Bachelor Happy Hour - Young Insecurities | Golden Hour

Episode Date: July 11, 2025

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re diving into more of your questions before our ladies set sail on their bestie cruise! We got so many write-ins about plastic surgery, worrisome desires among young women, and much more, so we had to dish out our advice before the big trip! We kick things off by addressing some online chatter Kathy and Susan have heard: What’s up with their friendship? Then, we get started with the question of the day: What advice do you have for women ages 18 to 21 who want plastic surgery? Next, we answer questions about tweens trying to anti-age and a 20-year-old with a face-lift fund. We’re tackling social media beauty standards, addressing insecurities, and so much more. Plus, we end this episode with rapid-fire advice: What are Kathy and Susan’s beauty tips? How do you know if you’re getting plastic surgery for the right reasons? Tune in now to hear all this and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime Podcasts and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, West West, Prop here from Hood Politics with Prop Podcasts. You know I get down. You come from the urban areas. You understand politics more than you giving credit for it. Between Jerry out here, Mandarin all over the place, hop-out boys snatching up family members

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Absolutely. I miss you, Kathy. I can't wait. We're going to be together soon. I know, Susan, it has been so long since we've caught up. Let's start first. You just got back from St. Martin again. How was it? It was fabulous. Actually, my girlfriend and her husband joined us, so that was a lot of fun. We were, I feel like you need a vacation from a vacation. You know, when you have guests, you just take them everywhere. It's like crazy. So I wouldn't, I wouldn't know about a vacation from a vacation. But here's the thing. Everybody has been saying that you and I, on social media, that we're not friends anymore, that where have I been, where have you been, why aren't we together? Here's the thing. I have been busy out of town.

Susan has been busy out of town. We are getting ready to take a two-week cruise. You're going to see more of us on social media than you ever wanted. You know when they say, be careful what you asked for? Yes, right. I have been trying to answer. are so many fans. What did you do? Dump Kathy for your boyfriend. I'm like, are you serious right now? And I'm trying to answer that we will be together soon. Just stay tuned.

If you listen to our podcast, you will be reassured. There's no divorce happening here. Kathy and I will be going to Istanbul, Turkey, as well as the Greek islands. You're going to see more of us on social media than you ever wanted to. So there is no feud here. There's nothing. I love her to peace. and we just can't wait to get on our cruise.

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Oh, here we go. Here we go. What are your thoughts on plastic surgery for people that are younger, example, 18 to 21? What advice would you give to young women that are considering some form of work. Oh, I got the answer on this one. Keep in mind, they're young.

That's my point. I think unless, you know, I have a lot of friends who had, we called them nose jobs, deviated septims when they were in high school. You know, that's one thing, I think. But if you're talking about plastic surgery breast enhancement or even, frankly, tattoos and stuff, once you do that stuff. That's not plastic surgery. Well, okay.

It's, I mean, all right, so let's just focus on that. But if you have breast enhancement or, you know, something to change, permanently change your face or your body, before you really have time to settle in to your own body, I think it's a mistake. What about, Kathy, what came to mind for me, injections, Botox, things like this. I think it's too young. At 21, I can't imagine you having wrinkles, number one. well I think I had a few no but here's the thing your your face is changing your you're not fully developed I mean truly I think like I've had friends who had breast reduction done as teenagers

I mean that I think is something different but in terms of having injections which again is not plastic surgery but you know having your eyes done or your lips filled or breast in hand I just can't imagine it at that age. Well, I know people that are 21 years old and their breasts, like you said, a reduction. If that's necessary, then by all means. Yeah. And if you were so flat-chested and you wanted a little something at 21 years old, you're able to make up your own mind.

I don't have a problem with it. I do, however, have a problem with wanting a facelift or something at 21 years old. I mean, I just, I think the problem here is, like many things, is the overflow of social media people girls and young women look at themselves and they compare themselves to airbrushing to you know things that just aren't reality and they and they want that and I think that's a mistake speaking of airbrushing Kathy I wish I knew how to do it because I'd look really good these crows feet and you know people on social media and I'm talking to you guys out there that write these comments when I'm taking a selfie or something out in the sun my crows feet are

