Bear Grease - Ep. 368: This Country Life - Gravel Roads and Treasure

Episode Date: September 19, 2025

Sometimes there's a delicate balance between being responsible and adhering to rules. Brent's waxing poetic about gravel roads and what he refers to as treasure from a time in his youth. He brings up a situation that forces him to weigh the difference between being on time, versus doing what's right. Conflicting rules, one imposed by his mother, and the other imposed by his own conscience. It's "This Country Life" time right here on the Bear Grease channel. Shop This Country Life Merch Connect with Brent and MeatEater MeatEater on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, and Youtube Clips Subscribe to the MeatEater Podcast Network on YouTube Shop This Country Life Merch Shop Bear Grease MerchSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome to this country life. I'm your host, Brent Reeves. From Coon Hunting to Trotlining and Just General Country Living, I want you to stay a while as I share my experiences and life lessons. This Country Life is presented by Case Knives from the Storemore Studio on Meat Eat Eaters Podcast Network, bringing you the best outdoor podcasts that Airways have to offer. All right, friends, grab a chair or drop that tailgate. I've got some stories to share. Gravel Roads and Treasure

The gravel road was the first step toward anything. It was our connection to everything we did outside of life on the farm. The back door and the front door were symbolic of how you traverse the planet. Outback always met one step at a time, either by me or a horse. The front door was the same, except you could also add a vehicle or tractor to the short list of conventions. I'm going to give you my thoughts on what they've meant to me, but first, I'm going to tell you a story. It was late, and my curfew was looted. I'd been running around town with a bunch of my friends, circling the Sonic Drive-in on the south end of town, turning left on Main Street,

negotiating a traffic light and two stop signs that would have me on the north end of Maine, where the Kroger parking lot would serve as either a rally point to stop and visit with my friends, or the turning point where we'd reverse our drive and do it all over again. A mile and a quarter round trip of driving through town, honking the horn at our friends as they passed in a seemingly endless parade of teenagers, mostly in their parents barred cars and trucks. It was the Saturday night ritual of growing up and going to school and more in Arkansas. I have no idea if it's still the same,

but one can hope that there's something of a similar innocence taking place. Now, occasionally we'd meet uptown, make a plan, and then convoy or rendezvous down a dusty or muddy timber company road to a predetermined destination where firewood brought from someone's home or wooden pallets that had been liberated from behind the farmer's co-op would be set ablaze, gawked at till such time we ran out of fuel for the fire, or the attendees had to start making their way towards home to beat the inevitable curfew that the folks like me weren't a mere suggestion.

There was no be home around an appointed time at my house, a luxury some of my fellow sophisticates enjoyed. I blame my older brother Tim for his lackadaisical approach to life and the curfew clock that filtered down to the rest of us. had he set an alternate precedent eight years earlier, I may not have had to watch the ticking of the clock so stringently myself. But that's probably an unfair accusation thrown toward my older brother. After all, I was the one who'd displayed on more than one occasion

my utter contempt for authority outside of my own. Starting about the time I skipped school in the sixth grade and hopped the liberty train to the other side of town, for a day of thumbing my nose at the man. Or more accurately, Westside Elementary School and my mama. Both entities who for some reason didn't trust me to be at any appointed place as delegated by whomever happened to be in charge of my health and welfare at any given moment on my own.

I knew better than any of my sole purpose in life was and is to have fun, regardless of the location or circumstances of my presence at any particular event or place. This is still how I naturally try to operate, and the reason my wife has learned the unique ability to roll her eyeballs around her head so fast that it makes me dizzy. It has been my plan every day of my life that as soon as my feet hit the floor in the morning, my schedule is whichever way the wind blows. Not in my professional life, obviously.

I've had deadlines and appointments, court, training, shifts to cover, folks to supervise, all the mandated things we all have to endure. But the rest of it, to be honest, has more or less been by the seat of my britches. Alexis, what? Want to go on a trip for a few days? Sure. When do you want to go? I don't know.

We could leave this afternoon. Are you crazy? We can't leave today to go out of town for a few days. Oh. Okay. How about tomorrow then? Brent, are you drunk? What about Bailey?

Well, she can go with us. She has school, you idiot. Oh, yeah. Well, she's smart. She can afford to miss some. That's usually the one the eye-rolling thing would hit its peak. I swear, I seem to spend so fast at something I've said that you could light a kitchen match off of them.

I say all of that to set the foundation of how that all ties into me telling a story about curfews, a gravel road, my whimsical outlook on life, and a constant issue of living on the razor's edge between freedom and absolute lockdown. I'd spend a little too much time at the fire with the rest of my associates and was cutting the time close when I finally drug up and bid farewell. to my fellow brothers and sisters of the Saturday night fire. Fortunately, the fire was at a dead end timber company road only a few miles from my house. I knew exactly how long it was going to take me to get there,

and if I was one second early, it was as good as being home an hour before curfew. However, if I was one second late, I might as well have been AWOL from the service. There would be consequences and repercussions. As I slid into the driver's seat of my truck, the truck I'd bought with money made from hauling hay, trapping and working at the sale barn. I calculated how much time I needed to make up to roll into the driveway with a modicum of time to spare. Looking at my watch as I started my truck, I suddenly had a feeling of impending doom, and maybe a little regret for not leaving a couple minutes earlier than what I had.

