Business Innovators Radio - Rosa L. Antonini – Self Help Author – Mark Stephen Pooler

Episode Date: December 16, 2024

Rosa L. Antonini, a self-help author, software engineer, and entrepreneur, is a unique blend of self-development and technology. Her book, The Zero-Sum Game of You, introduces a 63-day challenge to transform habits and mindset. Passionate about education, she supports vocational programs in Uganda and plans to expand to them to other places while advocating for individual leadership and empowerment for a self-fulfilling, balanced life.Instagram @rosa.L.antoniniLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosaantoniniSource: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/rosa-l-antonini-self-help-author-mark-stephen-pooler

Welcome to Business Innovators Radio, featuring industry influencers and trendsetters, sharing proven strategies to help you build a better life right now. Welcome to Brilliant Business TV, conversations with leading experts in business. I am your host, Mark Stephen Pula. We have a wonderful guest on the show today, Rosa Antonini. I can't wait to have a conversation with her because I'm all about sales. improvement, self-development. So it's going to be a great, great conversation today. We're streaming live on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube. We're also on the E360 TV network. We're also on USA Global Radio and Television Network, Business Innovators Radio Network, and MSPNewsGlobal.com. Let's bring in our incredible guest, Rosa Antonini. Rosa, welcome to Brilliant Business TV. Thank you so much, Mark. It's so a pleasure to be here with you.

Thank you. I'm really looking forward to a conversation with you today, Rosa. Let's get started with our first question. What inspired the creation of the zero-sum game of view and the 63-day challenge? And how does that reflect your personal journey? You know, Mark, the zero-sum game of view, this book came to me

really as an inspiration. I am a software engineer. That's what I do. I work with data on my day to day. But, you know, I've always been into self-development, self-help, how to get better. And one day I was just thinking, I'm like, you know, what is what makes that difference?

Why some people, let's say, they keep in this loop of trouble. Doesn't matter what they do, they just continue having issues after issues. And then you see people that, I don't no, they're always moving forward. And it's not just the things that you can see tangible,

but also internally, how you manage life, right? Your emotions, your attitude to do things, right? And that comes to me in a flash. I'm like, it's a zero-sum game. But, you know, if you have played chess, do you like chess? I don't play chess, no, maybe a couple of times years ago. Yeah, so I do like chess. And, you know, the chess is a zero-some game in a national game,

but that means that only one player can win, right? So in the zero-song game of view, it's a little different. This game is something that we're playing every day. But it's a game where the two parties are weaving ourselves. That means, like, everybody, you know, I believe everybody that is good in every person. Also, there is attitudes. There are situations that make some more. one, maybe not to fight for what they want, try to go forward to achieve those things that they want.

So every day we get up in the morning and we start this game, right, in which we have a part of us, let's say that's the leader that wants to achieve, wants to do things, wants to go places. And then we have the other part that maybe is the one that doubts, the one that have, you know, I don't know if I can do this. And I started giving you a lot of excuses. Well, every day one of those parts in us will win. And that winner, basically, every time that one of us win, that party is going to get stronger and making sure that the next day

and the next week and the next month, it will be easier to win. So that is this concert of the zero song game of view and how we're all playing, independent if we do it by default or if we do it on purpose. So that's how they steer some game of you came to life, Mark. I absolutely love it, Rosa. And it's so true, everything isn't in a game. And I agree with what you're saying. We have our higher self, but we also have our ego self as well.

And it's about balancing them and learning how to listen to your higher self and just observe the ego without taking it too seriously. because if you ignore the ego, it gets louder, but if you acknowledge you that it's there, but you know that it's just there to protect you, but it's not real. Some of the things what it's saying is not real. It's just trying to protect you,

but sometimes it can scare you as well with things that are not even true. But it is all an inner game. I love the work you're doing, Rosa. How do you balance all, authenticity with professional expectations, especially in a competitive field. Yes, so we see that a lot today in every field, actually, in every business. So authenticity to me is one of my core values.

