Busy, Yet Pretty - How To Fall In Love With Yourself.

Episode Date: May 26, 2025

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Hello, my love. Welcome to the busy yet pretty podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. If you are new here, welcome on the show. We talk all about how to become the best version of you, live your dream life. And honestly, I just love to be a comfort creator who just likes to talk about topics that are uncomfortable or topics that are not talked about enough, such as eating disorders and past experiences and things how to heal and all different things. So I'm, I'm very raw and transparent on this podcast, so welcome, and I am just so happy to have you here. Today's episode I am so excited for because it is an episode that is very highly requested, and it's also something that I feel like we all kind of wonder throughout the years, and there's also a time where we become, like, reflecting on ourselves,

and we just maybe have not as much love for ourselves and our life, and that's why today we're going to talk about how to fall in love with yourself. Of course, there's no direct answers on how to fall in love with yourself, or there is definitely things you can do in your life to begin to fall in love with yourself that I think is so important. So I'm so excited for today's episode, but without further ado, let's get into our weekly review. This week, my occipital neuralgia, if you listen to the past episodes,

you know I was diagnosed with that due to a lot of stress I have lately, but it has been a lot better. It's like the nerve pain still hurts every day, but a lot better than it was. So that's good. But I've been just getting back on routine. And another thing I've been doing this week is just cleansing my feed to just all energy giver inspo.

I did an episode on energy givers and energy drainers. And I think that's something that is so unbelievably important and something that we should all just take a second to realize. and for me I realize what some my energy drainers were and I'm just trying to fill my feed and everything I consume to be energy givers. And another thing this week is I have been trying to reconnect with nature, literally touching grass.

At this point, I feel like I'm so pulled away from nature and I just really want to touch base with that because that's something that makes me so unbelievably happy. So I've been going outside, literally touching grass, picking little flowers, and just reading my book outside, it just brings me so much peace. Now on to the current obsessions. My current obsession at the moment is Occecha.

I think that's how you say it. It's basically matcha that has, I think, correct me if I'm wrong, but harvested longer. And it's so divine. It's basically matcha, but it's just the leaves, I think, have been longer on. I'm not really sure. but it tastes divine. I love having it with maple syrup and it just is the best. So Ocichita Lates, I really, really recommend and you can make it at home so easily. Also, if you're sensitive to matcha or any type of caffeine, it truly is so much less caffeine where you don't get any jitters.

I love it. Another current obsession at the moment is the cocoa kind lip bluer. I've been using it all the time. One, I love it because I have these little charms I put on it at the end of like the lip gloss. loss cap and another reason why I love it is because it's very lightweight and it's just perfect to bring in my purse. I love it. And my last current obsession at the moment is this is kind of goofy, but a new neck pillow. I got a new neck pillow for my acidityal neuralgia. But if you're someone who is like neck pain or any type of neck problems or headaches, I really recommend investing in a new neck pillow. I put the one in my Amazon storefront that I use. but I love it and I swear my neck just doesn't feel bad waking up now.

Now and to the goal of the week. My goal of the week right now is to find a cute hutch on Facebook Marketplace. I swear they have the cutest things on Facebook Marketplace and you can get such good deals and good pieces. But I want to find a really cute hutch that I can like put my mugs in and books in just to like display it. I feel like it'd be so cute. Another goal of the week right now is to watch and consume more YouTube instead of TV.

I feel like when you watch YouTube and things that and creators you like on YouTube, it can be a lot more tailored videos and content you consume rather than binge watching a TV show. Don't get me wrong. Love TV. I watch it every night. But throughout the day, I'm just trying to put on more YouTube or relaxing music rather than any TV in the background. And lastly, my goal of the week right now is to simplify any can. chaotic parts of my life, which I feel like there's quite a bit of different things I feel like need organizing and more peace in my life. But I really do want to situate some parts of my life right now that feel overly stressing and chaotic and simplify it and make it more doable and

also more enjoyable. Now for your affirmation of the week. I am in love with the person I am. I love that so much because it's a very on theme to today's episode. Now on to your self-love question of the week. What do I love most about myself? I love that so much because it's very simple yet it really just makes you think what do I love most about myself and I feel like that's a really good step to falling in love with yourself and recognizing what you do love about yourself. Now on to your challenge of the week, start your day with five things that you love about yourself. That could be from you journaling five things, thinking of them out loud or just thinking of them in your mind and I have been doing this the past weeks and I swear every morning I just think of

