Bedros Keuilian Podcast Show - 097. 9 of the BEST life lessons from my 50 years of life

Episode Date: August 6, 2024

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You could become anyone and anything you want at any time in your life. Like, there is no limit. Welcome to the Bedroskulean show. Back when Q was rolling with Lorenzo and a Benzo, I was banging with a gang of instrumental. All right, last week I turned 50 years old, and I got nine lessons I want to share with you from my 50 years on this planet. So let's jump right to it. Hey, guys, welcome to the Bedroskulian Show. I'm Bedroskulian.

Today we've got a great episode teed up for you. If my voice sounds a little hoarse, bear with me. I just got back literally yesterday from beautiful Chicago, Illinois, where we ran the Squire program, that father and son experience. It's a rite of passage for those boys as they are becoming men. And I got to tell you, man, there was 32 fathers and sons out there having an amazing time for 12 hours getting after it. And then at the very end, they went through this awesome obstacle course.

The fathers blindfold the sons and then using their voice only, they take those sons, guide those sons through an obstacle course. where there's like barbed wire and two by fours with nail sticking out of it and bear traps. And all of those things are there to kind of signify that life comes to with lots of bear traps and adversity and obstacles. And if you trust your gut as you get older and become a confident and capable man, you will be able to navigate those pitfalls of life. But now as a young boy, it's your dad's job to help guide you, mentor you, and instill that

wisdom in you and then as you become a man it's your job to pay it forward it's a very beautiful experience man the squire program but it definitely takes a toll on my voice as we scream hoot and holler for 12 hours but an awesome experience in fact if you guys want to if you have a son who's 13 to 16 years old and you're like man i'd love to take him to this program just check out the squire program.com or just check the description box in this episode and we'll have it all there but this episode is about the time I turned 50. Last week, I turned 50. And here's a crazy thing about turning 50.

When I was in my 20s and I would go to the gym, I'd see dudes that had gray in their hair, gray in their beard, you know, just kind of beat up, you know, if you will. Their skin had wrinkles in it, the kind of leathery skin. I'd be like, damn, these dudes are strong. These dudes have old man strength. I would say old man strength. What's funny is, now.

that I'm 50 years old, I don't feel like an old man. And maybe it's a different time now that we live in, or maybe it's just how I take care of myself is different. But I truly feel like I'm in my maybe mid to late 30s in terms of how I feel, energy, strength, mental capacity, et cetera, definitely the opposite of Joe Biden. That's right, I said it. The opposite of Joe Biden, man. I feel spry.

I feel young. Definitely beat up, right? My body's been beat up from all the training I've done for the last 30 years in terms of lifting and getting after it in life and martial arts and recent years since 2019, I got into jujitsu with a ghee, and now I do no-gi-jitsu. And let me tell you, it beats you up, but nothing feels better than getting after it. Anyways, so I got these nine lessons that I want to share with you. And these are really cool lessons, man.

If I had these lessons in my 20s or 30s, even in my 40s, right? I think I would have had even more money, been even happier, and been in even better shape earlier in life, right? And so I want to be able to pass that along to you guys because what the fuck, right? If I can't mentor you, if I can't pass along my experience, knowledge, wisdom, then what's it all for? And I think it's our job as men to be able to share information, pass down knowledge and wisdom, because if we don't, then we end up learning through life experience, which means it takes a little longer, right? And God knows, man, I've experienced a lot of hardship in my life.

