Busy, Yet Pretty - Gorgeous Girls Know Their Worth in Relationships (High Standards, Sex & Prioritizing YOU)

Episode Date: August 12, 2024

Whether you are married, dating or have an eye for someone special... this is your wake up call to set your standard high & prioritize you. Providing self love and the life your deserve for YOURSELF, will allow you to grow independently while fostering a healthy relationship with your lover. In this episode, Jadyn dives into all topics of relationships such as finance, sex, independence and boundaries. Tune into this episode with a carmel cold brew with whole milk, as you set your standards high because you  know your worth.   Current Obsessions: - cooking at home! -  thrifting new fall pieces - my at home bras honeylove - hire easilyyyy with indeed - upgrade your business with shopify     Become your own dream girl with me!! : - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat  - NEW!!!! Productive Day In My Life: WATCH - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront - Outfit Details: My Closet   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome back to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. We have not talked about crushes, relationships, and all of that for a while. So I am very excited for today's episode. And let me just say that this episode is for everyone, whether or not you are not in a relationship or in a relationship, have a crush or not. This relationship is going to be perfect for you. So without further ado, let's get into our weekly review. So this is a lot of this. past week I have been getting over COVID and let me just say COVID is not fun whatsoever. Finally feeling completely better and back and getting back onto routine. This week I also went back to San Diego and spent time with my parents, which was so nice and

needed. There's no better feeling than feeling caught up and refreshed fueled by seeing your parents or seeing your family. It just feels so motivating and just feels so nice to feel love. Also, while I was visiting my parents, I went thrifting quite a bit and spent a few hundred on thrift clothes. But let me just say, I am so excited to show you guys. I'm going to post a haul over TikTok soon. But I am just in my Susanna Fisher, Antucket, Summer Beach House look at the moment.

Now on to the current obsession. My current obsession at the moment is Big Brother Live feeds. Of course, you guys know I love the show Big Brother, my favorite show and the only show I watch. So, of course, watching the live feeds 24-7. And another current obsession right now is glutathione. It has helped my stomach so much, and I take it every morning, and it truly has done such a difference on how I digest food. And my last current obsession at the moment is flowers, specifically hydrangeas.

I think that's what they're called. They are just so beautiful, and my favorite ones are green with the blue petals. So unbelievably beautiful. Now on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is to add some artwork and frames to my walls, or I'm going to do a wallpaper moment. I've been loving the Giriff Avenue style, so I feel like that would just be so cute to add to my wall, especially for this time of season. Another goal of the week is to master cooking steak. I cook steak the other day, and it was so divine, but still I feel like I could do quite a bit better.

So that is something I really want to work on. And my last goal of the week right now is to try different drinks. Aside from matcha, I love a good chat latte and coffee. So I'm trying to master that. So I don't want to matcha every single day. Now on to your self-love question. What are you most proud of yourself for at the moment? I love this question so much.

And I really recommend asking yourself this question and see what are you truly proud of yourself for at this moment? Now on to your affirmation. Your goals and dreams are in the point. of your hands. I love that affirmation so much because, one, it is so true, and two, it really just goes to show how this is your reminder that the life you want is all in your hands. Now into your challenge of the week, find a signature fragrance that you love. I recommend you take this challenge very seriously because let me just say, when you have a signature fragrance, you will become

obsessed and not only that, people are going to know you for that fragrance. So, find something that represents you in a bottle and use it every single day to really master that being your signature scent. Now moving on to a podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, please feel free to leave a podcast review over Apple Podcasts and rate over Spotify. This review is from Nat Sumi and she said, Busy Get Pretty is my top podcast. I love Jaden and the host. She has practical tips for dealing with a busy life. It's like chatting with a friend who gets it. Jayden's positive vibe and down-to-earth advice makes each episode a go-to for me. The tips on staying organized really work. The confidence episodes are my favorite.