five simple things that I love about myself and it just makes you feel so much more connected to you and starting to just have that positive affirmations and positive self-talk in the morning just sets your day off on such a positive note. Now into the podcast review. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, make sure to leave a podcast review over. over Apple Podcasts and leave a five-star rating over Spotify. This review says, Hi, Jaden, you were such an inspiration to me and so many other people. You helped me feel more confident in myself,

and lately I've been feeling very self-conscious. I couldn't have been more grateful for all your helpful tips, weekly reviews, and inspirational quotes, and everything else. I love you so much. Thank you, XOXO, Sophia. Sophia, thank you so much, and I am just so grateful for all your support, and I just love how it's made you feel more confident in yourself,

which is perfect because today's episode is going to not only be about confidence about yourself, but how to fall in love with yourself. So without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Loving yourself is such a journey and it is something that's not going to come overnight. And I try to think of this in the way of why wait any longer? Because our days are passing and not to think of it as in life is social, because I'm someone who's very scared of death and I admit that. My OCD makes I have just really bad death anxiety. But in the grand scheme of things, we do allow time to pass us too much of us not

using our time wisely. And it is important to realize that we want to love ourselves while we're here. So I always think of it how loving yourself is a journey, but it's not going to come overnight, but why wait any longer that you could start loving yourself now and you can begin loving yourself today? Even if it's just a start, a start is better than not starting at all. Like I said earlier, there is not one answer to loving yourself, but many different ways to love yourself. But there's also many different ways to begin that journey of self-love and falling in love with yourself. And honestly, I feel most of this is all perspective. And it just is something that you really need to work on because perspective is what's going to drive you to your view on

everything in life and how you look at things is how you're going to take action. It's going to impact what you do physically. So I think perspective is something that is very big in your self-love journey and everything else in life. But let's dive in how to fall in love with yourself. Something I feel that is not addressed enough with self-love is addressing the root cause of why you may not love yourself or why you may have resentment towards yourself. A lot of times we have a void or feel like there's a missing piece in our puzzle, which is why we can't feel ready to love ourselves. Or there's something that's like weighing us down, like there's a weight attached to us and we're just being pulled down by it. And if there are things that have happened to you in your past,

whether that's something that you have caused yourself or has been caused to you that was out of your control, whether that's like trauma or just something that has happened to you in an experience or maybe that's something that you have done yourself that you feel guilty of and you still carry that guilt. This is your time to finally let it go. And I know that sounds so cliche or you think, well, how can I do that when it's traumatic to me? Or how can I do that when I just carry so much guilt of what happened? And I don't know your situation. And we all have different situations and trauma and things that we carry in our life, but it is really important to realize that for yourself, you need to let's go as much as you can of it, not for the person, let's say a person caused it to

you, not for that person to benefit them as if you're forgiving them, but for your own self. You need to start heading in a good direction for your own self and only you. And if you need to dive more into healing the unheeled parts of you, I do have an episode on that, which is how to heal the unheeled parts of you. but for moving forward and just trying to enjoy your life, you have to realize there has to be some things that you let go and allow not to take over you fully anymore. Of course, much easier said than done,

but again, a little is better than no progress at all. But it is just so important to begin to set this weight and this burden free. We may never heal for good even. Like, we truly may never heal for good. And that's okay. you don't have to necessarily forgive someone or heal someone or forgive yourself for something. But what you have to do is realize that for your own self and for your own future moving forward, you have to forgive yourself and what has happened to you in order for you to start healing.

And in order for you to enjoy your future moving forward. And again, like I said, much easier said than done. And you can listen to the episode on how to heal the unheeled parts of you for more in depth on that. but I do want to cover that before moving into really how to love yourself. But I feel like to me that's an energy drainer and you do have to let those energy drainers go before you can even start to dive into the more in depth of how to love yourself. So again, much harder than I said and especially when it comes to trauma or something that we have done that we aren't proud of in the past, but it's a start to letting go,

which is so important. When it comes to perspective, how you view yourself and treat yourself creates a relationship. creates a relationship that you have with yourself. You have to kind of think of it like this. If you never watered and took care of a plant, it would slowly lose its life and it would begin to die. But when you take care and water that plant and give it the right soil,

it stays alive, but not only does it stay alive, it grows. So you have to take care of yourself, as you would a plant, in order for you to not only live but to grow. Something that is really important when loving yourself is love every stage of your life. This does not need to be every perfect stage. We're going to have stages of our life that we're not proud of or we're struggling.

We're not doing our best, but it's so crucial for you to love every stage of your life. We naturally always want the next thing and something better, but we need to love ourselves at every stage of the life that we're in. And as a result of that effort of watering our plant and giving what we need to ourselves, think how you could be living a happy, successful, fulfilled life. Don't wish to be someone else or have someone else's life. Wish to have an upgraded version of your own life. I can't be the only one who has this dream item of theirs that they always see,

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And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy and go on Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe, new deals and stuff. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see,

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They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. get in bed, get cozy, and go in Poshmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use code Bizzy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy.

