Busy, Yet Pretty - Don’t Settle For The Bare Minimum: Relationships, Friendships & Career

Episode Date: October 23, 2023

Baby, you deserve the best, so why are you settling for any less? In this episode your host, Jadyn Hailey dives into the topic of being your own advocate by no settling for the bare minimum for relationships, friendships, your career and your overall life. You are a golden class girl who will receive what you believe you are worth. Tune into this episode with a iced matcha latte with almond milk, as you set your standards high.  My favorite silk pillow cases (code: BYP) Silk Pillow Cases    Become your own dream girl with me!! :   - Instagram: @Jadynhaileyy & @BusyYetPretty   - Youtube: Jadyn's YouTube   - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn   - Outfit Details: My Closet   - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls. Welcome back to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. I'm very excited for today's episode because we are going to talk about how you are not allowed to anymore settle for the bare minimum. But let's get straight into the weekly review so we can get into today's episode. This week, I've spent a lot of time with my mom and my grandma in town visiting me and it just feels so good and it's a different type of love when someone visits you or you visit someone. But I had such a lovely time. Another thing this week is I've been really trying to just take things slow and prioritize balance. I really think balance is so important in every aspect of your life. And after my health scare, I really, really prioritize balance lately and just taking time to rest because it really just opened my eyes and realize I need to slow down a bit and enjoy my time, watching TV, resting, having a balance outside of work. So that has been really helpful. Another thing this week is I've been doing all the fall things.

I mean baking food, decor, outfits. I just love fall in the holidays. It just is such a comfort to me and it makes me feel like a little girl again. But I've been fall baking, fall cooking, trying to put together fall outfits, decorating my home all fall-ish. But the minute it turns November 1st, the Christmas tree is coming out. But I have just been loving the holidays. It just makes me so happy. Moving on to a current obsession.

My current obsession is fall sense. I absolutely love fault candles. And I got a fall candle that smells like vanilla, honey, cinnamon. All of the fall flavors. It just smells so good. Another current obsession is the La Roche Pose Ephaclard Treatment. This is actually probably the first product I've ever actually started to notice a difference with my skin. Within one use, it already started wiping away my breakouts.

and I'm just so excited that I feel like I have a glimpse of hope in clearing any of my little breakouts. It's such a good product. If you have acne-prone skin or any breakouts, I really, really recommend trying it. It's linked to my Amazon storefront under Beauty, if you want the exact one. Another current obsession is silk pillowcases. I've been really trying to cater to my skin lately, and I feel like product buildup can get so much on your pillow and it can become so unsanitary. So I started using Blissy pillowcases and guys, the difference in my skin, it's absolutely insane. And not only do I see a difference in my skin, I see a difference in my hair. I don't wake up with my hair tangled every day.

So being 100% silk, it doesn't absorb the moisture from your face. I also love Blissy because it's hypoallergenic, so it's perfect for sensitive skin. Blissy silk pillowcases are the best silk pillowcases on the market. They have tons of different prints, colors, and they make great gifts because there's an option for literally anyone. Yes, men love them too. You can try now risk free for 60 nights at blissy.com slash B-Y-P and get an additional 30% off. That's B-L-I-S-S-Y-S-Y. That's Blissy B-L-I-S-Y dot com slash B-YP and use code B-YP and get an additional 30% off. Give yourself a gift of a good night's sleep with Blissie. My last current obsession is the Big

Brother Live feeds. As I said in my last episode, I am just in love with Big Brother the show. I'm manifesting being on the show. I definitely know I can and I will, but it is truly such a good show all about strategizing and physical and mental comps. I just love it. Moving on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week is to figure out what I'm going to be for Halloween. I have a few ideas lined up. I want to pick the most perfect one for this year. I most likely will figure it out 24 hours before, as I always do. Another goal of the week is to cook. a new fall dinner. I really want to make a squash soup. Try something new for the fall. Something that I've been trying to do right now is remember less is more. So this week,

another goal I really want to try to get rid of more and more things to just live more of a simple life and be more organized. And lastly, my goal of the week is to practice more driving. I'm slowly and slowly getting there to gain my license and I'm so excited. So I want to practice more to get more knowledge. Moving on to an affirmation. There is positivity in every corner of my life. I love that affirmation so much and moving on to the self-love question. What is something my younger self would be proud of me for? I love that so, so much. Ask yourself that question and journal it. Moving on to a challenge. When your body needs rest, instead of pushing through, make time and prioritize your health and rest. It's so important to listen to your body.