are pretty prominent. And yes, I get Botox, but it's not a miracle. Why are you so criticizing? I mean, why do you say such negative things? I am human. I'm 68 years old. I have Crozby. I think you look beautiful. I think, but I think that's what I'm saying. It's endemic. Social media has given everyone a platform to say and do whatever they want. So that's half of the problem. People have no compunction. They just think they can say whatever they want. That's the first problem. But I think the bigger issue is

young people are not, they don't know what's real anymore. You know, they see these models on social media that have had literally airbrushing, the tricks that you can do with

photography now, they're not real. But you want to see real. Well, but the problem is some of these young women, I think, think that that is real when it really isn't. Do you remember when we were growing up? How many times can you use the word real? Twiggy. Everybody had to be bone thin, which fortunately, I was blessed because I used to have to drink protein drinks to gain weight.

I was bone thin. I never had that problem. I had boobs. I mean, they weren't in style then and I had them. Right. But I wasn't about to go to the plastic surgeon at 20. 21 years old. No, I mean, I, my daughter, who now is, you know, a mother and well into her 30s, I don't think that she ever thought about it, commented on it. Like I said, I had friends growing up

who didn't like their noses that they had a big bump or something. And I understand the nose things. If you're born with this thing, by all means. I just think, you know, whatever. I just think that I wish young women might, my message to young women today is enjoy the body you have. If you breathe and you're healthy and you're strong, that is so much more important. I mean, I think it sometimes falls on deaf ears. But I just think having a healthy body that supports you is so much more important. Or wait to the eyes are hooded and then by all means fix them. At 21 years old, you don't have hooded eyes.

I was just going to say, did you have, I mean, I was very overweight at 21, and I also had big boobs, but I didn't get them reduced until after I had my three kids. Yeah, after kids, exactly. After I had my kids. But you know what? I think, I think young ladies, if you're listening, give yourself a chance to fall in love with the person you were born to be instead of trying to change yourself. Especially in today's world, everything is accepted.

It big people, skinny people. I mean, it doesn't matter. Big butts are in. You know what they mean? Everything goes. So be okay with who you are. But I am 100% in with plastic surgery when it's time. When you need it, go for it.

I mean, I have had a few things to myself. You know, people say to me all the time, why do you admit to it? And you know what I say? Why not? I had people say to me, I thought you had work done. Oh, look at your face. I'm like, are you serious? You know what, Susan, don't let them get to you.

Just be the nice person you are. It'll all turn out. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, podcast or wherever you get your podcast. All right, West West, Prop here from Hood Politics with Prop Podcasts. You already know our get-down. If you grew up in our urban areas

of comfort of struggle, you understand politics much more than you giving credit for. Feds taking over American cities, government hop-out boys, hopping out the van, snatching up your Theo and them, two wars that was supposed to be solved

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Oh, I love this part. I know. Okay, I love it. All right, I'm going to start us off. Here we go. All right. Hi, ladies. I love your podcast.

And I was really hoping to get your advice. My daughter is 13 years old. and is already so worried about her appearance. I expected to this as the tween years are really tough, and I figured she'd have a similar struggle, as we all do, carving out who we are at such a young age. However, it's way worse than I thought. She's asking me for retinol creams.

She recently spent all her babysitting money on skin care products for anti-aging. It's nuts. Thankfully, she listened to me about the products and now ask me before buying so they don't hurt her face. But I know that's just the tip of the iceberg. I've tried to be as involved as I can be when it comes to what she consumes online.

But I know this is something going on with all of her friends. I've talked to the other parents and we're all at a loss on what to do to get these girls to stop worrying about anti-aging, how they look, having perfect skin, et cetera. I want to know what you would say to her of you were in my shoes so I can see if I'm missing anything when I talk to her. Thanks, ladies. Well, you know, it's funny I can relate. My granddaughter will be 13 this year. And for Christmas,

she wanted products for her face. I sat her down and said, don't think you have to buy everything that you see. Here's the deal. Always use a moisturizer. Always use an eye cream. That you can do now. You don't need retinoles, and she doesn't have acne or anything like that. If the child had acne, then yes, you address it with certain creatures. Well, so you and I are kind of on the same page. What I would do in answer to your question is I would take her to a place like, you know, a store, a drug store, a Sephora, something like that. And I would say using clean products. Like I would try to educate her on clean things.

