Bedros Keuilian Podcast Show - 146. The Truth About Men

Episode Date: July 15, 2025

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A man must have a mission and a man without a mission becomes a man who lives in misery. Welcome to the Bedroes-Cooleyan show. Guys, welcome to the Bedroes-Cooleon show. My name is Bedros-Cooley-Cooley. And today's episode is all about the truth about men. And specifically, I want to talk to you about the truth about men what no one has the balls to say anymore. Now, this episode is not for the weak men.

This episode is for men who feel this fire in their gut that have this primal desire to go out and conquer and achieve. And it is not for the women who want to find weak men and domesticate them and turn them into houseplants or pussycats. It is for the women who are like, hey, I'm looking for a masculine man, a man who can conquer and provide and make it happen for me. I'm going to tell you exactly what you need to know about men like this. And for men like you, fellas, men like you, you will have a lot of validation from what I'm about to share. The reason I know this is because I came up with this idea because so many dudes approach me and they're like, dude, this is what I want to do in life, but I'm afraid to voice my opinion. I'm afraid to lead my family.

I'm afraid to ask for that raise. I'm afraid to take the risk. And I'm like, bro, it is factory installed in you to be primal. It is factory installed in you to go out and conquer. It is factory reinstalled in you to want to build a legacy, to want to be supported by your spouse, right, by the person who like should have your back. And they're like, dude, thank you for telling me that. You validated my feelings, but I didn't have the balls to go out there and say it. Right. And so hear me out here because I think it is very important for men to understand that what you feel in your heart and your mind about who you are is very normal. And I'm talking to the driven men, the ambitious men.

Like if you're like, man, I just want to be average and weak and mediocre and sit in the basement and jack off and play video games and eat ding-dongs and hoes and you know that. That's not who I'm talking to, right? If you want your lady to treat you like she's your mom and to take care of you and to go out and out earn you, that is not the dude I'm talking to. Like stop listening, unfollow, unsubscribe and bounce. But if you are the guy that's like, man, I need someone. want to speak my truth out there so that I can show them. I can show the world. That's exactly how I feel. This is the truth about men. Number one, men are builders by nature, period. We are builders by nature. We want to build communities. We want to build businesses. We want to build families. We want to build

our bodies. We want to build companies, right? We are builders by nature. And so for men, our mission is to build. And if we have nothing to build, then we will find ourselves anxious, depressed, stressed out, overwhelmed, and in a funk. Like the happiest men I know are the men who end their day being fatigued and exhausted and tired men are happy men. We're just like dogs, man. And if you are tired and fatigued and exhausted at the end of the day because you worked out, you trained hard, you got after it, you got your work done, you served your family

afterwards, right? You spent time with your kids. and you're going to bed tired, you're going to go to bed with a sense of great fulfillment. But understand that as men, we're builders, it is okay to want to build. And if you're a woman and you're like,

well, I feel threatened when he has these ambitions and goals, you should not feel threatened. He's doing this for you. He's doing this for your family. And if you feel threatened, if you feel like his ambitions and goals are the other woman,

and you start competing against that, that is the fastest way to lose a man. Because a man must have a mission. And a man without a mission becomes a man who lives in misery. With that said, we move on to number two. We crave respect more than love. Now, for women, especially, I know it's hard for you to understand this because you want to be loved and you want to be reassured a million times that you want to be loved.

And that's cool. That is what is factory installed for a woman. But for a dude, we want to be respected. Now, guys, you know this. Like, we need to go out and hunt and provide and protect. be gentlemen and be chivalrous and we need to do our part as men keep ourselves fit and be able to like have charisma all these things and women have their role right so i'm not going to go break that down we've done episodes on that before but as men we want to be respected by our women more than we

want to be loved ideal situation we want to be respected and loved but men will crave respect over love any given time right and respect is oxygen to the masculine soul and the sooner you understand that as a woman and the sooner that you are able to transfer that as a man to the people around you. Now, by the way, fellas, you cannot be respected if you're not doing anything to earn respect. So it is a man that goes above and beyond the expectations who is going to earn respect. Respect is earned, never given. You can't just command it because, well, I'm a man and I want to feel respected. Well, great, bro.

