Bedros Keuilian Podcast Show - 156. 4 Stupid Mistakes That Kill a Man’s Success

Episode Date: September 23, 2025

Men don’t fail because of the system. They fail because of the choices they make.In this episode of The Bedros Keuilian Show, I am breaking down the 4 mistakes that destroy a man’s future. Relationships that drain you. Passions you never chase. A body you neglect. Money you never make.Watch this if you are ready to stop being average and start living with strength and clarity.DOMINATION DOWNLOADSTRAIGHT FROM THE DESK OF BEDROS KEUILIANYour weekly no B.S. newsletter to help you dominate in business and in lifehttps://bedroskeuilian.com/MAN UP SCALE BUNDLE: $29 (100% Goes to Charity)Get your Digital Man Up book + Audiobook + 2 Exclusive MASTERCLASSES & Support Shriners Children’s Hospital. https://www.manuptribe.com/limited-offerREGISTER FOR THE LEGACY TRIBEGet the Life, Money, Meaning & Impact You Deservehttps://bedroskeuilian.com/legacytribeJOIN MY FREE 6-WEEK CHALLENGE:Transform into a Purpose-Driven Manhttps://bedroskeuilian.com/challengeTHE SQUIRE PROGRAM: A rite of Passage for Your Son as He Becomes a ManA Father and Son Experience That Will Be Remembered FOREVERhttps://squireprogram.com/registerTruLean Supplements | https://www.trulean.com/pages/bedrosGet 50% Off Trulean Subscribe & Save BundleUse Code: BEDROS Few Will Hunt Apparel | https://fewwillhunt.com/Get 20% Off Your Entire OrderUse Code: BEDROSOPEN A FIT BODY LOCATIONA High-Profit, Scalable Gym Franchise Opportunity Driven By Impacthttps://sales.fbbcfranchise.com/get-started?utm_source=bedrosPODCAST EPISODES:https://bedroskeuilian.com/podcast/STAY CONNECTED:Website | https://bedroskeuilian.com/Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/bedroskeuilian/LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/bedroskeuilianTwitter | https://twitter.com/bedroskeuilian

The woman that you choose to be your wife will be the number one determining factor of success or failure in your life. Welcome to the Bedroskulean show. Back when Q was rolling with Lorenzo and a Benzo, I was banging with a gang of instrumental. Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages. Welcome to the Bedroskulian show. My name is Bedroskulian. And today's episode is a really awesome episode that I've got teed up. So let's just jump right into it.

All right. So we're going to talk about the four stupid things that men do to completely kill their dreams. That's right. Four stupid things men do to completely kill their dreams. Hey man, I was a big WWE. Back in my day, it was called WWF fan. So that's where that little announcement came from. But seriously, we want to talk about the four stupid things men do to kill their dreams.

Because in my 51 years, I've come across a lot of men because of the events that I speak at, the events that I run, the places that I go. And I meet so many men. who seem defeated, who seem dead, who seem tired, who seem like zombies, and it shouldn't be that way. So if you are doing these four things to ruin your life, you can fix them. And if you're a young man and you're just starting out in life and you're like, what can I do to make sure I don't fall into these four pitfalls that will ruin my life and kill my dreams? Pay close attention, right? So here we go.

Thing number one that men do to ruin their life and kill their dreams, they choose the wrong spouse, period. The woman that you choose to be your wife will be the number one determining factor of success or failure in your life. Because if you've got someone who believes in your dreams, who gives you peace when you come home, who encourages you and motivates you and inspires you and just puts that wind in your wings, you are going to do better in life. But if you've got someone who's a damsel in distress where you have to be a captain, save a hoe every time, and you have to deal with drama and chaos and emotional outbursts and you can't trust them and they doubt you and they don't feel as though you have what it takes and they clip your wings and they don't let you

explore the things that you're interested in in terms of making money and the adventures that you want to have as a man in terms of maybe raising your son and your kids or or just just the fitness goals that you might have I literally know a couple where the woman gets upset when the husband goes to the gym because she is so codependent, she's so needy for his attention, that she gets passive aggressive with him when he goes to the gym. You tell me how that relationship is going to thrive. You tell me how he's not going to resent her and have frustrations with her and ultimately end up leaving her, right?

