Busy, Yet Pretty - Doomscrolling & Procrastination is Ruining The Life You Could Be Living

Episode Date: March 16, 2026

Are doomscrolling and procrastination silently stealing your dream life? In this motivational episode, host Jadyn Hailey breaks down why these two daily habits are the biggest things holding you back — and what you can do to stop.Jadyn gets real about how hours of mindless scrolling and "I'll start tomorrow" thinking quietly add up to years of lost time and unlived potential. This episode isn't just about tips — it's a genuine wake-up call to stop watching other people live their lives and start building your own.✨Affirmation of the week✨I am leaving behind habits that are holding me back from living the life I deserve.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you're new here, welcome. We talk all about how to become the best version of you, live your dream life, and honestly just master a routine and a lifestyle that you love. So it makes you excited to wake up in the morning and live your life. With that said, this episode is the perfect episode for honestly the majority of people on this earth because we all do it. We doom scroll. We procrastinate. And it's time to get up. And it's time to get up. stop doing that because let me just be honest with you, it's holding you back. And there's so many things how you can do to change and implement into your life. But most importantly, this episode's going to be more of a motivational-based episode. Of course, I will have some ideas in there how to stop and what to replace that doom scrolling with. But majority of this episode is going to be a very motivational episode in the way of, I'm telling you to get up and get motivated. A lot of my other episodes are more ideas. I talk about solo hobbies like my last episode. And just things that are like ideas that you can do for yourself. But like I said, I'm in the mood to just

be motivational towards you and just encourage you to start living your life. So we'll get straight into this episode. But first, we have to do our weekly review. This week, I have been planning my fancy Nancy feminine spring birthday party. And this has just been a party that I absolutely loved planning. Even though I did it very last minute, it has been something that I just have loved because it is just so colorful spring and if you know me I love a good pastel and a good spring coated feel and that's what it is I'm just trying to lean into that and it just makes me excited from the new season I'm going to share a lot of videos over TikTok and Instagram of my fun fancy Nancy style party so stay tuned for that and then when it comes to another thing I've been doing this week is I have

been hour by hour scheduling my schedule of the day it has been so helpful to time block I usually just more to schedule mine to-dos, but it's so much easier to follow a time block schedule. So I really recommend you trying to do that if you haven't already. I'm telling you it's going to leave you being so much more productive. Lastly, this week, I have been just trying to tackle five to ten minute task as soon as they come into my face rather than putting them off. And that's another thing to practice with procrastination is start doing your task as they come. there is a task on your schedule or on your to-do list that takes under 10 minutes, do it when it's right in front of you instead of putting it off because then you're going to

have tons of added up tasks that could have taken just minutes for you to do earlier in the day now at the end of the day or you just keep putting it off months. Like there are things I put off before that were five to 10 minute tasks that I'm like, why didn't I just not do it months ago? And I just kept rescheduling it in my calendar day after day. and it really is just that much easier to get it done. And it's really just making it such a bigger deal when you keep putting it off,

rescheduling it and procrastinating it. Now to my current obsessions. My current obsession at the moment is my pastel color-coded Google Calendar that I did. I love all things pastel color coordinated. So I made it a very like strawberry macha themed Google Calendar color theme. And it came out so cute. Let me know if you want a tutorial on that because I will definitely post one and show you how I do.

did it, but it is literally so cute and it just makes me excited to go on my calendar. Another current obsession right now is fresh spring air. There's nothing like opening your windows or just putting your head out the window while you're in the passenger seat and just smelling that fresh air of the spring flowers and just the clarity of it being spring. I love that so much. Another current obsession right now is coconut water smoothies. If you have not tried, the harmless harvest coconut smoothie, you are missing. out. It is literally the best drink I've ever had other than macha. I will mix it with espresso. I haven't done it with matcha yet, but it is just truly so amazing and they're just so easy to

bring on the go. Now on to my goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is to plan my birthday. So my birthday is tomorrow actually and I'm so excited, but I want to plan a fun little girls day with my mom. So I need to figure that out and see what I want to do. Another goal of the week right now is the scheduled crafting time when my favorite solo hobbies are crafting. I just love doing any type of crafts. It's so funny. I remember when I was younger, I just sat and enjoyed crafts and didn't want to do anything during the day, but that I would tape like feathers onto magnets and I would just cut out

different shapes. Like, I just loved crafting. And it definitely carried on to my adulthood, but I would love to start doing more crafts or I'm just scheduling it out and doing it more kind of like a date with myself. Lastly, my goal of the week right now is to stretch more often between working. I sometimes will get stiff from just sitting all day working and I think it's very important to stretch as well as doing it early in the morning when you wake up. When you wake up before you go to bed, just having a nice stretch can just start and end your day on such a positive note.

