Berner Phone - Buried By The Bernards: Going Viral & The Death Business

Episode Date: March 17, 2021

Deja & Debbie Bernard are the stars of the new popular Netflix show, Buried By The Bernards. Fun fact, their Showrunner is Ian Gelfand from Summer House! They discuss what it's like to run a family business that's all about death and how they manage not to kill each other in the process. Also, they explain how the hell they got a Netflix show! These women are hilarious, amazing, and VERY entertaining.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/berninginhell/support Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's your guilty secret? What do you, is it like a food or like something you like to watch? Oh, girl, I get that quick. I got that real good. Okay, I go to the store. I'm in a potato chip aisle. I pass back. I said, girl, you're eating all that damn fat-ass chips.

But I'm going to go over there and get the dogs on. So I go over there and get the potato chips for the dog, right? I get two bags, okay? For the dog with quotations. Okay, the dog, okay? I go sit down. She knows the position. I just sit there.

I just sit there. And then I just sit there. And I say, well, I started eating. She started looking at me like, here, you ain't going to get me now. What is up? I am your host, Hannah Burner, and we are with the stars, the beautiful ladies from Buried with the Bernards. We have Deja Bernards. and the big boss, Debbie Bernard.

Welcome to hell, you guys. Thank you. Hi. Hello, Ms. Hamel. Thank you. Where are you guys right now? We are at work right now. In my office. Well, she's nobody in here working but me. She just came in just to come in, but nobody's working but me.

I don't know where to start with you guys because you have this incredible new show on Netflix. Wait, buried by the Bernards or with the Bernard? Buried by the Bernards. Anyway, so we are obsessed with you guys because you have the same show. runner as me in summer house and he was like this show's insane i've been working on it and it's such a great combination of funny sweet you get that like warm feeling and then you also laugh and then there's also death on top of it so that's why you're perfect for hell debby did you think you were going to be in the funeral business no she goes no period with a tea oh man oh i did not

think that you know you sometimes you just don't know where life is going to take you you have no you just follow the course. You steady yourself, you be patient, and you just follow the course. If it goes down a yellow brick road, you go. The blue road, you just go. And this is just where the blue. Hey, come on here and they get it right.

You guys, make sure you're taking notes because Debbie is preaching the facts. But you guys, this is not your first time you're getting any fame. You first went viral because you did a hilarious commercial to your funeral home. Who was, whose idea was that? How did you guys make?

that happened well that was the second time we went viral the first time was when we first opened up the funeral home in 2017 and everybody saw that drive the window that went viral viral viral viral viral viral viral viral viral viral i think that is what kick started us off you know getting started because everybody was like who is this family where they come from why they got this window what they going to do can you explain the window to me because it's a funeral home with a drive-through window what's the benefit of the drive-through so you have a lot of benefits with the drive-thru coming from first the elderly people who you know they handicap or don't want to get out and come to a funeral home they could just drive through the window for people who are say you have a visitation

from five to six and you got family members who don't get off work until six that you can put them in the drive-through window and they can come on through the window you know they have that extra hour to go through if they aren't able to make the visitation something different you know, say you want to dress them up, you can decorate that whole room and that window dedicated to that person. It's something different and it's free of charge. So you can do your regular traditional services

on top of adding something different, which is going through the drive-thru window. So during COVID, has this been amazing for you guys, like to have this kind of distance? I don't want to say a name. Yeah, strong word. But it has definitely been a nice accommodation for people who do want to practice social distancing

as well as celebrating their loved one at the same time. It's obviously we don't want to get excited about people dying. However, the fact that you've been giving families a new way to see their loved ones and to celebrate their life is amazing. Debbie, how do you feel about dying? You know what, I'm going to say this to you. You know, I guess if you have to get to that point where all us accept the fact that we're going to leave here one day, you know?

