Business Innovators Radio - Andrew Dale: How to Transform to Your Best Life

Episode Date: August 1, 2024

Andrew Dale is a Certified Life Coach and World Class Sailor and registered Captain who helps clients navigate difficult challenges so they can transform to their best life. Andrew helps people deal with their past, live in the moment, and step into their future.Learn more at: andrewjdale.comRebelpreneur Radio with Ralph Brogdenhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/rebelpreneur-radio-with-ralph-brogden/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/andrew-dale-how-to-transform-to-your-best-life

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Marketing and Media Strategist, Ralph Brogden. Hello. and welcome to Rebelpreneur Radio. It's the show that helps you build the business you need so you can live the life you want. I'm Ralph Brogden. As entrepreneurs and as people who want to succeed in life and in business, you have to get comfortable with the idea of change. With transformation, metamorphosis from where you are to where you want to be. The only thing that doesn't change is change itself.

Change is a constant. And it is something that we all have to learn to deal with. Personal life, professional life, growing our business, growing our career. So today's guest helps people to navigate those life transformations and to get the most out of their personal and professional goals so that they can create and live the vision that inspires them. Today's guest is Andrew Dill. Welcome, Andrew, to Rebel Prenumer Radio. Hello, Ralph. Thank you for inviting me along.

I'm very excited to be you. Well, thanks for taking some time out to talk with us about what you do and how you help people transform their lives. First, tell us a little bit more about yourself and how you got started. Okay. Well, I'm a Maldi. I came over here about nine years ago, coming up to nine years. I love working with Americans. Americans are full steam.

So it makes it easier to re-focus because of the energy that people have. They run past opportunities. All I have to do is slow them down, so they make the opportunity. I love to sail. I sail on the Chesapeake Bay as often as I can. I've got a beautiful 36-foot sailboat that, you know, my clients are always welcome to come for a sale. Any excuse for a sale? But, yeah, but I help people who are going through a midlife crisis, you know, move from where they are to their best life.

And we all had moments in time. And it's those moments that we realize that we've got to make a change, which, which re-establishes because, you know, we live, we can live till we're 80, 90, 100, and most people are aiming at 50, 60 and they run out of steam. They don't know where they're going. And then, you know, my mum played tennis until she was 88. She passed away of cancer shortly afterwards, but she won the world titles in tennis at the age of 87 in Florida.

So she was, yeah, mixed doubles and doubles. Yeah, it was just amazing. But, you know, there's so much life left in it. And, you know, people change. They change the world in their second half of their lives so often. And, you know, we're just unlimited. We're born with this beautiful soul. And it's exactly the same person today as it was when we were born,

And all we've done is loaded up with stuff. So my job's really just to help you find your soul again, find your truth, and bring that light out, make your life shine again. That's my role. Wonderful. So who is a good prospect for you? Who stands to benefit the most from your particular gift

in helping people in midlife crisis? are really professionals who really have, you know, I've helped a lot of people, you know, people have gone through divorce, people who have got to a point in their career, their life, because everything's connected. You know, if you love life's in a mess, your finances are often in the mess. You know, it's all a big circle, you know, we can't say, all right, this part of my life okay but the rest is a mess

your whole life is connected so really men or women a lot I find I normally men but often women come along and I normally work through referrals but yeah people who've actually

got to a point normally in their 50s people who've got to a point where they're stuck they need a change and they know there's more. You know, there's, there's, there's more to life, but they, they're just really stuck at the moment, and it's time to change. But they're the, yeah, they're the people who can get the most out of my, my courses and, and my services. So what, what is the biggest challenge with

people that they're trying to make this change and they have to reach out and get help? Most people don't reach out and get help. They just suffer in silence or they try to figure it out and they fail. Only a small percentage of people actually have the wherewithal to reach out for help to recognize, hey, what I'm doing isn't working and I can keep banging my head trying to figure it out or I can get some help. So what is the biggest challenge you find with the people that you're working with that seems to be a universal problem that they keep running into all the time? We tend to replay our past. And it's taken us, if you're 50 years old, that you've got 50 years or probably 48 years predominantly of things that are affecting you today.

In fact, the amazing part about it is if you're 50 years old today, your parents were parented 75 years ago, their parenting started 75 years ago by people who were probably 25 years old or older at that point. So you're actually learning things from 100 years ago. And you're learning good and bad habits from 100 years ago. And that's why it's people don't understand, you know, like, where did I pick up my bad habits from? Well, you know, a hundred years ago when your grandparents were born and teaching your parents how to parent, especially in America, like 75 years ago, you were going through busing kids into schools. You know, like that was very traumatic.

