Busy, Yet Pretty - 1-800-Busy,Yet Pretty (Q&A ft. YOUR voicemails)

Episode Date: March 3, 2025

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Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you were new here, welcome. We talk all about how to become the best version of you, live your dream life, and ultimately just feel more motivated and happier. So welcome, so excited to have you, and I'm very excited for today's episode. There's always questions you guys have on motivation, relationships, and everything in general. And I'm like, you know what, why not make a fun little episode to do answer these questions? So today we are doing a little call-in questions, and many of you guys have sent in audio messages over Instagram about a question that you guys have. Or if you have a request for advice based off of your own personal experiences, which is going to be everything that I give my advice on and just answer any questions that you guys have. So you may hear your own question.

So I'm very excited. And when it comes to today's episode, we have a lot we are covering today. so we're going to get into the weekly review, but we're going to kind of do it rapid fire speed so we can get straight into the episode. This week I have been doing a new podcast setup, and I absolutely love it. I definitely upgraded from what I was doing before,

and I have a really cute mic setup, and it just is so perfect. It gets me so excited to talk to you guys. Another thing this week is I have just been relaxing because I've been really under the weather, just not even a sickness, no flu, or anything, but you can tell when you've kind of overworked yourself and your body's trying to tell you, hey, you need to slow down. So I've been really trying to stock up on some ginger,

turmeric, pepper tea, and I'm telling you, I cannot tell you how much ginger turmeric tea actually helps. I have felt just so much more better and revived since drinking it every day, but if you're feeling under the weather, definitely try to make some fresh ginger turmeric tea. And lastly, this week, like I said, I've been under the weather, so I have just been binge watching reality TV. And, well, I'll move into my current obsession. So the current obsession of the week is the show Traders. I am a sucker for a good game show. I feel like the majority of people are very into reality TV in the way of drama for the housewives

or selling sunset or those type of shows. And I feel like I'm always the outnumbered person. I love to watch Big Brother since I was little. one of my favorite shows of all time. Actually, it is my favorite show of all time. Traitors I'm really obsessed with and any type of strategizing reality show I love. Another current obsession at the moment is Lavender Macha. I love nothing more than a lavender macha. I feel like it just gives those perfect notes to it. And lastly, I have been loving Ruffle Clothes. I love anything shabby-cheek, which we will get into the next week's episode on that. But I love just any Ruffle-type clothes.

They're just so cute and feminine. Now on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week is to, this is a funny goal, but to write out my birthday list, there's a few little things. I have ideas of what I'm wanting and I just love to make my list on PowerPoint or Google slides. I feel like that's just a fun activity when you're creating a little wish list. Another goal of the week is to start a new book. I'm going straight into either spring or summer books. I love a lot of anything that just kind of puts you in the feel of being in Cape Cod.

so definitely going to start a new book. And lastly, this week is I really want to connect with nature. I think it's so important to take time to connect with nature, especially in the springtime because it is the time to connect and just to honestly just ground yourself. Now into your affirmation of the week. Every day is a fresh start. I love that affirmation because one, it's so simple,

but it means so much. And I think it's so important to just really remember that and think that to yourself every single day when it feels like, oh, this is the worst day ever. Because guess what? Tomorrow is going to be a new, fresh start of a day, and you can just let today go. Now on to your challenge of the week. Reach out to an old friend and check in on one another. I love that so much because I feel like it's so important where we kind of just remember who we kind of grew up with

or if there's anyone that you haven't talked to in a while. It's good to reach out and just see how they're doing. It literally cannot hurt, but what it can do is, put a smile on their face and it also could mean a lot for them because you don't know what they're going through at that moment and there's times I'm sure where someone has reached out to you when you were least expecting it when you were going through something and just someone caring can mean so, so much. Now on to the podcast review, if you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcast and rate over Spotify. This review says,

I really enjoy how you are taking the listener on your manifestation journey and still in the process of getting to where you want to be because it makes it a lot more relatable than some of the coaches podcast who are like my seven-month figure strategy. So thank you. It makes me a lot more excited about manifestation to listen and follow advice from someone who's currently doing the work from a similar level to me. This has to be one of my favorite reviews because we are all trying to work on becoming the best version of ourselves. And of course, something that many of us are trying to do is make more money and reach a certain money point of goal. And I'm not a millionaire. I will one day be and so will you. But we're on our way to getting there. But the thing is, there's things that I have

done that has significantly helped grow my income and significantly helped me become a better person that I just want to share to other people. And I love how it feels more attainable for you. Now without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Like I said, I posted on my Instagram story to send me any questions you guys have any personal questions. We can be raw, honest, transparent. I usually have my podcast notes and this time I'm like, we're going to go based off of, I want to just answer the questions depending on how I truly feel and not any notes to really feel like you guys just have called in and are asking me a question and that's what it is. We're besties. We're chatting. It's a little girl's day. And if you're guys,

It's a girl and guys day, I guess. We're just chatting and enjoying our time. And I'm really excited to get into today's episode. But again, I want to thank you guys for every single person who has written or sent a message into the Instagram for this episode. Of course, I couldn't answer them all. But I am so grateful for every single question that you guys have sent in. And I will definitely do another episode like this in the future. But with that being said, let's get into this.

For our first incoming question is from Christine, and let's hear what she has to say. Hello, Jaden. I hope you're doing well. I'm honestly going through a period of my life where there's just so much busyness, and I'm very overwhelmed with school and work and just trying to get my wellness up. You yourself as a busy person, how do you manage to find time to rest while not feeling guilty because you have so much? much to do. Hi, Christine. I absolutely love your question and I'm so grateful for you writing in. But let me just say, not everyone works remote and has a luxury of working from home. And whether you work from home or are at school or work somewhere, work can take up a large portion of the day. So I feel like when we are, we see the videos of influencers. And of course, I am one who also

post photo videos of my daily routine. and everything, but sometimes we see other people have so much time to do a full-on sauna session in the morning and a bike ride in the daytime and then going to do another wellness thing throughout the day. And all those things are great, but realistically, the majority of us don't have time to do that all. And we kind of don't know what the balance is. How much do we give ourselves time? How much time do we give to recharge? Because we have this guilt of knowing that we don't have that much time. We have spare time. And we have spare time. to spare because we have work or school clouding that time. But let me just say, even though there is

work or school that has to be done, we can never show up as your best self when you are burnt out or underfueled. When you are burnt out or underfueled is when you're just going to be dragging. You're not going to be your best self because you're going to be lowing, you're going to be running on low battery. And like I said, realistically, not everyone has the time for a two-hour wellness routine, but every bit of time for you that you give yourself for self-care and it's time for yourself to recharge is going to pay off in the long run. Think of it kind of like this. Would you rather drag all day, tired, and not able to do your work well, or take a 15-minute power nap? Or if you're at school or work and you can't just take a nap right there during your lunchtime, go on a little walk

and go eat your favorite food, your favorite snack, something that's getting. to recharge and revive you, not only your mind, but your mind, body, and soul. You can even take that 15-minute break throughout the day to just go on a little walk and listen to a podcast or call a loved one. There's things that are very minimal that can shape your day for the rest of the day. It doesn't have to be a two-hour sauna session, which is unrealistic because not everyone has that time during the day, to keep going and have that fresh start. It can be as simple as calling your mom, calling your friend, looking on Pinterest, going on a walk, doing some breath work throughout the day. You should never in your life feel guilty about giving yourself time when you have a lot of work