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highlights, just as you would mostly post the highlights of your life. You're not going to share your bad days. And that's where comparison is truly the thief of joy. Don't let it creep up on you because here's the thing. It's comparing yourself to something that's not even the truth or not even realistic. I post the highlights of my life, but I also do think it's really important to share what you're going through and things that you have experienced in the past in order to help other people. That's why I have my podcast and I share that over my socials, anything what I'm struggling with. I love to talk about to you guys to have that transparency and remember that you're not alone. But again, I will still post lots of the highlights of my life and you don't see every single

bit of someone's life. You're seeing the highlights. So you have to remember that you cannot compare yourself to anybody else and especially compare yourself to anything that you see online. So when I say don't wish to have someone else's life, it's so good to wish just to have a upgraded version of your own. Don't wish to be someone else. Wish to be a better version of you. And also, something that's really important is to start becoming familiar and confident with you and your life. Don't be a stranger to yourself. Become a home to yourself. And sometimes we don't even realize we're so lonely because we don't even love the presence of our own self, but you you have to become familiar with you and what you love.

When you're alone and don't have your comfort person or your comfort object or you're not in your comfortable environment that you feel safe in, to know that you're safe with yourself and that's all you need is such a blessing and that's something you can really work towards. And that's feeling just the safety and knowing that, you know what? I, myself, I can provide everything I need. even though I'm not with my comfort person, I'm not with my comfort place, my comfort object that I usually run to, none of that I am comfortable in myself that I know that I can provide what I want. I am okay.

I feel safe and that is such a blessing that you can work towards achieving and getting that feeling. So again, don't be a stranger to yourself and become a home to yourself. How beautiful is it that when you were born as yourself, you were not born as your friend or your favorite influencer or the girl. that you aspire to be. You were born as you. So you were you for a reason and you have to start loving you and whatever you feel are your imperfections, everything. Love every single version of yourself. You want to be able to wish to be you in a thousand lifetimes. And the most beautiful thing about you is you can always upgrade your life. You can always upgrade yourself and you can upgrade anything in your life. But you still have to accept who you are today because your soul

will go through every stage of your life. And what I mean by that is we're going to have times where maybe we're struggling with money or we're struggling in our career. We're struggling with our mental health or even our personal life. Whatever it is, we're going to have struggles in our life. But your soul goes through every stage of that life. And it goes through a lot. We put ourselves through a lot. We have a lot of pressure nowadays. And it's so important to remember to love yourself through the thick and the thin of it because your soul goes along with you from the very first day you were born to the very last day that you're here. When you look at yourself, begin looking at your blessings and not your imperfections. You could be on your deathbed and I could swear my life to you

that you will not be thinking about how you had hair on your stomach on your belly line or you had cellulite or that you didn't get that job that you wanted. You won't be thinking of those things. You're going to be thinking of how did I live out my life and how you love yourself. Okay, you're not going to be thinking about those little things that feel so big to you now down the road on your deathbed. What you will be thinking of is the remaining memories that you loved and the memories that you made for yourself and what you loved about yourself. You're not going to be thinking about the things that you're picking yourself apart for. You need to find yourself and find what you love about yourself. And let me clarify, not what you feel you're supposed to love or supposed to be like.

many times, sometimes parents or friends or whoever we surround herself with or society in general can make us feel like we have to be a certain way or be a certain person or like a certain thing. And let me remind you that that is not the truth. What you love and what you like and who you are and what you are meant to be is all in your hands and all what you want. Because when you know what you want and are confident in that, you've then found yourself and you can begin to fall in love with you. You're so lucky that you are who you are, and everybody in your life is just so lucky to have you.

Even if you feel like you don't like yourself or you're a burden to other people, you're not, okay? Let me remind you that we're all living life for the first time. Your yourself, your friend, your mom, your grandma, we're all trying to figure out life for the first time. Even though it feels like our mom, our grandma knows things better than us, or they know, have a lot of knowledge. they're trying to figure out things for their first time too and that's why you have to give people grace and most importantly give yourself grace. You have to be patient with yourself and stop setting such high expectations for yourself. Sometimes we're just exhausted and maybe all you need is a break and not a TV break but a break to actually just sit with yourself and think how lucky are you to be born as you and what

your purpose of life is. But don't get me wrong. Of course, have your TV break. We love a TV. We love a TV break here. And maybe sometimes all you need is a movie night with tons of your favorite desserts and snacks. And sometimes, even though I can feel uncomfortable, all you may need sometimes is just sit with yourself. Sit with yourself with no music, no podcast, no nothing, but yourself and just think. And sometimes when you feel so deeply in your thoughts, sometimes you just have to think your way out of it. Trust me, I have OCD. So when I start thinking of something, I'm.

