Busy, Yet Pretty - Confidence Will Change Your Life: Let The Opinions Of Others Go & Start Living

Episode Date: January 26, 2026

Confidence is a personal journey, and it looks different for every woman. In this episode, Jadyn Hailey guides you through the process of stepping into your power, embracing who you are, and letting go of the fear of others’ opinions. With gentle encouragement and practical mindset shifts, she helps you begin shaping the confident, self‑assured woman you’re becoming. Sip a cozy matcha latte and settle in as you start this empowering transformation.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oh, hello, my love. If you're new here, welcome to the podcast. This year, we're going to lock in and just become a happy version of ourselves. There's so many exciting things we're going to talk about this year, and I'm so excited to have you. And most importantly, welcome to Bidgett Pretty. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. I'm very excited about today's episode.

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This is truly the perfect guide to confidence and seriously not caring about what other people think. Let me remind you that confidence comes from what's, And of course, that's cliche, but let's be real. It's true. And it's so funny because I feel like every parent or like an upper guardian that we had has always told us that confidence comes from within. And it is something that we all kind of look past. And that's another thing, something that parents used to always tell us is something like, oh, they're being mean because they're jealous of you. Also, so true. things that our parents said or someone in our life has said sometimes is so true but we just look past

it because we just mark it as cliche but like I always say cliche things are known for a reason even though you know they're cliche you feel you've heard it a lot it's known and talked about for a reason when it comes to confidence having your dream body will not bring you forever confidence It won't. And of course, external physical appearance can definitely boost your confidence, but at the end of the day, it all stems from within. I honestly feel like confidence is all about perspective because it's all the way we look at things, how we view things, how we look at things, because perspective is all through our mind and it's how we're viewing people, ourselves, anything. When you view someone or view a job or view anything and put it on a pedestal, you automatically have the perspective that it's better than you. Confidence will change your life because when you aren't confident,

there is a wall in front of you stopping you from taking action because your lack of confidence works as a limiting belief and is holding you back from taking action on the things you want in life. For instance, your lack of confidence is holding you, back from applying to the job that you want to work at. You're not confident in your skills. You're not confident in who you are in results. It's not going to leave you feeling excited or wanting to apply to that job because you do not feel worthy of it. Same with a relationship. Maybe you see a guy that you think is really cute. They're very successful and you've been

liking them for a while, but you're not going up to them and introducing yourself. because you're not securing yourself and you're not confident. So like I said, when you're not confident, there's a wall in front of you from taking action. So things are not going to happen in your life that you want to happen when you do not have confidence because confidence and security go hand in hand. And when you do not have those things, those key factors to work the things that you want, then it's just going to hold you back and keep you still, keep you in place. and you're just keeping in your comfort zone.

You have to be uncomfortable. You have to realize that being confident, you don't have to be loving, giving a speech out in your class. You don't have to love being uncomfortable, but you have to be uncomfortable to grow and you have to be uncomfortable in order to get comfortable. Let me explain what I mean. When you stay in your comfort zone,

you obviously do not grow and you're staying still in place. But the thing is, if you want to be comfortable living your dream life and having all the things that you want in life, happiness success, you have to put yourself out there and get uncomfortable. You don't have to have all the confidence in the world to be uncomfortable, but you have to have a little confidence for you to be able to take action. So let confidence be the driving force of you taking action. When you're not confident in yourself, you're not going to feel valid. valuable in situations and you're not going to feel like you deserve the end result of what you're wanting. You're going to feel lack of worthiness and you're also going to lack feeling like you deserve what you want. You need to remember that limiting beliefs are not reality. As much as it

feels like something we believe about ourselves or something that we want, it's a limiting belief. It's not reality. You are worthy. Even if it feels like you don't deserve something, you're not that great. You don't deserve to get that job. You don't deserve to win that medal. Whatever it is, that is a limiting belief. You are in fact capable of anything, but realistically, you're as capable as your confidence. Let me say that again. In reality, of course, you are capable of anything, but when it comes down to it, you are only as capable as your confidence. When you are not secure and confident in yourself, you will not be confident to achieve that. thing, get that thing, whatever it is, you are only going to take action when you feel confident

enough to take action. This is why confidence is so important because when you have eternal confidence, that's going to be your why and your driving force to get up, get started, and go after what you want. When it comes to confidence, something else that I really like to talk about and I think it's important to highlight is you can portray you have confidence and other people will believe it. You could be the most insecure person, and when you act confident, other people is going to believe you're confident. People only know the version of you that you portray. So if your shoulders are up towards your head and you're looking down at your phone, not

