody, I would have loved to have been there. But I couldn't be there because I've been spending an extended time here in Canada.

Canada visiting my sister. And I just got to say, first of all, have you ever been to Canada, Susan? Absolutely. Okay. So you know, several times. Canadians are the nicest, the friendliest of people. Hello to all my Canadian friends out there. But here's the thing. People talk about how Canadians are so friendly and polite. Honest to God, we are, my sister and I are standing and there's a red light for us and a green light for the cars. and the cars are stopping. Slow down. And they're no, and they're like, go. And I'm like, it's not a pedestrian walkway.

And they're going, go ahead, go ahead. No, you go. No, you go. Oh, please. Because in Austin, they'll run you over. But the point here is everyone is so doggone polite. It is crazy. And then we were shopping. And I am, you know, when I'm traveling and I go incognito, I had on a bucket hat and

dark glasses. And someone came up to me. I was in a store and said, it's you. isn't it. I thought you love that. Well, but Susan, if you'd seen me, I look like something the dog dragged in. Don't tell anybody that. Oh, I did. I had no makeup. She goes, I could just tell it was you. I love, you know, went through the whole thing, how much. So I love Canada. I love Canadians. They are so polite, so friendly. And you know what? It's a little cooler here than Austin, Texas.

Not when I was just there. God, Cassidy. They had a heat wave. I packed hoodies because everybody knows it's cooler at night in Canada. I was outside of Toronto. And they had a heat. It was 104. I was dying. But, Kathy, were you surprised when I sent you the text from all the golders? They were going, hi, Kathy. Hi, Nancy. And, you know, I knew I was, I was trying to get there, but I had been in New York on vacation and then I left New York to come here. But I would have loved to have surprised him. That was really great. You did that. But I'm just saying, your girlfriend here thought of you and said, let's everybody say hi. you know what that's just a thoughtful friend i am i'm just the best she does my hair she's she's just susan's all that all right today yeah we are going to answer more of your fan questions and

you all know we love to answer these and don't forget if you guys have a question for either one of us send them in just go to bachelornation dot com slash golden hour and we're going to read them yep and send us some advice reviews anything we love to answer it but both Before we get to those questions, we're going to go with our question of the day. And here it is, Susan. What is the number one piece of advice you would give your younger self if you could when it comes to dating? We already know that one. That's a no-brainer.

What is it? A red flag is a red flag. It took me 60 years. That would have been my advice. If you see something, they're not going to change. Okay. I'll drink to that. I also though would say we're not drinking yet

it's not yet but it's not yet but I can wish right I can wish um no they I agree with that but the piece of advice I would give myself is just be confident I wasn't as confident yeah nobody is right no but that you said what advice it would just be believe in yourself because if you believe in yourself everybody else will believe in you I didn't know that when I was young I just didn't

Which I preach right now. I mean, I say it all the time. I tell my kids, well, of course, my kids aren't that young and they're married. But don't you think it's hard at that age? Like you're self-checking all the time or you're not amounting. You want to be the best at something and you're not. You're good. But you always have self-doubt.

But like you said, if they would listen, that'd be great advice. It would be. But you know what? It's like, do you remember like when I went off to college, when you went off to beauty school? Everybody's in it for the first time, right? So you're scared, I'm scared. Just realize that everyone's in the same boat. That's the advice.

But when you look at some confident people that you grew up with, you never would think that. That's right. But now we know better. They were just faking it, Susan. They were faking it. They were faking it. Damn, but that would be our advice for sure. I know.

All righty. Oh, wait. We're going to get into our question. What? I say when it comes to dating? Yeah. I have the red flags. Why aren't we?

dating? I don't know. Maybe, Kath, we're busy. But I'm out there. You're out there. We're traveling. We're meeting people. I meet people every day. Listen, I met a woman in a department story. I met a woman in a department store in Canada. She said her uncle wants to meet me. I said, all right, we can do a transcontinental, whatever it's called. You can do that. Haven't heard from it. It's not that far. It's not that far at all. Not for me. Anyhow, Canada's right up the street. It's just customs. I hate going through the I know, I know. All right, let's get going with our questions.