Because they boosted my self-assurance. It feels like a weekly pep talk that keeps me motivated. This podcast isn't just something I listen to. It's like a friend helping me through my ups and downs. If you want useful tips, relatable stories, and a dose of positivity, Jaden's podcast is a must listen. I highly recommend. Oh my gosh. This is a great. was the sweetest review. Thank you so unbelievably much. And it just makes me so happy that it feels like a down-to-earth friend. And that is my goal of the podcast. It just to feel like you're talking to me. Like we're on FaceTime. And I'm just so happy you're enjoying the show. And I really appreciate your review. And when it comes to self-care, there is no better self-care than taking off your bra when you

get home. We all know the feeling of how uncomfortable having an underwire just jab into your ribs all day long. So this is your sign to pick up a bra that you can wear at home every day, feel comfortable in, and does not have an underwire. I got one the other day from Honey Love, and let me tell you, it has been my favorite to wear around the house because it just is so much more comfortable than having a wire bra, and I love how they cater to all bra sizes, so you never have to worry about your girls not being supported. Also, I feel like we all have just a buildup of too many bras in our drawer so it's time to have a little good clean out to let go of the old and bring in the new for limited time you can get honeylove on sale for 20% off your entire order with

the exclusive link honeylove.com slash busy to honeylove.com slash busy to find the perfect fit and after you purchase they ask you where you heard about them and you can support the show by saying you heard from busy get pretty now without further or do it is time for us to get into today's episode Today's episode, we are going to talk about how you need to know your worth in relationships and to have high standards. And of course, we'll be talking about boundaries, sex, and prioritizing you. Because gorgeous girls know their worth. And let's just be clear, you're a gorgeous girl.

Whether you're currently in a relationship or you like someone right now or have a crush, or maybe you don't have anything, but this is just going to be a great pep talk for your future. Regardless of your situation, I am here to be your big sister or your little sister or your best friend to give you the reminders that you need when it comes to relationships. Because sometimes we get so lost and excited in the beauty and the honeymoon stages of relationships where we forget to talk about high standards and boundaries and really just seeing things as it is, not with just a lens of being loved blinded. Before we dive into this episode, I want you to really really. that everything we're going to talk about has to do with you and not necessarily the other person. And what I mean by that is your future self and your future self's needs and what your future self would think. Because in the end of the day, it all goes down to your future self and

doing this for you. So you need to make decisions in honor of not only your current self right now and how you're feeling, but your future self. And you're going to look back on this think, yes, I made the right decision or, gosh, I wish I should have left sooner. Because at the end of the day, this is your life and you deserve to be truly happy. Nobody can make your sadness go away in the sense that they're going to cure your sadness or cure yourself hate. Because let me just say, yes, somebody can make you feel better, but nobody's going to cure anything except for you. Do not get into a relationship when you don't love yourself. I'm going to repeat that one more time. Do not get into a relationship if you do not love yourself. And not only that,

do not get into a relationship if you can't financially provide for yourself because you want to have your back when it comes to financially being responsible and owning your own money. Because at the end of the day, again, this is you. Nothing is promised. No security is going to be promised. So you have to provide that security for yourself in order to have that backup if needed. And I'm not saying don't ever stop working while you're in your relationship. I do not mean that at all. I mean have a part of your life earning your own money and having that money saved up in your savings before going into a relationship. And of course, do not get into a relationship if you are looking to fill a void. Because let me tell you again, relationships, a person, nothing will permanently fix that void except for you doing the work.

If you are missing a thing in your life such as love, happiness, or money, do not expect a person, a relationship, or anyone to fix that. Like I just said, because number one, it is not their job. And number two, you cannot rely on someone to do that. Yes, they may temporarily help or fix a situation, but not permanently. You need to do the inner work yourself to provide and heal those parts of you. what if they give you all that love, all that happiness, and fill that void, yet then a few years later they cheat and run off with their new lover.

Now you have no career plan to financially support yourself, and maybe you had gone into that relationship with lots of self-hate about yourself, but they helped that. Now that they're gone, that self-hate may come back because that person is no longer there to fill that void. You cannot be left with no self-love, no money, no future, no career, no plans and full of sadness because you relied on them to fix those parts of you. And again, I am never saying to plan for the worst when it comes to relationships, but instead set yourself

to have success and happiness in your own life for in the case that unfortunate things may happen and may arise. You are the only person who has your back fully. You need to have your back. Stop relying on someone else to fill that void or have your back for you. People will. are going to provide that love and that support and allow that, allow them to give that, but at the same time, give yourself it always. If that person or relationship is not there one day to provide that love for you, money or support, you are going to feel lost and you want to feel success and security all brought up by your own self in case situations like that happen. Again, you are the only person capable of truly being there for yourself and healing unheeled parts of you. Nobody can heal unheeled parts of you except for you. And again, you don't have to be fully healed to go into a relationship.

