Bedros Keuilian Podcast Show - 113. 5 Stupid Mistakes Men Make That Destroy Their Lives

Episode Date: November 26, 2024

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The people with better lives are organically driven to solve problems, find solutions, and not complain. Welcome to the Bedros Koolian show. Back when Q was rolling with Lorenzo and a Benzo, I was banging with a gang and instrumental. Five stupid things that men do that absolutely need to stop. Hey guys, welcome to the Bedros Koolian show. I'm Bedroskulian, and today's episode is all about the five stupid things that men do, and they need to stop doing this.

And so if you are one of these dudes who are doing any one of these things or maybe all five of these things, please stop. Let's get your life in order so you can get your shit in order so you can start making more money, finding that lady, having a great life, contributing to humanity because that is what we need to do as men instead of being losers. So let's kick it off with thing number one that you need to stop doing. And that is to stop seeking the attention, the approval, and validation of others, especially of other men. Do not go around hero-worshipping. There's only one pedestal.

And if you put someone else on that pedestal and you hero worship or seek their approval or try and always get their validation, you're never going to get the validation that you need, which is the validation that comes from the internal higher self. Right. The reason that you look at other people, athletes, celebrities, influencers as heroes, as people that you want to put up on a pedestal is because they've accomplished something. They have done something. They have solved problems.

they have added value, they have created status for themselves, and you know that's something that you crave. Now women, women get natural status, right? Women are born, and they are born into status for the most part because men want women. And so we are always after the women that we want to end up making our wives. However, it's rare for a woman to chase down a man, but it's very normal for men to chase women. So women have natural status, number one. Women have also a natural sense of purpose, meaning and significance, especially when as they get older and they want to have kids, then they have a child. And all of a sudden, they're like, man, this child is everything to me.

This is my meaning. This is my sense of purpose. And I'm going to nurture this child forever. But as men, we have to build our sense of purpose, status, meaning significance. And so if you're always seeking out the approval and attention of other men or even other women, what's really happening is you're trying to fulfill a void that can't be fulfilled because it can only be fulfilled from the inner higher self. The void can only be fulfilled from the inner higher self. So what does that mean? That means instead of trying to seek out approval and validation from

others and starting to hero worship, you might want to start actually building status with self. What does that mean? Build your physical self, like your health, your nutrition, build your mental and emotional strength, right? Like become more mentally and emotionally resilient and tough. And become a well-read and spoken man. People love and respect men who are fit and athletic, like who have a presence. A man who walks into this room and is fit and athletic

and has, he just organically has a presence about him that I would respect and I would immediately give that person my attention if they wanted to talk to me. I would take them more serious if they wanted to talk to me. A man that walks into this room and is not physically built is fat, shaped like a pear or a pumpkin,

I will just not have the level of respect for them that I would have for the previous man, and therefore I will not take the second man more seriously, and I will not entertain their conversation as seriously. That's the reality. This is how we men roll. So you have to be physically fit

mentally and emotionally strong. And of course, you have to be well read and spoken. What does this mean? This means that three to four hours a day that is statistically accurate, three to four hours a day that you spend on social media and TV and video games, if you can just carve out half of those hours, two of those hours and dedicate to being a better communicator speaker and start reading books on history, on, on, say.

on marketing, on stoicism, on self-development, on personal growth, you will become such a better, more attractive human. That is how a man builds status. Thing number two that you've got to stop doing is that is the vices. You've got to stop the vices that are ruining you, killing your dreams and ambitions, and keeping you stressed, depressed, anxious, and bored. You're bored out of your mind because you're screen sucking so much, you're constantly having this sense of phomo, like you're missing out on life, yet you're not going out and doing anything to give yourself a really cool, fun, purposeful, meaningful life. You're not because the vice is either social media, it's video games, it's pornography, it could be alcohol, it could be

weed, it could be any form of distraction gambling that has got such a hold of you that you're getting these cheap dopamine hits from these vices and not going out and doing the things that can actually give you a really cool social life, make you real interesting so that if you were to actually post something on social media, people would be like, man, that's a formidable man. That's a dude who's getting after it in life. Like, holy shit, look at that. Right? So you've got to stop the vices because each time you have an addiction to a vice.

And you're like, yeah, but it really takes the edge off and I could sleep better. Or it helps me focus or whatever the bullshit lie is. Or it's just enough for me to escape my reality. You want to escape your reality? if you're looking to escape your reality, it's because you have dug yourself in such a such a hole. The hole might be a shitty relationship. It might be you've eaten so much and worked out so little that you've gotten fat and floppy.