to do. There is many times your back is against the wall and you're going to be stressed as could be because you have a million deadlines, you have a ton of things coming up. But the thing is, if you keep on just trying to push and drag, you'll be getting by miserably. And also, you're not going to have performed your best. So to perform your best is to better care for you. And please remember that naps and taking breaks and watching TV, eating your favorite desserts, doing those things are productive. Hi, Jaden. First, I want to say that I love the busy at Pretty Podcast. I listen to it every chance that I get and I've been listening since 2022. My question is going to be, do you have any game-changing habits or tips that have changed your

life for the better, kind of going into that golden class girl lifestyle and mindset. Hello, my love. Thank you so much for your question. I truly appreciate it. I feel like there's many different things that has changed my mindset and there's changed things in my life that has been the ultimate game changers. But when it comes down to it, the things that have changed my life the most and that will change your life the most is your mindset. Because here's the thing. Your physical body with your health and how you treat others, what goals that you achieve in your life? Every single thing, anything, all starts within one thing. It all stems from one thing.

And that's your mindset. Your mindset is the driving force to get you where you want to be. It's the driving force to how you treat other people. It's the driving force to how you see the world and how you treat yourself. And here's the thing. You're not going to have a good life. you're not going to treat other people with kindness and you're not going to have great relationships and you're not going to love yourself. And most importantly, you're not going to love your life

if you don't change your mindset. Your mindset is the number one thing that has to be worked on. And from there, it will shed onto other aspects of your life from your physical health, relationships, friendships, everything you achieved, your goals in life. It all stems within your mindset. So something that is really important that I think has changed. my mindset and it's something that I kind of have lived by the past few years is to get rid of the all or nothing mindset. The all or nothing mindset is what eats us alive. Many times in life, we're going to throughout our days have a bad morning or a bad afternoon. Something's going to arise in our day and it may happen every day. It may happen once a week for you. Whatever that is,

there's going to be times where you get a little bump in the road and it feels like it's the end of the world. But it's not what happened that matters. It's how you go move forward from there. So, of course, you didn't want your day to go bad. But why trash and get rid of the rest of your day? If you could have a good rest of your day from there. You may have a very, very big tests coming up. You took the test and that morning you got the results. You got an F on your test. You can either trash the rest of your day and saying, gosh, I'm not going to do any work now. I'm going to just cry and I'm just going to lay in bed all day and not get up. And I don't want to do anything with school. You could either do that and take that way out, which is easy. And it's the all or nothing

mindset where you're doing it all. You're trashing it all. Or you could stop right there, accept what happened to you. Of course, that's disappointing that you've got an F on your test. But how can you move forward? You can have a great rest of your day. You can be. You may even go up to the teacher and say, can I retake the test? Can I go do anything to improve this score? And then you're going to go ace all your other tests that day. There's so many things that you can do to have a great rest of your day if you just didn't end that day when one thing bad happened. Don't get me wrong when something happens. It definitely can take a toll in her day and it can bother us all day long. But don't let it bother you enough or it's going to impact the

rest of your day and you're not going to do any more work. You're not going to do anything. and you might as well throw away all your progress. The same goes with working out. Maybe your goal is to get more toned. So you start working out every few days. And then you check it off every day and then you accidentally miss a day. Then you're like, never mind. I'm never working out again because my progress is down the drain.

Do you think missing one day is going to throw your progress away? No. Babe, I have not worked out in three months, to be quite honest with you. All I've done is walk. And there's times where things are going to get busy. Things aren't going to get always done. And you have to realize that every day is not going to be perfect. Stop trying to reach for perfection and instead reach for consistency because consistency

will always win over perfection. Hi, beautiful. So I saw your story and I wanted to ask you, firstly, does faith, spirituality, or religion have any significance in who you've evolved to be today? Hello, Heaven, thank you so much for calling in, and I appreciate your message. For your first question regarding spirituality, I grew up with a very general relationship to religion and not very deep into it. I did go to a private school, a private Christian school, and we really just went to church on the holidays. Nothing very into it, to be honest.

I had some really negative experiences in my private school that I went to. One of those negative experiences being one of the teachers had said to the class, don't drink soy milk because it can make you transgender. Do not drink soy milk because it can make you transgender. When I heard that, that was just really flew me to the moan and back because I was like, how could you say that? and then they would link such negative LGBTQ things tied to religion. And that really rubbed me the wrong way as someone who supports all people and whatever you like.

And equality, diversity, everything. LGBTQ, I'm a huge advocate. And when I hear people doing that and tying it into religion, that's the first thing I thought where I was like, you know what? Maybe I'm not religious. Maybe I don't feel connected to go. because it's negative to people. It's negative to how people express themselves. And when I had that thought, it was really hard for me to kind of like separate the difference between what are people's

opinions and what is actually God and Christianity or any religion. Because something such as that, a very negative, rude comment was an opinion. That's a personal opinion. That's not a religion or God talking. That's just a person talking. But after I went to the private school and I was out of high school is when I really started my motivation and this new version of me. And that's when I really started my journey to wellness and happiness and everything. And when I did that, I really started to get into the law of attraction and manifestation, which I believe that was my sort of spirituality that really, really shaped me to who I am today. But the past few years, I have been trying to heal that part of me from my past. experiences and trying to just heal that part of me and realizing those experiences had nothing to do

with religion, had nothing to do with God. Those were literally just very ignorant people with their own opinions. And so that's something I've really been trying to work on. I just love everybody and I love what anybody likes. As long as you are happy with yourself, that is what I love. And when I saw people such as at the school hating on people who are expressing themselves the way they want to be, whether that be in the LGBTQ community, I just associated their negative comments with being towards religion and God. So again, that's something I really been trying to realize where that was not religion talking. That was their own personal opinion. But I kind of went off on a tangent there. I do believe spirituality and religion, whatever you believe in, just having a

higher power that you believe in and you put your trust into is extremely important on your journey on becoming the best version of yourself because here's the thing. It allows you to put your worries and your trust into something else where you don't have to feel like you're the man of having to manage all that's going to happen in the world. There's things that you cannot control and those things that you can control. And when you allow your worry to be passed on to something else, whether that be a higher power of law of attraction or God or whatever you believe in, it's nice to have that extra comfort where it's not just you having to handle all your problems and all that you want to unravel in your life.

And it just feels like a second thing that you can lean on to. Secondly, what advice would you give to someone who wants to start posting more, but has a fear of being perceived or rather they just care way too much about what they think other people thinks about them? When it comes to caring about what other people think, it's our human nature to care because we care. We want to be liked and we want to be wanted. And that is human nature. You're not, you're not any different than anybody else. So if you're feeling, why do I care so much about what people think and other people don't? Don't worry. Many people feel this way. But it's something that you can

slowly learn how to care less and to not care. I feel like that's very tied into confidence. When you're very confident and secure in yourself, and even if you are, you can still care what people think. but something that really does play a role is confidence. And when you're very secure and confident in what you like, then it becomes easier to not care what anybody thinks. We a lot of times put people on a pedestal, whether that be a loved one or it can be a stranger on the street. Whatever it is, we kind of put their opinion on a pedestal rather than putting our own personal opinion on a pedestal. What makes you happy? Truly, what makes you happy? Because you're not needing. to like what you like and to do what you want to do based off of anyone else but yourself.

