Barbell Shrugged - The Foundation of Fat Loss for Busy Dads - Diesel Dad Episode 12

Episode Date: May 14, 2021

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Welcome to episode 11 of The Diesel Dad. My name is Anders Varner and today we're going to be talking about pillar one of five in the Metabolic Master Course. The Diesel Dad Mentorship in which you are going to walk through the five stages to reach your fat loss goals. We're aiming this mentorship plan at people that need to lose between 20 and 40 pounds because we are here in the business of transformation. We want you to fully understand what it means to build a strong, lean, and athletic body without sacrificing family, fatherhood, or fitness. And along the way, we need to build a body and a mind that you are proud of.

We want you walking in the room with your shoulders back, your chest up. We want you to be proud of the way you look, the way you feel. But before we get into all five pillars, let's lay them out. Number one is going to be the mindset of fat loss. Number two, our metabolism, how we process the energy that's coming into our body and use it as it goes out. On top of that, we want to talk about nutrition, right? Macronutrients. We're going to talk about muscle. And then the very final piece is the sustainability in which we call it metabolic mastery. This is the piece that allows you to take the lessons that you've learned in our mentorship program and use them for the rest of the life. So you don't need a coach

like me telling what you need to do for the rest of your life. You have control over the way you look, the way you feel, and how you feel about the way you look and feel. These are meta feelings. They're so amazing, right? How do you feel about how you feel? Look, the very first one, we need to understand the mindset of fat loss.

And inside the mindset, we're talking about two main environments. The environment internal to us and the environment external to us. Now our internal environment is going to be comprised of two main things. There's going to be our mind and there's going to be our body.

Now our mind is going to be a much more subjective piece. When we start to think about the mind, we're talking a lot about the feelings and emotions that go into our body or the way that we present ourselves and where your life is currently at. It's a lot about the thoughts and emotions that go into your confidence. Now, if you're just starting this process,

it can be very daunting to understand how you feel about fat loss. Because everybody knows that they want to lose body fat. Everybody knows that they want to lose weight. But what they don't understand is that these environments play a massive role in the long-term sustainability and effectiveness of a fat loss training program.

This is why we created the Diesel Dad, because we want to really be assessing where you're at. These are the facts. This is an honest assessment of where you're at today and being as objective as we can as possible and moving you in the direction as you lose this weight, as you build this strong, lean, and athletic body, as you go through this process and become the Diesel Dad, which is this archetype of the perfect person that we would like to achieve over the course

of the mentorship. Going back to the beginning and understanding the subjective piece about how we feel, the mental, the brain, the mind, how those pieces play into the greater scope of our lives and where we are at today. And then there's the objective piece, which is our body. When we talk about the mind, we want to be thinking a lot about the subjective nature of how we feel. Are you happy? Are you depressed? Is your life filled with gratitude? Are you happy with the people that you're around? What is the overall thoughts and feelings that you have about your current state and being honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself is really tricky because nobody really wants to face the vulnerabilities

of all the decision making that they have had throughout their entire life, stacked on top of each other, leading to this day of reckoning in which you have decided, I need to change. And that's a great day because you get to look in the mirror and have this honest assessment of where you're at and where you want to go. The facts are that all of the decisions, thoughts,

feelings, emotions that you have made throughout your entire life have gotten you to the exact point that you are today. And that's the past. And today you're drawing a hard line in the sand, taking personal responsibility and saying, I'm no longer doing that. This is no longer who I am and I'm moving forward and I'm going to adopt the systems and strategies and habits of the Diesel Dad, this archetype of person that I would like to become. And the first step being the subjective piece in the mind. How do we feel about the person you are today? And then drawing a path to the person that we would like to be in the future and how that person feels, the emotions, the feelings, the pride that that person has, and starting to build a conversation with who you are today and moving it in the steps we need to take to get you to who you will be in six months.

On top of that, we need to have the objective pieces. We need to have actual numbers. Now, these are a lot easier because when we start to talk about the body, we have a scale, we have blood work, we have the ability to understand body fat. These are very objective numbers. In the same way that you can't put a number on the brain

and thoughts and feelings and emotions, you can do that when it comes to the body. You can take before and after pictures. You could step on the scale and say, I'd like to lose 40 pounds. If we're going from 250 to 210 in six months, well, here's the direct line and these are the things that I need to do

because when I get to the Diesel Dad status, my internal world is going to be filled with the mind and the body. And in the mind, we're going to be strong, lean, athletic. We're going to carry ourselves with pride and confidence. The body, we're going to lose the weight that we don't want. And we're going to have a body fat that we're proud of. And all of our biometric data, all of our blood work, everything is going to be healthy these are the internal environments that we get to create through the diesel dad mentorship program and why mindset is pillar number one now when we start to talk about the external factors that go into this

we want to talk about people that we don't necessarily have control of yet play a critical role in our success. When we talk about our significant relationship for most of you, that is going to be your spouse. Now, when we talk about our spouse, we want to talk about some of the feelings and emotions and fulfillment and gratitude that go into that relationship. Gratitude is a huge one. It's really easy when we're down on ourselves to to project that on to other people. It's very easy for us to

resent the other people in our lives. And in this section where we talk about significant relationship, it's critical for us to have a real conversation about how we feel about the most significant relationship in our lives we want to have strong healthy relationships and likely if your life is out of alignment and you are overweight and you have been overweight for a long time there's a good chance that you have developed resentment there's a good chance that you have developed resentment. There's a good chance that you no longer feel those loving feelings anymore for the people around you. You start to blame them for the things