and so clean products so that she's not worried about retinol and explain to her that that's something for people who have wrinkles. And I would talk to her. This is a great opportunity to talk about the evils of social media and that her face is beautiful. But at the same time, you're never too young to teach to learn about good health care. So using some natural cleaners and some natural stringents and whatever products that is appropriate for a teenager. So that's what I would do. I remember taking Brittany to the clinic counter. It was the least expensive and it was a clean product and let that lady teach her what it is. And she was young and she got it. I think if you acknowledge that young girls today are very interested in physical appearance

and maybe too much so. And taking care of themselves. That's right. Focus on healthy skin care as opposed to changing the appearance, if you will. Make sure you wash your face before you go to bed. Yeah, that's important. Teach those kinds of things. And if she wants to use a light lipstick or something, the minute you say no, yeah, a light gloss, the minute you say no, it's the forbidden fruit.

Of course, of course. And social media shows us everything. But Susan, don't they, I mean, I don't, my daughter's older now, but I know that they make lots of clean products for young girls today. Focus on that and don't worry about, I mean, retinol, you know, tell her it's a prescription. Well, she heard retinol on the Internet, I'm sure, you know. And I would, I think, of course, you know, I'm always one to make a joke. I mean, I have to be honest, when I read this anti-aging to this listener, I mean, at 13,

I kind of would have to make a joke about it with my daughter and say, anti-aging if you get any younger you'll be back in my stomach you know how much younger do you want to be i don't think i was worried about skin care at 13 times have changed though times no i did i remember at 13 and when i started my period and i got the first ziples oh god yeah every month every month that was a curse and now look at us filled with wrinkles we wish you all good luck but do talk to her educate her in the way way that she should be. And retinoles will happen in her life. Just don't rush it. Yeah. And you know what else? I just had one more thought. You know what else you could do for a treat

for her birthday? Maybe give her a facial where a third, you know, the facials could talk to her about skin care and maybe buy her a couple of products there that are clean products. I think sometimes if they have something to focus on and feel like they're making a difference in their face, they won't be saying, you know, I want to. A new kit cleansing cream. Oysterizer, eye cream. Yeah, that's all you need. Yeah, it's all you need. Don't you wish those days were back for us, Susan?

Don't I really? My cupboards are overflowing. And sunscreen, teach her about sunscreen. Oh, yes. I waited half my life, well, three quarters of my life, and I am faithful. Wait, wait, Susan. A little late. Susan, you had to go there, didn't you?

Susan, I was in St. Martin and just got back. And I said to her, your face, Susan, put sunscreen. on. She goes, I put it on in the morning. Listen, everyone out there, sunscreen needs to be reapplied every hour to two hours. You cannot put it on in the morning. I do put it back on after I get out of the water. Yeah, well, that's great. If you're sitting on the beach, just disappear in an hour? Yeah, it just, it absorbs your skin. It doesn't, it's not effective. So my PSA for the day is use and reapply your sunscreen. Reapply, reapply, reapply, reapply, reapply. All righty, moving on. Thanks for writing in. Okay.

Next one. Hi, ladies. I'm worried about my roommate and I need help on how to talk to her. We're both in college and are very lucky to say that our families are blessed. My roommate, let's call her Kelly, and I support it by our parents. So any money we make from jobs and internships is solely our fun money. here's the problem i noticed recently that kelly has been putting her money in a facelift fun oh how funny i have an envelope with that a facelift we're 20 she's gotten things like lip filler or chin filler in the past and i've never thought much of it i've never been the type to have a strong opinion on work plastic surgery wise especially when it comes to other people that's not my business Smart girl. But Kelly is one of my closest friends, and I owe it to her to look out for her

when I see something that worries me. But how do I bring this up to her? I talk to my mom and she told me it would probably be really hard for her to find someone willing to give a 20-year-old a facelip. But I want to know why she even feels the need to get one. That's where the problem is for me. What do you think? Thank you so much. I put my two cents in here really quick. Think about what you're telling us. She has a fun facelift. It's going to take her from 20 to 50 to save enough money.

