Barbell Shrugged - What Should I Do With My Life? Let Me Tell You A Story…— Real Chalk #102

Episode Date: November 19, 2019

We all go through times where we question what we are supposed to be doing with our lives. Sometimes the answer has been around for as long as we can remember. We just try to please others and ourselves at the same time. Think way back about what you first wanted to do... Think about how that one idea shaped the rest of your life... And now think about what you do right now... What’s changed? Are you happy?    Regardless of all that, I’m going to tell you some very personal stories that helped me along my path. Some of the details will honestly blow you away, maybe even make you cry, but it sure as hell is going to motivate you.    Let’s go!  ------------------------------------------------------------------ Show notes: http://www.shruggedcollective.com/rc-ep102 ------------------------------------------------------------------ ► Subscribe to Shrugged Collective's Channel Here http://bit.ly/BarbellShruggedSubscribe 📲 🎧 Listen to the audio version on the Apple Podcast App or Stitcher for Android Here- http://bit.ly/BarbellShruggedApple http://bit.ly/BarbellShruggedStitcher Shrugged Collective is a network of fitness, health and performance shows that help people achieve their physical and mental health goals.  Usually in the gym, but outside as well. In 2012 they posted their first Barbell Shrugged podcast and have been putting out weekly free videos and podcasts ever since. Along the way we've created successful online coaching programs including The Shrugged Strength Challenge, The Muscle Gain Challenge, FLIGHT, Barbell Shredded, and Barbell Bikini. We're also dedicated to helping affiliate gym owners grow their businesses and better serve their members by providing owners tools and resources like the Barbell Business Podcast. Find Shrugged Collective and their flagship show Barbell Shrugged here: SUBSCRIBE ON ITUNES ► http://bit.ly/ShruggedCollectiveiTunes WEBSITE ► https://www.ShruggedCollective.com INSTAGRAM ► https://instagram.com/shruggedcollective FACEBOOK ► https://facebook.com/ barbellshruggedpodcast TWITTER ► http://twitter.com/barbellshrugged

Ladies and gentlemen, have you ever thought to yourself, what the fuck should I do with my life? Think about it. I think we all have. I mean, it's something that I think that we think about all the time. And it doesn't matter if you're 25, 35, maybe even 45, maybe even 55. I don't know. It's just like it's one of those things where it's just a constant.

It's just like it's always there. It's just, it can be so stressful, right? So I really wanted this episode to be about finding what it is that you should do with the rest of your life. I mean, it's such a gnarly thing to say. But, I mean, people get so stressed out about finding a significant other out there that it's like, I feel like it's a little bit more stressful to figure out, you know, what you're going to do with your life. And I think it's more important, obviously, to be happy for yourself before you can be happy with somebody else. I don't want to, like, get too, like, you know, fucking marriage counselor here.

But at the same time, you know, I feel like it took me a long time to figure out exactly what I wanted to do. However, during that entire time that I was trying to figure out what I was supposed to do with myself and with my life, I was actually kind of doing it the whole time. So I really want to dig into this. I'm really excited to talk about it. I think it's just going to smash, resonating with so many people out there, and it's going to fucking fire you up. So before we get into this thing, I'm going to talk about our sponsor, Organifi. And Organifi, they're out there just making micronutrients so easy for us. I mean, you don't have to go out and chop a tree down and just put it all down into a bag

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more job security. This would make your mom proud or your grandma proud or, you know, where you live isn't really conducive to this lifestyle or that lifestyle or, you know, who do you think you are type of thing or something like that, right? I mean, all of a sudden, you have this idea of what you really want to do, and it starts to get sidetracked by other people's opinions. And it's like the same with social media right now. You have this vision of yourself and what you want to be, and you try to expose it, and maybe your followers aren't ready for it yet. It's not that they're not liking it because they don't personally like it.