Had I really needed to stay those extra few minutes? What would I have lost or missed out on by going wheels up a little sooner? Nothing. Not one thing. I wouldn't have missed anything. But how would I have known if I hadn't stayed? I pulled out onto the highway with a little fanfare and made tracks toward the hossian. Working math in my head still driving safely, I felt confident, barring any type of calamity.

that I'd be crossing the threshold of the kitchen right on time. It was almost like I hadn't paid attention to the 16 previous years of calamity that had befallen me right up to that moment in my short existence. Had I not been paying attention? No. No, I had not. People like me who mostly lived for the here and now can find themselves in situations just like this. and I happened to be a highly decorated veteran of it. Glancing at my watch, I could see that I was ahead of schedule.

I'd apparently erred on the side of caution, and I was going to have plenty of time, maybe even a minute or more, to spare. Dang, I could have stayed at the fire longer. I turned on to the highway, onto the gravel county road that would carry me the last mile in three quarters to my sanctuary, before the clock struck times up, and my coach turned not into a punk and pulled by mice, but more like a light blue short wheel-based Chevrolet,

I would be watching sitting in the yard as I boarded the school bus with the rest of the unfortunate souls who had to experience that big yellow chicken house on wheels to and from school. But that wouldn't be my fate for fortune favors the bold, and I had boldly gone where I had gone many times before, right up to the edge of the cliff and lived to tell about it. This was shaping up to be one more chapter in my semi-charmed life,

right up to when it wasn't. A doe deer hopped out of the woods and loped along the road right in front of me. It was like she just appeared in the road, and I never had time to touch the brakes. Fortunately, I didn't have to. I wasn't going that fast, and she was easily maintaining her lead as we both cruise down that road toward home. I looked down at my spilometer, and that guy wasn't even trying, and she was doing 20 miles an hour. I'd always wondered how fast a deer could run, so I took the opportunity I'd surprisingly been afforded and applied pressure to the foot

feed and started incrementally speeding up. She matched my speed perfectly and was kicking rocks up on the hood of my truck as we both passed 30. She was like a deer-colored missile as she tracked down the left-hand road of the gravel road flinging rocks on the windshield and over the cab of the truck. The woods were open on the left side of the road and to the right was acres of cut soybeans. There was no ditch on either side. At any point, she could have turned her wheels in either direction and smoothly transitioned from the gravel to the woods or grass. I'd already start slowing down and it only followed her for about half the time it took me to describe what was happened when she hung a hard left and sent her punched the roadside dumpster.

The county had recently placed there to terminate with extreme prejudice any deer speed test. Apparently. It sounded like when Granny gave Jeff throw that old cobong on the noggin with her skillet. Bound! You could have heard it on the moon. Oh, well, I got to get home, and I think I'm going to have about a minute to spare. I tooled on toward the house and my amusement at hearing that cartoon-like noise that deer made when it slammed into the dumpster actually registered on me. While I didn't intend for that deer to get injured, it was more or less by my hand that she ran into the dumpster.

What if she was suffering? That's what I thought about. And that's what made me stop, turn around and go back and check knowing I was going to be late. The road was so narrow I couldn't just whoop around in the road. I either had to do a 14-point turnaround or jet on down to the next driveway and come back. Both would take about the same time, so I drove an extra half mile, turned around, and quickly paid my way back. No dear scene. I went to the blacktop.

I turned around and headed back toward the house. Maybe she was all right. As I passed the dumpster, I saw her white belly lying behind it as I got closer. I stopped in the middle of the road, angled my lights toward where she was at, and jumped out to check on her. She was dead as disco. I looked at my watch. There was no way I was going to make it home in time now.

So I filled dressed her, and I loaded her up in the bed of the truck so she didn't go to waste when I drove home. Now, if Mama wasn't up waiting on me, I could slip in the door, jump into bed and clean that deer in the morning. and it was plenty cool for her to keep until then. But Mama was waiting up on me. I was late, less than 10 minutes late, but late just the same. She listened to my story and even looked at the deer in the back of the truck and said she was proud of me for going back and getting her and not letting her go to waste. It's good. It's a good thing.

She also said she needed my truck keys. I should have left for home earlier. and the bus runs at 7.15 a.m. on Monday. Rules or rules for a reason. And that's just how that happened. On Blood Trails, the stories don't end when the hunt is over. They just get darker. I've seen something in the road.

