Bedros Keuilian Podcast Show - 178. 7 Things Every Man Should Master before 30

Episode Date: February 24, 2026

Most young men think they need more time.More information.More preparation.But you don’t need another motivational podcast.You need structure.In this episode of the Bedros Keuilian Show, I break down the 7 things I’d do immediately if I were in my 20s again:Build your body.Kill your vices.Create financial momentum.Develop emotional control.Take radical responsibility.Define the partner you want and become the man she’d choose.Assign meaning to your life.Stop waiting to feel ready.Because if you don’t build yourself first, you’ll try to fill the void with women, money, and validation.Little boys chase attention.Men build value.Take imperfect action. Start now.DOMINATION DOWNLOADSTRAIGHT FROM THE DESK OF BEDROS KEUILIANYour weekly no B.S. newsletter to help you dominate in business and in lifehttps://bedroskeuilian.com/MAN UP SCALE BUNDLE: $29 (100% Goes to Charity)Get your Digital Man Up book + Audiobook + 2 Exclusive MASTERCLASSES & Support Shriners Children’s Hospital. https://www.manuptribe.com/limited-offerREGISTER FOR THE LEGACY TRIBEGet the Life, Money, Meaning & Impact You Deservehttps://bedroskeuilian.com/legacytribeJOIN MY FREE 6-WEEK CHALLENGE:Transform into a Purpose-Driven Manhttps://bedroskeuilian.com/challengeTHE SQUIRE PROGRAM: A rite of Passage for Your Son as He Becomes a ManA Father and Son Experience That Will Be Remembered FOREVERhttps://squireprogram.com/registerTruLean Supplements | https://www.trulean.com/pages/bedrosGet 50% Off Trulean Subscribe & Save BundleUse Code: BEDROS Few Will Hunt Apparel | https://fewwillhunt.com/Get 20% Off Your Entire OrderUse Code: BEDROSOPEN A FIT BODY LOCATIONA High-Profit, Scalable Gym Franchise Opportunity Driven By Impacthttps://sales.fbbcfranchise.com/get-started?utm_source=bedrosPODCAST EPISODES:https://bedroskeuilian.com/podcast/STAY CONNECTED:Website | https://bedroskeuilian.com/Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/bedroskeuilian/LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/bedroskeuilianTwitter | https://twitter.com/bedroskeuilian

You're looking for that perfect time to take action. I'm here to tell you, it's time to take imperfect action. Welcome to the Bedroes, Kooli and show. Back when Q was rolling with Lorenzo and a Benzo, I was banging with a gang and instrumental. I am 51 years old, and if I were in my 20s, these are the seven things that I would want to know. Now, if you're in your 20s and 30s and you are single, these are the seven things you've got to do right now, and I'm going to pour into you. So pay attention, fellas. Thing number one is to create life structure.

All right. So before you go out and find yourself a honey, before you go out and do anything else, try and start making money, start creating your social media platform and flexing and posting and posing and trying to thirst trap crazy chicks into meeting up with you in some weird dark alley. Before you do any of that stuff, create life structure. What does that mean? That means you got to start training, working out five days a week.

Now, that might mean you're lifting weights. That might mean you're doing body weight calisthenics. That might mean you're running as a combination of all of that. Jiu-jitsu, kickboxing, whatever it is that you're doing. But you got to start training five days a week. That gives you structure. That gives you something to do where you're building yourself and not just trying to go out and conquer something, right?

You know what I'm talking about? The opposite sex. Start conquering yourself first. You do that by training five days a week. The next thing you do is you start eating clean. and staying lean as part of your routine and your structure. And then you stop devices, devices like alcohol and weed and pornography and doom scrolling and gambling because these things quietly kill your ambition.

Right? They just flatten your ambition so quietly and slowly. You don't even see the death of the future you coming. It just boom. One day it's done. You become 45, 50 years old and you realize you're just a nobody. You've got nothing to show for it. And it's unfortunate that you're in debt and you have no real sense of purpose and meaning of life and you don't know how you got there.

