Bussin' With The Boys - Screen Time Hacks For Kids + Delivery Room Survival

Episode Date: June 18, 2025

Recorded: June 13, 2025 Former NFL Linebacker (10 years) Will Compton presents a Bussin With The Boys production, For The Dads! Along side future dad, Sherman Young, Will a father of two knows how hard the job of a father can be. Thus he created a safe space for dads to come together and talk about the insane shit that we see and deal with every day. With Sherman's first born just 3 weeks away, Will Compton is attempting to show him the ropes and call all dads together to join in a collective conversation for us to vent and speak candidly about the mental load and tasks we take on as dads. Will starts off by telling Sherman what all he needs to pack for the hospital delivery room. Will opens up to Sherman about his war with "bedtime" in the Compton household and Sherman vents about his wife getting on to him for trying to help set up their nursery. The boys then Crack A Cold Bud Light over the small victories of Will's daughter going to ballet camp & Sherman's dad being proud of him. Two dads calls in to ask Will a hard hitting question and the other to share a dad-win. Will wraps it all up with a "Lesson of the Week". We hope you enjoy! Let us know in the comments what you'd like to see more of. Check out the Father's Day Merch at BWTB.com! ..and as always BIG HUGS and TINY KISSES! TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS 00:00 - Intro 01:50 - The Show Begins 03:03 - Shoutout Our Listeners 06:02 - Set Has Some New Decor + Will & Sherm Updates 16:10 - Important Housekeeping Items 17:15 - Mother-Fucked Segment 32:33 - Crack A Cold One Segment  50:51 - What Are The Odds!? Segment 1:10:13 - Dad Call-In Segment 1:25:04 - Will's Lesson Of The Week 1:38:59 - Credits (Listener Submitted Dad Content)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We invented a podcast? Well, we didn't invent it. We just contributed to it. We're the first people to do podcasts. We get to ask other people questions because we're sick and tired of being asked questions. Well, sick and tired is a strong way to put it. But, you know, tired and sick. Listen to Hey Jonas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you.

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radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to For the Dads. Thank you for tuning in on this early Wednesday morning. I hope the trash is taken out. I hope you made yourself some breakfast packed a little kid's backpack. Um, this is a show four. the dads for the dads who are in it, about to be in it, or maybe you're just somebody tuning in and wondering what dad, life, dad culture is all about. This is not a show about giving advice or being experts. We're just a couple of dads trying to pioneer and carry a flag for fatherhood, for dad culture, and just speak up for our mental load. We have a lot of different segments in this show. We talk about our dad losses, which we get creative in what we call that

segment. I'm not saying it at the top of the episode because I assume the YouTube algorithm might might penalize us for that. We talk about our dad losses. Well, we crack a cold one too. We dive into fan call-ins this week. We have a lot of great feedback from episode one. We play a couple fan call-ins and talk about those lessons that we're leaning into to become better versions in our minds of what fatherhood is. But again, we have a lot of fun. If you are a current dad, if you're a new dad, if you're an old dad, just trying to figure your phone out right now. Make sure you are subscribed to this channel right now. We're on all bus. with the boys channels.

In July, we will be launching our For the Dad's YouTube channel. So be on the lookout for that. We have a lot of merchandise, as you can see, For the Dad's hats, hoodies, shirts, everything in between. That is at bwtb.com. Again, Sherm, I said that. I said that part, Sherm. I fucking said that part.

And I was rolling on this intro. Shirm was showing me something on the computer. And I was thinking to myself, I literally have already said that. Let's dive into it. Let's take out the trash boys. Come to another episode of For the Dads. This is episode two.

I am Will Compton. My co-host and producer of the show, Sherman Young, is with your boy. You're probably watching on YouTube right now. Maybe you're listening. Maybe you're in the middle of the night right now. Listen into us in your ear. Maybe you are taking out the trash. Reminder, it is Trash Day.

It is Wednesday. So if you're my part of it, I know in my neck of the woods. Nashville, Tennessee, it is trash day, so I hope you guys are getting the canes out to the curb, whether it's Thursday, day before, get it out there, get it early, get it often. Or maybe you might just be sitting on the couch watching with your wife because you enjoyed episode once so much that you're like, hey, now it's time to get the misses involved. But maybe not because this is a safe space for the father. So if your wife is watching with you, just let her know, honey, like this is just a pod

for the dads. Like this is for our voices. Yeah. This is our safe space where we can vent. We might bitch a little bit about our wives, and that's okay because no matter what we're coming home because sweetheart, we love you. But all to say, a lot of great feedback last week, bro. The feedback's crazy. The feedback's insane.

I got a few I want to shout out because I was going through the comments. I'm glad you did that. Yeah, I was going through the comments, seeing what people had said. But shout out again, Jerry Ferris. He was the one delivering his newborn on the bathroom floor. I saw comments on the YouTube page. But shout out the boy, shout out the dad, Jerry Ferris. A lot of people enjoying Pizza Friday.

The Pizza Friday shoutouts. Good. It's good to grow the community on Pizza Friday. We need more dads involved in growing the Pizza Friday community. Aaron Wood, a 25-year-old girl dad buddy. His buddies don't have kids, and this show helps him fill the void. We also had a couple dads chime in, Jackson, who's 25, chimed in saying the same thing. And even Adam, a 40-year-old girl dad was saying the same thing.

Hey, yo. Maybe his buddies don't have kids. I don't know. Maybe he's not surrounded by some friends and he might just need this show to vent or feel like he's part of the, he's part of the trenches with us. Yeah, yeah, he's still in the game. Nick's World, his wife is a shout out Nick's World on YouTube. And I saw this one in the comments.

His wife is 26 weeks pregnant, listens to the show. So again, you can be an expecting father like yourself, Shirm. You can be a dad who's currently in it. You got some young ones. Or you can be a father who's got, you know, I was seeing some people saying, that their kids are now in their 20s, but they just enjoy listening back and hearing all the memories about fatherhood.

Yeah. Not only the comments, but the DMs and the 601, the dad's hotline. Yeah, man, you were telling me yesterday. Went bonkers. What was that number yesterday? It was like 74 had left voicemails? Yes.

And it was even more today, chef who helps dial everything in on the back end as far as 601, the dads. TM, socials, chefs show me the voicemails even today. And I'm seeing those blue dots next to them, which means they're new voicemails on the iPhone. You're just actually have the, this is the 601, the dad's phone right here. That's the phone right there.

That's the hotline. This is the hotline. 601, the dads. You guys have been doing a great job calling in. One of my favorite ones that I kind of want to play, and I wish I had selected it now that I think about it, had zero questions. Didn't want to say anything except for a happy Father's Day to the boys. Dude. That's all he wanted to say.

Yeah, because by the time this one drops, Father's Day will have already happened. Yes. I hope dads, I hope the fathers out there got everything they wanted. I hope they got their feet rubbed. I hope they got to sleep in maybe a little bit, maybe take a nap in the afternoon. I know if you're listening to this now, I'm going to say that I successfully got to take a nap in the afternoon. Because that's one big thing I always enjoy. You have a little bit of free time.

Get on the Big Love sack. take a little nap on a Sunday. Is that the love sack that's up in your game room? Yeah. Yeah, that thing is cloud. It's comfy. You see, we got a couple facelifts. I don't know if the cameras are showing it, but we now have a refrigerator.

Our interns did a great job grabbing this refrigerator at an antique shop. We got Shirm's little bean. The photos hanging up on the fridge. We got Roo. She made that little sheep. Clearly, she probably didn't make the sheep. She probably had a little help. But she made the little sheep.

The butterfly coloring that you see, that was, that was Taylor. Oh, oh, really? Well, well done Taylor. Yeah, well done Taylor. That's awesome. But yeah, I look at that. I'm like, God, we got to work on coloring in between the lines. I've been trying to work with her.

God bless her. She loves coloring. She loves doing all of the shit. She gets very frustrated if she can't color inside the lines. And she just wants like, Daddy, you do it. Mama, you do it. You know what I mean? Yeah.

You just got to keep practicing. You got to keep trying. But we got a little facelift with the studio setup. Got a little facelift. I actually might have my first tip. My mom's an artist. If you go, if you start with Rue on the edges, this is for any dads out there.

If you start on the edges and you have them trace inside of that line and practice tracing, that's a good way to get that hand a little steady and it kind of makes it like nice for them of, oh, I can do that because it's kind of hard when they're scratching and blah, but hey, try and go with the line. first and then fill it in there's a little game. Yeah, a little game. Good little starting point.

Good little step one. Yeah, yeah. What, uh, dude, what's been going on? Anything? Any new updates before we get into, you know, getting motherfucked, crack a cold one, getting into our segments? Yeah, dude. Um, the, so Jill is starting to officially pack the, uh, hospital bag, like the overnight bag. Yeah. And last night, I was, uh, watching, I was watching TV and I was eating dinner. And we have these little dinner set things that we sit and eat because Jill's belly is so big that it's not comfortable for her to really kind of sit at the dinner table.

She's kind of sit back while she's eating. And she's on FaceTime with her mom at Lulu Lemon. She's, you know, mom's thinking out some boogey stuff for Jill. And then I hear, does Sherman need anything for the hospital? Does he need any new clothes? And I'm in the background going, no. I work at Boston where you guys. give us free clothes like like twice a week three times a week we need something new and Jill goes yes

you do you do need new yeah mom he needs sweatpants he needs blah blah blah they're just like buying all this stuff for me I don't even see it but uh it's great when the girls just like take the reins on the shopping stuff because I'm terrible at it and whatever they buy me I I smile and just say thank you I'll wear it and just packing the overnight bag oh yeah all the things the you know the the little wrinkles that go into that because you're just thinking, I mean, what all, are they going to have everything there for us? That was my thought. And then I'm seeing this bag and it looks like we're going to an overnight camp.

Like I went to camp as a kid and like packing, you'd pack a trunk and a duffel. We need a true duffle. And you got to have the outfit. First outfit they're going to wear when they leave the hospital. Oh, yeah. And Jill's- Buddy, the outfits. Don't get me started on the outfits.

