Behind the Bastards - CZM Rewind: The Andrew Tate Story (Part 1 & 2)

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Starting point is 00:03:40 This is supposed to be, and is going to be, the first of several episodes about Andrew Tate and the mytho-poetic Men's movement that led to his rise to fame and influence among a generation of young men We started recording this episode just a few hours ago With the wonderful April Clark and Grace Freud of the Girl God podcast they have in anyway, we recorded a little bit with them. And then I had a minor emergency, which has taken me out of the house for a while. Things are okay. You don't need to

Starting point is 00:04:12 flip out on Reddit or whatever. But it was a it was a problem. And we were not able to record with them to finish recording with them. And because of the holiday, we have no backlog. So in order to get this episode done and ready for our editor ASAP, Sophie is going to be my guest today along with Ian, our editor. And we will get this out as soon as possible because otherwise we will not have a show

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Starting point is 00:05:15 Thank you so much again, April and Grace. I'm sorry that there was a minor calamity. Now, welcome to the pod, Sophie and Ian. How are y'all doing? So well. So well. Great night. Ian is Ian Johnson, by the way.

Starting point is 00:05:32 He edits a lot of our shows and is also one half of Gladiator with fellow editor DJ Danil. And we do have the full Gladiator on staff, which I like to bring up as much as possible. Thank you, Sophie. I appreciate the love. And yeah, you know, it's Friday, ready for the weekend. Let's talk some Tate, you know, let's do it.

Starting point is 00:05:58 Friday, but also almost Saturday. And Ian is currently in his closet. Yeah, and we may start drinking in the in the near future. It might need to happen. You know, yeah, let's do it. All right, Robert. Yeah. And I actually have you been on just as one of our podcasts before? You have not. This is my first time.

Starting point is 00:06:20 Well, you know, and people should know about you again. You're one half of Gladiator. You are a longtime friend of our other editor, DJ Danil. You are a legendary podcast editor, and you had absolutely no involvement in the July 16th plane crash that cost John F. Kennedy Jr. his life off the Massachusetts coast.

Starting point is 00:06:42 No involvement at all. I don't know why people. Yeah, don't bring it up. That's weird. Nothing to do with it. Why are you talking about that? I just to let people know we had nothing to do with it. And Sophie, what do you all know about Andrew Tate? So my limited knowledge of him is he's a I believe a former MMA fighter

Starting point is 00:07:04 who I don't know how he made a lot of money, but it seems like he has a lot of money from what I've seen on the Internet. We will be talking about how. Yeah. And he's into a lot of misogynistic men rights kind of stuff. And he got thoroughly destroyed online by Greta. So I do remember that. And I think he's in jail now.

Starting point is 00:07:23 He is in jail now. Unrelated to the Greta stuff, there was a little bit of confusion about that. But yes, he is in jail for sex trafficking in Romania. Sophie, is that more or less your understanding of the guy? Yeah, he fucking sucks. Yeah. That's all that matters.

Starting point is 00:07:40 He does indeed fucking suck. Unfortunately, he's also kind of worth studying in detail because he's managed to do something with social media that I don't think anyone else has ever managed to the same degree of success. He's smart in one very specific way, even though he also did a bunch of dumb things and some really dumb crimes

Starting point is 00:08:03 that hopefully have ruined his life He was he was smart in one in a way that has allowed him to become dangerously influential to an entire generation of teenage boys In a way that like no one on earth has managed quite yet Donald Trump is really the only other guy That I might put next to Tate in that kind. And I think Tate has a wider appeal among Gen Z teens and tweens than certainly Trump ever has. Yeah, it's interesting to see the spaces where Tate's content shows. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:08:34 We're going to be talking about all that. I am, one of the things, when I started looking into this guy, there's a ton of articles about, because he blew up kind of mid-2021 up until, you know, the arrest a couple of weeks ago. There's not profile articles on him that like go into detail about his background and his past and his entire rise to power.

Starting point is 00:08:55 You'll generally, the best articles you'll find in places like Buzzfeed or I think we have a couple from like the Guardian, they'll like summarize his backstory in two or three paragraphs. I wanted to get into who this guy is and where he came from because he kind of pops out of nowhere if you don't follow that.

Starting point is 00:09:12 I think this is the first time anyone's really done that. So I think this will be valuable for that. But I wanna start by laying out why we have to take Tate seriously and kind of explain the scale of sort of his influence. I am not exaggerating when I say that he is maybe the most influential single person on teen and preteen males in the US and the UK

Starting point is 00:09:33 and some other parts of the West than anyone else on planet earth. In fall of 2022, financial services company Piper Sandler released a survey of 14,500 US teens taken between August and September of that year. Tate was the number one influencer on the list in terms of popularity. He beat Kanye West, he beat Mr. Beast,

Starting point is 00:09:52 he beat Dwayne The Rock Johnson, all of them. Not Mr. Beast. Yeah, I don't know who Mr. Beast is, but he's some- He's a YouTuber. Yeah, he's a YouTuber. I know Elon Musk joked about giving him control of Twitter or he asked whatever. I don't know anything about him.

Starting point is 00:10:07 I'm sure you're fine Mr. Beast or he's horrible. If he's horrible, whatever. I was gonna say, anybody who's that famous on YouTube, I'm a little bit like, hmm. Yeah, no good people get famous on YouTube, which is what I text our friend Cody Johnston every single day when he releases a new YouTube video. Fair. Anyway, the Andrew Tate hashtag on TikTok has received more than 10 billion

Starting point is 00:10:30 views over the course of twenty twenty two alone, which is fucking nuts. That is an that is insane. That is like incomprehensibly viral. He was also he will always claim that he's like the most Googled person on earth. I looked into what he actually is. That's not quite it. He is the number one, when you type in who is into Google, who is Andrew Tate is the number one who is question asked

Starting point is 00:10:56 of Google in 2022, which is not the same as being the most Googled person on earth. Although he is one of the most Googled people on earth. I found a couple of lists of that and he's often at like number eight, someplace closer to like 10, but like he's incredibly famous. I just tested that and it is in fact true.

Starting point is 00:11:15 Yes. Top 10 most Googled person on the planet is, that's a lot of people. That is a fuckload of people. And in some counts, he's like beating Donald Trump, which again, Trump was the literal president. And it's interesting, because his career, you can compare him to a guy like Joe Rogan, right?

Starting point is 00:11:33 Joe, there's nothing that people like wonder why he's popular, but there's no mystery as to how he became popular. He's got a very, he's been consistently- The trajectory is good. Yeah, very, very consistent guy. Constantly in the limelight, constantly doing stuff. Not hard to see where he came from.

Starting point is 00:11:51 Tate is a kickboxer for a while and then kind of drops off, is just sort of a guy on Instagram. And then is suddenly the most famous influencer on the planet, seemingly overnight. And this is not an accident. This isn't also something, he didn't just get surprised because something of his happened to go viral.

Starting point is 00:12:08 This was the result of a tactic I haven't seen anyone else use or certainly not to the degree of success that Tate used. And the tactic that he unleashed not only made him this popular, but it made him popular enough that you can find articles about schools in the US and the UK holding seminars for young male students and for teachers to try to talk about de-radicalizing kids who have fallen under Tate's spell. When I posted a comment about him during his spat with Tunberg, just because I was frustrated

Starting point is 00:12:39 at the degree, not with Greta's response to him, which I thought was totally fair, but with like, people kind of cheering it on as if he'd been beaten by it, where my concern was like, well, the attention historically has just kind of made him more popular. And there were a bunch of comments in that post I made by teachers who were like, I don't think people understand how popular he is with like 13 14 15 year old boys I talked to kids every day who worship the guy and I've never seen anything like it One of my really good friends Jack. This is actually a few weeks ago We were hanging out and he was like kind of joking but also serious He was like, you know I'm like it would be scary to be a 13 year old boy right now

Starting point is 00:13:22 Because of the inundation of this kind of stuff that you're seeing all day every day. And he was like, I'm not going to lie. If I was 13 or 14 and didn't know better, I could probably fall for a lot of this stuff. It's like, I couldn't imagine being that age right now and just being flooded with that. Yeah, I think about that sort of thing in a lot of I'll talk about kind of there's elements of Tate's pitch that I think might've worked on me when I was 17, 18 years old.

Starting point is 00:13:46 Particularly a big part of it is like working a shit job that you hate for the entirety of your youth is bullshit, which it is like it's a terrible way to spend a life doing the thing you hate forever. And if you kind of, if that's the hook you're leading with rather than what a lot of male influencers lead in with which is like here's how to pick up chicks. You know that's an interesting spin that he's but we'll get it we'll get more into his pitch and like what about it is. Not new and what about it is new but i wanted to i want to start by kind of explaining who till the soil that tate grew up in.

Starting point is 00:14:24 kind of explaining who tilled the soil that Tate grew up in. And to do that, we have to travel back in time to the 1990s and the work of the first real modern masculinity guru in US history. Oh, boy. Now, we've talked about guys like Bernard McFadden in the past who had elements of that, where he's big into physical culture and getting buff, and he talks about how modernity is making men weak.

Starting point is 00:14:45 But the Robert Bly is the guy who Jordan Peterson is cutting his image. And so to a degree is a guy like Andrew Tate. He is the first guy to kind of bring both academic rigor and also this kind of focus on the damage capitalism has done to masculinity into this kind of, it's become the men's rights movements, it's become the pickup artist community. That's not what it was called at the time. But yeah, Robert L. Wood Bly is the name of the guy who kind of kicked all of this off. And he's not the dude you'd think he was. He's an American poet. By some accounts, he's one of the most influential poets in American history. And he was born on December 23rd, 1926 in Minnesota.

Starting point is 00:15:29 Initially, Bly seemed to be on certainly not the path that he wound up on. He goes to Harvard University. He studies at the Iowa Writers Workshop. He receives a Fulbright scholarship to go to Norway and translate Norwegian poetry into English. And during this time, he also gets connected to these great poets who are not Westerners, like Pablo Neruda and Rumi,

Starting point is 00:15:52 and they influence his understanding of art and the myths that underlie it. And it also leads him to feel that like modern contemporary American poetry is kind of hollow and lacks a connection to this kind of deeper mythology that he sees in some of these Eastern poets and some of these, you know, poets from other parts of the world that aren't the United States that he feels are making a deeper connection to things.

Starting point is 00:16:13 This might be just a personal preference, but I find the Iowa's Writers Workshop to be a red flag. Oh yeah, wait, wait, wait, I don't know much about it. Tell me, tell me why is this? No, it's just, it's just one of those things that gets, uh, overused in TV as like, wait, wait, I don't know much about it. Tell me, tell me, why is this? No, it's just, it's just one of those things that gets overused in TV as like, oh, I need to go to this thing. It's like, it has like a weird elitism to it that, yeah.

Starting point is 00:16:37 I mean, I feel that way about Harvard too. Yeah, there's a lot of weird elitism, red flags where I'm like, uh, but yeah. Hearing Harvard University followed by Iowa Writers Workshop is usually not the best. Oh, and then there's the full, yeah, full-bright grant. So it's, you know. Yeah, yeah, so Iowa Writers Workshop,

Starting point is 00:16:58 Sophie says, go to hell. Fuck off. Apparently. That's right, motherfuckers. I don't know much about the Iowa Writers Workshop. But that's his background. And again, this is also, he's coming, he's doing this at an earlier time. I mean, Harvard was very, very much that kind of thing,

Starting point is 00:17:15 but I don't know, maybe the Iowa Writers Workshop was not, I don't know. His first collection of poems, which was called Silence in the Snowy Fields, was published in 1962 and it focused on moments of solitude and beauty, as we see in this piece Driving to Town Late to Mail a Letter. It is a cold and snowy night. The main street is deserted. The only things moving are swirls of snow. As I lift the mailbox door, I feel its cold iron.

