Bussin' With The Boys - Will Compton Gives Parenting Advice For Your First Child, Delivery Room Do's & Don'ts | For The Dads

Episode Date: July 2, 2025

Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton presents a Bussin’ With The Boys production, For The Dads! As a father of two, Will knows how hard the job of a dad can be. Thus he created a safe space for dads to come together and talk about the insane stuff that we see and deal with every day.   He is joined by Sherman Young, whose first born is just days away, so Will share the highs and lows of having your first child. Sherm, understandably nervous and anxious to start his journey into fatherhood, confides in Will his excitement and trepidations for the arrival of his daughter, Scarlett.   Will starts out by throwing around names for the For The Dads community. Then Sherm talks to Will about his worries regarding getting enough sleep once Scarlett is born. Plus, Will talks Sherm through delivery room do's and don’ts and Sherm gets emotional talking about the pending arrival of his daughter. The boys take a call from a disappointed Husker Girl Dad, and Will devises a plan to help his daughter understand jerseys aren’t just for boys. For the message of the week, Will delivers a "letter to Sherm" welcoming him into “The Fatherhood.”   We hope you enjoy! Let us know in the comments what you'd like to see more of.   Check out the merch at BWTB.com!   ..and as always BIG HUGS and TINY KISSES!   TIMELINE CHAPTERS   00:00 - Intro 06:52 - Will throws around some FTD community names 10:23- Sherm talks about nerves for being a father 16:07 - Sherm is nervous about lack of sleep / Dad Losses 28:56 - Crack A Cold One 39:11 - What Are The Odds? 43:42 - Survival Kit 52:06 - Dad Hacks 1:02:36 - Call-Ins 1:36:59 - Will's message to Sherm   -----   For The Dads is for every guy who needs a place to talk, vent, and laugh about all the insane, hilarious, and chaotic sh** (sometimes literal) that comes with being a dad.   Hosted by Will Compton–NFL Vet, creator of Bussin' With the Boys, and proud dad of two. This show isn’t about expert advice and how fatherhood is the greatest thing on earth—it’s about embracing the love and suck of parenthood every day. From balancing work and family to battling the mental load, fears, and the moments that wreck you in the best way, we dive into it all with honesty, vulnerability, and a sense of humor. Cause at the end of the day... us dads have no idea what we're doing.   Alongside Will is his producer Sherman Young, a soon-to-be dad who’s currently enjoying his last few months of uninterrupted sleep and freedom. Together, they’ll break down everything that can go right and wrong (...usually wrong) when you bring tiny humans into this world.   Expect funny parenting stories, laughs, call-ins, advice, weekly themes, and the kind of conversations you’d have over a cold beer in the garage. Whether you’re raising teens or still Googling “how to install a car seat,” For the Dads is the ultimate podcast for dads who are in it, about to be in it, or just trying to do their best while screwing it up along the way.   -----   FOLLOW THE BOYS Instagram: / bussinwtb Twitter: / bussinwtb Facebook: / bussinwtb   LISTEN iTunes: http://bit.ly/BWTB_Apple Spotify: http://bit.ly/BWTB_Spotify   -----   SUPPORT OUR SPONSORSSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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So listen to Point Game on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to For the Dads. This is episode four. Whatever you're doing right now, look, we have people calling in from the chair at 3 a.m. trying to get their little one down. Maybe you're on a road trip. Maybe you're in the delivery room right now.

I know our boy's going to be in the delivery room here really soon. Actually, this week, as you listen to this, he's probably sitting in the delivering room. But whatever you're doing, make sure you are subscribe to this podcast, subscribe to this channel. We have a new channel. This is the first episode on that channel. All the data, all the information will now be on that channel. But this is at for the dad's pod on YouTube, for the dads on Spotify, for the dads on Apple, at for the dad's pod on all social channels. Fire me up, Shirm. We have a bunch of shit out there. A lot of stuff that you can subscribe to, help support up. I was in the coffee shop the other day.

And the dad was like, oh, hey, I loved your, I loved your clip on Instagram. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, that's, thank you for tuning to the show. He's like, oh, it's a show. How do I get on the show? And he's got his phone out. And I'm helping him navigate to YouTube just to subscribe to her channel. And he was so fired up and got my piss hot. But I'm wondering, these dads, these guys, you have to know.

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leave comments, the engagement has been off the charts. But we're fired up, Shirm. I know you're nervous, bro. This is the week. This is the week. This is the week.

It's game day. JP knows what I'm talking about. And I wish we have the rights to Skrilla so bad. I've been playing Skrilla a lot in the car. Now, do we get dinged when that comes on when I drop that, when I drop the beat?

Oh, for sure. Oh, it does so I can't. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. But if you're a listener, you pause this, play Scrilla for like that first five seconds, come back. Yeah. How are you feeling, man? Yeah.

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we want to get better at social media we were having a meeting a meeting of the minds myself you and chef jack on how we can engage more because there's there's there's so many call in it's like shout out to you guys who are using the hotline 601 the dads and calling in we have 500 plus voicemails over the last few weeks we're finding a way to kind of uh segment through those kind of compartmentalize those when you do call in it would be very helpful and again if you're tuning into the show for the for the first time. We talk dad losses. We talk moments we would crack a cold one too.

We have a call-in segment. We have dad hacks, what you need in the survival kit, a lesson or a quote or topic of the week that's kind of been marinating on our minds and hearts to just be better fathers. But we kind of hit those segments in our show. And if you're calling in,

you want to leave a voicemail, what helps our boy shift Jack a lot, to our producer who breaks all this stuff down on the back end, if you can just say, you know, at the top when you introduce yourself, this is a dad loss of mine this week. Or this is something I could crack a cold one too this week. Or this is a quote topic or lesson that I've really enjoyed that I think the boys

that dads might like. Or if you want to just vent about your wife beating you down verbally a little bit. And you know that beat down is needed, but you need a place to go in a safe space to talk about it. That's 601 the dad. So please do that for a boy, Chef Jack, behind the camera. And Shirm, obviously, Shirm will be on somewhat of a paternity leave, but you'll still be in it with the boys because we're a small business. We can't necessarily fully let you just be off work at all times.

But you're excited. I'm excited. I'm excited. And also to that point, Motherfucked has not gone to the wayside. We're more so introducing dab losses. And Motherfuck is really when you're getting Motherfucked. Yeah, because it would be hard every week to come up with a motherfucked moment

because, number one, we don't want to just talk about how we're just getting yelled at by our wives and painting the wives in a tough picture. But honestly, it's like there's not, those don't happen all the time to where there's a story to share it all times. And if you look at, if you looked at getting motherfucker, like that kind of, that kind of goes underneath the umbrella of like a dad loss. Like, hey, I took a dad L this week with my wife or I took a dad L with my daughter or my son or I took a dad L because I'm holding myself accountable and this is a dad L or was a bad moment for myself. So I feel like dad loss is as much easier kind of breakdown within the scope of talking about our failures as father. It is. It opens it up for us to find more stories. That was a pre-production decision that was not a decision from our wives saying, hey, what the fuck?

No, not at all. Not at all. Yeah. Not at all. But it's like, you know, I don't want to sit here and make up any. You know what I mean? So it's like, hey, I feel like dad losses would give us a lot more to work with in a failure segment. Yeah. And then also on a more serious note, one of the best problems to have is the problem that we're having that we're talking about. that social media meeting is just how much people are reaching out to us on socials and on the voicemail, which is unreal. Just the amount of times that we get on our pages, when we get on the four, the dad's phone and see how much you guys have blown us up. You said it was how many voicemails plus 500.

500 plus. I mean, the first week we kind of ran it, it was around like getting close to 300 when you had to take them off right or 180 or something like that, 200. Yeah. It's been nuts, man. And two, on the more serious note, when we do receive a call that we wouldn't be able to play on the show, a dad's going through it, parents are going through it. It's some kind of situation that like Will and I always say, we are not experts. And so for those situations that need an expert, there's the national parent and youth hotline. They have professional counselors that are ready to talk to somebody 24-7.

It's completely free. that number is 855 427-27-26 if you really want to get that kind of stuff off your chest if you need somebody to talk to that is a professional reach out to them we called the the number ourselves just to vet them they're awesome they're awesome that's a crack of cold one too right there shirm because i know you took the liberty of kind of vetting that yeah dude i mean dads need to get stuff off their chest and if they need that emotional support yeah they I'm here for the locker room talk. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

The locker room banter. Us just trying to figure this shit out. Yeah. Together. We're all in this together. By the way, I was thinking of, I was thinking of maybe a couple, some squad names out there.

Of the listeners or the dads? The listeners and like all of us. Okay. There's a couple that's kind of, you know, you got, uh, Papa Team 6. Hey, how about just going off the brotherhood?

The fatherhood. And you just get like, you know, you know the hats, how it says the loo and it's upside down? Yeah. We just get like fatherhood and it's upside down. And that's how you know you're like part of the fatherhood. Okay. I like that one a lot. Papa Team 6 is strong.

Papa Team 6 to where you can just refer to yourself like, oh, that's a Papa Seal. That's a Papa Seal. That's somebody who sent Seaman Team 6 down there and got the job done. Now he's a Papa Seal. And his heart's black as hell. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can tell he's been through some military tours. And what I mean by military tours is he's been on some road trips.

He's been on some vacations without any child care. Yeah. You can see it in his eyes. So just a couple thoughts. Those are a couple thoughts. I love both of those. I love the fatherhood hat upside down. Our merch team was on the phone with me last week and they were pitching some upside down stuff too.

like they're one to go heavy into it I think it's badass maybe we let the listeners decide maybe we'll let some comments decide if you have an opinion on whether we should call this audience this group of dads this community the fatherhood

or Papa Team 6 with it I kind of like my Papa Team 6 before coming into this I love I love the fatherhood hey he's part of the fatherhood maybe there's like a hierarchy you're

You're a real sicko if you're Papa Team 6. Yeah, yeah. He's part of the father, but I don't know if he's Papa Team 6 yet. Yeah, Papa Team 6 because there's some play on stuff there with Papa Team 6. Again, it's like, hey, that's a Papa Seal. How do you know he's a Papa Seal? Because he sent in Seaman Team 6. You got to check his stats.

He became a man, yeah. Yeah, yeah. If he's going around telling people he's popping Team 6, he's probably not Popa Team 6, those are the guys that stick out there at the bar. Let us know in the comments. Comments, by the way, have been, have been off the charts. I know, Sharm, you were telling me about some DMs and messages that you got. But just looking at, you know, whether it's on YouTube, the support has been unreal.