But many times we may like something or enjoy something that does not necessarily give that satisfaction to somebody else. That person may think, oh, that's weird that she's into that. That's weird that she likes that. But you know what? If you like it, do it. Because the only opinion that matters is your own. I guarantee you and I promise you in life, not everybody's going to like what you do. Not everybody's going to like your work. Not everyone's going to like your style. So you have to stop thinking, what does anyone else like? When you are on your deathbed, you're not on your deathbed with anybody else. You're on it with you. So you have to think, are you going to be satisfied with how you lived your life? Are you going to be satisfied with

how you express yourself? You have to do things for you at the end of the day because you're not going to die with the opinion of others and you're not going to die. And you're not going to with them by your deathbed for them to care. You have to do what you like regardless of what anyone else thinks. And also, so many people who are so successful, so confident, and people you admire, respect people who embrace the truest version of themselves. Because when I see someone, even if they have the most opposite lifestyle or opposite style than me, I love to see when someone is confident and likes doing their own thing. Even if I would not live that life. or if I would not wear that outfit.

I like to see people own what they like because when you own it, that's all that matters. Also, when it comes to posting, if you're nervous about what people think, I was posting makeup videos in high school. People would laugh about them. They would show each other at lunch. People brought up my YouTube videos in class and they were laughing. And let me just tell you, I am very happy where it brought me today. I stayed focused, tried my very best not to care what other people think, and I continued doing

what I wanted to do, and let me tell you, it's led me to the life of my dreams. So if I can do it, you can do it. And third, with all the experience and knowledge you have now, especially in regard to self-love and acceptance, what would be your top three pieces of advice to teenage Jaden or to any young girl who's tuning in right now who's on their own self-discovery, self-love journey. Love to hear back, Bessos, sending you warm hugs and kisses. Something I would want to tell my younger self and to you listening to this right now that if you're on your self-love journey, is that it is a process. You're always going to be on your self-love and self-discovery journey. There's not an end game or an end goal when you finally reach that discovery. It's always going

to be a discovery in life. So it's really nice to be easy on yourself and realize that you are learning and growing every single day up until your last day. You're always going to learn something new. You're always going to discover something new. There's things that you will discover and learn about yourself when you're 90, when you're 90 years old. You're going to always learn and you're going to always grow. So remember, we're human. Be easy on yourself. It's okay. And when you mess up, try again. When you mess up, give yourself grace. Because everyone, does and it's a part of life. Most importantly, you cannot get time back. So really just try to be present and enjoy every single minute that comes with it. Even if it's not 100% the best day ever,

you have to have bad days to enjoy the good ones. Also, I love you so much too, Heaven. I'm realizing I'm spending way too long on these questions. So what I'm going to do is more like a rapid fire. And we're just going to get through a lot today. Hi, Jaden. I'm having a problem with letting a healthy and balanced lifestyle. I'm 14 years old and I either overwork myself with studying and working out or I don't do anything for days and sit in my bed and sleep. Can you please give me advice on how to fix that? Love you so much and love from Serbia. Hello my love. I want to say thank you so much for writing in and I completely understand what you're feeling. Let me just say all of us experience this most all of us, but the all or nothing mindset. There's many times where we have a

really good productive day and we kind of get on a roll and then, you know, there's no really bumps in the road that day. And then the next day, maybe we're super tired from the previous day where we feel so exhausted and we need to just lay in bed. And there's times where we kind of just then we'll get a bump in the road throughout a day that's going good. And right when our day takes a turn, we're like, you know what, that's it. The day is ruined entirely and I'd rather just be done. The thing with that is we have the all or nothing mindset where it's going to be either a great day or a bad day. Instead of being okay with having some days that are right in the middle where, you know, it was okay, not good but not bad. And something that kind of tends to happen is when we go full force into something and then all of a sudden we are left with no energy to have the rest of the days. So for instance, instead of giving it your very, very all, every single, single day for a week straight, give it a good amount and then it reserves some of that energy to go towards personal things like self-care. Again, stop aiming for perfection and start aiming for consistency because perfection can only last so long, maybe a day or two, but being consistent

in just giving an appropriate amount of time to both work and an appropriate amount of time to doing self-care, that's going to create a healthy balance for you that's sustainable and not going to make you be burnt out. And let me just say this takes a lot of time to kind of figure out your system for what works for you. So don't be hard on yourself. You're going to be burnt out. Guess what? I was burnt out today. And I had a little crying spell earlier. And that happens to everyone. So again, don't be hard on yourself. You'll find out what works for you the best from trial and error. Hi. I guess my question is, how can I stay motivated for something that's slowly burning me out?

And on the topic of burnout, this is something, again, we all experience and whether we help it or not, work is going to make us burnt out school and just general things make us burnt out because we feel like we're running on 1% battery when we need, we're not recharge enough, we're not refueled, and it can be exhausting. But something that's really important is to truly reserve and schedule time to refuel yourself. And I know you always hear this and it sounds like a broken record,

but doing that is going to help you perform better in your best, whatever work and school, whatever it is, when you take that time to do that for you. There's things that are going to burn out, burn us out, like work or school, that is, we have to do it. We can't just not go to school or not go to work. It's things that just have to be done. But in order to do those things, you have to take time and invest in your personal life.

Reserve time for your personal social connections. Reserve time for you to do your skincare. Reserve time for you to journal and do something that makes you feel good. Even if that's watching reality TV, then do it. Hi, Jairn. My name is Aditi. I have been an active listener of the busy at Pretty podcast since 2000. I am currently focusing on making my daily life easier and wanted to ask you for advice on how to improve the quality of my sleep. Additionally, I would love to know what new practices I can incorporate alongside meditation and nutrition for better fulfilling sleep.

Thank you so much. Love you lots. Hello, Adity. Thank you so much for sending in your message. When it comes to sleep, I'm going to be so honest and transparent with you because I don't want to just recommend things. that, you know, I haven't necessarily struggled with, but my sleep for the most part has been pretty good all my life. And it's something that I never really struggled with. But something I know that can very much help is magnesium is a great supplement, doing things such as a cold exposure, so that could be going to the pool or taking a cold plunge or taking a cold shower at some point in the day can actually help you have a better sleep and get your body wired to go to bed earlier.

Another great thing you can do is prioritize not being on your phone one to two hours before bed because the blue light is not good for your eyes. And lastly, try to master making a winding down routine that gives you comfort and winds your body down rather than amping you up. So don't play very upbeat music and maybe for you that's putting on some quiet music and doing it. an activity like reading or journaling that kind of just puts your body at ease. Hey, Jaden, I just want to start off by saying I absolutely love your podcast channel. I listen it to Apple Music every time you upload and it's absolutely amazing. My question for you today are what of your fave things to do to stay busy yet pretty?