It's just weird for them. It's like a peanut butter and jelly sandwich with a fucking piece of pineapple in it. It's like all of a sudden it's like, whoa, what happened here? Like, I don't, I mean, I've, I've known Ryan for a while and now he's all into this fitness stuff and it's weird. And, you know, and they're not going to like it right away because they just don't understand it. God, I love that analogy with the pineapple. Anyway, what I think is really, really important here is a story that I want to bring up. And if you guys are listening right now, like turn the volume up and get a little, get a little into this one because this one means a lot to me and it's really, really important. And I've only shared this a few times and I don't know if I've ever shared it on the podcast publicly,

but a lot of you guys do know that I'd never met my father until I was 24 years old. I never saw this guy until I was 24. I thought that my dad was somebody else for most of my life. And when I was 18, my sister told me who my dad was. And it was a crazy moment for me. I had no idea, you know, how to go about it, how to take on the situation, how to go on with life after that. You know, I mean, it wasn't like I was sad and I wanted to die or anything like that. It was just like, holy shit, you know, like my, you know, I'm 18 at the time. And I'm just like, wow, I just found out who my dad was. And, you know, like, who am I? Like, what am I here for? What am I supposed to be doing? Like, I started thinking about my brothers and my sisters and their dads. And we all had we all had different

dads growing up just for the record. And I grew up in a house with five brothers and sisters. And then after meeting my dad, I have four more sisters. So I just have a huge family. But I'm sitting there and I'm 18 and I'm just like, I'm really, there's a couple things that are happening. First is, holy shit, this is crazy. This is not real life. I felt like I was on Jerry Springer.

Two, you know, who is my dad? What is he into? What is he handed down to me genetically? And three, I got to fucking meet this guy. I got to figure out so many things. So here's what's going on. I start to play in my head, you know, like everything from 18 and backwards and starting to realize that I had felt lost in my household growing up for most of my childhood. Like, I've only talked about this with a couple of girlfriends, so they understand like my relationship with family and this and that, because it's not the greatest. But, and I swear, this is all going to tie into what you should do with your life. But I used to think, like, man, I'm literally in the wrong family.

Like, there's something wrong with me. I don't like the same things my brothers like. I don't like the same things my sisters like. I don't want to do all the things that people want me to do. I just felt very, very different. I didn't know exactly what it was, but I knew something was off. My brother, who I thought we shared the same dad, he would always go visit him and I was never going with him, which kind of felt weird.

And then like, as I grew up, I got really into sports and I got my first bicycle and I started, I started BMX racing. For those of you who don't know, BMX racing was my entire childhood. I went all over the world, all over the country. I was in all these magazines. And I mean, man, I was really, really good. And it was kind of my escape at the time. I wanted to get out of the house.

I didn't really like the way I felt in the house with my brothers and sisters because we didn't really – I mean I loved my sisters growing up. My brothers were on and off cool. But I never had that feeling that I was in the right place. My mom is fucking the shit, by the way. And if she's listening to this, mom, I'm not saying anything bad about you. You are fucking the greatest thing in the world. And thankfully for her, she always told me I could do whatever I wanted to do whenever I wanted to do it. And she believed in me for everything. So like, there's nothing negative to say about my mom. She's

fucking insane. But as far as like my feel, if I was a puzzle piece in my house, like I just, I didn't have a spot. I didn't like the way it felt. And when I found out who my dad was and I found out everything about him, we literally shared the same childhood. We were both into bikes and he was a little bit more into dirt bikes. He was athletic like me. We wound up both owning our own businesses. He was a business owner at a young age and built it up and made this crazy, crazy business that he has right now. I won't talk

details on it, but it's very successful. He makes millions of dollars. And we just literally almost had the exact same childhood, and I had never met him. Never. I grew up in a house with five other brothers and sisters. We were totally different. My mom gave us all the same amount of love, gave us all the same dinner, the same lifestyle. We decided what we wanted to do with our free time. And I wound up being me and my brothers wound up being them. My sisters wound up being them. And when I was 18 and I was trying to figure out what the hell was going on, I find out who my dad is and I literally grew up exactly like him. And now fast forward a little bit to 24 and I actually meet him, talk to him, see what

he's doing. And it was crazy after we met and then broke off, we had kept in touch for about probably a year or two, constantly talking to each other. And he started CrossFit. He never told me, but I saw it all over his – he's on Facebook. And he would, you know, be doing all the CrossFit open workouts. He wound up being a great athlete and qualifying for all sorts of stuff as a master's athlete. I'm not going to say his name, but yeah, he did really, really well. Then he did an Ironman and he's doing all these different things. And it's crazy because he never even told me those things. And I haven't told him so many