Thank you guys sincerely. I'm looking at one right now from Eli Weinstein. Did I say that right? Yeah. Eli Weinstein, as a dad and therapist who works with so many men and couples, this podcast is so needed. This is from no nickname over and out. hour is ideal. Charles a real one, got to get her on a few

pods. Call an episode would be sick. Been listening to Bustin for years, but man, this podcast is something different. Love this show. Green Bay Bucks, this show is so important to me already. As a father and soon-to-be dad of two. I've learned, experienced, felt, and look forward to so much due to this

podcast. It's so inspiring and makes you a better father. Great job, guys. Can't wait for episode four. People love the long episodes. Damn. We're going to try to keep this one under an hour. Damn, dude. There's no way. Under an hour.

No way. I told Will, I'm just going to be, I'm going to put it out there for the listeners. I am really, I was very nervous in episode one. I could tell listening to myself, I sounded nervous. Episodes two and three, I was like, okay, that sounds how, like, if I'm having lunch with Will. Or like, I'm talking to a friend. That's how I talk. Yeah.

going into this episode dude i got shaky hands like my chest feels like real heavy and stuff because i know we're probably going to talk about scarlet and all that stuff so i'm just going to get that out of the way i am extremely nervous and now that i've said it i'm already feeling better good good i feel better i'm in a safe space dude it feels like a big it's a big episode and a big moment because this week bro you become a dad oh dude You get welcomed in fully to the fatherhood or Papa Team 6. And it's no more, what's it called when you wear military stuff or you're not in the military? Stolen Ballard.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's felt like stolen Ballard this entire time, but y'all are like, no, no, you know, wear the hats, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's because everybody's welcome. There's like younger guys that's like, hey, I don't have, you see comments like, hey, I don't have a kid, but this pod juices me up for when fatherhood comes. Yeah, dude. Yeah, dude. Speaking of, I don't want to lose track of some of those comments because I pulled some comments. Yeah, talk about, because you had a couple cool DMs that you wanted to share.

Austin Cook wrote in, he's actually a doctor, a pediatric resident. But he did put a disclaimer, this is not medical advice. So I can't hold him to it. But he was giving me tips for the game in Waco said Jill doesn't have to pump a dump. gave me a link. Jill can have her brusky. So thank you, Austin Cook, for reaching out. We had another guy reach out.

Dexter. Dexter lives in Scotland. He's visiting the United States, and he hit me up, and he said, while I'm in Orlando on vacation, I want to get some of the merch sent to my hotel. I'm going to be here for two weeks. Can I get it within a two-week window? Dexter, I will get back to you. I'm going to reach out to our merch team.

But what a legend, dude. across the seas. Yeah. Shout out. Dexter. Shout out. And then, what's up,

Chef? What's chef? Chef coming from the top rope on? Chef's coming from the top rope and said, why don't we just cover shipping for him? I love that, chef. You're covering it?

I'm just totally fucking with you. Dude's coming in from Ireland. He's hungry for his bus with the boys or his for the dad's merch. Yes. I like that idea, chef. Love that idea, chef.

Yeah, because overseas would be nuts. We've got to get him hooked up. We'll get them, okay. I'll write that down. Yeah, let's get them hooked up. Dexter, you're getting hooked up, sir. And have we found our two from last week? I know we found Stephen.

Stephen and Thomas, yeah? Yes. So last week what happened was when you call in and get featured on the show, we'll be sending you some free merchandise, some free merch from the store. Well, last week, what happened was, When we dropped, when we dropped all of the voicemails on the drop box, it doesn't give the call in number and everything else. So we can't reach out to said who the caller was.

Last week, those callers were Stephen and Thomas. I did a video on social media at underscore Will Compton on all social media platforms. Did a video calling for, hey, we need to look for these guys. We found Stephen. We still need to find Thomas. So Thomas, if you're watching, leave a comment. DM at For the Dad's Pod We're vetting those

Because we need to find Thomas So we can get him some work We have to find Thomas And this could be the first official member of Papa Team 6 The person that finds Thomas Or the fatherhood Or the fatherhood

If you find Thomas I think that's They're denied They're in Yeah But yes Thomas If you're listening to this Please text the For the Dad's phone

Or call back in Prove that's yourself We got this awesome calling from Stephen. I found him in the comments of the YouTube. He said, oh man, that was my call in. Can't believe y'all featured me. You know, Stephen 6437. Hit him up. I said, bro, you got a call back in. We need your addy. We got to send you free merch. And this was the call that we got back. Hey, boys, it's Stephen down here from Georgia. I was featured in the latest pod, which I'm so pumped about. And my kids think it's hilarious, by the way. Don't have to know what he said. Don't want to docks his

phone number because he reads his number. I was thinking myself, are you about to play somewhere his address? Don't want to docks his address or his phone number. Can docks pop a seal. No, dude. I just love that he was in the car. You can hear the car noise. You can hear the kids in the back. I don't know what they screen. They were probably like, Papa Team Six. They're getting hype. You got to love it, dude. So shout out, Stephen. We got his address. I got address over to the merch team. He will be receiving his free for the dad's merch. Love it. Did you have a DM that you wanted to share that you said kind of made you a little emotional? Oh, yeah.

Wait for what are the odds. Or we can kick it off with what are the odds. It doesn't matter. We can hold it. We can hold it. We can hold it. Should we jump into our first segment, dad losses? Yes.

Talk about some dad ails that we've taken, which, you know, again, stolen valor. I'm sure there's a loss in there like as. You know, look, you're in a war yourself. Yeah. You have a pregnant wife been going to. through a lot. It has to carry it all. There's only so much that a man feels like they can do without just fully just supporting their wife. Hey, what do you need? What do you need? How can I help? Let me get your feet. You're a big foot rub guy. Big foot rub guy. Her feet are swelling like crazy, but she's had the

best attitude ever. I'm not just saying that to like get on her good graces. Like you brought it up last episode. She's a nurse. She's on her feet all the time at work. Her mom just got in town. They're doing a ton of shopping together and running around. She comes back and it's like at her ankles. You can just see where the socks ended. And I mean, her legs are so swollen. So guys with pregnant moms out there, rub those calves, rub those feet, take care of your girl. As far as like dad losses right now.

Yeah. I have one that I am pre saying that this is a dad loss because it hasn't happened yet. but I'm already feeling the effects of it this is what I'm the most worried about this is what I'm the most stressed about because I'm getting in the comments oh Sherman's a goner he sleeps in

last time you'll ever sleep in Sherman get ready to not sleep Sherman oh Sherman's never going to get his sleep anymore and I'm just reading these comments I'm like no more PubG I'm like fuck they're right because I'm just I'm I'm a you know

a three-legged dog when I don't get my sleep I'm playing handicapped. And I'm worried about how am I going to perform when I'm low on sleep? And I got the double shot espresso, you know, shout out, no free shout out, and espresso, already prepped in the kitchen, a lot of caffeine, ready. I slept like all weekend, like trying to get on a good sleep track. got 12 hours two nights ago

12 hours went to bed so early so many unread text messages because everybody's like get your fucking sleep dude you're never going to sleep again so you can sleep 12 hours oh yeah

oh yeah it's a problem dude this is an issue this is a dad loss for Sherman you ever get like checked for like sleep bad No. That could be a move for you. Oh, like I have sleep apnea. Yeah, like maybe you have sleep apnea. Is that the where you're like, and you need a mask? You could snore light. You could be somebody's on their back and their chin sinks back and your mouth's just open and you just kind of breathe, breathe poorly when you're sleeping. You strike me as a mouth breather. So you're getting more into your

chest and into your lungs. That's why like I can be a mouth breather. That's why I'll take my mouth shut at night so I can, you know, nasal breathe. When you get deeper into your diaphragm. Yes, dude. And actually when I think about it, because I bought that thing that you bought, the intake, strip and tape. And I was doing it. What happened?

I don't know. I just like, stop. I wasn't doing it as much. I need to get back on it, maybe. Yeah. But yeah, because, yeah, you're going into, you're going into the trenches. You're going into the depths of hell. One of our call-ins this week is somebody who's in the trenches.

Yeah. With sleeping and getting the kid down and everything else. That's what you're worried about. So what is your loss? You're just, you're prefacing. I'm just prefacing that future loss, dude, of like, I feel like I'm going to slip up. I feel like I'm not like, it's kind of like we're in the foxhole together.

Yeah. We're in Nam. Yeah. You did a great job being on patrol. You're like, Sherman, I'm going to, you get your Z's. I'm watching. And you're, you do it. great job you stay up now it's hey i'm about to pass out sherman you're on patrol i'm gonna be

sitting there like fuck dude i can't fall asleep i can't fall asleep all this safe sleep stuff with scarlet why why would you think to yourself i can't fall asleep i can't fall asleep because i'd be tired but if you're watching my back what would make you not fall asleep like in your brain you're like i can't fall asleep i can't fall asleep i fucking love my boy what are you thinking about i fucking love my boy why do you love your boy because he's got my back and you can't let him down. I can't let him down. Do you think that's going to get me through?

It's a sacrifice mentality. You're going to slip up. Like those things might happen. But you fall in asleep when you know you're carrying, you're holding your little girl, and you know you just have to self-talk. Look, losers react, winners anticipate. You have to anticipate that these bad nights are going to happen.

And you have to have, like, Hey, it's us, the Jonas brothers. And guess what? We have some big news. What's the news, Nick? news. We created our own podcast called Hey Jonas. We invented a podcast. Well, we didn't invent it. We just contributed to a first people to do podcasts. Pretty, yeah, pretty wide range of podcasts. We're starting a trend. But this one's extra special. So how do we, how do we actually come up with a name Hey Jonas,

guys? I honestly don't remember. I think it was on a call about what we should call it. And, well, we were thinking I'm originally calling it one of the early names of our band before Jonas Brothers. This is how you guys remember it going down? Yes. I have a very different memory of this. We were talking about a thing, a bit for the podcast, people could call in and say, hey, Jonas.

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when these moments are happy because you're going to be upset. There'll be times where I'd be holding Rue and she's not going down and it's three in the morning and I'm upset that it's my turn and I got to get out of bed to go to go put Rue back down

and she's not wanting to go to bed and there'll be times where I'm just like, you just have to go to sleep. And in those moments, you have to catch yourself. and remind yourself that I don't know nobody's coming to save you

Yeah And only you're going to get your You're only you're going to get yourself out of this mess Yeah And you might be staying up for another hour or so And that sucks But you just got to know And you have to embrace that suck

Because look When we're old We're about to die and shit We're going to wish We were in those trenches again Because they're going to get older They're going to be teaching us stuff when they're adults.

