Berner Phone - Hannah's Hot Takes: Professional Athletes & Sexual Healing

Episode Date: May 2, 2020

Hannah's future sister-in-law joins in to give unprofessional advice and strong opinions on the demons you guys are dealing with. Email [e-mail] if you're going through hell or in a pickle!!! *ORIGINAL AUDIO HAD ISSUE AT THE END, REDOWNLOAD AND IT SHOULD BE SOUNDING BEAUTIFUL --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/appSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/berninginhell/support Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hannah's Hot Takes Oh hot damn Welcome to the second ever episode of Hanna's Hot Takes We have another special guest I'm just bringing all the bonus content to you guys We're getting hot take episodes of all our unprofessional And honestly two strong opinions on things Email Burning and Hellpot at gmail.com

So today I am with a very special guest Her name is Jeannie Am I allowed to say your first name? Too late Hi guys, it's Jeannie. And she is my brother's fiancé, so she's family, but also like a sister that I never asked for, you know? Exactly. Jeannie has a regular sister. I never had one, so it's fun for me.

But Jeannie also, more importantly, is out visiting because she is a nurse, working her little freaking butt off being a national treasure and hero, and we're very thankful for everything that you do. So now I'm making you work on the weekend when you're trying to have a break. Yeah, basically I came out here to clear my head and relax a little bit. And Hannah's just been making me work all day. So you know what you get, quality content if you hang out with the burners. So let's get into some advice. These are some wild stories. Last time people were talking about pedophiles, crushes on bosses, husbands, financial issues, whatever.

I just need help. I can't do it alone. So I'm very happy. Do you think that you are a good friend to go for for advice? I mean, I'd like to think so. I'd like to think I tell it how it is. I would say Jeannie does not sugarcoat. I think it's my best and worst quality.

I can't really hide what I'm feeling or what I'm thinking, but it also makes me a very honest person. We're doing anonymous because last time I threw some names out there and people were like, yo, I didn't need that out there. And I was like, sorry. So we're doing all anonymous because I don't need to ruin anyone sell us his life besides my own let's get into it first question oh boy hmm pickle i said you guys send me if you're in a pickle that doesn't mean a dick pick and she said i'm just in a pickle

married professional athlete wants to bang and has been and has been after me for a couple years husband is open to share if he's there oh she means husband's down to watch do i try and convince the athlete to threesome oh not even watch be in it okay what if it fucks up my marriage and i'm like 10 years older than him what if i giggle weird wrinkles the fantasy works for me now word i'd ruin it by actually doing it and what if it's terrible but my god i mean damn just like yummy and with the most beautiful dick ever straight pickle indeed oh my god oh my gosh i really hope your parents can't hear us having this conversation um they listen to all podcast but it's fine oh my gosh there my parents are just supporters of my content regardless okay

i have so many questions first of all how have you been talking to a professional athlete to this extent while you're married to even get to the point that you know that his dick is nice well it sounds like they have an open relationship or at least like some variation where they're open to them speaking to other people i do have to say she's hinting at it but it's like A lot of things are better in theory. I, yeah, I could agree with that. And a lot of things look better. Like, the grass is always greener on the other side.

Also, like, think of how many hookups that just were so not worth it. Maybe this is just my life because Jeannie did meet my brother's sophomore year of college. But it's like, so many hookups and, like, sexual fantasies are just better in your head. In theory, yeah. Like, actually, I've never had a threesome, but I ask people about it all the time because that's what I like to talk about. and there are literally so many terrible threesome stories and i feel like the good gems are so rare that's what they are they're gems because nine times out of ten it's not gonna go how you expect it also he's a professional athlete he's talking to like a hundred different women so like i don't know

what you want out of this also i feel like let's say look at all the scenarios first scenario the professional athletes like hot as fuck you get feelings for him and your husband feels less then that's terrible or he's not what you want him to be and it's just a bad weird experience and you like laugh it off and talk about to your friends but still is that worth it what's the best case scenario here honestly i don't know if there is one like it goes well and then they have threesomes all the time i don't know i think this is dangerous territory probably is best case scenario but what are the chances of that and the nurse in me is like okay but how do you keep it safe how do you keep the STDs out of this mix.

Like, when did the condoms come into play? Yeah, she did not even ask. Like, there's a lot of things to consider, especially when you're in this, like, I don't know, obviously, like, mostly monogamous relationship with your husband and you're introducing a whole lot of other factors and risks. Exactly. And I also think professional athlete period, that concept is a thing, like, in your head that, like, you watch them on TV, you think they're great.