It's not the hospital one coming out. I get that that's a big moment and everything else. But I was with a fellow dad the other weekend. and we were at Charo had like a bar three event over what's that horse track over on the west side oh uh steeple chase they had an event going on over at steeple chase and i take the kids over and good call i take the kids over and we're watching her do her do her thing shit there's like three 400 people there and we're just wanting to go see mom and stuff like that and i'm standing there next to a fellow dad his name his name is tom won't say his last name you know guys

to protect him on the show. I don't know if his wife's listening right now. Of course, of course. So it could be anytime. And we're standing there and, you know, we're kind of just venting, getting some dad stuff off our chest, bitching a little bit, just having a good time, bonding over fatherhood, the sucky parts, like some of the sucky parts of it. He was bringing up this detail.

And once he brought up, he had to, he had to have their daughter in a specific outfit coming over to the event. I'm like, buddy, don't you hate when they do stuff like that? Like, you're just thinking, all right, I'm going to get them dressed. and then you bring them downstairs and all of a sudden, hey, why didn't you put on the outfit I had laid out?

It's like, oh, it seemed a little complicated. I don't want to have to tie the little strings on the back of the neck. Or if it's a dress and I don't know necessarily how to work it. It seems like there's a lot of different things going on with the operation. Like, what's wrong with your shorts and a T-shirt?

And then next thing, you know, you're in a little dust-up. You're in a little moment because they want a specific outfit to go to a certain event. I'm not going to say leaving the hospital, again, aside from me in the hospital. But in everyday life,

One thing that you're going to run into is they're going to want them in certain outfits. And some that you're going to come and you're like, how does this thing function? Because again, you're going to have a little girl too. Like you're more privy to what guys wear. It's like, hey, shorts and a t-shirt's going to work just fine. She's going to play a lot. Like, why does she need a certain outfit? Because now when she's wearing her dresses, she has an expectation of wanting to wear a dress.

And it's like, sweetheart, you can't wear a dress every day of your life. You got gymnastics today. We got sprints today. Yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And especially if she's getting into sports, like soccer and stuff like that. Like she'll learn the importance of some shorts or some t-shirts over a dress.

Now, I don't want to put, I don't want to get in trouble with Jill. Yeah. Listen, Charles, sweetheart, I love you. I love you. I know she listened to last week. She might listen to this week. Who knows? But it's always the thing.

I'm always like, sweetheart, we'll be in the car. I'm like, why do I got to put her in a certain outfit? Or I might just say, hey, my bad on the outfit, you know, kind of massage a little bit. but also why just got to wear that outfit? Yeah. And what's up with all the buttons on the outfits? That's what I'm getting introduced right now because I'm just seeing like Scarlett's not here yet, obviously.

But the closet is more full than my closet. My like human, 32 year old, I have a job. I have weekend outfits. I have jackets and stuff for the winter. My unborn child has more clothes inner closet right now. I swear to God. and that might be because Jill has like 26 first cousins and all these aunts and uncles like and so we're getting all these right all these different outfits thank you so much for sending

them but I'm also looking at the closet I'm like holy shit okay she's only going to be three months old for 30 days that's the other thing that and now that she's small they're like oh okay she's kind of smaller so she'll actually fit in preemie stuff so honey we got to actually go to walmart we got to buy the preemie sizes because she's going to be a little on the smaller side and I'm like okay so us going you know eight months in advance to buy the onesies maybe wasn't the smartest decision but it was so fun to go shopping but the question I have for you that might get you in trouble and I'm sorry okay but I laughed when I overheard Jill say this is she has a we have an induction date the second of July she has a hair appointment before the induction date did charis had a hair appointment before her

induction day. I don't think so. Okay. I don't think she did. I mean, buddy, it's a war in there. I'm not ready. I'm even thinking for Jill. If what she's going to get hair and makeup done? Yeah. That's what I'm saying. Well, she's getting her hair done. It's a, it's a war in there.

Charles might have. I have no clue. I don't remember with either of them, her like having a hair appointment. Maybe she did. You know what I mean? Because then they, you know, they want to look, you know, as they're leaving the hospital and everything else. Of course. But it's a war in there. Like, you know, I hope the best way.

I hope it's in, you know, I hear my buddies being like, hey, we spent about an hour in the hospital. We were out. And it's like, well, good for you, man. It was 40 plus with Charles. Like, it was a war. My buddy showed me a video of him and his wife headed for their first baby girl. They're headed to the hospital.

And so I, in that moment, I'm sure I'm going to be so crazy nervous there. I had a red light, though. And he had the thought to pull out his phone. film his wife in the passenger seat and she has the little mirror down and she's doing her makeup in the mirror. That made me laugh so hard. Yeah, I mean, look, if they're in and out quick, you know, maybe that's all right. Okay. You just got to prepare it. Bring your own pillow, bring your comfiest stuff. Bring even an extra pillow to put under your knees because that the couch bet that they got or just the couch in general. Like that's a, that's a bit of a battle for the

dads. Like you're going to be wearing, you know, you're going to go through physically too. Yeah. Maybe not like them, but you on that couch, that's a one-on-one game right there. I've heard that one of my buddies was saying Pokemon, like on the original Game Boy is what got him through on those little soap amendments. And I'm thinking to myself, I'm just thinking I've been playing Pokemon. Well, I'm thinking to myself, get your ass over here. Yeah, Jill, look at Jill. Get off catching this Bulbosaur. The charm enters a Charzart.

I'm so sorry. Would you say, nurse? What were you saying? But I was. I was like, what would her mom think if she looked over and I had my Game Boy with my little Pokemon blues sticking out of the back? Hey, Sherman, do you mind grabbing these things? Yeah, one second.

I'm swimming at the bottom of the island trying to get all the unlimited rare candy. Great pool. Great pool. Oh, those were the days, man. They were. Should we dive into our, should we dive into our segments? Yes. And again, before.

we do, if you're watching on YouTube right now, please continue to leave comments. Like, it was honestly really cool to see all you guys chiming in telling us about your background, telling us about you guys loving the show. There are some out there that probably, you know, had a couple hateful comments, but we'll just, you know, we won't mention those. But leave comments. We will be having our own YouTube channel at some point. If you listen on Spotify or Apple, we are under all Bussing with the Boys handle.

So you can check us out there. And if you are watching and listening right now, make sure you are subscribed to the boys subscribe to our channel. It helps us out a lot. And yeah. Can I do one more housekeeping thing? Yes. I'll put two graphics right here. We have an email for those that are outside the United States and can't do 601 the dads over the phone. We have 601 the dads at gmail.com that they can then write in their

questions to. Okay. So if you are outside the United States and you want to ask the boys a question, feel free to do that in the email. The other. one. I just went blank and it had to do with the YouTube channel. That will launch in July. Okay. So be on the lookout in July. We've been having a lot of people asking, hey, I can't find y'all's channel though. I found your podcast, but it's on the bus and channel. Right. It always be on the bus and channel. Won't always be on the bus and channel. We'll have our own channel. Right. We'll have our own channel. Be able to break out some clips, do fun stuff like that. Yeah. Also, bwttb.tb.com. We got a lot of killer merch, this hoodie that I'm wearing, these hats that Sherman and I are wearing.

A lot of fun dad merch on there. BWTB.com. Go shop. Shop till you drop. Shop till you drop. First segment, I had a motherfucker pulled up first, but we can go in any order you want. Listen, I'm down for a good motherfucker. It's been coming from my daughter.

It's been coming from my daughter, Roo. It's an ego shot. It's her bedtime. She's in this. She's three. and she's gotten in this phase to where sometimes she enjoys bedtime with Dadda, but recently it's Mom or Nothing. And when I say Mom or Nothing, I'm talking an exorcism-style tantrum

to where she's shaking. She's making noises I've never heard her make before when she cries. She's yelling so loud that the next morning she wakes up, and she's got like the little Compton Rasp from when she's like lost her voice. because she gets so upset if mama doesn't do bedtime. Because my wife and I, one of us takes Scotty each night, the other takes Rue, and then we just switch back and forth. And obviously, Scotty's kind of the easier one.

She's sleeping through the night. She goes down very easy. She knocks out. She absolutely yugs her eight ounces of milk. Come on. And she's out fairly quickly. So you get done earlier. And the other one's in the room with Rue,

like just negotiating their ass off the entire time, to the point where you have to think about waterboarder, if you're going to get her down for bed. But Rue has been, it's like, she asks, I walk in the room and I start to feel uncomfortable because I'm like, man, I hope she is down for dad to put her to sleep tonight. You know what I mean?

Yeah. And I walk in and it's her first question. Like, you know, who did bedtime last night? And I'm like, Mama did bedtime last night. So who's doing bedtime tonight? And I'm like, dad is doing bedtime tonight. It's just like her head goes up, bro. And it's like she sees,

it's like she sees like a substitute teacher that she hates. And that substitute teacher takes their job way too seriously. And it's like the energy just leaves the room. And have y'all gotten a reason out of her yet? She wants Mama. She wants Mama. I need Mama to hug me. And I think it's just because Mama's in the other room with Scotty and a little bit of jealousy

kind of sparks up. Oh, okay. But it wears my wife out because she's like, you know, it's not like she's that much easier with Charo. Yeah. Because Charles's got to put her down. She wants to do a lot of extra things when Charles in the room. And because you read her a bedtime story.

Like you get her in her PJs. You read her a bedtime story. You brush her hair. You brush her teeth. You get her to the bed. Then she usually wants you to do something extra. Hey, Dad, that lay next to me. Read me another book.

And then, Daddy, can you sing to me? Or, Daddy, hey, I'm getting thirsty. And then you go down and get water. You might bring it back up. Dad, I'm getting hungry. And that's where you draw the line. You're like, no. We know what's happening right now.

We got to slow it down a pump through breaks. But recently, bro, she's just being going bad shit crazy Anytime I tried to put her down for bed And it's like it's one of those shots to where it sucks for me Because I want to put her down You gotta have so much patience It's like you're sitting there and as she's screaming Hyperventilating spazzing on the floor

And you just have to sit there in it Because anything I tried doing It just works her up even more She doesn't want me to touch her Doesn't want me to do this don't look at me don't I'm not looking at you then you catch yourself raising your voice and you kind of just stop and the moment like freezes

and this dog whistle noise is just in your ear and you're like having a moment where you're just sitting there seeing your toddler just scream on the ground and you're just thinking why is this so damn difficult but that is my my mother fucked moment is from my daughter rue because I feel like she's basically cussing me out anytime I try to put her down for bed I got to see charo do a little bit negotiating

with her at Dad Combine, by the way. Yeah. And I wanted to pick your brain on that strategy, too. And kind of if it fits with the bedtime strategy as well, of how are you handling that screaming? Like, what is your tactic? Because what I saw Charo do in the pool, Jack was fake drowning, and the pool,

Drew was loving that. And like, save me, save me. And she grabbed the hand and pull him out, and they did it 800 times. I mean, Rue could have done that all day. And finally, Charo says, hey, three more times. And then we got to go. And Rue very quickly was like, no, mom, we're doing this a million more times. I'm never getting out of the pool.

