Bachelor Happy Hour - Young Love with Kelsey Anderson | Golden Hour

Episode Date: June 26, 2024

Today on Golden Hour Kathy and Susan sit down with very special guest, Kelsey Anderson! The lovely Kelsey is here and she is helping Kathy and Susan out with some of your listener write ins! We kick off today's episode catching up with Kelsey on her many adventures with Joey. Then, we chat about her father and what she thinks about him dating. And later, Kelsey gives us her take on some of Bachelor Nation's questions; you won't want to miss her advice! Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Do you have a question for Kathy and Susan? Head to BachelorNation.Com/GoldenHour to submit your question now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hi, Kelsey. Thank you so much for joining us. We're so excited to be chatting with you today. Thank you for having me on here. I'm so excited. Thank you. Thank you for joining us. So how is life with your man, Joey? It's fabulous. You know, it's nice being able to do so many amazing things and getting all these crazy opportunities. But we're definitely ready for things to start slowing down in July. We have a good couple of weeks that we just start going to relax and do nothing. Did you hear that? She's got a good couple of weeks. A couple of weeks. I know that feeling. I mean, come on. You guys have been traveling. I followed you guys on Instagram. You were in Hawaii. That looks like a dream trip. Portugal. Were you there for? a wedding, I think. Yes. Yeah, one of Joey's best friend's weddings. Okay, you were at stage

coach. All right, tell us, tell us about your travels. Yeah, we've been all over the place. A lot of it's been personal, honestly, recently. Like, we've had three weddings this month, so I had my cousin's wedding and then two of Joey's friends' weddings. One of them he was in. One of them was in Portugal. Hawaii, we got to go with Charity, Dodden, and Katie and Zach, which was so fun. Yeah, that's like where Joey lived was Kauai. So. It was really special for him to show us around and get to meet his friends on the island. And, yeah, that was really amazing as well. And now we're in Nashville.

I love it. So I want to know you've been at three weddings. Did it give Joe any ideas? Like of what we want to do and what we don't want to do. Okay. I'll go with that. We're like, don't even know where we want to have it because both of our families are all over the place. So it's like we need time to even figure out like what area we want to have it in.

But, yeah, we have, like, little talks, like, oh, we would like to do this. We want to do this. But there's nothing set in stone yet. Just remember, do you. Do it where you want. Don't try to please everybody else. It's about you and him. That's true.

So, Kelsey, I know that Charity and Dotten are planning their wedding. And, you know, Zach and Katie live near me in Austin. And I've had them over and we've talked. I know they're planning a wedding. So I want to know, like, have they had any, like, game changer, any really great. great advice for you guys, you know, anything about relationship goals. For like planning the wedding or for like relationship stuff? Yeah, all of it.

Wedding, planning, relationship goals. Yeah. I mean, I know Katie and Zach were talking to me about how they were looking at venues. Charity and Dodden also told us a little bit about some of the things that they've been doing, getting ready for their wedding. I think that I actually sent Katie a venue that one of my friends looked at in Austin because I know that she was maybe wanting to do it somewhere around there. And so I actually set her a venue to go look at

because one of my friends went there and was beautiful. But we haven't talked too much about it. They just kind of gave me a little bit of details about what they're looking forward to. Any relationship advice? I mean, I got a lot of relationship advice from Katie and from Doughton whenever we were like in hiding. Isn't he a sweetheart?

They both are so nice. And for them to like reach out to me and be there for me, I was like, I needed that so much because it's really hard in hiding, especially whenever you know you're hiding that you're engaged and you want to tell everybody and then everybody's seeing all you know the other relationships that your partner had and watching it back can be difficult but having them and their support was amazing oh god i love it all i love all six of you i know you guys are all friends and i'm like because everyone they're so amazing they're

so down to earth it's like we would be friends in real life and like you i don't think people can understand unless they were on the show like how we could all be friends Yeah. All six of you are truly amazing couples. You really are. Thank you. And it's living proof, everybody, that it does work. Look how happy they are. That's right. That's right. So are you guys living together? Where are you living? I know you've just traveled so much. Where are you guys doing? Yeah, I've been joking that New Orleans is our closet right now because we've been traveling so much. It's like we just like keep all of our clothes there. And then we're like moving all over the place. But like I said, in July, things are slowing down. So we'll be able to be there more. I get to show more around New Orleans, but New Orleans is their base, but hopefully being in

New York soon. We're part of New York. I'm sorry. Where in New York are you going, babe? Manhattan, but we don't have like a area, like a neighborhood set yet, but we have a couple areas that we're looking into, but I'm not sure yet. We have, we've been looking, but it's so hard New York because it's like whenever something goes up, it gets taken immediately.

