Busy, Yet Pretty - How To Fill Your Cup + Remove What’s Emptying It: Friends, Daily Habits & Your Environment

Episode Date: February 16, 2026

Every day, we’re surrounded by energy givers and energy drainers—but how do you actually identify which is which?In this episode, Jadyn Hailey breaks down how to recognize the habits, people, and routines that fuel you, as well as the ones quietly draining your mental, emotional, and physical energy. You’ll learn how to remove the biggest energy drainers from your life and intentionally add more energy‑boosting practices into your daily routine.Sip an almond‑milk matcha latte and tune in as you begin creating a lifestyle that supports balance, clarity, and genuine well‑being.Visit OliveandJune,com/PRETTY20 for 20% off your first System!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my love. Welcome to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jane and Haley. If you are new here, welcome. We talk all about how to become the best version of you, live your dream life, and honestly, just enjoy your days. I feel like the days can sometimes feel repetitive, whether it's from school or work, or just living your life and things can feel boring. It's important to romanticize your life, and as cringy as that may sound, it really is, and it does make a difference romanticizing your life. Welcome to the show. I'm so happy to have you. And I hope you're having a great day so far. I'm very excited about today's episode because it is so important to talk about things that you can do to fill your cup, but also what is draining your cup as well, because we need to know what to keep and what to remove. I just love this episode and I'm so excited for you to tune into it. But before going into that, let's do a little recap of the week.

First off, I've been doing a lot better than I was with my health. So I'm so happy about it. I honestly have to just celebrate. because I did my first heated workout class in so long and it really just makes me feel so inspired that I'm actually getting back to a place where I was before. So I'm feeling a lot better and it just things are going up from here. To give a little backstory if you knew, I was diagnosed with hypermobile Eller's Danlo syndrome and dysanomia, which is a nervous system dysfunction and then a genetic disorder. But anyways, we've been learning how to manage that and I'm doing a lot better. I'm honestly feeling just so motivated and excited and I'm okay this is really random but I'm really leaning into like the wellness not pink polaise princess I love that but I feel like just the name is a little outdated so I'm

trying to find another word for it but I have been really loving just the Pilates like yoga chic look the 2000s Pilates yoga chic like if you know you know it is the cutest look I'm obsessed with it and it makes me so excited to do movement throughout the day get my steps in and just feel good and treat myself with kindness. And with that, I have been really loving, like, pastel colors. So just leaning into spring and that, like, spring pastel pink Pilates look. It's just so cute to me. I really love it.

But anyways, other than that, I have been really excited about this year. There's so many good things to come. And I want to know how your year is going so far. Let me know in the comment section, how your year is going so far, the good and the bad. It's good to celebrate the good. to talk through the bad. And also, I want to know what episodes you want to hear in the future because I have so many new episodes coming your way that I'm excited to record, getting back into normal recording schedules. So anyways, let me know what episodes you want to hear. And I just

hope you enjoy this episode. Now, without further ado, let's get into today's episode, which is on energy drainers and most of all, energy givers. It's important to dissect and just take a look at all the factors in life. And let me just preface this. There's, of course, no doubt that we have energy drainers in sections of our life that we literally cannot avoid. And those unavoidable energy drainers can be work, school. It can be, of course, you love your kids, but it could be your kids running around.

It could be a lot of different things and aspects in your life, responsibilities that you have to do that drain your energy, but you have to do it. But when having energy drainers, that's why it's so important to have energy givers because when you have energy givers, it outweighs the drainers that take place in your life. And that's why we can remove what we can that doesn't serve us if we're able to and add what you can because that's going to help by having a lot of positive things in your life that outweighs those. When it comes to energy drainers, we don't need to fully just strip and cut out all these things from our life, we can slowly just decrease them and slowly cut out what doesn't serve you,

but you don't have to fully strip it out of your life. This is specifically aimed towards people, what I mean, because you're going to have people in your life that, you know, you don't love and you finally realize they are maybe, in this case, an energy drainer, and you can begin to slowly distance yourself from this person to prevent you not hurting their feelings. And it also is going to cause them to realize if you're just cutting them out completely and following them, blocking them, or seriously avoiding them. And when we get into the definition of what an energy drainer really is,