We've got our Q&A's. Okay, so Alex asks, Hi, ladies, I love your podcast and listen weekly. Thanks, Alex. I am 27, about to move in with my boyfriend of three years. We're super excited, although I am sad to say goodbye to my apartment and give up that independence.

I've never lived with a roommate or partner before. So what advice do you have to help us have a super? smooth transition to this new chapter. We both work two jobs, and I anticipate us not seeing each other a whole lot during the work week. I would love to hear your advice on this topic. Thanks a ton. Okay. This to me is maybe one of the easiest questions we've ever had. Alex, here's the deal. You're not giving up your independence if you don't think you're giving up your independence. You are. Well, I don't think, I don't think, I don't think, I don't know if Alice is a boy or a girl, but either way. A girl. A girl, I think she's, okay. Here's, here's the thing. It doesn't really

matter. What you guys have to do is make date time for each other and, and have a consciously, you know, put a time on the calendar, a scheduled appointment where you guys spend time together. And that's going to be the transition is having your alone time. I don't think that's going to be that big a problem because you both work two jobs, right? Yeah. So the transition is going to be, you know, set up chores list. Who's going to do the grocery shopping? Who's going to do the laundry? If you, you know, communicate on those things and say, don't, you're not going to be a mind reader. That's the mistake I think a lot of people make. Why didn't he know that he was supposed to have dinner ready for me? Or, you know, why didn't she have my clothes waiting, whatever it is? Why didn't she pick up my dry cleaning? I don't

conversation. Maybe I didn't ask her. But something that she said struck home with me. Yeah. It is your independence. It's your place. You, you, when you come home, it's exactly like you left it. That might not be the case. I'm not saying he's going to be a slob or not. And sometimes it's like being in, in a fairy tale. It works out so perfectly. I don't know what I could tell you besides, like Kathy just said, communicate with him and just who's going to be responsible for what so it goes smoothly. I moved into a boyfriends one time. We had these conversations. When my moving truck came, I thought the man was going to have a heart attack. He lost the closet.

I brought furniture with you. I have a question. When you moved in with your guy, this Alex sounds like she's going to prison. I mean, forget about it. After my experience, I get it. But I'm saying, you can. It's not your place anymore.

I had to do things his way. Oh, it isn't. But wait, are they getting a place together, right? She's not moving into his place. Who cares? Ah, that's big. That's huge. If you two went and got a place together.

It's not huge. His shit goes to the curb and you furnished it the way you want to. But, Kathy, if someone, If you were to move into some man's home, I had a guy actually moving his home. But you didn't do it. I didn't do it. I didn't do it.

If somebody moved into your home and you do your thing the way you do, there's going to be stuff. Okay. That's fair. That's fair. I think the best scenario is get a place together and start fresh. Start fresh. But also, I think when Alex is talking about independence,

maybe Alex likes to go out with her girlfriends or boyfriends, whatever, you have to say, you know what, we're moving in together, but I still go out with my girlfriends or I still play pickleball on Fridays. Don't give up everything in your life. That's not what makes a good relationship. And hopefully she'll have already have been doing that and he's aware of it. Yeah. It can't be something brand new.

If he's not, make them aware. Now that we live together, I'm going out three times a week. He or she might have to. good luck sweetie i think it's going to be fine all right let's and let us know good luck by the way moving in it can be great i we wish you all the best in your in your move i never envisioned being with a woman i'll just be honest i'm jemelle hill host of the sports and politics podcast spolitics on this week's episode i'm joined by basketball legend candace parker who stops by to discuss her candid new book, The Can Do Mindset,

in which she shares why she waited two years into marriage to come out. Like when I close my eyes at night, every night, I was like, I need to find my prince charming. Like it was never a princess. Like that never entered into my mind. But, you know, as I learned, sometimes life gives you things wrapped in a package that you didn't expect it. And that was just, you know, and honestly, it took me.