Yeah. And you're just going to sit back and think time has flown by and it's felt like a blink of a night. And you'll wish you're just back in those trenches trying to put them down to sleep because you just miss. You miss those moments because they're fleeting. But those are the things you've got to lean on when you're just at war. You're going to crush it.

It's not about being perfect. Yeah. It's about showing up. It's about taking those ails on the chin and know that you're in the middle of taking an ell. Maybe you're able to muster up a little laugh, a little laughter. Maybe you just throw in the old pot. Podcasts before the dads.

That's what I'm saying. And reflect back on this. Maybe you just drop me a little voice message at nighttime. Like, hey, you little cock sucker, I know you're sleeping right now. You feel pretty good that your kids are sleeping through the night. But I want you to know I'm in hell. Well, and I'm and I hope your sound is on so this might have a chance of waking your punk ass up. I just want you to know.

I hope I'm hanging. I'm hanging up. I'm going to call you again. I'm going to call you again. I hope she's spitting up. I got to go. I got to. I okay in defense of myself I'm not so worried about the trenches it's about like the the next day

that's what I'm worried about like performing like being at my best off because I know I'm not going to sleep but I just know myself on like light sleep and I'm like dude I got to get like good at that and that was my new year's resolution yeah um last year was like owning the mornings like owning that routine and just like I don't know I want to be able to like rock it in the mornings make jill's mornings easy get the formula going get the you know doing the dishes and shit I just know myself on write it down bro yeah right these upcoming potential losses down and when it's at when it's happening you just got to have you know if it's if it's uh waking up before jill If it's having this stuff ready before Jill gets out of bed, whatever it is.

It's just how can you remind yourself that this is the standard I wrote out? How can I stick to this and just nobody's coming to save me? Yeah. That's just the mentality. You have to anticipate all of it. And when it's coming, you can't react and be shocked because when you're reacting, then you're in your feelings, you're in your emotions. And lean on your boy.

Oh, dude. I'll be checking in on you. Yeah, I need to lean on my boy. This week I've had a ton of dudes. shout out Rubin, shout out Dylan, shout out Garrett, like a ton of my personal friends reaching out, sending text messages, calling me, shout out calling.

Like, you know, really pouring in and being like, dude, how are you? How's it going? So that does me a ton. I love that Jill's mom, like, showed up early because it's already got me and like, you got to impress the mother-in-law. And I'm in, like, full dad mode around the house. Like, there's not a thing out of order

because I'm, you know, make sure we're getting dinner for. Make sure the yard I did an extra weed eating that didn't even need to be done. Yeah. But like mother-in-law's in town, you got a weed eat. Yeah, man, listen. You just got to have Jocco Willink in the back of your head. When something's going wrong, good. When you're feeling sleepy, you only got two hours of sleep.

Good. Get my ass out of bed. When the baby's not going down and you're on duty, good. you might think Jill she took a little walk maybe she's going something to take care of herself right yeah yeah and you think the kid's going to go down okay here's a three hour window that they get to sleep maybe i can close my eyes they don't go to sleep you don't get your nap you got to think good i'm covered in shit yes good shit on me more fucking good bombing on me i dare you oh you did your diaper oh you shit again i fucking love your

easy ass. Oh, the, good. I'll change your diaper. I'll change that shit again. Dipe your trash kid's overflowing. Good. Wife's yelling at you because there's a rash now on the baby's ass because you wiped it so hard because you were pissed off.

Good. Be softer. Put the cream on afterwards. Dogs are pissed off because they're getting less attention so they're starting to pee on stuff so you finally pay attention to them. Good. Kid finally goes down. Dog wakes up.

They're making a lot of loud noise. Whets the baby up. chase the dog to give it a little, to give it a little discipline. Dog outruns you, runs outside, out the front door. You can't get the dog. You got to go chase him on the road. You can't find him. Good.

Good. You got to embrace the suck, Sherm. That shit is going to happen. I know you got those dogs. And Sherms always yelling at me at the front door. Keep them in. Keep them in. I hope those dogs outrun your ass too.

And they do every time. And you're piss off. I just, and think of me. I'm ready. And don't you dare send the text saying you can't show up before the dads. Because I'm just going to say, hey, this is what we prepared for. No. Good.

Good. Get your punk ass in here. I'm going to be on that bus. Yeah. Every Monday. Yeah. I'm going to be here for the dads. Good.

Good. Let me get to my dad loss because we got to keep this thing under an hour. We're 30? No, that felt like five minutes. That's perfect because we're in our... My themes are going to be around you and having your first kid. My dad lost. is essentially it's going to stem from this quote

don't try to fix your partner's labor pain just nod support and seek out what else you can do stay north of the wall and what I mean by north of the wall north of the curtain unless you want to see the full experience from the other side yeah however don't try to fix your partner's labor pain I made that mistake I talked about it on a show not too maybe our first episode or second episode yeah yeah where we had a birth plan it all went to shit everything on the birth plane

went to shit and she was she was like hey it's time to go C-section I'm like say sweetheart it seems like you're kind of giving up you're quitting the fucking glare she had in her i don't give a fuck if you think i'm giving up did she say that it's something like that it was blurry it got a little spinning sweetheart do you need me to stay rocky bout boa mentality right now i'm thinking this is what you wanted me for no it wasn't but my dead loss is just around the just a less of don't try to fix your partner's labor pain. Yeah. You're going to be in it.

It's going to be an experience. Excited to hear about it, but don't tell me too much, if you know what I mean. Let's get into Crack a Cold One, some positivity. Oh, yes. What do you got? You got a cold one right there. Oh. A nice Bud Light sitting on the back.

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Ooh. All right. You got anything for crack a cold one? I do. And it's along the same lines. Ed, I wrote down, crack a cold one. It's game day. It's game day.

Okay. Yeah. I know this is in the same vein of what we just talked about. Celebration, bro. This is a huge week. I am super excited for you. I actually, my lesson, quote, topic of the week that we do at the end of the episode, It's I wrote a little something that's for you.

So I'm excited for you. Bro, I'm so just messed up over like all this in a good way. Yeah. I would say my thing that is like my true crack of cold one is just like the thought of like Jill said that her moment that she's been looking forward to the most in our relationship is seeing me holding Scarlet. She didn't have a dad for majority of her childhood. And, dude, I'm so stoked to, like, be everything that she thinks I can be to our daughter. I can't wait to hold her. That's why crack.

Let me get a little down, right? You got me tear up Oh God Hey, you You cry like a bitch though I'd cry like a bitch

We're all such I cry like a bitch Ugh I gotta break it up With you say Hey you cry like a bitch Larry Stop fucking crying

You're making me cry Papa Seals Six Uh No No Papa Seals don't cry now Yeah

Actually yeah we do We do all the time Ugh Oh My crack a cold one Is going to be getting one up on your wife. This isn't, this isn't about fatherhood.

I'm going to set that aside for a second. But every Sunday, my wife, she, as you guys know, she operates, she runs. She owns the bar three studios here in Nashville. So if you're looking for a little sweat bar three. So she'll teach, she'll spot teach throughout the week, but usually she runs a couple classes on Sunday. So it's usually, you know, daddy daughter day on Sunday mornings. and you know how I'm the guy who's forgetful.

Lillian last week she hit me with just having to remind me to do, you know, a lot of different things. It'd be nice if I can think on my feet and think ahead a little bit. She's not wrong. I get that every week. Yeah, yeah. Every week. Yeah. But she's been on a run now to where she's forgotten the car base, the car seat base, a few weekends in a row.

And when I'm going to take the kiddos somewhere and the car seat. seat bases and sitting out in the garage to where I can put it in my truck and then we got Scotty I know people are thinking oh we need a couple car bases why don't you have more than one we do the nanny has the other one and we just kind of we kind of mix up what happens but for those people shut up this is this is this is my moment right now when she forgot that base and I just got to send a text hey sweetheart you forgot the base again just letting you know and I'm kind of smiling behind my phone because I know when she reads it she already said it looks like I'm the one that has to get get reminded now because there's something that's like,

and it shouldn't, but it elates my soul. And I'm like, you get them on something that they just beat you to the ground for at times. And you just, you beat yourself down to the ground because you're like, you stupid idiot who has CTE brain and everything else you can't remember to do these little things. But it was nice. So my crack of call was just getting one up, getting one up on the old wife. That's the best feeling in the entire world. whenever I find some of Jill's clothes

I hit her with the uh is that where this goes because that's what I get hit with every time I need to home oh yeah and that's usually I get a slug in the shoulder or something it doesn't go over well but I do have to remind her I'm like hey is that where that goes yeah I don't think so um

sweet up with the also also an awesome comment that we got it uh that made me think not to shift the energy. Okay. Losing them, losing them, losing them. Sam, keep it under an hour. Sam reached out and he said,

hey, for the dads that love the pod and their wives want to listen to while they're listening, we one episode should do 30 minutes of just glazing the wives so that the husbands can be like, honey, this is the show I've been listening to. You know that show that I've been telling you about, for the dads, it's teaching me to be a great dad? Check this thing out.

First 30 minutes were just glazing the wives. I don't hate that at all. I don't either. Because they deserve most to shine. Yeah, they do. They do. But I thought that was a great comment. Yeah.

Chef said we should put a code word in the title. To let me know this is one that, hey, if you feel like your wife might be on the fence for just the dad community, bitching about our own shit. They're thinking about planning out the entire week. What are we eating this week? week. Here's the shopping list. Here's all the ingredients we got to get. We got to make sure dinner's on the table for everybody. Like, sweetheart, we can't just, you can't just run and gun. No, that answer is no. You got to be prepared. And yeah, yeah, the moms do need, the moms do

need shine. I would. Moms do have shine. They have shine. They're the superheroes. We'll say that. We know that we are inferior. Yes. Pains me to say, because I just want to run up my stats. change a couple of diapers What was your list that you knocked out? You're talking about the one that went This weekend Oh this weekend Yeah yeah I was talking about Big Dad Day

Massive Dad Day Changing filters Taking outdoor furniture To a drop off Hide and seek with Rue But you know That's a heavy day right there for a day Yeah

I love I love messing around with that stuff Yeah. And I sent this message to somebody and I can't find it. But I said if for the dad's was a tree house, there's no sign on the outside of it that says like no girls allowed. No. Do we have we have wives and moms like in the comments? Oh, for sure. Enjoy this so far. Which was I guess surprising because I'm thinking like, you know, this would be some good dad fun, some good dad banter. Let's hope the wives don't really tune in a whole lot. Because it's the shit you're listening to. Oh, you think you got a hard life buddy? Bucco. What does it mean to have your heart turned black, honey? That's concerning. Yeah. Honey. You don't get it.