It might be that you have squandered your money and you're living on your parents' basement couch. It might be that your relationship is absolutely broken and busted. And if you're doing any of these things as a form of escape or distraction, stop those vices, homie, and get back to fixing these things. A man attacks the hills in his life. Let me tell you something. During the project, when we run the project,

we take these men on a hike. It's about a four mile hike, and we take them on this four mile hike three times. And it's out here in Chino Hills. And as the name implies, Chino Hills, there's lots of hills, especially on this hike. In this four mile stretch, there's three big hills. And we go to the end of the hike.

which is two miles and then we turn around and come back. So that means we're going up hills six times, right? Three hills there and back six times. We're going uphill. And guess what we condition these men to do? We condition them to stop, we're hiking. We condition to stop at the bottom of the hill, take a look at the hill, and then get their game face on, and then scream and attack the hill.

One of the project phrases that we have is to attack the hill. And you're like, well, what does hiking have to do with any of this stuff? With getting over my vices. Well, if you've been meaning to stop smoking weed and get off of alcohol and stop the pornography and the gambling and the only fans and the social media, if you've been meaning to do that, you're going to get around to doing that, that is the equivalent of someone just slowly going up the hill during the hike and looking at their feet, being sad and depressed, that they're going uphill and it's hard, it's difficult. The slower you go, the longer it takes, the more momentum

you lose. But if you stop at that hill, you look up and you proclaim that you're going to get on top and you attack and then you run up that hill with everything you got. That hill is a metaphor for life. It doesn't matter if it's a hard time in your relationship. It doesn't matter if it's a hard time physically or health. It doesn't matter if it's a financial hardship. You have to attack the thing that is in front of you. You must attack the hills in your life. The hills take longer. They exhaust you more and they're more painful if you slowly inch your way up these hills of life. But if you want to take care of these hills known as vices in your life, you've got to attack them. Go cold turkey. Replace them with better habits because if you're an addict, then guess what?

The best thing about an addict is you can get addicted to something positive, you donkey. You do know that, right? If you are addicted to weed, to alcohol, to pornography, you can get addicted to making money, to solving problems, to helping humanity, to creating solutions. You just have to change your addiction to something else. And if you're willing to do that, you will attack these hills and get past. Guys, quick interruption to the show.

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A man solves problems. A man is always solution driven. When I hear a man who is complaining, who is a victim, who is a byproduct of all these things that happened to him, she broke up with him, she cheated on him, the mom and dad divorced. They, they, they were, he was brought to this country against his will because he wanted to live and wherever the fuck he's from, but his parents brought him here, and he had to deal with a lot of racism and bigotry.

Guess what, Buttercup? Each time you complain and you act like a victim, you just reinforce this negative story in your head, and you end up finding more evidence to be a victim. At some point, you have to stop being a victim. I get it. The people around you go, oh, poor little Bobby,

so sad that these things happen to you. and it's some form of attention and it gives you some form of validation and it gives you a little dopamine hit so you go, oh, you know what? I can just go around giving people my sad story complaining to them like a victim because everyone will make me feel better about myself.

But then you go home and you sulk because it's you by yourself with your vices again. And so I'm telling you right now, stop being a victim. Whatever happened to you, physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, relational, is behind you. Each time you tell that story,

each time you relive it in your head, each time you complain about it, you are reactivating it and bring it to the present. You could either leave it in the rear room mirror and proactively start solving problems looking for better opportunities, or you can be a victim and continue to suffer throughout life

and wonder why everyone else has a better life than you do. And I'm telling you right now, that people with better lives are organically driven to solve problems, find solutions, and not complain. The people that have shitty lives, avoid problem solving, sit in their own mess, and create to dig a deeper hole for themselves. Number four that you got to stop doing. Stop being broke.

Stop being broke. We live in a time now where you can make money on the interwebs. Like you could literally start a side gig and bring in the same amount of money that you are bringing in from your job, from your career, within six months. months to a year, you can bring in a second source of income that rivals your current source of income. Think about that. And if you did that, not only does your lifestyle improve, but now you have options. Because if you were to quit your day job, then you can go all in on this side gig and make it your main gig and scale it bigger. There's no reason to be broke today. There isn't. Like, there was a time in the last four years that you were complaining about the administration.

Right? I get it. Fuck Joe Biden. And they're letting you. all these illegals in and they're taking all of our jobs and what am I going to do with all this inflation and high interest rates? Everything is so expensive. Gas and groceries and rent and everything. I can barely get by. All right. Now we got Trump in office, homie. Now we've got better opportunities. Now you got ways that you can search out on the internet and find alternative of ways to make money. Literally, you can build an audience and become an affiliate of a product or service and make commissions selling other people's shit.

You can learn how to sell and be a high ticket closer, right? You can learn how to market and be a traffic buyer for small businesses in your community. Buying traffic on Facebook and Instagram, running their Facebook and Instagram ads, charging each of them $1,500 a month. Think about that for a minute, right? Hell, you got 10 of those businesses. Now you're making 15,000 a month running their social media campaigns. There's so many cool ways that you could do side businesses that'll make you an additional six figures a year.