In reality, a lot of them are super dumb. A lot of them of CTEs. A lot of them are losing their hair, but they wear baseball caps all the time, so they're hat fishing you. There's so many things that, it sounds like this is flattering, and then the fact that you're even insecure about wrinkles and stuff, just move on. I think I agree. I mean, I think use it in other ways, but don't do it.

Does that make sense? Yeah, like, it sounds like whatever you have right now is fun. um i just wouldn't let your husband possibly be upset with you for a potential like stupid thing with if your husband's begging for it i could be like okay fine um also what if your husband falls in love with him things you have to think of i didn't even go down that route but yeah that is definitely a distinct possibility okay let's move on to the next one this person said i love you so much obsessed with summer house thank you i'm in a real fucked up situation so i recently came out this year as bisexual and it has been a really tough journey i'm not out to my family but i

but even coming out to my friends was difficult because it meant i had to come to terms with it myself they do say coming out is you first come out to yourself than other people that's we don't we don't know but anyways i fallen in love with one of my best friends it was never my intention because it can obviously make things a little messy my friend has many health mental health struggles including depression and she often will stop responding and ghost everyone in her life for elongated periods of time when she's going through mental health moments honestly respect for her boundaries but we all have those people i think i should do that more often instead of just like annoying the shit out of myself trying to make everyone happy when i'm not i'm not happy i totally agree

with that and i think i've been doing that lately just with everything that's been going on is not responding to text messages and I'm totally okay with it honestly bless up stop responding to people is what we're saying ever um we hung out right before wait with this whole quarantine thing going on it's been hard because i haven't spoken to her in six weeks we hung out right before miss quarantina hit us i like that and it was amazing i feel like the feelings i have to turn maybe mutual she's also bisexual by the way and she has been the main person that i've been able to talk through my sexual journey with it is hard to negate how shitty i feel when we aren't together and when we are together everything's so fucking good i've reached out to her many times with no reply i really want to tell her

how i feel but i am also questioning if i can handle being a relationship with her if it came to that like i can't expect her to change but if she's quite selfish as a friend right now i'd love to know what you think i like this one honestly the little devils get some great questions because they're nuanced yeah there's a lot of layers to this where do we even start i guess just finding out if she also feels the same way to begin with i think it's hard though to ask that when you're already being ignored though like it would be nice like you're hang out all the time and you're like you're getting a lot of positive signs and then you're like so is are you like you try to make it like it's their idea like hey haven't talked to you in six weeks but i got the feel

hey you not talking me has made me love you so much also i want her to think like regardless of or not you like people more when they're ignoring you so factor that into your feelings as well yeah maybe she's doing this on purpose well no i don't think that it sounds like the other girl is you're right you're not into honestly i don't think the other girl's into her because she would respond like when i'm not responding to people because i'm depressed you're still responding to like your main bitch your mom and like maybe a boy toy if he's not stressing you out but i don't know if that's true for everyone. Like I think some people will just not respond to anyone. Do you remember when your fiance and my brother would literally go on vacation and like not talk to you the whole time,

even though he's madly in love with you, but he didn't understand that he had to reach out while on vacation? Yes, I absolutely remember that. That was a big contention of the relationship is he would go, we would separate during the summer. He would go on a few week vacation. And I just like wouldn't hear from him for like two weeks. And I'd be like, oh my God. It's over. We broke up. I think I need to find someone new. And then we, he'd finally reach out and act like everything was totally normal. Yeah, because cut to him, he's like playing Minecraft with his friends for seven hours, like, and just assumes, I'd be like, how are you and Jeannie? And he's like, amazing. I love her so much. And I'm like, maybe send a text. But I need to know. I need attention. I feel like this girl, though, I think it sounds like you have feelings for her so you cannot torture yourself and just pretend your friends to make her feel more.

