Betrayal - S4: E6 — Circling the Drain
Episode Date: June 26, 2025The Betrayal Team investigates how Joel was able to walk away from the mess he created. If you would like to reach out to the Betrayal Team, email us at betrayalpod@gmail.com and follow us ...on Instagram at @betrayalpod. To access our newsletter and additional content and to connect with the Betrayal community, join our Substack at betrayal.substack.com. You can listen to new episodes of Betrayal Season 4 completely ad-free and 1 week early with an iHeart True Crime+ subscription, available exclusively on Apple Podcasts. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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He's not just like a weird religious cult leader.
He was like fusing a bunch of hippie ideology
in with this kind of like evangelical Christianity,
Pentecostal preaching in the mid-century.
He's a very weird guy.
But yeah, I'll just get into it here.
Like nothing you just said makes sense.
That doesn't say it.
Right.
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He would come in before he worked out and said hi, but the only reason he was there
was so that everyone could say,
well, he was there working out.
But he was there for the sole purpose to take a shower
after his lunchtime activities. I'm Andrea Gunning and this is Betrayal Season 4, Episode 6.
Circling the Drain.
In the last episode of Betrayal, you heard Caroline describe her final meeting
with Joel in 2022. They met to discuss issues surrounding their impending divorce. The location
was a coffee shop they had frequented when they were a couple. After more than two months
at an inpatient rehab, Joel looked like a different person. Gone was the clean-cut
cop she had lived with for more than 20 years. Caroline barely recognized him.
His cell phone pinged relentlessly during their meeting with messages from dating apps.
Joel's behavior hadn't changed. He just didn't need to hide it anymore.
As far as Caroline was concerned, the relationship was beyond repair.
And as you heard in previous episodes, their son had already made up his mind too.
But Caroline wanted Nicole, their daughter, to make her own decision about a relationship with her
father. If she wanted to try to have a relationship with him and he was open to that, I wanted that for her.
At the time, Nicole was the only one in their family still grappling with whether to have a relationship with Joel.
When it first happened, I just couldn't believe the depth of the lies that he told us or integrate all of his actions just as one person and as him.
Nicole was entering her senior year of high school, and it was just her and Caroline at home.
In September, Labor Day weekend, our daughter and I decided that we were going to get away
for the weekend and we were going to go visit my best friend who lives in New Mexico. And
as we're on our drive, it's about a six-hour drive, this text comes through and it's from
Joel and it's probably two to three screens long.
He'd sent it to both Caroline and Nicole in a group chat.
And it just says,
I just want you guys to know I love you
more than anything in the world.
I think about your mother and you guys every day.
I regret my stupid actions.
I hope that we can be a family.
And our daughter was just devastated by this text. Joel was saying he wanted to be a family. And our daughter was just devastated by this text.
Joel was saying he wanted to be a family,
but his actions showed otherwise.
And so I tried calling him and he didn't respond.
And then she goes to call him again,
and this time you could tell he put her to voicemail.
And so I said, maybe he's at work.
Caroline just couldn't bear to see Nicole in so much pain.
She wants to connect with him and he doesn't answer.
Nicole was holding out hope.
He still holds this sort of grasp on me.
Nicole and Caroline arrived in New Mexico for a much-needed visit with Caroline's
best friend, Deborah.
We met her in an earlier episode, and Deborah could see Nicole was hurting.
I felt like she really struggled because she was a daddy's girl.
She was trying to weigh out, do I want to still have a relationship with my dad?
The next day, my best friend, her husband, me, my daughter, were FaceTiming with my son,
who is in college on the East Coast.
And we start just reminiscing and going down memory lane.
And my son says, Oh, I remember this picture.
I got to pull this picture up.
He's real silent.
And then all of a sudden, he says,
Mama, could you take me off speakerphone
and just talk to me?
And so I said, well, what's going on?
And so he gets very serious.
And he said, please, just take me off speakerphone.
I just want to talk to you.
And so I excused myself. And I said everything okay and he said no. Their son told Caroline that
she needed to look at their shared family photo vault. Joel was still
uploading pictures to the cloud. When I pull it up there is just picture after
picture of women on a beach who you can clearly tell they have
no idea they're being photographed.
