Barbell Shrugged - Why You Got Fat...And How to Get Your Edge Back - Diesel Dad Episode 14

Episode Date: May 21, 2021

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Welcome to episode 14 of the Diesel Dad. My name is Anders Varner. In today's video, we are going to outline the exact path that I have talked to hundreds of dads fall into and answer the one question of why you got fat. So check it out. When I say why you got fat, I don't mean this to be mean. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but the reason you're watching this video is because you have between 20 and 40 pounds to lose and you don't feel good about it. I know you don't feel about it because I talked to hundreds of dads every single week through Facebook Messenger, through Instagram DMs, on the phone. We're actually launching a mentorship program right now. The Diesel Dad Mentorship for busy dads that want to lose between 20 and 40 pounds

to get strong, lean, and athletic without sacrificing family, fatherhood, or fitness using no restrictive diets, no crazy supplements, and without spending countless hours in the gym. And they're going to do it before Thanksgiving. That's right. That's our deadline. 20 to 40 pounds before Thanksgiving. So you can walk into turkey dinner like a total savage and you're going to crush it. Everyone's going to be talking about it. You're going to be sitting at the head of the table with biceps coming out of your shirt. It's going to be so amazing. Check it out. There's a path. There's a reason that you're watching and listening to this right now and it's because you have 20 to 40 pounds to lose. You're a dad. You're busy. You've got less time than ever and I need

you to understand the single reason why all of this happened over the last five to eight years of your life and how you got to the place you're at today. You see, when you were 25 years old, fitness was easy. You were bored all the time. You didn't have anything to do. You thought you were busy and you were busy because you spent your time hanging out with your friends, going to the gym. You were in your warrior stage of life. You were trying to be awesome. You were trying to separate yourself from the crowd. You were trying to be this awesome human being that was so cool that one day you could attract this beautiful lady in your life and one day make her your wife.

And that's incredible because that is how most of us built the confidence in our 20s to be able to go approach that girl and ask her out on the first date. You don't just happen to have the confidence. You have to go build it. And that's the thing that's missing so much from your life right now is that confidence that you had when you were 25 years old. You see, there's a little thing in life that we like to call the edge. It's the actions you take and the intent that you take those actions with that make you feel like you

are special. You can't really put a finger on what it is, but when you walk in the room, it's that feeling where your chest is puffed out, you stand up taller, your shoulders are back and down. Everything feels good. You feel this extra confidence in your life. And that is what is missing when you need to lose 20 to 40 pounds of body fat. That edge in life is insanely important. If you are in the world of sales, you understand that edge when you walk into the room and you know you're going to close. If you are in a bar and you're 25 years old and you see the hot girl across the bar, you know you're going to be able to go ask her out. You know she's going

to say yes and it's because you carry yourself with that edge. It's that thing that gives you the fire that you know you're going to get the result out of the actions you take. And what happens is that girl says yes and she goes out on that first date with you and three or four years later you guys get married and you breed a little human and what happens unfortunately when you go through that process is you already have the thing that you've been hunting you already have the girl so it becomes a lot easier to sit in on a Friday and just get pizza it gets a little bit easier to just go to brunch the next day it gets a little bit easier to have an extra drink and you're not so worried about your fitness because you've gotten

the thing that you've been yearning for for the past decade of your life which is the girl you've got the girl and you did it and now all of a sudden you've lowered the standards of what your fitness and nutrition the girl and you did it and now all of a sudden you've lowered the standards of what your fitness and nutrition looks like and you fall into these bad habits because they're easy and they're comfortable and you're all cuddled up on the couch with this super cute chick that now you get to call your wife congratulations you did it well guess what all of those little habits every time you've been letting yourself off the hook a little bit at a time, you call it pizza, you call it pizza night, but guess what? Over time, a pizza every single week, come on, you don't need to watch that much Netflix and chill while hammering a half gallon