And Charo just stood there quite literally like George Bush with the first pitch. Brick Wall, not afraid to terrorists. Not afraid of terrorism. And said, Then how many more times would you like, Rue? And I was like, I looked at Charo because I was like, I've never really seen a parent do that. I was like, that's kind of cool.

Let's see what Rue says. And Rue was like, five. Because they can't count that high. No, you can't count that high. Why don't you give me a number? Who holds you two? You don't like three.

Okay, what can you go up to? What do you want? Yeah. She said five. Trow said, that sounds fair. do five yeah where did that come from is that just charred yeah i mean you're you're like you're playing with things all the time because you're trying to like remain calm and stay patient because you don't want to argue especially in front of other people like that's something that like internally

frustrates me when i hear kind of like you know acting up or starting to throw a little bit of a fit or complaining a little too loud it's like i'll start to get triggered a little bit more than i should because i'm just like you know you want your kid to just be on good behavior in front of everybody yeah then you're also reminded you're also minding yourself they're three a lot of sense you're like all their senses are flared up right now yeah but it's just it's like it's something you just figure out like you'll do it i know a bunch of parents do it like if i'm trying to get rude to eat or finish her not even finish her dinner but get her to eat a few more bites and you know she's just not going to and you're just like you'll throw out

the number three like hey just eat three more bites and you're done and you can be done yeah or she'll talk about the cookie hey you're not getting a cookie whatsoever if you don't start eating but then when it gets to a point hey three more bites and you can get a piece of a cookie and she'll be like how about two more bites and so i'll just say you know what if you take one more bite i'll let you do two more bites do the math come on we're at three she'll be okay she'll eat a bite all right fine two more bites then two more yeah two more bites and you got it but it's it's like you're trying to give them control it's all you're really trying to do like when you're thinking in those moments and you just know again you're you're you're negotiating with the

terrorists like they have no reason they have no their brain capacity isn't there to actually have a conversation they just want to be they want to feel independent they want to be in control so if you like say something they're kind of battling against it you just try to throw it to them all right like what are your thoughts what do you think and knowing that they can't count that high or when ruse wanting to scroll my phone and pick a song and i'm just like sweetheart you can't read you can't read you're not going to pick the right song uh i got it it's just the element of like giving them control in that moment. And when they say five, all right, great.

Five more times and we'll go. Okay, cool. Or we'll say like, hey, how many more minutes if she's watching TV, you know, how many more minutes? You only got, you know, one more minute and then we're going to turn the TV off and knowing that she's not going to like that. All right, how many more minutes? She'll back three more minutes.

Like, all right, Dad, Al said a timer three more minutes. And then when it goes off, she gets up, she turns off the TV. Really? Or she'll tell me to turn off. All right, Dad, eh, you turn it off. And then you turn it off. But it's just like, it's like, it's just giving them the, illusion of control when they're three years old.

I don't know how it's going to work when they're four, five, six, seven. If your parents are watching right now, let me know what I need to look forward to and maybe some tactics that I can add in the survival kit in the book bag for when those times come. But it's, dude, it's like you just learn a whole new level of patience and just being like, all right, what's a tool? What question can I ask to make them feel like they have control right now? Yeah, we did the old-fashioned D-Way-Lebron meme.

of on Rue with the syrup. Yeah. When I said, well, we can give Scotty some syrup. And you said, no, Scottie's too young. I said, oh, yeah, that's right. Syrup's only for big girls. And then Rue was like, Hey, I am kind of a big girl.

What the fuck? I am kind of a big girl. Do you have any, that makes sense? You have any recent motherfucked moments? I know the wife, he's getting close. Not saying she's agitated and uncomfortable, which she is.

I don't have a little. big one, but yesterday I came home and she was in full effect of like getting the hospital and chef, do you mind cutting the air? It's on issue at all, but it's going to be

on the very back behind the bus and it's going to be up against the right wall. Yes, sir. We forgot to cut the air in the building. It's all right. It happens. We may even leave that in the edit. At bus and HQ. Because we're authentic here. Yeah. But

but yes, I came home. She's packing the bags for the hospital stuff. I can tell she's been at it all day. Her mind kind of runs. So she's a nurse. She's aware of like things that can go wrong in pregnancy. And that's one thing that we've been dealing with throughout this pregnancy is she just kind of knows like if she burps and feels weird when she burps, her brain can all of a sudden go, oh, that's, you know, Carl, Carl's blah, blah, blah, blah. a idis and that means that you know what I'm saying.

Yeah, word we don't know idis. Just spirals into well, oh my gosh. So she pitdles around the house and does like a lot of hard work to kind of keep her mind busy. I could tell she was in that zone. But I know that one of her lease air things that I do when I get home is just lay on the couch while she's piddling. So I was like at the least, I will go join her in the nursery, lay down on my back. because she doesn't want me folding her clothes and Scarlet's clothes, all these cute things. Like, she wants to do that.

But I'll go lay in my back in the nursery while she's doing that. And, dude, I just, what's that smell? Why are your shoes on in here? Like, what are you doing? Sherman, do you not put your head on that? I could just sell that I was in the way. So I quickly took my shoes off, tried to sit there for a while. I have a really bad.

I'll pass gas and not think about it. So I fart in. That was the last straw. I got kicked out of the nursery. And I could have done a better job. I could have come in there and been more helpful. I was exhausted after work. I was trying to put in like some effort though of like,

hey, I will be next to you and lay with you and talk with you and make you laugh while you're doing this. But I think I just went about it all wrong. Yeah. Nothing gives me more anxiety because I'm the same way. I kind of like kit in the couch. Kind of like laying down. You get home. You just want to check out for a second.

A hundred percent. And anytime, especially like after the kids go down and I'll go and I'll be like laying on the couch and then say Charles got done putting down roof. So she'll come down second in the situation. She'll come down. I might have a show of ours plugged in. Right now we're watching Stick on Apple TV. Can't wait to start that. How is it?

It's fun. I like it a lot. It's a good show. It's a good show. And I'll be down there laying and she'll start piddling. You know what I mean? Like just start cleaning a bunch of stuff off that I didn't know we needed cleaned up. Yeah.

And that's what gives me anxiety because I feel like she just stomps around a little harder. Like she's almost, and this might not even be true. It might even be in my own head. I feel like she stomping it a little harder. She might release a couple sighs to where she knows in her mind I want him to feel that I'm doing stuff right now and he's just sitting on his ass. That's the anxiety that I get in my head. Yeah. She's just hearing TikToks and memes playing on your iPhone.

Yeah. Josh Pate breaking down the boys. Maybe hear me just give a chuckle. Oh, this clip. Apparently they're for the boys over there. Yeah. What are you doing? They're just checking emails.

That's funny. I hear Instagram open right now. That, yeah, I mean, that's basically, it's not a crazy motherfucker, but it is like, I'm starting to realize, too, with, like, a baby on the way, I'm going to have to, hit like a 3 p.m. or 3.30 coffee, something to where like, I'm not coming home. And my brain is instantly like, I just, I need to be on the couch for like 30 to 45 minutes just on my phone, not even talk. Because that's where I go to every single time.

I can tell it it rubs her the wrong way. Yeah, you're going to, you know, just tip. Yeah. I'll blow up when the little one's here. Yeah. Oh yeah, I already know that it's bad. I hope you do try that a couple times. Just because I want the story for the show.

Hey, sweet, are you going to get that? You're just doom scrolling. Oh, okay. Ohio State might win the natty this year, honey. That's crazy. I don't give a fuck. What are you talking about? But yeah, that was my motherfucker.

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Sure. Rue had her first ballet camp. Oh, yes. So cracking a cold one to Rue's first ballet camp. It was her first can to where she's been going. She went for a week long, three hours per day. You drop her off. And this is a solo camp.

So this is the first time we're dropping her off to go do something without, like, without involving us or the nanny or somebody that she's, like, comfortable with, right? Yeah, yeah. Her grandparents, whatever it is. She's on her own. I feel like it took probably more of a toll on us than it did Rue. I know when Charles first brought it up, I was a little hesitant like,

all right, you know, are we sure we want to do this? And yada, yada, yada, just because I just, I don't know, I just think of the innocent little three-year-old, like if, I feel like it's all the stuff that parents go through. Maybe not. But you're just, you think about all the situations where they might feel unsure and nervous or they might get picked on. I don't know.

All of these things are just in my head. And I just think of my sweet little girl. Yeah. And that makes me sad to think of those situations. So I felt like it was, it took a bigger toll on us than it did her. But, dude, it's, it was awesome. The first day, I know the drop off was a struggle. She was very nervous.

She was very sad. Charles was telling me that she was like, you know, mom, I don't want you to go yada yada. I'm kind of glad that I wasn't exactly there. I got to do it at home and tell her like, hey, go be great. Go have fun. Like, do all this stuff. Hey, it's us to Jonas Brothers. And guess what?

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You know, you're saying all the things, dude. And she went into the class, Charles was leaving. Rue struggled with that. And then after the class, when they went to pick her up, she came. came running outside and was like, Mama, I wasn't nervous. I wasn't scared. I did it. And all this stuff.

And she was just elated, bro. And just to know that she had a great first day, like first experience. Yeah. Was just like, it warmed the boy's heart. Were you there on the pickup? That was just charmed. No, because it was happening when we were here at the shop. Got it.

Like, it was going from like nine to noon. So I got to see her before we left the house, before we departed from the house. And then I just, I didn't get to see her until I went home. And then I'm asking her all about it. I'm like, show me this stuff that you were learning. And she's like, showing me tuck, pike straddle and butterfly. And then as she's stealing butterfly, she started singing, butterfly. She's just like, starts singing a song.