Immediately, Caroline went to Debra and showed her what her son had seen.
It's just pictures of girls in their bikinis.
Some of them are zoomed in on their butts or their crotch.
You know that the women don't know because they're either laying down
and their face is on the opposite end
or he's behind them when they're walking.
There was one girl I remember,
she was walking with her boyfriend.
She was hand in hand with a boy
and he was taking pictures of her butt.
Joel had gone to the beach and secretly photographed women. He zoomed in on parts of their bodies,
all while telling his family he was committed to change.
And I am mortified, mortified that my son is seeing this. His frantic response to me
is you got to delete this, get it off of here,
get it off of this. And I go to call Joel and he doesn't answer. And then I'm trying
to figure out how to get a hold of him and I'm texting him what I'm seeing.
The photos were right there in the vault for the entire family to access. Joel was indulging
himself with no thought about the fact that his kids could see these pictures.
And there weren't just photos of women.
There was also a photo of Joel out at a bar in California.
By his side is a fellow CSPD officer,
a buddy who must have come out to visit.
In the photo, they were out at a bar,
smiling and holding up beers, having fun.
Meanwhile, his
family was falling apart.
I mean, it just appears that he treated this inpatient rehab facility as a glorified frat
house, not as a therapeutic opportunity.
This was just kind of a retreat for him, a little vacation away from Colorado and the mess that he created.
Joel finally responded to Caroline's texts saying he didn't realize he was still sharing the digital photo vault.
We had extremely minimal contact, but after I found out about the pictures, I told him we can't even share a phone account together
It was almost comical. I thought to myself you're not even safe to have a Netflix account with
That next day I went out and I put the kids and I on a separate phone plan
She acted quickly all she wanted was to shield the kids from these images.
I was so frantic. I'm at my best friend's home. I'm not even home. And my immediate
concern was to make sure that we are completely separate from him.
So she asked Joel to delete the shared account. And he did. But in the rush, Caroline didn't
save all
the old family photos.
Which, I mean, sounds a little cheesy, but you know, now I don't have the kids' baby
pictures or video of my dad's celebration of life. All of that was on our shared account.
There was just no way I could chance the kids and I continuously seeing these types of pictures
and images that he took.
And just being able to view those photos felt like a liability.
Before she separated their phones and photos, Caroline noticed something else in Joel's
cloud pictures.
There's one woman repeatedly in pictures very recently.
It looked like Joel was already in a new relationship.
Caroline texted him to ask who the woman was.
He says that he met someone while he was in rehab.
She lived in Puerto Rico and they had decided to meet.
Caroline thought back to the texts she and Nicole received a few days earlier, while they were
driving to New Mexico, when he said he'd do anything to repair their relationship.
And so the truth is revealed that he sends this text, begging the kids and I that he wants to be
a family again, and he's so sorry. But the fact of the matter is he was sending it while he was already with a
female he met online. And so it just kind of became this awareness in that moment
for everyone but specifically our daughter that whenever he reached out
really trying and wanting to be a part of our lives,
it was always a way to mask and disguise the fact
that he was doing just the opposite of what he was saying.
Nicole noticed the same pattern.
He reaches out, sends my brother and I a text message
when he knows that we're gonna find out something
pretty soon.
Dawn is a friend of Caroline's and was also her divorce attorney.
She mentioned earlier in the series that she doesn't usually represent friends, but she
made an exception for Caroline out of concern for the kids, who she knew well.
Dawn saw the impact of Joel's absence on Nicole.
To see Nicole really struggle to not see her dad or have that relationship anymore, it
was just so jarring to her.
She still desired that relationship, but Joel really just pulled completely away.
Jen Forster and her husband Tom are among Caroline's closest friends. Jen also was disappointed that Joel didn't try harder.
The fact that he kind of just gave up was really surprising. He hasn't tried to repair the relationship. And frankly, as a parent,
why would you give up? I would never give up on my kids. I would say, I'm still here
for you. I still love you. I will always be here for you.
How can you know that your child is out there and not want to be around your child or like know what's
happening with them.
Nicole thought Joel would at the very least try to connect for the big moments, the milestones.