That's good. Everybody there, everyone there gets apartments. locators. It's just what you have to do. Yes. Yeah, we have someone helping us for sure. Have you lived in New York, Kelsey? No, I've never lived in New York. That's what I've always wanted to. I don't know if it's like watching too much sex in the city or what it is, but I'm like, I have this dream

of living in New York. You could be, you could do sex in the city. You could be that next girl walking them through that. I know. I just like love the hustle and bustle. I've visited a lot. I have some friends that live there, but yeah, I'm just really excited. I'm like, I don't care if I hate it. I have to experience. just do it once yes yeah exactly what about jellie is he right yeah joey is excited like too because it's very close to philly so it's like an hour train ride i think and the train is amazing we took it

once from philly to new york um so we'll be able to visit his sister and brother and law and dad a lot which is going to be really nice nice i'm excited for you i'm so excited for you you guys are Susan, we should go visit them in New York. There you go, yeah. And Charity in Duns in Brooklyn, so. I know. My daughter lived in Brooklyn. They live near where my daughter lived.

That's a great place, too. Yeah, it is. It is. Brooklyn's cool because it has like little Italy sections, you know. It's like where I grew up. Yeah, totally. Wow. I love it.

I love it. Okay, so we never know when you're going to get there, but let us know. I'm sure we see seeing you. I definitely will. Okay. Okay, so we do a topic of the day, Kelsey. Yes. And today, we want you to join in with us.

Are there any taboo topics that are off limits to talk about with a long-term partner, or do you like to talk about everything? I love to talk about everything. I think it might be also like part of my ADHD brain. It like jumps around to everything. But also whenever Joey and I, after we got engaged, I would look up like thousands of questions, like to ask somebody. like there's literally like a list of like a thousand questions to ask people or like there's books you know

and we would just flip there and just like oh what's you know like random questions that you would never think to ask somebody yeah I love getting to know all the little things about anybody my friends like my significant others so yeah have you ever have you ever asked joey if he knew what his love language was yes yes he said he said he know yeah he said he thinks that like receiving it was like i think it was words of affirmation and uh physical touch and then like he gives it and like physical touch and um what is it you can't have all five see i think the same way i want all five i like no i can't i know i like my love language just all five give them all right i deserve them all i'm impressed them some men don't even know what that is yeah i know yeah i think maybe the

bachelor trained him a little wait a minute what is your what is your what is your what is your love language Kelsey like giving it giving it i would probably say um acts of service nice yeah for your partner for my partner yeah for anybody like I will I love like leaving little notes or little gifts I like hiding little letters and stuff and his like luggage whenever like he's going somewhere and for him to find whenever he's by himself like I like but your love language when you're asked what is your love language oh yeah like what I receive how do you feel loved yeah um I would say acts of service as well honestly like I want you to like think about little things intentionally and do them for me

me without being asked. I don't want to ask. I want you just do it for me. Surprise. Oh, you get that. Yeah, exactly. What are yours, Kathy? Oh, you know what? That whole thing, I get, as I've said to you before, Susan, I get confused. Yeah. I think for me. Because you want them all as well. Yeah, for being honest. I think for me, it's touch. And for me, it's touch. And I think acts of service for the other person. Yeah. I give acts of service. And, And I like to receive, you know, physical touch. But, hey, I haven't had a date in a while, so really does it matter? Oh, God.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up.

Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. So our next, for the other people out there looking for love. How did you know Joey was the one? I just, it's funny, I explain it. Growing up, my mom always told us, like, you need somebody like your dad, like the type of, like,

person that your dad is. That's the type of man that you should look for. And my dad is very intentional. Like, whatever he speaks, like all his words means so much. I love your dad, by the way. Yeah. Yeah, we're buddies. We chat.

Yeah, he loves you, too. But it's like, I feel like he's very intentional with all his words. And I, like, realized that with Joey, like, all the words that he would tell me, like, they just seemed so intentional and, like, very special, like, to me. And he made me feel really special. And, yeah, he just reminded me a lot of the way that, like, my dad was to my mom, the way he was to me. So is that what was lacking? Oh, sorry, we're asking the same question, I think. Is that what was lacking Kelsey in your other relationships that they didn't make you feel special?

