Barbell Shrugged - How to Aggressivley Attack Your Fat Loss Goals - Diesel Dad Episode 16

Episode Date: May 28, 2021

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Welcome to Diesel Dad, episode 15. My name is Anders Varner. In today's episode, we're going to be talking about aggression. Now, so many times aggression is correlated to anger or you taking your aggression out on something. And what I want you to understand by the end of this episode is that aggression is going to be one of the largest assets for you accomplishing your goals.

Now, how do we talk about aggression without talking about anger? Well, we have to start to understand that aggression is an asset in your goals. Now how do we talk about aggression without talking about anger? Well we have to start to understand that aggression is an asset in your life. Now aggression to me and why I wanted to come across this is because I was out at the track the other day and while I was out at the track I was running 100 meter sprints. I ran 8 of them forward, I ran 6 of them backwards and by the end of it I wasn't even in my body anymore. You start to get into this emotional place sometimes when you're training and you're going full speed and you're at your peak expression of intensity.

And what I mean by your peak expression of intensity means that you're not thinking about what you're doing. You're in a flow state in which your feet are moving so fast. Your brain is not focused on every single individual movement. You are just operating at your highest possible capacity. It's the largest expression of freedom, of physical capacity that we have. This idea of physical freedom to not only just be able to move, but to be able to move at peak intensity. And while you're out there doing these things, while your brain is not focused on your body

and your legs are just moving as fast as you possibly can and the vitamin D is beating down on your body and you're out there in nature, you have these primal things that start happening in your body. And if you're lucky and you've been doing this long enough and you're able to take those feelings on those long walks back to the start line,

when all of the endorphins are kicking in your body, you start to realize there's something primal that goes on while you're training and while you're acting with intent and while you're out there working hard. There's an animal instinct that's inside you and it needs to get out. You need to be actively attacking aggression in your life and making it a part of something you do. Now, what this doesn't mean is that you're lashing out at people. You're not overtly aggressive. That is when aggression turns to anger and we don't want to talk about anger.

But what we want to do is practice aggression in a positive way. And what happens to so many people, specifically males, specifically dads, is that for so many years and for so long and in so many different categories of life, that aggression has just been beaten out of us. Society does not want us to be aggressive. Society does not want us to have that primal animal instinct inside us. Society doesn't want us to be able to practice the peak expression of aggression.

It does not want us to be operating at that high of a level. And what it does to us all the time when you're at work is they beat your ideas down. They force you to stay inside the box. They force you to stay inside the box. They force you to not have a personality, to not express yourself, to not be a part of it. And what happens is you start to gain this resentment. You resent your boss, you resent your co-workers, you resent your job, you resent everything that's going

on in that place. But you still have your home life that's great. But guess what? When you get home you have 49% of the vote and everything that goes on. Your wife wants you to go do chores. You want to go, go to the gym. You want to go do your thing, but you have to conform yourself to the standards that the family has set. And that's great because it allows for your family to move forward in a positive way. You also don't have the time. You don't have the energy. And every time you have this little thing boil up inside you and you feel that animal want to come out and you feel it want to come alive, you realize that if you were to act out, it would ruin a lot of things. It would cause fights. It would cause problems at work. You all of a sudden would be stepping

outside of the realm of what everyone else considers normal and you wouldn't be able to express yourself. And if you did express yourself there would be negative ramifications of what you truly feel about life and your job and the people around you and who you're surrounding yourself with. And it's frustrating. And that frustration turns into resentment. And that resentment over, because you can't express yourself, starts to look inward. You start to get beat down. You start to think negatively about yourself. That's when you stop going to the gym.

That's when you start feeling more tired. You feel ashamed of the body that you're walking around in. You start to look in the mirror and say bad things about yourself. You start to have really negative thoughts about the projection and the trajectory of your life. These things start to weigh so heavily on you that no matter what the weight on the scale says, the thing that is the heaviest is the monkey on your back. And the fact that you aren't allowed to get out and start to express yourself, you are not capable of finding a way to take that animal instinct that's inside you and go express

it in a physical way to get all of the stress and all of the anxiety and all of the emotion out. And every time you try to break free and every time you try to go do something, you hit a wall, you hit society, you hit this box that the world wants you to live in. Everybody's squishing you to the middle, telling you to stay in this little tiny box so that everything fits in the perfect square. When I talk to dads, I see it in their face. I can see that they've been getting beat down. I can see that everything around them doesn't bring light to their life. It doesn't allow them to express themselves

and be the person that they want to be. And unfortunately, the person that they want to be is a strong, lean, athletic, savage. They wanna be somebody that means something. They wanna be the man that they want to be. And it's super important for them to go out and have a place to express that. But because they get beat down in so many different places,

they don't understand how to do it. They don't have the ability to practice that expression. And what we do and what we want to start to get people aware of in their fat loss journey is that that person is inside them. Do I want you to go out and be angry and telling the world how you feel and flipping them off? No, because that's immature. That is not the mature way to understand how we use aggression in a positive way. The way

that we use aggression positively is by understanding that we have to have that release. Sure the world is gonna shove you into the middle, shove you in a box, but what's super important is that we also understand that outside that box is where freedom exists. Outside that box is where physical expression exists, peak intensity. It also expressed on the calmness side of life. It also is us waking up early, journaling, understanding the slow side, understanding mindfulness and meditation. We understand that we can create this huge environment of calm, safety. And at the same time, we're allowed to create a space in which we're able to go and practice our peak expression of intensity, to go find out how strong we can be,

to go find out how fast we can be, to go find out how you actually manifest the goals and become the person that you want to be. The world is going to shove you in the box. There's no doubt about it. Nobody is out here trying to watch you go and be your best self. They don't care about that. Your job wants you to fit into the corporate culture. Your job wants you to fit into the middle. There's a job description that literally says this is what you do and anything outside of this is not appreciated. But when you get the time and you have the space,

we teach you how to create the extremes on that so you can find what it means to have this peak expression of physical capacity, what it means to play at the higher levels of intensity so you understand what aggression feels like. We talk about how you need to slow down, to have a mindfulness, and none of those two things fit in the middle.