This is for both mental and physical health. Moving on to a podcast review. This review is from Lily and Lily said. As a teen girl, I have a lot to do and listening to this podcast while going on a walk or getting ready for bed. Motivates me to be the most L. Woods, Blair Waldorf, productive girl boss ever. Love you, Jaden, and love this podcast. Lily, thank you so much for your kind review. It made my day, but I love how you said that it motivates you to be kind of like those characters

because it is all about romanticizing your life, and I am just so beyond proud of you. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, please feel free to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcast. Now without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Don't settle for the bare minimum. This is for relationships, friendships, careers. That's for everything.

Do not settle for the bare minimum. And let me lay it out straight for you. You will never be happy if you settle. That goes for everything in life. It may sound easy where you're just taking note, okay, don't settle. But when it comes down to it, when we're in those actual situations, where you're given the option to just shut up and settle, we sometimes tend to take that option because it's easier to please someone

or we don't want to go through the hassle of trying to get what we want and what we deserve. And sometimes not standing up for ourselves and being our own advocate can be from stemming from lack of confidence, people pleasing, or maybe you truly don't see your own worth and that you feel that you don't deserve more. But it is time to be your own advocate. In every situation, you have two options. Option one, what you do want. And option two, what you don't want.

That being said, it's always good to analyze the situation and rationalize it from a third person point of view. Sometimes situations can be compromised, of course. But when it comes to something that is going against respect to your boundaries, that is something that needs to be discussed. Maybe something like your boyfriend talks to other girls and that makes you uncomfortable, that is something that requires a discussion. When you want something out of a relationship,

a friendship, a job, anything, you have to first believe and realize that you deserve what you're wanting. Because if you walk into a situation with no confidence asking for your boyfriend to stop talking to other girls and he says no, you're most likely going to accept the bare minimum and settle for it.

Because you walked into that situation, with no confidence and no respect. Rather than if you walk into a situation with confidence, ask him, he says no, you would let him know that that is disrespectful to your boundaries, and then it's up to him to change. If he doesn't, you need to be okay and confident, leaving someone who's not respecting you. It's okay if someone's not going to respect you.

It's okay for people to not live to your boundaries. It's okay if people don't see your worth, but all that matters is that you see your worth and you know what you deserve. and you can make the action and decision to let go of that person, that opportunity, that thing. If you want to determine if your request and what you're asking for is valid, you can ask yourself, are you giving the same effort and energy that you're wanting to receive? That can really make you think to yourself is what I'm asking for too much. But then you realize, I'm giving all this energy, I'm giving all this effort, I should deserve the same in return.

Many times in your life, as you ask for what you want and be your own advocate, someone such as your boss or your boyfriend or your husband may try to gaslight you and try to invalidate what you're asking and make it look like what you're asking for is crazy. When you know what you want, know it, okay? Don't let yourself or someone else talk you out of what you're wanting and knowing what you deserve. When someone begins gaslighting you and making you feel like what you're asking for, you are not worthy. of? You can't sit to yourself and think, maybe they're right. I don't deserve that. No. People will try to make you feel like you deserve less. You will earn so much respect from others when you portray that you know what you want and you won't accept any less. I literally cannot see one person anymore. Say, he texted me good morning. Um, okay. And that's the bare freaking minimum babe.

There is so much, so much people can do. If you were texting someone good morning, look how easy that is. Look how easy that is. Do not get excited over the little things. You can be grateful and thankful that they do that. But stop taking the bare minimum. Any single time that somebody says something nice to you or maybe he gives you a text or he says you're pretty. Okay, thank you. But you shouldn't be so excited and run with that and keep on running with that, okay? That is accepting the bare minimum. Stop giving the most than getting excited over someone who's giving you little effort. Stop giving a full applause to the bare freaking minimum. You live once, okay? Do you really want to settle for a life that you don't love? You don't want to like your life. You want to love your life.