You know, from, you know, when I was a kid, I was molested when we lived in Armenia before we escaped and came to the United States and then came here and I was beat up and, and just massively, massively, abused physically and mentally throughout the school system and gangs and the Section 8 housing complexes that we lived in. And all of those things put me on this, like, path of terror once I became a in my late teens into my early 20s you know many of you heard have heard that you know I was involved in a police helicopter chase I was the getaway driver we weren't able to get away because you can't really outrun a police helicopter and that was a big turning point in my life but if you're a young man in your teens early 20s and you're living a life where maybe you're

doing stupid shit like I was carjacking and robbing homes um or selling drugs, or you're just finding yourself depressed and anxious, and you're like, man, I don't feel like I have a path in life. Maybe what I'm going to share with you today will give you some insight, right? And we'll hopefully give you an advantage over the version of you that doesn't get this information and ends up figuring it all out in your later years, in your late 40s, 50s, and 60s and beyond. Like, I want you to live the most fucking awesome life possible.

And for that to happen, the sooner you can. get this information and the sooner you can apply it and implement it into your life, the better. So let's dive right into it. So thing number one I want to share with you guys is don't measure success by a few bad weeks or even a few bad months. And to be honest with you, even by a few bad years, right? Like you will go through cycles in life where you're having a few bad weeks, months and maybe even a few bad years of bad luck or what seems like bad luck. Just understand that at least from my life experience, no matter what's going on,

no matter the adversity, the hardship, the punishment that you feel like you're getting, all of that there is there to forge you. You only realize later in life, as you go further down the road, you realize later in life that, man, those adversities, those hard times, those times when I was, felt like I had my back against the wall,

sometimes maybe physically, sometimes metaphorically in terms of financially, you're broke and maybe you're health, money left you and and you have no path in life and people have counted you out and they just feel like you're just a loser and you're the only one that feels like there's maybe some like glimmer of hope there is there is just keep putting one foot in front of the other because it's times like this during these times of like you know bad weeks months and years that you learn the most we never lose we either win or we learn right so if we know that to be true and I'm 50 years old now

I do really well in life. I have multiple businesses. I've sold some of these businesses. I've gained a lot of money. I own homes and properties and a ranch and cars and all the cool shit, investments and crypto and all that stuff. And at 50, you think 50's old. It's not.

You keep yourself up and it's not. So I'm here to tell you, keep putting one foot in front of the other, even during the tough seasons, even during those tough times that you feel like you can't take a giant step forward, just take a little inch forward, right? Forward progression is what we're looking for. Over years, that forward progression will compound

because when you have those winning weeks and months and years, you're not just taking inches forward, you're taking like quantum leaps forward. And all of a sudden you realize the stuff that I learned, the mental toughness, the emotional resilience, the forging under stress and duress that you got during the bad times make you so much stronger, faster, more resilient, and capable during the good times, right, that you start literally passing everybody else by, and that's what I've done.

Thing number two, I want to share with you now that I've turned 50 and I look back and I go, what are the things that worked in my life? Well, the things that worked in my life is I feel I look better now at 50 years old than I did at 40. And in fact, on Instagram, guys, I put up a picture, a picture of me at 40 years old, exactly at 40 years old, and then a picture of me from two weeks ago, like literally a week before 50. And like, what a night and day difference. What's crazy?

And I was very honest in that post, I said, even in my 40s when I started TRT, I started TRT in my late 30s, because if you know anything about me, I abused testosterone and steroids really early on in life, early 20s. And I just crashed my entire endocrine system. Highly recommend you not do that, right? Like milk your own endocrine system, your own hormonal system, the best you can't optimize it, you know, do all that stuff. But at the end of the day, if you're a bonehead like I was and you didn't have information like this to access and you're like, all right, I guess I'm just supposed to take a lot of testosterone and get strong and lift a lot of heavy weight and never get off this testosterone stuff and take all the other compounds on top of that, I'd crash my endocrine system. So in my late 30s, I got on TRT.

but even on TRT, man, it's not like just because you take whatever, one cc or one and a half cc of testosterone, sypinate a week doesn't mean that you're all of a sudden going to be lean and strided and jacked. Like what you eat determines how you look, right? You might just have a good amount of muscle under all that fat, which I certainly did, but I didn't have the discipline. Like I didn't have the discipline throughout my 30s and 40s to eat cleaner and be leaner, right? And I wish I did. So looking back now, I'm leaner. I have abs. I have defined muscles.