That's how you get there. It's through those vices that slowly snuff out your radiance, right? And then, of course, you've got to start building a predictable life routine. That means going to bed at the same time, waking up at the same time, making sure you get at least seven hours of sleep. Now, if you're doing these things, now you have created a good life structure. then we can move on to thing number two. Thing number two is build financial momentum. I'm not saying you've got to become a millionaire here in your 20s,

but you sure can create a plan and start developing momentum to getting there. What does that look like, right? You have to understand something. Like if you're in debt, if you're broke, if the bills are piling up, you'll never be your best self. That's it. Financial stress prevents a man from becoming his best. best self, the best version of himself, in mentally, emotionally, physically dominant states,

you will not be that guy. You just won't. Because when you are financially pressed, you're stressed for money, you're in debt, the bills are piling up, the rent needs to be paid, mortgage needs to be paid, and you can't make it happen, how are you ever going to create life structure and routine, right? How are you ever going to like go and find the perfect chick for yourself when you're stressed out? You're going to use the way. You're going to use a woman as a source of distraction just like you would use alcohol, weed, pornography, social media, any of that, all those other vices, right? And so I want you to start building this momentum. And so what is the financial momentum I want you to build? I want you to build a path where

you're not just getting a consistent raise every couple of years because, you know, life continues to get more expensive. So they just give you a cost of living increase. Right? That ain't enough. That ain't enough. I want you to develop skills that, one, don't put you in a place where you have to trade time for dollars. Some of those skills are things like sales, right? If you're good at sales, you can make big sales or little sales. You could be so good at sales. You can start developing your leadership skills and lead a sales team. you could develop marketing skills and becoming a traffic buyer on Facebook and TikTok and Amazon and YouTube. I mean, think about all the different ad agencies and traffic buyers there are.

There's YouTube channels dedicated to teaching you how to buy traffic for other companies, right? And you can get so good at it that you could start teaching others and become leverageable, right? And so if you can start developing skills that can compound, entrepreneurial skills, sales skills, leadership skills, finance skills, marketing skills, communication skills. These are the things that companies like mine are looking for. And if you could find these skills and develop these skills, then you will continue to make money far beyond just cost of living because you can very quickly move into leadership roles. And leadership roles

pay better, give you greater responsibility, and more opportunity for growth. And so don't ever underestimate the power of building financial momentum while you are single right now and while you have the time. Thing number three that I want you to do now while you are single and in your 20s and 30s is become emotionally competent. Most dudes are emotionally repressed. You're emotionally constipated. You don't know how to regulate your emotions.

So you go to either running away from your problems or blowing up and raging out about your problems. Neither of them are a good solution. Not towards the girl that you want to be with. Not towards the friendships that you have. Certainly not towards the working relationships that you have in your career or the business that you operate with a partner. Right? An emotionally unregulated dude is a bitch. He's a bitch to his lady.

He's a bitch in the workplace. He's a bitch of a leader. And no one's going to respect him. So you've got to start building emotional regulation. And when you do that, you got to start healing as well. One of the best ways you can build emotional competency is to start healing from the pain and the abuse that you've gone through. I get it.

Life is not easy. I get it. Life is tough. I get it. all experienced some abuse, some from parents, some from school teachers, some from Uncle Lou, that little fucking pervert. But the truth of the matter is, whoever was the source of the pain in your life, you're now stuck with that pain. And if you don't heal from it, you're going to be an emotionally unregulated person. You're not going to be a good guy to be around.

Or you're going to be so emotionally dysregulated that you're going to be even worse, a nice guy, constantly seeking validation and approval from other men. or finding broken chicks because you know that they're the only ones that will treat you like a little boy because internally you want to be treated like a little boy and taken care of. But then you start resenting them for doing that. And so if you can start building emotional resilience, emotional strength, emotional regularity, all of a sudden, you begin to be someone who no longer argues. and you're not just trying to disappear when there's a conflict,

but you stick around and you listen and you try and understand the other person's perspective. And then you ask them calmly to listen and to attempt to understand your perspective. I didn't say you have to agree with their perspective, and I certainly didn't say they've got to agree with your perspective. There's nothing wrong with understanding and listening to someone else's perspective

to see what are the shoes that they're walking in? What is their life experience right now? What is their human experience in this moment that you're having your human experience? Because the person who's emotionally dysregulated thinks that their own human experience is far superior and is more right than everyone else's human experience.

