Busy, Yet Pretty - How To Maximize Your Single Life As An Independent Girl

Episode Date: February 13, 2023

Are you single, looking to find ways to maximize your single life? In this episode, your host Jadyn Hailey shares her best advice to maximize your life as a single, independent girl. From taking yourself on dates, to complimenting yourself in the mirror, learn to fill the possible relationship void you may have, with attention from yourself. Tune into this episode as you take yourself on a date and buy flowers from: You, To: You.  Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jadynhaileyy/ & https://www.instagram.com/busyyetpretty/ - Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCx48PsDdAossgZjWWnXbvvg - Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fairyjadyn - Shop my Closet on Motom: http://www.motom.me/?referral_id=2otTRBb5O&client_group_token=c2cad9169bb6afa9af7a4b70abf24aad - My Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/jadynhaileyy     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls, happy Valentine's Day. If you are listening to this when the episode comes out, it is the day before Valentine's Day, or you may be listening to this as a little Valentine's Day treat. But you know what? I'm so excited for today's episode because I literally am in love with this episode. It just fits the day perfectly. First, let me introduce myself. I'm Jaden Haley, the host of the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast, and I'm here to help you

achieve your dream life. Okay, let's get into our weekly review. So this week, I actually went to the cutest yoga event on Sunday. They had gluten-free muffins and everything. So good. But I had such a lovely time at yoga. And then after I went to a farmer's market, it was so fun. Something I have just been doing a lot is spending time with my friends and meeting new friends. I just think it's so nice to connect with new people, hear people's stories, and I don't know, I really love being a listener. As much as I love to talk, of course, we all love talking about ourselves. But I really do love listening to other people and hearing other people's stories and giving advice and hearing advice from other people.

So I don't know. I just think connecting with people is really special. And I just have been doing that a lot lately. Another thing this week is I have been so consistent with. posting over all my socials, which I'm very proud of myself with because sometimes I get busy and I try to focus on everything at once and it becomes too overwhelming. So I've been really proud of myself. I've been keeping up with it and gathering a new audience as well.

So if you're new to the podcast, hello, I'm so happy to have you here. And so is the busy at Pretty Community. And I also have just been really productive. Obviously, productivity can spark when you are full of new ideas. And, you know, sometimes we get in slumps or burnt out. So I have just been in such a creative role lately and so, so excited for this new year. I just, I'm so fortunate that so many amazing opportunities have already presented themselves to me, as well as so many going to come to me.

So I'm just so thankful and excited for the year. There's so much to come for you guys. when I hear your success stories, it makes me so happy because I just know if you are able to change your life this easily, as you guys are doing, trust me, give it one year and your life will be your dream life. Another thing this week is I've been trying new recipes. I feel like I've literally been a chef lately, not to toot my own boot, but I swear I have been a little chef lately and I have been loving it. I just love cooking with healthy food. So moving on to my current obsession. This week, my current obsession is cacao nibs. If you don't know what

cacao nibs are, you need to try them now. They're like chocolate chips, but not really chocolatey. They're not very sweet, but they are so, so good, though. They give like the perfect amount of crunch when you're adding it to yogurts or honestly anything. I just love them. Another current obsession is, I don't even want to say it, but I'm going to say it is macha. I swear, I am so obsessed with macha. It brings me so much joy and I'm so happy when I meet people who have the same joy about macha. I just love macha so much. It makes me so happy. And I love when I see you guys post your matcha listening to Busy at Pretty. I'm like, you guys are just so on theme. Or anytime you guys are doing an activity that relates to Busy at Pretty, whether that's drinking matcha,

doing your homework, doing your skincare, your makeup, gym, anything like that makes me so happy. because you guys are just living your dream life and I love it. Another current obsession is work dates. And I know that I said this last time, but I truly am so obsessed. I think it's so fun to just try out new cafes with your friends and just work. And let me just say, a good 60% of the work dates are chit-chatting. But, you know, it's healthy to have some talking time because, you know, independent working can be kind of hard sometimes.