Oh, they're complaining about this? Oh, man. I love it, though. By the way, we are going to have, we'll be having our wives on. We'd love to get. God, that would be hilarious. We'd love to do collaborative podcasts. Yeah.

Because, again, we love to banter around locker room talk, make it about the dads, grow the community. That would be a ton of fun to collab with some mom podcasts. Yeah. That would be hilarious. Just see them pick us apart. I would love it. I would sit there. I would take no.

Pick us apart. We'd have our own offense. Oh, we'd. We would bring some stuff too, but secretly would be over here. What did you say? What were you doing? But yeah, I love that. That was your crack of cold one?

Yeah, that was my cracker cold one. Okay, cool. We want to spit into what are the odds? Yes. This, what are the odds is really badass. Shout out Fandall Sportsbook. Shout out Fandall Sportsbook. We have, this one came from Dean Nielsen. So what are the odds from Dean Nielsen?

His son, Robbie, was given a less than 1% chance to survive and spent seven days in the NICU when his wife's placenta ruptured. he provided some pictures of his kid on the bed fighting for his life he said my wife went from role playing on how we're going to going to explain to our three-year-old daughter that brother went to heaven to now having a miracle boy we're celebrating his first birthday on 613 so that's in the past now right yeah yeah june 13 so Robbie had his first first birthday he's a thousand percent getting in the credits it's him at a baseball game um he said this story is meant to remind the dads no matter how hard things get uh to remind yourself how lucky we are to have our kids

and to be dads not a day goes by where i don't think about what my little dude battled through um and him now he'll have the best pregame speech that you can ever have uh which i just love that idea of uh you know being told less than one percent chance and just beating the odds. So the what are the odds this week goes to Robbie Nielsen that just celebrated his first birthday. Shout out Robbie, dude. Dio, I could not imagine less than a one percent being told there's essentially a less than a one

percent chance. And your kids fighting the NICU and you're trying to think of stories to tell the other one. Oh, yeah. God. I read that first thing when I woke up, he'd DM me this morning.

I had tears of my eyes before I even got out of bed and I knew that we had this episode and you were probably going to cook up something that would make me cry. I would probably say some shit that would make me cry. So I was just like,

oh, God, this is just going to be ugly. I tell you what, dad's emotions are on the fence I feel like at all times, especially when stories like that. It's hard to watch movies now involving like very sensitive moments and I'm not thinking about my daughters you know what I mean oh yeah

it's uh we're sensitive man oh yeah I just can't I literally cannot wait for the day because Robbie looks like he'd be a little Mike linebacker um just ready to get in the A gap oh dude and his half time speech when they're down three Tuddies I took on the A gap alive they gave me less than one percent one percent dude that really is going to be silent. They're going to talk about the day Robbie dropped that halftime speech and they came back out and beat that ass, came back down three touchdowns. That's awesome.

It's just electric, dude. Who sent that again? That was Dean Nielsen. Shout out Dean, man. That's, uh, I'm fired up that you celebrated the first birthday. And I can't imagine the fear that you and your wife had a year ago. Truly could not imagine. it's crazy there was even some like rue was in the nixu for seven days i think oh i didn't know that

yeah when she when she got delivered she had uh it was essentially she had swallowed like i forget the word the term that they used but like her own shit essentially it's like melanchonium or oh yeah and that's like that's common right yeah yeah yeah it's not it's not like an uncommon thing but you sit there and like you you cut the cord and everything else and you're wanting to hold her got to take her back pretty quickly, pretty swiftly to, like, you know, get her going to help her lungs and everything else. But just in the spot to where you're at the hospital for a week and it's only like visiting time. This was like during COVID too. So you can only like, it can only be you and one other person. Oh gosh. And you're just going back and visiting her and spending time with her

to like breastfeed and try to hold her and do skin on skin. Um, and then like going, going home and basically just sleeping at her house knowing like your baby's not home yet. Like that was, that was tough of times for myself and charo but i could not imagine and being in that situation right there i know there's just so many that you hear about that just give yourself perspective on shit can just be stuff can be way worse situations can be way worse circumstances could be way worse yeah dude counting your blessings in general and i as you were talking i was like since we're throwing out merch like popsicles dean needs some merch i'll get his address i'll get his address we got to we got to keep a roll because we got to keep this under an hour.

What are we at, Chef? 42. We're moving and grooving. We are kind of moving and grooving. We're going to lose subscribers, though, if we go under an hour. They said, though, unsubscribe. They might, but I feel like, hey, the fatherhood or Papa Team 6 being a part of that crew, I think that's kind of hard to unsubscribe for them.

That's true. They're just trying to scare us. One thing that we do. Sorry for that. Excuse me. one thing that we do need because you know boys will be boys with their phones and not spreading the good word but we need you guys to hit your dad group chats help get this brand help get these episodes out to your friends anybody that you think would enjoy this because that's kind of how you help that's how we all help grow a brand um organically so that's a big call to action that we need from the boys from the from the boys in the fatherhood or from the papa seals and papa team six again We'll leave that name up, that name up for debate with our audience, see how they feel, but help spread the word.

Yeah, spread the good word about this new show. Survival Kit. You want me to rip this one off? Yeah. My Survival Kit, again, theming around yourself and that if you're a new dad first week, maybe something your wife might not be privy to. Maybe you're in trimester one, trimester two, and you're just starting to kind of dive into the tricks of the trade.

But if you bring this to your wife, she'll be thinking, oh, he's on his toes. diving in, he's thinking about stuff like this. So my survival kid is apps to track feedings. I know my wife and I we use the Ovia parenting app. There's also pump log. There's also milk made.

And again, that might be like a small simple thing. Like, yeah, of course you need to like track your feedings, but I'm telling you it's such a world that you don't know what's what to think about. Oh, we're putting this in the backpack. Oh, we need this for going to the hospital. She's

putting something in the backpacker, buy something. Hey, can you go grab that? And you're just thinking, how did we get to this point to where it looks like we're traveling for a three-day vacation, a three-day vacation going into the hospital? But the smallest things matter. The smallest things matter. And gentlemen, if you're thinking on your toes and it hasn't been brought to light yet, but just something like of a, you bringing something to the table that's like,

hey, if we thought about an app, she might look at you a little crazy, but it's a thought that counts. Like, she'll probably think, of course, I have an app on my phone that's been tracking X, Y, and Z the whole time. Just telling you, it's doing a little research on my own. But mine's going to be apps to track your feedings, because that was big time. At first, I was doing it on a one. I had a whole structure got it out on the whiteboard.

You know I'm a big whiteboard guy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I spent an hour trying to put this whiteboard together. And I went to show Charo and she came out to the garage to see it. And I was like, you know, the ounces, the what else is there? the ounces, if you're still breastfeeding, left boob,

right boob, like the minutes in each one to where if you're breastfeeding, it's kind of hard to track how much that they're actually getting. And I put this whole thing together on the whiteboard, and she was just like,

yeah, I mean, they give us, we have an app that we can do this on. Just took the air right out of my balloon. Gonna get me a little pat, like,

I love that you're thinking about this stuff. She definitely appreciated it, though. And that you have the physical manifestation of the whiteboard. It's like she saw the work that you put into it. And you might think it's dumb and not needed. Maybe your wife is just doing it and you're not necessarily thinking about her. She might ask you what times you feed her, how long was it, or how much did she have.

And you might be coming off a long nap and forgetting some of that because there's so much information that goes. I mean, you're this, this thing's eaten now several times throughout the day. And you might not remember, but just plugging it in on the app, I'm telling you, it helps you track everything. remember everything because you'll be surprised how easily that you can forget. And after a long night, and she's like, hey, you know, how much did you feed her? How much was this? And you're kind of like, I think it was between two and three. Well, was it two?

Was it three? I don't know. I thought she did this. It was around this time. I can't remember which time. I'm telling you the apps. The apps definitely help. I have a question because we're going to try in breastfeed.

If, like, do you have to wake up Jill? You can't breastfeed, Cherm? Well, but like, can, can she stay asleep? we're going to try to breast feed. Can she stay asleep? I know that's a weird question. Yeah, I think they call it like dream feeding. So you can't do that.

Yeah, so Charles was big on not wanting the baby in the room. So I want to say, what's that little thing of Bassinet? Yeah, yeah. Bassinet that would sit by the bed. I want to say Roo was in the room for maybe two nights tops. But Charles was really big on separating our room being our room. and then Rue just getting her as acclimated, doesn't matter how early it is,

like to her room and knowing that these are her surroundings when she goes to bed every night. Yeah. So, Charles was big on not having the baby in a room. I know a lot of people, they'll sleep with the baby, so that way they can just roll over, slip the nip in. They'll be in the bassinet right next to the bed

so they can get out, feed them. Maybe they leave the room, maybe not. Maybe they have a little chair or a little room set up for feedings like in the baby's room. So everybody's different. There's no right or wrong way. But the way we did it, is,

um, Charles would just, we would be on this, uh, schedule because I want to say they, you know, they feed and they sleep for, you're hoping that stretches for three hours at a time before they wake up and want to feed again.

Um, and she would just go upstairs. She would just go upstairs to Roo's room and feed because we had the little monitor, you know, you swallow their little ass up, tuck them in tight so their arms can't get out. Which again, get on the swaddle game.

Watch some videos. Yeah, they'll teach you at the hospital, but watch videos because again, you'll forget. Um, and we just, watching the monitor so whenever we hear um charl would go up two feeter and charl would also pump so we also

had bottles i forget how early we started doing the the pumping maybe early i don't know i can't remember so that way if i was on watch if i was on the night's watch then and these were my hours say 11 p.m. 2 a.m. is what i'm trying to hit with rue yeah um i would just out here wake up i'd go get the i'd go warm up some milk and then i would go up there and feed her but we would do all the feedings like in her room. Okay. To answer your question, yes. Say she was in a bassinet next to you.