And so the reality is that's the decision that he made. He chose her. And so those of you out there, fellas, if you're like, oh man, you just described my girl. You just described my girl, man, that sucks for me. Well, guess what? That is a decision that you made. And you can change that. You can change that by having a conversation with her. You can change that by leaving her. And I hate to say it that way, but at the end of the day, you only have a finite amount of time on this planet. And if you have a dream in your head and heart that you want to accomplish, if you're ambitious, if you have goals and you made a bad decision

in getting into a relationship with someone who is chaos, who's toxic, who's narcissistic, who is insecure, who is codependent to the point that you can't even go to the fucking gym, then you might want to consider fixing that. Maybe a conversation, maybe therapy for this woman, or maybe the exit, right? These things have to happen because I would say the same thing to a woman if she came to me and said, hey, look, I've got a dude who's lazy, who's addicted, who just gambles away money, who doesn't go out there and earn, and I feel like I have to make ends meet,

and I have to do the man work as well. I'd be like, you know what? You better have a talk with this motherfucker. Because if he can't get his shit together, then you are going to have to bounce. Because at the end of the day, we only have so much time on this planet, and I want to have the most awesome experience in life

that I can have on this planet. I want to serve people. I want to feel that I'm purpose-driven. I want to feel that the person that I'm with is someone who believes in me. like I believe in her and they inspire me and I inspire them. We're self-motivated. We're self-driven and we want to see each other thrive, right?

And so fellas, you did not get into a relationship just to be clipped. If you know what I mean. Most of you felt like you had to save a chick and she probably came from a bad home or a bad relationship and now you realize, oh, saving her wasn't what I wanted to do. What I wanted to do is find someone who was equally as driven, equally as ambitious, equally as committed to the self-growth and personal development and self-mastery so we can rise together, right? That's what you're looking for.

So have the conversation. It's worth it. I'd rather have the conversation and rock the boat than be passive-aggressive and let that lead to frustration and that leads to resentment. And then before you know it, you've left a relationship when it could have been fixed. At least give her the chance. And if you can't, there is no chance. You've tried to give her the chance.

You've had the conversations. Nothing else is working. Bounce. And young men, your job is not to save her. Your job is not to save her. Your job is not to look at her as mama. So she's not going to save you either. You're finding a partner in life.

Someone who gives you peace, who believes in you, who inspires you, and who sees that you can achieve a lot more. Sets higher standards for you. but you also have to be the kind of guy that is worthy of her. So you better show up. You better execute. You better keep your promises. You better be respectful. And you better be a hard charging man.

Thing number two. Thing number two that kills the most amount of dreams in men is not pursuing their passion or taking risks. Think about this. And I hear this often. You've probably heard it to, well, you know, and then I got married. Then I had kids. You know, then the mortgage.

and a couple of car payments. And so it's just a rat race of life. You know how it is. Same old, same old. That should not be life. You should be pursuing passions and excitements and figuring out what you're interested in. You can still take care of your family, pay your bills, and still be out there with some portion of your time doing things that you're interested in. Taking those risks, finding new passions, new interests, new hobbies, making new friends.

As men, we're not just robots, man. You're not supposed to just be out there earning and providing. That's great. That's formidable. I respect that. But why can't you take some risks? Why can't you pursue passions? Because then you're going to end up having regret thinking about what could have been,

the guy that I could have been, had I structured my time more, had I taken that risk, had I pursued that passion. And so I'm telling you, man. The number two thing that causes men to kill their dreams is they don't take the risks and they don't chase their passions because they get stuck in this rat race of life. My job is to earn and to provide. And I just got to pay the mortgage and provide food and the car payments and rat race. And you develop that freaking dad body.

And then the rest of it is just shot to hell, which leads us to thing number three that men do to kill their dreams in life. And this is a massive regret. and it is to neglect their mental and physical health. Hey guys, quick interruption to the Bedroskoolion show. It is cold and flu season, and I want to make sure that you have a strong immune system and that your body is fighting off inflammation

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Now, back to the show. One of the biggest regrets that men have is not possible. pursuing their physical and mental health more aggressively, not getting after it in the gym, not eating clean, because now you get over the hill at what, 35, you have a dad bod, you have tithies that I can milk and a gelatinous belly with stretch marks, a fucking belly button hole so big the entire universe can get sucked into it and lost. For what? For what? Because you neglected your fitness? What kind of an example are you to your spouse? What kind of an example are you to your kids? Well, I tell them to eat right and work out. Well, forget what you tell them.