I feel more athletic. I have less joint pain. My businesses are bigger. I have more complexity in my life, right? Because when your businesses grow, you go from third world problems to first world problems. First world problems are, you know, I have a lot of employees. My companies are growing. I have a lot of demand on me. And at 50, I'm able to handle all that stress better than I did at 40 because I believe eating clean, spending the last decade eating cleaner, focusing on my sleep, optimizing my sleep, getting sunlight every single day, like after my morning workouts, I go outside across the street to the park and I'll get in three to five miles of fast-paced walking while I'm listening to audio books, right? And I'll take my shirt off and I'll get sun on my body.

and I started doing more self-care stuff at, I guess, just after 40, maybe 43, 44 years old. And you could see it in my body. If you went to my Instagram and you looked at that before and after picture, 40 versus 50, like I took the same amount of testosterone in my, when I was 40 that I do now. The difference is the diet is dialed in. The stress management dialed in. The sleep dialed in. Hydration, dialed in.

Right? Getting sun, dialed in. And all those things. have set me up to do even better in my life as I go through my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond. I really feel like I could live to 105 years old and be functional and really have great cognitive function because I started taking care of myself so early on in life in terms of working out in terms of activity. I wish I would have dialed in my diet, sleep, stress, hydration even more early on.

and I want you to do that. I'm telling you, it's a game changer. Not to mention, by the way, you fucking walk into a room and you got gray in your beard, you got gray in your hair. People can tell that you're in your late 40s or 50s, and then they see that you're lean and jacked. Like, you get a different level of respect, man. You get a different level of respect.

Like, people are just magnetically drawn to you and they go, like, what the fuck? Like, how do you do it? Right? Like, there's people that have a 9 to 5 job and they have all this free time, the rest of the time, and they're pounding down beers and, fucking Cheetos and have milkable titties.

And then here you are. You have multiple companies. You have tons of employees. You're making all this money, dealing with all this stuff. And you got your shit dialed in. Like that says a lot about a man's character, about his integrity with himself, about his reputation with himself. And people notice, man.

You walk into a room. People take notice. All right. Number three. I wrote down, life continues to get more expensive. And so you'll need more money than you think in the future. man, that is a lesson that I learned from my mentor, my first mentor, Jim Franco. Jim Franco started mentoring me. He was a personal training client of mine. You guys know this

story. And he started mentoring me when I was 24, 25 years old, just in between the workout sessions and stuff, he would give me life advice. And he's a successful entrepreneur, you know, does really well for himself. And he was the first millionaire that I ever met. And Jim Franco started to give me, I guess, coaching, mentoring. mentorship, advice that really opened my eyes to how important money is, how valuable money is. It solves the problem of not having money. Money is a vehicle to freedom. Money is a vehicle to access.

Money helps you put your family in a safer situation. If you live in a town that's shady or fucked up, you can move it to a better town, a better state, a better country. Money allows you to help out the charities and the churches that you believe in. Money helps you solve problems that most people can't solve. and a lot of problems can be solved with money, believe it or not. And so I'm here to tell you, man, like you think about what happened in 2020

with the global pandemic and how just after that, life got super expensive. Interest rates went up. The inflation, price of everything went up, right? Yet income, pay for most people did not go up. And so you're losing more money than you ever thought. And then you add to that, and most of you, if you watch or listened to my show, you know this.

My mom died. this past September of Alzheimer's. Now, in a perfect world, my mom would have grown old and just kind of died one day by not waking up, right? I would hope the same for my dad. My dad is 90 years old and he's still alive and kicking. He just had a little hip problem. He fell and shattered his hip a couple months ago, but he's gotten the surgery.