I think that I would have to ask for a lot of things. I mean, it's funny me and my girlfriends were talking the other night whenever we're all hanging out. They're like, Kelsey, you just don't date bad guys. Like all of my exes are great men. They just, I feel like didn't fit for me. But, yeah, I don't know. That was my question. What's different about the guys you date it?

How is Joey different? I think Joey's different. Yeah, no, I don't think it's timing. I think that Joey's different because, like, he continuously makes me feel special. Like, he has, I've never really had to, like, ask for love. You know what I mean? I feel like in previous relationships, I felt like, you know, it kind of dwindled. And I felt like I was having to, like, ask for things that I didn't think that I should have been asking for.

Good for you. Are you friends with your exes, Kelsey? I'm not friends with my exes, but I respect my exes. I don't think that you should really have that, like, you know, bestie friendship with them. And besties. No, I don't think not. Oh, wait a minute, Susan. You've been the one that says you're really good friends with all your exes.

I told all of them, yeah, but not like best friends. Yeah, I'm not trying to like. Merry Christmas, happy new year. Yeah. So what dating advice, if you will, would you give your younger self if you had the knowledge that you have now? Would anything be different? Because I think you are young. Yeah.

I don't think that I would do anything different. And I, well, maybe, like, I think that in my earlier relationships, I was like, I loved the drama, you know? Like, I loved, like, arguing and things like that. I would say maybe, don't do that. It's not cute. Okay. But how about you? See, we finish each other's sentences.

It's crazy. I think for me, I, the advice I would give is just believe in yourself, you know, believe in myself more than. And I believe in myself a lot now, but when I was younger, I don't think I did as much. And so what about you? I second that as well as, and you taught me this, a red flag is a red flag. It's not going to change. Kelsey, truly. Right.

No, my girlfriends, we were all talking about our relationships, like our previous relationships recently. But one of my best friends, she told me something whenever I was like dating my college boyfriend. And I was like, I kept having these feelings. He's like, I just don't feel like this is it. And I was like, I feel like I need to end it. And I was talking to her and she was like, well, like, why are you staying with him? I was like, well, he's so nice to me.

Like, he's so nice. And she was like, you should expect every man to be nice to you. That's the bare minimum. And whenever she said that, I was like, oh, you're right. And I ended it literally, I think that week because I was like, you're so right. Like, that's the bare minimum. Every man should be nice to you. And then you should have like these other connections and, you know, things, interests that are alike.

Yeah, I love it. okay so i want to get back to your dad for a minute because when we met him at your finale of course you know susan elbow to weigh in to see if she could maybe date the guy we were emailing long before that see what i mean nobody gets a chance but um you know he's your dad is a super nice guy and um you know how how how do i susan obviously already got it done how do we land a guy like your dad and and selfishly does your dad have any other single friends So, Kelsey, how would you feel if your dad got to have a similar dating experience, just like yours? Like, how would that make you feel?

I would fully support it. I want my dad to, like, get out there. I want my dad to date. I think that my mom really would want him to. My mom, before she passed, always said, like, I want you to find somebody else. I want you to find another love because I think she always just knew that she, like, before she even was sick, she would always say that. She just knew that, like, she was going to pass before him.

And she always said that. And so, like, I know me and all my siblings would support him and want him to be happy and find a partner that he can, you know, travel and do things with. So that brings up something for me because, as you know, my husband passed away. And my kids, my sons were very, very eager. You know, they want, but my daughter was much more reticent about me dating and finding somebody and um you know i wonder what you would say to those people that are your age to you know sort of give their parents a break because yeah we don't want to be alone you know

what do you think about that i just i feel like my dad gave like all of us so much love like growing up and he still does that and i just feel like my dad deserves love as well you know i think that you know loving like your family is different than loving like a partner and i think that like he needs like that support of like a partner, you know, that's someone like that's not his kid. That's not his brother or his sister-in-law. Yeah, like his best friend. Like, I don't know. I think that my dad is deserving of that. Yeah. That's so mature that you, that you feel that way because, you know, I said to my kids, look, I'm, I can never replace your dad. Yeah. And I, and I hear you saying sort of the same thing. But I deserve to be happy too. And it's amazing that you're, what, 25.