Hello, my love. Thank you so much for all your support on the podcast. something I do to stay busy at pretty is honestly just stay my authentic self, which I really encourage you to do because it is so easy to see trends and to see things going on. Here's actually one thing I'm going to highlight. Everyone, of course, and don't get me wrong. I love a good summer prep. I'm all about summer prep.

But a lot of times people are posting summer body prep. And there's nothing wrong with wanting to get toned and fit. but there's also not everyone wants to do that. I'm not trying to lose weight for the summer and you don't need to. There's many people, you know, of course, the whole O-Zemic craze too. You don't need to buy into that and you also don't need to feel guilty if you're not partaking in that. I, of course, want to feel more toned and strong for the summer. I feel like that's the time.

I want to feel my strongest and my best. So there's a lot of summer prep things where you can do workouts and everything. but you don't have to think, oh, I need to get skinnier or lose weight for the summer. I know I went off on a tangent there, but I think it's really important just to stay true to yourself, and I hope you really remember that for the summer coming up. Hey, Jaden, it's Vivian from Silas Trend, but I actually have a question about how you got started and your influencer job and just your content creator stuff. I wanted to know, how did you establish like a personal brand?

How did you like just grow on Instagram? Because I've been listening literally since the beginning since 2022. and I just always loved your stuff and you always had a very distinct style and a very distinct aesthetic and I just kind of want to know how did you have like your own personal brand how did you create it how did you market it and just like do you think you could do like a little podcast series just for like girlies who want to be content creators because us girlies are entrepreneurs and content creators were literally Barbie like we do it all so I was just wondering how you completely like just establish your content creation stuff because you're so good at it and I literally

never miss anything. You're so amazing at your job. I love to listen to the podcast. It's my favorite podcast ever. It is the highlight of my Monday literally. I'm just like waiting every day to Monday for the new episode. But I love you so much and I thank you so much just for creating the podcast and everything. You're just such a big inspiration. You inspire me to start my own podcast. And I just literally love your stuff. So thank you so much. Hi Vivian. I first want to say thank you so much for the sweetest message ever. I am just so in awe of you and I appreciate you listening for a few years now and I understand so many of you guys want to become creators and definitely go after it, go do it. There is always room for people in the space, even though some people say it's

oversaturated and there's definitely things that are oversaturated. But let me just tell you, there's always room for you. There's always room for a new creator. Think about all the people who, you know, Nora Smith to Alex Earle. There's always someone. new and there's always space for somebody else. And it takes years for people to have their zoom off on their career. When they finally reach a peak and they reach their good following and good community. And something to really prioritize when you start posting is do not think as much about the followers. And it's very hard to because all you're wanting to do is build your community and get some followers and start creating this your job. But you have to think what do you and

consuming and create what you enjoy consuming because sometimes you can create things where you think it's what other people want and then at the end of the day you don't even like what you're creating and you're consuming way different content so try to create what you consume because if you like it somebody else is going to like it too another thing is find other creators who are new micro creators who are posting similar things I remember when I first started I I had put myself in like Instagram chats with other people to like other people's photos. We'd all like each other's posts to kind of boost our engagement. I was all in those engagement chats and many people get them too that are your favorite

creators. And it's something that's a great thing to build, you know, relationships with other microcreators. So you can definitely find other people in those niches that you like. I will definitely record an episode more into this. if you guys would like to hear on how to become a creator and how to build an audience and not just an audience, but a really nice community that understands your style and wants to follow your journey. It is time for us to get into some questions on friendships and relationships, so let's dive right in. Hello, Dayton, I hope you're having a great day. So I wanted to ask if you've ever been afraid of starting a relationship, and if so, how did you overcome that fear?

And I also wanted to say that your episodes always inspire me and give me a new perspective. Thank you for everything, sending lots of love. Hello, my love. Thank you so much for your question, and I appreciate your support. When it comes to relationships, I feel like that's something where a lot of people can become hesitant on because you have so many doubts. And especially if you're someone who's an overthinker, I have no shame. I am a true overthinker.

It's in my blood. and I always have and I always will. When it comes to relationships, I don't have much experience because I am super picky with my relationships. But I think where hesitation tends to come from when it comes to relationships for people is how it's being perceived on the outside. So someone else thinks whether that's your mom, your dad, or your friends. And that's a doubt that a lot of people can have.

And I actually never have the perception doubt when it comes to relationships. more of I have a doubt of what if I don't know all about this person, what if they're hiding certain things, and what if they're not the right one? And I think it's really good to remind yourself is that it will not be transparent and you will not know every single thing about somebody before you start dating them. Let alone, you may never know every single thing about them their last day of their life. It's a learning experience you're going to learn and learn more about somebody when you're with them.

them. And if you realize halfway through dating them or halfway through in a marriage that, you know what, they're kind of different than I thought. Or I don't really like that they do this. Or I don't like, I don't feel like this is the right fit. There was nothing wrong with understanding that and leaving. At the end of the day, even if it feels like it, maybe you have a ring on your hand, you're still not tied down to somebody. If you feel like this is maybe not my person or I don't like how they're treating me or any of those things happen, you are welcome to leave. And that's something that's good to remember. So before going into relationship, you don't have to think, okay, everything has to be so, so, so perfect. I have to feel 100% sure about this person or I can't date them.

Don't start creating doubts about things that aren't there. And that can be kind of hard when you maybe think, oh, what about this? What about that? You'll never feel 100% sure. And sometimes you can start letting doubts form into your head that that's not even a problem right there. So it almost takes some pressure off of you realizing that there's not a right or wrong answer. If they end up not being the right person, then so be it. You're not, you don't have to stay with them. So it kind of takes the pressure off knowing that, you know, you don't have to be tied down to someone if it doesn't work out.

There's nothing bad that's going to happen if they're not the person. So you can just take those steps as it come. And if a random doubt is in your mind, let it go because here's the thing. When the problem arises, you can tackle it there. And if you're someone who likes a lot of clarity like I do, you can speak your doubts and speak how you feel to that person and they can be transparent about it. If they're not wanting to discuss it or if they're not wanting to be transparent, maybe that's not the right one. Because the right person will also give you comfort in trying to settle your nerves and trying to understand where you're coming from.

Hi, Jaden. I was just wondering, how do you get over a breakup? Because it feels like your world is stopping and everyone else just keeps on moving and everything is coming so fast. How do you stay on top of everything when going through heartbreak? Thank you. Hello, my love. Let me just tell you, you're not alone and if you're growing through a breakup right now and when I say if you're going through a breakup you could be going through a breakup and it had been a year ago because healing is a process it does not happen overnight and something that I found was really weird when I went through a breakup is exactly what you're what you're saying is that it feels like everybody's continuing life and life is just moving so fast and it feels like you're just stuck in the same place.