it's whatever leaves you absolutely drained per the name. And it can also leave you questioning yourself or feeling bad about yourself. So again, this is kind of making you aim towards a person. But let's say you hang out with someone and they make you feel, bad about yourself or kind of poke a lot of jokes at you or make fun of you or maybe you scroll on social media and then you just are feeling very discouraged afterwards. Anything that typically leaves you questioning yourself or feeling bad about you and yourself is an energy drainer. So some typical energy drainers and you're going to hear the word

energy and drainers and givers a lot in this episode. But some typical ones can be friends or family you often feel bad about yourself maybe they put you down or maybe every time you hang out with this person they're always talking bad about someone else or like gossiping and sometimes when you're around people who just gossip about someone nonstop it just makes you feel so dirty I will be around some grown adults and it just amazes me to see how many people just want to constantly have people's name in their mouth like that person isn't there to defend themselves and also why would you want to give your time by negatively talking about someone else? It just doesn't make sense to me. But it can feel dirty when people are talking negatively

about someone, even if you're not partaking in the conversation, but they're just yapping. You're just like, yeah, yeah, totally. It just can make you feel negative and down after hearing all of that. Also, another thing that can be an energy drainer is when you're with someone and they're constantly spilling their life trauma or problems on you and do not get me wrong. It is very important and great to have a person to confide how you feel and tell your feelings with because that is so helpful and can be really helpful for your mental health. But when it comes to being able to spill all that on someone, you need to be able to be in a very stable and available space mentally to allow someone else to just spill all their problems and trauma on you because you're going

through your own things and it's hard as yourself to even go through things what you're going through and what you go through in your day to day, whatever you're experiencing. And then when someone just dumps even more on you with their trauma, sometimes you just don't have the mental capacity. And that's okay. One of the best things to do is just be an ear for someone and hear them out. but it's also okay if this point in time you don't have that current mental capacity to take on hearing that at that moment and sometimes people don't realize how their problem dumping is affecting

you that's where of course therapy is great for you your friend anyone anyone who has things they want to vent about that's why there are actually trained people who will talk to you about your problems, but you can't take on everyone's problems. And it can also really start to just affect you how you feel, how you see your own problems when you're constantly being the therapist for other people. So there's nothing wrong with telling someone, hey, I'm so sorry, I wish I could help you with this, but I don't have the mental capacity at this moment to support you with this. And if they are someone who truly loves you and values their friendship or relationship to you, they will understand and find a different way to get their problems out to somebody else. It's also such a respectful

rule of thumb even for your own self. If you ever want to talk about your own problems to somebody, you could, this is a great rule of thumb to have, but you could even ask someone, do you have the mental capacity to take on what I'm about to say right now? Or can I vent to you? And honestly, if you're going through a lot yourself, no worries. I don't have to. Because a lot of times I will have a friend reach out or someone reach out and be like, hey, are you busy and available to talk about something I'm going through? And most often, yes, I'm more than happy to support just because I love to feel supported myself. But maybe I'm super busy or going through something myself and not able to take that on. I just would respectfully tell them, you know what? I would absolutely love to

help you right now, but I can't at this moment. I'm really sorry, but please let me know if you're doing okay. Kind of went off on a tangent on that energy drainer. But anyways, I think you get the point. Now when it comes to social media, social media, I swear, can be the biggest energy drainer of all time, but it can also be the biggest energy giver of all time. I think social media just really needs to be used mindfully and with caution because you can easily find yourself down the wrong rabbit hole

and it's very easy to see one video and you accidentally watch it too long. or engage with it. And then all of a sudden, your entire feed is that. Of course, an energy drainer is going to be doom scrolling and following people for the wrong intentions. And what I mean by that is maybe you see someone on your free page who has a really nice body in your opinion. So you follow them for that or their face or their lifestyle, whatever it is.

And maybe you begin comparing yourself. When you begin comparing yourself, that is going to halt your mental health. and just set you back. So you need to unfollow as hard as it is because you want to consume that content. When you watch it, it makes you feel good because you want that. But at the same time, it's making you feel bad about yourself. So if you find yourself comparing yourself to anybody, whether that be for your body, face, lifestyle, whatever, just unfollow.