He's getting physical therapy, and he's doing fine. But in a perfect world, your parents would not require a lot of expense. but the reality is both my mom and dad required a lot of expense. And it's my duty. I feel that it's my duty as their son to be able to financially provide the medical care, the medication, the in-home hospice that my mom needed, the caretaker that my dad has right now, who's an Armenian caretaker who lives at home with him and looks after him.

Like all those things cost money. And so life does get more expensive, whether it's inflation, it's interest rates, it's cost of living. you have kids, your kids want to go to college, maybe your kids, you know, you want to leave some money for them, you want them to launch in life. Like, that's a fucking cool thing to do, right? And for all that to happen, you need more money than you think. So don't for a moment think that, you know, if you're doing good now, that this level of good scaled, you know, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years from now, is still acceptable. It's not. Create more businesses, create more income streams, find more

opportunities, invest in crypto, invest in stocks, invest in real estate. Like, I don't know what the thing is for you, but I've got a pretty broad portfolio of investments that I've started long ago. And I'm grateful for that because it gives me peace of mind knowing that my kids are taken care of that I can continue to scale my companies. And if one company is impacted, let's say, by a pandemic, then the next company has the opportunity to grow. But if you only have one business or one job or one career, one source of income and inflation and interest rates and cost of living, everything goes up, you're fucked. You're fucked.

So understand you always need more money than you think. So hop to it. All right. Number four, your gut tells you, your gut will tell you who your real friends are and then time will prove it over and over again. I'm telling you, trust your gut because odds are, and if I can, go back, if I can go back to even late 20s, early 30s, there were people in my life who later proved, time proved that they were shitbags, they were douchebags, they were trying to take

advantage of me, the opportunities that they saw that they had with me as my companies, my businesses were launching, right? And I had a feeling. I had a gut feeling. But what do we do? We ignore it because you really don't have evidence, right? Now, as I'm 50, let me tell you, the last decade, I listened to my. gut more than I listen to the words that come out of their mouth. If someone's like, hey, bro,

I'm a good person. You know, we're friends. I think you're awesome. You're funny. I think we should go into business together. All this shit. They can say whatever they want, their social media can show that they have a great reputation, et cetera. If my gut doesn't jive with them, I get some weird gut feeling about you. Fuck you, bro. We are not doing business. I might keep you as an acquaintance, but you're always going to be arm's length away. And I can tell you this. I can name off easily a dozen people in my life over the last 20 years that my gut sent me a message that something's up with this person. They're not congruent.

They're not being honest. They're here to take advantage of you. But I had no actual evidence. And I ignored those voices in my gut. That's really your conscience. By the way, if you're wondering, like, what do I mean your gut? It's your conscience. And so, you know, it took all these times for me to.

fall flat on my face and go, fuck, my gut was right a couple years ago. My gut was right five years ago. My gut was right 10 years ago. Now it's a very different thing, man. I trust my gut. I trust my conscience. And if we're not doing business, we're not doing business. That's that.

All right. Number five of lessons that I've learned in the last 50 years that will benefit your life. And it is that you are more resilient and resourceful than you think, man. You really are. You'll make it through the injuries. You'll make it through the lawsuits. you'll make it through the abuse that you've faced. You'll make it through the,

through all the gunk that life has to throw at you. You'll make it through the divorce. You'll make it through anything that comes your way because the human spirit is more resourceful and more resilient than you think. But the problem is people always underestimate themselves. Odds are you underestimate yourself and you don't feel like you have the resources

and you don't feel you can go get the resources and you don't feel that you were resilient because some days you start beating yourself up so much that you don't even want to get out of bed. And if you're able to somehow drag your carcass out of the bed, you start thinking that other people have a better life than you, that they don't have the problems that you'd have, that they don't have the adversity that you have,

that they haven't dealt with the shortcomings that you have. Listen, I'm here to tell you, you don't know what any other human is struggling through. But I can tell you this, now that I'm 50 years old, everyone is pushing through something, even if we don't know it. Everyone is pushing through something or has pushed through something that was probably likely going to break them had they not continue to push through. But the human spirit is so resilient. We are so resourceful.