things about me, but literally we're cut from the same cloth and we're off to the sides just doing our own thing. And it happens to be the same thing. So now let's talk about what you want to do with your life and what you think you should be doing. I knew what I wanted to do when I was a little kid. I knew I wanted to own a business. I wanted to be an athlete. I mean, my mom can attest to this at any time. These were things that I always wanted, and they were so much different than everybody else in my family and I didn't care. And there was something about it inside of me that I knew was right. And that little dad story for me is very important because it just verified that all of these feelings I had were real. And it was the universe telling me this is what I was supposed to do. And whether I met my dad or not, I was still going to do it.

It didn't really matter. But there was that one time, a lot of you guys understand, when I became homeless, trying to keep living the CrossFit lifestyle. Before I owned a gym, before I owned all these different companies and such, I used to work out at this gym. And, you know, I coached at another gym and I lost everything just to fast forward everything. And I was sleeping on some couches from people I didn't even know. And during that time, like trying to stay in the sport and trying to grind away, I thought very seriously about going back to school to be a nurse or to be a physician assistant.

I thought about going back into the military. I mean, not going back. I wanted to go into the military for a while. But I wanted to go in at the time. My mom didn't want me to go. She wanted me to go back to school. And a lot of this was just so overwhelming to me. It was just fucking crazy, you know?

I was like, what am I going to do? Like, fuck, you know? Like, I just want this so bad. And I stuck it out for months and months and months, probably like six months to a year, like in, in such a deficit where like nothing made sense, like nothing made sense. It was just like, if I didn't come out of this the way that it came out now, like I would have fucking nothing. Like I was all in, like in the deepest way anybody could ever be all in. And the biggest thing was, you know, during that time, even though I didn't have anything, I still felt that fucking thing in my gut. And it just kept telling me not to give up.

And it just kept telling me that eventually, you know, the light was going to be at the end of the tunnel. Like the same thing with my dad, like from 18 to 24, I was trying to meet him and I never got to meet him, you know, and then I got to meet him when I was 24. And it was all part of the plan, you know, whatever, you know, I'm not a religious guy. I can just say that right now. But like, whatever that plan is, like whatever the universe has for us, and I don't know, there's some sort of energy out there. And I feel like eventually we're, we're, we're meant to meet that energy, whatever that is. Um, I have no idea of how to explain what, how, what I feel on that, but I know that. And I knew that in that moment, eventually it was

going to work out and everything fucking sucked. And it was so, so bad. And I was eating shit sandwiches every fucking day. So what I really want you guys to understand during this is right now you're probably, you might be a little bit lost, right? Maybe you're doing something that's making you great money, but it's not what you love. Maybe you're in between a whole bunch of different things. You don't know which one to pick. Maybe you're between a whole bunch of things and you want to pick the one that makes the most money.

Maybe it's, you know, one of those. I promise you right now that if you pick the one that you know is going to make you the happiest, you'll figure out how to make money with it. Like 100%. You just will. I mean, everybody always told me that. Like, you know, just do what you love and the money will come. 1,000% accurate.

I can't even... Fuck, it's so, so accurate. Things happen, you know? Like social media wasn't even a thing before I started all this. Like, you know, I didn't know I'd be able to monetize off of social media I didn't know that I would start doing you know programming for all over the world and and challenges all over the world and then writing my own books that I could sell over the world I remember thinking that writing a book was the hardest thing in the world like how do you get a book you do you have to get in like the New York

Times magazine and you, fucking save a bunch of orphans off a cliff, like with one arm, like, I don't fucking know how you get, how you like get to the point where you get to write a book and someone writes it for you and all this stuff. But now, with social media and the internet and everything, like everything is so much easier, it's streamlined, and anyone can write a book now. Anybody can make a program, anybody can make a post, you know, anybody can do all sorts of different things. So what I'll say is, sorry, there's so many people right now who are unhappy with their jobs. And it really makes me sad, you know, like the money thing really is, it's, it's not what you think it is. It's, you know, you start making the money and then you start maybe buying more expensive

things and it all kind of evens out. Or you start making the money and you buy things that you've always wanted and it doesn't feel the same. And you're never going to understand this until you make the money and you buy all that shit. But there's a lot of people right now that go to my gym. I live in Orange County, California, and, you know and some of the richest people in the world live here. I mean the median household income around my gym is like almost $2 million for like a median house.

