Busy, Yet Pretty - Life Begins Once You Value Yourself

Episode Date: February 27, 2023

Have you been lacking self respect for yourself? Finding yourself settling in situations with others? Or maybe settling with low expectations from yourself? In this episode, your host Jadyn Hailey speaks on the topic of Valuing yourself. As Jadyn always says, "High expections prevent low quality experiences." Learn how to properly value yourself, leading to making an impact on how your peers respect you, along with how you respectyourself. Tune into this episode with an iced matcha in almond milk and a whole lot of love for youself.  Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram   - Youtube: Jadyn's Youtube   - Tiktok: Jadyn's Tiktok   - Shop my Closet on Motom: Jadyn's Closet   - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront   Sponsors: BetterHelp - BetterHelp Shopify - Shopify Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls. I hope you guys are having a lovely day. I am very excited about this episode. Like, truly, I was waiting all day to record this. So let's just get straight into it. If you guys are new, I am Jeanne Haley, the host of the Busy at Pretty Podcast. And I'm here to help you guys achieve your dream life and become the best version of yourself. So let's get into today's episode. So starting off with the weekly review. So this week. week, my Instagram account has been down all week. It's been up and down. So if it's been weird when you search my account up, it's finally resolved. I'm so happy. But my apologies, if you guys could not find my account this past week. But I'm very happy to be back. But other than that, I have been really trying to soak in the sun. It's going to be raining the next three days. But the past few days, it's been nice and sunny. And I've been just really trying to soak in the spring, almost spring sun. Another thing this week is I've been waking up later than usual. I've been really trying to cycle sync and be aligned with what my body needs. And I can tell my body

needs more rest right now. So the best thing to do is to get rest. So I honestly have just been trying to sleep in a little longer, getting up around 630 to 7 rather than 5.30 because if my body needs the extra rest, I'm going to give it to myself. So I have just been listening to my body and trying to cycle sync with food as well. Another weekly review I've done this week is laying by the pool and working. I love it. Not the next few days I can't because it's raining. But I love doing it when it's nice and sunny out because I can just really soak in the sun, listen to the pool. So I just think it's so relaxing. Another thing I've been trying to do is brainstorm what I should do for my birthday.

My birthday is actually St. Patrick's Day, but no, St. Patrick's Day doesn't exist. It's Jaden's Day. Jaden's birthday is the national holiday. What's St. Patrick's Day? All jokes. But anyways, or is it? Is it a joke? No, Jaden's birthday is a national holiday.

I'm just trying to figure out what I want to do. I am turning 20. I know a lot of you guys think I'm in my mid-20s. I'm actually not. I am 19. But I am going to be 20 now very soon. So less than a month away. Lastly, this week I have been trying to just listen to a lot of music.

I think it's so relaxing and it just makes me so happy. So just putting on music and also putting on the sounds of, birds and piano sounds together. I listen to some like piano music with like birds chirping and oh my gosh, it's so relaxing in the morning. Okay, moving on to my current obsession. So my current obsession, um, I don't want to even say it because I say it every single week, but matcha, but I always love macho lattes. But lately I love macha americano. So just traditional matcha, how it's made, where it's macha and water with just a splash of almond milk. I love it because if it's a really high grade of matcha,

you can really taste it with it being just water. So I have been loving that. Another current obsession is prioritizing sunlight outside and not just through a window. I was doing this the past few months where I would be in front of the window, really trying to soak in the sunlight, but it's a really different effect and a different feeling once you go outside and soak in the sunlight. So just making it a priority for a few minutes, going outside and getting the sunlight that way

instead of just through the window. So I've been loving that. Another current obsession is walking and talking on the phone. It goes by so fast when you just walk and talk and not that I want to go by fast, but, you know, time slips away when you're having fun talking. So I just love talking on the phone or walking with friends. It just is really relaxing and very fun. Another current obsession is granola, nut mix, cashews, what else I do I put?

Coconut in cashew milk. I think it's so good. It's a really random mix, but almost making like a cereal, but with nuts and granola. But I just think it's so good and then adding some fruit in it. So good. I think it's amazing. That has been my favorite, like breakfast and dessert and snack. lately. So it's just so, so good. I'll do a little recipe on what I do for mine over my Instagram.

So go check that out if you want to see it. Another cramp obsession is the Air One Blackout Cake. It is amazing. So it's a chocolate cake and it's amazing. It's made from almond flour. So it's gluten-free and vegan. So, so good. And I'm just obsessed with it. It's my favorite little dessert. Moving on to my goal of the week. So this week, I want to get back to regular posting. As I said, my Instagram was down for the past week, but it seems to finally be resolved. So I want to get back to posting as usual and giving you guys advice over there. So something I definitely want to do is focusing, getting back on Instagram, as well as completely figuring out what I'm going to do for my birthday.

