Busy, Yet Pretty - Do You Have The Courage To Be Disliked?

Episode Date: May 4, 2026

This one's a wake-up call. Jadyn dives into one of her most passionate topics yet—what it really means to stop living for other people's approval and build the confidence to be unapologetically yourself, even when that means being disliked.✨Affirmation of the week✨I'm going to enjoy what I like and stand firm on what I dislike.💖Self-love question💖What has been holding me back, and why?Follow Jadyn on Instagram (@jadynhaileyy) & TikTok (@fairyjadyn)Check out current Busy, Yet Pretty sponsors here: www.cakemedianetwork.com/busyyetprettySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you're new here, welcome, we talk all about how to become the best version of you, solo dates, hobbies, and just honestly how to enjoy life. And of course, we dive into confidence and mental health because that is very important. I am so excited about this episode. It has to be one of the most excited I have been about an episode in a while. Today, we're going to talk about the courage to be disliked.

Because we have people in our life who don't like us, and we also have a lot. and we also have people in our life who we care too much about their opinion. So this is going to be a realization and motivation and a wake up call to you and also how to have that courage to be disliked. But before we get into that, let's do our weekly review. This week, my cat got his ears removed. Yes, I literally removed my cat's ears, which makes me so sad, but he got his cat, he got his ears because he had cancer squamous cell carcinoma all over his ears because he lived on the streets for over 10 years. so the only way to help him not be uncomfortable was either remove his ears or let the cancer eat his ears away and $10,000 later I got his ears removed but he's healing so well which I'm so happy about

but you can see his entire journey of him getting his ears removed on my TikTok and Instagram I have been non-stop sharing videos on it another thing this week is I have been trying to eat more at home again I have been on a non-stop kick eating out sweet green has literally been my non-stop every single single day the past month. I've been back at it cooking and I honestly am happy. I feel like it's, it's nice to be able to cook back at home again and not spend so much money eating out. But let's be honest, there is nothing better than just a takeout meal when you're busy and you don't want to cook. And another thing this week is I've been trying not to rush into summer and actually enjoy spring. It's so easy to look 10 steps ahead and a season ahead. And I really have just been

in trying to enjoy the spring because once it's summer, you want the spring back. and you always want the season before then. So I have just been enjoying the season, and I'm going to start my garden soon, which I'm excited about. Now on to the current obsession. My current obsession at the moment is culture pop, ginger lemonade soda. So they're kind of like a poppy, allie pop, but I have been loving them lately, literally the highlight of my day. So good. It's like a healthy soda.

But yeah, the culture pop ginger lemon soda, so good. Another current session right now is called Realm or like Realm. I think it's Realm, the Realm non-toxic room spray. It smells so divine. I have the lavender one and it's safe for pets. It's non-toxic. So I just spray it all the time freely because it's obviously a lot healthier than spraying toxins in the air.

So I have been loving it. Another current obsession right now is stretching my hips and legs and that may sound weird, but I'm telling you, I've been going to yoga very consistently lately and I have just been doing a lot of stretching, but not overly stretching because I have hypermobilities. so it's not good to overstretch my body, but at the same time, it is good to have that daily stretching. So I have been doing it, and it's made me feel so nice and more stronger, and I just love it. It makes me feel so good. Now unto my goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is to do an unfollowing and deleting Picks spree. So I just need to unfollow so people. I follow way too many people,

and sometimes I just see something cute and I click it. But then I'm like, okay, I have a million people and I'm barely seeing things I actually want to see now. So I need to do a little unfollowing spree and you may want you as well. And same with deleting photos. I have to go through my camera album. It's too many photos, too many videos. And it just stocks up. I'm guilty. I have a few hundred thousand of both photos and videos. So let's not talk about it. But I do need to lock in and try to clean some out. And overall, just clean out any phone apps and do just a little spring clean on my phone. Another goal of the week right now, is to plan my week with core time sensitive priorities.