You know, it's not a one. it's not I think the biggest thing I think about death is that I know it's inevitable okay it's going to happen but it's just I think you have to disconnect your mind and think about the fact that you leaving all your loved ones you know the material possessions and all of that little junk and junk is nothing yep but the idea that you're going to party leave your family I think about I would think about that part is more so me going I know I got to go leaving my family would be the hard part if I just sat there and just really thought about it and just put it in then sometimes you think about it. If it's true, what they say, and we go to the other side, it's so many people there

that I can go see, too. I can visit. I got a lot of loved ones on the other side. So it's just, it's a toss-up. It's going to happen. When it's going to happen, we don't know. I'm just looking for nobody to come knock on my door and say, David, come on. And I'm going where we're going? So that right there. That's a good question. Where do we go? Deja, what's your perspective on dying? um it's different now that i have children it's like my grandma said at first you know i wasn't worried about it if it happened it happened if it don't i feel like i wouldn't be afraid to leave but now that i have children i i don't want to think about leaving them that that would be the hard part leaving them behind and it's crazy because most of us live life trying to pretend that death isn't a

thing but you guys out a funeral home business deal with it every single day but you're also working with a family. Deja, what's it like working with your family? I know you quit every day so like give me the real the real goods. I mean, it has its pros and cons. I would say

the cuns, you know, you're supposed to have an off day. You're at home. My grandma's going to call me on my off day. My dad going to call me on my off day. My uncle Kevin is going to call me on my off day. So you don't really get an off day because you're still going to be talking about work. They still are going to call you.

And when you come to work, they're going to be bossing me around. He's going to be talking to me all crazy. Grandma going to be cussing me out because that's my grandma. She's not my boss boss. She's still my grandma. That's still my dad. But on the good side, I am steady learning and growing with them. My grandmother is looking out for my best interest.

I don't have to worry about working for someone else and not knowing if they have a hidden motive. If they really want me to succeed, I know when I come to work, my grandmother does want me to succeed, she is going to be proud to have me as her legacy. And my dad feels the same way. And they're only going to push me to grow and be successful in life. I don't have to worry about their true intentions. I love that. So, Debbie, you're the big boss.

What makes you the big boss and not just the boss? What makes me the big boss? Okay. Where do we start? It'll take two hours to be 10 y'all this. I'm just going to go over the top of it. Okay. Oh, yes.

I'm going to be here the first thing in the morning. If it's five o'clock, I'm the first one on board, okay? I'm the last one to leave and the first to come. That right there says a lot itself. So you're showing it through your actions while you're running the place. Exactly. And then I don't have an off day. You know, it's not like, oh, it's Saturday.

It's Sunday. We're going to be off. I'm working every day. So I don't have an off day where else other people say, I'm off today. I'm not going to do anything. You can't call me. And I don't do that. You know, so that's what makes me the, that's what makes me the big boss.

So are you, do you think, you're a natural leader. Oh, my God. Oh, what are you? Oh, she don't know the definition to follow, okay? That's why I love Debbie, because I'm the same way. I don't even know. I do not deal with authority very well. So I think, do you have any advice for people to be good leaders in whatever, you know, work, family, anything? Okay, to be a good leader, you also got to be a good follower that be a good leader you got to be a good follower i can't be a good leader and not sit up here and follow what dage is doing new things day just talking about i don't know everything this just off the record daj ain't here so this is nothing so day june and none of them saying

i'm talking to him so in order for me to leave first i got to follow it as well so i'm leading in i'm listening to what they're saying i'm taking it in you know you never get big enough not to say well i know everything i don't care how old you get i don't care that that you do. You don't know everything. You've got to open up. You've got to be able to listen. You've got to be able to take it in and also push it out. That's what make leaders. You're not going to be a leader if you had not been a follow and you've not continue to follow other people and see what they're doing. What's their end for? I can't sit up here and say, oh, I'm doing this. I'm doing it. I got to grow. I'm still growing as a

leader. I'm growing every day. Yes, I've been out here a long time. Yes, I say I do know a lot. Yes, I do have been in this savage, but I still got to take in with Dasia saying, with Reagan saying, because I don't know everything. Listening is so important. And yet, if you're just on a power trip, it's not going to be what's best for the funeral home. You got to listen and you got to take it in and then make wise decisions. Also, now that I'm getting curious and I need to know everything, Debbie, how's your love life? What's going on?