of ice cream. You don't need to do that. And what happens is every time you say no to the gym, every time you say yes to the pizza, every time you say yes to an extra scoop of ice cream, calorically these things build up. And what gets worse is how you feel. Every day you come in with a little less energy, a little more body fat, a little less of that edge in life that you've been looking for and had in your twenties when you were training hard and hunting all the time. And as the kid shows up a couple years later, now all of a sudden you don't have that easy ability to just turn it back on like you used to. You see, when you were in the depths of your training and you were doing fitness, because

everybody at some point can remember when they were in their best shape. Like if I asked you right now, or if you were to write down on a piece of paper, when were you in your best shape? What is the actual goal or what is the actual date? You could probably pinpoint a specific event, a specific race, a specific lift. You could tell me what your PRs are. You could tell me all of those things because that is when you were in your best shape. The time that you were most proud of your body, the time that you were most proud of the performance, the most proud of everything that you were doing. And it also came with all the feelings of being the most confident in yourself. And that confidence translates into consistency. You keep showing up, you keep doing the work, all of that hard work and

effort has a meaning because you are pushing so hard. Now, for most of us, for many, many people out there, all of that hard work in the gym is now matched with the weakened ability to go have a little bit of fun. In your 20s, your metabolism's firing hard, right? You're allowed to go have the drinks with your friends and stay up late and get bad sleep and eat bad food at 3 a.m. in the morning. You probably get hammered a bunch of pizza and crushed beers all night.

And guess what? You woke up the next day and you were able to work out. Guess what? 35, you don't get to do that anymore. And guess what else? When you were breaking even, the biggest problem problem the number one problem of why you got fat is the Education that you were taking into the gym you weren't learning It's not like you weren't getting better

But you weren't learning and learning and education is the most important aspect of long-term success You see I can give you all the macros I can tell you what your metabolism is I can tell you what foods burn the most calories when you eat them and the thermal effect of food, blah, blah, blah. Who cares? You need to learn and create value around the education system. And while you were working out so hard and not educating yourself on how to lose fat, you were also at the bar working on really bad life habits, but they canceled out because you were working so hard. The hard work and the hard partying canceled out and you were still able to stay strong, lean, and athletic

and increase your performance because you were in your 20s. Fast forward to marriage where you start to let yourself off the hook. You start to drop those standards. You start to say yes to the pizza. You start to say yes to the extra happy hour. You start to say yes to more cuddling on the couch and less squatting under the rack or under the bar. And now we start to see the fitness side tailor off, yet the bad habit side, they kind of start to increase because it's comfortable. And we like to sit around and cuddle on the couch and have pizza and ice cream and watch a little netflix with our loved ones it's it's a beautiful

feeling we're looking for love and cuddliness it's so great well guess what your body doesn't like all that your body doesn't like all that comfort in fact all that comfort makes your body soft and if you're not challenging it in the gym it's's going to get soft, slow, and sluggish and you're trying to be strong, lean, and athletic. And this is the biggest problem that we solve with the Diesel Dad Mentorship, which if you go into the description of this show notes right now, you can schedule a call, fill out an application, and come rage with us because we're helping busy dads lose 20 to 40 pounds in the next six months because the thing that you need the most is game day. The thing that you miss the most is game day.

Putting yourself on the line. Telling yourself you have to perform to a specific standard on a specific date and hit the goal. You've probably done this in squad cycles. You've probably done this in competing in CrossFit. You've probably done this in any form of financial goals you've ever set for yourself to building any sort of wealth, any sort of buying a house process, any of these processes. You set goals, you put specific dates to them,

but that's the thing you're missing the most in your fitness. We need you to understand the education behind of it so it's a long-term plan. Because when you were breaking even in your fitness. We need you to understand the education behind it so it's a long-term plan. Because when you were breaking even in your 20s, you weren't learning, you were just performing. Once the kid shows up, now things get insanely bad. You may have only put on like 10 pounds through the marriage part until the kid part showed up.

Because when the kid part shows up, now we've got less sleep, Now we've got careers taking off and additional financial responsibility to take care of that kid. I also know that you've got additional wife and husband, or you've got additional husband responsibilities, right? Now all a sudden, date nights and date nights take over gym nights. And now time is so, so, so precious and nutrition is so, so, so important. And sleep is so, so important. All these things that are so important. you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you