Because there's a song with it. There's a song to help them remember. Yeah. And it was cool, dude. But we went the, she went the entire week. She had a little, like, not recital, but something that, like, 15 minutes, they showed the parents on the last day, like all the things that they've been working on, like their jumps and leaves and tippy toes everywhere.

and animals that they were kind of mimicking and doing stuff with their rolls, like rolling forward, tucking their chin. Okay. Then they had a little dance at the end. And it was awesome, man. It was awesome. It's like one of those things where,

and you know, you'll obviously get there, and I'm sure parents are out there probably remembering their first time, like dropping their kiddo off. But even though it's like an uncomfortable thing to do, you know it's like good for them because you're wanting to build like that independence. You're wanting to,

You're wanting them to start building social skills. Build some resilience on being uncomfortable, being scared, but then knowing that they are, that they can do it. And then they do do it. I'm not nervous. I wasn't scared and all this stuff. And they start getting more confident in themselves. But that's my crack of cold one.

Rue went to her first, like, summer camp, ballet camp, five days. And it was, it was cool. Dude, that's sick. I'm in so much trouble with, like moments like that of like I wasn't scared I wasn't nervous just like hearing that I'm like oh dude yeah oh my gosh because you you try to get them um as much as you can like early talking about emotions because when they're having their breakdown say you know what are you feeling what is this why this you know and she'd be like I'm sad and you know kind of try to label all

their emotions and so once she was telling mom that I'm nervous I don't want you to leave I'm scared I'm all this stuff to where as a parent, like I know if I'm in that situation, I'm just kind of thinking like, this is extremely difficult. I kind of don't want to leave. Like, let me just kind of stick around. And then you're like, maybe I'll leave when she's not looking. And then you also kind of feel bad or feel guilty that I'm going to sneak out and then she's going to look and see in the corner and you're not going to be there. And then maybe she might get scared even more. Yeah, yeah.

I don't know. But I would feel like a boxing coach, like in the corner with my boxer. like you were describing with Rube before she was leaving and like go be great and stuff like that I'm gonna have to hold back in those moments because I'm just thinking about that and I'm like

oh my gosh that's like it's wild when you're just experiencing all of like the firsts you know what I mean first time they say a word or say da da first time they walk

first time they tell you I love you like all of the first it's just it's always a different moment that you're excited about and then when you get past it you reflect on and make you sad that they're growing up and all those things in between dude

how was she sleeping that week were they getting her real tired and she was just coming home and passing out that night? She doesn't take naps anymore and now she's out of the nap game which is like you know you're trying to implement like quiet time because if not she'll be on all day you've been around rude like she's a spark plug

full of personality a lot of independence real sassy or build some sass and she just has has like she has so much fun with absolutely everything she wants to be playing all the time we have a knock at the door oh we have a guess hey how's it going how we doing oh with neutral okay yeah that would be on the other side yes sir sorry for that interruption in our program we had we had a we had a delivery man with a delivery man up front um crack a cold one crack a cold one

And there was one more thing I was going to say with, Oh yeah, yeah, we were in the middle. The first, it's like, oh, it's their first, you know, I love you and all that. And it was like her first time going to camp. Do you think you'll do summer camps, like overnight summer camps with her? Probably eventually.

Okay. I don't think I did for a long time. It'd be like, you know, it was more just like support camps and stuff. I didn't have, I didn't do any of like those summer camps where you're like staying overnight or traveling out of state charo did so i i feel like she probably will because charo experienced that stuff and she's kind of brought it up before okay uh that'll be a whole different level that's going to be tough on the boy i feel like yeah because i know it'll be tough on me yeah and i don't even have one yeah yeah it'll be difficult it'll be difficult but it's like

you know it's just life right yeah got to learn at some point yeah you got to get them uncomfortable got to get us uncomfortable because it's going to happen I truly do I think about moments of I mean not to make it about myself but like TCU Baylor

went to triple overtime one year and I was like bawling my eyes out at that football game not out of sadness but just out of like the sheer emotion from it and then Jill's talking about like with me you're going to be the best out ever

at her little league games and stuff and she wants to play soccer like her dad did and I started tearing up right there I was like I'm gonna have to wear sunglasses to these little league games and just be the piss off looking dad like far away and you're like man that guy's

looks so mean but really I'm just over there like fucking love my girl so much oh my god just crying the whole time yeah yeah yeah watching her just hit her little performance at the end of her camp when I was over there earlier I just already know I'm just I'm already like one of those dads I'm watching every kid go

I'm like, you know, Roos kind of got a little edge on her here. And then, you know, Roo might be hopping like, all right, do it like the, do it like the horse or the draft. And they're kind of like, they're kind of like moving their arms, but Rue's not moving her arms. Yeah, yeah. We got to work on that when we get home. We'll work on that. Like, let's see her jump over this little pylon. Like how they're all going to look jumping over this little mat.

And you see them all going. You're like, all right. And the first thing I want to do whenever it gets done, I want to go right up to the teacher. And just give it to me straight that she got a shot. She got a shot to go pro. What's going on here? Let's figure it out now when she's three years old. And with ballet, I've heard like Russia's pretty good.

Like, if we're going to be sitting her over to Russia? What does this look like? What do you see when you look at Rue out there? I have my opinion, but I'll hold it until you go first. But give it to me straight. Hey, you go first, coach. You see the calves on her? Do you see the legs on her?

This will never be during practice. I just want you to know I'll come to you after. That's your time. Yeah. I feel like this is our time now after practice. She's got good genetics. What did you get that her moment? I did play a few years in the NFL.

Oh my God, dude. The videos that you already post of Rue doing ballet, I love that you can tell you get juiced about it. Yeah, bro. You just love watching them just develop. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like they're their own little human being.

They're their own little person. Yeah. And they're just like doing it. You know what I'm saying? Yes. It's fun. It's fun. My crack a cold one, my crack a cold one is kind of quick too.

But it was like a really. this is like selfishly about me, but it was a really incredible moment of we have the dad combine this week. All the dads of all the bus and boys, including Will and Taylor's dads, all fly in and we compete on like multiple dad competitions. It's really lighthearted. It's really fun.

But it turns into this like incredibly wholesome day where it's just a bunch of sons getting to hang out with their dads. and they're getting paid to do it, which is nuts. My road in production has not been a bumpy one, but it's just hard to make a living and be in full-time production if you're not in some of the hot spots of like Atlanta, New York City, L.A. So it's just kind of a road less traveled, and my dad was very much in the corporate world.

and so it wasn't like I never had my dad's blessing, but it was always kind of like you could tell that dad kind of second-guessed a lot of decisions that I made. Right. Because you're not going down the road that he went down because it seems like in your family some things are not like generational to a T,

but it's kind of a structure there. So I'm sure there's that shame or, you know, a level of insecurity of like, man, he's never said and he's never given me a weird vibe, but it's like, is he kind of disappointed that I'm not like making a shift. Yeah, and I'm sure on his end that I didn't go that path, he may even be thinking, like, is it because he doesn't like me that he doesn't want to do this? Like, why?

Yeah, that's true. Like, where'd that come from? But he always did see me, like, as a little kid in the backyard doing, I would make little Indiana Jones movies with, like, all the neighbor kids or like all my friends would come over and we'd do like sketch comedy stuff and put it on YouTube. And so my parents were. well aware that this was something that interested me. But you and Taylor gave me an opportunity here full time,

an incredible one that brought my wife and I halfway across the nation. It was just a very big move. It was a very big opportunity. And it was really kind of the first time that my dad, like I could really sense like how proud and excited he was. And he pulled Will to the side at the dad combine and was in front of me. and he thanked Will for giving me this opportunity specifically of the show. And hearing him saying, like, thank you for giving him a shot because we've been seeing it since, you know, he was a little kid.

And it just means a world that somebody else saw it in him. And he gave you like a little hug or like a little dapp or something. And then you started waxing poetic about me, which you did not have to do. But that feels really good when your boss is saying that to your dad. It was honestly like a top three dad moment. It was really cool. That's awesome, man. Yeah.

I know when he pulled me aside, it was before everything started. He's like, I just want to say this before everything gets going and took off his hat and everything. He did. He did. He was giving me a very genuine, sincere, yeah, conversation about, yeah, being proud of you. Yeah. And you being with the boys. It was just really cool.

Really selfish crack of cold one, but like, man, it was a really good crack of cold one. That was just like good. But it's about your dad. That's what we're here for. This is a for the dad's podcast, man. Because that day was really cool. It's like I posted about it, but it's essentially we've taken something that we do work-related and came up with this event.

And it's not like a very Uber competitive thing. It's kind of just like a reason for us to have our dads in and hang out with our dads. I know last year there wasn't as many of the dads here. And then you kind of sit back and think about it. You're like, let's get everybody's dad in the shop if we can here on this date. We'll fly him in. And it's essentially like us kicking in with our dads because we're like, you know, doing competitions

like packing coolers, taking out the trash, a little trash relay, a fashion show for True Classic. And you're doing trivia. So you're answering questions about, you know, who was your dad's favorite crush growing up? Or when, you know, when did he lose his virginity? When is his birthday? What's his favorite color?

What was his first job? They're answering stuff about you on embarrassing moments. You're kind of getting to relive, you know, stuff from your dad's past, stuff from your childhood, that they remember that you might not remember. Yeah. And then you're kind of sitting there at the end.

And now that a few of the dads, this is their second year in a row, just to see kind of a rapport or relationship building and knowing like the boys in the shop are all super tight, now seeing our dads get in the mix and start to become tighter, just know that this is the date every year that we're going to have a dad combine. It's really cool, man. Jellyroll said it a long time when we were just talking about busting with the boys. He just talked about it being like a diary, a video diary or a video journal that we'll get to look back on one day and listen to our conversations.

And this is a dark way of thinking about the dad combined stuff, but thinking so far into the future that one day when our dads are no longer here, because that will be a real thing, we will have these videos and these moments to look back on and see us interacting with them when we're like 35 versus like home videos of them, us being little and them being a new dad. It's like we have moments throughout our childhood and our adult life to where we'll be able to watch that, you know, with sadness and happiness and everything else. But it's really cool that we'll have all these things.

And if busting is no more, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Back on all the relationships that we all had, all the funny moments. But the dad compound was a lot of fun. It was a ton of fun. Yeah, the idea of being a grandfather one day by being able to like pull up some of those videos of just like me getting my head buzz for that bet I lost or like, you know. Showing your grandkids, showing their friends, embarrassing them.

about stuff. Yeah. But yes, that was our crack a cold one. And also just a reminder for the 601 to Dads, because we have had a few that I've listened to where they were like, I had a good crack a cold one or I had a really good motherfucker.