What did you do to earn it? What did you do to earn the respect? How did you exceed expectations? How did you go above and beyond? What were the sacrifices that you made? And if you were not willing to earn the respect, fellas, you will not get the respect that you so badly crave, right? I know what that's like.

And I love being respected. And I love the fact that I do things that earn me the respect. Are they hard? Sure. Are they difficult? Yep. Is it exhausting at times? Yep. Do I question my next move sometimes? Yep. Absolutely. But it is so fulfilling to be able to go above and beyond what is expected so that you can win that respect. And when you do, it is an amazing feeling. Number three, we want peace, not drama. Ladies, please understand this. said if you want a man who's a high achiever, who's ambitious, who's a go-getter, who's willing to take care of you, you better provide him peace and not drama.

We're not looking for drama. Men will always retreat from a relationship that is an emotional mindfield. That's just a fact. Men will retreat from any relationship that is a emotional mindfield where we don't know what's coming next. We're walking on eggshells. Watch out because what you say, what you do, how you look, look on your face might trigger some emotional reaction and now you have to go into self-defense mode.

If we're out there conquering, fighting, earning, providing, protecting, we want to come home to peace and not drama. Men, I know you've been wanting to say this. There, I said it for you. Number four, we are not emotionless, not at all. We just process things differently. As men, sometimes we don't show emotion. That doesn't mean. that we don't feel. We feel very deeply. We just don't vocalize it all the time, right? We express love through actions and sacrifice. That doesn't mean that we're broken. That just means we're men. So ladies, if you're like, dude, I really would love for you to be more emotional and share your emotions and vulnerability with me, that is not how we are factory installed. That is not how we are

wired. That is how you are wired. Just like a dude doesn't expect you to think and operate like him. You think, operate and feel differently. We think operate and feel differently. We could respect that about one another and live symbiotically. Or we can go to battle and you can keep demanding that of your man until he decides to bounce. Guys, quick interruption to the Bedrose-Colion show, if you are into having better health and you want more energy, if you want to have stronger immune system so you don't get sick as much, and you want to fight off inflammation in your gut and in your joints, then the new and improved truly wellness shot is for you.

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We are not good at trying to read your mind and your thoughts. Men are very simple. We are very simple. Speak to us directly. Be brutally honest. Get to the point and do not hide from things that might seem harsh. And when we speak to you, we are. direct, we are brutally honest, and we may not hide how we feel. That doesn't mean that we don't love

you and we don't respect you. We are direct, not indirect. We cannot decode emotional girl code. And so if you promise not to be hurt by our directness and brutal honesty, we promise to do better at learning to ask you what exactly are you saying, baby girl, because if you can explain to me directly, honestly, and get to the point, I can help become a better man, right? We want to become a better man for you, but we just don't understand girl code. Number six, men want to lead, men want to conquer, men want to build and hunt. It is in us. It is especially for driven men, men who have fire in their bellies, men who are primal. And how often do you say like, man, I want a man who's a go-getter, who's ambitious, who's driven, who can protect, who can provide,

who can make me feel safe, and then you have him, and then you feel like you want to try and somehow domesticate him or declaw him. We're not looking to be domesticated. We don't want to be declawed and defamed. We want you to pat us on the back and say, go get him, go earn for us, go make it happen, give us the lifestyle, hunt, satisfy your desire to conquer, and then come back to me and share the spoils, right? That's what we want to do for you.

And it's hard for a man to kind of speak this way to you because the world has declawed and demasculinized men so much that we feel like speaking directly this way and telling you exactly the truth about men, how we think, how we operate, how we function, that it's toxic. It's not. This is how we are. This is how we are. And finally, point number seven is this. Ladies, when you ask us, hey, what are you thinking right now?

And we say nothing. We really mean it. Now I know women, you guys think on multiple levels across multiple platforms through multiple universes. Not us men. Not us men. We're very simple. And it's laughing because you know that, hey, what are you thinking? Absolutely nothing.