However, the universe will not just reward you for being a resilient, resourceful person. You have to be an active participant in getting yourself to that better place, in healing. from the sexual, physical, mental, emotional trauma that you've dealt with, right? Otherwise, if you stay hurt and you constantly victimize yourself and paint yourself as a victim and tell yourself the story that I'm the victim and this happened to me and it sucks that it happened to me and how unfortunate this happened to me, it probably doesn't happen to other people, then you end up only victimizing yourself further. And guys, I share this with you because I see so many people in the comments, especially on

YouTube when I post these episodes up and they go, yeah, but you know, my parents are divorced or this happened to me as a kid or I love of my life and we were married 15, 20 years and she just up and left and left me and divorced me and she was cheating on me with someone else. Okay, that's the human condition. That happens. Like you're not the only one that's happening to. In your mind, it feels that way because you live in a, you live in a silo, right? Like we live in a personal echo chamber and we are humans and so as humans, we are supposed to be. be selfish about our own thoughts and feelings. And we just assume, especially with social media, you look at social media, everyone's fucking putting up their highlight reel. And so you're like,

nah, no one else got any problems. I'm the only one with problems. So obviously there's something defective about me. There isn't. There isn't. Everyone else has problems. Everyone else has adversities. Everyone else has gone through shit. Everyone else is experiencing the pain and the suffering and the self-doubt. Those who went in life continue to push through. And the universe will reward you and will look out for you so long as you keep pushing through. As I said earlier, sometimes you have to take micro steps forward. Other times you'll be able to take like quantum leaps forward in life. But you got to push through and this two shall pass. I promise you that. You guys, quick interruption to the show. Let me tell you all about the truly wellness shot.

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let themselves go dudes who are you know hooked on alcohol or drugs or pornography or video games and you know you're not providing for your family or you got yourself in debt and you've got yourself out of shape and you've got stretch marks right on your belly button and your waistline your fucking your fucking love handles hang over your belt line and you got tities instead of pecks like dude i'm still judgmental towards you but i've become less judgmental towards humanity it's funny i i've become i've become the type of person that i love humanity i still hate humans as an individual you know what i mean like i will shit on a human as an individual because of the choices that you make and the shortcuts that you take and the promises that you break

to yourself and to your family and the people that matter in your life. It's for that reason I fucking hate humans, but I love humanity. And I'm here to tell you that as you get older, you will become more patient, more understanding, and more compassionate and show more grace to people in general. And I've been able to do that. And I think that's an important thing to do. That's an important thing to do. Time will smooth out your rough edges.

However, that doesn't mean that you should allow people in your life or yourself to get away with mediocrity, to settle for average, right? Becoming more grace, showing more grace, compassion, love, patience, and understanding towards people is one thing. Letting people off the hook for shit that they should be doing to be a better human, a better father, a better husband, a better entrepreneur, a better leader, a better friend. Like, I'm not letting you off the hook. I'm not letting you off the hook.

You shouldn't let yourself off the hook. Number seven, it's never too late to take on new things. And I don't know about you, man, but I was not, I'd not grow up as an athlete. You know, when my parents brought me here to the United States, when we escaped the Soviet Union, it was pretty tough, like, growing up. And so it wasn't like my parents were like, hey, I hope you do good in school. Hey, we should put you in sports and you should be active and let's see what sport. You navigate towards.

And so I was not an active kid. I was a pretty fat, lonely kid, kind of sad and pathetic and, you know, started getting involved with the wrong crowd if you want to know the truth. And that's kind of what led me to, you know, carjacking in my late teens and, you know, robbing homes in my late teens and that ultimately led to that, you know, police helicopter chase. But I share this with you because I didn't have opportunities to learn new things when I was younger. It's not my parents' fault. It was just, that's all they knew then.