You don't need to see it and you need to just cater to what you need in life. You know deep down. What if it's right or wrong for you when you follow. someone so try to curate your feed to what is right for you and when it comes to doom scrolling again you don't need to of course remove it from your life fully we all doom scroll at some point in time throughout the week the day the month and it can be just so exhausting on the mind body and soul when you're doom scrolling again the wrong content and it's fun in the moment but you never necessarily feel rejuvenated after you doomscroll.

So at least try to plan out your doom scroll times where maybe you're like, today, all I want to do would just lay in bed and doomscroll because you've finished everything else and you've set out aside of your personal time. You've done all that. And now it's time for you to do this. That's fine. But try to portion it out, like I said. And again, create a for you page and feed that is catered to you and what's right for

you and get to make you feel good. good afterwards. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one vintage Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a Poshmark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all.

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whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage, Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on Apache Mark. But not just one. I found multiple of them. at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces,

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Or even better, instead of a doom scrolling over social media. I guess this is social media too, but I feel like I just classify it as not social media because it just doesn't have the same like effect of social media in my opinion. let Pinterest go on Pinterest and it's more tailored to your hobbies, your dreams, your dream house, your dream life. And to me, that is just so much more of an energy giver than being on social media. Also, I feel like even just going a scroll on Pinterest is such an energy giver that it's more of an energy giver than any type of caffeine or anything. Sometimes throughout the day, I just feel in a slump or unmotivated. I will literally just go to Pinterest

for a few minutes and I swear it motivates me so much and I really encourage you to do that. When it comes to energy drainers, there is definitely things that can physically also drain your energy that is not just like a mood or mental drainer but an actual physical one. One of those being lack of sleep, not having enough sleep during the night or even trying to force yourself to have less sleep so you can work more during the day or maybe again like you're doom scrolling at night and it just is not good for you. Want to have a lot of blue light at night when you're trying to go to bed because when you get into bed, your body's trying to wind down to relax, but if you're forcing artificial blue light on it, you're automatically going

start waking up and it just isn't good for you. You need to sleep. Sleep is good. If you have the privilege of working from home or having some free time during the day, go take a nap. If you need to take a nap, take one. There's nothing wrong with a nap. You know, set your timer for like 15 to 30 minutes and I'm telling you it can be the best little motivation you need to finish the day off strong. Another thing is a lack of hydration. It is so important to stay hydrated during the day. If you need to buy a cute water bottle, do it. You can put some stickers on it or just make your water fun because I'm telling you if you do not drink enough water, that is going to leave such a negative impact on your day. Another one,

is hibernating all day long. That is such an energy drainer. It is very easy at the moment to want to isolate ourselves if we're not feeling it. We don't feel like going out. We don't feel like being social. But even if you're not necessarily going to go out and be social, but even just go out and get some fresh air, go on a walk, do that because you need to get out and not just hibernate all day long in bed.

It is not going to make you feel good. You need the vitamin D. And also, you need experience. during the day, you don't want your days to feel like a broken record. I feel like this one is very obvious, but having a poor diet is obviously an energy drainer. And when I mean my poor diet, don't have too much processed foods as your main source of nutrients or don't always go eat out.

But I also am meaning not getting enough food. Sometimes we are busy throughout the days and we don't fuel our body enough nutrients needs or let alone we restrict ourselves and I believe not eating enough food and not getting enough nutrients in your body is just as bad as having a really processed diet. So I really encourage you to take time every morning, afternoon, evening to make your breakfast, lunch, and dinner, make some snacks because your body needs this. It's not just for happiness to eat. Of course it is, but your body also does need this fuel to go throughout the day and to run a healthy body. So make sure you fuel up because not eating enough is going to leave you energy drained in both

your mind, body, and soul. This is a big energy trainer and I feel like I'm experiencing this right now, but overworking. Why wait till you're burnt out to change your work balance? I feel like it's very easy for us in life to wait till we're rock bottom to finally make a change. But why do we have to hit rock bottom to finally change? And that goes for everything in life. If you're feeling yourself going downwards, going on a downward hill, or things aren't working out, make the change now, make the little effort because that's going to help you balance it out and have a better climb back up rather than waiting until you hit rock bottom