I think late try to just forget about this and wait for her to reach out and if she does start talking and then when you feel a mutual sign then maybe put out the feels feelers I feel that I feel like you yeah you definitely need to reconnect before you start exploring any feelings but also someone ignoring you is honestly the most painful disrespectful thing it's the worst so she's not in a situation right now for that but i think girl keep understanding what you want understanding yourself and also you're by which means you literally can have so many people out there that you're attracted to go fucking find them am i jealous yes do you think i want to like men i think men are disgusting i think men are so fucking annoying and stupid but i like them i can't help it okay now i made this about me as i

normally do um next one first off thank you for creating a community that makes us everyone feel welcome to all thank you baby for over a year I was obsessed with the morning toast only to get bullied and basically fired from a job because I didn't like how they gave weight loss advice of not eating oh interesting okay this we're just learning about all new things um definitely keep eating girls got to eat anyway I'm 24 years old and I just moved in with my boyfriend of five years this is why I need you genie because genie's been living with my brother for a while and I it's been a minute yes it's been a minute and they have like a pretty functional situation we met at freshman year of college started dating both applied to transfer different colleges and happened to

decide on the same college look at that fate when we graduated we both had to move home because we were broke l-ol we both lived in different states but only 45 minutes away isn't geography fun he was in southern new hampshire and i was in boston we made the pack whoever gets the first job that's where we move thinking i was going to win because i was in a bigger city i got a job and then let go the same day And because of Toasters, sorry if you're a fan, I guess she worked for them and fired them. I don't know. So now I am living in the most boring town in New Hampshire, close to a smaller city, but it's boring. My advice is I need to know how to make my boyfriend more fun.

Like he was fun in college, and now he's making money and just saving it so we can buy a house. I'm 24, I don't need a house. And how do I make friends in a town where no one's under 25? I don't want to sit in every weekend. What do I do? I feel like this is kind of my life, but not in a small town, I have to say. Daniel brought me to New York. Here I am living my best life.

And Jeannie's from Indiana. I'm a Midwestern girl at heart. And did I ever want to move to New York? No. But here we are. And then I moved in with Daniel and his parents in a very small, small, small two-bedroom apartment in New York City, where I could probably hear his dad sneeze late at night. So we were in an interesting situation.

And then he was really focusing on work and really focusing on his career, which it really paid off for me now. But back then it was saving money. Like it wasn't a glamorous lifestyle. Yeah, it wasn't. He, we weren't having a lot of fun per se. So, yeah, it's definitely difficult. I had to talk to him a lot. And I told him, Daniel, you're being a bit of a square.

And he didn't really like that. So, I mean, we adapted. And you also didn't have like friends here. There were no college friends or barely. I barely knew anyone here. And he, you know, growing up in New York City, but a lot of his friends had left. So we were in this weird place where we only really, like, had each other and your parents. And so it was a strange time.

But I think, like, it took us, like, at least a year or two to adapt. We almost broke up at one point. It was a weak moment where I was like, I'm leaving. I'm out. I can't do this. but we pushed past it. But it sounds like it's good that you were vocal to at least be like, because if you lie to yourself and you don't express it to him,

then you start getting animosity and then you do what I do, which is just snap for no reason. Yeah, resentment. Yeah, you don't want that. I have always kept a very open line of communication. I think that's why our relationship works and why any relationship works. But yeah, I started like asking Daniel to like, make drinks with his work friends and I met a few of his friends through that and then I

started using Bumble BFF and when I first told my friends that I was using this they were like all laughed at me but I've met some really cool people from it and some really like different people and if you really don't know anyone in a place it helps a lot also what is your idea of like knowing that you might not live in New York City forever like that is that enough to like stick through a situation that isn't great because it sounds like they might not stay in this town in New Hampshire forever honestly yeah you're right because I can I always knew that like this wasn't the forever situation it's just something that like we're trying to make for now but I mean five years later I'm still here so don't listen to me about that but yeah just like if it's temporary

you just make it work for the time being there also is something to be said about like meeting your person and I think like what you're going to break up with this guy who you clearly really love to be in a cool city and then like I just feel like I'd rather be in a whole with someone I love than like being a cool city and like people come and go so you want to keep the good ones is kind of my i agree like if you really think this guy is the one for you then it's definitely worth you know making this situation work yeah and also i'm not a very social butterfly like i i love just staying in bed all day so i'm like is it really that fun to be going out with your friends all the time i don't know it sounds like you might also just be young and like not

want to be settled down because there's going to be a point where you just want to be settled down and have a family with people surround yourself with people you love and you don't need to fucking go clubbing all the time so maybe you aren't ready for this and I just think if the guy is really a great guy and you really love him and you see a future stick it out a little and see where it goes I agree with that but also if you're 24 and you're like I need to live my life then do it um okay I like this next one that was good Jeannie that was thank you for giving us some of your professional insight of living with your boy toy you're welcome so this is a dm i got she goes hi i have a question slash need some advice and you seem to always handle things in a badass way

when it comes to guys what what do you do if a guy ghosts you and you slept with him and you thought it was going really well do you call him out we literally had a talk about how lame ghosting was and now radio silence please make me feel less of an idiot p s you mean you mean you page would be BFFs if we knew each other X OXO. Do you have any insight? He sounds like a dick. Loser. This is what you do.