Starting point is 00:17:42 There is a privacy I love in this snowy night. Driving around, I will waste more time. Which is just like this nice, quiet little, certainly you don't see any red flags there. It's just kind of a poem about one of those quiet moments that you have in your life, you know? It's, I don't know, I don't find it deeply affecting, but there's certainly like,

Starting point is 00:18:01 it's not like he's writing anything you would see a problem with. It's not offensive. Yeah, for sure. The next year, he published an influential essay in which he attacked mainstream American poetry as impersonal, lacking in soul and a willingness to look inward. His criticism of American society expanded after that. And in 1966, he co-founded the American Writers Against the Vietnam War. He is one of the very first prominent American artists to like try and organize artists against the war,

Starting point is 00:18:31 which is, I mean, good, because it was a bad war. In 1968, he made a public promise to refuse to pay taxes until the end of the war. And he also made, he made some very trenchant critiques of US imperialism. In 1967, he wrote an article for the New York Review of Books in which he noted, "'The fact that so few Americans have resigned

Starting point is 00:18:52 from the government or from responsible posts to protest the Vietnam War is remarkable to me.'" And he's bringing up also cases of like the Russian Revolution and stuff where you would have these horrible wars being prosecuted by regimes that are on paper a lot less free than the United States, but also would have a lot more defections or people just like refusing to do their jobs because they believed that of course

Starting point is 00:19:15 that the sovereign had set was unethical. And he's like, why isn't this happening in American government? Why is no one refusing to be a part of the Vietnam War? And he went on to ask, can we imagine General Westmoreland resigning and refusing to prosecute a brutal war? Never. Pilots drop anti-personnel bombs on small North Vietnamese villages and many of them hate it,

Starting point is 00:19:36 but they don't resign with a public statement of protest. They quietly retire when their tour is over. Bly wondered what this showed about Americans. Are we timid? Are we greedy? He thought not. Andly wondered what this showed about Americans. Are we timid? Are we greedy? He thought not. And this is what he wrote. What it shows is a disastrous split between the Americans inner and outer worlds. He does not aim to use his life to make himself whole, to join the two worlds in himself. On the contrary, he is prepared to give up one of

Starting point is 00:19:59 the two worlds. The businessman gives up the inner world and clings to the outer as his way. A large body of literature denounces the businessman for taking the one world without the other. But when a writer is opposed to the Vietnam War and still accepts a grant from the government prosecuting the war, he is doing something similar. He is letting the world split. He lets the outer world go by him with just a wave of his hand and then he reaches out and pulls the inner world to him. He accepts the money for the sake of my work. It will enable him to live in his inner world, but the disastrous split has already taken place before he begins to use the money for his work. Instead of trying to apply what he has learned in the actions of his inner life to

Starting point is 00:20:36 the actions of the world, he pulls back inside the house, closes the door, and declares he doesn't know what is going on out there, or knows but has rejected it all is outside his sphere of influence or his interest. He is not political, but what could be more within the sphere of interest of a writer than the world? And I actually find that a really affecting critique. I think about that a lot just in terms of like, number one, this desire I have a lot where I'll just be kind of like churning turning through the mark of a bunch of horrible stories about bullshit going on in congress are like see some horrible twitter thing culture where shit roll up and one of one. Feel the surge to like.

Starting point is 00:21:16 Will fuck this i don't want to pay attention to this anymore i just want to discard this from my life and focus on this like piece of art or creativity that I think most people feel that most reasonably will feel that way a lot. And what he's saying is like, how can you call yourself a writer? How can you call yourself an artist and attempt to discard the outer world in favor of the one that you focus on for your creativity? Like how can you actually be connected to your inner world in any way and and feel as if you can pretend the outer world does not exist you're doing the same thing is a businessman. Who focuses entirely on his his desire to make money and ignores his spiritual development like there's not a fundamental moral difference between what the two of you are doing cuz you're both. a fundamental moral difference between what the two of you are doing, because you're both rejecting half of your being in order to stick with the one that's more comfortable

Starting point is 00:22:13 because of whatever you've chosen as your profession. And in the case of, yeah, I don't know. I found an intrinsic critique that makes me think a lot about myself. Maybe check out what Bly has to say about the Vietnam War. And he put his money where his mouth was. He used that article to republish a letter he'd sent to the chairman of the National Foundation

Starting point is 00:22:33 on the Arts and Humanities because they had offered him a $5,000 grant and he turns it down because he's like, look, this is an instrument of the United States government and I am opposed to a war they are waging and even though i could argue that like will i take this money won't get spent on bombs what i'm really doing is providing legitimacy to the state that is carrying out this terrible war and i'm simply not going to do that i'm going to choose to refuse to support it in any way, even by letting it support me. Which whether or not you agree with it is a deeply principled stance that requires sacrificing something. Yeah. So when, when does he, uh, when is right? He's not a bad guy so far. Yeah. I'm

Starting point is 00:23:17 waiting. Yeah. This is not, this is not cool people who did cool stuff. No, no, no. So spoiler alert, the Vietnam War ends. We don't do great. Goes okay for Vietnam, though. Well, I mean, millions of people die, but they do win. Bly remains an influential poet and thinker. In the 1970s, he organizes the first Great Mother Conference, which is still going on today. It's a nine-day festival that explores human consciousness, and it celebrates this kind of archetypal idea of the Great Mother as this kind of like feminine creative force that underlies everything in society. And Bly, the reason why he felt it was important

Starting point is 00:24:02 to kind of bring consciousness and get people focused on this idea and on the celebration of femininity Bly, the reason why he felt it was important to kind of bring consciousness and get people focused on this idea and on the celebration of femininity is that he saw the Vietnam War as kind of the expression of masculinity, like running wild and leading to terrible death. And he believed that Americans needed to reconnect with femininity in the wake of the Vietnam War,

Starting point is 00:24:20 which is again, not an unreasonable stance. You know, you can argue with it, but you can see where he's coming from. And- You and I are like both waiting for it. I'm just waiting for the shooter drop. You're waiting for the shooter drop. Motherfucker's coming.

Starting point is 00:24:34 Motherfucker is coming. So as the aftershocks of Vietnam faded, America enters the swing in eighties. Bly becomes concerned with something else entirely. He sees in the Reagan years, this vapid consumer culture, you know, malls and shit, the increasing spread of popular music as like a concept in a way that it really hadn't been.

Starting point is 00:24:56 Oh no, music, horrible. I mean, look, again, TV, there's a lot of transgressive shit on TV today. TV in the 1980s was not what it is now. No, no, no, for sure. So he sees all this happening, and he also just sees, again, what kind of Reaganism and unrestrained capitalism is doing to people.

Starting point is 00:25:16 And he begins to believe that the kind of soullessness and brokenness at the core of the American experiment is the result now of a crisis in masculinity, right? So previously he had, yeah, there's an extent to which he thinks like, I don't know, we'll get into what he thinks. So in 1990, he writes a book that is kind of illustrating the things

Starting point is 00:25:45 that he's he started to feel here and he calls it Iron John, a book about men. Now, have you heard of the fairy tale of Iron John, Ian? No, so familiar. No, no, you're not big Grimm's fairy tales, people. That's fine. Neither am I. I had not heard about this either. I think maybe it's bigger in Germany. Grimms, fairy tales, red flag, continue. Yeah, oh wow, wow, that's a red flag. One of the greatest works of art in I'm gonna guess German history, Sophie.

Starting point is 00:26:17 Robert. Wow. I feel like you just hate German history reflexively for reasons that have nothing to do with anything that has ever happened in history. I have no comment on that. Wow, wow. Well, red flag. I don't, sorry.

Starting point is 00:26:37 Turn it right back around on you. That's what he does. I think Iron John, again, it's a fairy tale. And I think I'll give a brief summary of how that fairy tale goes. Cause it's again, none of us have heard of it. Yeah, I mean, you brought it up. You should tell us what the fuck it is.

Starting point is 00:26:53 I'll tell you, I'm gonna do it. So, god damn. So I'm gonna quote from a write-up in the New York magazine here. That story goes like this. Something in the forest is killing a kingdom's hunters. A stranger arrives, goes into the forest with his dog, and returns with a large, hairy man he's extracted from a pond.

Starting point is 00:27:10 This is the wild man, whom the king locks in a cage. The king's son, playing with his ball, lets it slip into the cage, and the wild man tells him he'll give it back if the boy steals the key to the cage from under his mother's pillow and sets him free. The boy unlocks the cage, but, fearful that he'll be in trouble with his parents, flees on the wild man's back to the cage from under his mother's pillow and sets him free. The boy unlocks the cage, but fearful that he'll be in trouble with his parents, flees on the wild man's back to the forest. After the boy fails a series of trials and acquires a head of golden hair, the wild man kicks him out of the forest, but after he sinks to the low status of a kitchen worker

Starting point is 00:27:37 in a foreign kingdom, the wild man helps him become a mighty warrior and he wins the hand of the princess, is reunited with his parents, and and becomes the rich heroic king in his own right so You know, I think we're probably missing some context there just from culture, but it's like I Get why that's not in like that the tight five of Grimm's fairy tales Like that's that's maybe the one you leave on the cutting room floor. That's like the B side. Yeah, that's like a B side Maybe the one you leave on the cutting room floor. That's like the B sides. Yeah, that's like a B side. Yeah, that's like, I don't know,

Starting point is 00:28:09 one of the Beatles songs that people don't talk about that much anymore. Well, to be fair, it's up against Snow White, Cinderella, Rapunzel, Hensel and Gretel, Little Red Riding Hood. It's not a Snow White grade fairy tale. It would be funny to see Cinderella, Rapunzel, Hensel and Gretel, Little Red Riding Hood. It's not a Snow White grade fairy tale. It would be funny to see modern Disney try to do this.

Starting point is 00:28:30 Yeah. I mean, the actual Grimm's fairy tales are pretty horrific, to be honest. Yeah. This one also might be one of the tamer ones. I don't know. I'm not an expert on fairy tales. Well, that's why Disney was like, too tame, not into it. And again, I feel like this is an example.

Starting point is 00:28:48 I think sometimes we look at these stories that have been around a long time and are like, wow, there's some deep wisdom in there, which is why we should keep telling them. But I'm looking at this, which is it's a parable about manhood, right, and about becoming an adult. And I'm like, you know, it's a better parable about manhood and becoming an adult for I'm like, you know, it's a better parable about manhood and becoming an adult for Star Wars movie

Starting point is 00:29:09 That's a good point much better one much better one Look George Lucas knocked it out of the park. Fuck you grim. You know, who else is George Lucas? No, Robert. Who else is George Lucas? The sponsor of this podcast. I mean, that would be so incredibly big. That would be pretty big. It would be actually, George, you have the cash. Sponsor this podcast and we'll make it work, buddy. We got you.

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Starting point is 00:33:26 Are we? No, but maybe. Okay. So here we are. We're talking. We're having a good time. So Bly's book looks at this myth of Iron John and he reexamines the myth using Jungian psychology, which is again, another red flag.

Starting point is 00:33:50 There's perfectly valid reasons to study Jung, but whenever you have somebody who is reevaluating myths using Jungian psychology, they always turn into Jordan B. Peterson. I'm sorry, that's just the way that it works. So he's trying to find lessons that are gonna be meaningful for men struggling with modernity. And his basic conclusion, as far as I can tell,

Starting point is 00:34:10 is that men need rewilding in order to fix the things that are driving them crazy, right? They need to reconnect with the wild man inside them. Now, this is going to be, this is the root of a million kinds of manfluencer garbage, right? Everything in that, like you guys know the liver king, that guy who was telling people that he got super jacked by eating nothing but raw animal livers that he hunted.

Starting point is 00:34:33 He was spending so much, $12,000 a month on steroids, which he lied about. Now he's getting sued for a hundred million dollars because he defrauded people by convincing them to take his liver enzyme pills. So funny. But what the liver King is doing is this, he's basically setting it,

Starting point is 00:34:52 pretending to be the wild man that Bly talks about and being like, this is what you have to do in order to be healthy and deal with all of these toxic things about our modern lives is go out and throw spears at boars and then eat their raw uncooked organs. Which I would actually say is a lot less masculine than doing the thing that our actual caveman ancestors did, which was learn how to cook meat. But make a really good point. It's also the root of, you know, we had,

Starting point is 00:35:25 we just started this year with a couple of more episodes of Jordan B. Peterson's show. He talks a lot about the need for men to be controllable beasts and also references another Grimm's fairy tale. The one that he chooses is, well, I think it's a Grimm's fairy tale. Fucking Beauty and the Beast.