Everyone's continuing and no one's understanding what you're going through. And it just, you're like, you're looking at other people and wondering, how are they continuing life? And it's because you're the only one feeling your own personal problem right now. And also, it can be hard to talk to it like friends or somebody about your breakup because when you're so mad about it or so sad about it, people could be like, well, F them. Who cares? Let him go. Like, he meant nothing anyways. And yes, if they wronged you, it can feel that way. But at the same time, you know the good parts of them where it's almost like you still want to defend them and be like, no, but what about this part? And I loved him. And it can be very easy to want to defend them even if they wrong with you or even if they hurt. you or even if they did nothing at all nobody knows the version of them that you knew so this is why you're having heartbreak it's because you knew a version of them that majority people didn't know and

it can be hard to let that good part of them to go i want you to remember this moment and feel how drastically heavy that moment can feel like and you're going to look back months from now a year from now and 10 years from now and think oh my gosh it felt so huge at that moment because I thought this was the guy I was going to marry. I knew deep down he was the right one and it makes you laugh because you realize, wow, I needed that in order for me to be where I am today. This feeling will pass and you know like the quote, this too shall pass, but it really will pass. It's going to move on and you needed this breakup to happen for you to get to the place or you're going to be. Even if it feels like that was your soulmate, that was your twin

flame and you were destined to be together. If it's meant to be, you guys will find your way together in the future. But for now, let it go and it's really hard to. But you have to start prioritizing yourself and finding not distractions because you don't want to just distract yourself from what you're feeling, but accept how you're feeling, touch base with your feelings, but then begin to reconnect and reintroduce yourself to things that you loved. You have to begin doing things that you truly loved and did before your breakup because that's going to allow you to begin healing and at the same time touching base with your true self again. Your identity is not your relationship with that person. Even though it felt like that was such a big deal in your life and they were your life,

in reality, you are your own life and that relationship did not define you. And it's really important to remember that. Connect with your roots. Connect with what you used to like before. Did you used to scroll on Pinterest before, hang out with your friends. What did you used to do before that made you enjoy life? Even if you have to go back before you even knew this person, what did you used to do a few years ago that you loved? Doing that can really help your healing journey. But never forget, healing is a process and it could take years for you to finally be healed. And you may never heal, but you'll realize why that thing happened in your life. It didn't happen to you, but it happened for you.

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I found multiple of them. a good price and I was like wait this is just too good to be true so if you know me you know I am a poshmark girl poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell as well as buy new items vintage pieces gently used luxury pieces they really just have it all and i feel like there's no better time to go on poshmark now everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things get in bed get cozy and go in poshmark to add to your new spring wardrobe new deals and sales are listed every day so don't wait download the Poshmark app and use code busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K dot com slash busy.

Hi, Jaden. I love Busy at Pretty. I've listened to it very year now and it's honestly changed my life. My question is how do you even navigate relationships as a young person? me and my friends are all like 18 and in our final year of school and we're applying to uni and our lives are so chaotic right now and we're just trying to be the best version of ourselves but there's always the thought that everyone's always in relationships and most people are in relationships and it feels like we're kind of missing out and it's just something we've been discussing but not something we want to act upon because we've got things to do so do you have any advice? Hello, my love. Thank you so much for your question. I think it is so important when you are

already stressed, such as from school or general work stress, whatever it is, when you are not feeling fully established and can barely even catch up with what you're doing now, you cannot bring on something such as a relationship because that's only going to make the relationship unhealthy and it's going to make your own mental health unhealthy. It's not going to be going good. And it's going to impact your school life or your work life. It's like when people say you can't love somebody else until you love yourself. The same goes with taking on a relationship.

You cannot take on a relationship until you have full stability in your own life. I, of course, do not think relationships are a waste of time in high school because you may find your person or it'll just give you experience. but in the grand scheme of things, you're most likely not going to find the love your life right there. So it's really good to just dial in and focus on yourself in the early stages of your life, especially in high school and even after high school. Currently right now, I don't want a relationship because there's some things that I want more stability in all my life. And I just want to continue building my career.

and I just don't want to take on a relationship right now. And even though if you see other people getting into relationships or you feel the societal pressure to get into a relationship, remember that this is your own life. You do not have to do anything but what you want. And there's nothing wrong with sending a boundary to yourself knowing that you're not going to get in a relationship right there and then if you don't want to because you want to focus on some other aspects of your life,

such as school, work, whatever it is. And there is nothing wrong with that. Relationships can always come in the future, so don't feel like time is running out because you could be 90 years old and then just find the love of your life. Don't feel like you're missing out because I promise you, you're not missing out and you're going to find your person. But it's really good to just dial in on what your craft is and your current task at that moment, such as school or work, to show up and perform the best version of you. Hi, Jayden, I just wanted to get your advice on how you think you can get over a relationship that you ended because you knew that it wasn't good for you, but you can't stop thinking of him.

Thank you. Hello, my love. I am so proud of you that you ended a relationship that you knew wasn't right for you. And of course, after doing that, you may have regrets or feeling like, oh, maybe I shouldn't have. maybe it could have worked out, let me remind you that you do not want a craft. You do not want a guy that you have to work on. Or maybe they were perfect, but you just wanted to end the relationship. Regardless of why you ended the relationship, it's super good to remember why you did.

So the minute you're thinking, oh, I miss them, I should text them, maybe we should get back together, you knew that it wasn't right for you. So just take yourself back to that memory. Why did you do it? why did you end it in the first place? And giving yourself that reminder can think, oh yeah, for the long run, that's why I ended it. And like I was saying, reconnect with things that are not distractions, but things that you actually like that are hobbies that you enjoy, because that can kind of help you ground you

and remember what do you like to do? Remember, that relationship did not define you. You define yourself. So touch base with your interests and what you really like and that can kind of veer. your focus from the past relationship back onto track and back onto your life. This can be touching based with old interest or starting new hobbies. And also find a good group of friends or loved ones, someone that you can talk to and express how you feel because sometimes just talking it out can feel like a weight off of your chest. And if you don't really have someone to talk to,

journal. You can talk to yourself about how you feel. And you can also, write yourself as if you're writing them a note telling them how you kind of feel but without sending it to them you can just write out your thoughts to yourself as if you're sending it to them and that can feel again like such a big weight off of your chest hey jaden i'm bona from germany and i wanted to ask you for this piece of advice which is friendship breakup um so basically i've had this friend and we've been friends for forever um but i've come to realize that this is not really friendship that I want to continue because she's like really manipulative and not taking me seriously and always putting me down. So I don't want to continue this. But since we have basically always

been friends, it's really hard for me to figure out on how I could end this. So I wanted to turn to you and ask you. So thank you so much. Hello, my love. I feel like this is a universal problem when it comes to friends, we have a friend and whether we're friends with them for a long time or a short period of time, we've realized, you know, this person is not on the same page as I am anymore. Maybe they're putting you down or not making you feel good about yourself or simply they're an energy drainer. And when it comes to friends and relationships, you don't want energy drainers, you want energy givers. So you never want to feel like you hung out with them and you feel bad about yourself or you feel tired and sad or bummed. You want to leave feeling uplifted and happy and you

want to hang out with them again. So when you kind of figure out who was not right for you, you don't have to shut them out and block them on everything and act like they don't exist. But a way that you can do it where you can kind of separate yourself from them and not give them the hint, but put yourself in the position of you're not necessarily going to be on hand is start to slowly distance yourself. It doesn't have to hurt anybody's feelings. You're not blocking anybody on social media. All you're doing is slowly allowing that person to not have full access to you. This could be you not being able to hang out as often. Or you being a bit more reserved with what you tell them and what you open up to them about.

and slowly then the friendship can kind of start to fade away and it can kind of just close that chapter and if they start to realize maybe that you have been distancing yourself or you haven't been your normal self or as available there's nothing wrong with being honest and transparent nicely and kindly telling them how you feel and how you view the relationship but again in a nice approach, you could say, hey, I love you and I love our friendship, but every single time I leave hanging out, I feel down because you always are putting me down or you're making me feel this way. And you don't necessarily have to point fingers, but you can open up how you feel. And maybe they didn't even realize they were treating you this way. And if they're meant to be in their life,

then they will change how they act to you. And that shows that they care. But if they start to say, Well, that's your problem and they come back with a rude thing. You can let it go and move on because that person is not meant to be in your life anymore. Hi, Jaden. My name's Francesca. I'm from London. My question for you is how do you focus on being present? I always worry about the future or the past.