Do not take a fucking second. Do not waste your fucking breath. Do not sacrifice an ounce of saliva on this dude. He goes to you, it's done. What are you going to do? Say something that's going to, even if you call him out, you're just going to feel like a little bitch after. And what is he going to do? Be like, oh, my God, I'm sorry.

I didn't realize that goes. No. he lost your trust move on cut it off gusting and ghosting also isn't that bad like even talking to people like oh don't you hate when people ghost ghosting is just a way to show someone you're over it and just one of the many signs that shows they're not into it so move on fuck this dude i i don't agree that i think ghosting is like a very weak thing to do like if you don't have the guts to be like you know i'm not feeling this like sorry you got to go or whatever then like grow up be a freaking adult well it sounds like in their situation actually was kind of

fucked up because it sounds like they she slept with him once but they were like talking for a while i will ghost if i went on one date with you i don't want to have to that's fair yeah because when you're dating in new york city let's say i go on a date with two or three guys a week it is exhausting to have to break up with three guys a week i agree and also awkward because you're like oh we went on one date but i have to have this like discussion with you that we're not right so awkward all it takes after one date is he reaches out like hey what's up and you don't respond he knows what happened but if you've been talking to someone for three four or five dates you're right that's it's kind of just straight disrespectful um and i don't care lie about something be like i'm saying

someone else whatever but don't make them feel disrespectful in that way yeah so yeah this is you you you asked me that knowing what the answer was and i think you just needed me to hear to hear it and i said it and genie said it so we're done we're done here um Ooh. Okay. This girl says, okay, so there's this guy I actually like, I don't know where this one's going. We went out a bunch of times December. He's a fun guy, super chill, plays hockey like me, and doesn't express emotions well like me too. Ha ha. We didn't have sex till third date. He was super careful, made sure I was okay with it. So different than what was going on the month before. We, oh yeah, we talked a lot. He would call me to hang. I was super into it. But then February hits him. We basically, and we barely talk. Long story short, going back and forth, I think I'm chasing something that I can't have,

but there's been nothing to do in quarantine and I hardcore stalked him. Found out that he was with another girl from January to mid-March. He's from Australia with good boobs. How do I compete with that? I saw her unsaved Insta stories, them together when he told me he wasn't hooking up with anyone else. Aren't you happy that you're not single right now? Yeah. They were too close.

In the comments on Instagram were two flurries. The week she went back to Australia is the week he hit me up again in March. I run? Also, I have no willpower. Or is it just emotional thing? I also have compared every guy in Bumble and was like, well, he's not this guy, so I can't. Is it just quarantine talking? What do I do? Well, okay, yeah, you're right. The single life sounds a little stressful right now, especially in quarantine. So, like, everyone's very horny and alone and overthinking things. And yeah. yeah um he sounds like a douche yeah um but also like amazing detective work good for you yeah we are very impressed i'm very impressed by that um but yeah he sounds like not the guy for you

he sounds like a dick also you are going to eventually snap and call him out about the australian girl and then he's going to get mad at you about that and it just seems sketchy it depends on what you want do you want some attention then i say okay hit him up a little but also be hitting up eight other guys but that's my fuck girl and me talking if you really want your mental health to be okay do not mess with this dude again she said she doesn't have a lot of willpower don't blame that think why do i have little willpower right now like think deeper into it like do you i don't know i feel like i have good willpower maybe because i'm too prideful but like the second i think a guy doesn't deserve me and they do one thing that's really distrustful it's done it's done i agree and i feel like

that is really distrustful. That is not a good look for him. And I think if you chase after that, it's probably also not a good look for you. But I mean, yeah, I think you should think deeply during quarantine, not too deeply because you don't get in too dark for a place, but why don't you have willpower? Is it because you want affirmation from guys really easily

and just like that easy attention? Because that attention's not fucking real. Get attention from someone who knows you and likes you. And it's harder because you have to hold out. But also those people will see that, like, push the energy. out of what you want you want to be with a real fucking dude who likes you so stop using this bad willpower excuse to be with guys who don't respect you and then it's just a fucking cycle