looking people in the eye, clearly you're showing signs of you not being securing yourself and not being confident, and that's going to be easy to read. But even if you are feeling insecure inside, you don't feel confident, act it because when you act it, people will believe it and people are going to treat you as a confident person. Not only that, when you begin being treated as a confident person, you're going to feel more confident about yourself. It's really a domino effect and here's another cliche thing that people would say, but fake it till you make it is actually so true because sometimes you have to fake it. You have to fake that you're confident and doing that is going to make you believe it because you're

going to have people treating you as a confident person. Start acting like the person you want to become and you will become that version of you. So of course, the question that we all want to know, how do you gain confidence? Let's get into it. So you need to have the realization with yourself that you are here once and you were born into your life, not somebody else's. It's very easy with society, with having friends, going to school, going to work. You feel the earth. You feel the urge and need to live up to what someone else wants you to be. Same if your parents want you to have a certain job or career. It feels very much like you're disappointing someone when you're not living the version of yourself that that person expects you to be. But let me remind you that

this is your life. If they want you to have a certain career or certain lifestyle, guess what? They can go do that. They can have that career. They can make that version of themselves for them. You do not have to be that person. You are born here living your life. Why are you trying to please someone else and trying to live someone else's life for them? And let's be real, a $100 moisturizer and a new skinny body and a new haircut will not be the answer to confidence. I remember when I was in the depth of my eating disorder, I would always say to myself, when I get skinny, when I was already really skinny, but when I get skinny, when I actually like my body and it's all toned and tiny, I'm going to be the happiest person ever and I'll finally be living life.

Let me tell you that I had a tiny body, a skinny body, and my eating disorder did not even see that in the mirror. I saw a totally different version of myself from body dysmorphia. And let me tell you, being your skinniest or looking a certain way that you want to look will not be the answer to confidence or happiness. Because let me tell you, when I was in my eating disorder, I never once felt confident or happy in my body. I just felt I was always chasing after something, which was to be skinnier and skinnier. Let me tell you, I gained healthy weight back and I'm fully recovered years later. And I am the most confident I've ever been. So that just is a reminder that you may think something will solve all your issues and solve your confidence once that

thing has changed, but that's not the answer. It's not going to give you forever confidence. It may give you a little temporary happiness and temporary confidence, but in end result, it's not going to give you longevity confidence. Don't try to live in the footsteps of somebody else because like I said, this is your life. And when you're on your deathbed, the worst thing, you could ever have is regret. Truly, there is just nothing worse than having regret. So live for her. Live for your 80 and eight year old self. Your 80 year old self who cannot turn back time. Live for her because you have that time right now to do things for you and live out your life. Stop caring so much about what other people think. Stop caring about the girl who's rude to you

your class, stop caring about your co-worker who's rude. Whatever, whoever is making you feel down and insecure, it is seriously their own problems reflecting because a happy person does not have the interest to bring someone else down. A happy person wants to uplift somebody else. So when someone doesn't like something you do, that is their own problem with themselves. Because you're happy with what you do. Why would someone have such a problem with someone else and how they live their life if they were happy with themselves. Nobody is happy with themselves who actively goes after someone else for living their own life and pulling them down. If someone doesn't like something that you like, oh well, and they don't have to do it, but you're going to continue doing that.

We so often feel that we aren't happy and don't know why. And the answer is, is you're not living for you and what you want. You may think this is something that you've, want for your career or whatever it is. But you have to dedicate time to yourself every few months and think, am I doing what I want right now for me or am I doing it for someone else? I feel like if you're a people pleaser, then you get this and you're maybe someone who struggles with this, but you cannot live somebody else's life. When it comes to confidence, confidence does not come overnight. Of course, I feel like we all know that, let alone it may not come for you in a week, month, you may not even get confidence in over a year. Journey and building that looks different for

everyone. It's not just like flipping a switch. It's practice and taking part in what makes you uncomfortable. Like I said, you cannot grow if you stay still. You must, you have to put yourself out there and make yourself uncomfortable to grow and to evolve. So the way to get confident is making yourself uncomfortable. So challenge yourself to do something outside your comfort zone. Go up to a stranger and compliment them. Go wear your hair a different way. Go wear heels or to work or school. Take yourself on a solo date without headphones.

You have to get outside your bubble, even though it feels comfortable, safe, and we don't want to leave our bubble. That's normal. But you have to get outside your bubble. Of course, this may sound horrible for having to go up to a stranger and compliment them or going on a solo date. and you may think, oh, well, I could never do that right now.

Like, that sounds terrifying. Go take baby steps. Take baby steps every single day and work your way closer because even if you say, okay, today I'm just going to think of what I would compliment that person. Think of that in your head. Maybe the next step you could do is just smiling at someone who walks past you. Then maybe the next day you're going to challenge yourself to say to someone, I hope you have a good day.

And then maybe your next step is complimenting a random stranger. Work your way up and take baby steps because all of a sudden, all those little baby steps are going to add up and you're going to feel so much more comfortable. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on.