So what are your tips for being present in life? Hello, Francesca. Your question is something that I feel like all of us wonder. How can we be more present? Being present, sometimes we can just forget about it. And it's almost like we need to just ingrain it more as a subconscious doing, which is hard because we have our mind focused on other things. We tend to jump to the future or wallow on the past.

And regardless of where our head is, it's really hard to just center ourself and put ourselves in the present moment. Something that you can do is focus on your senses. So in that moment when you feel like you're jumping ahead or thinking about the past is, what do you smell right now? What do you see right now? What do you feel? What do you taste? What can you see? Things like that can help ground yourself and start to get more present rather than letting your mind just have a domino effect of thinking ahead. You don't want to live your life in the future or the past. Do you want to live your life in the now? You can never get this time back

so it's so important to cherish this time and really just embrace it rather than letting our mind tumble. And again, it's much harder to allow ourselves to be present than it is to think about something else. But another great way is to also limit your distractions. Maybe something that you do to kind of distract yourself is go on your phone. You start thinking a lot about the future and worrying about it and then you start going on your phone and scrolling. And then it's kind of like a band-aid to cover up what your feelings. and it's really good to try to detach from that and remember, hey, I'm okay. Let me just take each thing as it comes and start thinking about now and what's happening right now rather

than thinking in the past or so much ahead. Now it's time to dive into some confidence questions. Hi, JD. There's this thing I want to hear in your next podcast is that how can you be so confident? So a little bit more context about this question. I've been. began to care about my looks and marks recently and I started to make changes myself however many peers seeing these changes say that I'm ugly and that my new way of writing is horrid I try to comfort myself a lot but I've gotten so insecure that I can't believe myself either so I'm just wondering if you could give me some advice about this. Hello my love thank you so much for your

question I'm so sorry to hear that and I feel like we kind of touched on this earlier, but always remember that it's you at the end of the day. It's not them. You have to start living for yourself as hard as that is to try not to care about what other people think. But whatever you're wearing, if it makes you happy, wear it. You do not have to wear something for them because, again, you're not living their life. If they want to have a certain style, they can go wear that. But you should have that same right. You have the same right to enjoy what you like just like they can enjoy their stuff. You're not picking on what they like.

You don't have a problem what they're enjoying. So they have no right to tell you how to enjoy your own life. This is your life, not theirs. So start focusing and putting all your energy and your focus onto what you like and what you enjoy. And if they have a problem with it, they're not the people for you. You can also realize that, you know what? They're energy drainers.

They're not uplifting me and they're not making me feel good, where this may not be the right friends for me. And it's good to start branching out to people who understand your style or accept you for who you are, because those are the people who are in the end that are going to be the most supportive and the most loving and the people who are most right for you. Hi, I'm Annabelle. I'm 16 and I'm from Germany. And I wanted to ask you how I can kind of cope with feeling out of place a lot, like for example, in my friend group. because most of my friends, they all kind of have the same interests, and I simply have different interests than they do,

and I feel like I don't belong there, like, really, really often. And it's kind of hard for me to find people who have the same interests as I do because I live in a really small town, so it's kind of, I don't really know. And also, like, it's kind of like a, if we wouldn't be in school together, we wouldn't be friends situation. And it's kind of annoying sometimes, because, yeah, and also I love your podcast so much, and thank you for everything. Hi, Annabelle, I first want to say, thank you so much for always being so supportive.

I always see your messages and your story tags and your comments. I understand you. I feel like many of us feel this way where we're in school or work, and we're thinking, yeah, these are my coworkers or these are my friends at school. But if it came down to it and we were just knowing each other in the outside world, away from school or work, we wouldn't really be friends because we don't have much interest. This is very common because, one, where we work or where we go to school doesn't have a ton of option of people where we may not really have a lot of options to be friends with.

And our interests may not align with them. So something I really recommend is get yourself out of school or work and to find activities and social gatherings that you can connect with. So for instance, after school, maybe you go to a little fashion club that's going on or a pottery class that is going on in your town. Or maybe there's not many things that you have interest in that are events in your town. You can also go online, which I feel like this is a hit or miss. Some people have different opinions on this. But you can create really great friends online.

But again, you don't want to only your friends are online. but it can help you find people who have similar interests than you. Maybe you enjoy social media and posting. You can find other creators who enjoy that as well. If you like a certain style or if you like healthy recipes, you can find other people who like healthy recipes. You can find people who have similar interests than you. And again, when it comes to people at your school,

even though you're not finding people who necessarily be friends with outside of school, you kind of just, it's nice to have a few friends at school and you have to just realize you are not going to know these people forever. They don't need to be perfect people that have just your interests or align perfectly to you. So it almost gives you a relief to realize, you know what, these are not my necessarily forever friends. They don't need to be perfect. I don't need to love every single thing that they like. And I have a lifetime ahead of me to meet the right people for me. and after school when you're graduated, you will find those people.

It takes time and many years to find the people who truly connect with you. There's no rush, and again, it's a process. Think about the millions of gorgeous, amazing people on this planet right now, who are so similar to you, you're destined to find one very, very soon. Even our community, so many of the people in the busy at pretty community have become really great friends from the podcast, whether that's meeting over the broadcast channel over Instagram or having my meetups and meeting each other at the meetups. Many people have became great friends because they have similar interests. Hi love. I've got two questions for your

podcast and I would love to get your answers. The first one is, how do you handle people who don't align with your mindset. And the second one is, what daily habits help you stay in your highest self energy? Hello, my love. Thank you for your question. When it comes to how do I deal with people who don't align with my mindset? Here's the thing. Not everyone is going to think the way you think. And you have to understand that because that's the beauty of people. People are going to have different opinions, different lifestyles, different beliefs and morals. And that's the beauty of being different. Because if we were all the same, have the same mindset, same morals, same beliefs, it would be very boring in a very copy and paste world. Having difference is beautiful. Even if you

don't agree on what other people think, it's beautiful to have difference. And with people who don't agree with my mindset, I honestly don't care because it's not hurting them for what I believe in. As long as what you believe in in the mindset you have and how you act isn't hurting anybody else, that's all that matters. It's making me happy at the end of the day with how I think, how I live my life. So I'm going to continue doing that regardless of what other people think. and if you are living your life and someone else has a problem with it, that's their own problem and they're projecting how they feel and their own problems onto you trying to dim your light to make their brighter. Now we're going to get into a few questions on motivation, which is something that