to finally make some change in your life. As I say that, it just makes me laugh as I've been bedridden for an entire week in and out of the ER in urgent care with my occipital neuralgia. So definitely I had to hit my rock bottom until I am now making a change in my life. Another energy drainer is too much clutter. Having too much clutter or abundance of things that especially you don't need is going to leave you feeling so unorganized. One of the biggest energy drainers of all time is being unorganized. I swear when your desk, your home, your room, anything that's unorganized. That is your habitat and your environment.

So imagine if you go somewhere and your habitat and your environment that you're in at that moment and you have to stay in for the majority of the day is unorganized. Your brain and your head and your thoughts are destined to be unorganized as well. Your environment is a reflection of how you think and how you feel. So set yourself up for success. having a clean space, tidy, neat, and try not to have overabundance of things that you don't need. In result, you need to prioritize making your environment a clean, neat space because you need to be able to walk into a space that is going to cater to what you need,

which is to be able to concentrate. So walking into a messy desk is not starting from a clean start of the day. You need to have a clean desk, a clean space, and that's going to be your blank canvas for the day. another big energy trainer is an unresolved situation that can be such an energy drainer and i have an episode on how to heal the unheeled parts of you which i really recommend if you have like a situation that happened in the past with someone and they never gave you an apology or if something happened to you in your past that you really want to work on healing from it just is so important to realize

how unsolved things in your life can be one of the biggest energy drainers and it's subconscious. You don't even know it's there until you really have to sit with yourself and figure out what is weighing me down right now because anything that's weighing you down mentally without a doubt a big energy drainer. Another energy trainer that I think is so unbelievably draining is a lack of purpose. What I mean by that is I've talked about this before, but having your why, why do you want something? Why do you want to achieve something? Because when you have no purpose or want or why will give you no drive to achieve what you want. Because for instance, if your goal is to get the job your parents are

really pushing you to have, but let's say you don't want to be a dentist, but they want you to be. You don't have a why or a purpose of why you want that. It just is planted onto you. So when you have no purpose or why, it's not a passion for you, then you're not going to have the motivation to get started and take action. Let's say instead you really want to work in the fashion industry. You have a passion, and that's your why. So that's going to make you get up and get motivated because you have that wanted desire there. Now for some uncommon energy trainers, remember, these are all things that are really important to reflect and see if you have these in your life and slowly start to cut them out or just decrease them in your life,

and you will see such a difference. Decision fatigue. And this is something I struggle with, but it's being indecisive. I struggle with this, and it can be so draining, and I feel like a lot of people with OCDs struggle with this as well, but just the lack of being able to make decisions and making decisions feel like such a big deal

where if you pick the wrong decision, then it's over. Your day's ruined or that's ruined or you made the wrong decision. and it's not a big deal. You choosing what menu item you're ordering and if you ordered something where you don't love it, it's not the end of the world. It's not. Or if you have the option to pick two different colors of shoes

and you pick the red when you meant to pick the blue, it's not a big deal. It's a big deal when you make it a big deal in your head. So it's really important to try to relax on that as hard as it is and I'm trying to do that and just not putting so much pressure on decision-making. So let me run. remind you, if you pick a Mediterranean salad instead of the blue cheese salad, the world's not going to

end. This is another good one, but not enough natural light. Like I said, hibernating is not good. We need to get some sunlight, get out, and not just want to stay home all day, every day. So try to make the effort to go on a walk, go out, get some sunlight. I know people say avoid the sun and I agree wear sunscreen. But at the same, time I really do believe getting some sun is so important for your health. Another one that is such an energy trainer is being always overstimulated by noise pollution and people. What I mean by that is, you know when you go to a grocery store or a concert or something and there's just so many people talking and yapping and you're just like, I can't even concentrate on my own thoughts. When you're

constantly being surrounded by noise pollution and too much people, maybe let's say you spend your evenings, usually going to parties. Instead of going to parties every day, maybe loosen up and try to go home, have a self-care night and be with your own thoughts because when you're around so much noise pollution and being overstimulated, it can feel so draining. And this kind of has to do with the unheeled parts of you, what I kind of said unresolved things, but suppressed emotions. Not allowing yourself to feel how you need to feel can be so draining. and a lot of times this can be due to the people you're around where maybe your significant other or your family doesn't like when you cry and that is suppressing emotions.