I feel like I'm always a month or at least two weeks ahead of everything. and I do allow sporadic moments to occur, but I also love planning just so I know my schedule. So something I really want to do is just figure out what I want to do for my birthday. Something I think is so funny is last year I actually went to L.A. for my birthday. All I wanted to do was to go to L.A., have a little lunch there and enjoy my time, go shopping. And I just think it's so funny because just a year ago, that's what I did for my birthday, was go to L.A. and now I live here.

And it just makes me so happy. And I'm just so proud of myself for sticking to what I believed in. And I knew I could do it. And I put my mind to it and look where I am. So if I can do it, 100% you guys can too. And lastly, I want to start doing five minutes morning yoga. Sometimes we set too many goals at once and we let them slide. So if we set a few simple goals, just like a five minute morning session of yoga,

that can really allow you to stick to it rather than an hour session of yoga. So I really want to start implementing that into my morning routine. Okay, an affirmation. I am the creator of the life that I live and I am capable of living the life I desire. I love that so much because it really affirms to you that you are the creator of your life and you can live the life that you desire no matter how big or small your goals are. So I just love that affirmation so, so much. Moving on to a self-love question to ask yourself.

How have I gone out of my way to help someone this past week? I love that so much because it allows us to reflect on how we have put our time out for others. And if you have not done anything for someone this week, I really encourage you to do something, a nice gesture for someone else this week. Okay, my challenge for you guys this week is, sift through your closet and find five items to donate or pass down to someone else. I love that so much because, I think it's so nice to just do a little closet cleanout, even if it's not a huge closet cleanout,

but just doing a little sifting through and finding what you don't really need or want anymore. So it allows new amazing things to come in. So I really challenge you guys to do that this week. Now on to an Apple podcast review. And if you want to be featured on next week's episode, feel free to leave a review over Apple Podcast. This review is from Madison and Madison said, I just found this podcast and I'm obsessed. The content is so relatable and I love the advice she provides.

So good. And capital letters. Thank you so much, Madison. That makes me so happy how you said it's relatable because all I want to do is not be unrealistic. I have bad days. You guys have bad days. We are all trying to work through this ourselves and find the way we can become the best version of herself.

So I want my content to be relatable and just some sense of like, a safe space for you guys knowing that nothing is unrealistic and everything is just in the touch of your hand. So I love to review and thank you so, so much. It's time to get into today's episode. Today's episode is life begins once you value yourself and a little explanation from the title because, you know, it sounds very simple and, you know, general. But I want to explain it because it actually says a lot. Many of you listening may be struggling and struggling in life in general, but most likely it's actually being caused by something, whether that's work, school, friends, relationships, or even if you have like a bad relationship with yourself,

there's something that's causing that root issue for being sad. You may not even realize, but these hardships that you're having are widely made out from the little value that you have for yourself. And before you come at me and say, of course I have value for myself, of course I love myself, I'm also targeting your subconscious. You may be so, you. You may be so, you. You used to accepting the bare minimum, you don't even realize. And once you realize the behaviors from others and yourself that you're settling, you are able to take your power back. You will then raise your expectations from both people in your life and how you treat yourself. I don't want this episode only to be about relationships you have with friends and family and acquaintances and

your significant other. This is also on a relationship with yourself. I really dislike the quote, don't set expectations. It only leads to disappointment. Because I don't agree with that. When I set expectations and I know what I deserve, I will ensure that I receive that. And if the people I meet or the people in my life aren't meeting those expectations, they're not the right ones for my life. If I don't meet my own expectations from what I expect for myself,

then I'm making excuses for myself. So what I'm saying is the title stems from, when you know what you deserve and you know your worth and you know your value, you'll take action to ensure you don't settle for any less from other people and yourself and you're only going to accept the best. And that's where your life will finally begin. Here's an example. You're not living your life when you're in a toxic relationship,

whether that's a friendship, a parent, a significant other. You're not living life when you are in a toxic relationship. So here's an example. Let's say your boyfriend is messaging other girls and you're not comfortable with it or your boyfriend's not putting an effort to see you. If your relationship looks similar to that, you're not living. You're settling. And another example for a relationship with yourself, if you see yourself not achieving any

goals throughout months and weeks or years or waking up at the ideal time that you want or not eating the nutritious food that you wish you could want to eat but you don't, you're not living. Again, you're settling. Let's say the situations I just mentioned are similar to yours. And maybe your boyfriend talks to other girls. You're not comfortable with it. But you know what?