Did you watch episode seven? No, I haven't got to. You didn't watch the episode, me. you're not going to talk about that until you watch episode seven we don't have anything talk about watch seven and then we're going back and talk about girl i'm on four right now you got to go to seven then we're going to talk about that oh my god love this so much i cannot believe you asked me that of course Deja how's your love life well i'm still in a relationship my baby is one Ava just turned five.

Congratulations. Yeah, we moved into a bigger space with the baby, made more room for her, and everything's going good. Also, what's going on with the pound cake business? So, me and Reagan are working on our bakery. Stay tuned. I'm so ready to take pictures so you guys can see our cute new boxes. That's so exciting.

Everything. It is so pretty. So just stay tuned. We're going to get that pushed out. as soon as the bakery is complete i i just love that your family has all these entrepreneurial bugs in them debby who's the hardest to work with in your family okay let me see the hardest to work with in this family i'm going to yeah i'm gonna start with kevin i'm gonna start with i'm gonna start with

i'm gonna start with okay i'm gonna start right there difficult to work with does not respect my authority want to talk to me any kind of way when i told him and go say something to him the First thing he gonna say it, hold up, wait a minute, where you're coming from with this? Don't, I'm on zero, don't put me on 20. I don't want to get all up there stress down. That's not, that's the, okay, that's okay, right there. We're going to start there. Then number two is going to be Ryan.

He's just going to look at me and walk off. He's going to look at me and walk home. Okay. Dasha. Number three. In one year after other. I don't care how many days. I said, Deja, this is not going to work.

This is going to be late. Just ain't having this. I'm sick of talking about this. Deja's number three. So we got Kevin, Uncle Kevin. We got Ryan. We got Deja. Then Reagan.

Reagan is a little bit different. She's kind of like, she's not going to say anything. I don't care what you say to her. Whatever. She's just going to kind of look down and just going to work on. what she's working on.

She kind of got a little quadness about. She really does not really blend in with us. Like a lot of people say to Reagan sometime, give you old folks for real. Can you relate to the people over there? So you know, she kind of quiet, kind of laid back. It's good to have a little balance, you know. No, she got a lot of, she got another balance on her baby.

Excellent, excellent, excellent, excellent work. If we say be hit eight, Reagan going to hit at 7.30. She's going to work the whole time. She's going to be quiet. She's going to kind of sit to herself. She's another person. The rest of them, I just gave you the rest of them. So everyone.

Do you have any advice for having hard conversations with your family? Because everyone, for whatever reason, maybe they're not running a funeral home, but you have to sit down and have difficult conversations. How do you go about it? I just said, get up coming for me. Let me tell you something. And I just flound the boy, just throw it on. She's just saying.

You get mad. You just mad. I just don't care. In fact, if you rather your grandmama tell you, then you tell you, you tell them i just say it to them i just don't care i just say look at here baby let me tell you this and they just that's why i think you're a new yorker deep down you just tell it like it is you got to well don't play with them so in tennessee like is there like a i'm i don't know anything about the south but like is there like a southern bell thing like are women do you feel

like growing up women were not as supposed to be in like powerful roles working and stuff like what was it like growing up did you think that you were going to be running a like a big business I always did when I was when let me tell you something when I was a little girl I used to my mom would give me some money to catch the bus to go to school I would take the money and put it up I never and when I walked down another block because I said she's looking at the wonder to see if I'm going to get on this bus ain't going to happen today I keep my money because I'm saving it for something else okay then I would save bottles you they used to take bottles you would deposit them and every Monday you get some money

I would look for bottles every day, every evening I got home from school, find the bottles. My mama said, listen, don't bring a bottle to my house. I'm not dealing with no aunts. I said, okay. I would have to find the bottles, rehab them, get up early, go back and get them, and go take them to the store and get my money. I love that. I was always doing things like that.