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Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. Okay, Maggie writes, Hi, Susan and Kathy, big fan of you both. Your podcast always makes me smile and has been my happy outlet during a really hard time in my life. I really need your advice, so I hope you answer my question. Well, Maggie, we're about to. Here we are. I'm 30 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for over 10 years.

He's definitely the one. Our favorite thing to do together is eat, cooking together, trying new cuisines, and checking out new restaurants and bars in our city. My kind of people. Yeah, I was just going to say, Susan can identify. I had to have brain surgery very unexpectedly in June. and one of the post-op side effects has been temporary inability

to swallow due to nerve damage. I currently can't eat or drink anything by mouth, which has not only been a huge challenge for me personally, but has also put a damper on our relationship. We miss cooking and eating out together so much. My boyfriend has been so incredibly supportive, but I know he's having a hard time with this too. How do I keep positive and find other non-food-related activities

to keep our relationship alive and fun. Thank you so much. I love you, ladies. That sucks. I am sitting... That poor girl. Yeah, but Susan, she's had unexpected brain surgery.

Out of nowhere. Yeah, and she's... I'm worried about him. God bless her. Really? She's worried about... And he's super supportive. I mean, it sounds like a good relationship.

It does. He's having a hard time, too. You know what? say, Maggie, tell your boyfriend to go out and have a great dinner by himself or Maggie go with him and just don't eat and have the company. But you know what, sweetie? And still do do cooking together even though you can't eat it. Yeah, but the most important thing, Maggie, is you're getting better. That's where you're, that's where you need to focus right now, sweetie, on getting better. Your boyfriend is, is supportive. That's what matters. Incredibly supportive. Is that not

beautiful right there. I'm sure he misses it, but he loves you more. Yes. And she says it's a really hard time in her life. You know what I'm guessing, Susan? You know what I'm guessing? It's a whole lot harder for her than it is for him. She feels bad. And she's missing, literally eating and having that, that swallow, literally swallowing the delicious food. What if that were me, Katz? You know how I'd be. You know, how would I be? I could, look, she wouldn't miss a beat. This one, don't eat. Are you kidding she don't even enjoy cooking i mean she likes the going out part susan i scrambled eggs this morning for my sister i take offense at that i did i scrambled eggs and i buttered toast i was at her house let me tell you she had the things she said there it is guys i have a fully equipped kitchen

truly she had everything i needed yep i have a chef's kitchen and it's just like uh it was the best kitchen ever to maneuver around this one wants to get it catered i said i'm here Here. Why are we doing that for? My sister, she keeps saying to me every day, what do you want for lunch? What do you want for dinner? I'm like, I don't care. She passes that meal. But come on, people out there, not everybody. I love the fun of going out with people, but it's the camaraderie. It's the friendship. It's the friendship. It's the friendship. It's the cooking for me. And I love to do dishes. She will do the dishes. I will clean dishes. So see, that's a partnership right there. That takes to, you know. Maggie. But honey, we're praying for your recovery. Just one last thing before we move on. Yeah. How do I keep positive? I'll tell you, Maggie, every day, just be grateful that you're getting better and you will swallow soon. And you'll be able to do those things. Non-food related activities. Oh, my heavens. Take a walk. Go kayaking. You know, go for a swim. Go bowling. I mean, there's so many activities that don't relate to food. Go to the beach. Hold hands. Hold hands, go watch a sunset.

Yeah. You know, it's about you two. It's about you two together. It's not, if your relationship, guys, Maggie, let me say this. And I don't mean it to be funny, but if your relationship is totally about food and cooking and eating together, you better rethink your relationship, right? It's got to be more than that. And there's other things.

That's what I'm saying. But that's their fun thing. That's the thing they enjoy. But don't make that the thing. the thing the worst you couldn't help what happened to you he is there for you yes he kind of misses it like i said every now and then splurge and cook with him even though you can't enjoy it but god bless you both yeah and hopefully you'll be back to eating soon and when you do maggie invite susan and me we'd love to come please i'll come i'll eat with him trust me kathy and you can chitchat all you want and i'll eat

with him i think it'll work we can suck milkshakes with a straw maggie we'll have a blast Okay. Maggie, thanks for reaching out for us. We're so glad you did. Okay, the next one is from Jamie. As an older dater, I feel like I'm having to give up on some of my quotation things I'm looking for in a man. Oh boy. Because the pool of eligible men is shrinking. I know when I was younger, we always said don't change your standards and expectations. But There were many more fish in the sea at that time. How do you ladies feel about it? Jamie, I wrote the book.