And everything that Joel did, one of the hardest days was her graduation. You know, I left
that morning because I wanted to get a lay
necklace for her to wear. I wanted to get her favorite coffee and have it waiting for
her when she woke up. And when I came home, she was already up and there was this envelope
taped to our front door. And her little face, oh God, it just kills me.
She just had this desperation in her face, like she just was hoping for it.
And she said, oh my gosh, is that from my dad? In 2012, 16-year-old Brian Herrera was gunned down in broad daylight on his way to do homework.
No suspects, no witnesses, no justice.
The call was horrible.
I replayed it over in my head all the time.
For years, Brian's family kept asking questions, while a culture of silence kept the case cold.
Snitches get stitches.
Everybody knows it.
Still, they refused to give up.
I would ask my husband, do you want me to just let this go?
He said, no, keep fighting.
I told her I would never give up on this case.
And then after a decade of waiting, a breakthrough.
We received a phone call that was bittersweet because it's a call that we've been waiting for for a very long time.
I'm Enrique Santos.
This is Cold Case Files Miami, a podcast about justice, persistence, and the families who never stopped fighting. a long time. we talk about the worst people in all of history. We've discussed a lot of horrible monsters in our time,
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Quite an honor.
You know what's funny is you do this weird math.
Like if you're a woman dating men, nobody wants to talk to you about your sexuality.
They just want to either say like you're a prude or a slut, you know?
If you date too much, they criticize you.
If you don't date, you must be frigid, whatever. And then the thing that gets added when you're
actually more fluid with your sexuality is the swing goes to, you better identify exactly
who you are so we can figure out what name to call you. And it's like, okay. And you
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On the morning of Nicole's high school graduation, Caroline found her daughter staring at an envelope that had been left on their front door.
She just had this desperation in her face, like she just was hoping for it.
And she said, Oh my gosh, is that from my dad?
And I said, I don't know.
And when I handed it to her and she saw that it was signed by our neighbors. God, it was one
of the worst things to ever see. It was horrible. You just saw her completely deflate this day
that she had just worked so hard to celebrate. She just didn't recover from that day. You just saw her with this solemn expression and
just deflated. Every time she opened the door just a little bit, another lie would come
up. You know, on her graduation that night, she wanted to go out to some parties with
some of her friends and before she left she said
I'm going to text my dad and I said, okay, that's completely your decision. I wanted her to continue that contact and
she sent just the most simplistic text and
Just said I graduated today
That's it. And He took a while to respond and then eventually said,
Oh, I know, I'm so proud of you.
But minutes later, I get this rage text from him blaming me for not reminding him.
And you just saw her pining after just this hope, like, just be different.
It wasn't just Nicole who was in pain. Caroline's friends watched her suffering, too.
Joel wasn't around anymore, but every few weeks, a new secret was revealed.
Here's Caroline's friend, Jen.
There was an incident where Caroline had gotten a text message from someone.
This person had basically told her
about a friend of Caroline's
who had been intimately involved with Joel.
And that was a rough day.
You'd see her start to heal.
She relaxed.
You'd see her start to move forward,
and then something else would happen.
And this was one of those instances.
Like, it's not just taking two steps forward
and one step back.
Every time something came up,
it just ripped the bandaid off again.
As people in the community learned
about Joel and Caroline's separation, they felt more inclined
to contact Caroline with details of Joel's affairs. It felt like every day she learned of
new affairs that had been going on right under her nose, sometimes for years. He had a long-term
affair with a hairstylist. He sent inappropriate texts to a local college professor who Caroline worked with.
He'd had sex with an insurance agent, a prison guard, a nurse. Caroline was re-traumatized
every single time, with each new revelation. Her entire life was turned into community gossip
around town, in the halls of the Colorado Springs Police Department, and even at work.
Caroline's not a cop, but she does work in law enforcement. Her job requires her to interact
with police officers all the time.
They come into my place of employment and I have to pass them. I have to interact with
them. I see them on elevators. I see them in the hallway. Meanwhile, I've heard the
snickering. There's been blatant comments said back and forth in front of me where they know I'm an earshot. I was humiliated
to walk into work knowing that rumors were starting to fly and spread about what he had
done. Caroline had to face the consequences of Joel's actions every day. And so did the kids. They
continued to find out new information. And instead of letting themselves be surprised
or hear it through a third party, they wanted to control how and when they heard things.