So let that fun be. It doesn't mean she's going to use it right now. Well, I agree with that. But I think the bigger issue here, I mean, yes, technically you're correct, Susan. Yes. But the fact that a 20-year-old is not saving for a. fancy handbag or a trip to Paris to go up the Eiffel Tower, but instead is saving for a facelift is cause for concern. So, um, and by the way, uh, you can always find a doctor

willing to do anything. So that's, she already had lip filler and a chin filler. I think, I think, you know, you have to talk to your friend, kind of the way Susan and I are talking on this podcast. You have to talk to your friend about the evils, if you will, of social media and how what you see a lot of times it's airbrushed and people don't really look like that and they have makeup artists who know how to make them look 20 years younger just have the conversation with her but you know what I'm guessing this girl just just wild guess here has some self-esteem issues and she you know doesn't like her eyes or doesn't like her nose and thinks that if she could change it her life would magically be different and you know what it isn't as well as

they don't realize it is not a miracle. When we go under the knife, we're thinking we're going to come out. It's not true. It's a little tweak. It's a little this. And it does look a little better, especially at our age, but it's not the end all. It's not like you were 20 again. But see, that's what I'm saying.

I don't think this is about a tweak or anything else. I think this girl, I don't know, because we. we don't have enough information here. But I'm guessing she, I'm making it up now. She does, her eyes are too close together or too far apart. Her nose is too big or too small. Her chin sticks out too much or not enough. Well, she has her tooth thin.

I'm saying her lips are too thin. Whatever it is, she's not happy with herself. And that is a bigger issue than can she save enough for a facelift. I think the bigger issue here is learning to accept the person she is. is and love herself because I agree I agree but I still don't think anything's wrong with having a fun that you're going to save so that when you're ready it takes a long time to save for something like that I totally disagree I think there is something wrong with it a young girl who starts a facelift fund at 20 years old I think there's something else going on um you're saying that susan at 68 that you wish

you had these envelopes all my life new shoes I like I would put money aside for things that I knew I was going to want or whether that's shoes that's what a trip to Italy yeah now we're talking a new outfit shoes a fancy designer handbag not a facelift at 20 years old if you did you really have a facelift envelope at 20 uh no but I had a separate envelope for cosmetic yeah but that's different when it when it was time yeah I see well yeah I think I think you're a great friend We don't have your name here. But I think you should try to talk to Kelly, your roommate, and get her to really look, examine why she wants a facelift and save him for a 20.

Ask her, I see you have this facelift fun. Do you plan on doing that soon or you're just preparing for the future? Yeah, when you're 50, 60. And by the way, if you could talk your roommate into giving up the fund and she'd like to share it with Susan and me, We could put that money to use right now. That's right. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age.

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. All right, West West, Prop here from Hood Politics with Prop Podcasts.

You already know our get-down. If you grew up in our urban areas of comfort of struggle, you understand politics much more than you giving credit for. Feds taking over American cities, government hop-out boys, hopping out the van,

snatching up your Theo and them, two wars that was supposed to be solved in 24 hours. Jerry just out here, mandering all over the place, the turfs. And of course, the Epstein of it all.

Well, this week we decided to shoot our shot, And boy, did we pull up from the logo to see if we could get somebody to come tap in with us. And the one and only Jamil Hill pulled up from this politics podcast to keep it a whole century. It's in America what sells in politics are narratives and storylines. It's like we treat politics like we treat sports, which is part of the reason why we're in the situation we're in right now. Listen to the hood politics with prop podcasts on the IHard Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say hello, Ed. from a very rural background myself

my dad is a farmer and my mom is a cousin so like it's not like what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke but that really was my reality nine years ago I just normally do straight stand-up

but this is a bit different on stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear 22nd of July 2015 a 23 year old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer

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And on the latest episode of Politics, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries joins me for a candid conversation about the state of the Democratic Party. What do Republicans say to you privately that they won't say publicly? Many of them are in fear of their political lives, and that's been part of the challenge. But we continue to say to them, you were elected to defend your constituents, to stand up for your constituents. And there's life after Congress. And you should be willing to actually want to be able to look back on your time in the House of Representatives

knowing that you can keep your head held high because you did the right thing. Donald Trump is gone in three and a half years. But their legacy or their failure to stand up to the extremism and the unprecedented assault on America as we know it will be with them forever. Make sure to listen to Spolitics on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. All right. We are going to move into a segment that we call rapid fire advice. It's confidence and it's tips and tricks.

So instead of a game, that's what we're going to do. All things confidence, appearance, we're going to switch off reading the prompts. We're going to both give our advice and here we go. Give us your tips, tricks, and advice on you, right, Susan? Yes. Make up. What are your go-to? beauty hacks that you've always used.

