Busy, Yet Pretty - Fall Back: 'Fall' In Love With Yourself This Autumn: Self Date Ideas & Enjoying Your Alone Time

Episode Date: October 13, 2025

We're rewinding to one of our favorite episodes that celebrates the art of self-love—just in time for fall. This cozy throwback invites you to start dating yourself and savor the joy of your own company. Your host, Jadyn Hailey, shares heartfelt tips on how to begin a self-love journey and offers dreamy autumn self-date ideas to inspire your next solo adventure.So grab a warm apple cider, wrap yourself in a blanket, and tune in as you fall in love with yourself—and the life you're creating for YOU.Become your own dream girl with me!! :- Instagram:  Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram- Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat- Tiktok: @fairyjadyn- Jadyn's Amazon Storefront- Jadyn's Closet- focus on growing your business ⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠-Head to drinkag1.com/PRETTY to get a FREE Welcome Kit, including a bottle of Vitamin D and free AG1 Travel Packs when you first subscribe!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. I hope you had an amazing week and are just enjoying your day so far. Welcome to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. If you're new, we talk all about self-love, self-care, and ultimately how to become the best version of you. This is a recap of one of my favorite episodes that I want to share with you guys. And it's something that I just preach so much and so often. And I just think it's very important to relax, take a listen. Or if you're on the go, take a listen, however you like, get your matcha, get your coffee, and enjoy. I am going to be back to regular posting schedule of new episodes soon. Hold out. Don't worry. I will be back. But for now, while I'm just working on my medical

flare, I just am taking it slow. But we're going to be back to schedule soon. But anyways, I hope you enjoy this episode. And I hope you have the most busy yet pretty day. Now without further ado, let's get into today's episode, which is how to fall in love. with yourself this autumn and we're going to be talking about seasonal date ideas and enjoying your time alone. I had originally planned to record a self-date episode, but then I was like, why not add some fall ideas as well to match the season? So today we're going to talk about how to fall in love with yourself and seasonal self-dates. Whether you're in a relationship, you're married, you're dating, let's say you have a crush, or maybe you're single. It doesn't matter if you have a partner or

not, you should always be dating yourself. So to repeat that, whether you're in a relationship or not, you need to still be dating yourself. Here's why. Nobody, not one person, can provide what you can give yourself. The love you give yourself, nobody can match. Of course, others can give such beautiful, fulfilling love in relationships, whether that's a relationship with your mom, your dad, your friends, your family, or your significant other. But the love that you are capable of giving yourself, is priceless and that specific love can only be found within you. Do you realize that you are the only person in your own life that you will guarantee spending your start to finish life with?

The person that you're going to spend the most time within your life is you. So why not begin to love yourself and become your own best friend? You maybe right now have to spend too used to putting people on a pedestal lately or maybe even your job or your crush or whatever it is, putting people on a pedestal. soul when really you're neglecting yourself. No, it's not that you're just not being kind to yourself. You are neglecting yourself. You should be your own top priority. And that's not a selfish thing to say. You need to be your own top priority because when you are, you'll be able to show up for your best self to somebody else. I always think of this and I always say it on the podcast, but it's like

what they do when you go into a plane and then over the speakers they say, oh, the mask will drop from ahead and parents put on your mask first and then help your kid because you always have to help yourself first before you help somebody else in that case when you do that you'll be better able to help them the thing about being your own best friend is let me warn you you'll be so excited to wake up every single day you'll want to spend every single second with yourself and ultimately you're going to fall in love with the life that you're creating for yourself so that's my warning to you You doing these actions and falling in love with yourself is going to make you not want to be doing anything but providing for yourself. Dating yourself all begins with romanticizing the little things in your life.

Something I realized personally in my own life is it is very easy to take the easy way out. And you may not understand what I'm saying, but think about it in your situation, in your life. It is very easy for you to take the easy way out and not show up for yourself. and date yourself, such as you only get dressed up when you go out to meet your friends, but you won't get dressed up when you're at home or when you're going to do your own thing during the day. Another one being, you only go on nice dinners when you're going with your husband. So you will never just take yourself to go have a nice dinner alone. And another one being, you only try new things when you're with someone else.

Do you realize that you deserve to experience all of those things independently as well? You don't need to wait for someone else or have to rely on someone else to be able to experience those experiences. You need to take action and creating those memories with yourself as well. And I'm talking things as simple as taking yourself on a grocery date. A weekly necessity that you have to do, but make it feel memorable and get yourself a coffee and a pastry before you go shopping. Bring all your cute tote bags, go shopping, and put your headphones in. Allow that thing that was just on your checklist. to go to the grocery store and get your groceries to be something more memorable and present.