And you're probably thinking, well, that was nothing to do with me. but it's absolutely ingrained in your parents and your parents' parents. All of that turmoil has come through in those early years when you're two years old and things like that. And then as you go through your teenage years, often there's a case of bullying in there or there's highs and there's lows and people tend to remember the lows more than the highs. and as we lay out, as we go through and help people discover their future, I go back into their past and then remembering things about, oh, you know,

I was bullied as a teenager, I was no good. And it's like, but you were the, you know, you were the straight A student. You were the, you know, you were voted president of the class or whatever. So someone liked you. And they go, oh, shit. Yeah. Yeah, they suddenly realized that the bully was actually just irrelevant, you know? And the moment they realized that that bully was irrelevant, all of a sudden, you've just opened up a whole new world, you know?

And it's quick, you know, like it's not like you go back and you relive every moment of 50 years. No, we're looking for key moments. You go through and hit those key moments and allow that. You know, when I'm coaching people, the first three weeks is one, one week, one week, one week. But after that, it's every two weeks because when we coach, when I coach, over the next two weeks, I'll get a totally different reaction. I can use the same question for every session for, you know, three months and get a totally different answer each time. Okay, because as you change, you find these changes. and it just opens up, oh, you know, like when I was 21, instead of being, you know, instead of being down in the day, I actually won my tennis, I won my goal.

You know, I was actually good at sports. I was playing teams. You've released all of this energy to look for the good in yourself. Like, you know, and if you're going through, if you're going through a hard time, you know, one of the things I'm doing, you know, I'm not allowing you to go and beat yourself up. So, and that goes all the way back through. And as we learn that we were actually valued, you know, we were valued by your parents, were valued by friends. We were valued all the way through our lives.

And even by our parents and grandparents and whatever else, the fact that we now know that we're valued brings us a whole new world. Now we're getting to what I always say to people is lift your standard, rate your standard. No matter what you're doing. raise your standard. And when they do that, you raise your standard, how you approach your money. You know, I'm going to look after my money a lot better. I'm going to look after my relationships a lot better. I'm not going to, you know, if someone's around me who's trying to pull me back to my old standard, I'm going to stand term. I don't even have the conversation. I just know that I'm going to

raise my standards. And those people will either raise up or they'll, they'll spend less time with you because you'll make them uncomfortable, but that's up to them. But by constantly raising standards by going back through and realizing that, you know, that we were valued all the way through our lives, there was this. Oh, it's going to be times. There's going to be rough times and rough times make tough people. You know, the rough of the time, the better you're going to come out of this, believe it or night, you know, like the, um, the hardest person to get the most out of is someone who's

never had anything go wrong in their life. You know, they go along in rice and, you know, everything's gone okay, but they're just sort of floating along. That's, you know, now I've got to create an energy. But for most people, there's all this energy built up and hidden. And, um, and it just pops out of them, you know, like, I've, you know, I've, you know, I've had people on the verge of, uh, quitting their jobs. or, you know, in a lot of trouble in their jobs.

And they're now gone on to be sales managers earning 300 sales of the year. And it's only because they, we went back and we said, actually, that's not true. You weren't, you weren't neglected. You weren't, you know, even though that happened to you, you were, someone else took over.

Someone else loved you. Someone else valued you, you know, and they go, I didn't realize. I forgot that. And they moved on, you know. So it's really about... So then it's really about taking that negative energy that's been created and getting the right perspective and then redirecting that negative energy towards positive self-worth, positive valuing of yourself

more realistically, as opposed to just looking at everything through a... through the filter of all the negative trauma that happen. Is that right? Yeah. But it's exactly. It's finding the truth, you know, because in truth, you're actually, most people have been loved all the way through their lives by people, right? And even if it's yourself, you know, they've all had amazing moments.

and it's allowing those to rise. So you're bringing out your truth. You know, we're all born with this huge light inside it, well, they are sold. And the easiest way to prove that is walk into a hospital and look at everybody looking at the newborns. They're attracted to the newborns. Why?

Because they're this brilliant light, you know, they're not pretty. I didn't say that out loud. But, you know, like, why else? else is people looking in Newborn because they're just different because they're full of this beautiful light and and we've all got that inside it you know what we're doing is we're taking away the negative energy that's holding our light down and then allowing that light to shine within it and yeah I you know I can't add to people what's not already there and quite honestly you could never add as much as what's inside of a person you know it's.

It's more about uncovering people's truth, their honesty about themselves. And it's, you know, I've even worked with some racist people. And by the time we're finished, they find it extremely difficult to maintain their racism because it's a battle. You know, it's not true. It's not, no one's born a racist. It's a learned, it's an acquired thing. And you can't love and hate at the same time.