You need to get your emotions out. You need to not just shove it to the back burner. Allow yourself to feel how you need to feel and get it out because that's going to be the first step of moving forward. That also goes to show if you're around someone who wants you to suppress your emotions, that is going to be an energy drainer person. they are not in your best interest and they're just trying to shut you down and you need to be around people who you can be yourself with and be comfortable with. Another thing is having too much on your schedule, I feel like when you overbook yourself, obviously very draining. Over exposure

to negative news. This is something where I think it's very important to be informed, very informed on world events, very informed on things that are happening in your city and just everything. is very important and I think being educated is so important but being constantly tied to the news more specifically the negative parts of the news is very draining and can definitely take a toll on your mental health I really recommend being educated and being aware of what's happening but also allow that into your time but don't let it take up your entire time where you're so enthralled and involved in it where you're saying it take a toll on your life. I feel like when things happen, it's very easy to internalize every single negative thing we hear.

And while we want to educate ourselves and help the way we can and what we can do, allow yourself to also detach from it when you need to because it can be so draining. Another one is perfectionism. So always just trying to make everything feel perfect and you showing up perfect in your own eyes even. So those are some common and uncommon energy drainers. And again, you don't need to cut out all of these from your life. Great if you can, but rather just decrease the amount of energy draers you're exposed to in your daily life. Now let's get into our energy givers because this is what's going to fuel you up and will keep you going mentally and physically. Same with energy

drainers, energy givers are in all factors of your life and will show up in all different ways in your daily routine in your daily life. So that can be career relationships such as friends, family, significant other. Energy givers will be the key to your balance that you need in your life and just living a happy, healthy life. I forgot what it was what people say like something makes the world go round, but to me, energy givers make the world go round. So when it comes to work, it is so easy to feel like work is your life, but it's essential to remember that work and career does not, in fact, define you. As much as it feels like it does, it does not. Where work in school usually take up a good portion of our day, if you're someone who goes to work or school or maybe both,

you feel like your days are kind of just on repeat doing the same thing every day, which is why it's so important to have those energy givers for you to keep you feeling like your days are different and not just like a broken record. So let's get into how to determine energy givers. Of course, we're going to feel happy, uplifted, motivated when we're around or take part in an energy giver. When it comes to a person, you know when someone is an energy giver when you just feel leaving after being with them, you just feel fueled and revived rather than tired, negative,

and something else to determine a energy drainer of a person. is when you keep replaying the same situations you, in conversations that you had with them, that is when you know it's an energy drainer because when it's an energy giver, you're usually not replaying certain situations or conversations you have with them in your head where you're not obsessive. It more feels like, oh, I was comfortable with them and you moved on. Energy givers will also make you feel excited about the future. Sometimes we're with someone and all they do is complain and while their feelings are valid, we have all done that at least once in our life, but not even once in our life, but probably once in the week or the month. But it's really

important to hang out and surround yourself with people who make you feel revived and not shut down every time after being with them. When it comes to an energy giver on social media, you want to feel peace and comfort and excitement, not feeling bad about yourself or finding yourself compare yourself to them about their body, face, or life, you want to be able to leave looking at their things, feeling motivated, excited, and at peace. So really, who and what makes you feel good is what an energy giver is. Sometimes you follow someone and you follow them for the wrong intentions and not realizing you are and then soon enough later down the line you realize why you followed them and what I mean by that is maybe you saw a girl on your free you page with a gorgeous

body and you followed them and you find yourself later on just comparing your body to theirs all the time that is when you find out you know what that's an energy drainer let's remove that from my feed and she's beautiful she's gorgeous but I'm not going to allow myself to compare myself to her and make myself feel bad about myself if you have been around for a while you know the story with my podcast where I almost didn't start it, which is crazy to me because to think that I wouldn't have been where I am today if I didn't start, all the what ifs and doubts can just add up and be the one thing stopping you between you and getting the dream that you want. And let's say starting a business is you. And you want that dream business of yours. You have the idea, but all your what ifs and