The person who is emotionally regulated realizes that, hey, like right now in this room, in this studio, there's four of us. Each of us are having a very different human experience in this very moment. and in this very moment in time, in life, right? And so if I am not willing to understand that, if I am not willing to hear them out,

and like I said, I don't necessarily have to agree with it, then I become a disregulated human that doesn't make me a good friend, a good leader, doesn't anywhere close make me a good partner, a good father. Like I've got to understand where my kids, are coming from. Throughout their years of life, especially as they got into their teens and now Chloe's 18 and Andrews 20, I want to hear them. I want to understand them. Some things I might even

realize, oh shit, I agree with this. Other things I could not agree with, but still let them feel understood and heard. And if you can be that person, that means you've developed emotional consistency, competency, competency, and regulation. And that is important. And it's a byproduct of healing your shit, right? Like I said, things have happened to you, sad and unfortunate. I get it, man. I was physically and sexually abused as a kid.

That doesn't mean that I got to go wear that into every relationship that I walked through in my life, right? Friendships, partnerships, relationships. No, I've got to heal from that. I worked with the therapist. I read the books. I did the self-work. I became self-aware, the journaling, the meditation, all of that still continues.

The therapy still continues. And because of that, I've become a better human. That doesn't mean the work is done. The work still continues. And I believe that if we don't continue to do the work, that we will regress back to our 1.0 version. But that's what it takes to become an emotionally regulated human. And as you can do that, young man, then guess what happens next? You go to step four, which is to become responsible.

these days dudes in their 20s and 30s still act like their little children you just like run away from responsibility you do realize like in the fucking 40s world war two hell in the 60s the vietnam war young men were going off to war early 2000s young men were going off to war they were responsible for heavy equipment machinery missiles bombs rifles pistols they were responsible for the dudes to their left to their right. And here you are trying to figure out what kind of post to put on Instagram to get the most number of likes, comments, and engagement. Like that's the level of shallowness you want to operate in. Start becoming more responsible. I'm not kidding, man. Like stop blaming people around you. Start taking the blame. Everything is your fault. Good or bad that happens to you. Everything is your fault. And that is the most empowering thing you could do because if you accept that everything good or bad is my fault, my friend now you have absolute control of fixing it but if you say everything that happens is someone else's fault right in other words an external locus of control instead of an internal locus of control

that means if the outside people cause the problems that means outside people can fix them for me I can't do anything about it I'm going to sit in the shit and just grovel like a little bitch victim I don't want that for you and I can tell you no chick worth her salt is going to want a bitch of a in her life. She's not. So you got to stop blaming. You got to take on more responsibilities. Get yourself a dog, buy yourself a house, start investing in stock and real estate and crypto. Like this is why I said, start making money. Like start developing financial momentum because a home is a responsibility. Get a condo, get a townhouse. Get a small little house somewhere and rent it out. It's a responsibility. And every time you're more responsible, you become a better

man. See, boys don't have responsibilities. Men do. So over time, guess what happens? Soon you start realizing shit, I can take care of a dog. I have a house. So there's some value to me. There's something that's a piece of property or two or three or ten that I could leverage in the future for money because it is going up in value and someone else is paying because they're my tenants. But look, when something goes wrong, you have to go in there and fix it. There's a sense of responsibility to it. There's a sense of pride of ownership to it, right? And so if you do these things and you start serving meaningful causes, you care less about the bullshit engagement that you're not getting on social media because once again, they tweak the algorithms and it's not working in your favor

unless you're a chick wearing Daisy Duke shorts that go up the ass, three sizes too small, and filming a shoulder workout where the camera angle is right from the bottom of the booty cheeks. The algorithms are set up perfectly for her. Not you. But guess what? You don't need that level of validation and approval and attention because you're going to go out there

and take responsibility for your own life. You're going to make money. You're going to get a dog. You're going to get a pet. Or something, get a fucking pet iguana. Something that you have to be responsible for more than you. Right?

Like I said, little boys just have to take care of themselves. Men begin to take care of others. They take care of their property. Their dog, their cat, their fucking, their assets, their community. be part of your church, go donate to a cause or charity that you believe in. Like have some meaningful things that you want to serve on a daily basis. Hey guys, quick interruption to the Beddress Coolion show.