Yeah, I just turned 26. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. But it's just amazing that you have that. Are your siblings in the same boat with you? Yeah, I think that like some of my siblings, it like took them a little bit longer to feel that way. My dad hasn't really dated. Like he kind of dated like one or two ladies, but it was very like kind of, I don't think

that he fully felt like he could date them because he always felt guilty about it because he feels like no one's going to replace your mom. And it's like, we know that. No one's going to replace our mom. but it's going to be a different love and it's going to be, you know, something that you deserve that, you know, we just wanted to be happy and, like, find a best friend, like how he was with my mom as well. That's unbelievably perfect what you just said.

It is. It is. All of you've got a great family. I met both of your brothers, your sisters. They're all beautiful people. And I think they would all encourage him. I agree with you. Yes, definitely.

Okay, Susan, I'm going to have to, I'm going to have to horn in then on it. He's 57, Kathy. So what? I can go younger. So, Kelsey, the other thing that I wanted to talk to, and I think I actually mentioned this to you at your finale, but why would you remember? You talked about the butterflies coming during, and that is the same thing when my husband died, yellow butterflies came. And, you know, that's, I felt such a strong connection. I still do when the butterflies come.

How do you connect with your mom, you know, and how do you find ways? for Joey to connect with your mom which I know sounds a little strange but you know anyone I date I would want them sort of to know my background and be part of my family yeah I love telling Joey stories about my mom like whenever

anything like reminds me of her I love to tell him stories I think that that's how I feel like Joey kind of connects with my mom um he also got me this little butterfly necklace for Valentine's Day oh my goodness he's so I'm going to try He's a keeper It was really sweet

But yeah I think that I think that Joey understands the type of woman My mom was to me just from like the stories And the videos that I show him And like of her just dancing And making up songs and dance moves And all these things

Like she was always laughing and very positive My siblings I'll say like that I'm like the most like her In a lot of ways I think that we all have like our little quirks That are like our moms or like our mom, but, yeah, I definitely resemble my mom the most out of all of us, too. So that's kind of, it feels special.

So she's beautiful. Yeah, she's beautiful. I love it. Wow. I just love you and him together. And I think your whole family is blessed and his family. You guys, we wish you nothing but the best. Thank you.

So we have some fan questions to go through. And we give advice. And Kelsey here is going to give her advice as well. Are you ready? Ready. All right. This one is from Sean. He's 44 from Baton Rouge.

Oh, he's from Baton Rouge. That's close to New Orleans. That's close to you. That sure is. Hello, ladies. I have a question I'm looking for some advice on. My wife and I have been together for 10 years, and she's eight years younger than me. We met when we were 34 and 26, and now we're 44 and 36.

When we met, she thought she wanted kids. and just said she wasn't ready yet. Now she said she isn't sure anymore about wanting children, but I still do. I know people can change their mind, and she was young when we met, but this is becoming really difficult for me, as I've always saw myself as a dad. She is 100% my person, and we are deeply in love. So I don't know if I need to walk away from a relationship that makes me so happy, or if I can continue in our marriage and let go of the resentment.

I know this is a difficult situation, so any advice is welcome. Thank you for your wisdom. Wow. Kelsey, we didn't say this was going to be easy. We were just saying we're going to. Your first one is a bomb. Okay, we can skip that question. Susan and I can answer it.

You can tell us how we have beautiful hair can get beautiful hair like you have. I don't know. I wish I'll answer that. I feel like that's so hard because you, I, you can tell us. you know, I feel like he's always going to think of like the what if of like, oh, what if I didn't, like, what if I had kids? What if, whatever? That's hard.

But it's his person. But if that's your person, you know, then. How dare you walk away? No, you just. Yeah. Oh, guys, I don't know. I mean, I got married Kelsey very young. I was 20.

Yeah. And we knew we wanted children. But we, we purposely, because I was so young and we were traveling and doing my My husband was in the military, a whole bunch of things. So I was married almost eight and a half years before I had my first child. But I can say that if someone wants a child and the other partner says no, that resentment is going to build. And the person that you love so much today may be the person that you resent, you know, two years from now when you decide it's or she decides it's too late and doesn't want children. You know, Susan, I was waiting for your big C word.

They have to talk about it. Communicate. I mean, that's what I would say. You really have to talk about it. Absolutely. That's Sean, I wish you the best. But if you're that much in love with her and she's your person, just keep talking about it. Wait a minute.