I always, I always love doing it. Then I always had aspirations. I always had things I wanted. I was a big dreamer. I sat on the corner. a man had a car. It was a sting right in. One in Corvette. And I used to go to the store, the corner at 3 o'clock every day and watch him because he was coming from work and see that car. And I'm like, I'm going to get that car one

day. I'm going to get that car. So it's just been like this. And what you're talking about is just also manifestation being like, I believe that that's what I'm going to have in my life. And I'm putting my energy towards that. I want to be successful. And now you're you're starring on a Netflix show. Like, I'm so proud of you guys. Girl, is that not awesome? Is that not awesome? And it's also such a unique show.

Like, there's, like, the crazy reality of, you know, people getting drunk and embarrassing themselves. And then there's, you know, the intense documentaries. And then you guys are this great in between of, like, seeing a family. And are you ever afraid that everyone is going to be judging your family on TV? No, you know, it comes with the territory. If you didn't think about that, where you're saying, that piece of paper you should not never got on that you should have thought about that you know

they're going to say something about you they're going to go on the internet your best friend going to be the one saying something about you then girl you're going to be your best friend he's going to be a friend of me as we call them yeah so what you do you just go out there and do what you're going to do and just forget about so your advice when people come out there people are turning on you people are they're wanting their own attention whatever you just stay in your lane you just focus on yourself stay in my line exactly i'm getting some good i'm getting a therapy session right now deja you're you are a little longer you've been through a little less how are you dealing with kind of like being put up and like kind of being judged and stuff how's your mental

state i don't know i don't really get into the um the weeds of it all it kind of just you know how they say it going one ear and after other it don't even go in my ear it doesn't affect me because I just feel like you have to stay on your course on your track and do what is best for you and do what makes you happy because everybody is all in their own lanes. They're all on a different path. Everybody is going to perceive things. They want to do it. You're going to be judged for doing something the right way, the wrong way, being the wrong

messenger. It really doesn't matter. So as long as you're doing what makes you happy and not trying to please everybody else, I mean, you're just, you're going to be judged either way. So you might as well do what makes you happy. You are wise. It's because my show's airing too at the same time. I'm like, what do we do? Like, how do we deal with us? Also, now that I have, I know, now that I have you, you have a crazy story with your sister because you didn't know you had a sister until later in life. What was it like

going from thinking you didn't have one to suddenly having a sister? Well, I have a sister on my mom's side. And it's so crazy because her and Reagan are literally a month apart. Bree's birthday is in January and Reagan's is in February. And so with me and Bree, we're like the typical sisters. We argue all day long. We fight all day long. We're so petty and childish. We're doing pranks on each other. We're like day and night, the complete opposite people. And then to meet Reagan, And it was just so precious to me because we act so much alike. And instead of meeting just a sister, it was like, wow, I made a best friend. Like, we're twins.

Like, we act so much alike. We have so much in common. We like all the same books, the same TV shows, the same actors and actresses. Like, we just instantly click. We finish each other's sentences. Like, we just mesh so well. And it's like, it opened up a new can of worms for me because I'm like, I'm not used to. sisters being like this like it was normal. It's crazy you're so alike considering you didn't meet her

till she was 15. Yes, I was 15. Yeah. Your dad didn't know that she was around. No, he didn't know that I was around. Oh, you know, but you're like, I'm here, bitch. So, so working through that like, it's so great that you've now kind of connected and you guys do you, how has it come to like dealing with knowing that your dad didn't know who you were. How have you come to terms with that and like found that self-love? It really didn't affect me the way that it probably would affect another young girl because growing up with my mom and my mom's side of the family, we were raised off love. So heavenly love in my mother's side of the family.