I mean people make some serious cash here, and a lot of them are unhappy. Like their best hour of their day is coming in that gym and getting it in and getting out. And then they go home and they have a very regular life, a very regular meal and a very regular night's sleep and wake up with their nine to five and this and that. And they're just like, fuck, I hate it. Ryan, like you have the coolest job in the world. Like blah, blah, blah, blah. You know, I'm so jealous of this or that.

And it's really, you know, if you're a successful lawyer or you're a successful this or that or a doctor, like I'm sure that you have the initiative and, you know, the will to be great at anything. And there's a lot of us who are really good at something who definitely have the ability to be great at anything. But sometimes a lot of people don't want to take the risk. And I don't really think there's a lot of risk nowadays like there used to be. Like you can double down on social media or, you know, some other platform and it's not going to cost you all that much.

It's not even like opening a business, for instance. Like if I opened my gym and it cost me a couple hundred grand, which it did, and that failed, I'm out a couple hundred grand. Like I've never spent a couple hundred grand on social media ads or, you know, making my Instagram page, which was free, or making my Facebook, which was free, or making a TikTok account, which was free, or a Twitter account, which was free. Like, I mean, come on. I've said this a million times, too, and it's just like, you know, you're going to a casino, and it's like someone says you're going to eventually hit the jackpot if you just keep pulling all the handles, and you're like, you know what, fuck it, I'm not even going to try. There's no point for that. I do think it is important though, however, if you're in a job currently, you don't love it and you do want to switch and you're listening to this and you're like, fuck, that's a great story. And you know, it's inspiring me right now to really think about what I want to do. Don't quit your job. All right.

I really, I really want to emphasize that because when I went homeless, it was because I hated my job and I said, fuck this, fuck you, I'm out type of deal. Like literally, it was that bad. I told this chick, go fuck herself. And I hated the job. I was managing a CrossFit gym at the time and I thought I was going to be able to get a job anywhere, no big deal. And I couldn't. And that's why I went homeless because I ran through all my money and I thought that I was unstoppable and I wasn't. So I mean, I think for you, not for you, I mean, if I'm speaking to you right now, then yeah, you right now. Make sure that before you do anything drastic, before you start going back to school or you start marketing yourself somewhere else,

or you start another job with a friend or a startup or whatever, something that you think is going to make you happy, make sure that you have all your ducks in a row. Make sure you're ready for that commitment, whether it's saving six months of your money up front to make sure that if you didn't make any money for six months, you'd be fine. Six months is enough time for you to get your shit together on a whole new venture. But you have to have that money on standby in case you're not making anything, right? Zero. That's like very, very important. And let's just say you want to quit your job. Make sure you have another job lined up if that's something that you need. You don't have six months signed up. I mean, saved up. You have, you know, you just want to get out of that job, start another job and then

start working on some other job or whatever it is. If you don't have the money, make sure you have another job on standby. Don't just quit and be like, yeah, fuck this. I'm out. You know, I've been thinking about this forever. And you just want that feeling of like feeling good. And then all of a sudden that great feeling of letting go of something that you've hated all of a sudden is superseded by the fact that you weren't prepared for it. That's a big thing to think about. All right. So definitely, definitely think about that. Also, when it comes to like, you know, what you want to do with the rest of your life, always make sure that whatever it is that you want to do, and I'm hoping that you guys are, you know, listening to this because you're in the fitness realm, right? Like I'm a gym.

I own a gym. I own a bunch of social media companies. I own nutrition challenges and workout books and all sorts of stuff. So I'm speaking on what I know best on, which is fitness. But let's just say that you want to go into something that might not potentially have like a long-term plan. You know what I mean? Make sure that you can turn it into a long-term plan. Like that's very, very important is if you love what you do, but it's short-term and I'm going to consider owning a CrossFit gym short-term, you know, like let's go ahead and put that into that category. Like if you own a CrossFit

gym, that's short-term. If you own an Orange Theory gym, it's probably short-term. If you own something with a name on it that's hot right now, it's probably short-term. Social media could potentially be short-term. We don't know. But ways you can make them long-term, right? So for me, I'll use myself as an example. I do quite a bit of sales with my own Instagram, my own Facebook, my gym, my gym's Facebook, Instagram, all this stuff.