It's very easy for me, and I'm sure you too, to overplan or just we have so many ideas. Then we write it down such a big to-do list. But remember, it's better to decrease your to-do list for each day in order to be more productive because if you list everything on your to-do list that you have to do, it's going to feel too overwhelming and you're going to get zero done rather than getting things that you actually need done. So putting down the time-sensitive things that you have to get done that are due that day is what's important to write down and anything extra you can get to later on on a separate app.

Like you put it in your notes app. Anything extra that you need to get done, but it's not time sensitive. Actually, shout out to my therapist. I learned that from her. And another goal of the week right now is to go on a solo date. I usually go on weekly solo dates, but I have been just really held back right now with my cat being home. And now that I's healing and feeling better, I definitely want to go on a solo date.

I'm thinking about doing like a little rock climbing solo date. or go to the library, something different. So I want to know what solo dates have you been loving lately. If you've been following me over Instagram and TikTok, you know I've been doing a no scroll Sunday series, and it's been so fun and just sharing what I do every Sunday to have no scrolling on my phone. But I definitely want to also do a solo date series

because I feel like that's something where maybe you guys would love to see. Because I know I love to watch people go on solo dates, so I'm definitely going to lock into that soon. If you want to follow over Instagram and TikTok, definitely going to be sharing that soon. Now on to the affirmation of the week. I'm going to enjoy what I like and stand firm on what I dislike. I love that affirmation so much and I really recommend you affirm that to yourself

because that really ties in with today's episode with the courage to be disliked is liking what we like and standing firm on what we dislike. Not like you have to stay firm on what you dislike and not ever have other opinions and be open-minded, but at the same time you don't need to change your opinion just because other people have different opinions. Now to the self-love question of the week. This is the perfect question for you, so I really recommend asking yourself this,

but what has been holding me back and why? That sounds so simple, but at the same time, it's really important to think about that because there are things that could be holding us back because of the other people in our life or other people's opinions, and that's where, again, the courage to be disliked is very important. So think about what has been holding me back in why.

Now to the podcast review, a shout out to Maya, the listener of the week. She said, I started listening a couple weeks ago to Busy at Pretty. I love this podcast so much and thank you so much, Jaden Haley, for encouraging me to take care of myself and learn to love who I am. And thank you for all the tips on how to become my dream self. I am so glad you have been enjoying the show, Maya. Thank you so much for your review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure to leave a podcast review over

Apple Podcast and leave a rating over Spotify. Also, I'm so glad that you guys liked last week's video episode. I'm definitely more tempted now to do more video episodes. In the summer, I love to have consistency in my routine, especially with my health, since sometimes in the summer, I swear I'm just wrapped up in the plans and going to adventure and go places. And while all of that is great, it's still important to be consistent on your routines and your health, which is why I love AG1.

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That's drinkag1.com slash pretty. One of my favorite things for the spring has just been having a fresh manicure. It just makes me feel confident and just put together and clean. But I think I love it most of all because of what I've been doing with my nails lately and that thing being using olive in June. Sometimes I don't have time to go into the nail salon. And I'll be so honest with you, sometimes I just don't enjoy going to. to the nail salon and sometimes I just want to do it at home. So lately I have been absolutely obsessed

with the Olive and June Manny system. You can literally do salon quality nails at home. It's clean, safe, and easy, which is perfect. And it's designed for busy schedules. So if you don't want to go to the nail salon or don't have time, doing it at home can be so easy. I just love mine so much and just my nails feel so strong. Visit olive and June.com slash pretty 20 for 20% off your first system. That's O-L-I-V-E-A-N-D-J-U-N-E dot com slash P-R-T-T-Y-Y-2-0 for 20% off your first system. But now, without further ado, it is time to get into today's episode, The Courage to Be Disliked. I feel like that title and that statement is just a statement and it has a million words in one sentence. The courage to be disliked.