Yeah. She's breastfeeding and it's all her doing it. There's no pumping or anything involved. Yes, she'd be able to take the baby. Baby feeds. I'm sure they both fall asleep. Their dream feeding is what they call it. And I just sit there.

I make sure, you know, she's not rolling over, blah, blah, blah. Like, okay. Oh, buddy. I'm on the love it for you. You're going to be sitting there while. I got to stay up right now. I'm just going to be so nervous too. I asked to go to sleep.

Like, hey, sooner, can I just fall back asleep? What do you need from me right now? It seems like, seems like this a one-man job. You good? Yeah. Because you're the one feeding her. I'm not really feeding it. That's interesting with the bassinet, too,

because she was talking about we're going to have it in the room, but I don't know for how long. Dude, it's your own priority. But I'll ask her that. I'd feel like an asshole given, like, unsolicited advice because it's not like my unsolicited advice is back up anything, because all we've done is, like, how we go about it. And it's like people do a lot of different things.

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For my... He's a grown man. He's still sleeping with the 21 years old. Sorry, stupid. No, no, you're fine. I'm in my world right now. For my survival kit, I have the Duna because it's my first baby, God, I blank so hard. It's like my first baby equipment that I've dealt with.

And I went into it thinking this Duna thing is going to be a whole ordeal to put it into my car. You're talking about the little car seat? Yes, the little, like the actual. The base? The base. Yeah. Yep. So easy.

But do we have a duna? I know, I think you have a nuna. Duna and nuna are they related? Not related. Two separate things. We have both a duna and a nuna. The nuna, and correct me if I'm wrong, dad's at home, supports a, like, wider range of weight for the carrier. The duna is more of like your newborn.

it's kind of lighter, it's kind of smaller, it's for a newborn baby. And so I was putting the Duna base into the car. It was the easiest thing in the entire world. It was incredible. Space are crazy. You just connect those little metal things in the seat. That makes sense now.

Click it in, then you just put the car seat on top, clicks in. Yes. Fascinating. Oh, dude, and I looked like an absolute hero. When I put that into my car, Jill was like, oh, do you get it already? I said, yeah, where's your base? I'll put it in your car too. Just acted like it was this whole thing. I was putting it in there.

Came back in. Hey, yours is, yours is ready to go. Locked and loaded. Yeah, yeah. That's a good one. So that's my, that's my survival kit. Duna, Nuna. Doona. Whatever. Get on it. Dad hacks. My dad hack for you. Learn a lullaby. Learn a lullaby. I think this is, look, when you're in the trenches, you need to have some go-to-to tunes. that daddy is singing, that mama is singing, that the baby is going to recognize, because they want to feel safe, they feel safe,

they're in your arms, they're going to know they're in your arms, and they're going to hear your voice, they're going to know your voice, and you're just going to want to sing some tunes just to pass some time. My go-to lullabies were Sweet Nothing by Taylor Swift. I spy with my little tired eye,

I kind of forgot out a little bit. Last night. Sweet nothing I would hum it I'm more of a hummer Lullaby type of guy I love that one I will sing Is

This African lullaby I'mbo Wimbo What Do you remember watching the movie Mighty Joe Young? Yes the gorilla That escapes the zoo Or they're like trying to get them to the zoo

Orchers are trying to kill these gorillas Yes Mighty Joe Young King Kong looking motherfuck Yeah Dude there's a lullaby in there that has always stuck with me since watching that movie. No way.

And it's imba wimbo wahu pepo, wakati no, no, tamu. Inba wimbo, wahu peepo, wakati no, tamu. And now I just run that on repeat. Humming, singing it, it's my go-to. Bro, you know it. Yo, yeah, I love it. And I'm so happy about it because Roo will now sing this to Scotty.

No. Yes, bro. Hey, hey, Roo, do you want to sing Mbo Wimbo to Scotty? Or when I put Scottie down and she wants Daddy to come up, say Mama did bedtime. I want Dadda to come up and give me hug and a kiss and three squeezes. Like, one, two, three, I love you. I want Dad, I want you sing Inbo Wimbo. And I would, like, lay down next to her bed.

Like, as they got with it and as they got older, he'd be like imbo wim and i would i sung that song to her from from birth bro every time i sat down with her fetter bottles sing her to sleep whatever it is imba wimbo's the go to what is it about i don't know that's the best part i don't know i've just always loved that song it's like in the movie sad it's sad story like poachers come they kill mighty joe young's mom gorilla like as are poaching her the gal, I forget, is it Charlize? Charlize, what? Oh, Charlize Theron.

Yeah, Charlize Theron. She's one of her earlier films. And she's the daughter in this scene. And her mom, like her crew, they help protect gorillas against poachers and keep guerrillas safe in their habitat and everything else. And I want to say her mom gets shot

and they're sitting there. It's Mighty Joe Young, baby Mighty Joe Young. Mighty Joe Young's mom just got killed by the poachers. Yeah. And it's Mighty Joe Young, Charlize. Shirley's. Anyway, her sitting there as a daughter with Mighty Joe Young and her mom's, and they're holding them both.

And she's just telling them, hey, hey, you're going to be safe. Get back to, you know, you're going to get back to camp. And just keeping them, making her feel safe as possible, knowing that she's probably about to die because she got shot or something happened. Yeah. And she's just singing her this lullaby, Inbo Wimbo. The character grows up, taking care of Mighty Joe Young. Yeah.

sings his song to Mighty Joe Young, like trying to make sure to keep him safe, calm him down anytime he's acting up because he tried to put him in a zoo, put him in containment. She knows, no, he needs to be running out in Africa. Yeah, bro, and I've just, I love that movie, had the little VHS cassette tape, everything. I love that movie. I've always loved that song. And that was like one of my initial thoughts when singing a real lullaby. So get to know a lullaby. There's a lot of good stuff out there. I just love that in general because I've always said that those African choirs or even the child choirs and stuff there's nothing happier than some of those African languages when they're just singing in unison

dude when the World Cup was in South Africa and all those South African World Cup songs were bangers Waka Waka It's time for Africa Twinkle Twinkle Little Star You'll sing all the classics that you know.

You remember Hallelujah from Shrek? Oh yeah. Hallelujah. I would do stuff like that. And I would try in and dads, mom's dads, they might be on this wave too,

but you sing them so much that you start trying to figure out your own lyrics for the song that's tailored towards them. It was like, once there was this little girl and her little name was cerulean

and she was so good she always smiled I'll try to sing her this like when she was like acting up yeah yeah yeah she was just like stare at me her eyes were like the ocean blue her dad's her wait her name was after the ocean blue her eyes the same her daddy's too and she was so good she always smiled

then I would like make something up until I got it in the hallelujah you'll have fun they dudes bro he's rocking in He's rocking it Don't let me get hot right now, boys He's rocking it with the lullaby Because the blue oceans, the color blue Yes Just me start acting up

Her eyes are blue Or daddy's too on my eyes are blue That's why I wrote it like that That's why I wrote like that I don't know if you felt that bar for a lot That's why I put it in there It's deeper It's deeper than

Your server's lover You look at me like you don't get it Like Dude I love that I love that. My dad hack is so dumb because I was just trying to think of something funny, but it does work. And this is for the cats out there that aren't fully dead.

This is just for if you're living with your significant other, okay? You time out that yard work to where you still have the grass a little bit on you. It's on your shoes. It's on your socks. It's on your shirt. You're sweaty, dude. And you time out that you're finishing the yard work right when she's pulling up. there's just i'm just telling you

it works with my girl i don't know if it works for every girl but there's something about them coming home seeing you covered in sweat and you got the grass all over you they see how beautiful the yard work or yard work looks take off the shades put them on your head oh yeah dude and just give just give them a little show you're just giving them a little show just a little taste and vindmower here's another dad hack vin mower for some uh was it the manny petty

shoot her at Venmo and just say Mani Petty, unsolicited, while you're doing the yard work. That's some game, Cherm. You hit her with the Mani Petty Venmo. She comes back from the Mani Petty because she was already out shopping. You're covered in sweat and grassed it. And you don't think you're not taking a shower with it? Just put you on game.

I know that that's so shallow compared to after a lullaby, but I don't have a kid yet. Yeah. So that's just like, that's some game. This is this pod's here for. Yeah, come on. So what this pod's here for. I'm going to take a quick leak.

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slash dads for $15 off your first order. compounded drugs are permitted to be prescribed under federal law but are not FDA approved and do not undergo FDA safety effectiveness or manufacturing review. For full safety information, go to road.co slash safety info. Back to the episode. As we get back into it, Chef pulled up that lullaby and we were, I googled that lullaby for Mighty Joe Young. It's called The Wind Song. Do you want to hear the translation to that song? Yeah.

Sing a song, and for a moment you will be visited by the wind. Sing a song and for a moment dream sweetly of the wind. Sleep now until the night is dawn. The wind and the night song, they are there. However, the song, my child, will go on forever. That is the wind song. And chef played it for me. It hits.

Inbo, wimbo. Yeah, yeah. more lyrics i just don't i can't i couldn't remember in in mighty joe young it was it mainly hit those first couple lines and then i would just repeat it oh yeah oh yeah he played it and also shout out no free shout out bill paxon dude what a yeah the actor yes yeah what a legend r ip's in the chat for bill paxon he is awesome yeah yeah if we want to be if we want to be yeah um or do we want to get to some call-ins yes we got We've got to keep this one under an hour.

We got to keep it under an hour. Where are we at, chef? Yeah, where are we at, chef? Hour and one minute. Okay. We've got to figure out a way to get this under an hour. Yeah. We'll get there.

That'll just be what we do every week. That we just get under an hour. Gotta keep this one under an hour. And we're actually doing really well. We're at hour 45. I know we said we were going to try and get under an hour, guys. But now we're just, we're under two hours. So we're actually doing well.

First caller. This is Do we want to do the P word one first? This comes from Caleb. Caleb. This is a dad win. All right. Caleb, excited to hear about this dad win.

This is Caleb. The biggest fan from Bussin. This is a message coming from the trenches. Doctor, our baby's about to be two. She's a girl. doctor says we've got to get rid of the pee word that's the pacifier we know in our house can't say it right now we're on day seven and no pacifier and for seven days bedtime has been hearts black hearts of stone got a fight to get her down today just got back from a road trip it's currently 749 p.m.

right at her normal bedtime. We do bedtime routine, set the expectations like laid out on the show, put her in the crib, no P-word, she's out. No fussing, no holding, no negotiating. Thank you for your advice. Just letting you know that right now, the battle of the pacifier has been won by the dads. Let's go, Caleb. For the dad.