So let's talk about some simple ways that you can enjoy spending time alone and simple independent activities that you can do. And again, let me say if you are someone in a relationship, you still need to be taking this time for yourself and having these dates. Even though you're having these dates with your significant other or maybe you have a family and you guys do things, you still need to schedule out this time for yourself as well. Number one, I would say, which is a very simple thing that you can do, is try out new fall recipes. It is so easy to take a few minutes on Pinterest, make a Pinterest sport about all these fall recipes that you want to try, make out a grocery list, take yourself on a little grocery date, and then come home and cook some of those new recipes for yourself or your family. And I promise you that is going to just feel such a joy in you because you're doing something hands-on, trying something new.

and being creative. Now this is a good recommendation for trying something new that is still a simple date. You can do very spur the moment because you don't have to take a lot of time doing this, but it's a picnic in a book. And again, it's easy to take the way out and just bring a blanket and that's it. Do not cut corners. You don't want to just try to check this off that you have a self-date and move on. It shouldn't just be checking it off on your list.

This should be actually enjoying it as you would having a date. with somebody else. So take time to go to the park, get your favorite blanket, lay it out, bring your favorite snacks with you, bring a cute little picnic basket, bring a wine glass, you can put in your wine, or you can put in your probiotic soda, whatever you want. Play some background jazz music and relax, read your book, and have that little picnic date with yourself. To me, that is just truly the perfect, easy self-date that you can have. One way I love to romanticize my alone time is pouring my favorite, like I said, healthy soda in a wine glass. So I really recommend you do that. Whatever your favorite drink is. Pour it into a wine glass, put on some jazz music, dance around in your lingerie

or play dress-up, almost channeled the younger inner girl in you. With it being the holiday season, I love nothing more than spending time on working on my wardrobe with having a very minimal, classy, and effortless style, which is why I think it's so important to try to find really nice basics and staples to wear and style with anything and lately I have just been obsessed with Jenny Kane right now well actually I've loved Jenny Kane for years if you go on my Pinterest board on my home board you'll see almost all of my pins are of Jenny Kane home but for years I've been obsessed with the brand and their pieces are truly just perfect for the fall and winter and honestly all year round because they are just the best staples whenever I'm wearing their

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looking forward to. And of course, you don't need to necessarily plan out every self-date as well. You can spur the moment have a self-date or spur the moment to start romanticizing your situation. And it's hard to at first, but once you get a hang of it, you'll really start to romanticize ominously everything that's happening in your life. And I know, you know, you're just to be a momentousal. And I know, You probably are sick of that word because you hear everyone say it. But I don't know another word I can use for that because it's true. You have to kind of just romanticize your life. Fall in love with everything you have in your life, everything you do, everything it is.

It's easy to compare your life to the influencer you follow or your favorite celebrity or your Pinterest boards. But let me just say, somebody is wishing they had your life right now. So stop always trying to reach and want something else and be happy with what you have. have. And that's not going to say, do not reach for your goals. I am someone who always says push towards what your goals are and achieve your goals. But while you're on the way to you're achieving your goals, enjoy the process because you're never going to get this time back. And once you achieve those goals, you'll want to achieve another goal and another goal. You'll always want to achieve something new. And that is great. But you're going to feel sad

and bum that you didn't just enjoy the process while reaching those goals. we think that achieving the goal is where the peak of life is. But let me just say, sometimes you go back and realize that the peak of life was the view. It was the way up to the mountain. It wasn't the top of the mountain. It was your hike on the way up. Now onto another little self-date idea. Again, very simple, but paint on the go.

I, like I said, am a huge fan of painting on the go. It's very easy. you can buy one on Amazon and it's perfect to keep in your car or your home because you'll never know when you're going to be on the road and just want to pick it up after a drive and go run through and get some food for you at a drive through, go eat and paint by the beach, a perfect little spur-the-moment self-date for yourself. Now on to another fall date idea for yourself is having a fall and baking movie night with yourself. If you were to have a fall movie date with your friend or your husband or your boyfriend.