Like, I cannot be not myself. I really can't. And sometimes in business, that can pull you, let's say, behind. if there is a lot of politics, if there is a lot of rules, and if you raise your voice, let's say, all the time. So, you know, it's about learning to communicate the message without sacrificing your core values, but, you know, in a way to navigate according to your business in which you can be authentic to yourself. Because I think if we lose our authenticity, a person cannot be self-fulfilled.

So let's say, and I see that in business, you know, some people, let's say, let's call it, they play the game. And they are, if you see them with one person, then you see them with someone else, and they behave different, right? So it's kind of like they float to a according to the atmosphere or the person that they are. And sometimes they might say the things that the other person want to hear. and this might give you a title. He might give you some short-term benefits, but in the long term, I believe, and I'm a big advocate about living with purpose,

living according to what makes you happy, right? And no following, let's say success mean different things for different people. So it's for that life, what is your purpose? And then making sure that you're authentic to your purpose. purpose and the core values because in order for you to have that balance in the professional world, you need to know what do you stand for and being able to set up boundaries accordingly to that. I agree totally. I think it's really important to follow what we love, be ourselves, be real, be

genuine and follow her heart's desires as well. I love what you're about, Rosa. What advice do you have for people struggling to find their purpose or balance between career and family? Yes. So the first thing I would say is that you are not alone. I mean, there are so many people that might feel like, like for example, you have some people that they might want something since they are very little, right? and they always wanted to achieve something. But I don't think that's the default. So if you haven't found that purpose, if you haven't found something that you can say, this is really what brings meaning to my life,

you know what? Be compassionate with yourself and try things. Try things because sometimes we don't know what we don't know. So if you try something, and let's say you don't find that meaning, there, don't take that as a failure. It's just an experience. It's just something that you can say, okay, this is not the one that I want to be. Fine, let me move on to the next one. So keep an open mind of possibility and just try new things, just open mind and try new things. And eventually,

you will find those things that resonate with you and that you're going to feel like, oh my God, you can do it without effort because it really aligns with being. your own self. I agree, totally. If you could give one piece of advice to someone starting their self-development journey, what would it be? Someone that started with self-development, I would say that self-development is not something that you achieve and you get.

It's ongoing, isn't it? A journey and it doesn't stop. So if you see it as a journey, you're not going to be trying to stop with this. It's stress. Like, let's say self-development should not give you stress. Self-development is self-discovery. So it is a balance between knowing yourself, your core values, understanding your strength, may be able to set up boundaries for those things that you don't, will comprehend.

who you are, and also just like, you know, understanding that the work is a lot about you. I mean, never stop. You've seen sometimes, I mean, I don't know if you have Mark, but I have, like, very young people in the late teens, sometimes early 20s, where they feel unsatisfying. Someone came to me and said, I feel like a failure. And I'm like, what? You're 21. How do you feel like a failure at 21, right? But why is that?

Because they go to social media and there they have everybody, friends, people their age, posting a lot of things that is not real, the reality. But it makes it look like if somehow they figure it out, right? They have everything figured out and then they make you feel like, oh, something is. wrong with me and the moment that someone believes that there is something wrong with you, then you're not going to try harder. So the first thing is like, no, there is nothing wrong with you. You are in the sad place where you need to be. And self-development journey is a journey. Take one step at the time, self-discovery, curious mind, and never compare yourself with others. and don't use anything that you see in social media as a validation or as a standard.

Leave your own life. The success, your happiness and your self-fulfillment is yours to build according to whatever makes sense to you. That's great advice, Rosa. What do you envision for the future of your brand and the conscious global community of action takers? Yes. I believe and I would like to see every individual defining success on their own term, right? Where they know following the crowd, where they know how to set their own boundaries. And when they, the success is defined for that self-fulfillment. And why? Because, you know, when you live in self-fulfillment. film, you always want the best, not for you, but everyone around you. And you have that love

and compassion for people that you don't even know. And I think that that becomes a dominant effect. So if someone can achieve that, you know, live in that success on their own terms and they feel like, you know, I'm living with my purpose. Then that spread. It's almost like no disease, right? but let's just say something contagious and something that brings the best in the person, and they will always celebrate and try to help everyone around them, you know, among themselves to,

once you experience self-fulfilmed, and you really want others to experience that as well. That's what I see. I love how you're helping people, Rosa. It's a great journey of going on self-improvement. It can be really hard at times, facing some of your biggest fears, some of your biggest doubts and obstacles and circumstances, but it's definitely worth it to become that better version of yourself.