Now into your affirmation of the week. I'm leaving behind habits that are holding me back from living the life that I deserve. I love that so much because there are so many habits and things in our life. that we don't realize is truly holding us back from being to where we want to be. So I think that's such a good affirmation to affirm to yourself. Now when it comes to your self-love question of the week, what will I do for myself today that moves me closer to where I want to be? I love that question because it's so important to focus on small actions and daily things that

you can do that just add up over time. Again, we're not into the all or nothing mindset. So we're doing little things that are going to get us closer to where we want to be. Consistency over perfection always wins, so it's very to have little things that add up to progress than having no progress at all. Now on to the podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts and leave a rating over Spotify. This podcast review is from Rin, and Rin said, I have been listening to this podcast for a while now.

I started off by being very scared, anxious, and not confident, and I had body image issues. listening to your podcast has gotten me hyped to be the person I want to be and taking care of myself more. I couldn't have been where I am now without you, Jaden. Thank you. Thank you so much, Rinn, and I am so unbelievably proud of you. I'm so glad I was able to help you on your journey, but really you did all the progress and all the work, so you should be so proud of yourself. With that being said, it is time to get into today's episode. Doomscrolling and procrastination is ruining the life you could be living. One of the most silent, quiet ways people can ruin their lives is doom scrolling and procrastination because it's not like a dramatic mistake where you bet on something or you messed up

and you failed in your eyes and stuff where it was a big hard thing that happened in your life. It's more of small daily habits of doing those unhealthy things that are going to add up. Like I said, it's better to have a little progress than no progress at all. all the things you do every day, the little things add up an end result. So are the little things you're doing during the day something positive, drawing you closer to your goals? Or is it something negative? Don't get me wrong.

There is nothing wrong with doom scrolling and nothing wrong with procrastinating. We all do it. Like, I love getting in bed on a Friday night and just scrolling on my phone and putting on TV and procrastinating things I have to do. Like, I will do that and we all do that. but there comes to a point where that's our every day and those little unhealthy habits are going to add up in the end where we're going to think, oh my gosh, look at all this time I wasted that I could have been doing and living a life that I really wanted. Because doomscrolling and procrastination are simply two things that are going to hold you back from being where you want to be, which is close and meeting your goals. It's so easy to have hours of doom scrolling and saying, I'll start tomorrow or I'll start today and then you never do.

I don't think you understand how life slowly passes you by while you stay in the same routine. In order to change, evolve, and grow, you have to start making these changes in order to benefit you. Again, it's going to make you uncomfortable, but you have to be uncomfortable to grow. Let me tell you, anybody, me, you, your friend, we're all going to want to just sit home, do nothing in doom scroll, and waste our weekend away. But I'm not telling you to get up and go move towards your goals. even getting up and going outside, getting fresh air, doing a hobby, all those things are somewhat beneficial to your mind, body, your soul, your career, whatever it is, but I can guarantee you watching somebody off of a screen, a blue light screen, watching someone's life, wishing that was

your life and doing nothing with your time is not healthy or beneficial for you. I want you to benefit in some way, mind, body, soul, career, whatever it is, I want you to benefit in some way. And I guarantee you sitting all day in doom scrolling or procrastinating things you have to do is not healthy for you. Not only that, we're doom scrolling. I kid you not, I bet you cannot remember the last 10 videos you watched. Can you? Literally, I cannot. I kid you not, when I go on my phone and stuff and I scroll, I can remember maybe one I watched that day. I cannot even name more than two videos I watched that day because it's so quick. Our brains are just flying through videos, do very short-term attention spans. And that's okay. That's normal. It's human nature.

But we can't keep doing that to our attention span and putting it towards something that's leaving us stuck in the same position that we're at. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top. And you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with the. this one, vintage, Duny, and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it, and I somehow found one on a Poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price, and I was like, wait, this is just too good

to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe.