Starting point is 00:35:40 I don't know, maybe not. Maybe that started as a Disney thing. I don't know where it started. But he talks a lot about like this. Again, all of these guys today who are talking about you have to be primal. You have to reconnect with your caveman roots. You have to, like the thing-

Starting point is 00:35:52 Okay, I think I saw Jordan B. Peterson video on Instagram the other day and I didn't know it was him. I was just scrolling and he was, but now that you say that, I'm pretty sure it was him because he was talking about how men should be dangerous, like you should be dangerous. But it's like knowing when to use the threat of violence or not. It's like just because you're dangerous doesn't mean you're like a violent person,

Starting point is 00:36:15 but you should have that capacity or some shit. That's what makes you a true man. It's like what? Yeah. Is he it's that I mean, and that's you can see like Peterson is not in a room and he never has been an original thinker. He's he's cribbing from Bly, right? They all are. Bly is the origin of this. And it's also worth noting that while Bly's book has been

Starting point is 00:36:37 the descendants of Bly's book are pure reactionary gibberish, Bly himself was not again. We went through this guy's background. He's he's a deeper thinker than that. And there's passages in his book that are kind of worth connecting with. So I'm gonna read a quote from that now. To judge by men's lives in New Guinea, Kenya,

Starting point is 00:36:54 North Africa, Zulu lands, and in the Arab and Persian culture favored by Sufi communities, men have lived together in heart unions and soul connections for hundreds of thousands of years. Contemporary business life allows competitive relationships only in which the major emotions are anxiety, tension, loneliness, rivalry, and fear.

Starting point is 00:37:12 After work, what do men do? Collect in a bar to hold light conversations over light beer, unities that are broken off whenever a young woman comes by or touches the brim of someone's cowboy hat? Having no soul union with other men can be the most damaging wound of all. And cowboy hat thing's kind of weird, but that's a totally valid point.

Starting point is 00:37:29 The lack of intimate male to male friendship is a deep problem in our society. What does he have against light beer? I mean, because I think he's just sort of, I mean, okay, whatever. He's getting into a little bit of masculinity there. Fucking Iowa writers fucker. okay, whatever. He's getting into a little bit of masculinity there. But I think the point he's making is like. Fucker. Yeah, yeah.

Starting point is 00:37:46 Sorry, Sophie, famous lover of light beer. It's okay. I love my champagne beer too. I just, I had some lovely, I actually wish I had some Peroni right now. Peroni's lightful. Peroni's a lovely, nice, wonderful, especially on a hot day.

Starting point is 00:38:04 Yeah, nice, cool Peroni. I've, nice, wonderful, especially in a hot day. Yeah. I've done. I've gone on long runs with nothing but a backpack full of Peroni to keep me going. That's sounds very believable. Peroni. It is essentially water. I can smell the ad dollars coming in. Yeah.

Starting point is 00:38:20 Yeah. Peroni sponsor us. You cowards. But you see like what he's making there, and this is not a point that like, this is not a point Andrew Tate would make, right? Because these guys are all hyper competitive. Right, right, right.

Starting point is 00:38:31 And that's a huge part of like what they're talking about, whereas one of the, like Bly is at his core, a large part of what he's complaining about is totally rational, which is like, men aren't allowed to love each other. Where is it? Yeah. Where is the thing? Well, that's not the only thing in the book.

Starting point is 00:38:48 He's also talking a lot of. Yeah. I'm waiting for it. Yeah, we're getting to it. OK. I and John spend 62 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list. Yeah. I don't think anything gets spends that long in the bestseller list. That's a long ass time. Yeah. Yes, that is. that long in the best seller list. That's a long ass time. Yeah. Yes.

Starting point is 00:39:05 That is, um, that is in the nineties still. Yeah. This is 1990, um, 1990 to 91, cause it's on there for more than a year. Um, and it turned Bly from a respected poet and activist into the first masculinity guru in modern US history. Now, again, we had guys like Barnard McFadden before, who had talked about aspects of this, but Bly is wrapping his arguments in respected academia. And the way he's connecting with his people is exactly the same as the kind of shit that Jordan Peterson and other

Starting point is 00:39:35 folks do today, guys like Ivan Throne and whatnot, who are in the masculinity influencer thing. He's doing conferences. He's having rooms full of people, men gather, and he's speaking to them, and he's like running them through, he's basically bringing them to these moments of emotional height. And you can see some, there's a little bit of Werner Erhard in this.

Starting point is 00:39:55 You know, there's a reason this is all coming out at the same time as we start to get the self-help craze hit. But he's basically holding these big pep rallies for adult men. In 1991, more than a thousand men went to see him at the Eastfold Auditorium in Boston. a self-help craze hit. But he's basically holding these big pep rallies for adult men. In 1991, more than a thousand men went to see him at the Eastfold Auditorium in Parkland, Washington, paying $75,1991 for the privilege.

Starting point is 00:40:15 Yeah. A contemporary article in Entertainment Weekly describes the scene thusly. As the customers file in, a dozen white guys flail away incompetently on African drums. When the crowd is seated, the drummers quit the stage and Bly and Michael Mead, a storyteller who helps run the workshops,

Starting point is 00:40:31 begin to recite rambling myths and bits of verse. Mead occasionally bangs a bongo. Bly plinks a bouzouki, the Greek version of the mandolin, sending mournful notes wafting out over the audience. So that sounds good, right? Sounds like a fun time. Yeah, it sounds like a great way to spend $75. I always love white guys playing African drums

Starting point is 00:40:52 in my gigantic stadium speech series by a fucking poet. Anyway, Bly, who in 1984 had been called the most influential living American poet by current biography, became a kind of celebrity that hadn't previously existed. So he's filling stadiums with people who want to hear him talk, but he's also engaging them in a way that's going to spawn the modern men's self-help industry. Quote, Bly urges men to rediscover their manhood by getting back to their wild nature.

Starting point is 00:41:22 Some feminists, he says, in a justified fear of brutality, have labored to breed fierceness out of men, creating the sort of soft male of whom Teddy Roosevelt might have said, I could carve a better man out of a banana. Bly believes that inside of every such male, there's a wild man yearning to get out, a radiant inner king just waiting to confer masculine pride and sureness of purpose.

Starting point is 00:41:44 Bly insists he doesn't blame women for men's salary state. He blames older men who have failed to provide young ones with the role models they crave. In traditional societies, boys worked alongside men, plowing fields and fashioning arrowheads, but the Industrial Revolution severed that connection. The title character in his bestseller is a wild, hairy fellow who, in a grim fairy tale, is fished up from a pond and becomes a boy's mentor. That image is also the inspiration for his most extravagant exercise in manly self-discovery, five-day wild man excursions in which groups of a hundred men take to the woods under the

Starting point is 00:42:15 tutelage of Bly and others to dance around fires banging on drums. I mean honey, just say you have daddy issues and move the fuck on. Yeah, yeah, I mean again, there's there's this there's this element where he's like Society is fucked because feminists have tried to breed the violence out of me Which is not the case. What year is this? 91 yeah, okay, so you know you have it's like like astonishing to me that people are paying $75 and like selling out bigger. I mean that's more like like that's more than the people were paying for Coachella in the early early 2000s.

Starting point is 00:42:50 The crazy thing is like at the core of what he's saying, it's like most of that sounds like he's making some good points, valid points about, you know, how men have evolved in our society. So I'm just like, where where's the twist? Because there's the where's. You've seen it start to happen here. So it's like, cause like the valid thing in that passage is he's like, Hey, look, young boys used to grow up learning alongside both their father and the other men, you know, in whatever community they were in.

Starting point is 00:43:19 And that taught them what it meant to be a man. And now because capitalism has kind of taken the man out of the house, you're supposed to be working 40, 60, 80 hours a week, right? They're not there to raise. It's just the usually in like the way our society works, just the woman who's raising the kid. That's what he's saying.

Starting point is 00:43:37 Then we've cut men off from this process of learning how to be adult men. And like that is actually a pretty valid critique. And the problem is that, he's saying the problem is that feminists have bred fierceness out of men instead of being like, capitalism separates parents from children for huge amounts of time, and that's bad for kids.

Starting point is 00:43:59 And actually, if you look at it, like you could see in that very scenario of like, men are out of the house working. So they're raised, kids are raised largely by their mothers. Well, that also means an unfair burdens being placed on the mother. You can see this, there's a way to have solidarity between the genders here and be like, Oh yeah, this is all of a problem of this system we've built that like separates families

Starting point is 00:44:21 in ways that are really fucked up. Like I identify with that when I was a kid, um, because we didn't have much money at all, the only job my dad could get was in New York City. And there was a period of more than a year where he was gone. He was living on a friend's couch, working there, sending money back to us. And it was, it's not just him that made a sacrifice. I made a sacrifice as his son and my mom made a sacrifice dealing with the entire job of like raising me.

Starting point is 00:44:46 Like, there's a thing to identify with there, but you can see the start of the toxicity where he's like, well, the problem is that feminists have tried to make men less fierce. That's not really the problem, Robert Bly. Like. One interesting thing just before you keep going is I think in that quote, did he say that justifiably they tried to breathe?

Starting point is 00:45:07 Yeah, yeah. The brutality out of men or whatever. Yeah. Even they're like on some level, you know, you can kind of like, okay, like I kind of see what the point is making, you know, men do perpetuate a lot of the bullshit that happens to women in our society. a lot of the bullshit that happens to women in our society. So like, okay. He's not nearly, he's not anywhere, he's not on the same planet of toxicity as a lot of, as guys like, you know, Andrew Tate,

Starting point is 00:45:31 who we're about to talk about, or even like Jordan Peterson, but you can see the root of it, right? Where he is- Right, that's like the start. Yeah, he's still saying fundamentally part of the problem is feminists want men to be less aggressive. And like, no, that's not really part of the problem that you have adequately identified. Um, yeah. Uh, he wants his listeners, the young boys are drowning in female energy in the schools.

Starting point is 00:45:53 Every young man has a fantastic need for initiation. That's why we all became so crazy about our football coach. Such initiations, he says, channel wildness into socially approved acts. And again, you see kind of this like, well, why is the problem isn't female energy? Like it's not that like it's that young men, it's that families are being split up by this like need to compete and work in ways that are really unhealthy for kids. But anyway, you can look at the sea of other self-help grifters at the time, Werner Erhard, El come around at this point and you could say that why is just kind of.

Starting point is 00:46:28 Another dude and he's doing a lot of the same things a lot of these other self help grifters are doing but one of the things that differs him is those guys are mostly pile like playing nonsense based on bad interpretations of eastern religion and psychological abuse and why is kind of he's not insulting or attacking people. He's not calling them weak. He's making some reasonable points about stuff that's toxic about our society. And then he's trying to create like mutual cathartic experiences with the men in his audience who are being invited to kind of see the men around them

Starting point is 00:47:04 as brothers in a way that's more intimate than maybe they had been trained to do previously. So again, there's something interesting going on here that isn't even wholly toxic that I think is kind of worth acknowledging as we lead to the parts of it that are a lot more toxic. And it's one of those things where like, I've spent a lot of time on in-cell message boards

Starting point is 00:47:27 and they do talk a lot about this feeling of disconnection with society. So when he says that like young men are not connected to their communities, he's making a decent point. He also, one of the points he makes that I thought was interesting is he talks about the differences between female sex ed and male sex ed.

Starting point is 00:47:44 He points out that because of like just basic biological realities of how periods happen, young girls are instructed about their bodies in ways that young boys are not, and it leads to lifelong discomfort talking about their bodies, talking about health problems. And that's probably a valid thing to point out. Sure, but definitely goes both ways.

Starting point is 00:48:06 Sure. And again, he's completely ignorant to, well, I'm sure there's a lot of things actually, especially today that women are not taught about their bodies because of, anyway. Again, these are a lot of two-way problems and he's focusing just on the male aspect of them, but he's not inherently wrong about the male aspect of them. He's just leaving a large part of the equation out. And that's where the toxicity comes in here. Yeah, I'm ready. I'm ready. Bligh has reached his fundamental message. Men and women are essentially alien and neither should apologize. They're different tribes, he is saying. My father was an alcoholic, and yet if you look underneath his weakness,

Starting point is 00:48:45 there was something there that my mother didn't have. She was fine, but she didn't have it. Three million sperm start out, and they find themselves immediately in a hostile environment, facing an egg approximately 40,000 times bigger with a product of the one survivor that didn't give up. Which is, it's really weird to be like,

Starting point is 00:49:02 setting up the gender struggle as like sperm versus egg, where it's like, well actually all of us are the product of sperm and eggs. It's the only way people happen. I just wanna emphasize on the last part of that quote there, you said, we are in the product of the one survivor that didn't give up. Yeah, what's the other half of that equation?