Forever in a day, my eyeliner pencil and mascara and mascara, two biggest things. Oh, that's so funny. Okay, mine that I just actually recently learned, because makeup has changed so much recently, I got gifted a blush that doubles as a lipstick. Oh, yeah, an eye shadow too. Yeah, you can use it. So that is my hack. If you're traveling, the fewer products you can take, the better.

And so I love a good crayon stick that is a blush, a lipstick, and an eye shadow. Go for it. Okay, Kathy, you're not going to like this one. How do you find what clothes work best for you? I call Susan. No, actually, I have to tell you. Advice from friends, from people. No, but here's the thing.

I took an extended vacation here and I went shopping to buy clothes. And I really found out after trying on a million things, I now have learned. What looks best on you. And so here's my tip to anyone who's not sure what looks good on them because Susan, you know, is a shopaholic. She knows what she likes and she goes and buys. I have learned how to shop and here's what I've learned. try on a style that you don't think. For example, I don't look good in things that have a built-in waist because I don't have a

waste, but I've tried enough things on that now I know a straight silhouette looks best on me. I can wear a short dress, I can wear a middy, I can wear a long. My arms are decent so I can go strapless. It takes trine on, right? Would you agree? How do you find out? That's how you find out. Yeah.

And try it on. And take a picture of yourself. Yeah. And then stay away. Then like when I went shopping, I was in a department store and this shopper was helping me buy stuff and she kept bringing out dresses that had a waste. And I said, nope, they don't look good on me. And so I realized that now I know I don't have to waste time trying on stuff that already

know is not going to look good on me. All right. Here's the next one. Overcoming insecurities. what's something you were insecure about when you were young and how did you overcome it? I mean, I hate, given that we're talking about plastic surgery, I was really insecure about my overly big boobs and how did I overcome it when after I had three children, I was 40 years old, I had them taken down to size. I'm insecure when I was young. I can't put anything out.

Not being the best at something, which carried my whole life. Like when I was a cheerleader or a gymnast or anything, being able to be myself in front of guys when you're hanging out, you know, things like that. Yeah, I think my best advice to anyone who has insecurities, especially when you're in those teenage years, going off to college, all those firsts, you're younger, I try to remember, and I told my kids this, everyone's feeling the way you

are. For example, when you walk on campus the first year as a freshman, you're scared to death. Guess what? Everyone else is feeling insecure, scared. So try to remember you're not in it alone. You know, if you're not the best, whatever, guess what? Somebody else is thinking the same thing. They're not the best. So just fake it till you make it. Hey, that's my motto. The awkwardness. I know. That's why I said it. The awkwardness of puberty. How did you handle puberty when you went through it and when your kids went through it? Oh, man, oh man.

Puberty. I remember I was the only one that didn't have a hair under my arm or my. So I, for me, it was a little different. I had four sisters. I was the youngest of the girls. So that was easier for you. Well, and yes, I didn't know. I was watching them and then so as it happened to me I sort of had a little view into the future

but I remember gosh starting my period I thought that was the best thing since sliced bread until I realized what it meant so the crabs came yeah but I think when my kids went through it I remember so my parents I grew up in a generation where people didn't talk about puberty I did with my kids. Did you? Oh, most definitely. Yeah. So I talked to them about the changes that we're going to happen.

And I don't think it's ever enough. I think sometimes kids don't want to hear it from their parents. They want to hear it from their friends, which is unfortunate because you get some bad advice that way. I have to know. Did you ever come home while you had older siblings? But mommy, where did the babies come out? My mother used to say, down there. Kathy, I thought you pooped them out

for half my life Are you serious? That's all she would say Down there Now my children, they knew all everything I spelled everything out Oh so did I And we didn't use silly little words

Like, you know, pee-pee And we said penis vagina We used the right words I can remember my We called it a period My mother-in My mother called it Amped Flow I remember the first time since I'm about Aunt Flo, I went, who?

Do you have your friend? Is your friend visiting? This is not my friend. This is a bleeding vagina. I would not call it a friend. But isn't it weird that, yeah, every family, I don't, I think the generations, you know, my daughter does not use silly little words for her, you know, her daughter's body parts. We call it what it is.