i agree well said thank you thank you that means a lot oh my god okay okay what is oh okay we're ending this one with a kind of intense one this is our final one you're doing okay before we get into this my face is starting to itch and i really think it's all this cat hair that is on your microphone like hannah hands me this microphone first of all we're socially distancing recording this i'm like across the living room i have a mask whatever but she hands me this microphone that is literally covered in cat are you allergic to cats like i pulled globs off of it no i'm not i have a cat but i feel like when it's in my face and i'm like inhaling it as i breathe it's a little much it's protein genie you need some protein i think your faces are an itch because

there's a lot of issues going on in single life that you did not realize that you're you're missing i don't know if i have phomo or if i'm like really glad that i'm not partaking i can't decide yeah i think you're glad you're not partaking but you do like a little bit of the drama what's fun about this is like hearing all your friends most fucked up stories yeah i okay this one's kind of long and intense so let's tell them two weeks ago i was in an emotional mental verbally abusive relationship same he made me think i was crazy to the point i was like maybe i am and started to see a therapist honestly same she would ask me every session when I was going to be done with him because she could see what he was

doing to my mental health you guys one thing I have to say if a guy starts to make you feel crazy he's my trigger word that is my trigger word not okay if a guy calls you crazy makes you start to feel crazy your friends start thinking you're crazy he's not the one for you it's like the classic when a guy goes oh my god my ex was crazy yeah because you fucking were cheating on her yeah like when you're with the right person they make you feel like your best self and they you feel understood and they don't make you feel like you're crazy i mean i think even if you are being crazy it's not okay to make someone feel like they're being crazy yeah and anyone will be crazy when you put someone through crazy shit or they're with the wrong people like think about all those like

crazy fights you've had with your friends and you're like yeah they shouldn't have been my friends they made me go psychotic sorry i'm just talking about summer house anyway um she would ask me what he would have to do for me to leave him and literally my answer would have to be either physical abuse or cheat okay again physical abuse is mental abuse too and you don't need to have a mark on your arm like I was and I was an emotional abusive relationship I literally stopped eating and my heart was beating so much like your body I remember that time it was not a good time for you and it was because I was in such a like dark mental spiral of like confusion I felt crazy I thought I was self-sabotaging you just nothing makes sense when you're in an abusive relationship

and people don't talk about dating narcissists or like emotional abuse enough so i'm happy about this question he made me hate my body thinking um i was fat and i was only 130 pounds at this point he'd make me feel disgusting for wanting to have sex with him and i told and told me i would ruin it by asking if he wanted to oh my god that happened to wow i hate him literally like dudes can i've had guys who are controlling with sex and they'll be like if you try to have sex with me it's a turn off like wait for me to have sex with you that's what yeah that's literally a control tactic and also you feel fucking disgusting that yeah if yeah that's an in that's an insanely horrible dynamic dude that dude is lucky that you were trying to

have sex with him good for you because that takes confidence to fucking say i am a sexual woman and i'm fucking hot and i want to get my rocks off he would accuse me of cheating and hooking up with other people when I slept in his bed every night. Okay, so he's a gas lighter. He's a good, he's, yeah, I couldn't go out with friends without him feeling guilty. Controlling as a F, yeah. I threw a birthday party with my friend and he didn't want to come, text me the whole night saying I was hooking up with people when he wanted him to come.

You know what this sounds like? He's hooking up with other people. When you cheat. Deflecting, he's deflecting. Yep, because he wants you, oh my good. This boy, literally this is why sometimes I'm like, it's good to be single. just to like not be abused sometimes but because there's so many psychos out there pretty much to check on me um long story short he can she continued to put up with his shit and even his mom was starting to see it towards the end

his sister-in-law was having a baby and they were apparently very friendly with my ex I was told I shouldn't go to the baby shower because I got out of work late um so honestly I don't know oh oh oh oh my god I called it I was told I shouldn't go to the baby shower the next day he said he was hanging with friends I find out my cousin that she ran into him at a brewery who was with who when he was with his friend who was a girl just the two of them I don't know who that girl is cheater liar yeah my whole thing cut it cut his dick off my whole thing is if you're not doing anything wrong you shouldn't have to lie so he calls me before I find out that he was like basically told his cousin to cover his trap says he was tracks says he was with other

people this is the boy where i realized boy this is the boy where realized boys are stupid he was posting on social media what they were doing it didn't match his story yeah guys are not guys are not like social media savvy enough some some yeah they don't understand that women are literally we are on you we are detectives we're detectives but we also have that like gut motherly instinct when we know that like love is not right and it's not that we necessarily listen to it all the time but like bitch, you know. I gave him many chances to come clean. He didn't. So I blocked him. And then the girl he was out with texts me the same lie. Like, honey, you just made it worse. Now you're both lying. Okay, girl. Girl. Okay. I feel like if this story was in isolation, like, I don't know,