And it all kind of, you know, circulates back to me. The Chalk Online program, CrossFit, sweat programs, the interval bodybuilding stuff, the challenges, all of it is Ryan Fisher, right? What if all of a sudden Ryan Fisher breaks his arm like I just did? It just happened to me. I'm talking to you right now with a cast on. So you want to make sure that when that happens, that it doesn't fuck you up, right? Like financially, like can you still do what you're supposed to be doing? And then take it one step further. Let's say all of a sudden Ryan Fisher

doesn't have abs anymore. He's maybe not in the fitness space anymore for some reason. I mean, I shouldn't say that. Let's just say I don't have abs anymore and I can't work out anymore because I get super hurt and the doctor's like, you're never going to work out ever again. Now it's very important for me to be able to create my brand in such a way where I'm not the main figure of the business. Or maybe I help other people with their businesses so that I'm making a percentage of what I'm doing for them or I'm getting a consulting fee for what I'm doing for them. And that's something that I can do behind the scenes that nobody really knows about. And I'm actually doing that right now for quite a few people that a lot of people don't know about. So in that aspect, no matter what right now, whether, you know, I'm

cool at the moment or not, I'm set, you know, like that's something that has been very important to me along this entire process was when I didn't have anything and I built myself up and I started the gym and I was a cool athlete in the limelight, and I started selling programs, and chalk took off, and all these different things. It was really cool, and I was really excited about it. And a lot of people who were close friends of mine who cared about me, they were like, you know, just be careful because a lot of this stuff could be temporary. And I never let that lose sight. And I never let that little whisper in my ear go away. And having that past of being homeless and not having anything and

having to steal food and like, man, just having such a low. I remember to myself always like, that will never happen to me again. No matter what, I'm going to make sure that I have something that I can work on no matter what. So I just put, you know, fail-proof windows up on everything. You know, like if this goes wrong, I have this. If this goes wrong, I have this. If this goes wrong, I can shift to this or I can shift to that. And these are very, very important things. And I think it's important for you guys right now to focus on what it is that you want to do. Start getting these little bulletproof pieces of glass to just surround everything just in case shit happens. Make sure you guys have money saved up so you can do some cool shit. The biggest thing is, you know, when I say cool shit, like, you know, switch to a different career that makes you happy. But I say this thing about the six months and I'm like, Hey, make sure you have at least six

months of money saved up. And everybody's like, well, how the fuck is that possible? Like, how did you save up six months of money before you did anything? Or how did you do this? Or how did you do that? And it's like, dude, six months of life saved up. Like, How do you not think that's appropriate? I don't care how young you are right now. I'm sure you think that's a crazy number, and I'm sure that you go out to the bars with your friends, and I'm sure that you're buying $5 lattes all the time, and I'm sure that you're buying food out with your friends, like a $15 fucking Chipotle bowl, when you could have just went home, made a crock pot for the week for like $10 and you could have been eating that all week. Yeah, it's not sexy. It's not

fucking, you know, the coolest thing to do or whatever, but you're going to save a shit ton of money. There's so many easy ways to save money. And like now that I'm making more money, I don't give a fuck about the $5 cup of coffee. I'll go out and I'll get it because I like the experience of it. But I'm at the point now because I'm at the point now where I don't care about those things. But when I needed to save money, fuck, I didn't go out. I didn't go out and get coffees. I didn't go out and eat with my friends. If I did, I would fucking sit there and not order anything. And I'd straight up tell them I'm fucking poor. Just suck it up. Nobody cares. If you have a goal, just suck it up, nobody cares, you know, like, if you have a goal,

I think it's more impressive to sit there at the table, and they're like, hey man, why don't you order something, and you're like, nah man, like, I'm trying to save my money, I really want to, like, start a new job, like, I really want to start this new life, and I just, like, it's important to me right now to just save money, but I really want to hang out with you guys, and be here in the moment, and, uh, and yeah, I'm just happy to be here, type of thing, you know what I mean? I would be like, damn, that motherfucker is cool as fuck. Like, of everybody at this table right now, that's the coolest dude here, you know? Like, we all, let's say everybody at the table is making good money, but they don't love their jobs, and then you say some shit like that. All of a sudden, there's no way you're not the coolest dude at the table. There's no way that they don't give you more

respect than if you just fucking ordered a goddamn salad or whatever it is, or a beer, or whatever. They might even fucking buy you a goddamn beer at that point. So, I mean, it's so, so important to just stick to your guns. Nobody, I mean, if anybody has anything negative to say, fuck those motherfuckers. You know what I mean? Like, so many people want to see you fail.