Love that. If you got a Dad Hack or a Toolkit, just another reminder. I know we've said that before. Like, tell us your crack of cold ones too. It does not have to be a question. And one of the ones this week, I believe, is a crack-a-cold one, and it is stellar. And just off the whole 60-1 on the desk, because I know we're all learning through this and figuring out, too.

I'm trying to think of the people that call in and, you know, they might give it another shot the next week. And they might say the same exact story. If there are a bunch of voicemails that we hear that you think could make it on the show, but that's not just the ones that we selected for this show, you can keep them in a roll. We can probably keep them in a rolodex. Put the headphones on? No, no, you're fine. I was just seeing if the viewers could hear Chef, because I would love for the viewers to hear that. And if they couldn't hear Chef, that's interned Chef that's been helping us with For the Dads. He has been compiling all these voicemails. We are taking our job very seriously with the voicemails, with the DMs.

Chef is a huge part of that and cycles through all those call logs and listens to them and compiles them. And Sherman, would this be a good one? because we actually surprise Will with the call-ins, the actual day of recording. Just know those voicemails are being listened to you. Chef's taking his job really seriously, so we thank him for that. Yeah. So keep calling. Just trying to find ways to continue building this community.

Yeah, absolutely. You can already just tell from the comments in the first episode and just the dads who are excited about it and everything else and the messages that we were getting. Like, it's going to be a lot of fun. And if you've made it this far in the second episode, feel free to share it. Feel free to share with your boys. Your fellow dad group chats.

Feel free to share it. Pass it around. Because people might not fully know. You know what I mean? They might be subscribed to the bus and YouTube channel. Yep. And they might have saw the thumbnail and just think it's like a clip or something. And that was a, that was looking at the analytics.

Jeremy had pulled it up for me. That was two of the main ways that people were actually seeing the episode where people were sharing. The dads were sharing it. And then the dads were also looking up. up for the dads on YouTube, which that's usually a really small percentage. But there's a high percentage of our views just from for the dads, which to me, that feels like a word of mouth thing. So that's really cool that the dads are doing that.

Our next segment, what are the odds? Shout out, Fandul's Sportsbook. What are the odds? Just a reminder for you guys. This is where we tell a story of like crazy timing, wild odds, or just kind of those small little moments in life where it's like, man, What are the odds of that? That's so funny.

The what are the odds this week was also a dad combine. This features my dad. And also features Mitchell Carsley's dad. Mr. Carsley was introducing himself to my dad. And I guess he had overheard Papa Shirm and Bill Compton talking a little bit about guns. And so he holstered that about 45 minutes later. Such a dad combo. Oh, yeah, dude.

And by the way, I wish so badly we had had a camera on Bill and Papa Sherm talking about their nozzleer. And then your dad's 30-od six and just going through, oh, dude. Yeah, forgetting. I can't remember right now. I can't remember right now. Takes off as that, Bill, super nice to meet you. I'm Sherman, Sherman's father. They're both cue balls.

Both cue balls. My dad, oh, you get your haircut at the same spot I do. You know, just having a wholesome father exchange. It's incredible. But yes, Mr. Carsley just like perfection just comes up to my dad and is like Sherman, nice to meet you. I heard you do a little bit of hunting. My dad's like, I do. I do a little bit of hunting.

How about yourself? I heard the very first part of the conversation, which shout out to Mitch's dad. He actually shot a black bear while he was whitetail hunting. He was up in a tree stand hunting some white tail. And there's an overlap in Pennsylvania on black bear in white tail. and he had a black bear come right behind his stand just right up by the tree and he did one of these and knocked it with one shot.

So shout out Mr. Carsley. But he saw in that story, well, to a bunch of Texans hearing that, we're like, you shot a bear? Right. We don't have those opportunities in Texas. Right. I look over 45 minutes later, Mr. Carsley has his sunglasses up here. He has his readers on the bridge of his nose.

My dad has his readers on the bridge of his nose. And my dad's doing this to Mr. Carsley and just, you see that, blah, blah, blah. They have their game cameras. They're showing game camera pictures to each other. Incredible, dude. I mean, you just like, you love to see. This one's going to be a big one. Hey, come fall time, this one is growing right here.

This nine point, we haven't, so he came by one time. Yeah. We haven't seen him since. Haven't seen him since. Haven't seen him either. He's out there. He's out there. And we're waiting for the rut because he fucking loves the doze.

But if they ain't rut and he ain't coming to the feeder. Yeah, he's on them doze like wide on rice now. I'm telling you. But he won't show face till the rut. Look at this. You know what? We didn't get them in this camera, but look at this rub on this tree. And wait.

Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Wait one second. And they go through like 30 pictures. Damn, but I can't. They finally get the one picture where it's the, you know, that back from behind or like straight on that they want to show you. You go, see how outside the years he is?

Yeah. I mean, come on. I remember that picture I was telling you about earlier? I couldn't find it. My buddy sent it to me. Check that out. We finally got it. That's at 12.

I was talking with the drop time. That's that 12. But, dude, it's just, it was phenomenal. They accidentally opened up another app. Damn it. How do we get out of you? I love seeing Dad's photo. Shout out Jill's stepdad Cody.

because he shows me a lot of game camera pictures too. I love seeing his camera roll. There is nothing better than a dad's camera role, dude. You'll just see, like, when it's all the little images and they're like scrolling, you see some of the stuff that he takes pictures of or screenshots. To be in the mind of a dad, dude. To be in the mind of a dad.

My dad will just pull out the phone and just start taking pictures of Rue. And Roo will just be standing right below him or something doing something. And I'm like, Dad, what are you doing? Like, she's playing on the ground. You're getting photos of her back. He's taking pictures from him.

He'll just be standing. Just like taking pictures. Hey, Dad, do you want a better shot? If you come over here, you can see your face. I don't need to see it. Why don't need to see your face? I know what that looks like. Yeah.

But yeah, that's our, what are the odds? And then as far as like survival kit and dad hacks, I feel like laying you drive on those as far as you having kids. Survival kit and dad hack. Survival kit, I'll say, I think they both go hand in hand for the dad hack and survival kit. Survival kit, my survival kit recommendation will be having sticker books. You'll be traveling with a backpack around when you guys go out. Maybe you're traveling to a different state.

Maybe you're flying on the plane. Maybe you're in the car for a long time. Sticker book's a big one. We have animal sticker books. We have space sticker books. We have ocean sticker books to where it's like the glossy kind of cardboard. You open it up. The pages are thick.

And you have like these stickers. Like the glossy stickers that you can put on, you can remove, you can place them around. Rue was having you do it when we were at, uh, what was that place? It was the egg spot. Oh, another broken egg. Broken egg. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Another broken egg in Nashville.

Shout out another broken egg, no free shoutouts. Great breakfast. Yeah, but you bring out the sticker book when she's busy or bored or trying to do stuff or we're trying to get, be in a conversation. You'll pull out the sticker book. Have her start doing it. She has you coming over. Where should I put this sticker?

I thought it was fun too. I can shout it out as well. I actually had a fun time with you. Yeah. Sticker book is a, uh, that's a, That's a survival kid. That's a little product recommendation. Because going into the dad hack, and this will be shouts to my wife.

So this is kind of like a parent hack, dad hack, mom hack, whatever. TV coupons. Because one thing that you battle with when they have exposure, which they're going to have to the first screen, right? Or they are starting to watch TV. I know Rue had watched Mrs. Rachel when she was really little. And now she's in the phase to where it's like a trash truck. Little Bear, which was a favorite of mine growing up. Love a little bear.

Yeah. Rue loves Little Bear right now. So she wants to watch TV. Like, anytime I come home, something goes off in her brain to where it's like, all right, we're getting close to TV time. Because she won't, she doesn't watch any TV when the nanny's in. And we don't do iPads. We don't do screens when we're traveling or anything.

Like, we'll listen to music. She might like listen to her headphones. Her uncle Bragg got her this thing. I forget what it's called, but they like play stories in the headphones. It could be like stories about frozen. or Moana. That's awesome. Yeah, it's just like they'll listen to stories.

But if they want like activities to do, we'll get out the sticker book. We'll get out different drawing things or she can draw and hit a button in it'll delete it. Because we don't do, we try not to do a whole lot of screen time. But she gets to watch TV. If you let them watch TV for too long, you know, their sensory, like, you know, their emotions get bigger. It's hard to put them down for bedtime. Yeah. They really worked up because they're just watching on the screen.

It's a big time where their brains developing. They're trying to regulate their emotions. they watch if they have too much screen time like you know there's so much research and like data on and everything else but we do our best not to put a whole lot of screens in front of her so my wife she was watching little bear and she likes to watch a little bear and then it got to where she was getting pretty pissed off or agitated when we tell her hey you know it's time to turn the tv off time to start winding down time to start getting ready for bed or hey if it's saturday morning or sunday morning we might we might do like saturday morning cartoons or sunday morning cartoons if we like make

pancakes or make like a breakfast, like a family breakfast. And then they got to where, you know, she'd start to get really fussier, mad when she had to turn off the TV or pause it. Or she wouldn't eat her dinner. You had to like turn off all the screens. And so my wife, she made these, this is the parent hack. This is the dad hack. And shouts to my wife for this. She made up these TV coupons where she like cut out construction paper, a little construction paper background,

printed out something on the computer, cut it out to where it. she like taped them on each other to where they have these fun little pictures but each coupon represents 30 minutes of TV time to where she'll go up to her walk up to her room she'll take out a coupon and put it in the can't use the coupon anymore and she only has like an

lot of amount throughout the week yeah but she'll have windows of 30 minutes to watch TV if she wants to watch TV yeah um and that's the hack because it helps it we turn it into like making it a currency so she now has the choice she now has the ability to kind of think about when she wants to use them. It gives her a little bit of control. We were talking about giving them control earlier.