So I have just been loving work dates. and just bouncing off motivational energy halfway through working to each other. So I have been loving that. Another current obsession is fresh air. I just have been making it a priority to get fresh air every morning, whether that's standing outside for like 10 minutes or just opening the window and getting the breeze. I just love fresh air. Lastly, I would say another current obsession is sticking to schedule.

I just have felt that my brain has been super clean. and had no brain fog lately. And I've been really able to focus on what I'm going to accomplish. So I think it's so nice. And I just have been loving to stick to schedule. Feels so productive. Feels so amazing. So I've been loving that.

Okay. Now moving on to my goal of the week. So my goal of the week is to try new matcha brands. I feel like I've tried almost every matcha in L.A. I need to get some for home. And I've ran out, of course. So I want to try some new matcha brands out. So if you guys have any,

that you love yourself, let me know what they are. Okay, another goal of the week is incorporating yoga into my morning routine. I've done really good at incorporating yoga lately. Since I did yoga last Sunday, it just has made my mind so much more at peace. Like, I love yoga a lot, and it really can strengthen your core. I was sore the next day. I just really want to start being more consistent with doing yoga because every single time I do it, I feel so rewarded with energy and just relaxation.

So I just love that. Another goal of the week is to go to the infrared sauna. When I have a house, my number one things I'm going to get is an infrared sauna and a reformer Pilates machine. Because those two things I cannot live without, nor can I fit in my apartment. But when I can, I definitely will be doing that because I am obsessed with the infrared sauna. There is nothing that makes me feel as good as just. just getting a good sweat out, just releasing the toxins and feeling so clean and cleansed. So I really love the infrared sauna and need to go this week.

Okay, another goal of the week is to schedule more slow time in the morning. I always love scheduling time in the morning to just relax and take it slow and really make it a priority to have my cortisol levels balanced and not stressed out because stress can really make you feel unsettled all throughout the day. just starting the morning off slow and then getting a workout in later in the day or later in the morning. So I just have been loving taking it slow and want to be doing that more this week. Moving on to a self-love question to ask yourself. How have I provided love to others this week that made me feel good? I love that question so much because it really helps us to be mindful on

providing to others. So really ask yourself that and journal this question. Okay, moving on to a podcast review. This review is from the Geneva group chat. This review is from Roos. I feel like I am saying her name wrong, so hopefully I am saying it right. But she titled her review, 16 in thriving. I'm a 16 year old girl who attends boarding school. I've always found it hard to be productive since life at boarding school and can be exhausting and life at home can be a little too relaxing. Since listening to Busy at Pretty, I found myself getting more motivated and balanced, like starting Pilates again and starting to get into fashion again and starting to focus on academics more no matter how hard it is.

Thank you so much, Jaden. I love that review so much. It made me so happy that you realized how there's room for improvement and you took that step to improve your life and look at you now. Like you are thriving and I'm so, so, so proud of you. Thank you so much for the review and I am beyond proud of you, my busy yet pretty girl. I want to hear your busy at pretty success story. So leave your success story in the Geneva group chat.

Moving on to the quote of the week. I can do be and have anything I want in this life. I love that affirmation and quote so much because it really allows yourself to really think about that in every single aspect saying I can do be and have anything that I want in this life. So really affirm that to yourself and journal that. Moving on to our weekly challenge. Do not touch your phone at least 10 minutes after waking up. I know that's hard and then you can shoot for an hour afterwards,

but try at least 10 minutes when you wake up to not look at your phone and just really start your morning without jumping to your phone and laying in bed, scrolling on your phone for an entire hour. So I think that's a really good weekly challenge. Now it's time. Happy Valentine's Day. Let's get straight into this episode. So today's episode is how to maximize your single life as an independent girl.