Like, think about that. To have the courage to be disliked is one of the biggest traits that. is so valuable that no one could take away from you. It is truly something that so many people wish to have that is priceless. If you truly have the courage to be disliked, you have so much power than the majority of people. Your confidence and ability to achieve what you want and most importantly, not having doubt,

can literally take you so unbelievably far. When I say the courage to be disliked, that's choosing authenticity over approval. It's not falling into the opinions of others, and it's letting go the need to be universally liked. And it's also building a life that feels aligned to your desires, you're wanting your dreams, and not trying to make a life that is approved by your parents,

your family, your friends, and society. We are all guilty of this, but let's talk about why we seek approval. Okay, this is something, again, there's nothing to be ashamed of. At some point in our life, we all seek approval. I have, you have, your friends have, we all do. And it's normal. It's human nature for us to want to hear a, five star, clap and approval that we're doing well. And let's just talk about why we seek approval.

First step is the desire to belong and feel accepted. We all want to feel accepted. We all want to feel belonged and we all want to feel like we fit in. And let's be honest, social media amplifies comparison and just has that validation loop. It's like you can see something that someone's doing and someone's getting a lot of cheer for it. It makes you feel like, oh gosh, I feel so behind and I need to get to that point too. And it could also be a comparison to your, maybe your brothers or sisters. Let's say one is very academically smart. And let's say you're very academically challenged. It can feel discouraging to know, okay, they're going to a great college and I need to have, you know, I need to go to the same college. I need to get my grades up. And maybe your parents are

putting pressure on you. And having that feeling of pressure to meet a certain standard or anything in life. It can go to really any circumstances, but having that pressure to meet that standard can be so unbelievably daunting, draining, and will literally just cause you to go in a downhill path. And that's where people pleasing often starts and it's a safety response. Now, if you have fallen victim to being liked by everyone, let me talk about the cost of being liked by everyone. Because to be honest, we don't want to be liked by everyone. Because if we're living for the opinions of others, majority of the time, we're not living for ourselves. So the cost of being liked by others is you're going to be losing clarity on your real preferences.

That's where you're going to start shaping yourself around other people's comfort and their wants. Over time doing that, it's going to literally just cause a disconnection from yourself. Like maybe your parents are wanting you to be a doctor. But deep down, you want to be an artist. And you have been going to school to be a doctor and it just is not working. It's like putting two negatives trying to make it positive. things are only going to work on your end and be successful if you want it yourself. That's where the courage to be dislike comes in.

You have to be your own advocate and realize this is your own life, even if your parents, your friends, your family, society, it doesn't fit into their wants and their opinions and their standards, then so be it. Why are we trying to people please? Why are we trying to live somebody else's life? If somebody wants something think it's the right way to go about their life, then that's their life. They can do that.

You don't need to do that. Another cost of being liked by everyone is that over time, you're just going to be so disconnected, like I said, to the point where you lost exactly what you're wanting in your life. Your goals are no longer your goals. Your parents, your friends, society, their goals are now your goals. And let me remind you that discomfort is a part of growth. Not everybody are going to understand your choices.

and let me also remind you that you don't need to have everybody understand why you're doing something. Many times we all, even myself included, will find a reason and excuse and try to re-explain and just over-explain myself to why I'm choosing to do something. But why? Why are you trying to explain to someone so much why you're choosing to do something about your life? This is your life. If you decide to give someone a few-sentence answer on your decision, like your parents, your friends, or someone you love, that's fine.

but you don't need to keep finding excuses of re-explaining and over-explaining yourself, trying to defend what you're doing to get that validation from them. You do not need anybody's approval. You only need approval from yourself. And you know where to find that approval is when you actually feel happy at the end of the day when you get in bed and your cute little sheets and your cute little pajamas and think, wow, I love what I'm doing. I love my life.