I think we all have been waiting for. Hi, Jaden. So one thing I want to ask is like how you stay motivated, especially like as a college student, I feel like I'm always behind on work because I feel like I find it really distracting, like going out all the time. Just hard to find a balance between the two of like having a social life and like actually doing my work what I'm here for at college. So I just wonder like how do you like balance the two and just remain like motivated, do hard things. Hi my love. I totally understand what you're saying. And I feel like many people who are in school feel this way because you want to participate and show up as your best in school academically, but at the same time, you want to enjoy your social life. And it's hard to have that balance

because your social life, when you go out, it can take up how you feel the next day and can make you feel tired, dragging, and you can't show up to be your best self in class. This sounds like a very mother-parent approach to this, but at the end of your at the end of the day, academics and what you're there for really matters, but out of anything, your mental health matters the most. You really need to be disciplined in your academics, but at the same time, nurture your mental health because if your mental health is not good, you're not going to be able to show up as your best for work. Going out sometimes and being social is fun sometimes, and it's good to you because you need to be social and to get out and to not

hibernate so you can have a clear headspace and you have to have those experiences. But at the same time, if you're doing it every single night, it can feel so exhausting and you're going to feel tired and you're going to feel unmotivated because you got on this high and this excitement of going out and it makes you feel like you want to do it all the time. It's almost like if you were to eat sugar a lot every single day, you kind of only crave sugar then and you're like, I don't want to eat any vegetables. And, you know, vegetables are good for you. It's just like doing good in school is good for you. So you kind of have to shift back and have that balance where it's 80-20. 80% of your time really focus on school and academics because that is

your main goal right now. But that other 20% focus on other things that are exciting, like going out, seeing your friends, and doing those type of activities. You want to have balance. and you don't want to have something overtake a certain aspect of your life. Create a good environment for your workspace, so whether you are working at your desk or in a chair, make sure that you have a workspace that you really enjoy working at. So maybe go get a matcha, a little snack, play some music, put on a podcast as you study, because that's going to make you enjoy doing it better.

Another thing is you can even gather your friends who you usually go out with and be like, hey, do you guys want to have a little work date at a cafe so we can dial in and work? I guarantee you they're going to want to because they have to get work done just like you have to, but it's going to allow you guys to focus and dial in to do it together. You'll also never regret working hard, and it's really good to remember that it's kind of like when you work out, you never really regret a workout. It always feels dreadful doing it before you do it. and then once you do it, it feels so good and rewarding.

So when you work hard in school, you're never going to regret working hard in school. Even though it's hard at that moment, it'll pay off in the end. Hello, Haley. I hope you're doing great. I have a question for you. Let's say your motivation just packed its bags and went on a vacation without telling you. You have zero drive, your to-do list is judging you. And even coffee is in helping. What's your go-to motivation cheat code to get back into the game?

Hello, thank you for your question. So if motivation, like you said, has packed its bagged and just has left and you're just feeling like depleted and you need a little motivation cheat code, look at other people that you aspire to be and just look at their lifestyle. Whether that be on social media or whether that be a memoir they wrote, whatever it is, try to learn about their story and look at what they've done because I guarantee you they did not start. from the top and then make it to the top. They started from the bottom and made it to the top. So when you see their story and you can see how it unraveled, it can be really motivating knowing that if they can do it, I can do it. You have to remember that the most successful people were you.

They were in the same exact position as you are right now. So it is doable. It is realistic and you can do it. You were no different than them. And like you said, coffee isn't helping something like that's really important to do is to prioritize your morning and evening routine. So in the mornings, have a really good structure where you wake up, you eat a healthy breakfast, maybe you go on a walk or have a workout, and then you take a shower. Having that good routine is setting yourself up for success and it's going to make you perform better throughout the day. And then when it comes to the evenings, dedicate that time, the evenings to you, letting work and anything. Just go off of your head and enjoy doing the things that you like, whether that be reading or writing or watching

TV, allow yourself to really relax without any thought of work because that's going to allow you to recharge and refuel for the next day rather than just dragging all day long, worrying about everything, and then just thinking, oh, I got nothing done, and then just having the next day repeat. Starting the day with structure, going throughout the day, performing well, and then ending the day on a personal note is going to help you so much and I guarantee it. Hi, Jaden. I was just wondering how you deal with discipline because I know personally I kind of struggle with staying consistent and actually like, well, one starting and two actually

staying consistent. So I was wondering if you had like a reward system or if you had like something that you remind yourself. I love the podcast. and I can't wait to see how this podcast, this episode goes. Hello, my love. When it comes to consistency, it's really important to remember that, again, you're striving for consistency, not perfection.

So sometimes we can kind of forget that we're not striving for perfection, and we think, oh gosh, I wasn't consistent today because I didn't complete at all. It's not about how much you can do. It's whether did you try and do it. A little effort is better than no effort. at all. So even if you have a goal to work out every other day and let's say one day you only work out for five minutes compared to your usual 30 minutes. That five minutes is better than doing no minutes at all. So give yourself grace and remember that doing a little bit is consistency.

Because again, doing not anything at all is giving into the all or nothing mindset where, oh, I rather do it the full 30 minutes or I'm never not going to do any minutes of working out at all. So really just try to remember that and I promise you that can really help. And when it comes to the reward system, I also try to do this myself where if I have a goal of things I want to get done, I will kind of like treat myself to a fun dessert or I'll treat myself to watching a movie I really want to watch. Having a reward system can really help and if you didn't complete something all the way, but at least you gave effort to it.

Again, that's better than doing nothing. So you get to treat yourself to that reward and give yourself a gold star because we're not shooting to be perfect. We're not trying to get it all done, but we're trying to just be consistent. My question for you is, what was your turning point

that made you want to turn your life around or have you always been, like, motivated and organized in, like, all this self-care stuff? Or, like, what was your turning point? Like, what made you start doing that kind of stuff? Hello, my love. My turning point was definitely, again, after high school, when I just felt very rock bottom, very sad and down from how people treated me since my experiences in middle school with bullying. And I read the secret, which is all about the law of attraction. I began to get really into manifestation. And that's where it really began to motivate me realizing people only know the version of me that I put out. So I began to realize, okay, Well, I'm never seeing the people from high school again. And I'm only going to be meeting new people from now on since I'm out of high school.

And nobody knows the version of myself unless I show it to them. So nobody knows my past. They don't know that I ate lunch in the bathroom stall, but I can act confident and act like I love myself and act like I'm happy. And people will believe it. And I started to act that way. And I started to act confident and secure with myself. even though I was not secure, and that's when people started to treat me the way I was acting. And when that started to happen, it became like a little domino effect is when I really started investing in myself.