And I do not mean boys, okay? I don't mean trying to get with as many guys as you can. How many guys can you talk to at once? No. I'm talking about how to maximize your life in a way that's actually going to benefit you. This episode's actually for everyone. Even though I said single girl, I am meaning in a relationship. or not. So if you are in a relationship and you're listening to this episode, this is a good

opportunity to use this advice to prioritize your alone time and your independence aside from your relationship. But if you are single, take all of this in and be ready to learn how you can maximize your single life as an independent girl. So most people listening to this, I would say, are late teens to early 30s is my general demographics. But whether you're all. or young, this time is the most crucial time to prioritize yourself, especially if you're single. If you begin to think it's selfish to prioritize your independence or prioritize time for yourself, let me just say it is so opposite of selfish, okay? Because I promise you, the minute you start prioritizing yourself and your independence, you will make an impact on the people around you

in other people's lives. I've used this example before, but it's kind of like when a plane is going under water. You tell the parent to put their own mask on before they can assist their child, so they can assist to their child properly. That's the same thing with relationships, whether that's family, friends, or anyone in your life, the minute you begin to prioritize yourself,

you will be able to assist to those people properly. So if anyone's making you feel like prioritizing your independence and alone time is selfish, let me just tell you they are wrong. Without further ado, let's talk about how you can maximize your single life as an independent girl. Personally, I am a very independent person. I have never been codependent on anyone. I really, really enjoy doing things myself, having my alone time.

And with that being said, that does not mean I don't like being with other people. I love others company. I love company from other people. I'm saying I really truly do. love my alone time and my independence. But I was never a girl who was sought out relationships or male attention. I was raised to always value myself and I never really had a wandering eye for guys, which is normal.

A lot of people do and a lot of people don't. Eye candy to me was definitely not men. And to me, it's success, self-love, and eternal happiness. And let me tell you, if men is your eye candy, that is, totally great as well. But personally, I was someone who never really had an eye for relationships or men. I was more attracted to how can I further myself in my life? And of course, you can have both those things in your life wanting to live your dream life as well as finding men as eye candy or men or women whoever you like. But let's say you do have a reliance on male attention or are

somewhat codependent on others. Let me tell you, if you are a constant, constantly desiring male attention. You are actually deep down desiring self-attention, but you don't even realize it. But in this episode, I'm going to share how you can switch your desire of male attention to a desire of self-attention. And let's say you are very independent and have a very independent personality. This episode's going to be great to figure out how you are able to maximize your independent time and really use that valuable time.

One of the best things about being single is not being responsible. for anyone but yourself. This is your time to focus on one person, and that's you. It's literally the most precious time to focus on yourself. You are so lucky to have this open schedule to focus on your well-being and focus on becoming the person you actually want to become. You have all this free time that would be going towards a relationship now that you can put towards yourself.

Whether you have a completely book schedule or free time, it's essential to put your time an effort into you. Whether you've been in a relationship or not, it's really normal to miss or want or desire things and activities that people would do in relationships. And for instance, one of the number one things that I think is so essential for anyone to do, whether you're in a relationship or not, especially if you're not in a relationship, is taking yourself out on a date. No, I do not mean with a male specimen, okay? I mean with you. Nobody else. I mean booking that reservation for one person. I mean walking into the restaurant saying for one. I mean walking yourself to the park and having a picnic for you. Nobody else. Have a date with yourself. You have no clue the happiness you will feel after you push yourself to take yourself on a date. Do you miss getting flowers in a relationship? Okay, guess what? Buy yourself the flowers. And the best part is, is you actually know what? you like so you can pick those flowers. When you begin providing for yourself the love and little

activities and experiences you would get in a relationship, you will realize how fulfilled you actually are with yourself. And honestly, you'll begin to start losing interest in wanting a relationship for those cute little experiences since you're now already providing it for yourself. Like I said, if you miss relationships because you're not getting any flowers, go buy yourself flowers. If you miss going on dates, take yourself on a date. You will be able to fulfill that desire and need and realize how you're actually being able to fulfill it yourself without needing a relationship. I think this is just so important and I think it's so good because when it actually comes