And I can't tell you enough right now, like the biggest thing for me, starting to become more successful and having everything I've ever wanted, it does suck a little bit. Like some of, you know, some people that I thought would be really happy for me, you know, they're not, you know, and they don't tell me they're not and, you know, they're not doing anything particular, but I can see it. I can feel it. And it's shitty, you know, like I'm 33 years old and I didn't have anything for like 31 years of my life, 32 years of my life, you know, and I, things are starting to go well for me now. And like, everything's like exactly where I want it to be. And somebody has something to say, it's like, you know what? Like you've, you've, you've never really been there for me, then you've, you're, you're not a, you're not a,

you're not a, you're not a true friend. And I don't need you. And I don't want you around, you know, or, you know, like, that's not the energy I needing, that I, I'm needing. I'm, yeah, that I'm needing, like, to surround me, you know, like, I don't, I don't want that around. It's just, you're, you know, you're a black plague in my white world over here. I don't even know what the fuck that meant. But it just it felt right. So yeah, I mean, you're gonna have I mean, even if I make a post right now that says some sort of Twitter quote, there's gonna be a whole bunch of people saying some hate hatred shit on there, you know, like no big deal. Just let it go. There's going to be majority is

going to support you. And that's the key, right? If the majority of people support you, you can keep moving on. And the reality is there's always going to be somebody who's hating on you, no matter what. It might even be a family member, it might be one of your closest friends. It might be like a competitor or some point that's, you know, doing what you're doing, and they're saying this or that or blah, blah, blah, blah. You really just have to say, just fuck so many things. Like, fuck, it's got to be just capitalized, tattooed on your forehead, but you're the only person who can see it. You know? It's like an invisible ink, you write it on every morning. Fuck you, fuck them, fuck it, fuck it, fuck. Like, you just write all that shit on your forehead, it's an invisible ink, and you're the only motherfucker who can see it, right? Like, that's, you just go out in the world every day, and that's what's on your forehead,

and it's on your wrist when you look at your watch, it's on your fucking shoes when you go to tie them, it's on the steering wheel of your car, it's on the fucking windshield of your car when you're looking outside. You want to just remind yourself that what's really most important in this life is you being fucking happy. And every single time one of those negative little things like pop in your head or someone says it or whatever, it lasts two fucking seconds. It's like the shitty piece of food that you want to eat. And you have all these fitness goals, it lasts two fucking seconds, tastes good for two seconds, that person might say something shitty to you, and it's gonna make them

feel good for two seconds, they're not even gonna leave and feel great about what they said, they're not gonna be like, yeah, I told that motherfucker, they're gonna be like, damn, I'm a shitty fucking human, almost every time people say something gnarly, and then they go home, and they regret it, 100%, so for you to think like, ah, I don't know what so-and-so is going to think, or I don't want my friends to think this or that or blah, blah, blah, blah, or someone said something shitty. It's insecurity in their own life. It's insecurity in their own ways. It's just insecurity of losing their friend to something know, it's just some sort of jealousy. And I, it's, it's, it's without fail, a hundred percent, always what it is.

But before this podcast is over, what's really, really important to me is for all of you guys to really chase your goals. Because for me, it was something that was in my life all the time. And I didn't know it. Like when I was a little kid riding my bike all over the place, like finding out who my dad was and finding out that he was a business owner and you know, all the things that happened to him in his childhood were happening to me in my childhood and all the people that I looked up to, I wound up meeting and everybody in my family told me to do something different. And I was so much different than everybody in my family. I had so many opportunities to do so many great things. You know, I was, I was good in school. Like I had

A's and B's. I could have went to get my master's. I was a helicopter pilot. I was on the Olympic team for sports like skeleton and bobsled. I went to Olympic trials for both. And I was a great athlete in CrossFit. I mean, I literally could have went any direction. And I picked, I personally picked the direction that potentially would have made me the least amount of money. If you were to put all the options on the table and you put a number on each one with how much money I was going to make that year, the one that I picked was for sure the least. And I still picked that one because I truly in my gut, just like that feeling I had in my household as a kid, I just knew that that was what it was.