And I really want to invest in feeling confident and truly feeling happy about myself. And that's where I was like, let me try to do some more self-care and not just self-care with a face mask, but let me do self-care in the way of working on my mental health, working on different aspects of self-care. care, whether that be self-discovery to see what are my personal interests that I want to do with my career or what do I like to enjoy and not thinking about what anyone else likes but myself. And that's where I begin to really know myself and understand what I like because I started investing time into me. Hi, Jaden. My name is Carly and I absolutely adore your podcast. It really motivates and inspires me. I was wondering if you had any

tips and tricks on how to stay consistent with your skin care and hygiene routines. I'm neurodivergent and that's really, really hard for me. So I was just hoping you had any ideas that could probably help me. Thank you so much. I hope you're having a golden class girl day. Hi, Carly. Thank you so much for your message and I also always appreciate your story tags. Again, always see them. But when it comes to being consistent with your hygiene and your skincare routine, this almost goes very much into the self-investment. Nobody's going to take care of you like you can take care of yourself. People can take care of you and love you, but there's only so much someone can do for you versus what you can do for yourself. Also, nobody is obligated

to provide for you the way you should be providing for you. you would treat someone you love with kindness by caring for them and you deserve to do the same to you. So when it comes to hygiene and skincare, try to think of it in the way of taking care of yourself because you deserve it. And if it's kind of hard for you and you don't enjoy it very much, something you could do is put on a podcast or put on some music and maybe you can make yourself care routine fun in that way or lay out your products or lay out, you know, your towel for your shower and laying out things where it's prepared and setting yourself up for success. Hey, Jadin. So what advice would you give to someone who feels stuck in life while everyone else seems

to be moving forward? How can they regain their sense of direction and momentum? Hi, my love, thank you for your question, so appreciative. When it comes to feeling like you are stuck and everyone's moving forward, this is a feeling that you are feeling and it is not reality. This is a limiting belief and it's not true. Even though it feels like we're stuck and we're not moving forward and everyone else is, that's your own personal opinion. And let me tell you, all the people that you're thinking that are so much ahead of you are feeling the same way. They're feeling like they're stuck and other people are moving ahead of them. Something to remember is you are going to want your place more than somebody else is. Somebody else always has it

worse than you. You have to be grateful and proud of yourself for the progress that you have. And also be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. You deserve to slow down. You deserve not to be non-stop. It's okay if you feel behind and it's okay if you realistically are behind in life. We all go through so many different stages of our life or whatever we're going through, whether that be family issues or school or work issues. There's things that happen and things that are out of our control and it sets us back or it doesn't set us up for the perfect position. And you have to remember, this is a part of your story. Everyone has a different story. And many successful, amazing people that you admire started later in life and they didn't have sense of direction until later in life.

and there's things that stopped them before they got successful. And you have to remember that this is your own personal timeline. You do not have to be a certain place in life. There's no rush. This is not a race. Stop looking at everybody running and start looking at the finish line because that's going to get you a lot faster than looking at everybody else. Hi, Jaden.

I love you. I live from New York. As a college sophomore, I want it to have. ask, how do you handle having so many events and not falling behind and how do you recharge from being outside so often? Thank you. Love you. Hi, love. Thank you for your question. Let me tell you, again, social media, you post the highlights of your life. And something I try to do is post the highlights as well as the downsides to be transparent because I want you guys to feel heard and not alone if you're feeling a certain way.

And let me just tell you, I am not always ahead of the game when it comes to work. I have been very behind even recently. I'm recording this episode at 12 a.m. 12 a.m. I should be sleeping right now. But there's times where like this, things come up and your schedule is not fully on track. And when it comes to going out with work or events or whatever that you have to do, leave your house, it's good to remember that those tasks need to get done and they have to be done

regardless. And you just have to really incorporate balance into your life. You have to have balance. So knowing that you're going to be out tomorrow doing some work stuff, you have to dial in at home and finish the task you have to do as a way of planning ahead because again, that's setting yourself up for success. Or maybe you had some bumps in the road and you had to run some errands so you didn't get to finish all your work today. Remind yourself that it's okay and tomorrow is a new day and a fresh start. You can always have a fresh start and you don't have to wait until tomorrow to have a fresh start. You can start right then, there and now. Mainly prioritize balance in your nightly routine because that's going to be where you recharge as well as your morning routine. And we have one last question.

It has been such an amazing episode, but let's finish off on our last question. Hi, Jaden. So first of all, I really want to say thank you for your podcast. It makes me feel like the real golden class girl. And the question is, can you give me some advice on how to choose a career path? Because I was never really dreaming of becoming someone and I'm very stressed about it. Thank you. Your question is something that many of us feel where we never really had a certain dream career or dream that we want to be. When I was younger, I never was like, oh, I want to be a doctor or I want to be an astronaut. I never had something I necessarily wanted to be. The only thing that I kind of now look back and see is I always used to sell little things, whether that be rocks I'd try to sell to like the neighbors or I would gather little like stickers or stationary and try to sell it to my family for 10 cents. I always loved selling and having like a business.

I love the feeling of being like an owner to a business. And I feel like that kind of is incorporated to what I do today as this is my business. But I never really had a feeling of I wanted to be a certain specific thing. And I want you to remember that the majority of people do not know what they want to be until many, many years after college. I did not go to college. I only went very briefly. but I didn't even know what I wanted to be a few years after high school.

You don't have to choose a specific career path and be set on it for the rest of your life. Ina Garden, who is a great example of this, she worked in the White House. She got her pilots license. She had a cooking TV show. She was an author. She's done so unbelievably much in her life. And you have to remember that you can have a million different jobs, a million different career paths. You don't have to settle on doing one specific thing.

If you like 10 different things, you can do those 10 different things. You can literally be anything and try anything, and you don't have to settle on one thing. And it'll be trial and error. You can see what do you like and what do you not like. A great way how to get your foot in the door with a career path and figure out what you kind of want to do is start doing internships. Internships. Intern or volunteer at places that you would want to work. or places that you kind of have an interest and maybe this would be a job that I like and it will give you an idea of would you want to work in this space or is this space not right for you because you're just getting a little glimpse into it and if you do like it that was the perfect opportunity that you got your foot in the door and could potentially get a job there now if you are listening to this you have an interest to better yourself and that is so important I hope you know that the

The sky is the limit. Literally, whatever you want to be in life, whatever you want to do in life, the person you want to become, how you want to treat others, how you want to be treated, what you want to do, every single aspect of your life is going to unravel as it should. Any time you feel like, why did this happen to me? It didn't happen to you, my love. It's happening for you. I promise you there's a reason for everything.

And it is okay. you are at right now, regardless of how behind you feel or how lost you may be, many people are in the same position of what you're feeling right now and you are not alone. You have such a beautiful life ahead of you and it is just getting started no matter what age you are. You could be any age and it can just be a fresh new start to becoming the best version of you and living your dream life. I love you so much and I really hope you guys enjoyed this Q&A calling. an episode. I thought it was so cute of you guys leaving the voicemails and just being able to chat with me and I hope you enjoy this episode. If you did please share over your Instagram story

and TikTok, I always repost your guys' content and the TikToks you guys have been tagging me in are so cute. Forever grateful and we have so many exciting episodes coming out this year. So stay tuned. I love you so much and I am so proud of you. If nobody, has told you know how proud of you I am. I'm so proud and you have such a beautiful life ahead of you. Anyways, I've said that like a million times, but I mean it. You have such a beautiful life. So be ready. Be excited and do not forget to stay busy yet pretty.