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Again, of course, a healthy diet will physically give you energy and help your mentality. Hydrating, energy giver, of course, getting plenty of water throughout the day. One that I really love is cold exposure, so washing your face in the morning with cold water or ice water. I love to do, like I don't do this every time I wake up. doing like a little ice bath for my face. Another one is aromatherapy where you get a fragrance or essential oil that you can reach to

whenever you feel stressed or you need a little motivation or inspiration. I'm telling you aroma, such as like essential oils or fragrance, can bring you so much peace and happiness throughout your day. Another thing is solo dates. You know the drill. We talk about solo dates quite a bit on the show,

but solo dates are so important. such an energy giver, and you can do this very simply throughout your week. It doesn't need to be a full-on get dressed up and take yourself to a dinner, which I do support, and I do think is so necessary, but sometimes we don't have all the time, nor do we have the funds to even do that. It can be expensive to go eat out. So you can literally just dress up for yourself at home and have a little movie night. Another energy giver is a morning sunlight.

and this is just touching base with the earth, and we're just so used to being dialed in. I feel like for work, school, where anytime we're not on our phone or computer, please, I beg you, take some time to get outside. So this can be going on a walk, stretching, and anything to do to detach. I love to, like, find butterflies,

and sometimes I'll, like, try to put them on my hand. It's so cute. Any little bugs, I'll just do anything I can, to feel like I'm touching base with nature. Another one is caring for the little things. So this is simple joys, learning how to do something that's been on your, like, to-do list, and learning more about something. And caring for the little things could be you finding a little ladybug and nurturing it.

Or also, let's say there's like a language that you've been wanting to learn how to speak. You can literally just search up how words about it, just caring for the little things. things and putting time to something that isn't necessarily going to bring you success or benefits in your career or anything else, but instead is going to bring success and happiness in your mood. I feel the same way about food. It doesn't necessarily always need to be nutritional or have a nutritional benefit. Things that feed the soul is so important. So when I said care for the little things, that doesn't necessarily need to be a benefit to you,

but it's going to benefit your soul. Same with food. Eat, you know, in balance. Eat the healthy things. But at the same time, you can eat something that isn't necessarily very healthy for you or have any nutritional value to it. But instead of what that's going to do,

you eating that is feeding your soul. Eat that ice cream. Eat that bag of chips. You need some things that are going to give you a mood energy giver. Next step is one of my all-time favorites, but hands-on activities. This can be a big, cooking, pottery, anything like that, even vision boarding. I love to like look through a magazine,

cut out some images, and it just make a cute little board for the month. But do some hand-on activities because this is going to be such an energy giver. And one of the best things is to not be so attached to our phone. So doing hands-on things is something I really recommend. Another really big energy giver that you can do once a month, once a week, or even once every like quarter of the year, but is mood boards. You can do this on Pinterest or a physical one. I really recommend. But if you want to do one over Pinterest, go on Pinterest, find a style or aesthetic that you admire. I love like getting attached to a new style or aesthetic. I have been loving the Nancy Meyer's like Ralph Lauren Nantucket style. So that style just makes me so happy.

I love watching videos about it. I love making Pinterest boards on it. So find a style or an that you love and it really just makes you excited to start finding things like that and adding it to your life another thing is romanticize everything and i know again you've heard this from everyone but romanticize everything in life really making the conscious effort to find the art and beauty and everything so much times there's such beauty and life into what's right in front of us but we're always looking for the next thing that's where we really just have to see slow down and be present. And that leads me into gratitude. Gratitude is so important. So just being grateful for even the simplest of things. I just heard something that Jay Shetty said, but if you

are still saying your mom or your dad or your friend or your siblings call and like get a phone call from them, you are blessed. And the same goes for with if you have a roof over your head. If you have water, anything like that, you are blessed. And it's so hard for us to think about those things because we're so focused on, oh, we didn't get the score we wanted on something, or we didn't win this, or we didn't get that new bag that our friend got. That's why it's so important to just take a look at the reality of our life and think how blessed we really are. Even if things are going hard with work or school or anything, look at you right now. You're breathing. You're breathing. You're you're alive, you're healthy.