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Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy. New items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use Code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase.

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And it's time for you to turn those what-ifs into with Shopify today. Sign up for your $1 per month trial today at Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. Go to Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. That's Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. Taking action, or you can do what I like to do, which is dive in headfirst. once you start putting yourself out there, it actually feels uncomfortable to not put yourself out there and get uncomfortable. Like, I don't like when I stay in my comfort zone. I just know I'm not growing or evolving.

I rather do something out of my comfort zone for a short period than think about possibly doing it and anticipating it, making it build up to feel scarier and scarier in your mind because sometimes you think, okay, maybe I'm going to challenge myself to do this today. and then you start thinking about it so much and it really is just a simple challenge where you want to go compliment a stranger, but you build it up to be so scaring your head where what if this goes wrong? What if this happens? What if I accidentally stumble my words? What if they find me offensive, complimenting them? You start going on like a little domino effect with your thoughts and it becomes so much scarier than how it would really come out. that's where sometimes it's best not to think about things and do it right at that moment if you think I want to challenge myself to go take myself on a date okay don't plan a day in advance instead be like you know what I'm going to go take myself to lunch right now things are not as bad as we make it up to be in our head and a lot of the reason why we fear taking action is because we actually fear trying it

of the chance of it not working out and our fear of rejection. And of course, we also have the fear of opinions of others. If something doesn't work out for you when you try it out, that is your sign that that wasn't meant for you. But why would you lose before you even try? Seriously, it's so easy for us to be like, no, I wouldn't be able to win. It's fine. I'm not going to try.

But why would you not try? because there is a chance. You have an equal chance, just like anybody else. Give yourself a shot. Stop trying to push yourself down and stop trying to belittle yourself. If something doesn't work out for you when you try it, at least you know that it wasn't meant for you and you're being redirected to something better. But what if you try and you love it?

Or what if you try and it works out and it ended up being the best thing that ever happened to you? You would never know if you didn't try. Confidence comes from both having a certain mentality and mindset, which is the majority of where confidence comes from. But of course, physical also does play a role as well. And by physical, I do not mean how pretty or fit that you are, but physical in the way of you take physical action. The mental majority of gaining confidence would be from changing your perspective, as I said,

and not talking so down about yourself. we often talk so negatively about ourselves. We're ourselves's biggest critic and I mean I am, you are to you. We all do this, but it's really good to be mindful of not always trying to be so hard on ourselves and trying to critique ourselves so much. Physical action is you self-investing physically in yourself and that could be you doing a workout class. Taking physical action such as the workout class is going to boost your good happy hormones.

in result making you feel happier and good about yourself. And not only that, it's you taking yourself by taking action, taking yourself out to a workout class, which is putting yourself out of your comfort zone. Doing a physical action of self-investment is going to make you feel better about yourself, whether that's cooking at home or painting your nails, doing your hair, organizing your vanity, doing your makeup. All those things are things that are going to help benefit you,

feel better about yourself. You need to dedicate time to doing those things because when you do that, in a result, it's going to make you feel more secure with yourself. The little things, even if it's putting an eye mask on or sleeping longer, doing extra physical self-care habits are going to add up little things, just the simple little things, they're going to add up and make you feel better. That's where I'm saying physical action can make you feel better, not physical appearance necessarily where when you get skinnier, you're going to be happier, but rather when you take time to work out, when you paint your nails, when you do some home-cooked meals, those things are going to make you feel better because you're providing for yourself. You're not

seeking out for being provided for from a parent or a significant other. You're providing for you and you're your biggest caretaker. Your relationship with you and how you treat yourself is just like a romantic relationship. If your partner is giving you constant reassurance, love, affirmation, and putting in effort, leaving notes for you, doing sweet things and going above and beyond, you're going to feel more secure in your relationship. So you have to do that for yourself. That's why treating yourself is just as important as it is a relationship.

When you invest in someone and invest in a relationship, you're going to get most likely a better outcome when you give that effort and give that time for that person, just like your relationship with yourself. When you give yourself time, invest in yourself, you're most likely going to have a much better relationship with you than you would if you'd put yourself to the back burner. So invest and treat yourself with as much love as you would someone you love. When it comes to how you hold yourself and portray yourself, nobody knows when you're insecure unless you show it, like I said.