He's done it for over a year now. You're used to it. And that's just how it is. And it's easier to just let it be than to say something. Or maybe you just talk to yourself into being okay with it. Same with the relationship with yourself. Maybe you want to live a healthier lifestyle, but you just can't put the effort or action into doing it.

So you just kind of make excuses for yourself and you expect the bare minimum from yourself. Do you know why? it's because you don't realize how valuable and worthy you are and you may think there's no other options. So let me say high expectations prevent low quality experiences. I'm going to repeat that. High expectations prevent low quality experiences. When you are and see yourself as a high valued woman, you will receive a high valued lifestyle. Yeah, you may love your friends, okay, But if they are disrespecting you, why are you letting them do that? Because you are a high valued woman.

A high valued woman would not want low valued friends. Okay, they would want high valued friends. Do you know what high valued friends are? They support each other. They love each other. If your friends don't look like that, it's because you're settling. If I had a friend who was talking down on me and I found out they were talking bad about me, they are not my friend anymore.

You know why? It's because I would never do that to them and they're doing that to me. me so I deserve a friend who sees me at the level I'm at and would treat me the same way I treat them. You have to treat others the way you want to be treated. And if that's not being reciprocated, then that's not the person for you. You have to realize you are a high valued person. You are a high valued woman and you deserve a high valued lifestyle. You have to stop acting as a victim because it's in your hands. And yes, things happen that are out of our control. But if you are allowing your significant other to constantly disrespect to you, talk to other girls, cheat on you

and make excuses for himself. You have to stop being the victim and just saying, oh, I know this happens to me. He does this to me. No, it's in your hands. You will not allow that. And you know what? If he continues, bye-bye. I'm being straight up and telling you to stop being a victim because I have hope and I have love for you. And I want you to realize everything is in your hands. And I encourage you to stop accepting the bare minimum. I used to accept the bare minimum, okay? I'm not perfect. I used to accept people being rude to me at school and just walking over me and allowing people to

disrespect me. Now that I see how valuable I am, I would never accept that. This is your life, okay? Not your friends, not your parents, not your significant other, not anybody but yourself. Look in the mirror right now. I want you to literally right now go to the mirror or if you're out in public, I want you to come back and do this exercise when you get home. But look in the mirror.

You are looking at the person who is capable of living the life of their dreams. Look at how beautiful you are. Look at how pretty your faces. Look at your pretty eyes. Look at your pretty nose. Look at your pretty eyelashes. And especially look at your pretty heart in your soul. You are so lovely and so worthy of love.

living your best life and being completely happy. Now that you've reflected, you know, you took a good look at yourself, you realize, wow, I am that girl. I am beautiful. I have such a beautiful soul of a beautiful inside. I have a beautiful outside. I'm a lovely person. Now that you realize it and realize how valuable you are, think about this.

Is the person in the mirror being treated and living the lifestyle they want? Ask yourself that question, are you? If the answer is yes, I am so glad. glad that you're living your dream life and you are accepting only the best for yourself. If the answer is no, it's up to you to change that. You know your worth. So correct yourself. Of course, like we all do, we will sometimes be hard on ourselves or look at the mirror and

say, oh, I don't look good today. I'm sorry, a high valued person would not say that. You know what I do? If I catch myself looking at myself in the mirror saying, oh, I wish this and this about me. I wish I looked this way. I wish I looked that way. If I catch myself saying that, I will instantly be like, hold on. Do you know who you're talking to? You were talking to Jaden Haley. No. She's a high valued woman and she would not accept that from someone else. So why am I beating myself up? And when you have that mindset, nothing can get to you. If someone called me ugly on the street today,

it would not affect me one bit. Okay. I would not think about it later when I'm in bed. Oh, why did that person call me ugly. No, it would literally slip past my head because all I care about is valuing myself. When you value yourself, nothing else gets to you. Same with relationships. If your significant other is not putting in the time and effort for you or they're contributing the bare minimum. And let's say you could think, I wish you would do more for me. Then that's not the right guy. Okay. If he is also excusing your feelings and if you bring something to his attention, especially if you bring something to his attention and he excuses it? No, that is not the one. And if you continue to let that be, you are settling. Okay? Look at the valuable woman you are.

You expect the best. Don't accept someone making you uncomfortable or not putting in the effort into a relationship when you are putting in the effort. With relationships, if it's not being reciprocated and you have put the effort into it, let it go. It's not the right person. Something so funny is I see a lot of messages regarding my podcast and breakups. And I just know my podcast has initiated so many breakups. After my listeners realized their worth, I'm sorry to the boys who were broken up with after their girlfriends have listened to the podcast.