But if you're constantly living somebody else's dreams, desires, and goals, you're never going to feel complete. You're always going to feel like there's a void in you and you're never going to be successful because it's not what you want. It's kind of like forcing yourself to go to therapy if someone's wanting you to go to therapy and you go to therapy, therapy doesn't work if you're not wanting it to work. It only works if you're wanting to help yourself.

So when it comes to growth, being understood doesn't mean that you're wrong. Sometimes you'll have like this new path or try to be someone that you really want to be or have this new career path, and you start to explain yourself to why you're doing something, maybe to your parents or to your friends. And they may not understand it. They're not going to understand it because maybe you want to be an artist, but they thought you were going to be a doctor, that's hard to explain because that's a big jump. And at first, having that misunderstanding from people you love can make you feel like you're

maybe made the wrong choice. But again, that's why being misunderstood does not mean you're wrong. Now let's get into reclaiming your identity because that's something that you need to do in the process of having that courage to be disliked. Maybe we lived a lot of our lives in the goals and in the wants of somebody else where we may have even lost our desires and our wants and our goals and not even know what we truly want. So this is where you have to ask yourself, do I actually like this? Or do I want to be liked? I feel like styles are a great way for this comparison because if you think about this, there's trending styles. You may like it because you actually enjoy the style.

or you may want to participate in the style because everyone is participating in it, even though you don't like it yourself. And sometimes since everyone likes it, it just is easier to like that style so you don't have to go against the grain. There is such beauty going against the grain. And there's also beauty and liking what everyone else likes. But most of all, the beauty is what you truly like. So make your decisions based on alignment, not reaction. So just because you see everybody liking this new style, make your decision.

based off of what you truly like. Your identity strengthens when you choose yourself repeatedly. For instance, you may feel like you have lost your identity and lost who you are as a person because you have been living maybe in the footsteps of somebody else. But when you keep repeatedly choosing things that you truly want deep down for yourself, for your mind, body, and soul, styles, lifestyle, everything, the more and more you do that, you become your own advocate and start to form your own identity of what you truly like as a person of you.

your name, your person, your interest, but that's you. It's not influenced by anyone else but yourself. For the courage to be disliked, it has a lot to do with boundaries in my eyes. I feel like boundaries and building self-respect is extremely important when you were trying to work up the courage to be disliked. Not just saying yes and being a yes man, when you hear other people have an opinion of something and be like, oh yeah, uh-huh, uh-huh, agreeing to everything. Yes, sometimes it's easy to agree to what someone's saying, even though maybe you don't fully agree. and you don't need to go out loud and share your opinion, but you also don't have to agree with what everyone is saying.

If your friends want to go shopping and you don't feel like going shopping every single weekend with them, you can say no or suggest something else. It doesn't mean they have to do what you're suggesting, but it also doesn't mean you have to constantly agree to something that you don't really like. So saying no creates clarity in your relationships and boundaries reveal who respects you versus who benefits from no limits. What I mean by that is when you have boundaries for yourself and you say no or you say, oh, or suggest something else, watch and listen from the people in your life who respect what you're saying and respect your boundaries versus who is trying to take advantage of you being a people pleaser.

It's very easy to people please, especially if you're someone who just is a naturally nice, unproblematic person. And there's nothing wrong in wanting to make somebody happy or please someone and make them excited about something or make them like something or make someone like something or make someone feel. feel comfortable, but at the same time, you don't need to constantly be in the position of people pleasing by saying yes. Start saying no. If you don't want to do something, say no. It does not matter if it hurts their feelings or if it doesn't matter if it, you know, makes the situation uncomfortable. But deep down, stop. If you know you're not wanting to do something, don't agree to say yes to it and then suffer with it having to do it even though you wish you weren't. The only person capable of not doing something when you don't want to and standing up for