Really, it was the only thing they had control over.
Here's their son.
I wanted to know everything.
Complete transparency.
If someone were to say that my mom shared too much, I think that'd just be continuing
this deception.
I'd rather find out from my mom so we wouldn't be blindsided randomly in the community.
Nobody would want that. The truth hurt, but it was powerful and it was needed.
That was the only way to move forward.
The rumors were inescapable. Caroline's friend Jen recalls a day Caroline received particularly hurtful news about
Joel. She couldn't even talk to anyone about it. It was too much. I think
emotionally the anger, the hurt, the sadness all comes back. I mean she spent
four days in bed reliving all of it.
She basically said, don't come over.
I don't want to see anybody.
I cannot deal with anything.
So Tom and I dropped off dinner on her doorstep.
Hey, we're here for you if you need us.
All her grief, heartbreak, shame, and humiliation was unfair.
Joel was able to leave, and she was left with so much destruction when all she did was love
and trust her husband.
All of this got me thinking about consequences.
Justice, really.
You're going to hear different perspectives on what consequences mean throughout this episode. But I wanted to start with Caroline.
What would justice feel like for her?
Turns out, it's pretty simple.
It would feel fantastic to be able to walk into professional meetings, to be able to
walk into my own employment, to be able to be in professional meetings, to be able to walk into my own employment,
to be able to be in the community and not have cops
sleeping and can make blowjob comments next to me.
She doesn't want to feel like the butt of a joke.
And she wants the support of the people at Joel's job,
people she has supported for two decades.
On a very, very personal note, you know, the people who surrounded him at his profession,
the deputy chief is my son's godfather. I have not heard one word from him in the mix
of all of this. I have not heard one word from any of the people who my kids and I were ever there for them in their time of need.
Not one person has reached out to say, are you and the kids okay? Not one.
Joel was able to walk away from the mess without being terminated. Why? Because instead of being fired, he retired.
In an earlier episode, you heard Joel meet with his boss,
Commander Jeff Strossner.
This was at the conclusion
of Joel's internal affairs investigation
for having sex in his police car while on duty.
Strossner found conclusively that Joel had violated
five Colorado Springs Police Department policies,
including departing from the truth, lying.
He let Joel know he was going to recommend him
for termination.
The legislative intent is very clear
that we cannot allow peace officers remain employed
when they've lied during an IA investigation.
Joel's career as a cop would be over.
The department set another meeting for two weeks later
to make it all final.
But that meeting never occurred,
because instead of facing termination,
Joel chose a path that ensured
he'd never hear the words,
"'You're fired.
He retired, and just like that,
his work problems vanished.
A letter about his pending termination
was replaced by an email congratulating him
on his decades of service,
just days after his meeting with Commander Strassner.
How did this happen?
Well, our team has been investigating it. And the first thing we
discovered is that this happens all the time. Dan, a former CSPD officer, said it's common for cops
under investigation to retire. Honestly, I was surprised he didn't retire like the day this came to light. I figured if he knew that this was true and knew how it could end, I'm truly surprised
that it just wasn't happened immediately.
It appears that Joel waited until after the meeting with Internal Affairs and Commander
Strasner when he knew for certain they were on to him and there was no talking his way
out of it. But before he officially left the CSPD, he took FMLA or family medical leave
and went off to rehab where his sexual escapades only continued.
In taking FMLA, Joel stretched his time.
I hate to say it, but when some guys are circling the drain of their
career and getting ready to get fired, they will drag it out as long as possible because they're collecting a paycheck.
And they might as well as long as they can. And it irks you when you're sitting up there
knowing that we're paying somebody that is more than likely going to get fired and did some
pretty bad stuff. We also found this troubling.
did some pretty bad stuff.
We also found this troubling. Joel had sex in his police car on the taxpayer's dime
and his consequences amounted to an early retirement,
a handshake and a pat on the back.
We contacted Jeff Strossner about it via email.
He's now the chief of another police department
in Colorado.
He pointed out that retirement
is managed by a separate agency. Here's some of that email.
As I am sure you are aware, he retired prior to discipline, and retirement is a process managed by the Colorado Fire Police Pension Association.