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But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price, and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces, they really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use Code Busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K-com slash

busy. I think self-awareness is one of the best things when it comes to procrastination and doom scrolling. Understanding why you're doing what you are. Are you getting on your phone in the end of the evening after work and you have your pajamas on, your comfy in bed, and you're scrolling on your phone because you actually just want to enjoy some TikToks, enjoy going on Instagram, or is it midway through the day while you're supposed to be working and you're scrolling and scrolling to avoid task that you're having to do? There's a difference between intentionally scrolling and going on your phone and social media. And there's also a difference between intentionally putting something off that's a task

to later to rearrange your schedule for a personal reason or for a work reason, rather than actually putting it off because you simply don't want to do it. And I know it's so easy to wake up in the morning and think, oh, I was supposed to go to the gym today, but maybe I don't really feel good. Maybe it's, you know, maybe my finger kind of hurts. What is your reasoning an excuse? And that's the hardest thing is we're going to have. have so many excuses in our life. Trust me, I'm full of them. Many people are. We all have excuses

for things that we don't want to do. But in the end, it's only hurting ourselves. It's not hurting anybody else but ourselves. And you deserve to not have to always make excuses for yourself. You deserve to put the effort in and get the results you deserve. Doom scrolling is designed to trap you. Social media, doom scrolling, all of that, it never ends. You can endlessly for your entire life. Keep scrolling. It will never stop. It will never stop. When you're on TikTok and you're scrolling or Instagram on Reels, when you scroll, there's no destination. And the point is with the endless scrolling, it's dopamine. You know, you're saying one thing after another and it's, you know, it's making you feel happy. It's making you excited and you're just looking at it.

And seeing all that content nonstop, it makes you feel like you're doing something. But in reality, you're only just consuming. I'm going to say that again. You think you're doing. You're doing something, getting those emotions while you're doom scrolling. But in reality, you're only consuming. You're watching other people live their lives instead of living your own. And I'm not saying at all, get off social media forever. That is the last thing I'm saying. I am a scroller. And I can't help it. I love to scroll and I love seeing other people's lives. I love watching vlogs. I love seeing inspo for things that are going to help benefit my life. But again, it's you have to reflect and be intentional and think, am I being intentional while scrolling right now? Am I being intentional about

the tasks that I'm putting off to do tomorrow? Am I being intentional about it? Or am I trying to cover something up, put a band-aid on it, and put it off for later? When it comes to procrastination, procrastination is usually fear. It's not even laziness. It's the fear of starting, the fear of failing, the fear of imperfection. You may be procrastinating the littlest task, or you may be procrastinating starting your biggest journey of starting a business. Whatever it is, you're just waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect motivation. And let me remind you that perfect feeling will never come. It never does. I promise you, I almost didn't start this podcast when I did. I remember thinking, well, maybe I should wait until a different time because I don't know, maybe it's just not ready yet.

Instead, I got my mic, I started recording and look at my podcast. It hasn't left the charts of Spotify in education since I started it. I am always charting and that's not a brag. That's being honest. Like I, someone who used to eat lunch in the bathroom stalls, would have never thought my life would be where it is right now. I felt like my life was ending when I was in high school and middle school and having the hard time I was. But it wasn't. That was just an end of a chapter and this is the beginning of a new chapter and look at where I am. I promise you, if I can do it, you can literally do it. I'm nothing special. I came from someone who used to eat lunch in the bathroom cells would eat lunch in the classroom with the teacher because I was being bullied at school.

It is literally nothing different than you or somebody else. But the only thing I did that somebody else isn't maybe doing is I started. Think about this. If you started years ago on something that you were wanting to start on, maybe something that you fear that you're going to fail on or how it's going to work out or if it's too hard to start. Imagine if you just started it. Think about how much progress you would have had to where you are today. Or if it didn't work, it was a trial and airing you realized, okay, that wasn't for me and you tried something else.