I instantly thought it was a sleeping bed and there was a full of blood. Oh my God, he doesn't have a hit. Blood Trails is a true crime podcast born in the outdoor. Where the terrain is unforgiving, the evidence is scarce, and the truth gets buried under brush and silence. Indications were he should be right there, but he wasn't. This season, we're going deeper. From cold case files to whispered suspicions, from remote mountains to frozen backwoods. Each story begins in the wilderness and ends in darkness.

Because out here, there are no witnesses, no cameras, just fragments and the people left behind trying to piece them back together. He's not an honest person. He's incapable of being honest. Somebody somewhere knows something. I'm Jordan Sillers. Season 2 of Blood Trails premieres April 16th. Follow now on Apple, Iheart, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts. I know why roads get paved.

They're paved to increase safety and increased road longevity by creating a smooth, durable surface that protects the base layer from water in a road. erosion. It also reduces dust and accommodates heavier, more frequent traffic than gravel can handle. While paving is more expensive up front, it can be more cost-effective long-term for roads with a high volume of daily traffic. It significantly improves the user experience and public safety. That's the reason, and I hate everything about it, except for the safety part. The road in front of our house was gravel. So was the state highway. that wound through the community.

I remember when it was paved, and that would have been in the late 70s or early 80s. Every place I loved more than any other was only approachable by a gravel road. The lake, the river, our farm, everything. It all had a dirt and rock pathway to what I liked most. I talk to my brother Tim on the phone now while he's driving and I can hear the shutter of his truck as he cruises over

washboard sections of gravel. Imagining everything he has in his truck vibrating from place to place as he passes through the areas where he remains and we all grew up. You do have to drive slower on gravel. That's not necessarily a bad thing. Life's fast enough by itself. We see more when we drive slower. Like a few episodes ago when I talked about going home and Tim and I drove down to the river

and all the places that we passed that triggered me to remember events from long ago. Seemingly inconsequential memories that are made at the speed of life, not light. It is my fervent wish that we all slow down and just see what's happening in our peripheral. Stay in front sight, focused is a good thing when we have a specific mission and a singular goal. But when all things are equal, slowing down and looking around and treat us to a whole new world of fun and adventure. My good friend John Howard and I went fishing down in Venice, Louisiana earlier this year. John is a notoriously slow driver, according to his wife, Brittany,

and I even poke fun at him to her on our way down. But I've driven down there twice now. The first time was for work in October of last year at a meat eater event. The second was with John. It was a great metaphor for my life. The route was the exact same, but on the first trip, we were painting the road red to get there, to get set up, get unpacked, and adhere to the schedule that they laid out for us.

On the trip with John, it was more like we'd gone someplace completely different. It was like the highway had turned to gravel, and we took the time to look around. I didn't catch as many fish on the second trip as we did on the first, but it was close, and I saw more than ever on that two-day trip as compared to the five days I spent there previously. One thing I hadn't mentioned is bare feet and gravel as young, and I can vividly remember us running up and down that road racing each other. The grass of the yard and the gravel of the road were the same. You didn't slow down or tiptoe or tiptoe.

across the rocks, if anything, you grabbed another gear, even though my transmission wasn't built for speed like others in my family. But our feet were acclimated and conditioned to withstand what would have me now searching for a morphine drip after only a step or two. But we walked those roads to the old country store hunting Coke bottles to exchange with Mr. Almas Marks to get enough money to buy candy and a cold drink. A treat for a gaggle of dust children on a hot summer day. The empty bottle valued only at a nickel when returned to the store for a deposit,

but to us it was worth its weight in gold. There was treasure along the sides of those gravel roads, and it was ours for the taking. We would leave in the mornings to prospect along the way to the store once we'd all gathered up, my brothers and sisters out in front of the barn and my cousins from up on the hill. Their home had a night.

initially been my great-grandfathers, and you could get there by wading knee-high grass through the field and crossing the creek or hang right on the gravel and walk down the road ofways and wait for them at the mailbox, looking for bottles that have been discarded through the night along the way. Those roads have been paid now for 40 years. The sound of the crunching gravel has been replaced with the hum of tires as they roll faster along the asphalt. The last bottles have replaced the glass ones, and the internet keeps most kids in the house for some reason or another. But when life slows down, I can still see us all there scavenging along the dusty road laughing and racing and chunking rocks at roadside, making our way toward the

store looking for the treasure that would afford us a summer treat. A treat we would all share, even if it was just a bite of candy or a sip of Coca-Cola. Pam, Tim, Chuck, Lynn, Glenda, Pat, Scott, Renee, and me, a family of treasure hunters and a treasure-filled land. Thank you so much for listening, and if you haven't heard, we're taking the Meat Eater Live Tour more south this December, Birmingham, Nashville, Memphis, Fayette, Dallas, Austin are all slated for Steve Janice Randall, playing yours truly to be there. You can get early access to tickets by signing up at the

meat eater.com forward slash tool. All the information's right there. Until next week, this is Brett Reeves. Signing all. Y'all be careful. First Lights fieldware collection is made for the work that happens long

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