Starting point is 00:49:23 Is it just one little bit of cum that makes a baby, Robert Bly? Like... Oh my God. Or is there another part to the baby equation? Yeah, I just want to be like, honey, did you not show up for sex ed class that day? Did you miss that lesson?

Starting point is 00:49:39 He's framing it as like, the sperm have to murder the eggs so that one can survive. That is not the way it works. Bly actually insists that he is not preaching old style machismo. And he takes pains to tell his audience that in fact, male rage is weakness. We're not talking about aggression, he calls out.

Starting point is 00:49:59 A few of his listeners seemed confused. At the height of an hour long discussion of the Gulf War, one audience member announces that he's seceded from society. I'm not paying my taxes. I've bought an AK-47 and I'm farting around with ammunition just in case I have to back up my decision, he says softly but firmly. Bly and many others have spoken out against the Gulf War, yet nobody criticizes the AK-47 fellow. And when Bly asks the Vietnam vets to stand to be honored, the room erupts with applause for about three minutes. And you can see there too,

Starting point is 00:50:28 the seeds of a lot that's going on right now, right? Yeah. Where, yeah, he's like, we're not talking about men need to be more aggressive. And then a guy's like, I have dropped out of society and started buying guns. And everyone's like, that's great. Cool.

Starting point is 00:50:45 Look, we're not, that's great. Cool. Look, we're not, anyway, whatever. Bligh died last year. He lived a long time. Yeah, I would say. And you can find people, you know, reappraising his work and stuff. There's some folks who will say that like his greater talent was for self-promotion rather than poetry

Starting point is 00:51:05 And he wasn't as good a poet as people had said. I don't know. I'm not a not a poetry guy I'm not gonna analyze his poetry in in that way I do think sometimes because somebody turns out to age into a problematic person people are like well I guess their work that everybody loved in the past sucked And I think that's kind of cowardly like now, nah, people liked his poems, they were influential, and then he turned into a crank. That's fine, that happens. Like, yeah.

Starting point is 00:51:33 Anyway, you know who isn't a crank and who will never do anything problematic? My favorite filmmaker, Roman P- Oh, oh, you know what? I Googled his name right as I was saying that. Oh boy, oh dear. Well, I'm gonna go burn all my DVDs of Rosemary's Baby and y'all check out these ads.

Starting point is 00:51:58 Ah, we're back. Really glad I caught myself with the Googler. How long have you been saving that bit, Robert? A little while. I thought it was good with like the talk about re-appraising artist works. Thank you, thank you. I thrive on praise, Ian.

Starting point is 00:52:11 Yeah, that was something different. Good for you. So Bly died, but his work launched what scholars have called the mythopoetic men's movement. Oh my God. That's what they call it? men's movement. Oh my God. Oh my God. That's what they're calling it? Yeah. That's amazing.

Starting point is 00:52:26 It is a somewhat fucking prickish name to call it, I guess. I don't enjoy. What they mean by mythopoetic, I should explain like what they're saying, is like the argument Bly and the other, cause there's a bunch of other authors in this. The argument they're making is that our society has stripped mythology out and has become

Starting point is 00:52:47 this like kind of coldly competitive engine for creating cash value and that we need in order to make men healthier, we need to reintroduce like this kind of mythic understanding of masculinity and of the world that like that's kind of And a lot of it is they're like looking at like native American cultures and some of the different rituals around masculinity they had and being like, well, maybe we'll, and there's actually, again, there's a scientific basis to a lot of this is cultural appropriation.

Starting point is 00:53:17 But like one of the things that's happening in this period is you've got a lot of Vietnam veterans dealing with PTSD in an era before they understand it. And a thing that occurs during this period is that some of them have buddies who are also struggling with PTSD and are indigenous Americans and who invite their white and black and Hispanic battle buddies back to do stuff like sweat lodges in order to like cope in other kind of different rituals that have existed in some of these indigenous societies to deal with.

Starting point is 00:53:48 What happens to men when they go to war and they invite their friends back and that stuff works better than just getting a job working for an accounting firm immediately after leaving Vietnam. So people are starting to study this and write about it. And one of the things that the mythopoetic guys take is this belief that you should basically just kind of like steal wholesale from these cultures and dress white people up in headdresses and give them drums and stuff, as opposed to being like, oh, well maybe there's a way that isn't that

Starting point is 00:54:21 to look at the value that some of these rituals have in healing people. You know, I'm not the person to analyze that completely, but that's part of what they're saying here. Is that like, they're kind of recognizing there's something hollow at the center of American culture that is not hollow in some of these other cultures and instead of being like, maybe there's things that we should fundamentally change about American culture. They're saying, what if we dress up like these other cultures. And instead of being like, maybe there's things that we should fundamentally change about American culture, they're saying, what if we dress up like these other people, right? That's essentially what's going on

Starting point is 00:54:52 with a lot of the mythopoetic movement. So a big chunk of this, and these are some of this is Bly, some of these guys outside of Bly is they're making, they're like putting a bunch of like white accountants in sweat lodges that they make the wrong way and lecturing them about Young and Joseph Campbell, or they're making them dress like cavemen while playing African drums.

Starting point is 00:55:13 There's a lot of weird uncomfortable racism in the mythopoetic men's movement. That said, it is less toxic than the men's rights movement that would follow it. Things kind of get increasingly aggressive and toxic from this point out. But Bly and the initial mythopoetic influencers were not, they saw themselves as therapists. And again, I don't think they were good at this, but they were not political. So they were not, this was not a conservative movement.

Starting point is 00:55:41 They were not billing themselves as right wing. They were not really like weighing in on culture war issues, in part because the culture war didn't exist in the same way then that it does now. And it's interesting because Bly expressly says this is an apolitical movement. You might criticize him because he had just written a really kind of beautiful essay during the Vietnam War about the cowardness of being apolitical, but whatever. I found an article from the Washington Post in 1991 that talked to a number of men

Starting point is 00:56:13 who had been most active in the movement. And there's some interesting pieces in there. Quote, an affirmation and strength comes from a bonding between men that's impossible to put into words, says Ed Honnold, the mild-mannered federal lawyer and founder of the Men's Council of Greater Washington, one of six such local groups salving men's deep inner pain through communal rituals

Starting point is 00:56:33 of dancing, roaring, hugging, and weeping. The experience was known to men in the past, but has been forgotten. American men face a desperate situation and don't even know it. There are large numbers of men wandering lost in some personal wasteland of jobs with little meaning, personal lives with little passion,

Starting point is 00:56:47 and massive confusion about the reasons why. He pauses thoughtfully and adds, there's a lot of hurting cowboys out there. Ha ha ha. Ha ha ha. Ha ha ha. Now, these guys are not cowboys. These guys were like middle managers

Starting point is 00:57:01 at auto parts stores and shit. Like, they are absolutely not hurting cowboys. And also actual cowboys aren't what this guy thought they were. But he's not wrong again in saying that like the situation of American men was pretty unpleasant in the early 1990s. They were struggling against a capitalist culture

Starting point is 00:57:21 that thrived on the obliteration of meaning. However, men of course are not the only ones suffering from this, nor are they suffering worse than any other group of Americans, right? This is just alienation under capitalism. Part of what he's doing here that is noteworthy and becomes a huge problem later on is he is identifying real problems with the society we live in and then cutting men off from the rest of that society, and thus cutting off the possibility of solidarity. So you can't look at this kind of alienation and loss of meaning and be like, wow, men and women and everybody is being harmed by the meaninglessness,

Starting point is 00:57:57 this hole at the center of our culture. You have to say, men are being harmed. And then that invites like, well, there must be women that are doing it, and it must be, we should be looking at how feminine rather than being like. It opens the door for the toxicity to flow right in. It's interesting to see like just how far John Wayne's like reach impacts the way men think.

Starting point is 00:58:17 Yeah. There's a lot of hurt in cowboys. Motherfucker, you are not a cowboy. Yeah. And by the way, cowboys were mostly like poor black and Hispanic and indigenous men who were being exploited for their labor. Like, this is, none of what you're saying means anything.

Starting point is 00:58:34 You are entirely, you're talking about the emptiness of culture and your understanding of history has been entirely formed by the movies you watched. Like, anyway. Do better. Do better. Well, some of. Do better. Do better. Well, some of them will eventually in the future. I think it would be interesting to try and find out,

Starting point is 00:58:51 look into all these men's groups in the Washington, in the state of Washington in this period of time and see how many of those guys wound up being elders in the Proud Boys 30 years later. But that's a more in-depth work for someone in the future if they wanna do it. So one of the most dangerous aspects of the mythopoetic men's movement is that it was not as toxic as its descendants.

Starting point is 00:59:16 Again, it identifies real problems, but then it recasts them as things that just men, mostly white men are suffering from. And the answer is like, kitschy kind of racist larping as member, like that's basically what they're doing, right? And this, yeah, it causes problems later on. One of the most ridiculous aspects

Starting point is 00:59:37 of the mythopoetic men's movement was the creation of wingspan, the journal of the male spirit. Ah, don't you just wanna sit down down Ian with a copy of wingspan? Read out quotes to your buds. I start every morning with it with it. Yeah. Yeah Spreading your wings So in the in the pre-internet era this acted as a clearinghouse for the movement and a central place where influencers could advertise their events quote the last issue of wingspan lists dozens of

Starting point is 01:00:01 could advertise their events. Quote, the last issue of Wingspan lists dozens of publications and events for men around the country, including a new warrior training adventure weekend in Wisconsin, drumming and dancing for men in Massachusetts, brother to brother in New York, healing the father wound in California, and Afro-American males at risk in New Jersey. A recent grandfather ceremony at the Fairfax Unitarian Men's

Starting point is 01:00:22 Council featured drumming on a 5.5 foot Thunderheart drum. In this area, there are three large councils in Virginia, one in Gaithersburg and another in Baltimore. The Men's Council of Greater Washington, which Honnold started in June of 1988 with 50 men, is the largest, with 2,000 members and 50 newcomers arriving for each monthly meeting. Late one night in January, at the Council's meeting in the Washington Ethical Society auditorium on Upper 16th Street, Honnold shed his Clark Kent image as he leads 500 men who are pounding drums and chanting.

Starting point is 01:00:52 The sweating windows shake with rhythmic thunder that reverberates up and down the street as they raise Honnold, gyrating and clapping, high overhead and parade him about the room. Then group leaders circulate with large feathers and clay pots, wafting the smoke of burning sage into the waiting faces in what is termed

Starting point is 01:01:06 a Native American ritual designed to put you in touch with generations of male ancestors. So that's a little problematic. Yeah, just a little bit. Just a skosh. A number of other masculinity grifters followed by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette wrote the bestseller King Warrior Magician Lover, which purported to...

Starting point is 01:01:28 Yeah, that's a title right there. I wanna be a king warrior magician lover. And these are like the archetypes of male masculinity. I don't think they're in order because you probably don't start as a king and end up as a lover. Although maybe you do, that would be progressive, actually, saying that you need to shed your mastery

Starting point is 01:01:48 and your sense of ownership in order to become a lover. But I don't think that's the point they're making. Moore is a Jungian analyst and a professor of psychology. Gillette, like Dr. Jordan Balthasar Peterson, was a mythologist. I found a good write-up that described the main arguments in their book by Aaron Innis. The book's second shared premise is that there are universal male archetypes

Starting point is 01:02:07 inherent to every male body person that are represented in myth and story around the world but are suppressed in the dominant culture. The developmental history of every man, says Morangelet, is in large part the story of his failure or success at discovering within himself the archetypes of mature masculinity. Following Jungian psychological theory, they claim that if men are not given room to express these archetypes in a healthy manner, they will act them out unconsciously in ways that are damaging and violent, either directed outward at other people as

Starting point is 01:02:33 overtly hostile male behavior or directed inward, which saps the vitality of the men involved. It's worth noting that the authors of both books, as well as their contemporary followers, seem a hell of a lot more concerned about remedying male acting out that's turned inward and creating male malaise than they are about male violence directed towards others. Take the essay, Why Men Find It So Hard to Feel, by mythopoetic workshop leader Darren Austin Hall, who says that women are at an advantage to men spiritually, and that menstrual cycles mean women are energetically connected to cycles of the moon, which in turn is energetically linked to our unconscious.