And they were like, we need to make money as fast as we can to get out of the Section 8 housing complex. We need to make as much money as possible so we can stop eating out of dumpsters. We need to make as much money as possible so that we can have a roof over our head, right? Like there was times that my dad was like, shit, this might be it. We might be living out of the car. And that's not a really cool thing to experience when I imagine putting myself in my dad's shoes. He was 45 years old when we came to America. He was married. He's got at the time three kids, right, that he's responsible for. Like,

that's a big responsibility. We're living in Section 8 housing. And so no, I wasn't put into all these things, sports and stuff. And when I talk about this, when I put up post on social media and I say fellas, ladies, everyone say yes to the adventures of life, like take on new things. I was hear from people, well, but what if I'm too old? I'm too old. Or I wasn't athletic and therefore I can't be athletic or I wasn't good at math and therefore I can't do this thing now. I wasn't, listen, the human mind, the human brain, the human psyche, we are so adaptable, man. Believe it or not, you're very adaptable. So I wrote it down for you. At 44 years old, I started surfing, right? And then at 46, I started getting really good on the one wheel. If you don't know what the one wheel

is, I want you to picture like a skateboard. You've probably seen these. It's like a skateboard, but it's got one giant motorized wheel in the middle of it. And it looks like you're balancing on it, but you're kind of sort of all you are, but it's also got gyroscopes and a motor in it. Think like a little Tesla engine and you lean forward and you can go forward, you lean back, you go back. And, dude, it feels like you're like surfing on land. It's the only way I can describe it.

Surfing or snowboarding on asphalt, concrete, grass. And I, at 46 years old, like four years ago, I took that on, man. And you would think that, you know, like, if I eat shit, it's probably over, right? But, and I have plenty of times, and I've actually got a torn meniscus because my son and I were bombing a hill and Dana Point on the one wheels. And I hit a tree route and the one wheel went one way. And I went running.

I tried to outrun the fall because, you know, you can run it out. And if you can run it out fast enough, then you're not going to fall and bust your face open. And while I tried to run it out, my knee popped and got a bucket tear in my meniscus. My point is, like I've learned to surf in my 40s. I've learned to write the one wheel in my 40s. I started no ghi jujitsu in my 40s. And just recently, like two weeks ago, I started learning chess and playing chess

because I believe that it's never too late, right? If you read my book, Man Up, you know that I talk about the never peak mentality, never peak the best is yet to come. Like, who the fuck am I to write about it and then not to live about it, right? And if you think there's something special about me, like I'm this unicorn, like I'm some genetically gifted freak,

I'm not. I have to remind you that I barely made it out of high school. I went to three elementary schools, two junior highs and two high schools. I barely graduated high school like with fucking D's, right? I had to beg my counselor, my school counselor, to let me walk so that my immigrant parents can see that, wow, this kid got a degree. And then they were like, wow, you got a high school degree. You should go to college.

Well, 32 days in junior college, Fullerton Junior College. Boy, did I prove them wrong? Dropped out of junior college. but I turned out all right. But the point I'm making is you could become anyone and anything you want at any time in your life. Like there is no limit. And I keep proving myself right by taking on all these different challenges, right?

And you guys all know that started off with that marathon challenge 10, 12 years ago. In fact, if you guys want to, if you've never run a marathon and you want to challenge yourself and run a marathon in six weeks, like train four and run a marathon of six weeks, you can get that free course, Roskoolion.com forward slash challenge and it's the entire marathon training guide, motivational videos and even a nutrition and recovery guide. And you'd be surprised, man. You'd do something like that, like a six-week challenge where you push yourself through something you've never done before and then you complete a 26.2 mile marathon. And whether you want to sign up for a marathon in your town or across the country or you just decided you're going to take your car and you're going to