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There's shallow attraction and there's deep attraction. Shallow attraction is if I show that I'm driving a fancy car that I rented or that I'm leasing on a 200-month lease and if I post this on social media or if I take a off-season trip to fucking Barbados flying peasant class but then once I get there I go to a nice resort rather than sharing the hostel that I'm staying in and take pictures at the nice resort and then go back and stay at the hostel because that's all I could afford now I can put that on my Instagram now I can put this rented you know supercar on my Instagram and start attracting chicks What kind of chicks do you think you're attracting there?

Gold diggers, shallow chicks who want to be on those fake trips that you're posting, who want to drive that rented or leased vehicle that you're about to get repossessed anyway. Is that who you want? Someone that you might look good on your arm, but gives you a world of problems because she's damaged goods. And you decided to try and fix her because you yourself have no self-worth because you haven't done the healing work like we talked about? Or you can go deep.

You can say, you know what? If I were to build my dream girl, what are the traits? What are the traits that she would have? Notice I don't say, how would she look? What are the traits that she would have? Would she have emotional regulation? Would she have dealt with her baggage from past relationships? which you have done some self-healing and self-actualization and self-work.

Is she someone who is emotionally consistent? Does she have mental toughness? Does she share the same values as I do? I want to work out. I want to eat clean. I want to go to bed at a decent time. I don't want to be stuck at a fucking chaotic event where there's gunshots. Right?

I don't want to go to bars where there's fucking bar fights because she needs to be out and about in a bar getting attention. And so if you can create the values that you're attracted to, you can write them down, the traits that you're looking for. And then finally, I get it. Looks do matter. But that would be the last and final thing I would add to that list. Because you can find someone who may not exactly have the body that you are looking for

and the looks that you're looking for. And if she can develop the traits and she has the value, She has the character. She has the moral compass that you share. The body can be developed. Those other things are harder to acquire. Not saying they can't be acquired, but they're just harder to acquire. So you probably haven't gone and made a list of who you're looking for.

What your ideal, future, honey is going to be like, look like, act like, carry herself like. Why is it important for you to make that list? Because once you do, then you realize, uh-oh, I need to become that girl's dream guy. So if that's the girl that you want, you just drew out the avatar, you listed all the traits, all the features, the looks, the values, the character. Now, how is that girl going to find you attractive? What are the traits and values and character and how do you show up? and what are the looks that you have to show up with?

And then you begin to build yourself into that guy. This is why I said if you're in your 20s and 30s and you're single, do these seven things, right? She's probably looking for someone who has emotional regulation. She probably is looking for someone who can be responsible. She's probably looking for someone who has created a balanced life structure for himself, right? A routine that sets him up for daily wins.

She's probably looking for someone who has the ability to build financial momentum and has financial literacy and knows how to pay his bills and debts, right? Well, holy hell, become that guy. And now instead of chasing her down, you learn how to attract her. And this is why I said, number five, is learn how to attract the right woman into your life, which leads us to number six, assign meaning to your life. If your life does not have meaning to it, assigned meaning to it. For me, it was very simple. When I became a personal trainer, I realized how much I love helping people achieve their

fitness and fat loss goals. And then as I got to know my clients and in between sets and workouts, as I got to talk to them, I really took interest in their life, in their work, in the day-to-day challenges that they're facing. And I realized, huh, I can take advice I got from this client and pass it along to that client and I could take advice from this client and pass it along to that one. Because once you have 15, 20, 25 personal training clients and all of them are doing well in life because they're affluent and they can afford to pay you, you realize like, wow, I got

some pretty like successful people as clients. Some are successful in relationships. Other are successful in parenting. Others are successful in their faith. Others are successful in their finances. And so I could start passing messages along from one. the other and getting them to all improve and level up. And I realized I took meaning from that. I had a sense of purpose. I realized that I enjoy doing that. I assigned meaning to my life.

And as I continue to do this more and more and more and more and more, I realize I really love serving men, specifically in the areas of making money, having meaning and self-mastery. And that's what the Bedroes-Cchooling show was about. That's what this podcast is all about, right? Money, meaning, and self-mastery. Yes, I have businesses that make me money. Fit Body Boot Camp makes me an obscene amount of money. True lean makes me an obscene amount of money. Fuel hunt makes me an obscene amount of money. I have all these different companies for money. But if I don't do self-mastery working on myself and I don't develop meaning to my life, assigned meaning to my life, like who can I serve and how can I serve them? For me, I'm going to serve men and the way I'm