Yeah. It gives them a little bit of responsibility for you start showing them the cost. Like, hey, once you run out, these are gone for the week. You might be able to use two in a day. Maybe it's just one in a day, but you get to kind of pick and choose when you use your coupons. Because once they're gone, they're gone. You don't get any more TV. So we get so a point in where she wants to use like a second coupon in a day and you're kind of like trying to talk her out of it. You're like, hey, if you use this coupon now, you will be out for the weekend. Weekends are big. You have a lot of downtime. You could be watching. TV. Saturday morning cartoons might not be Saturday morning cartoons. So it kind of gives

them the freedom to start thinking about like what their choices are. And it gives them predictability to where, hey, they know they have coupons upstairs. So if she comes down, she's like, Dad, I want to watch Little Bear. And I'm like, well, did you, did you use your coupon? She's like, I already went upstairs and flipped it over to the other side. So TV coupons, highly recommend. That's a way we've kind of tried to battle the screen time, the screen time game. Because it's, it's like once kids start looking at the screen and seeing that all this, you know, all these different things that they can watch on TV,

especially now. Like they don't have to watch commercials. They get an ad that comes across. Like, oh, well, you know, more little bear. And it's like, dude, you got 30 seconds of this ad that just popped on. Like, you're going to have to, you have no clue. We had to go. We had to fucking look at a TV guide to try to predict when our show was going to be on

and watch it. Oh, yeah. With all the commercials. Now they can get it instantly on demand. And so to kind of structure that versus her being like, I want to watch TV. We're watching TV. I like, hey, bro, you've been watching TV for like 45 minutes.

It's time to turn off the TV and then they get all pissed off. It's like, bro, I've kind of let you watch TV for a while. Like, how do you not get that this is a, that gets time to stop watching? So TV coupons is how we've started to play that game. Because, again, it's tough. It's hard, especially when you're, you know, you can do. So I feel like it's more of a challenge for parents. Like when you go out to a restaurant, you might see a family sitting there and their kids got a, you know, you see them.

They have a screen or an iPad in front of them. They have headphones on. And then the parents are either in dinner or they might be on their phones or whatever it is. Like, Charles and I were, we've always said like, Hey, it's us, the Jonas Brothers. And guess what? We have some big news. What's the news, name?

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Do you want your sticker book? Do you want to pull out a book? Or do they have something the color with at the restaurant? Or let's just listen to this song or listen to this podcast or listen to this book on audio if we're traveling in the car. So the scream time will be a battle that you'll come across in the future. And there's no right or wrong way. That's just kind of been our preference on how we're going to approach minimizing as much

as we can because I know there are some families. They don't do any screen time. You're kind of like, man, I wish we challenge ourselves to do no screen time. Or there's some families you see that do do the screen time. You're thinking in those moments of stress or no answer. You're just like, man, I wish I could just put something in front of them. So they just calm down right or right now. So there's no right or wrong way.

Not trying to say you're a bad parent if you do a bunch of screen time. That is just how we approach dealing with screen time with Rue. I love that philosophy. And that's actually one thing I've been hearing a lot about, like, entering into fatherhood is I have a buddy that they were like, we did no screen time. And then now that we're like trying to watch movies with them, like, he will not sit down. He's like, this is, what are we doing? Yeah.

Like, why are we watching this? And they're almost like, well, damn, I wish we had kind of introduced movies and TVs because like, he's constantly just like, why can't we just go like kick the ball? Right. Yeah. Yeah. And it's like, buddy, I don't want to go outside around. It's a lot outside.

Like, let's just chill in here. Or it's, you know, late at night. Like, we're kind of winding down. Yeah. Sun's going down. Sun's going to sleep. Time for you to go to sleep. Yes.

And it kind of came too from, you know, you do pizza Friday and movie night. We'd be watching movie. And then she wants to watch Frozen over and over. So it's like, hey, do you want to watch, if we have TV on it, it's like you'll watch a couple of things, a little bear, because Little Bear will be like, say, 21 minutes long. And they have little segments of like seven minutes on one episode, seven minutes on another inside of like one episode. Yeah, yeah.

You're trying to watch something short. I want to watch Frozen. It's like, bro, you can't watch a movie. You can't watch an hour and a half of a movie right now. That's more than 30. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're going to need three coupons to watch Frozen. Yeah.

Yeah. So does Pizza Friday not count towards- pizza Friday it doesn't count. We don't count it just because that's like our, it's like our time of like showing up as a fam to kind of do like a family, our weekly tradition per week. But she'll get like, I think it's in it.

It's around like eight, nine, ten, I don't know. We give her in a lot of amount of coupons to where she can't double down on every day. She can double down on a couple days, but all the rest of the day she has like one coupon that she can use. And you try and talk to her like, hey, you want to save these for the end of the week? You want to save them for the end of the week. she can't go over two in a day. So you build parameters,

kind of make it like a currency so they can start figuring out. And she's in charge of the flipping responsibility. Yeah. Yeah. Which I feel like y'all are almost kind of setting an opportunity there of like. For her to.

Oh yeah. Hey. Flip it back over. How'd she get? It seems like she already used up her coupons. Why does she have one in there? I know. I'm ready for that time.

I'm ready for that moment. That's going to be hard. Right now she's innocent enough to where she like gets the game. It's like her getting out of bed. she doesn't really get out of bed until we come up in a room. I know some people hear stories like, we got to like tire the door shut so they don't come out of the room down early in the morning and climb into our bed.

Yeah, yeah. So we haven't gotten there yet, but it's going to be like that first time she realizes she can get out of bed and walk down to our room. And then she's like, oh, man, I can just leave room in the middle. If I wake up in the middle night, just go down to mom and dad's bed. Hey, yo, Waffle. Yeah.

Where's Waffle? Where's Waffle? But when my wife made it, I was like, are you sure you want to let her do the flipping? Because I can see where she just might be like, all right, I only have one left. Like, let me not flip it and see if my parents don't. They don't catch me.

But that's the parent hack. That's the survival kit, sticker books, dad hack, TV coupons. A bonus dad hack to that is I had an English teacher in high school that all of the media that he would introduce to his firstborn son was all the media that he grew up on. So, like, his son's favorite movie at the age of six was like Superman 2 from like 1960. Yeah. And his son hadn't seen anything like outside of that and more modern and stuff. So he's seeing the terrible effects of like 1961 Hollywood, these practical effects.

And he's thinking, how is this dude flying? Yeah. How is Superman up in the clouds right now? This is crazy. And it's too you come across things to where when you have like show recommendations for toddlers. Because again, we'll get a lot of our stuff whether it be the algorithm on Instagram or something coming across our face to where. there's things that get your senses going so much to where there's a lot of movement in the show

or a lot of lights, a lot of seeing, a lot of camera angles changing a lot to where it's like, you know, their brain development is happening and it's like counterproductive for them. Like it's not healthy for them.

Oh, okay. And you'll see that shows that we grew up on are slow enough, like Little Bear being an example, that are slow enough to where it's kind of like one shot and it's just them like interacting. It's wild.

You'll come across all this stuff. Yeah, where it's like the stuff we grew up on it will be like, oh, those are better things for their brain to consume because all of the new rage stuff, there's a lot of bouncing around, there's a lot of animation, a lot of lights, a lot of flickering, a lot of, you know, scenes going from one to another really quick. Yes. Which apparently, I guess, messes up the brain.

I have no clue. No, that makes sense. Not a scientist. I've seen enough bluey to know that, like, bluey is like super fast pace and just watching it, I remember, like, two of the little kid dogs are, like, yelling at the dad. Like they're upset that the dad's like telling them it's time to go nine night. I'm just making up an example. But they're like talking back to dad.

And I'm like, well, shit, if I had a little kid, I don't want them like. Knowing that this is an option. Yeah. Like what in the world? Like I think back to like Winnie the Pooh and like Eeyore being grumpy. And you're like, oh, well, don't be Eeyore because like pigling rabbit and poo are all like Eeyore. Like cheer up, buddy.

Yeah. The last list I saw Bluey on was like a moderate. It was like a moderate. because when Rue was on it was like Ms. Rachel, Bluey, you're kind of learning about these shows and everything else. Because I think Bluey is a, I think Bluey's awesome.

Okay. But yeah, it's interesting, like learning about all of that stuff, like when you have a kid and you're trying to like, you know, everybody's trying to do the best of they can. And you're trying to figure out like,

you know, what would be good for them to watch? What's unhealthy for them to watch? Like, oh, their brain's developing. What does that even mean? Yeah, what can they even pick up from the,

I'm such a xenophile, a lover of movies that like I to myself I'm like man there's so many things I'm going to want my kid to watch that I'm like I've got to have to wait until they're you know 17 18 19 or whatever like but do you want to know a little a show is we would watch a chaos theory by Jurassic Park oh yes and it essentially shows the dinosaurs it shows all the stuff

it shows moments right up to where before the human basically gets killed or a dinosaur gets killed. It might be a velociraptor dropping the nail on a guy's head. But they'll show the velociraptor and the nail will be up. And then as it's going to go down and kill the guy

and you hear the yell in the background, it'll just shift to a different scene and you'll hear it, but you just won't see it. Rue and I were watching that at a pretty young age. And my wife was like, are you sure she should be watching this?

Like, you know, she's gonna... You double down. As a dad, I'm thinking this is a show. I love Jurassic Park. Finally, we got to be good kids. Yeah. Oh, this is on Disney. This will be a good show.

It's like the T-Rex buss out the, you know, bust through the gates and like yells. And I'm like looking at Roo's reaction. And when she's just kind of like looking at it and not getting too scared, I'm like, all right, you know, maybe she can handle it. So it would be something we would watch with mom not around it first. And then she saw it. She's like, Ruby, I don't know if I like her watching this.

I mean, she's been watching it. She doesn't get too scared. Like she's by dad, dad, dad that keeps her safe. She's going to come across it at some point. And then I think. like also like I watched the movie the Patriot at like nine I think so I'm like oh my gosh if I was watching the Patriot at nine I go back and watch that now and I'm like oh my god yeah yeah and I like I can't wait till we get her into like maybe Star Wars or something because again when you're watching like

and again uh like bluey but with like miss rachel will be on TV or blue or the the really kid shows you're kind of sitting there it's like you want to watch it with them but you got no skin in the game like Jurassic Park chaos theory all that stuff I can I can sit there and watch it with it. Oh, yeah, did you see that? The only thing I was going to say is we have run long, so I was going to kick it to the voicemail. What's up, guys, big fan of the pod. My name is Alex Caputo. I'm from New Jersey. I am not currently a dad, but I'm actually going through the IVF process, and I saw the pod about Will Compton and his wife, and it inspired me to get inspired and call in to see if you guys

had some advice for me. Big fan of the boys, big fan of you guys. I would just love to be featured just to kind of chat with the boys and see what kind of inspiration I can get from the dads and from you, Shirm, as well. So again, like I said, shout out, no free shout out. Big fan of the boys, big fan of the bus. Love what you guys are doing.