And I think it is so important to be honest and transparent about what you struggle with, how you feel in relationships. Because transparency is so important and that person can really help you. But what I mean is do not rely on that person to only help you because you have to help yourself as well. And this being in regards of actively seeking someone or a relationship to fill parts that are unhealed, let's say you meet someone and you truly do love that person aside from what they can provide for yourself, your love, or financially, or how they feel they fill those voids for you. It's important to be honest with them on what you struggle with because transparency, again, is so healthy and important for the partnership of the relationship.

And regardless if you have parts of you that need work or parts of you that, need to be healed or maybe you're completely okay. It's essential you give yourself independence in a relationship. Don't let a relationship or a person consume you. Allow yourself to love and give parts of you to that person and to that relationship because it's important to contribute that to relationships. But do not allow yourself to let that be your entire life. You cannot let a relationship or a person consume your entire life. Yes, that person can bring you so much joy and love and happiness and it could really feel like your entire life.

And that is maybe a huge part of your life. But don't let it be the only thing on your mind. You have to have your own hobbies, your own friends, your own interest, aside from the relationship, not only to make the relationship happy and stronger, but to support that relationship with yourself. Because the relationship with yourself is the most,

most important relationship. You need to upkeep three separate relationships aside from your boyfriend, your husband, or your significant other. And those three relationships being your relationship with your friends, your relationship with your family, and your relationship with yourself. Fostering and nurturing those three relationships being with your family, friends, and yourself will allow yourself to continue growing in your own way aside from your significant other and your relationship, which is so important for your mental health and your future when it comes to high standards this is perfect if you are single and to keep in mind for a future relationship but it's also perfect if you are in a relationship already because it is never too late to change your mindset and up your standards in i can't be the

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I literally was looking everywhere for it, and I somehow found one on a poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price, and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces, they really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use Code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase.

Or shop now at Poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. In your current relationship, number one being you should never have to settle. Of course, there may be times you have to compromise on a few things, but you should never have to settle. Why I say this is because if you want something out of someone, such as respect and that respect isn't being given or shown properly, let me just say it will not get better most often. Because if you begin to allow something, there is no room for them to want to change because they already got the green light that it is okay for them to treat you the way they have been continuing treating you. So why would they change? But the real question to ask yourself is why would

you want to be with someone who isn't providing your standards? It is okay for someone to be not meeting your standards and that is something where people don't really understand because people say set standards high and make sure the people meet them. But I am telling you it is okay for someone not to meet your standards because nobody is obligated to do that. That is your own thing. You're setting your standards and if that person doesn't want to meet them, they don't have to. That is not their part and they're not obligated to have to do that. But with that, that person is not for you. So this is in your hands to let that person go because they are not right for you. It can feel like a relationship feels so right. But when you are not being treated as you should,

Why would you stay with them? You do not have to stay with someone because they won't meet your standards. And of course, they're not obligated to. So let them go. If you're single or not exactly happy in your relationship, I want you to write down the version of your ideal perfect partner. And I want you to write in depth of a perfect list of every single thing that you'd want them to be. I would more stray away from the physical aspect.

You're welcome to put that. But more on what they provide for you. how they treat you and how they show love to you. And once you have that checklist, stay true to that checklist. Do not compromise or do not go off that checklist. Stay on the map. Because there is no rush to find someone, no matter how old you may be. As you get older, it feels so stressful feeling like, oh my gosh, my friends are married or my

friends have kids, I should be in a relationship. But no, why rush it? Why rush just to be with someone that you don't like at the end of the day? wouldn't you rather find the perfect person later in life than rush and settle with someone that you're not even happy with? You need to understand that it is more than possible to have your dream partner that has every single note that you made on your checklist checked off. You could meet someone on your checklist that checks off tall, brown hair, brown eyes, has a business, is emotionally available, checking off everything on your checklist. but maybe one thing on your checklist is not checked off, and that box being emotionally available. So this person may feel so right that they're checking everything off your checklist,

except for that one little emotionally available box. That person is not for you. That won't work because you want that person to be emotionally available since that's on your checklist. Do not settle just because they check most of the boxes off. When someone checks all your boxes off, that is the right person for you. Everyone's opinion and view of high standards look different on everyone else. My high standards may look different than your high standards. Your high standards may look different than your parents' high standards.