I didn't feel right back then in the house because I knew where my future was supposed to be. I didn't feel right in these other occupations, like studying for programs that I didn't want to be a part of. I always knew what I was supposed to do, even at a very, very, very young age. And I feel like more than anything, the way that I feel right now about being successful about what I'm doing right now, I could fucking cry at any second. Like if I, if I just thought about it, I can cry on the spot because I'm that fucking happy. That's, that's the key, right? Like, yeah, I did all this stuff, but is he, is he happy? Who cares about money? How I did all this stuff, but is he happy? Who cares about money?

How about this? How about that? Is he happy? Blah, blah, blah, blah. Everyone always wants to know if they're happy. I can fucking tell you right now, like on the spot, I could cry. And there's no way I could cry unless I was happy. And it has genuinely been the greatest thing in my life to just listen to that gut feeling

and just know that it was the right answer all along. And I know that a lot of you guys right now have that gut feeling and it's just fucking sitting there and it's so fucking heavy. Sometimes you can't even walk. Sometimes it keeps you awake at night and you can't even go to bed because you think about it all the time. You write it down on notes all the time. You talk about it to your friends. You talk about it to your family. You think about it all the fucking time. It's what you're supposed to do. It's what you were supposed to do the whole time. I fucking promise you that. About to get a little teary-eyed right now. But yeah, guys, like, I just want to be here for you

on an inspirational front. Like, I don't want to talk about, you know, how good my businesses are or, you know, I don't always want to talk to scientists about cool shit or any of that stuff. Sometimes it's really important for just me and you to bond right now on this fucking show and talk about some real shit that goes on in our lives every single day. And I want to be the reason that greater things happen to you. I want to be the person you go to for the advice on all these things. I want to be the person that you listen to on the fucking podcast to give you the energy for all these things. And I want to be the example that you guys can look up to. So, you know, I'm going to do better in all my stuff. I'm going to make it bigger. I'm going to make more money. I'm

going to do all these things just to prove to you that it's possible. And I want to talk about it. And I want to talk about my whole path. And I want to tell everybody how they can do it. And yeah, that's what's going to make me happy at this point. I've already done everything I've ever wanted to do. I bought my dream house. I live in my dream place. I mean, fuck, there's nothing left to do right now except get off on getting you guys off. I want to get off on getting you guys off. And that's what's going to get me all the energy that I need for the day and fill me up with all the love that I need for the day. So if my body is a gas tank, I need you guys to fill me up each day so that I get really excited about each day.

I'm going to fucking end it right now because that was a solid fucking podcast. And I hope that there's enough good stuff in there right now to like really get you guys' gears turning, really get you guys thinking, and really make you reevaluate everything. And I hope that even if you don't want to switch careers or you haven't thought about what the fuck to do with your life, that this at least just solidifies that what you're doing is the right thing. Maybe it's just that for you. And maybe this is just a really cool story for someone that you like to follow and like to listen to. So I hope you guys have the fucking best day ever. I love you guys so, so much. If you guys ever want to see what I'm up to, you can go to Ryan Fish, R-Y-A-N-F-I-S-C-H on Instagram and check me out. Check out my stories. Check out all the things. Follow my gym,

CrossFit Chalk on Instagram. And yeah, I will see you guys next week. If you guys loved this episode, you think that it's really great for someone to listen to, make sure you send it to that friend. Make sure you tag me on Instagram and tell me you loved it. If there's any particular lines that you thought were fucking awesome, and there was some really good one-liners in there, make sure you quote those for me so I can remember them too. Because as soon as this thing goes up, I'm going to forget half the stuff I said because there's so many shows in my life.

But again, guys, I love you. I'll see you next week. Make sure that whatever you're doing right now, you are extremely fucking passionate about it or you have not been listening to this entire podcast.