Again, my name is Alex Caputo. I'm from Jersey. good old Jersey, Italian boy here. Hopefully to become a dad in about a year, if this IVF process goes well. Love you, boys. Much love. Alex, man, shout out to you.

Appreciate you calling in. Love that you listen to the IVF podcast with my wife and I. If you guys haven't seen that podcast, it's on our bus and channel. My wife and I did it for like a Mother's Day special where we sat down and broke down a lot of the IVF process and kind of the ups and downs of that process because it is a it's an interesting one it's not an easy one on both the the the mom and the dad the wife and the husband

just because you don't know what to prepare for your wife goes through a lot of stuff physically there's a lot of hormonal changes a lot of injections and hard things that they have to do so that way their body's ready to conceive a child because pregnancy is a very hard thing to make happen you you realize like you think in high school you can you know knock somebody up and it's as simple as that yeah and then Then when you get married and you go through some rough times or you go through some turbulence with your wife on trying to get pregnant, and then you kind of see why people are a little bit reserved when, hey, you ask the question or you go somewhere, you're asking your friends that are newly married or something like, hey, when you guys thinking about kids just because

you have no idea what those two could potentially be going through, like maybe they're having trouble getting pregnant, maybe they're in the middle of an IVF process and their fingers are crossed that this works out because it's their last effort to try and make something happen because doing it the natural way didn't work going through a couple other steps they might have tried might not have worked and they're in this final step of being like hey maybe this IVF process will work because it's not the cheapest thing in the world and you know I do know some stories and situations with friends of mine to where my wife and I look at our situation even though it's very hard to go through the IVF process.

Like you look back and you have perspective and we were also lucky because it happened in the first round. I have friends of mine, close friends of mine that have went through multiple rounds of IVF to where they've had the embryos that are frozen and those might not work out. Every time they try to implant and then they might run out of those embryos to where they have to do the IVF cycle again or they might not get, they might not get a lot of eggs in their first IVF process to where they might only have one or two. neither of those work out where they have to go through the IVF process again.

So if I had any advice, dude, number one, I wish you guys all the luck and health in the world that this first one goes the way that you guys wanted to because even then it's a very hard process. And I just always anchored my emotion to think that something could probably go wrong based on friends that I've had that have had these processes and those IVF journeys don't work out the first or even second time or even the third time. There's one buddy of mine that's went through about four or five cycles before they had their first one. And that is very hard in trying on the marriage.

It's very hard in trying on the couple. And it's one of those things to where, you know, you look for ways to be strong for your wife. Your wife's probably looking for ways to be strong for you and herself. And sometimes it's not about being strong. It's just about reconnecting and finding your way back to each other through communication. empathy because there's just going to be a lot of stress. Yeah.

That that involves stress in IVF along with all the stress going on in your worlds individually at work with your friends, your parents, whatever it may be. Scheduling all those appointments around work if they're both working. Yeah. Yeah. Wondering if should I, is there somebody to talk to or should I bring it up? I know we kind of don't want to talk about it too much because our fingers are crossed. We want to get a little bit farther down the road before we start to talk about it.

hey, this worked out. You get a few, you get a weekend or a trimester or two in. You might, you know, there could be a miscarriage. And then it's, yeah, there's a lot, man. So my advice would just be, again, it's all about staying connected. And then when you start to feel like in any part of the process, you lose connection. It's just about circling back and reconnecting with your wife. And again, it's a, it's a trying time.

So I wish you guys luck and health and all of it. Good luck. Because again, when it does happen, it is, you know, it's always a miracle when there's a kid involved and it works out for the couple and it works out for everything involved. But Alex, appreciate you calling in, bro. I know that was a very long-winded response because there's really no right. Yes. That's a hard one, dude. Yeah.

That's a hard one. The only thing we did to prep will this week with the call-ins is that we, the chef and I told them there was an IVF call. Yeah. because that is kind of a, that's a hard question to answer, dude. Yeah, because there's, you know, at the end of the day, it's going to be trying. Yeah. It's going to be very hard. And even if it works and everything's going smooth, there's just going to be those moments you have with your wife.

And again, listen to that episode with my wife and I. We talk about a lot of those low moments and stuff that would go through my head that I, you feel so much guilt and shame. Like, I don't even want to bring this up because it doesn't seem like it compares at all to what she's going. through. Then you start projecting back and forth on each other. Then you, you know, you realize like you're not even talking about the right thing anymore. Yeah. So yeah, there's really not, there's really not a right way to go about it. It's one of those things. It's like you just prepare for the worst. And when that stuff starts to kick in, it's just reminding yourself, how do I find a way to reconnect? Because she might be having a hard time right now. If you,

the man, if I'm having a hard time right now, how do I communicate that in the way that has, you know, empathy and understands the weight of the current situation going on while just having the big picture in mind. Yeah. That would be what I'd say, bro. I think that's a great answer. I appreciate Alex tossing my name in there to any advice. I can't speak on it from a personal situation other than have had a friend that has

faced the same thing. He opened up to me about it. And we just had like one of the more incredible moments of our friendship of just kind of and it was during the time of Jill's pregnancy. So probably a hard conversation for him to have. But just in that moment, being able to like hug him and we both are teary-eyed and I'm just like, you are going to be the best dad ever. And I want it so bad for you. And just him being able to open up about that. so if anything i think you had said the same thing for Alex to just be able to communicate with

somebody uh through that time um and then dad's out there that maybe you have friends that are facing that i think just when that conversation is presented to you just being super open to be able to hear your hear your buddy out hear the um fellow future dad out potential future dad out and just be there for him because one thing that and that's a great point too because one thing that was surprising for me when we were going through that process, you don't know how much you can necessarily talk about or how much you should talk about it. Yeah. You know, respect to how your wife feels.

Yes. Or if it feels like a bad or wrong thing to talk about. And what would surprise me is people that I would bring it up to, dads, they talked about, oh, we did IVF as well. That's sick. To where then you realize that, okay, you can't start to talk about it a little bit more. Or you have a friend that you can lean on because, again, you have no clue how the journey is going to be because it can be heavy. There's a buddy of mine.

They went through one IVF process or their first IVF process and they were pregnant. And I want to say they had a miscarriage around like week 18 or 19, which was, it's devastating. Yeah. You think everything is going smooth. Because they tell you once you get past week eight, you're Gucci. Right, right. You hear all these different milestones. You feel a little bit more comfortable to talk about it, the sex of the child.

and everything else. And so, you know, when the second round's coming and they're currently pregnant, they're not right at the 18 week mark. You just know everybody's like fingers are crossed and you just, you kind of put your arm around them and you're just, you're hoping for the best man, because you have no clue how all of it can go, what people are feeling. But yeah, man, definitely having somebody to lean on for sure. Absolutely.

The last thing on Alex, and we'll get to the next call, Alex was our very first voice man. Hey, fellas. This is Colin. Colin from North Carolina. It's about 110 East Coast time. I'm whispering because sometimes the fellas need to hear about a win. Today, this evening, is the biggest W that I have had in fatherhood in a very long time. Mom's first night out after second baby.

We got a two and a half year old all-boy savage and a two-month-year-old all-boy hellion, who just is hungry nonstop. Mom decides she's going out. I got this. I think that the boys took one look at mom leaving and they saw it in my eyes after work. You know what? Dad needs a W.

We got to get a W in the column for dad. They rallied. It was left with a very strict milk schedule. I read it slightly at my own liberty. The toddler ate his first full meal in weeks.

We played baseball outside. The baby slept. Everything. So as hard as these nights are, because we're in the trenches, all the other nights have sucked. But guess what? Sometimes you get these giant Ws, and they're incredible. Keep doing what you're doing, fellas.

We love it. Absolutely love it. extremely motivating. Appreciate you. Love you guys. Colin from North Carolina. Colin, I love the energy. I love the juice. You can hear it in your voice. Did he say it was one in the morning? One in the morning that he called in, whispering. Whisperin. Keeping a light. I thought I was like, okay, this is kind of, he's low energy right now. Like, is this a bad vibe? But hearing that W, because he's right, man. the wife goes out for the first time and you're ready to put on that s on your chest.

Yeah. And you're ready to take down everything in the house. We're going to eat a good meal. Hearing that his kid ate for the first time in weeks, that is a massive W. And you also learn it's like sometimes the kid, whatever's going on on their brain, it just, it might run smoother if it's just you and the kid. Yeah. Because if you have both parents you got, you know, they're working you.

They're working you the entire time. And when you're solo and your kid eats that meal all the way through and you're just thinking, you're thinking to yourself, she's going to come home and ask me, how did everything go? Yeah. And you're going to have that slow pan to where you just look and you're like, I crushed it. I crushed it. Buddy ate his full meal. Baby drank all of his bottles, slept through the night. I don't know if he's sleeping through the night yet.

what do you say two months old? Yeah, two months old. But he said sleeping. Sleeping. So he's getting, what he's trying to tell you is baby sleeping four hours at a time. Yeah. I'm guessing three, four hours at a time, smooth sleeping to where you fall asleep for a little bit. You might wake up.

You have your own little routine going on. But that is a massive W for the dads. Because I'm guessing at 1 a.m., that would be, he probably puts it down at 6 or 630. it woke up around 12 or 1230-ish. Possibly. And then he fed. Maybe the two-month-old had a bottle at seven. And you're thinking, all right, I'm going to be ready to go around 11,

and they might still be sleeping and stretch it out to 1 o'clock. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Those are the small wins that you relish in because it is, you know, you're in it when you got the young one. Sleeping schedules off. And that first time mom goes out on her own, you want them to go out. but the moment they walk out the door and it closes and the gates are locked, you need your heart to turn black because you don't know what you're about to be in for. And when it goes smooth and when you crush it,

and there's something about when you're just on your own and you're by yourself and you know, nobody's coming to save you, that you just find a new gear, a new level, and you get through the end of the night or end of bedtime and you think to yourself, yeah, I can handle my shit. Oh, shout out Colin.