There's no reason you're broke other than the fact that you are lazy. You have chosen to not acquire the skills that develop and produce high income and you have taken the path of being a victim and you complain. And if you're broke, let me tell you, man, that's not an attractive thing in a man. It's just not. Like the types of dudes that are the most attractive or the dudes that are financially able to carry their own weight.

They're able to make money and share that wealth and be generous with that money. They're able to make money and solve their own problems and other people's problems with that money. You can't count on a handout. You can't keep putting yourself in debt and hoping that mom and dad keep picking up the tab for you. You can't keep waiting for your wife or your girlfriend to make more money.

I know so many women who reach out to me and they're like, hey, what do I do if I'm making more money than my man? And he just comes home and he plays video games instead of trying to figure out how to make more money than me. Women will lose respect for you if they are making more money than you. Women will lose respect for you if you are not making enough to take care of yourself and your family. And if you're like, well, fuck those kind of women. Bro, life is expensive. It is our job as men.

We are the hunters. Going out there and making money, figuring out how to make money is the modern day version of hunting. If we were cavemen, you wouldn't expect your wife to take a fucking club or a fucking spear and go hunting for the saber-toothed tiger to eat. Would you? That is your job. That is your job. That is the job of the men and the tribe to go out and hunt. and to bring in the food to help create the shelter

because you might sell parts of that meat for material to build shelter. The modern day version of a man hunting is a man producing money. A man that's broke has the lowest value on the totem pole. Is disrespected by other men, is not loved and cared for by women. And truthfully, your parents' couch

that you're living on, your parents feel like they failed. They feel like they failed. They'll never tell you this. But I'm telling you right now, if you're mooching off your parents, you're living on their couch in the spare bedroom and the bedroom that I grew up and shut the fuck up and move out, make money. Start being self-sufficient. They see you as losers, don't you know?

And number five, stop waiting. So many of you are out there. there are waiting, man, men don't wait. They go out there and conquer. Stop waiting for that promotion. Stop waiting for that perfect time. Stop waiting for that opportunity. Stop waiting for a handout.

Stop waiting for permission. Just live urgently. What does Jocko say? Jaco says default aggressive, right? You can just add default aggressive and urgent. Add urgent to that as well. Set your default to aggressive and urgent. How long are you going to wait?

You're going to wait for the perfect time. I'm going to wait for the perfect president. Well, you might have gotten one, or maybe not. Maybe you're like Kamala would have been my perfect president. Well, guess what? She ain't. She ain't. So what are you going to do about it?

You're going to wait to see who goes into office four years from now? You're going to wait to see what happens with the economy? You're going to wait to see if your boss gives you a raise? You're going to wait to see for what? Men don't wait. Men lean into action. Men have urgency. Men default aggressive.

And if you are willing to do these five things, to stop seeking the approval and validation of others and start building your own personal status, to stop devices and addictions that are keeping you dumb and dependent and depressed and anxious, and that are killing your ambitions, if you are willing to stop acting like a little victim

and complaining about everything, and instead man up and start solving problems and getting after it in life, if you are willing to stop being broke and figuring out that side income, that next source of income, that next hustle, develop the skills that are high value, high income that you can deploy and change your financial status.

And if you can stop waiting and start leaning into urgent, aggressive action, your life will be exponentially better. You will be respected more. They will chase you down. You will be, high status and you are welcome to come to the high ticket mastermind on December 6th. If you were an online coach, you like that transition, if you're an online coach, you have

some kind of business coaching, real estate coaching, financial coaching, fitness coaching, any kind of coaching business that you might have, I am going to teach you guys how to create multiple six figures within your first year. If you have a coaching business and you're actually good at being a coach and you just need to acquire the leads, build the social media following, learn how to sell, learn how to scale this business, learn how to structure your offer, learn what to do to build your personal brand. That is what I teach to my domination your coaching clients. But on December 6th, I am getting 25 of you together and you're going to come out here at a Fit Body Boot Camp headquarters. And for pennies compared to the $100,000, my coaching clients pay me,

we're going to work together for an entire day and you're going to walk away with the blueprint to scale the business idea that you have. But with that said, guys, I hope this lands. I'm tired of seeing great dudes like you who have so much potential and you can create so much change and solve so many problems for the world, literally sitting there suffering in silence because you fail to take action and you fail to execute. on what you know you need to. So with that said, click the link in my bio

and you can join us for the coaching day on December 6th, and remember this that averages the enemy, that success is your responsibility, and change can take place in an instant if you are willing to flip the switch. I'll see you next time. Back when Q was rolling with Lorenzo and a Benzo,

I was banging with a gang of instrumental.