Does this job opportunity check all of your boxes? If it doesn't, then don't take it. If this guy doesn't check all of your boxes, don't date him. Don't be desperate for every single person, every single opportunity that's presented to you. That's having a scarcity mind. That's having a scarcity mindset, but when you know that you can get what you want and you deserve what you're wanting, you will not accept the bare minimum. You won't accept things that don't check all of your boxes. You will wait for the right thing because you know what's out there and you know what's going to come to you. The more and more you accept the bare minimum, you will become more comfortable to being okay with less. And settling and accepting the bare minimum is going to push you further and

further away from your dream life. Let me break it down for you. Your dream life may include traveling the world with your money from your high-paying job that you love. You have a supporting, loving, significant other. Let's say that was your dream life. And that's the life you're going to live by being your own advocate, working hard, knowing your worth, and not settling. Or, you could settle and never receive a raise when you work above and beyond for your job.

You settled for a significant other who is constantly cheating on you and is not supportive. Is that the life you want to live? Or no, because when you begin voicing what you know you deserve, it will without doubt always come and manifest to you. If that means closing a door to something that you're comfortable with, although you know deep down it's not serving you, then do it. It'll be bittersweet, but I promise you it will be worth it. But the minute you close that door, I promise you a new one will open. Let go of your scarcity mindset when it comes to letting go.

You may fear losing everything by letting go of something, but when you have faith in yourself and allow yourself to fully detach from something, you will manifest a world of new opportunities that serve you right. When I first started my job, I used to be really excited about every single job opportunity. And to be honest, I would just accept all things that were presented to me. I would just say, yes, I'll do it, yes, I'll do it. I would put so much time and effort into filming and discussing for just a small booking. and settled for payments that were much less than I deserved. And the minute I switched my mindset into not allowing myself to settle

for any less of a payment than I deserve for the job opportunities, I then began to instead look at every single opportunity that came my way for bookings and only took the bookings that checked every single one of my boxes. And once I detached from the small bookings that were hard and that weren't paying me good, it opened a new door

and I started rapidly booking jobs that were 15 times. the amount of payment I used to be getting. This is your reminder to not take all the opportunities presented to you and only take the ones that check all of your boxes and you have to be okay with letting go. Your favorite celebrity knows their worth. Do you think they take time to settle for something any less than what they deserve? No, they won't. They wouldn't have the income. They wouldn't have the status. They would not have nothing if they settled for the bare minimum. You will not only gain respect from others when you begin to only accept what you deserve, but you'll become such a more confident person and a happier person. You have to stop begging for what you want and begin respectfully

stating what you want. It's up to them to improve or prove they or the opportunity is not meant for you. A few years back in my relationship at the time, I made clear boundaries in the beginning of my relationship what I found respectful and disrespectful. I am someone who always goes to by trust, but of course, actions over words always, and that's for everything in life. You should always take actions over words. But I really do trust. And when that trust was broken, beyond how hurt I was, keep in mind my boyfriend at the time I was so in love with was the love of my life, my everything would have given an arm and leg

for them. But when that trust was broken, I had to look beyond my sorrow and my love for him and prioritize the love for myself instead. It would be disrespectful for me to allow myself to stay with someone who admittedly broke my trust, boundaries, and my respect. That would be only hurting myself. So beyond how hurt I was of the situation and beyond how much I loved him, I have to love myself more and staying with someone who disrespects you is not respecting yourself. When I closed that door, I allowed myself to detach and allow new opportunities to come to me. And I kid you not, the next few months were at

absolutely life-changing. My income started tripling. I ended up moving to my dream city. So much greatness unraveled in my life. And this is why I'm telling you that you deserve what you believe you deserve. So I want you to reflect on your job, your relationship, anything in your life, your friendships. And maybe you realize that you've been settling for some things. It's time for you to take action and do this for yourself. If you are receiving less than the energy and effort that you put into a job, a relationship, or anything, and you continuously receive less in return, it's time to kindly let go, let that job, that person, the opportunity, fly away like a butterfly and watch your life change for the better. I promise you guys, this is the moment that you are

going to change your life and not settle for the bare minimum. I love you guys so much. I really hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I did recording it. It is so important to know that your worth and know what you deserve and you guys deserve the entire world. I am so beyond proud of you guys. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, please feel free to share your story about the podcast over Apple Podcasts. Feel free to tag me over Instagram and TikTok of you listening to this episode. And every week I always choose one person to send a little gift card to for a drink on me. I love you guys so much and I hope you guys have a lovely day and a week ahead. Do not settle for the bare minimum and don't forget to stay busy yet pretty.