That's seriously a blessing as is, that things will get figured out. This two shall pass. I always love thinking of that, but it really is true. So just try to really be grateful for everything in life. Another energy giver is music. So make a new playlist each month and it just makes you excited to play it throughout the month. And starting every month with new music just sets the mood and the tone for the month. Another really, really big energy giver is, of course, visualizing and manifesting.

I think this is so important. You can create stories in your head and just visualize exactly what your life would look like in your eyes as a dream life. It's so funny when I was in the MRI the other day, I was so, you know, nervous going through the MRI machine that I just like close my eyes the entire time and just visualize everything I want in my life and just thinking about all the gratitude. and I'm telling you it happens. Also, one time when I was just really, really wanting to go to New England to have a very fall trip, and I just sat with myself and I, like, meditated, but at the same time I visualized exactly what I wanted to do on, like, a fall trip. And I kid you not, a week later, I ended up being reached out to to literally go to Maine. and I had a very fall, fun New England stay.

And it just blows me away every single time when you manifest things because it truly does work. Another energy giver is think of three things that went good in your day as like a little recap. So when you're in bed, just think of three things that you're grateful for or three things that went well. Another thing you could do in the evenings is a diary or journal or you can even do this in the mornings. But just think of even one sentence or one word that you want to write down to disqual. your day. Something that is an energy giver that you can do for yourself as like affirmations on the mirror or you can do to other people. I before have done this where I left them in public, but make little sticky notes with little affirmations or sweet little compliments on them.

And it can be the sweetest thing for a stranger to see and you can also put them on your mirror. Another really good energy giver is volunteering. Another one is stimulating your vagus nerve. so that's deep breathing, gargling, humming, singing. It's so good to stimulate the Vegas nerve. The nervous system, we're just so amped up and always so on fight or flight mode. So it's really good to just try to consciously relax our body. Another energy giver for the summertime, just a little on-themed summer one, is have a barbecue night. So you can have a barbecue night and then lay out and watch the stars in the evening.

This one is so random, but I think it's such a fun energy giver. but make a fort and have a movie night with yourself. There's nothing better than just feeling like you're touching base with your younger self again. So make a fort for yourself in the living room. Have a movie night. Have some popcorn and candy. Maybe even invite your friends over. And just the funest,

cutest little night. Another energy giver is try one new place a week or every day if you can. This can be a cafe, a restaurant, a museum. Again, we're trying to add more things that are going to give us happiness and life into our routine and most of all experience because experience is such a beautiful thing that we can do in our everyday life and when we're living the same day with work in school it can feel so draining the last energy giver i want to leave you with is stay on schedule but at the same time allow sporadic plans and flexibility in your life we want to have discipline in our routine and

our schedule and by all means do that because the majority of our time we need to stick to that. But also at the same time, allow flexibility to happen. If your friends ask you to dinner when you plan to go to your workout, maybe say, you know what, I am going to go to dinner. I do want to catch up with my friends. So having just that going with the flow feeling in life is so important. Energy givers look different for everyone and it is so important to determine what are yours. and most of all, be mindful of incorporating those into your daily routine.

Same goes for energy drainers. I know we covered both energy drainers and givers, but try to be mindful to determine what are the energy drainers and givers in your routine and start cutting the drainers out and incorporating more of the givers. I love you so much. I hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I enjoyed talking to you today. If you enjoyed this episode, please share over your Instagram story, tagging me so I can repost and overtake.

TikTok. It always makes me so happy to see all your guys's content. And also, you guys have the cutest images, images, what am I? The cutest photos and videos that you guys post. I am just obsessed. But I'm so proud of you if no one has told you today. And I hope this was a big energy giver and your routine today. I love you so much. Have the most lovely day today. And when energy flows, your life follows. So choose your sources wisely. And do you. not forget to stay busy yet pretty.