drive 13.1 miles one way and then 13.1 miles back, there's your marathon path, right? So now you're going to take the six-week challenge and you're going to use the system, the training system that we outlined in there for free for you. It's the same training system that I used when I hired a running coach. And all of a sudden, you're fucking running a marathon. It's this whole like Roger Bannister effect, the seeing is believing, seeing that you can actually take on something new that you felt that you weren't meant to do or your body's not designed to do when you do it, it is a powerful feeling if you're like, who the fuck is Roger Bannister? Roger Bannister is the dude who first broke the four-minute mile, like doctors, coaches, everyone said that it's impossible for the human to run

a mile in under four minutes. And he ended up running a mile in three minutes and like 56 seconds or something, right? And within the next few years, something like 1,200 people had broken the four-minute mile. Because once he did it, seeing his believing, everyone else was like, well, fuck, I could do it too. So I'm here to tell you, like, you can be your own Roger Bannister and prove to yourself that you could start something new at any time in your life. You could learn a new language. You can start doing comedy.

You can start acting. You could learn to surf. Ride the one wheel. Play chess. Do jujitsu. Like, whatever your heart desires. Like, don't ever think for a moment that it's too late. You can start a business.

If you're like, man, is it too late? You know, can I not be, don't forget. If you're like, maybe I won't be able to be rich anymore because it's too late. I'm in my 40s, 50s or 60s. Don't forget, man, Colonel Sanders started fucking KFC in his 60s, right? Kentucky Fried Chicken started when the man was in the 60s. And he had no social media. He had no Instagrams and TikToks and fucking LinkedIn's and Facebooks

to promote his fried chicken that's going to get you fat and stuff your fucking arteries with cholesterol. No, man. He just went gas station to gas station saying like, hey, y'all to check out my fucking fried chicken and before you know it, there was a KFC on every corner of America, which probably also explains our 55% obesity rate, or 65, whatever the fuck it is. All right, number eight, I wish I would have done this sooner. I quit alcohol two years ago. Two November's ago, I quit alcohol. It was the best thing I ever did. And I was not even a regular drinker, meaning I wasn't someone who had problems with alcohol. I wasn't someone who would regularly get

drunk. In fact, I've only been drunk once in my life and I think I was 17 years old. And I was a social drinker, meaning especially speaking events, right? Like when I'm asked, when I was asked to speak at events up until two years ago and then after the speaking event, there's usually a meet and greet with like the VIP guests who paid more for the tickets, right? During these VIP meet and greets where you're going to talk to people and shake hands and take pictures, I would always go find the hotel bar between the time I saw. I would always go find the hotel bar between the time I spoke and between the time the meet and greet was, like there's like a one hour break.

And I would go find a hotel bar and I would get a cocktail or two, typically a vodka with cranberry juice. And I'd have a couple of those. And I'd be like, all right, takes the edge off because I'm an introvert and now I can do better during the meet and greet. But I realized as I got into my 40s, especially my later 40s, like even one or two cocktails every now and again. And I'd wake up kind of foggy headed them next morning.

I would have horrible sleep that night. I would have indigestion. And I'm like, what the fuck am I doing? I'm a grown-ass man. And I have to have this dependency on a little bit of alcohol just to be able to socialize with people. And I don't know if you drink to take the edge off or if you drink because you want to be able to connect and socialize, it loosens you up a little bit. It takes you from being an introvert like me to an extrovert.

Whatever the fuck it is, man. I wish I would acquit alcohol a lot sooner. decades sooner because what you don't realize is there's this residual buildup of toxins in your body, in your brain that even when you're having drank for like two, three, four weeks, it still slowly dulls you. This is what I found from my own experience of just occasional drinking. So imagine how alcohol slowly dulls you over time. You don't realize it. It kind of builds up in your system. And you only realize how much you've dulled yourself after two or three months of not drinking. I remember about three or four months in after I stopped drinking two years ago.