Love you, boys. Let's go, Caleb. Hey, that's big time. That's huge. Advice from the show work. Did he say you think? Let's go, Caleb. Did he say that his heart and turned black and turned to stone?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Turn black. Layed the expectations like you heard on the show. No P-word was dropped. She slept. The pacifier is hard, bro. Rue was massive in the pacifier game. Yeah, dude.

And we essentially, like, there's a few ways to go about it. You go cold turkey, you can go clean. It sounds like our boy Caleb did. Had to fight that battle for seven days. They'll be like, you know, you can get some advice on the internet that might give you like different time frames, whether it's like, say, six months a year, year and a half, two years. Yeah, you can poke holes to where the air kind of, you know, it's out. They don't enjoy it as much.

Roo didn't give a shit. We tried the whole poke stuff. We try the whole poke stuff. It's always passing Thai. We have this little wubbunub, which, by the way, wubbinubs. We got some wubbub. Wobb's. We got them.

That's game right there. Is that what Tigey is? Tyggy was a wubb. Losses passy off the end. Got it. Fault through, you know, fought through some battles of his own. But Tygey's been like her, you know, her like pacifier as like a stuffed animal. Yes.

She's steeledotes. Yeah. Tyggy's like her. Tegis are main, dude. Yeah. Taggies are main little bulls. I was like slow to say that because I'm like, Kids show, there's parents show.

Do I say big? It's our main big. Yeah, that's our main big. I'd asked her if Tygey had a voice and she was talking for Tyge. Yeah, she's got a whole... She's got to hold for Tygie. Oh, yeah. She's got to hold more.

Taggy loves to play hide and seek. I got to find Tyge. Yes, that's right. Yeah, Tygie loves to play hide and seek. Oh, my God. But getting rid of the past, he was a tough hurdle for us. We essentially, we positioned it as when she turned three, we're going to go take her passies to the passy fairy

so we take her somewhere you take them to a store and you exchange passies and then you'll get a you'll get a little like a toy or a game in return but you donate them and give them to the passy fairy passy fairy takes them this is like the circle of life this is the natural this is what we do with passing I love this yeah so we took her to the passy fairy like a took her to a store that does this

and we got a little we got a little board game a little board game in return and the board game is sick. What is it? I got to look it up. Wait, was this a, this is a physical store that you brought a her. Physical store. Yeah, where they do Passy Fairy. Or they, you donate them.

You donate the Passies. They do whatever with them. Oh, that's sick. And yeah, you hype it up like this moment. She's got to let go of Passy. Now, bedtime was tough at first. I will say, I got lucky personally. This is when my wife was battling.

This is where my wife, this is the superhero of the story. I was, we were traveling somewhere for bus and so it got timed up to work. Oh, no. Charo had to do the bedtimes. You know what I said? Bedtimes were hard the first couple days. And she's like real convenient that you wanted to. I think I remembered this.

This was since I've been here at the office. Yeah. Yeah. So Charo had to kind of handle the first couple bedtimes. But when I got back and I was doing bedtime, like she would still, just a weird moments of where she kind of starts having a tantrum and she wants passy, sweetheart. We took PASY to the PASY Ferry. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I want Scotty's Patsy. Those passies are for Scotty. Uh-huh. And you got to kind of keep her way, kind of shift her brain, say, oh, look at that truck. Or, hey, look at your stuffed animal. He needs some help. He just fell over. Yeah, look at Tygie.

Oh, what's that Tyke? I know she gave her passes to Passie Ferry, but she probably doesn't want to hear that right now. Oh, you want to give her a hug? I don't know. I'll ask her if she wants you to give her hug. Hey, Tygie would like to give you hug because he sees that you're having a hard time right now. It seems like he really wants to give you a hug. Would you want to give him hug?

Yeah. And then she'll like hug Tygey and then you would create a conversation with her and Tyke to kind of get their brain shifted somewhere else. Let me look up this board game. Kids, board game, troll, and unicorns. I just love the thought of Charo, like fighting the pacifier thing. And I think it was the A&M trip was when you're. you were doing the pacifier switch no we were trying to oh you were trying to we were trying to do the cold turkey and we just we could i don't know we weren't badass enough to just do it

yeah you just you feel for them you're so emotionally wrapped up in their in their story too you feel for them and when they're just losing your mind you're just like all right take the bassie jesus christ it's not gone i had it in my back pocket take the passie i don't want any problems you can put the gun down the terrace swiss give me the terrorist win. Yeah. There's a win. So then we had to reorganize because I think we were going to do it at like around two

and a half years, which would have made sense for the Texas A&M game. Yeah. So then we shifted. We're like, all right, at three. When she has her third birthday party, we're going to talk to her about it for like a month ahead of time. Hey, whenever you turn three, you get to go take your passies to the passie fairy. Like that's what you do at three years old and had to get her like get her on board.

That is right. So that's how we kind of shifted it because she was again. She still had her passie. Found the game. Oh, here we go. This, I would save this for another crack a cold one or a dad hack, survival kit, because this is a good one. Share and Sparkle Unicorns.

It's a peaceable, it's a peaceable Kingdom Cooperative Board game. And it is a fun game, bro. It's a fun game. I'll have crack a cold one for this game because I have a couple fun stories that pertain to this. But share and Sparkle Unicorns. This is, again, a cool. cooperative multiplayer game to where if we all played us three me sherman chef we would be battling the troll we can't let troll get all the stones and you roll dice you draw you draw these stones out

of a bag out of a little baggy and if you know you get you start filling up your colors yeah if you have say say you have two green slots and you draw you draw green you put the green on your green slot if you already have two green and you draw a third green one you have to give that one to the troll. And if the troll fills up his back first, troll wins. Dang. You're trying to get all of you and your teammates

to fill up your own little board. If my board is filled up, anytime I draw, I'm not trying to give him to my teammates. But there are some red. There are some red stones. If you get a red stone, that means that's a troll card.

You got to flip over the troll card and you probably have to give one back to the bag, which kind of hurts the whole chemistry. It kind of takes the ear out of you. But it's a fun game. This looks. fun. Share and sparkle unicorns.

I might bring it in, we could just do it as a team builder with Bustin with the boys. I'm in. It's a great game. All right, next call in. Next call in. We got to keep this one under an hour. Yeah. I stick to under an hour.

This one comes from, oh, I'm excited for this one. This one comes from Matt. His daughter faced a little bit of trash talk at school. Faced a little issues. What are you doing with trash talk? A little bit of trash talk towards his daughter. Again, this is not a show about giving experts. advice. I'll handle this as the call comes in, but who knows if I'll handle it the right way.

I think you'll like this one. Hey, Will. My name is Matt. I'm actually from Lincoln, Nebraska. Go Scurz. Also a girl dad. Had something maybe you could bring up in a conversation on the show. I have a daughter who's just going into first grade and she came home to today and was very upset because some boys at her school had told her that because because she's a girl, she can't wear football jerseys and soccer jerseys because those are only for boys. And she put them all in a pile and wanted to get rid of them. And so maybe that's something that the boys could talk about and being a dad who's into sports and coaches and kind of how our daughters have to deal with that uphill battle moving

forward. So love the show. Keep up the great work. I hope to hear from me soon. Matt, thank you for calling in, bro. Shout out the scurs. I'm pissed off here.

That one gets me heated. That one gets me heated. Buddy, I don't want to... Hey, who... Hey, Billy. Who are these little boys? Point him out to me. Probably, it's Billy and Ryan.

Hey, Billy. man, one of your folks show up? When do they get here? Point them out if they're in the crowd right now. But that's my dad right there. I know. That wouldn't be the way to go about it, but I would be internally fuming about that

because that would piss me off. I'm just trying to imagine if Rue loves wearing jerseys. She knows dad watches ball on the weekend. She's into cheering for the Huskers. She's into cheering for whichever team mom and dad are cheering for. And she wants to get jerseys and she thinks they're cool. And she goes to school and she gets told like, oh, only boys wear jerseys.

I'm thinking, fuck that, dude. Dude. Fuck that. How old is she? Going into first grade. Going into first grade. So this wouldn't be one where she probably has her phone. She's a young cat.

She could just play a clip for these boys. You know what we should do? I have an idea, but you go ahead. I hope it's the same idea. We should get, since they're Husker fans. Yes. Get a Wilcompton jersey made. Yes.

And I go and give her this jersey at the school. 100%. And I didn't want to put any pressure on him. but Dylan Rayla as well, that would be insane. If you and Dylan rolled in to her school and said, and Coach Rule. Coach Rule would do it, dude.

He's got girls. Yeah, he's got girls. Yes. He's a girl dad. He's a girl dad. He rules there tomorrow. Should I get, you want me to get this guy's information over to you? 100%.

Because if he's in Lincoln, then next time we go to Lincoln, I was trying to get out to a couple training camp days in August. They're probably not. not in school right now. We'll have to figure that out. Those kids just made the biggest mistake. The biggest mistake of their lives.

I'm going to take those kids on a walk. I'm going to take those first graders on a walk. Just selfie video. Hey, come and step into the pantry, boys. Billy and Ryan. I'm just fucking around. They're only for girls? Yeah.

Or they're only for boys? Only for boys? That, yeah, that gets the piss hot. That gets the piss hot. That would be the most incredible moment. for that girl. That would be so sick. Yeah, Matt, you just tell your daughter that show her just this video. I wish we knew her name.

I know. I wish we knew her name so we could talk to her. I know. Matter of fact, I want to send him Matt. Let's get his information so that way I can send him a video. I'll send him a video. Yeah. I'll send him a video that he can show his daughter. Because that sucks, dude. Oh, yeah. The fact that she had it all laid out all of her jerseys and said, I don't want to wear these anymore. And for any first grade boys out there watching this podcast right now, like they're just on YouTube, make sure you're subscribed first. But we need to encourage and embrace and support anytime somebody's trying to uplift the sport of football, any sport.

You need to make all the girls, all the women think it's the coolest thing on earth. Because that's what we have to do, bro. I hate that a little girl is getting told, hey, only boys wear jerseys. Like, that's bullshit. I would love to meet these boys in the egg out. But they're boys, so I can't say that. These are first graders. In 18 years, I'd love to meet.

But my first grade self, them kids will be eating through it, too. Hey, just kid, just josh and just josh and maybe the parents are friends of the show. This is only the beginning of this story. That's what gets me snowed. Yeah, bro. Some cool shit's going to come out of that. Jerry right now, the equipment guy at Nebraska, I say ours.