It can't appear in the same spot. It's like light and darkness cannot be in the same space. But light into dark, no longer dark. So it's amazing that people will actually, it's really hard to try and hold those beliefs when you know they're not true. Right. And whatever beliefs that you're trying to hang on to, you know they're not true, so they've got to go because they just can't exist anymore.

Yeah. What would you say to someone who is listening to this, and they hear something of themselves in this tendency to constantly replay negative events from the past, to evaluate themselves negatively based on those experiences? Do you have like a self-help one, two, three thing that you can teach people to begin moving, help them move in the right direction? Is there such a thing? Yeah. So the first thing you've got to do is understand those feelings are going to come and not hold on to them.

Let them go. And that can be when you get home at night, before you walk into your house, just go and stand out the front somewhere near a tree or whatever. and brush your body off and let those feelings go. Don't take them into the house. And it worked. It actually simply just brushing your body off. And then each morning set yourself an intention. So if you've got to, during the day, you find that you're allowing these negative thoughts to build up.

certain intention in the morning that today you're not going to hold on to any negative thoughts you know and every day can be a different intention or certain outcome whatever the case may be but get used to going be aware of yourself oh I'm holding on the negative I'll just let it go you know and then or another day you might say all right every time the negative comes in

I'm going to think about something something that inspires me I don't like to say just positive, but, you know, positive is good, but you can't just try and force out, put a positive over a negative consistently. The best way to do it is to let that negative energy, negative thought pass. Just step back as though you're in the traffic and let it go in the traffic. But each morning, 10 minutes each morning, set your intention or set your outcome for the day. Today I'm going to feel I'm going to be inspired all day

You know So today I'm going to just let any negatives go I'm not going to worry about it And if you do this for weeks on end The first day will be a bit harder But as you go through and just consistently check yourself During the day Just simple things or today I'm going to finish a task

Start to get outcome focused So during the day, all right, I haven't done this, even if it's just, I haven't paid my bills. All right, today I'm going to pay my bills. Okay. So it's done. You might have been hanging on to that for a week. Now it's done. You're clearing yourself out.

You're clearing, you're clearing path to allow things to flow. And the more things flow, you know, then you're making great decisions. You're, you know, you're allowing your life to move on quickly. Powerful. Yeah. So that makes a lot of sense. There's going to be people that are going to struggle and still recognize, yeah, I need help. I need that extra bit of feedback or, you know, the different perspective to help me navigate through this.

How does working with a coach, a life coach like you, how does that help them to make progress fast? as opposed to trying to just figure it out themselves. Okay, a great example of this is like if you go and watch the last 10 minutes of movie, you haven't seen, you know, the two hours before that last 10 minutes. So if that same movie, you just said, all right, well, let's grab the highlights out of the movie. That's, you know, there's 10 highlights in that movie. We'll grab those 10 highlights and then we'll grab the chorus. responding negative movements at the time.

This is stuff that you probably would never go back to yourself. But by going back there with a coach and going, and not dwelling on it, you're not there to relive it, you know, there's moments that will upset you, there's moments that will challenge you, but you don't go back and live there,

you know, and you'll go back and you go, all right, that moment there, okay, so the truth of that moment, was we're having a hard time, but we had a great outcome, you know, people around me at the time. And when I was two years old, this is what my table, this was the talk around the table.

Oh, that talk wasn't, doesn't apply now. You know, we were brand new, my parents were brand new parents then. We were having hard times, but my parents are fine now. They've moved on. Maybe I should move on as well. And by going back through those, yes, they leave us there and they move on. You know, they've gone on to live their best life and then left with the rubbish. But, yeah, all of that, but you'll never go back there by yourself.

You can try, but it's really hard. Whereas if you've got someone who stepped aside and saying, well, you know, what about that? And everyone always says to me, oh, this is what's going on, but I don't really mean that. I said, well, you just said it, it's true. So let's go down there. So we go down that rabbit hole and we find out that, oh, maybe there was some truth to what I just said. Because we let these little gems go. And we keep saying, no, it doesn't affect me, but that's not true because we just said it.

So it's, yeah, so we go back through, pick the key moments, don't relive everything. And normally that's the first month and a half of the program is, hey, get ourselves up to speed. And then the next month and a half is, hey, how do we go, you know, how do we accelerate this? and yeah so it's it's definitely you got to remember you've had a lifetime of this it's not a two-minute job but you know through someone being there to help you focus on what's good what's bad you know what else is going on what else is going on you know let's dig a bit harder here there's something still bugging you in there and then if you know you get get through the week or whatever. I don't even mind talking to my clients during the week.