I mean, you are so right. Well, but he might not be as gorgeous. Like I know my cousin Donna when she goes on the dating. I don't like that picture of Donna. We're over 60 now. They don't have the looks they used to have. So it's not just about a physical appearance or look. I like tall men.

I don't mind sure. men anymore you know what i mean i used to be stuck on that it's about what's inside but you're right there's not a ton of fish still swimming in the city i believe that men pass before women so i also believe there's more women in the world than there are men so i feel you i don't know kath what can we say well i think i'm not sure what jamie's standards and expectations are but one thing either certain standards and expectations, I'm never changing. You don't settle. Well, I think you have to settle on some things, but, you know, I want to be respected.

I want kindness. I want to be loved. I want to be cherished, all those things. And, Jamie, I'm never, I've never given up on those. Susan's right. If the guy's a little shorter, so I'll look over his head, you know? I can polish his bald spot for him. I don't care about that.

But when I was younger, I did. They had to be a certain height. I don't really care that much. Is that what she means about that? I don't know. Things she's looking for in a man. Yeah, it depends what's the most important thing to you. But don't give up on quality standards.

And you know what? That's a lot of us. Susan and I, we've talked about this. That's why I have so much fun. Susan, we get together. We have a great time. And honestly, I'd rather hang with my girlfriends and have a great time than put up with a guy and say, that you're not happy with.

This is the best that's out there. I'd rather not have a guy. So there you have. So, Jamie, you're not alone. But like Kathy said, you do want somebody to treat you nice. And don't ever give up on that, Jamie. No, absolutely not because you're better off alone then. Yeah, Susan.

But thank you for sharing it with us. Yeah. Susan treats me nicely. She cooks for me. Of course I do. All right. Here's the next one. Anonymous rights.

Hi, Kathy and Susan. Staying anonymous because I really don't want this to come out in my personal life. I found out this week that my dad is having an affair with my old babysitter, and I don't know how to tell my stepmom. I was visiting home this week. I'm in college and stay in my apartment over the summer as well. But I came home just to get some family time. I ended up arriving earlier than expected, so when I got home, I saw my dad and my old babysitter kissing on our couch. She immediately left, blushing like crazy, and refusing to make eye contact with me. my dad just sighed and stayed on the couch me i was in total shock i was just frozen as for my stepmom i really like her i moved away for college around the same time she moved in after their wedding so i haven't been

able to get super close to her however i really like her and respect her especially because she gets along really well with my mom i really don't want to tell my mom because i know it'll be triggering my dad cheated on her with an old co-worker, and that led to their divorce. This is such a weird position for me to be in. After I caught them and the girl left, I finally started to basically yell W-T-F, which is, we all know what that means, at my dad. He said he had to go, quote, clear his head,

which I'm sure meant track down the babysitter to reconcile. He went for a drive, and I went to my room to talk to my best friend. My stepmom is getting back from a girl's trip in a couple of days, and I still have no idea what I'm going to do. My dad and I have silently been avoiding each other as well. I know I have to tell my stepmom, but I have no idea how to. She deserves to know the truth, but I'm honestly scared my dad will never talk to me again. Any advice would be so appreciated. Love you, ladies.

Do not tell the stepmom. Get out of there. Honey, go back to college. You get involved. And you know what? Unfortunately, once a cheat, always a cheat. I know that's saying. But people do change.

But your father is showing his true colors. And he is shitting himself right now. Worry that you're going to tell. Don't tell your mom. Maybe on one day if your mom's trashed your dad feeling. Yeah, mom, you're right. He did it again. You know, but no, I would stay out.