We are a very close-knit family. We are very family-oriented, and I never felt like I was missing a dad. You know, I knew my friends had a dad, my cousins had a dad, but it didn't really bother me. It didn't affect me emotionally, mentally, or anything. So when I met him, it wasn't like, oh, my God, where have you been? It wasn't like, I need closure. There's unanswered questions. It was more like, okay, yay, let's go do this.

Do you like this? What's your favorite basketball team? what's your favorite color or you know what do you like to do like it was me trying to just learn him I was more happy and excited excited to get to know him instead of sad and crying and holding on to the past because I just we're still young and we have so much to learn from each other like we still have a long way to go so let's not cry over the past let's just you know make up for the loss and keep going I don't know if it was really emotional for him but it was not a sad emotional rainy parade for me i was really happy and excited no it sounds like you just had more

joy added to your life yes was your mom um so it sounds like she was fearful of having to be like hey by the way did it help your mom as well to kind of get everyone together it helped her a lot if anybody was emotional for real it was probably her because she didn't know who my father was And so her being a parent that really hurt her because, you know, she felt like I was missing out on there. Like I didn't have a dad. And like I said, she would see other people, my friends and family with their fathers and spending time with them. But I had to reassure her that you loved me so much. You made up as a mom and a dad.

I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything. If anything, I just, I gained a father. And that's great. It was a plus. I didn't miss out on anything. I love that so much. now let's get a little deeper i want to know deja what is debby's worst habit um her worst habit um probably her being controlling my grandmother is so bossy she is going to live through me

regan my uncle kevin my dad the people that work here her mama her sister you and she is living through everybody she's going to tell you what to wear how to wear it what's your favorite color everything you need to be doing but how do you guys feel like humor how important is humor in your day to day in working because i don't know if debby debby could tell me anything and i would listen because she makes me laugh let's see that's the thing we don't even try to be funny for real it's just your family yeah we don't even so many people have been saying that and i'm like does debby debby even know how funny you are do you know how funny you are do you know know you could be next stand-up comedian oh that's not mad i'm too shy yeah we could tell you're

very shy you're very shy debby i want to know there's a lot of girls who listen to this podcast that are that feel insecure about themselves or question themselves what advice can you give them on being confident you got to say first off you got to love you despite you got to love you it's like it's like it's like i can look in the mirror i may not like this over here i may not like that over there. You got to make it like it for yourself. Mm-hmm. So if this head over here big and that one over there, I just brace it back and say, girl, you know you look good.

Yeah. You know your head up and you strut, baby. You can't be insecure like that. No, ma'am. Uh-uh. You don't even, you should ask the question. I never thought about that. Because I've never been like that. It's also just like how you carry yourself and how you love yourself. That energy shows who you

are. Ooh, I love that. Debbie, do you ever have anxiety or do you ever deal with depression? Oh, no. Not enough. I got too much going on for the end of that. I don't have time of blocking my man for depression anxiety. No, I don't have enough hours in the day to think about depression or anxiety. I got so much shit going on. I can't, I got stuff going on here.

I got people downstairs looking for me. I got families coming in here. I got to come up here and worry with them. My time I leave here, I'm tired. I'm exhausted. I got two dogs waiting on me. I got one start to bark and the oven start to bark. I just, I got enough.

My whole life is full and complete. I don't have time to think about depression. Maybe if I thought about, you give me a new type of to think about it. No, don't start now. Don't start now. I don't have to. No, they just, no. I don't even have a problem with that.