yourself is yourself. You have to start being your own advocate. And not only that, some people don't even realize you don't like something or don't want to do something. That's where being your own advocate is important. There's time someone can be thinking something and think, oh gosh, I really hate that or I don't want to be doing this. But maybe the other person is so unaware and doesn't even realize you hate that. Some people may have a clue and they don't care anyways. And the continue to have you do it. But there's going to be some people who are like, okay, let's say you hate shopping, but your friend loves shopping. You hate shopping, but you just agree to go every single weekend, like I said, to go with the friends. Maybe one of your friends knows you don't like shopping,

but they don't care because they're going to keep going because they want to go. But you also may have a friend who doesn't notice that you don't like going. And once you're your own advocate voicing that you don't actually want to go, see how they react. Because that is what tells if that friendship or relationship is worth being in your life. If they are like too bad, I want to go anyways, that's not a real friend. But if they respect how you feel and say, oh my gosh, like I didn't realize that or I'm so sorry, that is the type of friend you want in your life. Or someone who compromises and listens to what you want as well. Because if you're always trying to please somebody else, you don't have a relationship with that person. You have a one-sided relationship. Everything's agreeing to what they want

and they're only thinking of what they want. Have respect for yourself and stop. saying yes to things that you don't want to do and have respect for yourself and say no to the things that don't align with you. Have the courage to be disliked because when you have the courage that shows confidence and when you have confidence, it will attract the right people into your life who will respect your boundaries. First spring, one of my favorite things has been my nails and when my nails are done because sometimes I just don't have time to go to the nail salon to do my nail so I'll do them at home. The funny thing is I actually bring the same nail polish to the nail salon because it's just that good and I swear by it. I do the Olive and June gel polish and LHG and then a gel top coat.

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That's shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. Now when it comes to letting go of external validation, this can be from friends, family, significant other, anybody. Please realize, not every opinion needs to be considered. Let me re-say this. Not every opinion needs to be reconsidered. What I mean by that is there's going to be certain people in your life that you love and truly care about, and then there's going to be some people who are just extras in your life, or just even on the sidelines.

Those people do not need their opinion considered. Of course, maybe you really care about your family, your family, your friends, friends or your relationship, so you're going to consider their opinion more. It doesn't mean that you have to change your own opinion based off of what someone you love says about what you feel. But at the same time, there's an open room and open discussion for compromising and talking things through. That's where giving an explanation, speaking, discussing, that's where that's important to nurture

the relationship. But if you have someone that you haven't talked to in a while or people at your work or school who truly are just sidelined people, you're just. You don't need to be giving any time or any consideration to what they think about what you think. The career path you choose, the lifestyle you choose, the style you choose, you literally do not need to give an explanation to them. Sure, you can entertain the ones that you love. Maybe someone has questions that you love your friend says, why are you changing your style?

You can say, well, I kind of found the style I like now or I like this. Maybe you change career paths. Of course, you're going to have to explain to your parents that, you know, I'm not going to be a doctor anymore, I'm going to be an artist and explain why you want to be one. So communication, of course, is important for the people that you are close to. But again, the people who are on the sidelines, the people who you really don't care about in your life, why are you caring what they think? Why do you care about the mean girl who's at your work or at school? Why do you care what she thinks? You don't love her. She doesn't love you. So her opinion should not even be considered in your head.

You should not even think about what they think because you only need to think about you. you yourself and you and the people you value in your life. Of course, approval feels good, but it's unstable. The biggest thing to remember is that self-trust becomes the replacement for validation seeking. So when you trust yourself, not doubt yourself and have the confidence in what you like, that's where it totally replaces any like validation seeking, approval seeking that you've had the urge to do in the past. Since we got into a lot about what the courage to be disliked means and what that could look like for you from examples and everything, I really do want to get into how to build the courage to be disliked. I feel like having actionable

examples and steps are really important because I don't just want to throw things at you and think, okay, this is the courage to be disliked and you think, okay, cool. Now how do I do that? So here are some small things that you can do that are actionable things that you can do in your daily life that will help build your courage to be disliked. Number one, start small, which is practicing saying no to low-stake things. Like I said, saying no is very important practicing saying no to things that you don't want to do. You don't need to say no to your best friend's wedding. That's not what I mean.