Do you not think if he's asking, he said, I don't know if I need to walk away from a relationship. He's obviously thinking about walking away. I know that entered his mind because he wants to be a dad so bad. Well, okay. Let's go on to the next one. Sean, we wish you all the luck. Yeah, we do. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK.

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But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psycho babble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercoms the podcast for you. for you. Open your free iHeartRadio app, search emergency intercom, and listen now. Okay, this one is from Alyssa. She's 31, and she's from San Francisco. Hi, Kathy and Susan. Love you both, and I'm hoping you can give me advice on this. I met my boyfriend last summer while

traveling in Europe. We instantly connected, and it felt unlike any of my past relationships. Since my trip we've been going back and forth visiting each other in our respective cities san francisco and rome i am i know really i mean sounds perfect to me okay i am i am 31 years old and really think this could be my person but we still feel a bit far off from moving for each other because our relationship is still fairly new we talk about it but it still feels like a thing in the future i want to get married and have kids and worry that this could all implode we really love each other and are both doing everything to make it work. But will the distance be the end of us? We have started looking for jobs in each other's cities, but it feels like a long

road and very difficult. Any advice is greatly appreciated. I don't have any friends who have been in this situation, been loving the podcast. I hope it goes on forever. Well, thank you, Alyssa. So do it. Okay, come on, Kelsey. This is right up your alley. What do you think? Go ahead, girl. Yeah. How long had they been together? last summer so you know it sounds like it's coming up a year a year almost a year i don't see it's like it's funny because in normal like situations i'd be like yeah just keep doing a long distance if it's going to work it's going to work i don't think that you need to like rush things but at the same time like i just got engaged and not living together so i'm like you know if that's your

person like you know make the big move if you feel like that's your person you know i think they should decide what they want more, San Francisco or Rome, because they're young, they still have to work, they need careers. So decide what you want to do and who's going to do it. Yeah. But don't give up on it. Yeah, we definitely don't give up on it. Wait, are you, I'm sorry, I'm blanked out at the first second. Are you guys saying, like I would say, one of the pick up and move and I don't care. I mean, personally, I'd go to Rome. Yeah. Yeah. But, but I mean, a year doesn't seem like an unreasonable amount of time for them to make that decision. Does it to anyone else? No, I don't think it's, no. No. I feel like that's a long time.

Girlfriend. Go for it. I love room. And then by the time you actually probably have everything together with a job and like where you're going to move and everything's probably going to be a year and a half. Right. And they are starting to look. So yeah. Keep going, babe. All right. Well, good luck to you. All right. I think we have time for one more. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm 24 and I got married this year in Michigan to my absolute best friend and the man who is always in my corner. It was a small courthouse wedding, but we're planning on doing a big wedding in the near future. He's not a citizen, so we have to work on green card things first and foremost. My friend that I have asked to be my matron of honor was not happy about the wedding and thought I needed to

take more time to make my decision. She tends to think I can't make my own life decisions because I'm human and have made mistakes. Ultimately, she just wants to protect me. Because she was there, she didn't smile the whole time and didn't say a word to my husband. I don't know how to tell her that I didn't appreciate it and that I understand that it was from a place of love, but I don't know how to start the conversation. It made my husband really mad that she did that to us and said he doesn't think she should be at our next wedding if she can't be kind to him or support us. Please help me. podcast and the both of you, and I think you'd be the best equipped to give me this advice. Oh, I know what to do, babe.

Okay. Well, let Kelsey go. Go ahead. Well, I'm like, if she's your best friend, she should be happy for you, right? Like, I mean, if you had your question, if she had said something to you and you were like, you know, no, like I'm going to continue with this wedding and did it. I feel like she should just support you with that. I mean, like, with my girlfriends, I remember we didn't like one of my girlfriends,

boyfriends, an ex that they had. And we told her. And then she was like, well, I'm going to still date them. And then we're like, okay, you can make your own decisions. And that was that. And then we became friends with him. It was cool. But we, like, initially it was like, we didn't really feel that way, told her.

She was like, I don't care. And she can make her own decisions, you know. But I think that your friend should support you and be happy for you, especially on your wedding day, right? And she's afraid to say something to her. So if she's your real friend, then you should say something to her. Well, Susan, I thought of you when she said, I don't know how to start the conversation. I thought of you, Susan, saying, just say it.