I ended up just ruminating on it and I just think very deeply on it. But sometimes you have to think so deeply where it's like, okay, what else to think about? Like, I've nothing else. I've thought myself dry and it's now time to shift my focus onto something else. So it's okay and good to sit with yourself and to feel a little uncomfortable. You don't need something to fill your void to start showing love for yourself and respect. You don't need a car, a Chanel bag, a boyfriend, or a best friend or good grades to feel deserving of loving yourself. Love yourself at every single stage, like I said, thick and thin.

Maybe your self-love journey begins at you absolutely at the worst stage of your life. You need to begin loving yourself blindly, even at your lowest, in most shameful stages of your life. Love yourself out of the dark if you have to. Love yourself out of the lifestyle that you have and love yourself into becoming the best version you want to become. The hardest part of all of this is action. The action of getting out of bed for your morning workout, the action of journaling before bed, because you may know the best version of yourself or the ideal version of yourself that you want to have, and the hardest part is starting. It's the action. But let me remind you to take action, you don't need to mentally accept that you're going to take action. What I mean by that is in your

head you may be thinking, I am not going to go to my morning workout. I hate myself. I do not want to go hang out with my friends. I don't want to get up in the morning. You may think all that and you may think I'm not doing it, but guess what? You can still take action. You can literally throw your body up from bed before even allowing that thought to even come into your head. Before you even think, I'm not doing it today. You can literally physically throw yourself out of bed. And I remember hearing that from Mel Robbins. She had said, I don't know if she came up with this, but like the three or the five second rule where you count five, 5, 3, 2, 1, and then throw yourself up from bed when you wake up in the morning and you do that physically before you even have time to mentally accept that you're going to get out of bed because

you're how to just going to keep telling you, no, I'm going to stay in bed, I'm cold, I don't want to get out of bed, but your body is literally going to physically throw you out of bed before your mind even has time to stop yourself. But also, as cliche as this is and as I always say, you also want to work on romanticizing your life to improve your mentality. because you want to, of course, have that desire to provide and invest in yourself. And a lot of times that comes with making it fun, making it interesting, and making it that we want to come back and keep doing it. If you getting up in the morning to work out means that you like to have a new workout

set every month, then do it. Treat yourself to a new workout set every month. When you love yourself, regardless of life circumstances, it will change so much for you because you're then equipped to change the trajectory of your life. Loving yourself is the most vital piece of the puzzle to piecing your life together. So if you may think your life is falling apart, maybe think, am I doing the things in showing love for myself as I should? Do I love myself?

Because that is sometimes the puzzle piece that is going to complete the puzzle. Some ways that you can begin falling in love with yourself that I personally love that I want to share with you is accept where you are at the stage of life. But most importantly, love to learn the imperfections and what you struggle with. Any of your struggles or whatever that you feel are imperfections, learn to love them. Okay. You're not original. This is not an original experience.

Many people have this and you're not alone. You're not some new rare case of having cellulite or having, you know, a bad day or having a hard time focusing or doing your homework or going to work and getting up early in the morning. you're not new, okay? All of us have this. Many, not all, but many of us struggle with those different type of things. And it's very important to realize that you're not some different person. And it's okay. It's okay to feel this way and to love your imperfections. You have to give yourself grace because your life, your living right now is for the first time. Your living life for the first time and understand that you will improve over time. There's no need to have your entire life figured out now and most of all there's no need to hate yourself for not having everything figured out

because you already know that you are starting yourself of journey and change is in the works i mentioned comparison a bit earlier but let go of all comparison in all aspects not just body image but actually comparison in all aspects such as life where you are at your age in life what you want to be having career comparison, personal life, social life, in all different stages of your life. Let go of the comparison. Something that is also so important in loving yourself is celebrate your highs and your accomplishments. It's so important to give yourself that positive feedback to yourself that motivates you to continue doing that and continue showing up for yourself. Where you fall short in life, reclaim those negative feelings and turn them into positives. How can you improve those things

moving forward. If you have a hard time focusing on work or getting up in the morning, set intentions for yourself and set those goals and take time and invest in yourself and think, how am I going to want to get out of bed in the morning? How am I going to want to show up for myself during this workout? Another thing that I think is really important, which I'm trying to do myself, but always have something to look forward to. And that be the simple joys, the little things at life at the end of the day to look forward to, but also in the month, in the year, have things to look forward to and almost you can use that as like a goal where you working hard in doing this is going to lead you to having that end results. But also have things in your personal life without any incentive of working hard