But wouldn't you rather try and know and try and maybe having the possibility you succeed than not trying at all? Time doesn't come back. When it came to my podcast, I remember thinking to myself, I'm going to launch fast perfect later. and that's exactly what I did. If you go back to some of my first episodes I recorded, they sound horrible because my mic is a very low-quality mic that I had. I was talking very, you know, funny and just different back then because I wasn't as comfortable

as my first time. And it just is very different than where my episodes are today. But again, I wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't put out those first episodes. You have to start in order to become where you want to be. Do you understand you are leaving? losing time that you cannot get back. Two to four hours a day of scrolling on your phone is years of your life. Literally, two to four hours of your day just scrolling equals to being a few years of your life. Imagine that when we are on our deathbed, God forbid, I know it's kind of horrible to think

that way. And I'm someone who has extreme death anxiety. So I don't even like thinking about that. But when you're on your death bed, you're going to think, gosh, I would do anything to just to have one more day, to live my life one more day. But think about this. You spent years doom scrolling that equal to years of your life. You spent years on your phone. And you didn't even realize it. And what were those things on your phone that actually made you feel fulfilled? Again, I'm not saying that don't watch TV or don't watch your favorite creators. Like, I love doing those things. Those things bring me joy. But again, we're thinking about how can we be intentional about it? Or we're actually enjoying that content, doing it for a purpose that benefits us and feeds our soul rather than takes away and just

is a bandage on our time. Imagine if those two to four hours a day went into time of hobbies, learning, creating, rather than consuming. Small daily choices shape your entire future. The life you want is built in boring moments and you need to remember that because like I said earlier, it's going to be uncomfortable to change our doom scrolling and procrastination habits. But things like reading instead of scrolling, going for walks, doing your hobbies, creating things, having consistency in a routine of small healthy habits in your life are going to be what creates

the life that you actually want to be living. We all have that life that we want. And again, our life is never going to be perfect. But that's why we also have to be fulfilled in the life we have. Even if you think, gosh, my life is horrible. I have no money. I am unhappy. I hate my job, I hate my school, and you think all those things, your feelings are completely valid.

And let me just say, those things may actually be horrible for you. But what is sitting and watching other people on Instagram and TikTok, living their life, going on vacation and working hard and having their business going to make you feel like if you just keep watching them and then you're done, you put your phone down, you look at your life, it's going to make you feel depressed. That's common knowledge. But wouldn't you rather set a goal and think, you know, I'm going to do. some bit of effort to get me closer to where I want to be.

Stop thinking the life that you're wanting, the future that you want is unrealistic. You can have any life that you want. Nothing is unrealistic or unimaginable. It doesn't matter how much you think that you have no money or unhappy or you think you'll never be as talented enough to have a business. Do you understand everything that people are doing, all the people that you look up to you literally, literally, majority of them started in the same position that you were. Many people didn't come from money who are successful and have businesses.

Many people didn't come from extreme talents. Do you understand you don't have to even go to school for many different things that you maybe want to do? I'm saying like creating a business or something. Maybe you want to be a founder of a clothing company. It doesn't take all the money in the world and it doesn't take having degrees. in order to have a business. So much you can do from home nowadays and just research. Start researching. Instead of scrolling, research on the things that you want to be doing that's going to lead you closer

to the life you want. Maybe you want to have a, maybe you want to intern for a company that you love. Start going on LinkedIn, adding people on LinkedIn, make a portfolio for yourself, put things down, anything down that you've done. Even if you've done nothing, start putting anything down that you feel that maybe can contribute to being a good asset to somebody. When becoming the girl on your vision board, it is so important to have a set wellness routine. But it doesn't have to be a lot of time, whether you're traveling or just having a spring refresh, have something for your health that you can rely on. That's why I love AG1.

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And if you get stuck in the process, don't worry. They have 24-7 customer support, which is so needed. So with that said, it's time you launch fast, perfect later. And it's time for you to turn those what-ifs into with Shopify today. Sign up for your $1 per month trial today at Shopify.com. slash busy yet pretty go to shopify.com slash busy yet pretty that's shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. The only difference between you and the person that you look up to is that they started and that you haven't yet. You can be in any position you want to be. You just have to start. Have belief in yourself.

Like it amazes me how so many people don't believe in their selves or think, oh no, it's not going to happen for me because I don't have enough money or I don't have enough talent or. I just am not suited out for it. Literally you are. If you keep thinking that way, no, you're not. And I'm not saying, oh, you know, you're going to keep thinking, oh, I have money and then money's going to appear in your account. I'm saying all you need is belief. You can have zero money, zero talent.