Starting point is 01:03:05 This leads him to the conclusion that the solution to warmongering tyrants in the world is for women to use touch and the beautiful arts of seductive love to disarm men and that this will solve male violence. Oh, there it is. There's the toxicity. You girls just gotta touch us right and we'll stop doing genocides.

Starting point is 01:03:23 Oh my God. That's incredible. Hitler wouldn't have done all that bad stuff if, I get why I mean he was dating his cousin. So I don't really want to continue this joke, but. What? Dating's the wrong word. You know that story, Sophie.

Starting point is 01:03:43 We've talked about Hitler and his cousin. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The one who killed herself. Yeah, it's a bad, it's a really bad story. Again, bringing up Hitler and the cousin that he may be murdered is definitely, perhaps a good way of pointing out how fucked up it is to say the problem of men's violence

Starting point is 01:04:00 is that women don't touch them the right way. It's pretty bad. It also brings to mind, I'm thinking about our Liberia episodes and that sex strike that a bunch of women went on to get the warlords to come to the table to negotiate and how it's like literally the opposite. It's number one, one of the most amazing stories

Starting point is 01:04:18 of activism I've ever heard of. And it's literally the opposite of what these guys are saying. But I don't know But I don't know. I don't know. This is all so gross. Yeah, icky. So most regular listeners of the show

Starting point is 01:04:33 are broadly familiar with the way men's empowerment gurus and men's rights influencers evolved over the last 20 years or so. A mix of right-wing culture war politics intersecting with very divorced men. And I think we haven't talked about this yet, but these guys are all extremely divorced, right? There's a there's a lot of weekend dad energy in these rooms. That makes sense. Yeah. Okay.

Starting point is 01:04:54 That's why they're all so bitter. Okay. Yeah, that there's just no way anything else is going on here. Elon Musk would have been really, really would have fit in at these. Maybe it would have kept him from buying Twitter. I don't wanna say it was all toxic. So yeah, again, you have, most people listening are kind of familiar with where things descend after the mythopoetic men's movement,

Starting point is 01:05:17 which is still kind of is around, but more or less peters out over the course of the 90s. And after that point You've got a mix of right-wing culture war politics that intersects with these very divorced dudes angry over custody You know yelling about how men are discriminated against and then we have pick of course starting in the early 2000s these pickup artists selling the secret to fucking chicks at bars and This all gets brewed up into this slurry and you know You've got the pickup artists intersecting

Starting point is 01:05:46 with the men's rights activists, intersecting with the right-wing culture war politicians, intersecting with these literal Nazis. And from that slurry, we get Gamergate and the alt-right and at least a portion of Donald Trump's political success. Right? So that is the story. Boy, howdy, that was a paragraph, Robert.

Starting point is 01:06:04 That is the story. Well, I mean, this is, we haven't gone into this on the show and it was something I was broadly aware of but didn't know much about. But I think this is especially leading into a story about a guy like Andrew Tate, who is the most toxic arguably,

Starting point is 01:06:17 calls himself the most like toxic man on the internet and is certainly an archon of male toxicity, I think it kind of behooves us to talk about what led to him because it's interesting. Anyway, this is the end of episode one. Anybody got some thoughts here at the end of things? I mean, I think that was a really great explainer on kind of laying the groundwork for where the ideas that eventually became Andrew Tate, started and took a foothold.

Starting point is 01:06:47 And yeah, after you broke it down, it makes sense. And I can see how we got there. But it is interesting that some of the initial original points, like you said, were valid and do kind of highlight some issues in our society that maybe we should be focusing more on or addressing, but also, as you said, it's not just a men's problem, it's a problem for everyone,

Starting point is 01:07:10 and everyone's being affected by it, and we should be finding solidarity in that, and how can we help everybody improve our lives, not just, oh, it's a problem that's only affecting men, so it must be women, you know, those are the real problem. It's so interesting to me how many people see, oh, men are being made to like spend their entire young and mature adult lives,

Starting point is 01:07:34 like laboring for somebody else's profit in a factory or whatever. And as a result, their kids barely know them, which is a real problem. A lot of kids raised in like the 50s, 60s, 70s have, and translating that as, and like seeing, you know, their mom struggling to like keep the house going

Starting point is 01:07:51 and raise the kids through all that and the kids suffering and be like, well, this is clearly a men's problem. No, this is a cultural problem. Everybody's problem is this. Anyway, Sophie? I'm really not looking forward to what's coming next. Oh, Sophie, it's gonna be terrible

Starting point is 01:08:11 and you're gonna have to play a lot of clips. So. I'm so sorry listeners. But it is. I'm sorry. But it is necessary. And you know what? I'm not sorry. I'll never apologize.

Starting point is 01:08:23 That's what I learned from Andrew Tate. I think you wrote a really good script though. Thank you, Sophie. You're welcome, Robert. I love me too. Alright everybody, that's gonna do it with us for us today at Behind the Bastards. The podcast that will be recorded again immediately after this, although I will probably start drinking because it is now quite late. So, huzzah! Huzzah!

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Starting point is 01:12:15 Let's go on how you hoped happy face new series now streaming exclusively on paramount Plus. Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's late. We ended the last episode where I was like, wow, you're such a great writer. That was so good. Thank you, Sophie. And then you come in and then you do that fucking shit.

Starting point is 01:12:38 What? Well, Sophie, you may not understand this because of your womanliness, but I was embodying the archetype of the magician wild man. You're fired. That's fair. Well, I have started drinking. Got a nice glass of Port Rue Talisker here.

Starting point is 01:13:07 And I want to start this episode by giving a shout out to a friend of the pod, former mayor of the city of Portland, Sam Adams. Now y'all may not know Sam, I think he was briefly on the show Portlandia, but he was fired from being the mayor because he had a sexual relationship with a teenage staffer Um, and then got rehired by current mayor of portland ted wheeler who's a giant piece of shit Yeah to be the mayor's body man, basically Um, and then this week sam announced that he was retiring because he had an iron deficiency And then ted wheeler told everyone no he's retiring because he wouldn't stop threatening

Starting point is 01:13:46 and bullying women in the office. Both of you guys suck and it's very funny this happened. Also, I gotta say, shout out to Sam Adams. Honestly, going from sexually harassing a teenager to being a bully to adult women, that's a step forward. Okay. Disagree, Sophie?

Starting point is 01:14:13 You're fired, I don't know what else to say. One of the two things isn't a sex crime. So that's a real personal growth for former mayor of Portland, Sam Adams. Anyway. Ted Wheeler, what the fuck is wrong with you? Great hiring. Look, honestly, fuck Sam Adams, he's a piece of shit.

Starting point is 01:14:34 But incredible hiring decision from Ted Wheeler. Yeah, let's get the guy in here who had sex with a 17 year old staffer. Let's get him back in City Hall. We really need his insights. Great, great work Ted. Really shocked about, you know, how well liked he is in the city of Portland. Yeah, he, I mean, he's not,

Starting point is 01:14:55 but you can let him know how you feel about his decision to hire and then fire Sam Adams at at Ted Wheeler on Twitter. Remember when he got the tear gas thrown on him. I do remember that. That was nice. So I started talking about Ted Wheeler and Sam Adams because they're both toxic men.

Starting point is 01:15:13 And today we are finally getting into the direct personal story of one of the most toxic men of all time, Emory Andrew Tate III. Oh. That's quite a name, that's quite a name. That's quite a name. Now, Emory Andrew Tate III was born in Washington, D.C. on December 1st, 1986.

Starting point is 01:15:34 Now, that fancy name might lead you to think that he came from some like British ash, British, British ass, noble family or some shit. That sounds like a duke's name to me. But very formal. That sounds like a Duke's name to me. But no. It's very formal. It sounds like old money for sure. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:15:50 He is not. Now, most of the texture that we get on his childhood comes from Andrew himself, which is not ideal because he is a liar. But there's just not a lot of other, again, I haven't found, no one's done like a critical biography. There's not like a big, long New Yorker piece that really delves into his backstory.

Starting point is 01:16:09 So I kind of had to do that myself to the best extent that I could do. Now I did find one, and this is honestly the only texture you get on his childhood that I have come across, is from an article he wrote for a website for kickboxing that sells kickboxing gear. And the title of it is The Life of Andrew King Cobra Tate. So again, this is not a credible source, but the way in which he writes about his childhood and what he wants you to believe about it

Starting point is 01:16:36 does tell you a lot about the man. So we're still going to be covering it, but do not take this as literal truth. That should be obvious. Here's how he talks about his birth. I was born in Washington DC at Walter Reed Army Hospital early one morning, December 1st, 1986. The doctor wanted to award me a perfect 10

Starting point is 01:16:54 on the birth scale, but settled on 9.5. So already, already that's the saddest thing anyone has ever bragged about. That's so pathetic. Absolutely heartbreaking. Oh my God. That's on somebody's fucking like dating profile for sure. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:17:16 Two weeks overdue, but I was nose breathing already as the doctor held me upside down by my heels and my right fist was inside of my mouth as I suckled. The doctor pinched my thigh to get a response and I growled, knitting my brow and trying to crane my head up to see who had attacked me. The doctor paled, shocked at my defensive powers. I did not cry.

Starting point is 01:17:37 Oh my God, I hate this fucking guy. Oh, that's so funny though. Bragging about how tough you were as a baby. As an infant. As a baby. Like, wow. Unbelievable. I'm like in shock and I like keep rereading

Starting point is 01:17:57 what you just said and it's, wow. I'm gonna tell y'all right now, cause again, everything I found just kind of glosses over his childhood, because we don't have a lot of detailed, someone hasn't gone through and interviewed a shitload of people that he knew as a little kid, or knew it, right?

Starting point is 01:18:13 That hasn't happened yet, I'm sure it will. And I was thinking we were just gonna have to brush over his childhood, and then I found this article he wrote about himself on a kickboxing website. And it made my week And it made my week. It made my week. It's so funny. You're bragging about your own birth.

Starting point is 01:18:30 Like you did fucking anything. So if you're curious about Andrew's parentage, his mother, Eileen, is indeed English as shit. And she's a white lady. She worked as a catering assistant. His father is Emory Tate Jr. and Emory, well, was Emory Tate Jr. Emory Tate Jr. was a black American man and a Chicago chess prodigy. Actually, up until a year or two ago, Emory Tate was much more

Starting point is 01:18:56 famous than Andrew Tate. We actually had in the, in the, our, our work chat, Mia was shocked to learn that Andrew Tate was Emory Tate's son. I had not heard of this guy, but I don't care for chess Or for yeah chess. Yeah, the Washington Post describes Emory Tate jr. As a trailblazer for black chess players He was like one of the first I don't know. He may have been like the first like super famous Really well-known like black professional chess players. Again, I don't understand chess. I don't understand why you would play a war game that doesn't include orcs, but a lot

Starting point is 01:19:33 of people who love chess say that he was one of the most fun players to watch. I did read a lot of like writing like fans and like Reddit and stuff talking about Emery Tate and one thing they all seem to agree on is he was just super entertaining to watch play chess. Quick, quick Q. Why does when you type in Emery Tate into Google, why does the first suggested thing come up as CIA? What?

Starting point is 01:19:57 I typed Emery Tate into Google, and the first thing that autofills is CIA. He was in the CIA. Well, Andrew says that he was in the CIA. Is that what's happening? Yeah, he was. So he was in the Air Force as a sergeant and he served as a linguist. There's not actually hard evidence that he was in the CIA

Starting point is 01:20:25 that I have seen. Like this is based on, again, Andrew is kind of, and we're about to get into this, he's really plumping his dad's reputation to make him into like, not just a chess guy, but a badass. So may or may not be somebody who worked in the CIA. I have not seen any independent confirmation that he worked in the CIA. I have not seen any independent confirmation that he worked in the CIA.