We could both have high standards, but it looks completely different. So I want you to realize that you cannot let anyone make you feel guilty about setting your standards high or your boundaries. No guy, no friend, no family member is going to make you feel bad about. yourself about how you set your standards because the right person will understand and respect it and meet your standards. People don't have to understand. You don't have to explain and prove why you're setting these standards or these boundaries. You know why you are. You know what you want. Stay true to that and don't have to explain it to anyone else. They don't need to know. They don't need to care. And quite frankly, if it's being questioned, that's an answer as itself, that they are not the right person.

want your significant other to not follow other girls on Instagram. Do not feel guilty or embarrassed and stand by your standard. If you personally don't want a significant other to have to deploy, don't feel guilty about not dating someone or being with someone who has to deploy. You know what you want and stay true to that because you don't want a project. You don't want to have to change someone nor do you want to change someone for who they are. So if they are not the right one, let them go because the right person will follow. Every single time you close the door, you open a new better one. As I always say, I am preaching for you to have the best in life. We're driven by the search for better, but when it comes to hiring, the best way to search for a candidate isn't to search

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According to a recent Indeed survey, I can't tell you how many times I have just had little busy work that I need to get done, whether that's with editing the podcast or helping edit YouTube videos. I swear I have tried so many times to find someone to hire, and I swear I needed Indeed at that time because it would have saved me so much work. Leveraging over 140 million qualifications and preferences every day, Indeed's matching engine is constantly learning from your preferences, so the more you use Indeed, the better it gets.

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If your friends say, gosh, you were so vanilla when it comes to having sex. Or when it comes to any sexual type of activities, it can feel like, gosh, I feel like I need to do more. And I guess I'll do it even though I don't want to. You are not your friend. Your friend likes and wants to do other things. That doesn't mean you have to do that. vice versa if you were someone who is more curious and likes to try different things do not force it on someone else because someone else may not want to it's so easy to feel obligated to do something like a sexual act or something that your partner wants to do because you love them they may want to do a certain thing you don't want to but you love them so much so you want to please them but you have to remember at the end of the day you're not here to please them you're here to please yourself so if you don't want to do it don't do it whatever those things may be if you are not ready to do them or simply do not want to, don't do it for them. You have

every right to say no and the right person will respect your decision. And remember, no is a full answer. You don't have to go explaining why and giving all these reasons why. No is a full answer. Don't let your marital or dating status give the okay pass to forget about what you really want. If you're married or dating, it feels like you have to say okay because that's a good. Because that's the status of your relationship where you know what I'm married or I'm dating this person it's fine it doesn't matter if I don't want to do it but I can just say okay to it no you don't have to regardless of your status with your partner you do not have to say yes your marital or dating status does not give you the past when it comes to setting boundaries and having that respect for

yourself you deserve the highest standards that is imaginable you deserve it it doesn't matter what you look like, who you are, you know your worth, so only accept the best. Stop feeling guilty for what you really want in a partner because you are in a vulnerable state by opening your heart and letting someone into your bubble, having that vulnerability. So if you're going to let someone do that and welcome them in, they have to be giving you the best. I know I have so many business listeners in here. And I've seen some of your guys's work. You guys are insane with your own little shop. And since I started my podcast, I know the feeling of putting so much time to something and wanting the recognition that you deserve. So when it comes to your own shop and selling, of course you want the recognition.

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I do believe that having regrets is just pointless. There's no point of having regrets beating yourself up. So do not have any regrets on anything that you allowed to happen in the past or didn't take action on in the past. But right now, you have the opportunity to decide and make your own path moving forward. Five years from now, you don't want to look back and say, gosh, I wish I didn't lower my standards so low to meet his. Really think about your future self with everything you do. Because you want the best for yourself and you deserve to have the best from yourself. Don't be blinded by love. The only love that should be blinding you is the love for yourself because you know what you deserve. Do this for you and nobody else. Set your standards, be proud of your

boundaries and the right person will attract to you. There will be no need to look anymore because that person will come to you. Prioritize you and you will find the right man who will give you your dream life and be the dream lover that you've always wanted. I love you guys so much and I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. I feel like we have not talked about relationships in a long time and it is something that needs to be more talked about. There is a lot of talk always about how it is annoying or a gold digger to set standards high, which is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. And every single girl deserves to have the best. And not everyone is meant for you. So let those people go to allow the right people to come to you. If you enjoy this episode, please share over your

Instagram story in TikTok because we are all trying to become the best version of ourselves. And we are all in this together, supporting each other. And yes, to the people who are asking in my DMs, there is still going to be a busy at pretty meetup. Since I had COVID, everything had been on pause for a little, but we are back at it planning and stay tuned. Please tag when you share over your Instagram stories in TikTok and I will, of course, be reposting.

I love you with all my heart. Don't feel guilty about having high standards. and do not forget to stay busy yet pretty.