I will let the rest of the world understand how they shove you in the middle, and I want you to understand what happens on the outside of that box. I want you playing understand what happens on the outside of that box. I want you playing outside that box. I want you playing where there's a capacity for physical freedom. I want you to know what your peak expression of intensity is. I want you to understand what it feels like to sit still and watch your brain and to truly have deep thoughts and emotions about the people you care

about. What I want the most is for you to understand that aggression does not equal anger, but what aggression equals to me is confidence. No matter what happens, no matter what box the world is about to shove you into, you are the person that you want to be. You understand the vision of where you're going and no matter what size box the world tries to shove you into, you refuse to conform to their ideals. You understand that, sure, I'll play in this box right now, but if you give me 20 minutes, I'm going to stand up for myself and I'm going to go train. If you give me 10 minutes, I'm going to stand up for myself and I'm going to go train. If you give me 10 minutes, I'm going to stand up for myself and I'm going to go meditate. I'm going to go think deeply about the relationships that I carry in my life

and what's important to me and the trajectory of my life. I want you to understand that the world is going to shove you in that box. And my goal is to bring out the animal that lives inside you. Because as soon as you start to understand how aggression plays a part in achieving your final goals, fat loss gets easy because we start to create scenarios in which you have the ability with the little time and energy that you have to go do something extremely positive for yourself. On the other side, you can wake up 20 minutes early. When that alarm goes off, you don't dread it anymore. When the alarm goes off, you look at it as an opportunity to go journal.

You look at it as an opportunity to go find some quiet space before your family wakes up, before work starts, time that you own and no one can touch it because you're willing to do more and work harder than everyone else around you. And it would be too costly for them to actually get up and interrupt your day. That is what I'm talking about when I talk about aggression. I want you aggressively attacking your goals. When it comes to fat loss, you are going to be bombarded with countless,

countless things that are trying to disrupt the positive path, the positive trajectory that you are on in your life. And your job is to aggressively fight them off. You develop a sense of values, a core set of values that matter to you, a standard of which you live by. And you uphold those standards.

You hold those standards so that no matter what happens, no matter who is around you, you don't cave. You don't dip your life below the standard. You don't fall into the box that society wants you to live in. What you do is you hold firm and you aggressively defend the ideals and the standards and the values that you believe to be true. And you also know that your trajectory may be different than everyone else's around you. And they can live their life and that's fine. And they may try to shove you in the box.

And there may be ways that you can't escape that box. But let them give you 20 minutes and see what happens. Because when you get that 20 minutes, when you get that 30 minutes, what are you going to do with it? You're going to go train. You're going to go work on your mind. You're going to go work on your body. You're going to ensure that your food is fueling you for fat loss. You're going to ensure that your metabolism is optimized. You're going to make sure that you're out walking, that you're out in the vitamin D, getting sunshine. There's no more hiding.

There's no more hiding in the box. My job in helping you lose 20 to 40 pounds and build a strong, lean and athletic body without sacrificing family, fatherhood or fitness. My job is to get you out of the box so you can fully express the savage that you are, the savage that lives inside you. All of us have it. That's the reason when I go out to the track. That's the reason when my feet are flying. I feel like I can't be touched.

I'm out there by myself, shirt off, vitamin D, the sun beating down on me. I'm going at 100 miles an hour in my brain. I'm the fastest person in the world. And inside, you start to feel like you're a total monster. And it almost brings you to tears to think about how fortunate you are to be able to understand what this peak expression of physical freedom is. Because nobody can touch that time. It would be too painful. It would be too powerful for them to have to get up and get moving to actually play at your speed of life. That's why they shove you in the box because they

can't play at your speed of life. That's my job. My job is to make sure that you believe that in yourself. Aggression is not a bad thing. Aggression does not lead to anger. Aggression is a tool that allows you to create a standard, a set of core values that you can live by, that you've defined on your own standards. And no matter how many times people try to shove you in the box, you stand still. You let the chaos swarm around you and you don't get pulled into it. And that's how we reach our goals faster. We understand how to use aggression in that built in animal that lives inside us. We start to learn how to use aggression as a weapon for us getting to our goals faster.

It's extremely important for you to understand that aggression is a tool to get you closer to where you want to be faster. If you want to lose 20 to 40 pounds and you want to talk about how we can use these primal instincts that are inside us to fuel your fat loss goals. So you stop getting beat down all the time. So you stop feeling like you have to cave to everyone else's desires.

So you stop getting shoved into the box every single day. So you stop having to conform to all of society's mediocrity. I'm here to help you do that. That's my job. And I know that if you're carrying an extra 20 to 40 pounds around right now, you've caved too many times. You've let the world beat you down. You felt the resentment for all the people around you. And then you turned and looked in the mirror and you started to resent yourself. You started making bad decisions. You started making decisions that you knew were not good for you and you didn't care. You stopped caring and it's time to start paying attention to the animal inside you. My name is Anders Varner. This is Diesel Dad episode 15. Get into the show notes

right now. There's a Facebook group to get in there. And if you're ready to take the next step and you are a busy dad that's looking to lose 20 to 40 pounds without restrictive diets, crazy supplements, and spending countless hours in the gym, you can schedule a call with me. Get into the show notes, Diesel Dad, episode 15. We'll see you guys next week.