going to serve you is through money, meaning, and self-mastery. Now, you might not like what I have to say because sometimes it feels like I'm squatting and shitting on you. You may not like what I have to say. It may not sit well with you. No one can talk to me like that is what you might think. But I can't tell you how many thousands of times have come back around to the comments section on Spotify and YouTube, only to see that yeah, I really didn't like listening to you. In fact, I stopped listening to you for a period of time and then my life went to shit, even more. And then I discovered one of your other episodes that popped off. And then here I am, you're right. It's like, why do we have to go through that whole cycle? Like, no, no, no, I don't

want to do this. That's like that's what a little boy does. I don't want to brush my teeth. Listen son, you got to brush your teeth. I don't want to brush my teeth. All right, you little fuck, don't brush your teeth. Go to bed. Get cavities. Now we're going to the dentist two months later. For what? For that cavity? Did you like getting drilled in? Did you like getting getting getting your mouth numbed up? No. What you're going to do now? I'm going to brush my teeth. Why do we have to go through that cycle. So just do these things, right? You know, it's not like you're hearing this message from someone that doesn't have the life experience. I'm 51 years old. I've seen it all. I've done it all. I've got a great life. I love waking up to my life. I love coming into work.

I love the small handful of people that I hang out with that I get to connect with and develop even deeper and more meaningful relationships. Like, I've got a life by design. And it continues to get better. Not because I'm lucky, but because I'm actively working towards it. But all of that as a byproduct because of one of these things, which is I've assigned meaning to my life, what my life's purpose is going to be. It's not just going to fall out of the sky and hit you in the head. You're going to go, oh my God, that's my life's meaning and purpose. Nope. You're not going to find your purpose. You develop your purpose by assigning yourself meaning. And so as you define your life's mission, you develop your purpose, you figure out who you're going to serve and how

you're going to serve them, you start feeling better about yourself, especially when you're making money and you're doing the self-work and developing self-mastery. And then finally, the seventh thing that I want you to do, if you're a single dude in your 20s and 30s. And look, especially in your 20s, especially in your early 20s, you've got to do this. And that is to stop waiting to be ready. stop this place of constant information gathering, constant preparation, constantly putting off taking action because there is no shortage of podcasts, courses, YouTube videos. There just isn't.

And you're going to be in this constant perpetual state of information gathering, fact finding, and preparation. You're looking for that perfect time to take action. I'm here to tell you it's time to take imperfect action. action. Stop waiting. There is no fairy godmother that's going to come and say you've learned enough about this one subject, now go execute. There isn't. There is no shortage of content. There's no shortage of information. So the best thing you can do is begin to lean into taking imperfect action and perfect it as you go. And if you do that, you'll start developing momentum. You start

developing wins, getting wins under your belt, albeit small wins, small winds stack up to medium sized wins, medium sized winds, medium sized wind stack up to big wins. You do this over five years and 10 years and 15 years. And now you're in your late 30s and 40s and you look around and go, shit, man, I'm in shape. I've got an awesome girl on my arm. I'm a great dad. I have a great sense of meaning and purpose. I have an awesome group of community that I love hanging out with. Yeah, I love my work. I love my work. I love my life and I understand that they'll be winning seasons and losing seasons and I'm prepared to attack the losing seasons and I'm also prepared to prolong the winning seasons.

And I realize that everything is within my control and nothing is outside of my control. And even if things happen to me that are outside of my control and it wasn't my fault, it's still my responsibility. And guys, if you do these things, I'm telling you will have a better relationship with your honey, you will have a greater understanding of what it means to be a purpose driven man. Money will never be an issue. And you will end up being a great example of humanity to your future kids. You'll be an asset, not a liability.

And fellas, if you're in your 40s and 50s and you're like, fuck, I should do all that stuff, but I'm not single anymore. That's all right. Do these things. do all seven of these things. Get your ducks in a row. If you're in your 60s and 70s and you're like, shit, I got to start working on these.

That's fine. No better time to start than now. 20 years ago would have been better, but you can't go back. So just start now. Who knows? You might have one more day left in your life. You might have one more decade left in your life.

And you can take all these things and apply them over the next 12 months to your life and live out the next nine years or 29 years or 39 years in a happier state. Isn't that what you want? Because I want that for you. Guys, if you got any value from this episode, please do me a favor and like and subscribe.

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