Most often you're not going to be spending your entire time on your phone. You're going to be present and enjoying the time. So it's very easy when you're just alone to go on your phone and not fully be present. But you need to start treating these dates like you're with somebody else. You need to fully be present and enjoying every moment of it, not just reaching for a quick temporary fix of going on your phone and not taking it seriously. Because this is serious. You are on a date with the most important person.

in your life, which is yourself. So you have to start treating it that way. But like I was saying, have a fall baking and movie night with yourself, rent a fall movie, get some popcorn, light some candles, bake some of your favorite pumpkin bread, and then you can eat your bread while watching the movie, and you can relax, and it just gives you that perfect fall movie night feeling. Something that I do every fall with myself that I truly recommend you do is build and decorate Halloween gingerbread houses. They are truly just such a, fun craft for honestly any age, okay? It doesn't matter how old you are. It is so fun to do it. And you can have a scary Halloween movie playing in the background. Another fun thing that you can

do by being your own bestie is paint or carve pumpkins. Get a little tray of pink, white, and black paint and start painting some cute little bows on your pumpkins. And you can decorate your house with them, your room. And of course, you can do a classic carved pumpkins. put a cute little candle inside of it. Truly the perfect way to be hands-on and present in the moment. There's something so special about touching base with your younger self's favorite things. Just channeling your younger self and what was your definition of fun when you were little? When we're adults or whatever age you are, we have stress from work or school or whatever it is.

And when is the last time we actually had young fun? like the true meaning of fun when we were younger. I'm talking about playing, literally playing, rolling in the grass, doing those things. You don't need to be 10 years old to be doing that. It doesn't matter what age you are in your life, you deserve to have that playful, young, innocent fun. So begin to play. Do things that feed your younger self, even if that's watching your favorite animated Halloween movie while doing a pumpkin puzzle. Trust me, that's one of my favorite things to do.

I love nothing more than putting on Spookily the Square Pumpkin, which is a cartoon movie, and doing a cute little puzzle. It truly just feeds your soul, I promise you. Another thing is take yourself on a fall drink tasting test at a cafe. So go treat yourself, buy a few different drink items and pastry items, and just go try them out. Maybe get yourself a chai latte, a pumpkin spice latte, a cheese Danish, a pumpkin Danish. and maybe make a little ranking of scores of which thing you liked for fun and which one you didn't. Sometimes we can feel like those things aren't productive and they're wasting our time

because they're truly just childish things that we're just having fun with. But the point is that is productive because that's feeding your soul. Things that are productive don't necessarily mean cleaning or achieving so much work with your work in your career or your school work. things that are productive can also be helping your mental health and your physical health. Your soul needs to be fed and doing things like that is productive. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere.

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this is actually feels like you're really taking yourself on a date and if you've worked up the confidence to go out in public alone and are interested in doing these actual date-like activities alone these are perfect for you also i want you to know there is nothing whatsoever to fear about doing any of these things alone do you understand the confidence you portray by doing things things independently it portrays such confidence by taking yourself on a date and doing typical group activities alone Because remember, you may be alone, but you're not lonely. And most importantly, who are you trying to impress? Nobody, but yourself. So let's talk about some date ideas if you really want to take yourself on a true, true date. First off, one that is a classic and so liberating is take yourself to a sit down, nice restaurant. There is nothing like ordering yourself a nice meal sitting at a two-seater table, sitting across but nobody but yourself, and just feeling that date,

feeling, but being it and doing it independently. Sometimes you'll get the waiter saying, are you waiting on anyone? Or if you go tell the hostess, oh, for one, they're like, for one? Are, is someone else meeting you here? No, just yourself, because you're taking yourself on a date. And no, you don't have to tell the hostess that you're taking yourself on a date. But I'm just saying, you don't need to feel embarrassed if they say, oh, it's just you. Now, another thing I really recommend is having a spa date with yourself. Something you could do is plan a full wellness day for yourself so you can take yourself to breakfast, get some pastries, a matcha, book a massage, book a facial, and get your nails done. It truly just gives yourself the perfect wellness reset. And honestly,

doing those physical things like getting your nails done and having a spa day can also feel like having a little reset to feel motivated, inspired, and honestly a little more confident again. Now on to a perfect fall date activity you should do is apple picking or going to a pumpkin patch. That's obviously something that majority of people do with a family or with your significant other, but it really is the perfect way to do a fun fall activity independently. You can collect all those apples that you pick and make a nice pie once you get home. And maybe the pumpkin that you picked out at the pumpkin patch, you can bring back and put into your beautiful home.

And if you're kind of thinking, gosh, I'm a little embarrassed, even though let me just say, nobody is looking at you whatsoever. Nobody's caring or thinking that you're alone. But if you are a little more, you know, new to taking yourself on dates, something that you could do is record yourself. This actually is another way to make you feel less alone because it feels like you're talking to a friend. So you can film what you're doing and film your little day. You can vlog it. And you don't even have to post it.