The department has no control if someone decides to retire prior to the execution of discipline and does not have the authority
to intervene in the retirement process. It is common for retirement eligible officers
who see the writing on the wall to decide to retire rather than go through the termination
process.
The police department wasn't about to interfere with the pension association. They don't
have the power to. It seems like once Joel chose to retire
and took medical leave, he became untouchable.
It turns out we weren't the first
to investigate this pattern at the CSPD.
I'm Carly Rose.
I'm a multimedia journalist at Rocky Mountain PBS.
Carly reports on the criminal justice system in Colorado.
I sat down with her when I was in Colorado Springs.
Her team uncovered some alarming patterns
among Colorado cops, which we'll get to in a moment.
But first, I wanted to share one case
that tipped her team off to a larger problem.
Alexander Knoyer was a police officer
for the Colorado Springs Department, and he resigned
while under investigation in 2012.
Knoyer was caught having a sexual relationship with the subject of a criminal investigation.
He left while under investigation, and that was perfectly legal, but he was never decertified,
meaning he could still work as a cop in Colorado.
Then he was hired at the Cripple Creek Police Department,
and that's where he met Kelly Davis.
Davis came into the department to report a possible crime,
but then Kanoyer started doing exactly what he did
back in Colorado Springs.
He started messaging her daily,
and the messages became sexual.
Him being the police officer had the power in this situation.
Kelly Davis eventually reported Kenoyer,
and he was charged with sexual misconduct.
But all of this may have been prevented
if he'd been terminated and decertified
back in Colorado Springs.
He had already done it at another department and was caught for it in a sense in being investigated,
but then he left and was able to go to a different department and victimize another woman.
Knoyer walked away from the CSPD and went on to another department.
The heat from his first IA investigation did nothing to deter him from future misconduct. It didn't deter
Joel either. After he admitted to sexual harassment in 2019, he got little more than a write-up,
and we all know what happened next. Carly and her team wanted to understand how often officers were
avoiding termination in cases like this, so they looked at something called the post database.
It's a public database of the certifications
of these officers, as well as certain actions against them,
like resignations or terminations
or if they were under investigation.
One thing that really stood out was this action that was titled resignation in lieu of termination
and then also resignation while under investigation.
We were like, oh, people can resign rather than face the consequences of an investigation.
Rocky Mountain PBS reported the story in April 2024.
At the time of their reporting, there were 158 cases in the database in which officers
had either resigned in lieu of termination or while under investigation.
And then about 120 had been terminated.
Instead of being held accountable, more officers took the option to walk away.
And Joel was one of them.
In 2012, 16-year-old Brian Herrera was gunned down in broad daylight on his way to do homework.
No suspects, no witnesses, no justice.
The call was horrible. I replayed it over in my head all the time.
For years, Brian's family kept asking questions, while a culture of silence kept the case cold.
Snitches get stitches. Everybody knows it.
Still, they refused to give up. I would ask
my husband, do you want me to just let this go? He said, no, keep fighting. I told her I would
never give up on this case. And then after a decade of waiting, a breakthrough. We received a phone
call that was bittersweet because it's a call that we've been waiting for for a very long time.
I'm Enrique Santos. This is Cold Case Files Miami, a podcast about justice, persistence, and the families who
never stopped fighting.
Listen to Cold Case Files Miami as part of the MyCultura podcast network, available on
the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts.
I'm Robert Evans, and on my podcast Behind the Bastards, we talk about the worst people
in all of history.
We've discussed a lot of horrible monsters in our time,
but this week we have one of the very worst
we'll ever talk about, David Berg,
founder of a cult called the Children of God.
We'll talk about all of his horrible crimes
with special guest, Ed Helms.
He's not just like a weird religious cult leader.
He was like fusing a bunch of hippie ideology
in with this kind of evangelical Christianity,
Pentecostal preaching in the mid-century.
He's a very weird guy.
But yeah, I'll just get into it here.
Nothing you just said makes sense.
That doesn't say it.
Right.
But that's the beauty of cults.
Listen to Behind the Bastards on the iHeart Radio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Just like great shoes, great books take you places.
Through unforgettable love stories and into conversations with characters you'll never
forget.