Starting point is 01:20:46 Maybe he did. A lot of guys in that period who like did some sort of like weird work where they would have just been listed as a state department employee. So it's not impossible, but I have not come across confirmation that he was in the CIA. So the Washington Post and most sources

Starting point is 01:21:04 who write about Andrew's dad will call him a grand master at chess. This is not entirely true. He was, I mean, this is not true. He was an international master, which is a lesser rank. He never quite made it to grand master. I found again chess discussions online by nerds about chess who will say that he didn't make it to grand master, mainly because he wasn't able to, he wasn't willing to do like certain things that you have to do to do that But he was he had a really good record. He regularly beat grandmasters. Some people say he was as good at Bobby Fischer again I have no way to Evaluate any of this Robert was a big anti chest a chess approach here again

Starting point is 01:21:39 There's no there's no battle tanks and chess. There's no Titans with chainsaw hands There's no battle tanks in chess. There's no Titans with chainsaw hands. The ultimate game of strategy is still Warhammer 40,000. I think we can all agree on that. Yes, of course. It's been true for generations. But anyway, Emery Tate, great at chess. A chess historian wrote a book about him,

Starting point is 01:22:00 which gives us some idea as to where Andrew Tate got his sense of style and personal branding. The title was triple exclam with three exclamation points. The life and games of Emery Tate, chess warrior, which is kind of fun. I think he literally died at the table in 2015 playing a game of chess. Like this man, this motherfucker loved chess. He wears a white fedora with a gold band on the cover, which also gives you a little bit of insight into where Andrew Tate gets some of his taste in style. And Andrew idolizes his father,

Starting point is 01:22:33 and he doesn't particularly, I'm not gonna pretend to know the man's emotional state, but in his public writing, he particularly celebrates his dad. In that kickboxing website article, 2022 Andrew Tate noted this about the male side of his family background. He pushed a plow with mule through the hard clay dirt of Georgia forced to work on the farm at age 12 He pushed a plow that only grown men normally handled then he ran away never to return to the farm He did some bare-knuckled fistfights as a young man and distinguished himself hand-to-hand during the war years

Starting point is 01:23:14 And again, I'm sure parts of that are true Everything about his dad and his grandpa always veers into how good they were at hand-to-hand combat and there is no evidence of this Like the stuff about working on a farm. Yeah, that seems plausible. The stuff about how we fought the Nazis hand-to-hand. I don't know, maybe, but that actually didn't happen often. That just gives me like, my dad can beat up your dad vibes.

Starting point is 01:23:38 Like it sounds like something like a kid would say. Yeah, like he bragged about his own birth. I mean, it's like, you don't have to lie about him fist fighting Nazis. It's okay if he just shot them. A lot of dudes did, and that was rad. Like, he doesn't have to be great at punching just because you grew up to punch people for a living.

Starting point is 01:23:57 That's kind of a weird thing to focus on, Andrew. But he loves talking about how good his dad and grandpa were at fighting. Quote, his son, my dad, Emory A. Tate Jr. was a young athlete learning wrestling in school and developing the early forms of Tate-Shen Kai strikes as a youth, which I guess is his own martial arts thing. His job in the military for 11 years took him on many adventures and little is known for sure except that my dad never loses He is my role model and winning in many ways even as I write poetry like he does So I mean also I think his dad would have been in the military. Let me let me double-check here Yeah during Vietnam which would mean that he did in fact lose.

Starting point is 01:24:45 So sorry, Andrew, but I don't wanna be mean to Emory Tate because well, this is a little bit his fault. So yeah, the closest thing that Andrew has written or said that comes close to being emotionally impactful at all is when he writes about his father. I will give him that. He writes with like some amount of actual sincerity about his feelings towards his dad.

Starting point is 01:25:14 And I'm gonna give you an example of that now. I never learned to cry for attention. I only used grunts to indicate hunger or discomfort, but mostly I was silent. I had a large new crib, but most every night I spent to sleep on my dad's chest He would place me there and sleep still never moving in the night and our heartbeats were and are as one I just kind of see a baby like

Starting point is 01:25:35 Yeah, just too angry to Bits like this do contrast with passages where Andrew will relate stories about his dad that sound kind of abusive. Quote, I learned to defend myself soon after I could walk long before my first punch into a pillow. I learned to balance how to step backward after being pushed gently in the chest. Dad made a game of it, a game which ended with a savage shove across a living room, sending me into a dramatic backpedal.

Starting point is 01:26:04 I stopped myself with my head one inch from cracking into the far wall. That was the final test. Kind of sounds like your dad was just shoving you because he was pissed, Andrew. Yeah, that kind of sounds not great, bro. Do you need to talk about this, man? Yeah.

Starting point is 01:26:20 No talking, just ah. Yeah. Just angry grunts. Just shoving. I mean, look, if. Yeah. Just angry grunts. Just shoving. I mean, look, if I was gonna raise a child, I'd be lying if I said that the shoving method didn't hold some appeal, because I do a lot of other things by shoving.

Starting point is 01:26:34 It's how I move my furniture, it's how I record podcasts. I'm shoving a walking desk around the room right now. We actually, Danel spends like 13 hours a week editing that out before we can even get the audio off off to Chris. That's most of his job. It's really, it's a good part of our work. Ian, remind me to tell you about the time when Robert got a foot massager and he refused to not use it while recording. Still have it, Sophie. Still have it. You want me to plug this bad boy in? And it would go directly into the mic.

Starting point is 01:27:07 And like, there's no hazard pay that's enough. Like, truly, don't take it out. Don't plug it in. No, he's plugging it in. I'm sorry, Ian. That was my fault for bringing it up. That was your fault for bringing it up. But more importantly, not my fault because nothing is.

Starting point is 01:27:27 Speaking of toxic masculinity, let's get back to Andrew Tate. So Andrew was raised initially in the DC area and then Indiana. And he seemed to want to follow in his father's footsteps. He started playing chess at age three. He started competing at five. And he eventually competed in adult tournaments while still a child. And this is where we get the very first news article

Starting point is 01:27:49 on Andrew Tate, who at that point was referred to as Emory A. Tate. It is a local news piece. And this is the first like objective-ish piece of journalism that like, it's not just like him writing about his background. And it's really the only insight we get into his childhood that doesn't come directly from a Tate.

Starting point is 01:28:08 It's again, a local news piece, the news in his town, which is like South Bend, was talking about the release. There was a movie coming out about Bobby Fisher, who I guess was good at chess. And so they were writing about that and they wanted a human interest piece. So they talked about young Andrew Tate, who was six when they wrote this article.

Starting point is 01:28:27 He had started a chess club in South Bend with some other kids and he had taught them chess because he wanted people to play against. It includes the article, a couple of quotes that are interesting. Every kid wants to be like his dad, the elder Tate said, but father had recently limited son's playing time, encouraging other activities. I don't think that a kid his age should spend so much time playing chess. As a parent, I'd like to see him become a top level player, but I realize there's so much more to life than just chess. He learned how to swim this summer and he plays with his friends and stuff like that.

Starting point is 01:28:58 Andrew, however, says he plays because he's bored all the time. Most of the time I'm bored, and that's the only thing I wanna do most. So yeah, interesting. There's some insight into the actual kid there. That is a response I understand from a kid. Like I am bored all the time. This is the only thing that I like. It also, you know, gives you a little bit of a look

Starting point is 01:29:23 into like, for whatever reason, one of the things i take with this article is that emery tate didn't want his son to follow him as a chess. Guy it might have been some insecurity about not wanting his kid to be something else with your life I don't want you to like be locked into this thing I know there's some interesting questions that answers or asks The author of this article notes that Andrew had just competed in his first adult chess tournament where he had and again Andrew's later on when he starts putting out propaganda trying to make himself into a badass will point out that like at age six He was playing in adult chess tournaments. He did lose three out of five games. And his dad eventually had to pull him out of the tournament

Starting point is 01:30:10 because quote, he got very upset because he thought he was failing. So Emery withdrew his son from the game to quote, save him from crying in front of all those people. And we're not keyed into what precisely happened there. Whoa, whoa, whoa, Thought he didn't cry. Why are we worried about that? It sure seems like his dad said he did.

Starting point is 01:30:29 Yeah. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Fact check. And again, you know. Right flag. I'm gonna guess one of two things happened there. Either Andrew was just throwing a fit because he was losing and his dad was like,

Starting point is 01:30:40 well, you can't be at a chess tournament if you're gonna throw a fit when you lose. Or Andrew was doing okay and wanted to keep playing and his dad was angry that he was losing and didn't want him to keep like risk losing again. Even though three to two is not a bad record for a six year old playing chess. Yeah, he's six.

Starting point is 01:30:57 Yeah. Yeah, either way, we don't know which of those is the case. Either possibility is interesting to me. Andrew's parents had another boy, Tristan, two years after Andrew was born, and the two brothers have been inseparable their whole lives. They played chess together, but Tristan never competed. They would later kickbox together, but Tristan never competed. He's like always there, but he also doesn't seem to get to live a full life because he exists purely in his brother's shadow as like an agent of his greatness.

Starting point is 01:31:27 It's kind of a weird relationship for Tristan. But I don't think he's self-aware enough to understand that it's weird. One photo in that news article shows six-year-old Andrew focused in the picture frame, face taking up a third of the frame, playing chess, while just Tristan's hand is visible in the right third. And as the brothers grew up,

Starting point is 01:31:47 Andrew would consistently stay in focus while Tristan would always just sort of be off to the side. Is that, and that's true to this day, right? To this day. I don't have it in the script, we can play it. There's a very funny video of his brother, like telling him to go out to like film their cars for this video they're doing about how nice their life is. And then when his brother like telling him to go out to like film their cars for this video They're doing about how nice their life is and then when his brother goes out

Starting point is 01:32:08 Andrew cuts the feed just to be like haha fuck you. This is my show I don't have to like let you do anything if I don't want to and it's like weirdly abusive because they're both men who? were in their 30s Like Tristan you don't have to take that like Things got harder for them after South Bend because their mom and dad, it's not a good marriage and they divorce. I have found very little detail

Starting point is 01:32:33 about why that divorce happened. We can infer though that it was an extremely painful time for Andrew and this is all he's willing to write about it. Dad was working minimum wage jobs over time since his military career had been ended. Both mom and dad worked so that we could survive. Things became so hard that we decided to go to England and try a life there, only minus dad." And he's not willing to write like, you know, the marriage didn't work out or, and again, we don't know why. I'm going to avoid like theorizing what might have happened there.

Starting point is 01:33:05 But this is clearly he idolizes his dad and he's taken away from him forever, basically. And obviously, mom might have had a perfectly good reason for doing that. I'm not trying to be critical. We just actually don't really know. But this is definitely like the fact that he's not willing to even acknowledge the basics of what happened kind of suggests this leaves a pretty profound impact on young Andrew. So by age 11, he was in his words, man of the house, looking after his younger brother and now sister. The town in England they live in was called Luton and it is still, I think it's usually pronounced by English people, Luton, but you know, you know how they are

Starting point is 01:33:45 I didn't think we would get an accent this episode, but I'm glad we did. I'm from Luton. That's how they sound You know how much that upsets When I do my when I do my accent should I do my Boston accent to get him back on board? Yeah, your Boston accent really good. I am from Boston and I like Kathy back on board. Yeah, your Boston accent's really good. Oy, I'm from Boston and oy, loy, caffy and chowder. Yeah, he sounds like an Australian person underwater being strangled. Boston is just Western Australia, Sophie. Anyways, Robert, it's time for an ad break.

Starting point is 01:34:24 It is time for an ad break. It is time for an ad break. So go to Dinkin' Doonuts and have you a caffey. Robert, it's so bad. It's pretty good. It's like it's fair. It's so bad. It's impressive. Like, thank you.

Starting point is 01:34:37 I feel like that takes a lot of skill and control to be that bad. Again, I'll take any kind of praise. I don't care. Bad attention, good attention. It's all the same to me. It takes a lot of skill and control to be that bad. Again, I'll take any kind of praise. I don't care. Bad attention, good attention. It's all the same to me. Welcome to our podcast about toxic masculinity. Oh, and we're back. So Luton is, it's not an easy place to grow up.