As long as you are confident in yourself, confidence can be the biggest driving forwards to being where you want to be. It can be more valuable than money, more valuable than having talent, more valuable than schooling. It can be so valuable. Walk into the room like you own the room. Walk into the room like you are a confident person. Stop having a narrative about yourself that you aren't valuable, that you don't know anything and that you don't, you aren't deserving of things because you are. You really just have to believe in yourself. And that's where procrastination really stems from fear thinking, okay, are we going to fail? That's why we're not going to start. Is are we going to fail? Are we not going to be

successful? Is it too hard? Will I not be able to do it? Like all those doubts and worries when you just need to try. Literally, all that takes is trying. Start trying. Start having trial and error. Realize you're going to have times that things don't work out. You're going to be rejected. You have to understand that being rejected and being turned down having negative experiences and bumps in the road is what is going to lead you to the right path to success. So some practical shifts that you can do is replace 30 minutes of scrolling. Start doing like five to 30 minutes of your time that you usually scroll. Start instead of scrolling, do something with intention.

So find your intentional hobby. Start cooking, baking. It can be anything. I have a lot of ideas on solo hobbies in my recent episode. But start doing something intentional rather than scrolling and just having your mind on like autopilot that you're just scrolling nonstop and you're not even thinking. Next is follow the five to 10 minute rule. So start task immediately.

When it comes to procrastination, you're putting off. It could be a large project. It could be a small project. Whatever the task is, it could be starting a business or it could be making your bed. Whatever task, do it. I understand maybe you can't start a business right now today. But you can learn about it, research about it, start putting some progress into it. And if that's not a larger task and let's say you have some small tasks that you're putting off,

like making your bed, cleaning your room, doing the dishes. If your task takes under 10 minutes, do it right there. Don't put it in your schedule. Don't put, okay, I'm going to do this later when I get home. Do it now. Do anything that's under 10 minutes right now. And I'm telling you, you're going to realize, wow, this is so much easier than I thought it was. And also, it's out of the way and not a nagging worry on your mind that you have to do that. Lastly, when it comes to shifts for procrastination. It's so important to romanticize simple habits, things like walking, journaling, cooking, all your solo hobbies that you do, romanticize them because you're going to start feeling like the people that you watch when you doomscroll. You're going to start feeling those emotions

of thinking, you know, you watch the girls get coffee and go to Pilates. Start doing your mat Pilates at home and make a matcha from home. You're going to start feeling like those girls you're watching. Now some last minute things for now for some last things I want to leave you with when it's comes to your perspective, it's very important to shift your perspective. So realize your dream life isn't built in big moments. It's not going to be you getting things done overnight. Success doesn't happen overnight. It's going to be the little things that add up. The little changes. Start replacing some of your screen time with hobbies. Okay. That's going to be a big thing. So just realize things are not going to change overnight. You're not going to have a top selling

business in a storefront overnight. But you'll have some progress into it. When it comes to your life with doom scrolling procrastination and just getting closer to the life you want to be, you're not going to be seeing extremely big highs and wins. These things are built in very simple moments such as a random Tuesday afternoon or you just waking up on a Saturday morning doing a little thing with your coffee, doing some research, putting some action into it. It's going to be little actions that your future self is going to thank you for. And to close this episode, I want to share a few of my favorite quotes that I think I really benefited from that I feel you will as well. The life you want isn't built in dramatic

moments. It's built in the quiet decisions you make every day when no one is watching. And your future isn't decided by your goals. It's decided by what you do on ordinary days. And lastly, every hour you spend watching someone else's life online is an hour you could have spent building your own. I love you so much and I hope you enjoy. this episode as much as I did recording it. Anytime I do these motivational type of episodes, I get so motivated myself. And now I'm like, okay, I'm going to go check off all the tasks that I've been procrastinating and just feel fully up to date and caught up. And also, I'm going to catch myself the next time I begin to doomscroll. So I hope you enjoyed this episode and I hope it

helped you. If you enjoyed it, please share over your Instagram story and TikTok, tag me, and I would love to repost. I love nothing more than watching the TikToks that you guys tag me in listening to the podcast and your Instagram story. It just makes me so happy. Also, if you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts and leave a rating over Spotify. And feel free to chat with me in the Spotify comments. I love you so beyond much. I'm so proud of you. Five years from now, you'll either be grateful you started today, or wishing that you had. And don't forget to stay busy yet pretty.