I think any good romance, it gives me this feeling of like butterflies.
I'm Danielle Robay and this is Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club, the new podcast from
Hello Sunshine and iHeart Podcasts.
Every week I sit down with your favorite book lovers, authors, celebrities, book talkers,
and more to explore the stories that shape us, on the page and off.
I've been reading every Reese's Book Club pick, deep-diving book talk theories, and
obsessing over book-to-screen casts for years.
And now I get to talk to the people making the magic.
So if you've ever fallen in love with a fictional character or cried at the last chapter or
passed a book to a friend saying, you have to read this, this podcast is for you.
Listen to Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club on the iHeartRadio app.
Apple podcasts are wherever you get your podcasts.
This week on Dear Chelsea with me, Chelsea Handler.
Sophia Bush is here.
Tell me how that feels to be considered a hot lesbian.
Quite an honor.
You know what's funny is you do this weird math.
If you're a woman dating men, nobody wants to talk to you about your sexuality.
They just want to either say you're a prude or a slut.
If you date too much, they criticize you.
If you don't date, you must be frigid, whatever.
And then the thing that gets added when you're actually more fluid with your sexuality is
the swing goes to you better identify exactly who you are so we can figure out what name
to call you.
And it's like, okay.
And you know, I sort of looked around and was like, has nobody been paying attention to like all the hot girls I've been kissing on camera? You know, maybe not in
front of you off camera, but hi, I've always been here.
Listen to Dear Chelsea on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts or wherever you get your
podcasts.
In reporting this season, we've thought a lot about early warning signs.
Moments when Joel's behavior could have been stopped.
Along the way, there were people who raised the alarm on Joel, like the reporter back
in 2019.
Back then, Joel Kern was up for the job of public information officer at the CSPD.
The reporter came forward to warn the department that Joel was a problem.
While he had served in that role temporarily, he had asked her and other reporters to use
WhatsApp to communicate.
And after some hedging during an internal affairs investigation, he eventually admitted
to sexual harassment. for myself or then I would say yeah that would be an accurate statement.
Joel was written up and took himself out of the running for the job. He wasn't suspended
or demoted. To us, it felt like there wasn't much of a consequence. But not everyone agrees
with that assessment.
I'm Will Aitchison. I'm a lawyer who practices out of Portland, Oregon.
I have represented law enforcement labor organizations for about 45 years.
Will has worked on countless disciplinary proceedings.
And when it comes to Joel's harassment case, he thinks the department did the best they
could with the information they had at the time.
After all, Joel said all the right things.
It always helps an employee to come in and tell the boss,
I know I've done something wrong and I apologize for it.
He did get a reprimand and he did lose what is considered in law enforcement
to be a really good job. So I think that punishment is on the range of reasonableness.
We also wanted Will's thoughts on retiring
in lieu of termination.
He confirmed what Dan and Strassner told us.
That's actually quite common.
Police officers receive job protections,
like the ability to retire in this way,
that people in other professions don't.
That can be a good thing.
These protections prevent new leaders like a chief or mayor from hiring and firing randomly for political or personal reasons.
We do not want a public employee punished for simply doing their job the way they should.
But these protections also mean that cops like Joel get a lot of leeway.
We asked Will to read the transcripts from Joel's second disciplinary hearing,
the one for having sex in his police car.
Any police officer reading that transcript would be thoroughly embarrassed by what they were reading
and would come up with the conclusion he should be fired.
I think ultimately if he had not had this right to retire, the city of Colorado Springs would have terminated him. Former CSPD officer Dan says that for the most part, CSPD employees do serve honorably,
and the department has procedures in place to eliminate any bad actors.
You know, that's why you have internal affairs in those places.
They're there to try to weed those people out and get rid of them.
And I think most officers are going to be of the opinion that the officers that are
giving us the black eye need to go.
I will still say to this day that the Colorado Springs Police Department is one of the most
ethical departments you're going to find.
And 99% of the officers out there are doing it right.
They're doing it for the right reason.
Joel ultimately lost his certification to be a cop, but he was never criminally charged.
And there are people who see Joel's low key exit
as telling that it speaks to a pattern
of corruption and favoritism.
If you've made the right friends and leadership,
you'll get a softer landing on the way out.