Starting point is 01:35:07 It is in fact close to if not the very hardest place to grow up in England. It is one of the poorest places in the country. It has been repeatedly voted the worst place to live in England. I actually found a poll from like seven days before I read the script from Bedfordshire Live that voted it the worst place to live in England. It is a tough town. Andrew and his family have

Starting point is 01:35:30 basically no money. They live in public housing and they are just barely getting by. We know this for certain. Like this is a confirmed fact about his upbringing. Now, Andrew, again, definitely acknowledges that they were poor. This is actually an important part of his own self mythology. But he also makes some claims that we do not know for sure are true. He claims he got a job as soon as I was old enough,

Starting point is 01:35:54 although he does not say when that was. Quote, as soon as I was old enough, I got a job moving 80 pound boxes of frozen fish into the market at 5 a.m. Then a full day of school. Weekends found me at the market stall where I perfected my knife skills Flawlessly filleting fish at blinding speeds after some time. I never cut my hands at all not even a Nick I learned to play drums and Yeah

Starting point is 01:36:18 That's that's interesting. Um, I I'm sure some again. I'm sure pieces of all of this are true. I don't know about his knife skills or the blinding speed, but I'm sure pieces of this are true. Now, Trist, or Andrew, interestingly, says that the only one of them who got into a real world fight when they were kids was his brother, Tristan. Some kid was bullying him and he beat him up.

Starting point is 01:36:41 I don't know if that story is true or not, but it is worth noting that Andrew claims in this article, I have never struck a person in anger. Now we know that's not true because he has beaten at least one like, yeah, we know that's not true. We will talk about that later, but this is the claim that he is making in this thing that he writes in like 2022. When he was a young adult, he was introduced to a kickboxing trainer and he started training as did his brother soon after. By 2008, he was the seventh highest ranked heavyweight kickboxer in Britain.

Starting point is 01:37:15 A year later, he won his first championship and became the number one ranked kickboxer in Europe for his division. Two years later in 2012, he was the second best heavyweight kickboxer on the planet. That sounds very impressive, right? Yeah. Yeah, I mean, second best kickboxer on the planet.

Starting point is 01:37:32 That means you can kick to death anybody with one guy. Yeah, that is not what that actually means. So I'm gonna be honest, all of the articles about him will just say he was the second best had light heavyweight Sometimes they'll just say the second best kickboxer on the planet They'll talk about his championships and like list the numbers. I was the first drafted this actually I just wrote that and then moved on was like yeah, he's really good at kickboxing Lots of bad people are really good at something. I assumed he was as I like I figured that that was true

Starting point is 01:38:02 I looked at his Wikipedia page, which says he has like 79 wins and nine losses and lists his championships. And he did win a bunch of what are called world championships. However, that's not how boxing works, because I also looked up a bunch of discussions of boxing fans analyzing his actual performance. And one thing they'll point out is that, well, there's not just one guy who's the best at kickboxing. Kickboxing is actually an incredibly fragmented sport, and there are a bunch of different. they'll point up is that well, there's not just one guy who's the best at kickboxing.

Starting point is 01:38:25 Kickboxing is actually an incredibly fragmented sport and there are a bunch of different, I don't know if they call them leagues or whatever, there's a bunch of different types of kickboxing championships and some are more impressive than others, right? Some are people who are really good at kickboxing, some are people who are more amateur and Andrew kind of stayed doing the more amateur stuff and he was really good at beating amateur kickboxers One of the critiques people will note who are into kickboxing is that the league that he became world Or light heavyweight champion in only covers europe

Starting point is 01:38:59 so Okay, you guys might notice there's a couple of places that are the world that aren't Europe. That I assume there's some kickboxers in those places. At least one or two. Yeah, at least a couple. The other thing they'll point out is that of all of these fights that he had, and he claims like 79 wins,

Starting point is 01:39:19 they can only verify like 40 something fights because, and this is, that may not mean that he's lying. It's all of the ways that this shit gets reported are weird, right? And there's so many different weird leagues and shit. He might be lying about the total number of wins and games he was in, but of the things that we can verify, only, this is something kickboxing fans will point out,

Starting point is 01:39:40 only five of his fights are against guys with Wikipedia pages. And that may sound silly But it means like guys who are notable enough that they they have a quote like we're good enough at kickboxing So most fights were against like no bodies or no But you guys who just you know fight on the weekends or something of the notable five fights He was in he lost three of them The allegation kickboxing fans will make is that he mostly fought amateurs to pad his record now everyone agrees

Starting point is 01:40:07 He's still that's still pretty good at kickboxing, but he is not the second He was never the second best on the planet earth at kickboxing That's just simply not the case And I think it's it's fair to say he's pretty good at kickboxing He was never as good as he claimed. And this is a part of the self-mythologizing that he engages in, kind of vastly exaggerating his competency at kicking people a bunch with his feet. So, yeah, it's also worth noting that like,

Starting point is 01:40:38 the level Tate actually was at did not pay terribly well. The per fight amount is impressive. He could make between 50 and $100,000 per fight that he was in, but he was having like one or two fights per year, which is not terrible income, but you're paying for a coach, you're paying for gym access, you're paying for the medical care that comes from this. And he's going to have several serious injuries.

Starting point is 01:41:02 So he's not living well off of this salary. And in fact, he and his brother are living in a cheap apartment, I think in Bedfordshire, and eating as cheaply as they possibly can in order to afford to keep being in kickboxing. Cause it's like, that's kind of what it is when you're competing at this kind of awkward level that he's at.

Starting point is 01:41:21 And Tate relates aspects of this himself in a video from 2022. And I'm gonna play this so everyone can get a look and listen to the guy before we can go any further. This is from his video on Rumble. This is his like, like Rumble is right wing YouTube and his channel is called Tate Speech, as in hate speech, but you guys get it, right?

Starting point is 01:41:45 I don't need you. Here it is, the first clip. World level athletes with no money. We invented a dish that was so bland, we called it flavor, because it was the only way you could add flavor to the dish. So it had the name flavor, but it was extremely bland.

Starting point is 01:42:04 And it was white rice, frozen peas, because they're cheap, kidney beans, kidney beans have more protein per 100 grams than minced beef. Did you know that? I found out when I was broke, walking the aisles of the grocery store, trying to find the cheapest protein money can buy. Could have bring myself to be a vegetarian,

Starting point is 01:42:24 so I'd add a little bit of meat, minced beef. And if I was really rich, I'd have hot sauce. And I actually suspect he's probably not lying too much there. That seems like a reasonable story, and I know some people who are professional athletes at that similar awkward level, where you're like a pro but you're not rich

Starting point is 01:42:45 who are like, yeah, you do whatever it takes to like stay fueled, that means cooking giant pots of like not delicious things just to stay. Anyway, that seems broadly speaking like he's probably not lying entirely about that. Now he is lying about he and his brother being world-class athletes. You might say he was, that's gonna be up to what you define that as, but Tristan is

Starting point is 01:43:06 not competing in kickboxing. He is working as like a coach, kind of, although people will criticize that in ways that are too weirdly nuanced and involve knowledge of kickboxing. So we're just going to move on. Now the height of his career as a guy who kicks people for money comes in like 2012, 2013. 2013 I think is his last big championship and not long after that he decides to leave professional sports as a full-time thing. Injuries play a major role in this.

Starting point is 01:43:37 Tate does not like talking about vulnerability but he was worse at taking hits than he likes to pretend. He suffered detached retinas in several fights and had to have surgery for his eyes. So he was like, he's, I mean, again, and again, that's the, I'm pointing this out because he will never admit it. Like if you're a professional kickboxer, at some point you're going to get hurt enough

Starting point is 01:44:01 that you can't keep doing kickboxing. Like we all saw like Muhammad Ali go from, you know, Muhammad Ali to, you know, a guy who has severe injuries as a result of being a boxer. All this stuff's bad for you. Like you either quit at a certain point or it destroys your body and mind the same way that like football or whatever it does. I mean, we all just got a reminder of that a couple of weeks ago with, um, Oh, the guy who had a heart attack on

Starting point is 01:44:25 the, yeah, this is all pretty like normal sports stuff, right? Like it, you, you are, when you're watching guys do these kinds of combat sports, you are watching people like mortgage their bodies in the hope of getting rich and take kind of had to accept at a certain point, my body is going to give out before I get rich doing this. So, you know, that's the thing that he recognizes and he decides I need to, like most professional athletes do, I need to find something else I can do that's easier on my body that I can support myself with.

Starting point is 01:44:57 You know, some people open car dealerships, some people decide to, you know, sell ads for different things and be pitchmen. Some people go into professional baseball. Tristan decided to become a webcam sex pimp. So that's an interesting call. I do think history would have been different and fascinating ways if that's the choice

Starting point is 01:45:19 Michael Jordan had made. Sophie, don't give me that look. Anyway, what I'm just saying that look you deserve it. I usually do. So for three years, they run a rapidly expanding business, finding women to act as cam operators. Now, this is not an inherently dishonest business, I guess. If you are, you know, building a studio and building like a platform by which you can,

Starting point is 01:45:53 you know, bring these these cam workers attention and they understand their contracts and like, it's a reasonably fair split. I don't have an ethical issue with building a company that allows sex workers to do cam work, right? That's fine. But the business that Tate and Tristan operated was not fine. It was fundamentally pretty toxic. No shit, the Grunt brothers didn't have a fucking workplace environment? Alright, cool.

Starting point is 01:46:22 Yeah. I'm going to quote now from an article in The Mirror, which is not an ideal source, but it's who entered them about this, and I don't know why they would lie about something this shady and gross, because it makes them seem like sex criminals. Quote, Some of their customers fall for the belief that they can have a real relationship with the women they see on screen, but Tristan brazenly told the Sunday Mirror, it's all a big scam, and bragged that he doesn't feel any guilt because no one cares and it's their problem, not mine. The more punters hand over, the more models earn. Some women will claim to have crippling university debt, a family

Starting point is 01:46:57 member in need of private health care, or a dream of moving to the UK, sometimes even telling men they want to meet them. Whatever the excuse is, it is a lie, Tristan said. So he tells a story in this article about this guy who wanted to give a cam operator $20,000, his life savings. And Tristan's like, and I talked him out of it. I told him, you know, he shouldn't do that. She was actually making good money.

Starting point is 01:47:21 And then he came back a couple of months later and fell in love with another. And this time I was like, yeah, man, we'll take your money, which definitely a lie. The Tristan and Andrew Tate have never turned down 20 grand that a desperate man offered them for lies. There's no way they're trying to talk somebody out of that. No, absolutely not bread and butter. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:47:44 I am going to continue that quote from the mirror. But first, you know what I am going to continue first is capitalism. Oh, I am. I am keeping this nightmare engine alive on my own by advertising for products on this podcast. So on your own, that's it. That's I am. I am the linchpin holding the global economy. On your own. That's it, I am the linchpin holding the global economy together. On your own.

Starting point is 01:48:08 Look, after Facebook fell apart, it's just me, baby. Oh my God. Name another company, Sophie. It's just this podcast. Just run the ads, just run the fucking ads. Raytheon. Just run the ads, just run the ads. He's out of control.

Starting point is 01:48:36 We are back. So I'm going to continue that quote from the from the Sunday mirror of Tristan Tate being interviewed. He believes he is beyond the reach of the authorities because of two lines in the terms and conditions. He said, one is, broadcasting is for entertainment purposes only. That means if a model says she has a sick dog

Starting point is 01:48:56 or a sick grandma, it doesn't have to be true. The next is that all cash given to models is a voluntary sign of gratitude for their time broadcasting. Now I'm not a lawyer. That kind of sounds like taking their money. It does sound like you're taking their money. That said, he may be in the right there.