that are going on in your life because today is the first day that you have taken personal responsibility and objectively viewed those relationships. These are the things that we start to unravel throughout the entire mentorship program in which you are now moving into a place of gratitude you're moving into a place of personal responsibility you're moving into feelings and emotions like love and what you are proud of the most significant

relationship with your spouse that you can have it creates happy households it creates healthy relationships healthy communication but we have to start at the very beginning and find out where you're at. We also want to talk about family and friendship. Family and friends are important. This includes all of your kids. This includes all of your friends and really looking around. You know, I used to own a gym and people would come up to me and say, I want to lose weight. What is the easiest thing that I can do to lose weight? And I would always

stumble because I wanted to tell them about protein and fats and carbs and calories in and calories out and give them a diet and write the perfect thing for them. And that's an easy thing because that takes the onus off of the person objectively viewing the environment that they live in, the people that they surround themselves with. But your family and friends are the true closest five people to you in which you have to objectively assess, are these people healthy for you? Because if I had been completely honest with everybody that walked up to me when I owned my gym, hundreds of people coming in a day, at least 10 questions a day on fat loss. If I was to be completely honest with them, I would tell them all to fire their friends. And that's a really

blunt way and probably not the best thing to do and i didn't do it that often but many times i wanted to look at people and just say go home look at your friends are your friends overweight if they're overweight there's a good chance you're overweight if your friends are extremely athletic you're probably athletic and And if on a Friday night your idea and if on a Friday night your idea of fun is to go to happy hour, eat a big dinner out, and then continue having drinks throughout the night, there's a good chance that you're unhappy with your family and friends because they're leading you to a path that does not make you. If you wake up on a Sunday morning

and the very first thing you think about is having pancakes and bacon and biscuits and gravy and a giant breakfast, or maybe you're going to an all-you-can-eat buffet and now you're having mimosas on a Sunday, there's a really good chance that you're actually unhappy no matter how much fun you're having in that moment because the people in the environment that you're surrounding yourself with are not aligned with the goals that you have. And it's time to actively assess

and objectively assess the people in close relationships that you have in your life. The last thing that we want to think about when we start to talk about our external environment is the impact that we're having in these people's lives. The easiest place for us to understand our impact is going to be with our kids. Are your kids living a life that you're proud of? God, that sucks to even ask that question on a video.

Like it hurts me, it pains me inside that somebody could answer that question in a way that they're not proud of. Like it hurts, that sucks. The fact that you could ask somebody that question and they go, no, I'm not proud of the way that my kids live their life. Well, if that is the answer it's your fault you're creating a structure you're

creating a household filled with unhealthy habits that are leading everyone in your household down a path of sickness they don't understand metabolic health they don't understand what it means to be fat they don't understand fitness they don't understand nutrition they don't understand the mindset that you're developing slowly, day in, day out, with every single meal that goes on in your household. So if we're going to be assessing, objectively assessing where you are today and how we can build the Diesel Dad, this archetype perfect person that we would like to grow into, that has the thoughts and feelings and emotions and actions and systems and structures and habits that allow success to live a strong,

lean, and athletic body without sacrificing your family, fatherhood, or fitness, we have to start with the facts, where you are today. Pillar one is all about the mindset, the internal environment, your brain and your body, the external environment, the people around you, the impact you have on the world, your family and friends, your significant relationship. Those five things are going to guide the conversation because nutrition's easy once we understand where we're falling short. Muscle, working out, all of those things are easy once we start surrounding ourselves with the right people, looking for healthier people to surround ourselves with,

building an active lifestyle inside your family so that fitness is just something that happens. It's a part of life. And on top of that, being able to make and create sustainable habits to get you to the place that you want to go is easy, but we have to start at level one. We have to start with the facts. We have to start with where you are today. And that starts with the mindset, the internal environment, the external environment, the mind, the body, the significant relationships, the friends and family,

and your impact on all of those so that we can start having a real conversation about where you're at, where you're going, what it looks like, what it feels like, the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are going to create your version of the Diesel Dad. My name is Anders Varner, and in the show notes right now is a free Facebook group where hundreds of dads are sharing their story about becoming strong, lean, and athletic without sacrificing family, fatherhood, or fitness. The Diesel Dad Mentorship Program is going live. Applications are coming out. It's going to be incredible. We're taking on 15 people in the first round of the Diesel Dad Mentorship. We're insanely excited about this. This has been five months of building to this moment to be able to bring on a super tight-knit group of dads that

want to lose between 20 and 40 pounds. We're going to give you a six-month window of one-on-one personal coaching so that you can achieve your goals and if you don't achieve them and you're putting in the work, I'll even coach you for free. So make sure you get down into the Facebook group right now. We are bringing members into the Facebook group. We will be connecting with you, asking questions and even if you don't want to be a part of it, be a part of the fact that there's hundreds of dads living a strong, lean, and athletic life without sacrificing family, fatherhood, or fitness. It's a message that we can all get behind.

We're building strong dads, raising strong families, raising strong kids, because that's what the Diesel Dad's all about. Friends, we'll see you guys next week. Make sure you click the link in the description right now. Come join us in the free Facebook group. I'm Anders Varner. This is Diesel Dad, episode 11. We'll see you guys next week.