We heard rumblings about this long before we ever set foot in Colorado, because there
was somebody posting stories about it online.
A whistleblower acting under the name Romy Eastridge.
They had a page called the Police Officer's Whistleblower Network, where they posted story
after story of misconduct at the CSPD. On the
clock affairs covered up crimes and inconsistent discipline. This whistleblower
has remained anonymous until now. After several conversations, she decided to
break cover to participate in betrayal. I think that in order for these officers to lose a fear of speaking out,
I kind of need to lead by example.
That's Claudia Aldrich. Claudia has a family member who used to work at the department.
Claudia's family member went through an internal affairs investigation
and experienced what Claudia sees as unfair treatment.
Meanwhile, she kept hearing stories
about other CSPD cops getting away with bad behavior.
And she wanted to shine a light
on the double standards within the department.
So she started her whistleblower page.
She says CSPD cops are too afraid to call out misconduct
because of the rules for reporting.
Apparently they had to go through the chain of command
to open an IA, an internal affairs investigation.
If a cop wants to report misconduct,
they typically go to their supervisor.
And even if a cop reports misconduct directly
to internal affairs or to another superior, word gets around quick.
Claudia's sources confirmed a long-standing question we had about Joel's sexual activity.
Did other employees at CSPD know what Joel was doing at work? The answer is yes, absolutely.
But would people report it?
Who's gonna wanna do that?
Because doing that puts their career on a big red spot.
So instead of reporting misconduct,
some officers called Claudia.
In one post, Claudia cites three sources in saying,
Who is going to state the obvious from Gold Hill?
*** would walk over to one of us and tell us we had to work the desk while Curran and
her would be holed up in his office.
Everyone knew what he was doing with her during those days.
We all just sat and essentially kept watch in case his wife or kids
showed up with his lunch. He did that and you could tell that even the commanders knew it.
Here's a former civilian CSPD employee who worked at the same substation as Joel.
We'll call her Renny. He would come in before he worked out and said hi, but the only reason he was there was so that
everyone could say, well, he was there working out. But he was there for the sole purpose to take a
shower after his lunchtime activities. Here's Claudia again. I actually had one officer call me and said he did the same thing during the riots.
She's referring to protests in 2020 following the murder of George Floyd.
He was telling people to go and basically face rioters while he was in some motel with
someone.
People knew about Joel long before Caroline Ever did.
Did they fear the consequences of reporting his misconduct?
I know that Kern also had a lot of power and a lot of connections. A 24-year veteran of the department,
who was also willing to sit with us for this project,
said the same.
Joel Kern was one of the golden few.
Kern was protected.
Posts on the whistleblower page
alleged that Kern was also protecting himself.
One says,
Lieutenant Kern had a black book of CSPD dirty deeds that guaranteed him
protection.
At first, we couldn't believe this. But then we heard from employees that
keeping records to protect yourself is a common practice.
When you heard of an instance where a call for service might have involved
maybe the mayor, city council, other officers, someone
in that sort of political or high level realm, right? The first thing you did was look up
that call, quickly print it out, because you were guaranteed within a couple hours, that
call screen was going to disappear and would not be accessible.
When someone calls 911, it generates a call screen.
Sometimes these are referred to as a call for service.
Call screens contain details like the names
of the people involved, the location,
the nature of the emergency,
and notes about the call's progress.
This officer and others we spoke with
allege that the identification numbers of calls for service for high-profile individuals would get hidden in the system.
And so lots of us, and I did it myself, would print out these calls for service so in the
case of some sort of retribution or retaliation, I had a file folder of, all right, if that's
the way we're going to play, then I have this.
We all protected ourselves.
So employees were keeping dirt on their superiors.
Why?
Because they didn't trust their leadership.
How can a police force function that way?
The story of the call screens surprised law enforcement attorney, Will Aitchison.
You definitely have an accountability problem. If that in fact occurred, yeah, I'm very surprised
by that.
These officers were fighting without anybody knowing. And nobody knows that these poor
cops have to go out in the street and just watch the back, but also watch the surroundings where they're in their department among their own peers.
Cops knew the deal.
They weren't all going to be treated fairly.
It was all about who you were or who you were friends with.
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