Appreciate the call in, bro. An added bonus to Colin and Alex. Chef is going to reach out to them via 601 to Dads. He's going to get their home address and they're going to get some free merch for being featured on the show for the Dads. Let's go, boys. If your call gets featured on the show, guys, you're going to get some lids, maybe a shirt. We haven't fully decided yet, but you will get some free merch. Okay.

We have the topic, quote, or lesson of the week from Will Compton. from Wilcombe. Do you have one? I do not. Do you? Last week it was kind of hard to follow up, I feel like. I have one. I got a... And just really quick,

do you want me to have some topic quote lessons of the weeks? If you come across one, whether you're getting ready to be a father or something you come across, it's kind of like, you know, touch the old boy soul a little bit. Okay, cool. And it can be something small. Again, topic quote or, like... lesson. Like, it could be a quote. Like, I don't have one. I'm not necessarily prepared. I was thinking about it. And if I had any type of lesson, and I hate coming off, like, any of it is advice, because you're

going to get a lot of unsolicited advice. And I want to say the lesson is around that parent guilt or that dad guilt that you might have when you have a newborn or you have a toddler, you have a kid. And there are a lot of things that come your way. I know one thing that I've really learned over the past year that I try to put it in the practice is the power of no because there's going to be. And a lot of guys, you know, a lot of people don't necessarily have the option of opting out of something with work

or opting out of an opportunity that they have to go and chase because they have to do what they have to do to make sure they take care of everything at home and be that steady rock at home. And I think for me it was like there's always some, like as you're going through, this journey of everything and all the opportunities and things that we get to do that busing gets to do you can say yes to a lot of things yeah because we kind of create our own it's like we get to kind of build out what our future and everything looks like so there's always opportunities coming our way and we can say yes to everything and you get spread so thin that you start to have

the guilt when you're traveling or you're doing things that kind of pulls you away from the family and I know that weighs on people and they're you know guys kind of put you know the proverbial put their arm around you or they try and tell you things like hey you know that your kids won't remember or you have all of those little things that they're probably just trying to help you justify whatever your decision is it's like you know before they turn whenever their memory starts let's just say it's five years old it's like hey they won't remember if you didn't make it to this dance recital or you don't make it to i'm not going to say like their first birthday or like a birthday party there's something going on where the birthday party might be happening but you might have a massive

opportunity that you're kind of torn between the two. And I've, I've kind of like resisted when I hear people say like, hey, they won't remember X, Y, and Z because the way I've like flipped it in my mind and the way I thought about it. And it's funny because I was talking through this with somebody whenever I was, uh, when I was on some vitamins and minerals. And so, you know, you're thinking of the entire universe at that point. And what I kind of thought to myself or started to tell myself is if they don't remember up until again let's call it five years old yeah and when they grow up they're not going to remember all of these years these early years because you know how much do we even remember we don't remember a whole lot not a whole lot flashes or things or moments or it could be

bad moments that you might remember but i've just kind of thought to myself that the way i flip in my head that if they're not going to remember we do remember like our kids are here these first years of their life are for us to enjoy. Like it's for us to kind of look at the family we've gotten to create and enjoy these moments of time. Even though they might not remember it, we get to remember it. And they're here. They're on this earth right now for us to spend as much time with them as we can or to enjoy

them as much as possible. And that's the approach I've always, I've tried exercising and tried to be intentional with when I look at whether it's work opportunities or new. opportunities is, is this going to take away from the family time? And if so, like how much of it? How many bedtimes am I willing to miss? How many mornings am I willing to miss? And when you have that boundary for yourself, it helps kind of separate you to where you have. You learn that power of no of if it doesn't fit in this schedule, I'm going to say no to it because you want to prioritize and be intentional with wanting to be around. Because again, they might not remember, but you do

remember and they're here now, especially in them young years, man, when they probably won't have a whole lot of memory of it. But things that we can capture on video, they're here for us to enjoy. Yeah. So that would kind of be, I guess, my lesson or things that I've kind of thought about when thinking about them being really young and being in a position where, again, we can say yes to a lot of things and we have the opportunity and we're awarded a lot of, a lot of new things to do and be on the road a lot or travel a lot and make as much money as possible and do all of these things. So it's something that I've tried like sitting with myself and having certain boundaries to where if it doesn't fit in these priorities and in this time frame, then I will say no to it with the idea of I need to enjoy them as much as possible right now because there's going to come a moment to where they're not crawling anymore. They're not stationary anymore.

Yeah. You know, I was going to say not walking. They'll always be walking. But the last time that you'll be picking them up before they don't want you to pick them up anymore or you hold their hand. there are all these little things that will be in the past. Yeah. And just to add on to it, it's like if they don't remember up until five, when they're in between five and ten,

their foundation to be five and ten is still going to be built on what they were from one to five. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Maybe that doesn't make sense. No, it does. But how you show up now is still going to be the pattern or the... It's not like all of a sudden you just become the person that you are at six years. old and it's just don't right right right I know exactly what you mean so that would be yeah I love that lesson I just with Rue like and Scotty as well I put together a clip today of Will that like

featured a ton of Will's Instagram posts and in those posts it was like crazy just seeing like Rue in the photograph because I'm like really looking at the footage and making sure it all looks good. I'm like, man, she's growing fast. Seeing Scotty at the dad combine, her hair from when we shot that trailer to now is so much longer. And that felt like last week. So it's like, and those aren't even my kids.

And then also the fact of that was another thought that went through my head while I was putting that video together is I was like, man, Will is doing a killer job on the social media stuff just from a selfish standpoint of you being able to go back and see all those pictures and like dude we you don't know how many times like when mom's out of town and she's like she rur struggles if i'm home along with the kids and i have them for like a weekend or having like four or five days whatever it is yeah and she starts to be upset that mom's not home it's like i can just pull up instagram i'll pull up like charos like you want to see videos of mama and you can just go into our reels and kind of like watch old videos and that that calm her down and she can see like old

memories but dude i i sometimes it takes a while but i feel like it is it's like one of those things that when those moments are happening it's like man i'm glad i like made a video or i made a post about x y and z because you can like scroll back and see a lot of old memories yes dude and at the exact same thing you're saying about the dad combine and just busting in in general what jelly roll said like you're just making a photo a photo video video journal. Yeah. Which is so cool, dude.

Like having a Facebook, being like our generation, how old are you? I am 35. 35. Okay, so I'm three years younger than you. Having Facebook when we did. Yeah. You were probably like a sophomore in high school or something. Yeah.

Yeah. I was in seventh grade, I believe. And so, like, having that is so freaking fun, dude. And again, the thought of being a grandfather and being able to pull up your Facebook and be like, look at this, dude. You want up your IG, you scroll in thousands of posts. Yes. A quick lesson for, this would be for future dads.

There are guys that are thinking about being a dad. This was a quote from Jill's stepdad that I thought was really great. And he was talking about my professional career more so than fatherhood. But I think it's very applicable to future dads that are like, am I ready for this? Can I do this? Will I be a good dad? one, the fact that you're asking yourself that question is a good start. It means you care.

It means you care. So I would say the fact that you're asking that, that's a good sign. Second thing I'd say is everything in your life to this point has been getting you ready for something, whatever that next step is. And being able to eternalize all the, what is it called when you have done something, you're gaining perspective perspective you're gaining wisdom wisdom what does it what does it intern get whenever they work experience experience you're getting experience well done intern chef you're gaining experience for all these things throughout your life so

everything that you have gone through throughout your life all the happy stuff all the hard stuff all the challenging stuff as making you the person the man that you are today day and you can learn from everything that you've gone through, whether it's a mistake, whether it's good things, that will help prepare you for what is to come. And with fatherhood to apply that, I know nothing about fatherhood. But as I'm getting closer and closer to July 2nd, the induction date, there are moments where it's like lightning has struck my brain and I remember something that my dad always did. Or I remember. I remember. remember something that really upset me as a kid.

Specifically with Rue in the pool when Chara was like sitting there and having that conversation with her. And like realizing like, yeah, I probably would have wanted to like talk something out instead of, you know, having somebody yell at me or argue with me in that moment. So life is ever changing. There's always going to be things coming at you that you feel like. like you won't be ready for it, but just be able to use your past as a stepping stool

into whatever you're going into, I guess would be my lesson of the week. Yeah. Because, you know, there's a lot of fears and doubt and things on thinking if you can do it or not, right? Yes. And whether or not, none of us know how. Nobody knows how to be, you know, a perfect,

like a perfect dad that's an impossible expectation to have. And people might feel that way because maybe they had a lot of bad experiences in their childhood or in their life to where they might have had doubt. But I would say a way to use that is you know what you don't want it to look like. You know what I mean?

You know that you don't want to be this person or maybe one of your parents were this way or your dad was this way and you feel like it might be generational and it's an opportunity for you. I know people get motivated by breaking generational curses. Yeah. But even if you don't have all the best experiences

or the best memories that you're thinking like how I'm going to do this, like maybe you have, you had a rough one and you know what you don't want it to look like. And that right there is a great starting point on how you don't, you know what you don't want it to look like. I love that though. That was good, man.

Yeah. Yeah. Good show. Great show. Yeah. This one went a little long. Very long. Chef will have some editing to do.

Yeah, 144. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. We've got to get those numbers down. You know how I feel when we go a little too long. even on busing. Hey, let's cut some of this out. What should we aim for?

No clue. You know I like to be under the hour mark. You know I like to be under the hour mark. That might be impossible. And maybe people will be like, no, this is, you guys are, this is completely fine. Like, I know when I get on and I see it an episode and I know it's like under an hour, like our last one, what was our last one? 50 minutes. You see 50?

Okay. Oh, it's under an hour. Yeah. I can do that. So that's all. That's all I would. that's my only note too but we I was so lost in the sauce of conversation

that also was like hey maybe a good thing but at the same time I'm like oh man on the top of our sheet ETA expected runtime 45 minutes yeah so yeah yeah got a couple talkers up here yeah we got some talkers we'll we'll bring it in yeah maybe you take mother fucked I'll take crack a cold one you like we'll each one do one of the segment Yeah.

Yeah. That might be what we need to do. Pre-production meeting could be good for us. And pre-productive, which we didn't do. And that's okay. That's okay. It was a very busy week. Yeah.

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