or doing something to earn it, but have things in general that you deserve in general to look forward to. Begin creating a new routine and rituals designed to help you succeed in both happiness and career. And I don't want you to search up different routines to reference others routines when you're creating a new routine and rituals for yourself. It's okay to take inspo, but in the end of things, you still really need to leave it up to what works best for you. So build a new life that reflects what you truly want and reflects your inner world. Write self-love letters for yourself if you want to. You can literally mail it to yourself, mail it to your future self or just write in a journal or you can think them out loud.

But I really recommend writing self-love letters to yourself. I've done that and I'm going to open mine once I move out of my apartment because I wrote myself a letter the first night. I moved into my apartment and moved out for the first time. And I wanted to open that and I will open that when I end up moving out of that apartment. So you can write them for yourself, your future self or whatever. but I think it's something that's really sweet to do to yourself. Another thing is tend to your younger self or your desires.

It's so important to do things for your younger self and make your childhood feel like you can touch base with your childhood and your younger self and also do things that you desire throughout the day. Even if that's rolling around in the grass, do it. If that's coloring, do it. There's nothing stupid. It's whatever makes you feel the best and feel the happiest, do it. In order to have fuel and energy to go throughout life, we need those energy givers.

Understand that you are so lucky to be who you are and do you really want to waste your entire life and lifestyle and your precious years of life wishing you were someone that you'll never be? Stop wishing you were born into luxury. Stop wishing you were born tall enough to model runway. Stop wishing things that are not going to change. Like, I can't wish I'm going to be 6-1 because it's not going to happen. I remember always wanting to be super tall when I was younger. And I finally realized I'm like, I have to stop wishing for this because it's physically not

going to happen. I'm not going to get taller. So I have to start working with what I can. Okay. I'm this tall and I have to start loving it. I have to start loving my 5-6 self. Wishing we have something that will never change does nothing but neglect what we have right in front of us, which is your self.

and your life. The best thing is you can create the life that you want and the version of you that you want to become, even if things feel unrealistic are too far. I promise you, you can do it and making progress daily is better than making no progress at all. And to be honest and transparent, I'm struggling myself trying to figure out exactly what I want the rest of this year to look like and what I want the next few years to look like. And I have the over planning mindset and very all or nothing.

mindset where I have to always work on that. I always have to work on not being all or nothing and not over planning. But I am trying to think, what do I want the rest of this year to look like? Do I want to move? Do I want to try living somewhere for the summer? I do need to kind of think of those things to find a solution to bring more happiness into my life. So something that I did with my mom is I wrote down all these things that I feel like I'm falling short in in my life and that doesn't bring me happiness. And then I wrote down a ton of ideas for how can I fix those things. And I'm not even trying necessarily to write down solutions, but ideas of what are things that can help improve those things? And while doing that, you may find a solution. Writing down those ideas may possibly lead you to the right path and the

right solution. And doing that with my mom and just talking it over is so unbelievably helpful for me personally. So maybe that's you being honest with someone else in your life and being like, hey do you have time to sit down with me and write out things, you know, I'm struggling with and I kind of need some direction in my life and what to do. Brainstorming and just thinking out loud can be one of the best things you do for yourself and can make you realize so much and almost find a solution. And if I can do this, spending a full day, writing things down, you can do it too. So write out all the things that you feel are pulling you down and that you feel are not serving

you or are an energy drainer and right next to it, write down the any ideas you have of potential ways to help solve those issues. And that's what I want you to remember. The more time you invest in yourself, the happier you'll become. Loving yourself does not happen overnight, but I promise you a little progress is better than no progress at all. I love you so much and I hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I did recording it. If you enjoyed this episode, please share over Instagram or TikTok and tag me so I can repost. Whenever I see you guys recommend the podcast over TikTok, it makes me so happy and I love reading the comment sections. Also, share this with a friend that you feel that you love and just it's a good reminder to realize how important it is to love yourself.

So go share it to a friend or a family member. I love you so much. I hope you know how grateful I am for you and who you are and you should be so proud of the person you're becoming. Nobody has life figured out and we're all trying our best to work on ourselves and it's a process. I have a lot of things figured out and I am still figuring out a lot of other things in my life and we're all on this journey together. So what you are working on, I am as well and what I'm working on someone else's too. Life is too short to not love the person you were born to be and do not forget to stay busy at

pretty.