Stay out of it, sweetie, because here's the thing. You'll get the blame somehow. Yeah. It's not going to change. I can think if your dad, I mean, once a cheater, always a cheater, I don't know about that. But I do know that your dad is at least shown a pattern of cheating. And I don't care if she's your babysitter or the librarian or the cook next door. It doesn't matter.

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Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. To your college life. And you know what? I hope you take this lesson of what it means to be loyal and honest and live your own life when you have a family better than your dad did. And it's sad that your dad can't look in the eye, you know. Well, again.

I would probably say, dad, just you and your father, why do you bother, like, living with somebody if this is what you want to do? Like, I'm losing respect, but it is your father. You would, you're women. You would, I would so say nothing. I would say, you know what, dad, I'm not even going there. I don't go live your life and I'd go back to college and live mine because you can already tell she doesn't respect him she she may deserve to know the truth anonymous but here's the thing

it's not your job to tell her the truth so good luck with that I wish you didn't see that oh I know some things can never be unseen Okay, Susan, favorite time of the day for me. Oh, moral quondry. It's time for moral quandary. And I'm going to get it started with the first one. So here we go. Go ahead.

Your best friend has gotten a lot of filler and Botox, but she's significantly happier. Do you suggest trying to use less or let her do what she wants, even if it doesn't look great? What would I do? Since you and I both get filler and Botox, you should have. I don't have to think too long on this one. I mean, if you think something doesn't look great, you're going to tell me. You're not going to tell me to use less or you're going to say, Susan, when did they do that? Maybe you should have that adjusted because we're friends.

I would tell you what eyebrows is up here. Yeah, it says your best friend. Yeah, you tell them. You tell them. We both agree on that. I can't even believe it. We're there. All right, let's go to the next one.

Look at us go. You're at a friend's party and you totally clogged the toilet. It's happened to me. Is it a quiet corner of the house and no one saw you go in or leave? Do you slip out and pretend it wasn't you? Do you inform the host of the house anything? Oh, what would I do? Slip out.

Oh, Susan. First of all, I courtesy flush. Wait a minute. You've cloned the toilet. You think I would walk out? No. Oh, my gosh. You're so wrong.

I would quietly go to the host and say I have clawed your toilet. Could you please tell me where there's a plunger? I'm so embarrassed. Well, you know what? It depends on my age because I probably did it as a youngster and I would never tell now today I would do the same. And we're saying I'm doing it wrong, Kathy.

I did it. Why do I have to play this game every week? Hey, callers, listeners, one of you calling you play the game. I'll read the questions. How about that? because I can't play this game. Okay, we're moving on to the next one. We're going to see I do.

This is a test. Let's see if you can do it. I know. I'm trying. All right. Zip it. No, that I don't want you to zip it. I'm telling me to zip it.

All right. You're on a sixth date, a picnic in the park with who you hope will be your new boyfriend. I'm sorry, if you're on a sixth date, isn't he probably your boyfriend? Okay. Now, Kath, Kath, I learned that this year. Oh, that's right. You did. Never mind.

Okay. After the picnic, he starts walking away with a trail of garbage behind him. Do you confront him about leaving his trash, just clean it up and say nothing, or leave the trash behind as well? What would I do? Susan, don't get this wrong. Oh, God, we're twins here. We are twins. What?

Tell me. Are you kidding me? You're going to leave trash? No. You're going to call him on, yo, dude, help me pick the son. What are you going to do? Leave it? This is how you like to live.

Oh, no, no. That's a no. Okay. Again, you blew it. You were right. No, I said we were both. do the same thing. You were just supposed to say, oh, whatever. I'm telling you, friends. That's not a good one. Friends. Call in and play this game with her, please. We're going to keep playing

this game. Because she insists on playing it every day and week. We're not going to have any guests for the next six months. We're just going to play moral quandary and see if you can get it right. All right. Go do the next one. God help me. You're at a concert with all your closest friends and you're having a great you get approached by security and they offer to bring you backstage but you could only bring one other friend do you choose someone and go or decline and stay with all your friends you're all equally huge fans of this artist so feelings would definitely be hurt if they didn't get chosen to go along what would i do take one and go You would give it up. If I were there with you. I don't know, Kathy, at all, really. I mean, honestly.