Yeah. Get to the point. Come here. You know, I love it. I would like write it out maybe first. You know, think about the point you want to talk about. Or write a letter. You can write a letter. Yeah. That's a good idea. I love that. You can try that. I think the most important thing, though, is you have found your person. Make sure you put him first and foremost in your life. That's the most important thing. Hopefully you'll retain this friendship. But, golly, how lucky are you that you found your person? person, congrats, right? Amen to that. One last question. Do you have advice for Kathy and I?

Oh, I feel like you're so fun. And I mean, you've been putting yourselves out there so much. I just feel like continue to do that. I like, it seemed like such an amazing experience for you ladies that I think that it's like kind of like a new you get a new take on life, right? What would your advice be for your dad? Because that's where I was, I thought that's the question I want to know. What's your advice here at you? You know, you were on. she's saying go for it. Yeah, I'm like, do it all. You know, be yourself and experience it all. Be true to yourself. I feel like that's how I went through. It was just like step by step. I just was very honest about, you know, what I was feeling. I wasn't like, I love Joey the first day because I didn't.

But whenever I did feel those feelings, I said them. But I don't know. I just want him to be open to all the experiences that come with it and be open with his heart. And be true to himself. Be himself. Authentically. Yeah. I agree. You know, I think that's all great advice, but I also think, if we're being honest, you have to remember, there isn't that much time always, right? Yeah. You have to jump in pretty quickly. Yeah. I think you just embrace it all. You know what I mean?

Like, you go through it and you embrace it all, like, every single step and you, like, give it your all. I feel like you talk about all the things that are pressing and that, like, the big things about yourself. Joey and I always talk, like, we literally dated and reverse. You know, we talk about all the big things. And then now we're finding out all the little things. little things, yeah, the important things. Yeah. Wait, I just have to ask one more question.

What was the first big thing you told Joey? I told Joey about all my family and, oh, I told him, I think the biggest thing, one of the first big things I told him was that I really wanted to adopt and that was a non-negotiable for me. So if he wasn't open to that, then I couldn't be here. Oh, interesting. Yeah. So I was like, that's a non-negotiable for me. I just feel it like in my soul that I have to. adopt at least one kid.

Would you have one as well? Yeah, yeah. Okay, but you want to adopt one. Yeah. That's beautiful. I mean, I want like a million kids. Joey only wants like two. He's like, it's easier to travel.

So I'm like, okay. It is. No, no, no, no. Here's the deal. Here's the deal. Stop it to family four. No, no, no. He'll get this.

He will, he's a sports guy. You tell him that it's, you go for three kids. Because when you have two kids, it's a man-to-man defense. When you go to three, it's a zone defense. I'll tell you, go to zone once you have two, you can go to three or four. It's perfect. You'll get your number. I feel like it was harder with three because I had twins after my first, my daughter,

and then I had twin boys. And five is so much more difficult. Not everybody gets to sit next to mommy, one on each side or dad. You know, there was always that. Yeah. There were seven in my crew. Well, that's like beyond. We had seven.

You have seven, you have six siblings, Kelsey? I have five siblings. So like when my mom was around, yeah. Oh, the word seven are you? Yeah. And didn't you love the big family? I love it. Yeah, I love all the bickering, everyone yelling over each other.

You're like Italians down there. Listen up, Joey. While you're drinking your Café Dumond, you're having more than two kids. So one of the things I saw out there on our. Instagram and such I love how you make Joey wear the eye path not make him but he's joining you with the eye gel patches that was so cute he like wants to all the skincare stuff I've been like helping him he's like do I use this because of like my skin's like this like I'm like yeah babe or you can do this and you can try this serum and he's like so into it he loves it I love it and it's a great

career he wants to take care of his skin yes right Tom the biggest thing is using sunscreen right he knows that. Yes, I've been telling him, but he thinks that he's like, he's like, I don't get sunburned. I don't need it. I'm like, that's not even one. Yes, he literally gets sombert so bad. But also it's like you need it because it's going to like, I don't know, it protects your skin. And we'll get wrinkles like this because I never used it until later in life. Well, on that. And us at times, we get a little pink and then it's instantly browned, right? Yeah. Yeah. I'm the same way. I mean, like, he has like his Italian genes. I have my Hispanic genes. So like we're both pretty similar with our tans. But. But. I still need sunscreen. Always. Yes, you do. All right. Well, listen, on that happy note, that does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour.

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