But I just remember thinking we grew up in a time when, you know. Seriously? Yes, I did. Oh, God. All right. Here's the next one. Plastic surgery. How do you just, it's all about plastic surgery. Did I tell you, I have a, I have a, I have a consultation for a facelift, by the way. Okay. How do you decipher if you're getting something done for you? Oh, this is a good one because I know the answer to this one for me. Okay. How do you decipher if you're getting something done for you versus feeling the compulsion to, quote, fix. something that is doing it for the wrong reasons. I know I get something done for me. It's me in the mirror. I mean, so I think if you're fixing something, again, you know, having big boobs wanting to, there's nothing wrong with that.

I think the danger is. Well, what would be the wrong reason to please a man say if he wanted big with that? Or let's say I wanted, you know, oh, I want you to put new cheekbones in me because my cheekbones. That to me is the wrong reason. I want, I want people to love who they are. It's, you know, and accept who they are. And then if you want to enhance. As it goes south, you tweak it. Yeah, but not remaking your body. So my advice to you is what Susan just said, take a long look in the mirror and realize that you are made the way you're made. I know it sounds ridiculous, but you should be happy if you're healthy. I mean, of course, you know we're going to get a lot

things. Well, why aren't you happy aging? I am happy aging, but I feel better when I tweak it. Yeah. So you am right. You know what? Insecurities when dating. How do you navigate having your own personal insecurities while dating and not letting them meddle in your relationship? Well, there you go, Susan. Who's them, first of all? I'm guessing friends, parents, whoever. Okay. How do you navigate having your own personal insecurities while dating and not letting them metal in your relationship. So, so let's say with you and Frederique, you don't want, you know, if you feel insecure and you don't want to project that, you could be a jealous partner. And you don't want to be that jealous.

So what do you do? What's your advice on that one? See, for me, I got to be true to myself. It's always being true to myself. If I get a little jealous, I don't. want it to be known. You know what I mean? That's something I would keep in. You really? Yes. You wouldn't say to Frederique, hey, I'm feeling insecure about it. Now, today I would. But when I was young, never. Well, I don't think this is necessarily young. I think it's just when you're dating.

I don't know. I wish people were more honest in their dating relationships and said how how they feel, how someone else's actions, your partner's actions makes you feel. I wish we could do that more. That's my second PSA. You don't say, you made me feel. You say, I feel like this when. Exactly. And I think that's maturity

that we're learning. Well, you know what? For all the younger people listening today, there's nothing wrong in, if you're feeling insecure, there's nothing wrong in telling your partner how you feel insecure and how how he or she could make you feel better. Absolutely.

Nothing wrong with that. The sooner you do it, the better you feel. Yeah. Insecurities and friendships, that's next, right? Yeah, Susan, I haven't heard from you in weeks. I'm feeling very insecure. That's lying. How do you navigate your own personal insecurities while being friends with other women?

If you find yourself feeling jealous when your bestie gets hit on and you don't, where do you go from there? I can tell where I go. I would say jealous. I would say envious. so happy for you. When's it my turn? You know. I don't know. I do think that sometimes friendships get women at any age. I think you and I've seen this actually from being on the show. Yes. Get insecure about what you talk to this one more than that one. I don't know. Get over it. Sorry. He's giving her more attention. Well, obviously there's some chemistry there. If there's not

here, then don't try wish for something that you really don't even want. you know a lot of people will go out of their way to get that attention yet they're really not interested in that person it's just for the attention don't waste your time all right this was so much fun it really was thank you to our listeners for joining in we hope we gave you some good advice today absolutely and if you agree with us let us know and if you disagree we're interested in that as well but let me just say i know we're going to take some heat on this whole plastic surgery thing. I think the biggest thing here is being old enough, as we've talked through this podcast. I think the biggest thing is being old enough to make an informed decision. And pay for

it. And pay for it. As well as you're doing it for the right reasons. You're doing it because it's going to make you feel better. Yeah. And not to attract a guy when you're 20. No, they don't even notice half the time. Okay. Everybody. Make sure. to follow us on Bachelor Happy Hour. As you know, we have a lot more to say new episodes coming out every week. Every week. And make sure to submit your questions to us. All you have to do is go to bachelornation.com slash golden hour or DM us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. And listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour in the IHeart Radio app or wherever you listen to your podcast. Thanks again. Have a great week.

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