I would say, you know what? I'm here with my best friends. I would love to do it, but I don't, I would absolutely not go and take one. If we all love the artist, I wouldn't do it. I'd say. And there were seven of us. I'm sorry, just one person who's coming now. Well, you, and I don't, I think, I don't think, I don't think you would do it either.

I think you'd want to, but I don't think you would just say, come on, Kathy. maybe not at my age now oh well i'm sorry the moral quandary is where we are now not when we were 10 years old i hate the game cap have i told you i hate this game okay friends it's if i'm saying in your life right now susan you would not take one friend and do it but i'm going to say to you if you do if you were going to do it you bloody well better take me or you're dead to me you see what i'm up against go ahead all right your friend that owns a bake bakery really wants to make your daughter's wedding cake. Even though she's really talented, she's terrible with time management. Do you let her bake the cake and be really stern with her

about deadlines or do you opt to not take a chance and go with a different baker? What would you do? It's no brainer you would have your friend do it because you're so loyal to your friends and family. You'd have her do it and you'd lay down the law. Am I right? Okay, what would I do? I don't know anymore. I don't even know you. Who are you? You're going to make me miss the opportunity to meet the artist. No, actually. No, actually, Susan, I would miss the opportunity.

And you would miss it. But when you get the chance, you're taking me. It's a win-win. No, Kathy, it's your good friend. You would definitely stay on them and let them make a cake. Oh, my God, ding, ding, ding. She got one right. I got one right, ladies and gentlemen.

I hate to go on. We've got one more because you're, I'd like to end on a high note. Isn't the time up yet? All right. While meeting your friend's new boyfriend. Well, neither of us have one, so this is going to be toughy to do. You realize almost everything they told this guy is a lie.

Oh, God. Later in the evening, the boyfriend confides in you that he thinks he might already be falling in love with your friend. How do you proceed? Oh, what would you do? Wait a minute. Read that again. Read it to me. Basically, let me paint this really clearly, Susan. Oh, my God. I'm meeting your new boyfriend. You've lied to him all night long. He comes up to me and thinks he's falling in love with you, except he's in love with the not real Susan. How would I proceed? You pull me by the ear and get me in the room. Are you crazy, Susan? Why are you lying? This man's falling in love with you. How could you do that?

Is that, I swear to God, we, do you know me? Hello, do you know what I would do, Susan? What? I would say, Sam. Don't fall in love with her. No, I would say, Sam, I'm so happy. I love her too. She's such a wonderful person.

I'm glad you're getting to know her, and as you get to know her more, you're going to fall in love with her more. You say the nice thing, you don't. That's what I said. And then you get me aside and tell me. No, I would not. Not him. I didn't say him. I was right people. Ladies and gentlemen, too right. Too, too right. You know what? Yes. I think we're going to play. You wouldn't say anything to me later.

Okay. You know, we're going to start playing on this. Pin the tail on the donkey because that's about the level I think you're at here. You know, rudeness will not be accepted here. No, seriously, you wouldn't say anything to me later. If you knew. Susan. If you knew, listen, if you knew I was lying to him. And then this. man told you that later when we hang out that night he leaves you're going to say susan why did you lie to him this man's fallen for you did you read it right you're oh i read it right you know why because susan you and i've talked about this you are who you are and i am who i am and you know for everybody out there susan and i love each other we're really good friends not everything that susan does i agree with not everything i do not everything i do but here's

the deal we're adults and we're pretty well baked so we're not going to change so no susan i wouldn't tell you that you're going to do what you're going to do and i love you you're my friend and and i'd wish you know godspeed in the relationship so you'd keep that to yourself you wouldn't yeah i would not you're right all right on that happy note friends that does it Kathy i want you to know what i would do you don't care susan you failed go pin the tail on the donkey that whatever that does it for this episode of Happy Hour. Thank goodness. And thank you guys for joining us. I hope you had as many laughs as we did. And you know what? We love these questions, even though Susan struggles to answer some of them. Just go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour. Write us a question, write a comment.

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