No, but you're right. A lot about it is just how you control your mind. If your mind is busy and fulfilled with all these things you love. That's what I be telling Asia a lot of times. You got, you go have to go out there and put that road map out there for yourself. Well, I don't know if I can do this. No, it ain't not a dang thing they get out there. do. If they tell me you're going to ride the, you're going to drive the bus. I'm going to say,

yeah, slide over and give me the bus. Where will we go? I ain't ever draw the bus, but I'm going to go there and go forward. So you got to go and you got to go for it. You cannot be scared. You cannot be afraid who's going to go out there. And that's the bottom line. That's it. Oh, you guys are amazing and incredible in so many ways. And I'm so inspired watching Buried by the Bernards. If you have not been watching it right now, you better be watching it. We're going to play a final game called The Seven Deadly Sins. Seven Deadly Sins Debbie, what are you greedy about?

Greedy about. Mm-hmm. What am I greedy about? Just greedy, greedy, greedy. Something I have or something I'm waiting on. Either. That private jet, baby. Give me that private plane.

Grabbing, greedy, greedy forward. Just greedy, greedy, greedy, greedy, greedy forward. You could come visit me in New York. I know it. I'm going to go. I'm going to pick you up. You just be stupid. I'm going to drop that plane down, baby, in the middle of the street.

I'm going to come pick you up and you get on there. We're going. This sounds amazing. This is incredible. I'm manifesting that shit. I'm greedy for that plane. Deja, who are you envious of? I don't think I'm envious of anybody.

Because when I think of being envious of somebody, it's almost like you want to be there. I don't want to be nobody else. I don't think I want to be anybody. I don't think I want to be anybody else at all because. you don't know what their life comes with i don't know oh that's true you never know what other people are dealing with yeah or what it took for them to get to where they're at i don't know i'm anything about jesus that's the on the first i can be yeah so debby what are you gluttonous about so what do you overindulge in like what's your guilty secret what do you

is it like a food or like something you like to watch oh girl i get that quick i got that real good Okay, I go to the store. I'm in the potato chip out. I pass back. I said, girl, you eat all the damn fat-ass chips, but I'm going to go over there and get the dogs on. So I go over there and get the potato chips for the dog, right? I get two bags, okay?

For the dog with quotations. Dog, okay, I go sit down. She knows the position. I just sit there. I just sit there. And then I just sit there. And I say, well, I start eating. She started looking at me like, here, you ain't going to get me now.

So I give her a few up to them. them. Then I go like this. Five for me. One for you. Ten for me. So I said ladies, let's get it on. So that's my, that's it right there. I'm just going to sit up there with a bag of potato chips. I ain't got no business with them trying to lose 25 pounds. And my biggest excuse is the dog like potato chips. You need a private plane full of potato chips. What's your favorite flavor though what do you go for oh baby i go for the plane the plain laid potato chips or the ruffle the wazes that's it nothing else we don't eat nothing else that's what we eat and we just sit there and out one for her i love that okay deja now now i want some salty crispy potato um

daja what is when was the last time you experienced extreme wrath so you got really angry at someone probably last night my daughter alani she's one and she is so into and everything and it's like i learned something new every day with her i had a long day yesterday we did this photo shoot i got home at like 7 30 and i'm cleaning up the room i vacuumed my floor and i went to the bathroom for a hot take and i came at the bathroom and she had been reached up on the dresser and pulled my coke off the dresser and was drinking the can and while she got the can doing that all the coke just on the floor it was just on the floor i'm like oh my god so i got this big stain on my carpet and they had just got a bath her clothes got coke all over she's

smelly i'm like oh my i was just so mad i couldn't even say nothing because she's only one yeah she's no better but i'm like when did you start reaching to get stuff off the dresser like now you have to restrategize the whole house exactly oh oh i have a good question for debby Debbie, when was the last time you were a sloth? So, like, you took a day off and did nothing. In 1988? That ain't going to happen? No day.

I can't remember. Oh, my God. Okay. Ooh, okay. I have one more for Debbie. Okay. When was the last time you lusted over someone? Do you have a crush or do you have, like, a celebrity crush?