The equipment guy at Nebraska and be like, hey, we need to get a jersey made for this first grader. and we got to figure something out because that would be sick. Electric. Yeah, that would be really cool. Rules are a. He doesn't even know what's going on. He's already on it.

And just to know if I did come across these boys, I would handle it. I wouldn't be fucking around like I am on this show right now. Like it would be a... You just want to talk to him about it. Yeah, you just say, you want to encourage him, talk about how, you know,

they should go about it. A Husker's a Husker. Last time I checked. A Husker's a Husker. It's just a football fan, man. Come on. A lot of thoughts running through my head. head. Yeah, yeah. A lot of thoughts. But I think that would be sick. That would be cool.

Thank you, Matt. Shout out, Matt. Go Scurs. Go Big Red. Shout out, Matt. Go Scurs. Check your phone. Because we've probably already texted you by this time. Yeah. All right. Last call is from J.D. Sherman. Will. I don't know if you can hear this in the background. That's my seven-day old boy. Seven-day old boys. Fan of the show. Willie. I got a question for you. And how do you get through these first couple weeks?

Been home for about a week now. Well, I've been home for a week with the boy. Nights are absolutely brutal. Sleep is nonexistent. Any advice would be appreciated for doing the shifts. My wife and I were doing everything, man. But I can't even think right now. I'm half asleep.

Sherman, you'll get to this soon. Congrats to you and Jilly Bean. But yeah, man, frustration sets in in the middle of the night, knowing you're doing everything you can for the little one and he still isn't sleeping. I love your thoughts, how you get through these restless nights, how you continue to convince yourself that the end is near

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He's essentially, he's asking how you deal with these early weeks, not getting any sleep. You can tell my man's on his, he's on his last limb. He's battling. He's burning thin right now. He is in the foxhole. He's in the trenches. You know when he got out of the phone, too, he's like, go on, please just go to sleep. He goes, I don't know if you can hear this right now.

I guarantee he's just. Um, look, we were talking about it earlier in the episode. Yeah, yeah. With just embracing the suck. Losers react, winners anticipate. If you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail. The whole layout that Charo and I would have, because we both have our off days, right? Where we're operating on E, somebody's, you know, usually her, she's operated at a way less capacity because postpartum, that stuff is real.

They're going through a lot of shit. So it's hard to, it's hard to bitch about your own stuff because they're, you know, there's really no, there's no place for it. And, um, I would have everything just planned out. So, for example, the baby's going stretching every three hours is around the goal of what you're trying to accomplish. When you get to nighttime, it's all right. Who's on the 8 p.m. shift?

Who's on 11 p.m.? Who's on 2 a.m.? Who's on 5 a.m.? Who's on 8 a.m., right? That's kind of how we would cycle everything through. Usually we're both up on the 8 p.m. on the 8 p.m. mark. But let's just say, for example, Charles running on E,

and she needs to get some much-needed rest. And she's somebody who would pump, so I would have the bottles ready to go. Yeah. I would handle the first half. So I would handle 8 p.m. I would handle 11 p.m. and I would handle 2 a.m.

Once I go down for 2 a.m., Charles now would know that she is active. Whether or not she wants to be active, that is how we structured our nights. Or trial would do the first part, and I would do the back half. And that's two to what? Sorry.

Every three hours. So 2 a.m. 5 a.m. Oh, okay. So if you're on the morning shift, it would be 5 a.m. and 8 a.m. Char would more often than not take on the 5 a.

The 5 a.m. and the 8 a.m. Because that's when I would get going to, whether it's get a workout in in the morning and get going with the day for busting with the boys. Yeah, yeah. That's how we structured everything out.

So, and you just got to know that some nights are just not going to go your way. And you've just got to fucking accept it. Because my whole goal, My priorities in my head is parents that would always say like, oh, wait until you have a kid. Your whole life's going to change. You're not going to get any sleep.

You're not going to get this. You're not going to get that. You're going to be a whole different human being. Oh, watch out. Watch out. It's going to suck to be around Will because he's going to be tired. And this boulder would build on my shoulder that I just wanted to prove that kind of shit wrong. So it would almost be the intention would be in my mind that, all right, there's going to be nights.

You're not going to operate off a lot of sleep. And then whenever you go into the building, you want to kind of have high spirits for the boys' enthusiasm. But everybody was great around me. They would know that. You know, Will just had a kid. If Will needs to go, he's got to go. Like, guys would try to make me do, you know, as less as possible. And just you guys were supportive as hell during all that.

But I just, those voices would be in my head to where I knew, like, I wanted to be on when I'm just anticipating being on. And not be somebody who would be reactive, have the loser mentality. So I would just, I would structure it. My advice would be to plan, plan out what your nights look like. If you're going to be on the night shift all night long, then just know that you're going to battle that pissed off mood. And you're not going to let that shit happen. Two things you can always control.

Always. No matter what. No matter how tired you are, no matter how beat down you are, no matter what it is, you can always control your attitude and effort. And if you're having a bad fucking night, again,

it's like having quotes, having things to lean on that's kind of helping you get through it because there's going to be nights where you fall short and you feel like less of a dad or you feel like, man, I didn't really handle that the right way.

And that's just going to fucking happen. And you've got to have grace with yourself. you got to know that it's going to be okay but i'm telling you anticipate the struggle anticipate the bullshit anticipate the suck all of it and just figure out a way to embrace it that's really the only way it's all it's all mentality it's all knowing that okay it's not going to be perfectly eight 11 to all of that stuff and as you get into it they're going to need a little bit less like you start waning off the night feedings they're going to be sleeping and stretching that three hours to four hours and you're going to catch a little bit of a win and you're going to feel good

about it. That would be my advice. It's not going anywhere. It's going to keep fucking happening. And it's all about embracing the suck and just know that you're going to be in it. You know your boys are in it with you.

Not physically, but emotionally. This podcast, the fatherhood. Yeah. Papa Team 6. What was his name? J.D. From Shytown. J.D. from Shytown.

We're with you, J.D. Drop comments in the comment check. section we're with you jd you just got to keep battling dude keep showing up laugh at yourself know it's going to be fucking hard yeah you're going to think about leaving your kids and your family but you won't but you won't and just know that you are going to wish that you had those moments back as hard as it feels like they are right now as long as those nights seem right now just know that you are going to want those back because they're going to start moving they're going to start crawling they're going to start hitting milestones you're going to

I remember when they just had the smallest fingers, the smallest little hands. They're just staring at you while they're feeding. They're not feeding, but they're still just kind of looking at you. They're throwing their head around. They don't want the bottle. It's going to piss you off. But do your best to cherish every fucking moment, dude. Yeah.

I love that answer. By the time he hears this answer, I'll probably be in the trenches as well. Yeah. And look, I was in the trenches too. And there would be a lot of times where I'm like, you know, bitching about it mentally, if it's just me, maybe talking to the kids. kid i'll just start you know you just start riffing and improving with the kid about just how hard it is how hard their life is making how hard they're making my life the next day if they don't go down to

sleep you know if i get too mad i can start making a lot of noise to where mom feels like she has to come up and intervene you understand that right that's gonna piss everybody all when it hey when are you getting i was doing the math i was like when is will sleeping with that schedule if you if you have the eight 11 and two shift i'll fall asleep so So I would, let's say I was watching Tulsa King. I remember Tulsa King being a show I was kind of watching, knowing that I'm bunkering up for the night on the couch. Because I would just tell Charles, hey, I want you to get some sleep.

Charles, you can sleep in the bed and just get up whenever she goes. I'm like, yeah, I know. But if you hear the monitor and you wake up at all, like, I just don't want to interrupt your sleep. You sleep in the bed. I'll sleep on the couch out in the living room. And then I'll just go up and handle it whenever I need to handle it. Yeah. So I would like binge a show.

And then if, say, I wanted to fall asleep or sleep until that 11 people, p.m. I would just have an alarm on my phone and it would just go off at 11 unless the monitor woke me up beforehand. Then I would go up and feeder, go down and sleep from, let's just say, 1130, 1145 until the next round. Got it. So I'd sleep, you know, get an hour and a half, two hours in sleeping until 2 a.m. Get up, go feeder, know that, okay, now after this one, say it's 2.30 and I'm crawling in bed. I now get to sleep until 6.30. I very obviously have not read the 12 by 12 book yet Because I've in that I was like

Oh you're up for that three hour window But really you don't have to you're only up if you're into the show And you're just kind of staying up And you just know it's gonna be a fucking tough night You're doing it to yourself Yeah yeah That's when I you know if we were on Goon And I would goon the monitor would be sitting there

The monitor would be sitting there while I'm playing the video game And then you're just going through the night That makes all the sense in the world Okay 2 a.m. feeding. You knock out that 2 a.m. feeding. You crawl in the bed and get whatever sleep you can until the next, to the next, whatever we had. Or say we had a meeting at like 8.30 in the morning. I would sleep until like 7.30. Wake up at 7. 7.30. I think I'm probably going to do the 8 p.m. 11 to shift. I would like to do that. And then I feel like it makes it easier for her

in the morning slash. I live so close to the office. that I really can kind of sleep until that. Yeah. If you handle one in the daytime and somebody like, they're going to just be confined to those walls of the house. Yeah. And you're going to be out at work, right? You're going to be out tasting the fresh air, everything else.

Obviously, she can get her in the stroller, walk with her, get out and about. I would definitely recommend that. But those moments where it's like, when you do get to the bottle, they take a few hours and go do whatever they want. You handle the bottle. You handle the stuff at home. because it's more of a like when I would get home around you know 3.30 or 4 every day you'd just be on so you got 8 p.m. 5 p.m. 2 p.m. And again all they do is like eat shit and sleep. Feed them, burp them. They might shit themselves. They sleep a lot. Hopefully. Yeah, hopefully. But, you know, there's not a whole lot that they do for the first few months other than other than that.

Jill had a... And we were religious with the 12 hours in 12 weeks, that method. Yeah, we need to get that. It's a good method, man. It's not too aggressive. Like there's some, it's like, I'll say it's like taking care of babies or the ones where you like let them cry or you're doing all those things. I like this one because it's a, it's an entire philosophy on the kid, the child entering your guys's lives versus you adapting everything in your life around the child. Obviously, you're doing that like when you become a.

parent. Yeah. But Char would be big on going out and still doing farmers markets on Saturdays or still taking them around friends. And if they kind of miss a little bit of their nap window or they're up a little bit longer, it's like the baby is in is in our world. They're acclimating to us. Versus us sacrificing everything to kind of be on a very strict structure with them. That makes all the sense of the world. I know Jill has some sort of sleep plan. whether it's from a book or like some kind of something that she looked into. But I need to have that conversation with her, obviously. I mean, we're like two days out.