So confidence is quiet, but insecurities are loud. And it really goes to show when you see a confident person, that's why I'm saying when you act confident, no one's going to think, oh, is she really confident or is she acting confident? No, you're just going to blend in. But when you're insecure and you're showing your insecurities and, you know, you're looking down at your phone, your shoulders are up to your neck. It's going to show your insecurities much more than it would show confidence.

that's why it's so important to act confident and believe you are and then you will truly become confident we are all living right now for our first time on earth and it's our time living in our body living out our life for us and our soul and why in the world would you care when you already are here on earth living your one life why would you care what that girl thinks about you or if that guy likes you back. When you stay true to yourself and live for you, you will find your happiness and what is meant for you. When it comes to your confidence journey, understand that confidence is priceless. Nobody can take that away from you. If you have it and have a hold of it, nobody can take that away from you and no one can buy confidence. Like I said, you can't just

have a new face or a new body and then think all your problems are going to be solved with your confidence, no. If you always wait for validation from your parents, family, your friends, your significant other, your acquaintances, or value the opinion of others more than your own, you'll never live life for you because you'll always be living the life for someone else. I have many episodes on how to not care what other people think that really dive into the perspective aspect on why you should not care about what other people think. But in the grand scheme of things, we have to just keep trying to change our perspective and really think, why are we here? Remember your purpose. When you have a why, meaning and a passion,

that's going to be your driving force. Why do you want to make money? Why do you want to move to a different city? Why do you want this? Why do you want that? When you truly value and know your why, that's going to also bring you more confidence into taking action. I used to be so insecure. in school. I was truly so insecure. I swear I would just want to bury my head in my sweatshirt when I was at school. I would look down. I would never make eye contact. Never once. I don't think I ever made eye contact with someone at school. I was truly so scared and people were not the nicest to me and I was easy to walk on. I was so insecure with myself and those insecurities show. being insecure is so much louder than being confident.

When you look into a room, you're not going to think, okay, who's confident, who's not, you're just going to realize when someone is less confident. That said, when you start your confidence journey and actually start building on that confidence, you will have a presence when you walk into a room that is just an unmatched confidence. I swear, when I walk into a room sometimes, my confidence is just at an all-time high, and it is noticed. I will have people say, I can tell you're so confident.

And I promise you, this is going to take time, but your confidence will be allowed and be present and really become a hot, confident woman. And again, all that is a mindset thing. You do not have to be the prettiest person in the world. You could be the least attractive person on the earth and be the most confident person

and appear the most confident person. Confidence is attractive. People are drawn to what is liked. When you like yourself, other people are going to like you. And of course, not everyone's going to like you. Do you think life would be interesting if everyone liked you? No. Why would we all want to like the same people?

Why would we all want to be the same person? We're all different. You can't expect for everyone to like you. If everyone liked you, that's going to be a boring life. You have to be okay with not being like. by everyone. You only have the now and no day is promised tomorrow. Wouldn't you be devastated if all you did was wait, wish, and want a different life and you never got it because you never lived for you? I think that's where a bit of my death anxiety comes into where I just put so much

love and thought into life and I think, oh my gosh, like life is so precious and I think of this and then all of a sudden I get scared of losing it. I think that's a little bit where my death anxiety comes in. But anyways, I think it just is so important to think how precious life is and you don't want to slip away from you and you want to value each and every moment you have. You don't owe anyone an explanation how you choose to live your life and enjoy the life that you want. As long as you're not negatively impacting anyone else's life, then you don't owe anyone an explanation why you're living that lifestyle.

or living that life. If you want a certain career, but your parents don't want you to have that career, then sorry, that's the career that you want. You're not going to be happy doing something else and you're not going to be confident when you act as somebody else that you're not. I want to leave you with a few quotes that I love on confidence.

One is, believe you can and you're halfway there. I love that and it's so true. The hardest step is believing, and once you believe you're halfway. there. Another one that I love is with confidence, you won before you've already started. I love that because like I said, sometimes when we're not confident in ourselves or we don't feel like we're deserving enough of something, we lose before we even start. So with confidence, you've won before you've already started. That's also having the confidence and courage to know that you're going to be

okay if it doesn't work out. You're going to be okay if they don't like you back. You're going to be okay if you don't win. Another quote that I love is be you and the world will adjust. I love that. I think it's so important when staying true to yourself. Confidence is not, they will like me. Confidence is I'll be fine if they don't. I just love that so much and I think it's so important where it's not about other people liking you back. It's about you liking yourself and the world will adjust. The right people will attract to you when you love yourself and stay true to yourself. I love those. I just think they are the perfect pick-me-up. I want to know what makes you most confident.

Repost this episode on your Instagram story and TikTok, tagging me, and show me what makes you most confident. And don't forget to tag me so I can repost. I'm beyond grateful for all your support, truly. And confidence is something that is so important to talk about because I feel like we all lack it. And again, I feel this is all very perspective base on how you view the world and how you view people and view yourself. But anyways, I hope you love this episode as much as I love you. I hope you

have a great day. Have a great start to your week or end of your week whenever you're listening to this. With confidence, you have won before you already started and do not forget to stay busy yet pretty. M-a.