Now also, Rosa, you're in the great collaborative book with our beautiful friend Brenda Dempsey. Just share a tiny little bit about that, please. Yes. Yeah, those Voices of Women. I have it right here, Voices of Bowman, the book. So I'm very happy and I felt very honored when Brenda reached out to me. And I think she reached out to me mostly because, you know, with my book, The Zero Song Game of Field, I support these programs in Uganda to help young adults in financial needs so they can learn an actual tool, right?

So they can get better jobs. So she liked a lot what I'm doing. So anyway, it was an honor that she had me in her book with, you know, they're amazing women. as part of that anthology. And everyone is just a different voice. And then you can see the struggles, let's say, some tips on leaderships, coaching. So it's a very good book.

It has different perspective, women differing around the world. And, you know, it's like sometimes we live in a way. Like, you know, you think about your life, your experience, the things that you have gone through, or the people that you know. But then when you see, like Brenda, put together this book with so many different cultures, women coming from different places,

and it's kind of opening your eyes to all the different challenges and achievement that happening and that, you know, other cultures so far away from you are also, you know, working towards the higher good. So I'm very grateful to be part of that anthology. I love it. I love it and I love Brenda too. Rosa, now I know people can connect with you and learn more about you at your website at Rosa Antonini.com. That's Rosa Antonini.com.

Who should connect with you, Rosa? Yes. Please send me any messages. I'm very active on the Instagram and on Instagram is Rosa L for Lopez Antonini. so it's rosa that el antonini i try to reply to any messages within 24 hours maybe 48 and if you have any question any topic uh you know just send it to me i really i really love helping others i keep working on my you know uh data engineering i create solutions i developed i really have passion for that but i really have passion also for helping others and share all the the things that I have learned that have helped me, right, that had helped me because it was a very

long journey what I come from. So I really want to help anybody that, you know, my message, my writing and some practical tips. I always like to provide practical tips that someone can go, use them, and see the result, right? And that is one thing, Mark, that when you ask me before about self-developing, I want to just go back very quickly. When you try self-development, if you see social media or anything around, there is so much information. That is very easy for a person to feel overwhelmed. There is a lot of data. So when you are researching any topic, so let's say in self-development, or it could be anything else, pick one thing, pick one or two. Give it a try. It takes time. That's why in my book, I said the 63 days challenge. Those 63 days are to build

habits and trying to eliminate bad habits. It has a lot of stuff in those 63 days. But my point is, you are not, don't get into the people saying that you're going to get reaching a week and you're going to build this in three days, that somehow you can reprogram everything in, I don't know, a day or two. Those shortcuts don't work and it's going to be waste time. I've been reprogramming for a good two to three years and it's still ongoing. Yes. And also follow the people that have done those things. Just because someone preached something, that doesn't mean they have done it.

So make sure that you follow whoever have done it. They have the experience and give a little time. Okay. Anyway, that would be my advice. I would encourage everyone to connect with Rosa at Rosa. Antonini.com. That's Rosa Antoninini.com. Rosa, I fully enjoyed having a conversation with you today. Thank you so much for being my guest. Thank you, Mark, so much. I really appreciate what you are doing. You're doing an excellent job and you're such a beautiful soul and I'm just grateful that you have me as our guest and to bring me to your audience.

And anyway, everybody has a... The pleasure's been all mine. Thank you, everyone for joining us. Thank you everyone for joining us for brilliance business TV, conversations with leading experts in business. Until next. Thanks for listening to Business Innovators Radio. To hear all episodes featuring leading industry influencers and trendsetters, visit us online at businessinnovators.com today.