maybe it wouldn't be that bad. But in the context of everything else that she's been saying, like, he's got to go. He's got to go. Then she sent another paragraph. Oh, my God. I actually love this. And it's about to get a little intense, but I'm glad you're a nurse. Okay. So, so there's a background. I'm fucked up from this. I hate liars and cheaters. Same. I have trouble trusting people, but now I have a whole different issue. He ruined sex for me. He made me feel so bad about myself that I can't enjoy sex. I had been having shitty sex for a year and couldn't fully be my sexual self. And being judged for buying a mini vibrator for Valentine's Day, the least kinky thing to get, like, at least I didn't get a handcuff or a buck plug, which no one,

no one's hating on handcuffs or buck plugs. The last time I had sex with two years ago when I broke up with him because I thought I hadn't gotten good sex and I wanted to hit up a whole flame who used to have good sex with but it actually wasn't very good. I had some PTSD when I was with him. Um, do, too, um, long story short, I know I wanted to watch my boy. I felt dirty and used when I was used my old flame to help me get over my ex. I hate meaningless hookups. This old flame is always down to have sex but I'm never horny enough to be like oh my god you take me now I'll masturbate now and often but how do I get my sexual self back this is actually a great question because yeah no you weren't like traditionally raped but you were emotionally abused when it comes to

sex so it's just like if you were emotionally abused when it comes to a relationship you're scared of a relationship so like it's totally normal that you were having PTSD in terms of like your sexual self and feeling hot and feeling sexy and feeling wanted Yeah, no, it sounds like he really did a number on her, and that is exactly what she's experiencing. It's like trauma. She experienced trauma, and it's manifesting itself by coming back when she tries to do other things that remind her of this trauma. And you nailed it. And I think this girl is being great as I'm like, she wants to.

She wants to love herself again. She's doing this thing. But forget this old hookup guy. He's, because I would do that too. Like after relationship, the first guy I hook up with after, I would always cry because I'd be like, he's not my boyfriend. Like, it's just normal. And having sex with people you don't have emotions with

really does always make you feel, unless you're, like, really sexually free and liberated and haven't had any PTSD and trauma good for you. But I'm not one of those people. I like to have sex with people I like and I want to feel wanted. Do they have to be my boyfriend? Not necessarily. I mean, like, the Luke thing in Summerhouse,

I had feelings for him and I was attracted to him. Did I necessarily want to be my boyfriend? No. But I don't want to have sex with the guy that I don't. have feelings for so this girl i really think you should talk to someone like i agree to talk to someone about this and people i think are hesitant to be like i want to talk to a therapist about how a guy wouldn't want to have sex with me and it's scary and it's embarrassing but like your sexual but there's so much more to this story like this story has so much so many more layers than that he was clearly

emotionally abusive not just like not just surrounding sex but surrounding like your entire relationship that and stuff. Yeah, he was demeaning. And I think that, like, that is the first step, is that talking to someone about it so that you can discuss this trauma and try to overcome it. Also, the good news is it sounds like you're hitting rock bottom.

And when I hit rock bottom with my last ex-relationship, I forced myself to address all the reasons of, A, why I would get with a guy this messed up, why I stayed with a guy this messed up. So you need to, out of this, take some time to literally, like get out of the game put up the white flag stop fucking your ex or your hookup buddy go to your therapist and be like let's start from square one why was i with this guy why did i want this abuse how do i prevent this from happening in the future what patterns do i have and then learn how to resurface

from the ashes as the most beautiful fucking queen you've ever been who's so much smarter so much cooler so much more um self-aware and you will actually be like the sexiest self you've ever been because you will understand yourself and i 100% agree and i think that's what like when you can find your own resilience and grow from a situation that's when you know that you overcame it and you know that you are that queen hell yeah so anyone listening who's going through that kind of adversity this shit makes you wiser and stronger and you're way more interesting and you probably are funnier because you've been through drama and you have a sense of humor and that means that you will have funny tweets and you will be hilarious at parties i think

you're talking about yourself right now but jeanie you are the fucking best this was so much fun you gave such amazing advice um i love you so much if you guys want more bonus content go to my patreon where i have a lot more personal shit going on behind a paywall it's like five dollars a month and um at patreon.com slash burning in hell and we have so many fun episodes coming up and i just want to thank my little devils and if you have advice you want us to get a into email burning in hell pod at gmail.com thanks guys we'll talk to you later thanks for having me bye