Like we could actually just have static like static on a 1980s television when all the shows stopped broadcasting and it's just static. That's us. Why? As my therapist, Kevin Downing once said, he said, men are wired differently. We know how to put things in a box, just like women do. Except our mental boxes are not touching. Our boxes are separated from one thing to another.

So I'm going to go to the gym box. And when I'm at the gym, I'm just thinking about working out. And then when I'm at work, I'm just thinking about work. And then when I'm like hanging out with the homies, I'm just thinking about with the homies. And when I'm rolling with my friends, I'm just rolling with my friends. I'm not thinking about anything else. And if I'm driving through town with you, I'm just thinking about driving.

And so there might be a look on my face. There might be a look on our face. That doesn't mean we're thinking anything or, you know, the poop's going to hit the fan or anything to that effect. Kevin also described this to me. He says, women are differently. They've got boxes too, except all their boxes are touching. And then all those boxes that are touching and stacked on top of one another have wires going from one box to the next. And so because of that, you're always thinking about something and that's cool.

That is a really impressive way that your brain works and functions. And you can think on multi-levels. As a man, we're very simple. When you ask us, whatever we're thinking and we say nothing, we truly mean nothing. So you don't have to exaggerate any fears in your head where you go, oh, shit, he said he's not thinking about anything. But really, he's thinking about something. He just doesn't know how to tell me. It's probably bad news and this bad news could mean the end of our relationship or whatever.

Nope. He's literally thinking about nothing. And so I wanted to share these truths with you guys because if we can do better as men and explaining how we operate the truth about us and how we feel, how we think. And then if women, you can accept the fact that this is how men are wired, just like we accept the fact that that's how you're wired. Like you're going to take a long while to get ready. Right? Most women take a long while to get ready. Those of us men that have women who get ready very quickly, hey, guess what? We're lucky. But most women take a while to get ready. That's cool. That's cool. You might do an outfit change several times. That's cool. Very cool. You might him and ha about what to order off the menu. That's cool. We'll give you the time and the space for that. We come in and we go, boom, meat and potatoes.

I want some form of meat and carbs. It doesn't even matter where, right? Again, I share this with you because that is the beauty of femininity and masculinity. That is why we jive well together once one side accepts the other and the other accepts that. But if we don't and we continue to try to change one another, then we end up having problems because soon resentment sets in. Now, is there a place for change? Absolutely. If you are broken, if you are damaged, if you are unheeled, if you've dealt with trauma,

and you're bringing all this emotional baggage from your past relationships, fellas, into this current relationship, and therefore you're sabotaging this relationship. And the same goes for women. But obviously this episode is about the truth about men. So I'm talking to you, fellas. I want to validate your feelings. I want to validate your human experience. if you're bringing shit from another past relationship into this one, then you can expect the outcome of this relationship to be like the last one.

Or if you're bringing anger, you're bringing no patience. If you're someone like I used to be where soon as a argument begins, you retreat and bounce instead of staying and talking about it. Like that used to be me. The old version of me was I would bounce. I would want to run away and I would I would leave the proximity. Now a woman feels abandoned when that happens. Now I would do that because it's like, well, I care about my thoughts and my feelings. But if I truly care about her thoughts and feelings as well, then I'm going to stay and I'm going to do things differently.

And that means I have to heal. I can't treat this relationship like that relationship. So you can't treat this relationship like that relationship. The younger version of me that would retreat, that would resort to anger very quickly, that was massively impatient, that didn't choose to understand her perspective, that version of me had to heal. And I hope you're willing to do that as well. So there is room for change. But that change has to be done or else the outcome will be the same.

as the all other relationships that you had in the past. Guys, I hope you got lots of value from this episode. If you got value from this episode, you're watching this on YouTube. Please do me a favor and hit that subscribe button. Give me a like. Drop a comment so that we can reach. We can get the algorithms to reach more men and help support and elevate more men to the 2.0 selves. And always remember this, that averages the enemy, that success is your responsibility,

and change can take place in an instant if you are willing to flip the switch. I'll see you next time. What's the difference? Lorenzo and a Benzo I was banging with a gang of instrumental.