the time to meeting the right person, you're not having to ask yourself, do I really like this person or do I just want to be in a relationship for the fun of it or for the cute little things in relationships? No, you will actually be able to realize when you like someone, we don't often want a relationship We actually want the attention and fun experiences and the love we receive in relationships. Instead of seeking for those cute little things and experiences through relationships, provide all of those things for yourself. In some ways, you can start doing that to maximize your time as a single girl with your

independent life is start setting more intentions and plans. That's going to further you to your dream life so, so, so much. And no, I don't mean goals. I mean intentions because you need to do the damn thing. If you just got out of a relationship, you know what I'm talking about, but you know the extra time that you have that you would have put towards a relationship. Let me just say you don't even understand how valuable that time is. Most likely one day you're going to be married, possibly have kids,

and your time is going to be taken up, okay? It's going to be taken up and of course taken up by the people you love the most, but you're going to have much less time for your time. yourself and you will wish that you had enjoyed your free independent time and use that time wisely. You don't want to have to regret not using your time wisely and wasting your time. As I said, self-dates are a necessity. I will take myself on dates at least two to three times a week. Of course, you can have a date at home and make a little dinner for yourself, light a candle, so cute,

but also take yourself on a date out in public. Go to a cafe, go to a restaurant, go to a restaurant, go. somewhere that would make you happy that you would want to do on a date with someone else, do it for just you. Another thing to do is enjoy the silence and acknowledge it. This sounds weird, but like I said, you'll probably be married one day, possibly have kids, and your house is not going to be as silent and sweet as it is now. So enjoy your time and silence, enjoy your peaceful moments because I promise you,

one day you don't want to have to look back and say, gosh, I had all this time to really enjoy the silence. No. And I'm not saying having a significant other or kids ruins your time. Literally, it fills your life with so much joy. But I'm just saying this is ways you can maximize your time as a single girl. Another thing is create new friendships. I think creating new friendships being a single girl is so important. It allows you to hear more people's stories and learn new things about people. Another thing is partake in new activities. Have you been wanting to start pottery? Go take a pottery class. Have you wanted to start doing Pilates? Go take a Pilates class. There is 100% something that you have been wanting to do that you have not done yet.

So if you haven't, go sign up for that class now. Go do that activity now and start it up. Okay. You have time to do this activity. So do it. Another thing is gratitude. Okay. Whether you're in a relationship or not, gratitude is so important. And when you are a single girl showing gratitude for your life, you don't understand how much you're going to attract. I literally wake up and I think of gratitude. I will literally say out loud what I'm thankful for. And before I go to bed, I speak out loud what I'm grateful for. Even if there's no one in the room, I'm just speaking it into the air, speaking it into the universe, what I love, what I'm thankful for. Because I promise you, it allows you to be a happier person and you should be acknowledging what you have in your life

because no matter what your life is, it doesn't matter how bad it feels right now. There is one thing to be grateful for. Another thing that I think is essential to maximizing your life as a single girl is become a literal chef. Okay. Start cooking. Do you know how much of a blessing it is to not hear from a man repeatedly asking for McDonald's or del Taco for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? Do you know how much of a blessing that is? You have time to go pick where you want to eat. You have time to go make the dinners you want to make.

You don't even have to compromise with anyone because it's just you. So make the food you've been wanting to make, make the food that you want to eat, and that feels your body right. Something I love about having a single life is you're able to learn so much about yourself throughout this time. You can discover your own sense of style, your food preferences. self-care, self-love, literally everything. You can discover so much about yourself and so much about the outside world when you have this time alone. Another thing that I love is have a night alone to dance around, trying on all your clothes, dancing around in lingerie, radiate that feminine energy.

Feminine energy is just so beyond beautiful. I literally love to just do those fun little feminine activities that makes me feel so dainty and sweet and I promise you once you do those things, it will just bring so much joy in your life. So whether that's having a karaoke night with yourself, dancing around, putting music on, cooking dinner and lingerie, whatever it is, do it. Fall in love with yourself. And when I mean fall in love with yourself, I mean look at yourself in the mirror and literally adore yourself. Okay. This is not narcissistic. Narcissistic is when you don't care about anyone and putting your needs first. No, we are caring about other people.