I'm saying you can say no to low-stake things that don't really have big effects, such as maybe you're scared to disappoint somebody and not hang out with them. So you tend to always say yes, but right now you're really stressed, so you're going to say no. Another thing is delay people-pleasing responses. Like I said, we're getting out of the people-pleasing responses. mindset. So instead of just auto-agreying, which is like, yes, yes, yes, no, I agree. Uh-huh, uh-huh, in conversations. While it's easy to do that, you don't always need to just agree to everything someone's saying if you don't agree. People can share things, overshare, have their opinions,

talk to you without you having to fully agree. You can understand, but you don't have to always say yes, yes, yes to everything. If someone's talking negatively about someone you know and you don't agree with what they're saying, you don't have to say, yeah, I agree, yeah, she's crazy. No, if you don't feel that way and you wouldn't say it to that girl's face, then why are you agreeing to what someone else is saying about that person? Another thing is, this is really important, but notice when you over-explain yourself and cut it back. Like I said, it's very easy to over-explain ourselves, over-explain why we do something, why we feel away, why we're going to choose something, but all that's doing is knocking you down and creating more doubt in yourself. You can explain something once,

the people you care about and explain why you choose to do something, why you like something, but you don't have to constantly entertain it and have to defend something that you choose to do. Another actionable thing that you can do is do one thing weekly that not everyone will understand. I feel like this is great exposure therapy. So for instance, this could be maybe nobody, you know, is really outgoing. And you personally like to be outgoing, but you kind of have been more reserved because the people you are around are more reserved. go up to someone in a coffee shop, say hi, like, what's your name? Shake their hand.

Like, talk to them. Get to know them. I do this all the time. I will literally go up to anybody. I have no fear because I've installed that no fear in me. Trust me, I used to eat lunch in the bathroom stalls, be the most socially anxietyed kid in the room. I'd be so nervous, care so much what other people are thinking. And I kid you not, that literally doesn't even fly past my head.

I just, I live for myself. But again, it takes time. It takes practice. It doesn't happen overnight. But try doing something. Just one thing weekly, not everyone will understand. Another thing is write down your non-negotiables. I feel like this is really helpful because it makes you feel aligned with what you're

actually wanting by putting it down dependent paper. This way you can actually think and believe of what you like, not just think what you like because you're being influenced by something. So really take time. Maybe go on Pinterest. Maybe scroll through things. Scroll through ideas and see, okay. What am I drawn to? What do I click to? Like, where is my interest actually lie and where are they at?

And that way, you can write everything down and kind of see, okay, this is my true identity of interests and hobbies and lifestyles. This is what I truly want. Regardless of what anybody else and with no influence of what anyone else thinks. Another thing is limit exposure to comparison triggers. That can be from social media, certain people. So if you constantly tend to compare yourself to maybe people on social media or people that you hang around. For your own self, you can start to distance yourself from those people or from those things you see on social media. It doesn't have to be forever, but it has to be right now while you work on building that confidence in yourself. I feel like that example always kind of reminds me of when people say you have to love yourself first before you

love anyone else. I think of it the same way with comparison. You have to love who you are, love your life, and know what you love before you can see the beauty and other people's hobbies, choices, and lifestyles without you being influenced. Another thing is sit with discomfort instead of fixing it immediately. Like I say, discomfort is literally beautiful. The only way to grow is being uncomfortable. So maybe that means wearing something that you wouldn't usually wear out. Maybe you've been watching a new style of clothes on TikTok and is you really loving it.

but nobody, nobody, you know, wears this type of style. Wear the shirt out. Maybe you are liking a punk style. Like, awesome. Like, it doesn't matter if your friends all wear pink. Wear your punk outfit if you decide to. You're going to be uncomfortable. You're not going to feel comfortable

because you're not falling in to the opinions of others by doing something that you don't want to do. So sit with it. Sit with the discomfort. And, of course, remind yourself that being disliked is not the same. name as being unsafe. When people dislike you from school, work, wherever, that does not mean you're unsafe. All that is and is an opinion. That's it. It's literally an opinion. It does not mean something's wrong. It does not mean that anything's going to happen. It literally just means they don't like you.