Who are we manifesting? Oh, bad. Where to microphone? No. No. uh-uh nobody not helpful i can't even think that far back actually that is the theme no men that's the theme of this podcast yeah i can't even think i can't even think i can't even think i can't even think of

girl you can you pop one on me that time let me think no celebrity that's that's a million dollars no i need to know the answer to this question no nobody no desire don't even think about it don't even I I just, I guess I'm just tunnel, tunnel, tunnel, tunnel, nothing else, nothing else. Nothing else. I can't even think about nothing. Well, it's smart that if you get distracted by some boys or some men who are not good for your mental health, it affects you and what you're trying to do. So when you try to get shit done, sometimes you don't want to get distracted by that stuff. Now, that's true.

But see, I'm past all the days. Y'all have been distracted and thrown up under the garbage can and pushed over there in the trash. I don't do it. All of that run over with the back of cleaning. then hit with the car then the bus and hit me so I'm past all that see that right there can't happen like that no more

but you know see Daisy all that's got it happened to Davey she already knows she see the bus coming you know what I'm saying my advice for a woman to get angry with a man in a relationship I would tell her this baby you should have seen the sand

see all of them they give a sign did you see detour turn around Do not in them. Roll clothes. What the hell you're messing with it for? You need a pep talk. Every girl talking to an F boy.

Final question. You guys are doing amazing. Deja, what advice do you give to people while they are going through hell? How do you get through it? I can't speak on work for them, but that is what works for me. Praying and meditate.

That's what I do. How often do you meditate? Every single day. I talk to God every day. You got to pray, baby. God, that's my pep talk. When I went into labor with Ava and Alani, they were coming so fast. I couldn't get an epidural for either one.

And I was in labor for four hours. And all I did was sit up there and pray the whole time. And you said you do counseling too? No, I said some people may want to go to counseling and therapy and all of that. I can't do. None of that will work or help in me. I have to pray. I got to talk to God.

Do you have any advice? for praying and help and how it helps you. Jesus is, God is like my best friend. So I don't talk to him a certain kind of way. I don't pray a certain kind of way. I talk to him like I'm talking to you. Like, look, God, I'm going to tell you, I'm going to have a breakdown. I need you to help me, send me a sign.

That's how I talk to him. You have to come to God as you are because you don't need to wait until you get yourself fixed up and say, I'm going to come to God. what will be the point of coming to him? You need to come to him so he can help deliver you and help you. So come to him as you are, whether you're drunk, whether you're on drugs, whether you're prostituting, whatever you have going on, just come to him as you are so he can help you and clean you up and deliver you

because you can't do it on your own. You can't wait to get it together on your own. And give your sense of peace. I pray for peace all the time. That's why I start with peace because you've got to have peace to get through your day. And when you say peace, do you mean peace in your head? or also peace around you? What do you mean by peace?

The whole nine. Both. Yeah. Debbie, any other words on how you cope with your hell when things are going bad in your life? When things are going bad in my life, I sit back. I used to sit back and say, I wonder why that happened. I don't do that no more.

I just sit back and just rad the tag. You're going to ride it because it's not going to stay like that. You're going to get a breakthrough. Yeah. It's going to you just going to have to rat. And see, always, we always say, oh, I just can't stay in right there. but if in this lifetime you got to be able to take the rain the stone you got the baby to stay out there when it's cold just can't say oh i'm in florid that beach is good oh no babe we're gonna throw

you over in alaska let's see can you hang over there so you got a baby take out anything it's throwing it's it ain't gonna do it'll make you strong in the rock that hit you going to make you strong babe yep you two are so amazing i'm so obsessed with buried by the bernards where can people follow you watch you buy anything what's give me me the goods well my Instagram is the diary of Deja bernard and my grandma's is miss debby the boss and you can or Reagan what's her name Reagan dot bernard you follow her there the merchandise is where and you can find the merchandise on www.r.r.R bernard funeral services.com there's a little shop tab at the top of the page and also go to

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