Just have it for yourself. you feel more comfortable. An easy way to begin doing self-dates is start off with something that people commonly do alone, that being such as Pilates or a yoga class, or going to the farmer's market. Those are some things that people go with other people as well as doing independently, commonly as well. So a Pilates class, a yoga class, or the farmer's market is a perfect way to start getting into doing self-dates out in the public. Another thing that is not really a self-date, but you can make it a self-date. But is go on a color walk.

A lot of people are talking about this lately, and I'm loving it. But take yourself on a walk, put in some nice jazz autumn music, and pick a color that you're going to spot during your walk. And it allows you to just be off your phone and look around, see nature, and be more mindful and try to spy those things. So if your color was yellow, you'll maybe spy the pretty yellow flowers, or the yellow sun, or the yellow car that you see passing you. Just color walks make you be creative and be present.

You know when people are just so hung up over work or school or just obsessing over something that is stupid, people will just go tell you to go touch grass. Honestly, I'm going to start saying, go take a color walk because that I feel like is very equivalent. Another thing that you can do alone as a little next step to starting off doing self-dates in public is you can take a pottery class, which would be really fun.

pottery classes again you can do with people or without. And another one that I feel is a great idea is take a baking class. That is really fun to honestly learn something and to start doing something independently outside your comfort zone. This one is a personal favorite, but be a tourist in your own city. There is so much right in front of you that you are yet to see and yet to know. You probably don't even realize how many fall town activities there are right in front of you. I recommend searching up your city or your town and

Seeing all the fun activities going on and start joining them. Sign up, go to the fall festival, go do those things, and begin exploring. You don't have to wait for somebody else to do this. This is for you. Take yourself on those dates because you deserve them. As I always say, I am preaching for you to have the best in life. We're driven by the search for better, but when it comes to hiring, the best way to search for a candidate isn't a search at all.

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by saying you heard about Indeed on busy yet pretty. Indeed.com slash busy yet pretty. Terms and conditions apply. Another way to date yourself and become your own best friend is heal unheeled parts of you. There are so many things that we could bottle up, whether it's from our childhood or things that we're struggling with at the moment with our work or our school or just personal life. And it's so easy just to push it to the back of our mind and get through it. But your significant other or your family or your friend, something you would do for them is be there for them. So it's time for you to be there for you because you're dating yourself. You need to be there for yourself. So if you struggle with your relationship with food, by dating yourself, focus more on

healing that relationship with your food and providing what your body needs because you would do the same thing for someone else that you love if you struggle with anxiety nurture yourself and provide what you need to take steps in a positive direction to learn more things how to comfort yourself and how to ease your anxiety start treating yourself dates as a true commitment like you would date with a partner stop finding excuses and reasons why you don't have time to take yourself on these dates and stop rescheduling on yourself because you wouldn't constantly reschedule on somebody else. It's easy to cancel on yourself dates as well because you know you're not inconveniencing anyone because it's just you. You're not canceling on your date, a partner or a friend or your family

member. You're just canceling on yourself. But the truth is you are. You are setting yourself back from becoming your own best friend. By not showing up for yourself, you're putting yourself last and not treating yourself as a priority. Dating yourself matters just as much as your relationship with your partner, your friend, your family, your work, and your school. Not only does dating yourself matter just as much as your relationship with those priorities, but it matters even more. You are one of a kind.

It is an honor to date you. So you have to stop and realize there is no better time to start now. So my love, it is time for you to start dating yourself today right now. I love you guys so much and I hope you enjoyed this episode. As much as I did recording it, I honestly feel very inspired by even our talk that we had today. I am going to go take myself on a date this evening. So I hope you do too. Remember, if you're nervous about taking yourself in dates in public, start small.

Do something easy. Start doing like a grocery trip alone or something. It doesn't need to be right off the bat a sit-down dinner. So take yourself on small dates, work yourself up. up and realize you are the prize and it is an honor to be able to take yourself on a date so start doing it if you enjoy this episode please share over tic-tok and instagram i repost every single thing you guys tag me in and i am so grateful i've seen so many of the tic-tops you guys are tagging me in and it's truly making my day and it's helping the podcast grow and i'm so grateful for that

recommend it to your friends your family whoever anyways i love you guys with all my heart you guys are my best friends but most importantly you are your own best friend and do not forget to say busy at pretty.