You wearing a pink dress outside the house with a crowd cheering you on or if you were to leave the house with the pink dress and everyone booing at you, your actions should be the exact same. You feel just as confident and you're living the exact same way because life is the same whether someone likes you or doesn't. All it is is an opinion. You're not unsafe. Nothing's wrong. You have to have the courage to be disliked. And lastly, choose honesty and small moments to build tolerance. What I mean by that is when you're in a conversation with someone and someone's constantly talking about someone. It's easy to agree to not cause a problem or cause any confrontation, but at the same time, you don't want to have to agree and keep listening and keep having to nod your head, say yes,

when someone's talking so horribly about someone else you know. Have the confidence and simply say, you know, I don't really feel like talking about them right now. Even if that makes them a little shocked and think, okay, fine, I won't. But it's like, it doesn't matter. Have the courage to be disliked agreeing to stuff that you don't want to do going shopping, listening to someone talk bad about someone. All those things feel uncomfortable because you don't want to be going shopping. You don't want to be talking bad about someone. But something that's a little more uncomfortable is saying no. It's saying no. It's a little more uncomfortable than having to sit there. And the more and more you say no, the more comfortable you will be in yourself.

where saying no is going to be so much more comfortable than having to be uncomfortable going shopping and be uncomfortable talking about someone. Right now, agreeing to things that you don't want to do is comfortable. But I promise you saying no will be so comfortable to you, way more comfortable than that once you start practicing it. What is keeping you in the people pleasing mindset and just loop is the fear of judgment and rejection and just overthinking how others are perceiving you? And most of all, confusing being liked with being worthy.

A lot of times we attach validation and approval with feeling worthy. That's why it is so crucial that you reframe your mindset. So when you're disliked, instead think of it this way. Okay, you're being distinct. You're not wrong. You're not different. You're just distinct. You don't need a universal approval to live correctly.

Alignment to your mind, body, and soul and what you want matters so much more than agreement. You do not need a million people behind you cheering you on. You don't even need one person cheering you on in order to live a happy, successful life. You can do that in the hands of your own self and your own confidence. So I want you to remember that courage is built through repetition, not a single mindset shift. So all the actions that we talked over are just little things that you can do in your daily life and can incorporate into daily habits that will soon enough become so comfortable to you that saying no and having the courage to be disliked is more comfortable than anything else.

Every time you choose yourself, self-trust literally grows. I hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I did recording it. I feel like this is something that I am so passionate about and I just love talking to you guys about it today. If you are on Spotify, please comment below what is something that you are disliked for? What makes someone mad about you or what is something that people just don't like? like that you do. Like, be loud and proud about it. Say something that you like that no one else likes. I'll go first. Something that a majority of people I feel like around me don't like is I'm a big maximalist. Like, I love things. I see the beauty in items and just abundance. I love, I love just

collecting things. I love little trinkets. I love things. And while I tried to be minimalist in the past, obviously I wasn't happy doing that because I'm not a minimalist. I'm a maximalist. I'm a maximalist. but at the same time, I've learned to love it and to become loud and proud about it. So let me know something in the comment section and Spotify, what you are disliked for that you should be proud of. Also, make sure to share this episode over TikTok and Instagram and make sure to tag me. I always love to repose. And also, if you guys don't already follow over TikTok and Instagram, please make sure you do.

Enjoy the community chats over there because I love talking to you over my Instagram broadcast channel and over the TikTok channel as well. I just love our group chats that we have going. Anyways, I love you so much. I hope you have the best week. And the goal isn't to be liked less. It's to be more yourself. And do not forget to stay busy yet pretty.

M-h.