The busy, a pretty lifestyle and mindset cares about other people, and we also care about ourselves. So, looking in the mirror and calling yourself beautiful and falling in love with yourself is so gorgeous and so loving, and you need to start treasuring yourself. If you want to love someone else one day, how do you expect to love them if you don't love yourself? And how do you expect them to love you if you don't love yourself? people love what is loved.

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Zocdoc.com slash busy. If you're listening to this episode right when it comes out and Valentine's Day is tomorrow, if you're sad because you have no plans, let me just tell you, I already know your plan for tomorrow and it's taking yourself on a date. And let's say you're actually not able to go in public right now to take yourself on a date. Go make yourself dinner at home, light a candle, put nice music on. And if you have no plans, that is your plan and you better be posting a photo of it and tagging me in it because I want to see you all on a date with yourself on Valentine's Day.

So you better be posting this tagging me your Valentine's Day plans. If you don't have any plans, I know your plans. It's taking yourself on a date and putting on a movie, doing self-care, and doing everything that you are craving and desiring provide for yourself. And let's say you get sad over romantic movies. Do not put a romantic movie on, okay? Put a movie on of an independent girl in the big city living her dream life, okay? Devil wears Prada, something in that sense.

And don't you dare pull the, oh, it sounds like a lot of work to do all this. No, put on a face mask, do it all, make a cute little bath with flowers floating it. Like literally do it all. Do everything that you see on Pinterest. I know it sounds like a lot of effort, but I promise once you're doing it and after you did it, you will feel so rewarded and happy. Another thing to think about as a single independent girl is you are saving so much money.

If you were someone who has given a lot of gifts to your significant other in the past, As for me, when I had a lover at the time, I always would love to buy gifts for them and buy them little things and buy things that they liked. So something to think about is you're actually saving a lot of money. So since I don't have a lover, I am putting that money that I would have spent on them towards me. So I will take myself on shopping dates. I will splurge on my favorite beauty products or some clothes that I see online. Something else to do as a single independent girl that is so, so fun. is a girl's night or a sleepover. Have a girls night, invite them over, make some mocktails

or cocktails, whatever you like, and just have time to all gather around, do some cute little photos, have a little photo shoot. All of that is so fun and so interactive and can bring such joy and light out of you. And I promise you that will fulfill so much lack of company that you may be feeling. If you are someone who was codependent on relationships, Something else that is so important when you're single is take opportunities. I'm talking big ones, job opportunities, travel opportunities, everything. You have this time now, so use it wisely. Another thing you could do is adopt a pet.

That's really fun. I have a cat who is soon coming to live with me. I miss kitty so much, but he's on his way. Adopting a pet or getting a pet can be so nice because it's like a little companion and it can make you feel like you have a lot of company. so that's another thing you could do. Another one is get off your phone and spend more time and life exploring. There is so much to life.

I swear you are just not looking up. Get off your damn phone. Start living life. Take opportunities. Live experiences. You have to do these things. And I promise you once you do, you will be so happy. You probably can't even remember what you looked at this morning.

You literally don't remember things we look on our phone. Okay. They don't matter to us. But real life experiences do. do. Lastly, the best way to maximize your single life as an independent girl is become the provider of what you may be seeking from a relationship or a person or a significant other. Maximizing our time as a single girl is just so important. You need to start being the provider and start providing what you're seeking from relationships or a significant other or a person.

Start doing that for you. This time is so precious. So use this wisely to advance yourself. you guys enjoyed this episode and love this episode as much as I did. I think enjoying our single life is so beautiful. And a lot of times we may forget about how to maximize our single life. So I hope this gives you some good advice and good tips. And if you haven't already, take yourself on a date this week. And I better see everyone tagging me in your little date photos, whether you're in public or at home, show me how you take yourself on a self-date. I love you guys so much and I hope you guys have the best Valentine's Day if you're listening to it. During the time the episode comes out, if you guys want to join the Busy at Pretty Community, go join the Geneva group chat

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