But figure out what that plan is. And then the other thing that I was going to bring up. You could simply chat GPT the 12 hours and 12 weeks and kind of see the method. And then as they put it, log it all out for you, you just ask why in certain areas. So then you can figure out a little bit about the why behind it. one quick question because i could probably hit you with like a million of these if you smell that they've like shit themselves while they're asleep do you just let that pony ride until they wake up or like what it's a great question depends depends depends how long they've been

sleeping if you hear them kind of if you hear them kind of shit like and it's say they might have 30 or 45 minutes left. Yeah. Let them sleep until you wake them up if they're still sleeping. If it's early, I probably, I usually, we would change them or I would change them. Yeah. Because sometimes I'm like, I just got her down. She just shit.

Like, let me let this ride for a minute. Let me see what happened. Let me see if they wake up because they'll get uncomfortable. Yeah. I'm sure that they would probably inevitably wake them up with, you know, having a shit in their diaper. But the way, like how fast you change diapers. I'm sure that I'll probably get to that speed as well.

And then at that point, I can see why you're like, just change it. Yeah, just because you'll have to take them out of the swaddle. You got to like unbutton their onesie or whatever with their onesie. Get to the diaper. Like, you're going to wake them up. Yeah. It's not really a method where they're kind of staying asleep. Maybe you're lucky.

Maybe your kid just is knocked out while you're changing them. But it all depends. You'll know what to do in the moment. Absolutely. It also a huge shout out to everybody that was like, Sherman, anything with buttons on it is a no-go. Yeah. We have been purchasing a lot.

There's like these new ones where it's all magnets. Nice. Yeah, dude. Magnets are good. Zippers. So it's not even like snaps. It's just like it literally just comes off with like a good tug on it, but they can't get it off. Yeah, dude.

I don't even use like we have pajamas where it's like all the buttons go like underneath like the inseam of their of their leg up under their crotch all the way to the other end seam. Yeah. I don't even use those anymore. For me, it's just all the zipper from the toe up to the, up to the, up to the neck. That's what everybody's been saying. They're like zippers, snaps and magnets. Because they'll be wiggling, they'll be moving. You just be flying the fucking two.

You have these clothes. Then you'll be holding them on their stomach, just letting them know that like, yeah, I can hold you down if I want to hold you down. You're probably, Scottie's moving now. She's trying to crawl and army crawl and stuff. Yeah. So she'll, like, get that strong, that strong bridge in her back. And just like, you know, trying to wiggle on the hold her little last down. No.

Yeah, that's daddy. That's daddy right there. You're about to get so many attacks for your gooning. Yeah, for playing video games. I'm going to start hitting you up so much. But it's like, you know, you got your little methods that you'll go by at nighttime. Maybe you feel awake. Yeah.

You feel like even though you might have low energy, you have just some jolt at nighttime where it's like, all right, I don't want to go to sleep. Like, I want to watch this show. I would recommend you sleeping, you know, where you can. Yeah. And that's, to bring it full circle, that's one of the reasons why I am worried about the lack of sleep is because I know I am good at, I can stay up. Yeah. Once I get, once my brain turns to that mindset, and then it's like, well, when am I going to go to sleep?

Yeah. Because then you get that kind of like you're tired, but your heart's racing, your head's racing. But, and what happens is you'll have this snowball effect of when you're not getting the sleep, when you know you should be, like the one we. the quote, the journal entry last week from Daily Dead, just go to bed. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And when you don't do that, the first thing you'll start sacrificing is your own, like your own health. Like, you'll stop doing the exercises that you have, like, that you wanted to do for yourself.

You'll stop. You'll eat whatever. Yeah. Because you're just on the go and you've just chalked it up as like, I'm a beaten down, man. If anything's going to make me feel good, I want it to be this food. Yeah. So you start letting yourself go health-wise, which in the long run, it just starts, you'll start getting upset with yourself.

you don't know where it's coming from. You'll start projecting. So it's important to get to sleep when you can. So you can keep yourself true to whatever your principles want to be with health and exercise and everything. Because that'll be like the first thing to go. You'll start feeling so sorry for yourself and you'll just eat whatever. I'm bad at that, dude. Stress eating.

The boys, the dad's out there put on way to their own. Yeah. I stress eat. That's a big one. Yeah. Yeah, I feel, yeah, I feel like it's just stress eating. You just start stressing yourself out. And that'll be the first thing that goes.

And then you don't want that because there'll be some long term. It'll just snowball. Yeah, dude. I'm already, I'm on, we talked a little bit about this with Jill's gestational diabetes. Yeah. That it got me on a healthier train. Yeah. So like I'm going in a good trajectory with like a lot of proteins, a lot of veggies.

Yeah. I don't want to get off that because I'm moving and I'm feeling better. Yeah. Well, we'll try and stick to it. Yeah. I'll be your kind of bill, buddy. Please. All right.

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Yeah, shout out. And before we get on to the lesson, I do want to say we're going to try and ramp up the sharing of stories on Instagram, engaging more on social media, whether it be on X, whether it be on TikTok or Instagram. We've been seeing a lot of dads, you know, sticking to the weekly traditions of whether it be Pizza Friday. We didn't have mine on Friday, and I put out a little tweet like I'm wanting to live through the other dads out there that are celebrating Pizza Friday, getting a lot of photos. But we need to start doing that through or for the dad's brand. And for sure, for sure. I mean, pizza Friday's pizza Friday.

Like if you celebrate, you celebrate pizza Friday. But for the dads and the families out there that are doing their weekly traditions, whether you're teaching your son or daughter to take out the trash to the curb, I know, Roo, she actually asked me the other day. Like, Dad, I want to take the trash out with you. I was like, Sweet Art, Wednesday, Big Day. Wednesday, Big Day, we'll get you up. We'll get you dress ready to go and you can take the trash out to the curb with Dadda.

I'll do a little selfie video, so that way we just get people on board with sending in videos that we can share on our stories, that we can share on our platforms. And then again, if you're celebrating Pizza Friday, we will be sharing that stuff as well. So just make sure to tag at for the dad's pot. Yes.

Can I give a good example of that really quick? Colton on Twitter, tagged for the dads, and then he tagged a little video of him, this is his words, negotiating with the terrorist. He gave his daughter. She looks like twoish.

A little cheese wheel and said, you can have the cheese wheel, if you have two more bites of chicken, and you can see it in this girl's face as soon as he hands out cheese wheel over. There is no more chicken going down. You are so dumb that you just gave me this.

I replied back, I said, hey, you know, even if it didn't, no more chicken was consumed, I still feel like everyone won in this situation. He said, not only was there no more chicken consumed, she somehow swindled to him and him in the process. Do they get you? Shout out, Colton, for trying. Yeah.

And shout out for sending that to the boys. We love to see it. Thank you, Colton. Should we get into the lesson? Yeah. The lesson theme this week, I wrote a little something for you, Sherm. Okay. You being a dad this week.

Yes. So this is around, you know, I guess a letter to dads and potential dads that are having their first kid. Are you ready to go? I'm ready to go. You're about to be drafted into the toughest league there is, fatherhood. Ain't no bye weeks, no offseason, just back-to-back blowouts, mentally, emotionally, and literally. You're going to get pissed on, spit up on, and hit with the tantrum combo that tells you you are not built for the A-gap. Don't overthink it.

Love hard and remember, the goal is in perfection, it's presence. Be the dad who gives a shit. the dad who takes the yell and keeps showing up. They're not looking for a superhero. They just want dad in the flesh, in the moment, loving them even when you think they hate you. The days will feel long, but they're fleeting. And I was saying it a couple weeks ago that kids don't really remember much from their first four years of life. No vivid memories, no long-term recall. And at first, that can sound sad. Maybe you'll think, oh, I can miss this or that because they won't remember and when you sit when you sit with it and think about it it almost feels like those years

are for us the parents to soak it in to be needed in the most raw primal way a human can be needed so don't get caught up trying to be the perfect dad because there's no game plan no film study no depth chart to compare yourself to just be in it fully put the phone down rock them a little longer let them fall asleep on your chest stare at their little hands and feet cherished a little noises they make when sleeping or looking around at the world laugh when it's chaos and love the hell out of every minute you get you won't remember everything they won't remember everything but you'll feel it and they'll feel it even if they can't recall it welcome to the fatherhood brother like that i did almost i almost started to fall off the tracks there for a second i'm glad that i cried earlier

yeah i got it out yeah i'm i'm really really excited i feel like this entire opportunity of just this show, like, is incredible, but like, what comes along with it is also, like, such a high calling as well. I'm, like, very overwhelmed in this part of life. And I'm, like, so thankful to everybody here at Busson, including you and Taylor. I'm thankful for everybody in my life that has, like, come around me and support. supported me, rather that's even people in the DMs or like friends that have called me. It, um, it's like a very like undeserved, um, feeling of like, there's so many dads out there. And like, there's just a lot of dads, but like I get, I'm getting to do this show that's a

ton of fun and now I'm getting the opportunity to be a dad. And, um, I don't know what I'm trying to say other than like I'm just incredibly thankful um and I cannot wait I'm like terribly excited and like I said my crack a cold one is just that I want to I want to hold scarlet and um I wanted to look just like her mom and I want to like teach her all these fun things and I like I just can't wait dude buddy it's going to be awesome you know all the dads the support they everybody puts their arms around you because it is the best thing in the world. It is the best thing in the world.

It's fucking hard. Yeah, dude. But it is the best thing in the world. Dude, and just shout out you. I'm not like, this is so sick. Like, this show is so sick. It's so much fun and the reaction everybody. But, like, just shout out you for, like, being a really good dad.

it's not common you know there's a lot of dads out there like I said but um there might not be like a whole lot of great ones they're like really elite ones and you kind of having this like not a higher calling to everybody but just like a expectation for yourself it's just really cool that like um you're like making being a dad like cool and like uh being able to talk about about the hard stuff cool and giving this safe space like just a lot of the conversations that we've had has may be so confident that I'll be able to be a good father and I thank you for that I'm done but thank you we got we got to stop crying on every episode you got to I'm sorry but you're the man I love you brother love you you're a crushing man we got to we got to we're a

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