Starting point is 01:49:15 The Mirror did a journalistic thing and they reached out to a lawyer to be like, is this true? And the lawyer said maybe, but also generally UK laws say that you can't defraud people and take their money on fraudulent terms. But also the laws haven't kept pace with technology. There's a good chance he was in a legal gray area. They did not get charged. So probably is fair to say they were in enough of a legal gray area that they were reasonably

Starting point is 01:49:43 safe. And to be like perfectly honest, I suspect they could have done this indefinitely if Andrew Tate hadn't been a sex criminal, which is what we're getting to here. So Andrew Tate later wrote this on his personal website, slash shady business teaching men to run their own webcam porn studios. This is a thing he does later, but this is how he talks about his webcam business and how he makes it work. Oh God, okay.

Starting point is 01:50:09 How did I become rich? Webcam, I've been running a webcam studio for nearly a decade. I've had over 75 girls work for me and my business model is different than 99% of webcam studio owners. Over 50% of my employees were actually my girlfriend at the time.

Starting point is 01:50:24 And of all my girlfriends, were in the adult industry entertainment industry before they met me. My job was getting women to fall in love with me. Literally that was my job. My job was to meet a girl, go on a few dates, sleep with her, test if she's quality, get her to fall in love with me to where she'd do anything I'd say, and then get her on webcam so we could become rich together. Whether you agree or disagree with what I did with their loyalties submission and love for me doesn't matter You cannot reject the results and the results are simple my girlfriends would do more for me than 99.9 percent of men's wives would do for them

Starting point is 01:50:56 So That's one of the grossest things Really gross Horrible and like voluntarily listed on his own site. And it's just fucking wild. Yeah, he bragged about this. Now, this is potentially him describing sex trafficking, right? Right.

Starting point is 01:51:18 Especially if- That's what it sounds like. If the women are not getting, now again, there's not like a law that says you can't have someone fall in love with you and then contract with them to do sex work, right? That's not a thing that there's a law against. However, if they are not getting paid for it and if they are not being allowed freedom of movement,

Starting point is 01:51:39 well then what happens is that you have like entrapped them and you are sex trafficking them, right? This is what's called, law enforcement calls this the lover boy method, right? Where you get someone to fall in love with you and also this is this goes on this is a very old tactic in like shall we say pimping? We're like, yeah You make a woman feel like or a person be in love independent dependent on you, and then you kind of emotionally abuse them into doing sex work.

Starting point is 01:52:07 This is a thing that happens that is like a recognized part of a criminal enterprise. Now, obviously getting charges based on those words on his website is going to be hard to do, but just kind of the stuff that he had published for a while was enough that people at the time should have known that he was up to what was a likely illegal business. Now if you came across articles about Tate in 2021 or 2022 and they went into any detail

Starting point is 01:52:33 about his webcam career, the most you were likely to learn was what the Mirror wrote here. After three years they moved to Romania saying the UK had gone downhill. They have women on a number of CD sites. Operators take a 40% cut and the rest goes to the studio." So that's what they claimed for years had happened. Like, you know, we did it in the UK and then the UK got woke and so we switched to Romania. That is not what actually happened.

Starting point is 01:53:01 So they started running this can business in 2012. Three years after 2012 when they moved to Romania, it's 2015. Now just a few days ago after his arrest, a story dropped that made it clear why they actually left the UK and it had nothing to do with wokeness of the country going downhill. Andrew Tate was arrested on suspicion of sexual assault and physical abuse in 2015. Vice broke the story. Quote, two women told Vice World News they were violently arrested on suspicion of sexual assault and physical abuse in 2015. Vice broke the story, quote, two women told Vice World News they were violently abused. One raped the other repeatedly strangled by Andrew Tate and that UK police in the Crown Prosecution Service mishandled their case, leaving him free to rise to

Starting point is 01:53:38 global fame on the back of his unchecked misogyny. Police took four years to pass their investigation to the Crown Prosecution Service, whose job involves assessing whether there is a realistic prospect of conviction, at which point the CPS declined to prosecute. So that's the reality of why they had to leave the UK. Yeah, he's a fucking vile, disgusting human being. It makes the timeline makes a lot more sense when you know that. He's like, yeah, we had to bounce because things just got too woke for us in Romania.

Starting point is 01:54:10 Shut the fuck up. He later made the claim that I had to leave Romania because in the UK a man can get accused of rape for anything. And Romania, it's much harder to get accused of rape. And so I moved to Romania, not because I'm a rapist, but because I like freedom. No, man, you were, you were accused of rape by multiple women, and then investigated, and you decided to leave because you didn't know if the UK was going to come for your ass at some point. And the story is actually a bit more fucked up than that because back in 2014, a woman who vice refers to as Amelia filed a police report alleging sexual and physical abuse by Tate.

Starting point is 01:54:51 She claims that she and Tate met in 2009. They were friendly for years until 2013, which is when Tate was transitioning away from kickboxing to webcam pimping. The two decided to go out on a series of dates at the end of that year. And after several weeks, they were in her room when Andrew forced himself on her. Now she describes him stopping, like she tells him to stop when he starts like trying to go to have sex.

Starting point is 01:55:15 And she tells him that she doesn't wanna have sex. And he tells her, she says that he like sits quietly for a moment. And then she asks him what's going on. And he he says I'm debating whether I should rape you or not. What does what the fuck boy howdy it's it's bad within an instant he changed who he was he wasn't the same Andrew that I knew that was funny that would make me laugh it was like his eyes went and I didn't have a clue who that person was. That's terrifying, disgusting. Oh, that's horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to her.

Starting point is 01:55:57 Yeah. And it's so. Here's one of the things about this is she goes to the cops. He rapes her. And it takes they have after that point she consents to sex she says a couple of times over the next six months which is not uncommon in situations like this but eventually she goes to the police. a complaint and the police are like do you want to do you want to proceed with charges right because that's an option that you have in this case and she decides obviously I don't I hopefully I don't think I have to explain this to this audience but like there are a lot of horrible personal consequences that can come to charging your rapist right to pursuing with criminal charges she decides and there is and this seems like a positive things is an option in the UK where you can just log a complaint and say this guy rate me without proceeding with criminal charges which she decides she doesn't want to do with this point and so that's what she does. thirteen two thousand fifteen is when those two women who worked in his cam studio.

Starting point is 01:57:18 Push press charges against him and the police and this is a positive step it's about to get less positive the police find out there's a report locked against this guy two years earlier and they reach out to Amelia and they're like. More women have come forward saying that this guy assaulted them. Do you want your charges? Do you want your allegations basically to be added to theirs in this case that we're building? Right? And she says yes. And she hands over her phone to the cops, which contained numerous audio notes, because she had told Andrew in like texts and stuff like,

Starting point is 01:57:40 hey, you know, like you raped me, that's why I don't wanna know you anymore. And he had responded to her. And he had responded to her using voice notes where he admitted to what he had done. And yeah i'm gonna play a couple of notes of andrew tate. I'm here for you because before we hear him in his like. Fifteen year old boy influencer voice we should hear how he talks to somebody like Amelia when he doesn't think it's going to be on the news. Am I a bad person? Because the more you didn't like it, the more I enjoyed it. I fucking loved how much you hated it. Turn me on.

Starting point is 01:58:22 I fucking loved how much you hated it. Turn me on. Why am I like that? Why? I am one of the most dangerous men on this planet. Sometimes you forget exactly how lucky you were to get fucked by me. Would you rather me pin you down and make you do things you didn't like,

Starting point is 01:58:37 or would you rather fuck? You didn't like that I was thinking I can do whatever I want to you. That's what it is. I'm the smartest person on this fucking planet. Are you seriously so offended I strangled you a little bit? You didn't fucking pass out. Chill the fuck out.

Starting point is 01:58:53 Jesus Christ, I thought you were cool. What's wrong with you? Oh, oh, my God. So that's not great. That's not great. That's so upsetting. That's so upsetting. Yeah, it's pretty bad. He's he's a pretty bad dude.

Starting point is 01:59:06 Just in what's vile, disgusting, despicable waste of space. Like, again, normally self-diagnosis is a thing we avoid on this. But like, that's just very obvious textbook narcissism. I am the smartest man in the world, you know, like he is. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it.

Starting point is 01:59:14 It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it.

Starting point is 01:59:22 It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. It's not hard to see what's good about it. but like that's just very obvious textbook narcissism. I am the smartest man in the world, you know, like he is, it's not hard to see what's going on with this guy. And I don't know his dad or like how that all went down, but there's this, if you look at the way he talks about his dad and his grandpa, there's this need to like associate himself with greatness.

Starting point is 01:59:48 And I don't know, like everything that's going on here makes sense, but it's also so bleak. And I don't know. There's probably a better writer and thinker than me might be able to draw a more trenchant connection between the kind of stuff Bly was talking about, about how lack of connection to other men and to older men and how not knowing what your place is in society leads young men to feel disconnected and that that can be the root of some bad behavior and the fact that Tate idolizes his dad and is separated from him and becomes so needful

Starting point is 02:00:30 to kind of convince others of his greatness while using violence and threats against them. I don't know that there's a connection there, but it's, I think, kind of worth thinking about, I guess, in the same continuum. I don't know. This is still stuff like that. I'm kind of muddling through too.

Starting point is 02:00:51 But it's it's not it's not surprising to me that this guy has this this kind of obsession with his because that's what it's about. Right. It's it's never about like that. He wanted, sex or whatever it's about that's about power and it's about power he had this and it's about. The fact that she didn't want to have sex with them is like. An attempt from her to exercise agency and no one else in the world gets to exercise agency just and rotate. Right like that's the way this guy thinks about things. I don't know.

Starting point is 02:01:30 There's a lot going on there worth pondering. I guess we will ponder it for a while while we wait for part three of this series where we will talk about the fallout from these cases and the social media presence that Tate builds when again, nobody knows this. I mean, this young woman knows it and a couple of police officers know it. But as a spoiler, the police don't proceed with the charges. And in fact, it's really fucked up. The police say that they believe her or Amelia says what she said to device

Starting point is 02:02:07 when they talked to her is that the police told her that they believed her claims, but they couldn't go forward with the case because there was a shred of doubt about Tate's guilt. Um, now there's a shred of doubt. And see, it does seem like he admitted it. He admitted it on literally being a sexual predator. understand. He admits to being a sexual predator. What are we? What are we? What's really.

Starting point is 02:02:26 Fucking piece of shit cops. There's some fucked up cop gaslighting here because they tell her like, look, going through the process of of pressing charges against a rapist is so traumatic to the woman that we don't do it unless there's no shred of doubt. We're trying to protect you from. Wow. Ug ugly court, which is like cop gas lighting is on another level. But that's so disheartening.

Starting point is 02:02:53 I'm so sorry, Amelia. Yeah, it's fucking bleak. That's terrible. This whole story is bleak. And after this point, Andrew and Tristan moved to Romania. They moved their sex trafficking webcam business to Romania and we will pick up that story in part three where it gets a lot bleaker in some ways but also we get to make fun of Andrew Tate videos so you know something to look forward to take

Starting point is 02:03:22 your wins where you can get them, kiddos. What do we who are we? Who are we here? We're the bad boys of podcasting, obviously. Well, that's right, Robert. You're I think I think both shows are actually sold out, but you will be at SF Sketch Fest this coming weekend and you'll be doing a Behind the Bastard show and you will also be doing Francesca Fiorentini.

Starting point is 02:03:52 Yeah, it's, yes, Fiorentini's the Bituation Room show. Yeah, great. Francesca's great. Francesca's the show. Internet hate machine, lovely episode. Should check that out if you haven't. We love writing something. Why? Why? Yes, Robert, it is a week from when we are recording. All right. Well, we will finish recording the Andrew Tate episodes,

Starting point is 02:04:15 and then I will figure out what the fuck I'm doing for this live show that apparently a bunch of you assholes have decided to show up at. God damn you. Thank you all for buying tickets. Before we close out, I want to thank again April Clark and Grace Freud of Girl God, the Girl God podcast. Both great comedians. They have an upcoming show at JFO Vancouver on February 25th. People can get tickets for that at girlgodshow.com. They were on the early version of part of this, but I had an emergency and we had to

Starting point is 02:04:46 bounce and now we are recording this late at night because it is the only way that we can make this show work in a way that is we are contractually obligated to. So thank you April and Grace. Thank you Ian and Sophie for being guests on my show last minute. And yeah, you're fucking welcome Robert. Thank you. Thank you, Sophie. Thank you. Everyone else can go to hell, though.

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