Look at what you're doing in terms of the role model. You're neglecting your physical health. You're drinking too much. You're eating too much processed food. You're social scrolling until the cows come home. The average American man scrolls for three and a half hours a day on social media, wasting time. I could start a whole new nine figure company if I could acquire three and a half hours a day. I could develop a whole new hobby and skill set if I could acquire three and a half hours a day. So you can't tell me you don't have time because you probably are the average American who's scrolling three and a half hours a day, neglecting your workout, neglecting eating right,

you've developed a body that is now betraying you. It's falling apart. You have no energy. Why? Because you're not doing things that requires energy. So your body says, I'm only going to give you enough energy for what you need to just be this mediocre dude who schleps around life is not respected by your wife or kids or the people that you work with and lead and you're just going to exist. So I'll just give you enough energy for that.

And so by the time two o'clock rolls around, you're yawning, you're tired, you're eating more processed food, sucking down an energy drink, chasing up with a coffee for what? Treat yourself like an athlete, man, mentally, physically, emotionally. And if you can start dialing in your mental, physical, emotional health, you will be fucking locked in. Father Michael Butler, a dear friend of mine, someone who's spoken at BK Live, runs an amazing church out there in Michigan. He was overweight, and what he told me was, man, I was overweight all up until my mid-50s. And he goes, you know, if you know what priests wear, we wear this big giant black gown type thing, right? I don't know what it's called. So if you're watching this on YouTube, leave it in the

comments. What is the thing that priests wear? Is that a frock? I don't know. Is it a cloak? I don't know. A big moo-moo? I don't know. But whatever it is, he was like, man, I used to be able to hide my body behind that, under that. And then he told me, he goes, but then I realized for my congregation to bleed, I must hemorrhage, Bedros. I said, so what did you do? He goes, I decided that I'm going to start eating right. I decided that I'm going to work out. And I did that so much that I had the confidence to do my first fitness physique show at the age of 60 or 61 years old. So if you're like, man, it's too late for me, man, I'm 30 something, 40 something, 50 something. Remember, Father Michael Butler got his ass in shape, started eating right, training right, all while working, all while being married,

having grown kids and having an entire church of humans to look after. And he did a fitness competition. So get yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally fit, fellas. And number four, another big mistake, a stupid thing that men do to ruin their life and to kill their dreams is to not make enough money. Where you're going, I just need to make an X amount of dollars to live, to pay our bills. Not realizing that inflation again is around the corner. Not realizing that the next disaster or pandemic or terrorist attack is around the corner. Why is that important for you? Well, it's events like that that all of a sudden you lost your job.

Or maybe your company got bought out by another company and they're downsizing your department or position. You've got to start making more money. Don't just make enough to fill your cup. Make enough money to overflow. Because when your cup overflow with, then you're able to help others in your circle, your parents, your spouse's parents, a cause or church or charity that you believe in. You can set your kids up to win in life to be more successful than you were.

Do you know how good it feels knowing that as I grew up as an immigrant in this country, broke and poor, and then I was able to win my financial freedom that I was able to teach Andrew and Chloe, expose them to people, financially set them up, and teach them how to financially continue to grow in their futures. they are even more successful than I will ever be at a sooner age because I've been able to provide money for them and through money give them access and experiences. How cool is that that they've been able to experience the entire world, different cultures, different accents because we've always had them on planes traveling the world.

And now one's 17 years old and they're like ready to conquer the world. What a great feeling. Don't for a moment think that money doesn't help. Money helps solve the problem of not having money. Money helps solve the problem of your church or charity, needing money. Money gives your parents and your spouse's parents a better quality of life in their twilight years. Money gives you financial security for the future. Money gives you options.

Money allows you to not be in debt. Money allows you to not be controlled by the government. And money allows you to set your kids up for the future. So don't just fill your cup up. Let it overflow. Understand how money works. Develop financial intelligence. Because if you don't, then what happens?

You're broke. You're in debt. You die. You pass along. Your broke debt mentality and all of the debt that you were in to your kids. Now instead of giving your kids a leg up on the future, you actually are detrimental to their future. And I know you don't want that.

So guys, those are the four things that men do that are stupid that absolutely kill their dreams, hopes, and future. I don't want you to do those things. Please do me a favor. If you're watching this on YouTube, subscribe, 74% of you are not subscribed, and share this episode because it would mean a lot, whether you're on Spotify, iTunes, or YouTube, screenshot it, shared in your stories, tag me, and I will reshare it as well.

I want to impact as many lives as I can so that we can have more men living a life of passion and purpose. And always remember this, that averages the enemy. Success is your responsibility, and change can take place in an instant if you are willing. to flip the switch. I'll see you next time.