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basis for a period of time to help kind of flush out all that shit that you carry the limiting beliefs, the self-doubt, the anxiety, the overwhelm, the self-hate that you, that you have from whatever type of abuse or adversity you faced. I don't know if it's abuse from a relationship or abuse from, you know, sexual abuse like I've been through as a kid or physical abuse. You were beat up and slapped around by your parents or by gang members in town or just neighborhood bullies, whatever. Whatever it is, man, we all have some type of trauma that we've experienced. Some of us have many types of traumas that we've experienced. And these traumas end up acting as limitors on the quality of our life. They literally have limited the quality of

your life, your level of happiness, the level of joy and bliss that you can feel and experience, the level of income that you allow yourself to make because you don't feel deserving of making good money and having security and love in your life, right? All these things are a byproduct of fixing the trauma that you've gone through. And so when I say the self-work is the self-worth, It really is, man. Start working on yourself. Heal from your trauma. Overcome the past.

Forgive. I'm not saying forget, but forgive the people that have wronged you. Because you're just holding yourself hostage if you haven't forgiven them yet, right? And I'm telling you, if you heal through your shit, you all of a sudden realize, like, all the limitors that you had placed on yourself and this false story that you had told yourself of who you are and how unlucky you are and how fucked up life is and how you're not worthy and you're not lovable and you self-sabotage. All these things go away.

Literally, I'm a walking, talking example of that, right? I've told you that I've worked with my therapist for 15 months straight, every week for 15 months straight. And his name is Kevin. And Kevin, in addition to reading the books and doing hard shit and seeking out coaches and mentors, working with a good therapist helps you flush out the limiting beliefs that you have

that end up creating this false narrative, this false story about yourself of who you are. And then you create this fake identity of being a unlovable, unworthy person. And then you go through life looking for evidence that proves that you're unworthy, unlovable, not meant for success and happiness. And then, of course, you know this.

You always find what you're looking for. So if you're going through life, looking for evidence that you're not a lovable, likable, likable, successful person, you're going to find that because you always find what you're looking for in life. Guys, I'm telling you, if you do the self-work, you become someone that is unfuck-withable. I don't know if that's a word, but you cannot be fucked with.

You can't. You just have this stoicism about you. You just have this energy about you. Once you have done the work, you have healed, you have a level of confidence that no amount of fucking Jordans, Rolexes, Lambeaux, fucking Gucci, Louis Vuitton bullshit can buy. There's something magical about the self-confidence that you can build from healing and from developing a fit and athletic body and a fit and athletic mind and a strong and resilient emotion, right? Like your strong emotional like capacity where shit doesn't just make you fall apart and you don't get triggered and you don't all of a sudden go into your trauma body. But you're like, fuck, I can handle anything. You become unfuck withable.

And that's a really good thing to become. So I want to thank you guys for watching and listening to this episode of the Bedroskulian show. September 13th and 14th, we are doing Bedroskulian live in Scottsdale, Arizona. For two whole days, I'm going to pour into you all things money, meaning, and self-mastery. I want to see you make more money. I'm going to give you the blueprint, how to make more money, how to launch your business, how to create side incomes. I'm going to teach you how to have more meaning, purpose, passion, significance in life.

That's what life is about, meaning, man. And then finally, self-mastery, how to transcend and heal. become your second, your 2.0 self, like your second version of yourself. And by the way, as someone who I believe, I've achieved my 2.0 self, I believe there's another level to 2.0. There's another level. And I realize the work never gets done. We just keep evolving and growing and become the second and the third and the fourth and the fifth version of ourselves. And that is the work we must do if we want to live a life with no regret at the end. So I hope to see you at Bedroscolon Live. Go to bedroscolion.com and you can buy tickets there.

VIP platinum is sold out. You still have VIP gold and general admission. I can't wait to see you there. And thank you for watching and listening to this episode. And remember this, that average is the enemy, that success is your responsibility. And change can take place in an instant if you decide to flip the switch. I'll see you next time.

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