Give me a call. If you're off track, give me a quick call. Ten minutes later, we're back on track. You know, because it's about an outcome. It's about how do we get you from here to here to on track, you know, and I keep in touch with some old clients and, you know, they still say to me that changed my life, you know, they've gone on to have a happy family, whereas they're ready for a divorce. You know, and just so simple, I have had people say to me in the past, too, you know, that's going to cost me too much.

I'm going, well, you know, you've been, for the last, you know, I might have known them for three or four years and just talking to them, as I said, by referral or people that's known. And, you know, you're still down in the dumps. You're still fighting, having the same conversation now as you were three years ago. And I've had other people say to me, I had this conversation with someone three years ago. I haven't changed, but time's gone by, you know. So, you know, it does cost a bit of money because, you know, it is a specialized field, and we are changing a life. But the cost of hanging on to, like, bad relationships or bad or worse, we're still,

the cost of, oh, they're all equal, but, you know, the cost of going into a divorce when you didn't have to the cost of you know there's so many costs you know I was working with a with a hoarder any son and he wouldn't let the let them clean out the house and they got to a point where the county was saying you to clean out the house and they get safe if there was a fire hazard or we're knocking this thing down it's a 700,000 dollar house or a lot worth 100 grand you know and we we did that and we made the connection between when the father and son, the father released the, to the son, the task of cleaning out the house, which was no means aid, I can tell you, there was like five skip bins.

It was, it was massive. Newspapers piled to the ceiling all through the house. But, and then a fire truck come in and host it all down for them. So, he had a job, but the dad wouldn't release it. The dad released it, and now they've got this magnificent home worth $3.4 million that would have been a pile of apple. You know, like the cost of not doing this stuff, you know, and even, you know, the emotional cost of being single, you know, when I'm talking to people who've been through a breakup,

they say, I'm never going to go out with another person in my life. I go, no, you're not. No, that's not true. they're not going to put up with that and next thing you know they're out there dating again and I know if they disappear and don't talk to me for a couple of months

they're dating someone that they know they shouldn't be but that's their choice but yeah they get back out there again because it's you know it's and you know we make these choices in life as I said you know

people know when they're on track and when they're not on track, but when you're newly single out of a long marriage, sometimes you feel like making mistakes. Sure. And that's part of a journey, you know. And, yeah, so just keeping life moving. Well, the name of the program is transformed to your best life,

and this is from Andrew Dale, who's a life coach. You can find out more by going to the website. It's Andrew J. Dale.com. And we'll have that link on the Robopreneur website as well. Whatever your position in life right now, if you know you need to make a change and you also know that you need help making that change, as most of us do. You can reach out to Andrew and consult with him and help, allow him to help you to transform to your best life. Andrew, do you have any final thoughts or words of wisdom that you would like to leave with our listeners? My truth is, the truth is the whole matter is we're looking for you to live your true life, you know, your best life.

You are, you're the leader of generations to come generally. Are you, you know, look at your generational wealth, look at the horizon, look at the horizon, at your, you know, so many people, they get insular, you get, you get, you ball down into a, into a very insular space. And you can't see the horizon from the bottom of the hills, you know. And my, my thoughts for people is that you've got to go through steps to see the real horizon. Can you imagine Imagine creating generational wealth for the people around you?

Imagine creating a life where the ripple effect of your life is helping your friends, your loved one, and yourself to accelerate into the rest of your life. You know, opening it up, being able to stand on top of the hill, being able to go out on a sale of boat and look at the horizon and sail to the next horizon to see where the next horizon is. You know, there's so much, there's so much out there to live.

You know, let's do that. Let's not be where we are today in five, ten years time, which is, you know, quite often the case. You know, you make a decision, make a decision, move forward and start, you know, The new horizons are amazing, but you'll never get to see them until you start to live your best life, to uncover your true self and continually raise your standards and be around people you should be around. And the people around you will lift as well. It's an amazing thing. As we lift our standards, we don't have to have conversations about it with everyone. We just change our energy, change what we will and accept around it,

and accept our best life is what it should be, and understand that we deserve our best life, and live with that solid energy, you know, positive energy, but solid energy, living an inspired life. Sure. Yeah, just live your inspired life. And you know what? If we would do that, we can leave a legacy

instead of living and suffering through things that are 100 years old, we could start a chain of events that have a positive impact 100 years from now through the legacy that we leave behind and the people that we are touching in our life and in our business. That's a powerful motivation that it's bigger than you. and it gives you purpose and meaning and a reason to get up in the morning, not just to create your best life, but to help influence and impact the lives of everyone around you. Very inspiring.

Andrew Dale, thank you so much for joining us on Rebelpreneur radio today. I really appreciate it. Thank you, Ralph. It was a pleasure. Thank you very much. You've been listening to Rebelpreneur Radio with Ralph Brogden. Download the show notes and much more at Rebelpreneur.com.