Because now, guess what? They know their worth, okay? They know what they deserve, and they're not going to accept the bare minimum. Let's say your boyfriend is the cutest guy in the world. I could care less. I'm sorry. I could care less if you are dating the cutest boy in the world or with the cutest boy in the world or whoever he is. If he is treating you, not as you deserve to be treated, take him off the pedestal, okay? Take him off right now and be your own advocate and

demand respect for yourself. And if he doesn't prove it with actions and he's not respecting you, he's not the one. That's totally okay. He can live the life he want. But guess, guess we what, I'm sorry. He's not the level that you're at, okay? He's at a different level. And if he's not ready to be at that level, then that's his problem, okay? You are a high valued woman and you deserve respect. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. I love those times that stand out to me where I learn something new about myself and just makes me feel so much more aware of how I feel and it gives a nice time to reflect. Getting to know yourself can be a lifelong process, especially because as we're always growing and changing,

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if you just keep on setting that goal, I want to wake up early and you never do. And you save all these things to Pinterest. Oh, I want this life. I just can't though. There is no one else to blame but yourself. It's the hard truth. But if you are not at the place you're at right now

and you're not at the stage you're at right now, there's no one but to blame but yourself. And yes, things take time, okay? I have dreams that are not yet accomplished, but I know I will because of some circumstances right now. But you know what? I'll get there one day. If you're not waking up early and you want to,

it's your choice. It's in your hands. There's no one else to, blame. If you want to get better grades, whose problem is that? It's not your parents. It's not your friends. It's not your boyfriends. It's yours. Okay. Yes, things are hard. Things take time and I'm so proud of you. But you have to realize if you want to get to the life you want to live and want to become the best version of yourself, it's all in your hands. You're not going to accept someone being rude to you and being disrespectful. You have to let them go from your life. That's not the person for you. If you are

realizing you're not achieving any of your goals because you keep making excuses for yourself, that's your own problem because it's in your hands. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated. I know that I deserve to live my dream life. I just know that. I know I was made for this and I value myself so I know I deserve it. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to put in the work in the actions in order for me to live my dream life.

Waking up early, eating nutritious foods, doing work, exercising. Putting an effort to achieve my goals isn't a punishment. Yes, waking up early sounds like a punishment. Yes, doing your homework sounds like a punishment. Yes, going to work sounds like a punishment. I promise you it's not. It's nourishment to your mind, body, and soul. You are doing nothing but benefiting yourself.

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Go to shopify.com slash busy yet pretty to take your business to the next level today. Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. I love myself so much and I know my value and I value myself so unbelievably much where I will prioritize waking up early, doing my work, eating nutritious foods and providing form. myself because I value myself. Think of yourself as a Chanel bag. Okay. You have two bags. There's one that you just bought from the store. She's cute. She was inexpensive. She was nice and she does the job, but she's not as cute as you want it to be. And then you have a Chanel bag. Her quality is amazing. She's beautiful. She does more than getting the job done. She's gorgeous and you love her.

Which bag would you take better care of? The one that you found at the store that you know, it's not that you, it's okay, or would you take care of the Chanel bag, which is great quality, it's beautiful, and it's a luxury bag. You would obviously take more care of the Chanel bag. So treat yourself as the Chanel bag. Treat yourself as high value. So when you wake up in the morning, think of yourself as a Chanel bag. Stop getting caught up on what others are doing or saying.

I know it's easy to hear what other people are saying if they are being negative towards you or let's say you're getting a little jealous because people are doing a lot more than you. Let me just say you have to continue moving forward because the minute you look back or listen to a negative comment or look over your shoulder to see what other people are doing, you will get distracted and be set back. You have to stay in a straight line of focus on yourself. Okay. Go day by day.

Being consistent is what matters. Okay. Value yourself. Again, think of yourself like a Chanel bag. You would value it. You'd take care of it. You put it back in your closet nicely versus throwing it on the floor once you get back home. You would be careful with it.

Care for yourself like that. You have to realize your value. You have so much value and you have to treat yourself that way. Even if you don't feel it, act like it. And once you start acting like a high valued person, your peers will start treating you that way and you will treat yourself that way and you will realize, oh my goodness, I am a high valued person. You have to have that mindset.

If he or she is disrespecting you, distance yourself from them and make the decision to leave. Whether this is a friendship or a relationship, don't be tacky. You have to leave classy. I love that. Don't be tacky, leave classy. You being rude to your friend or your significant other telling them, you did this, you did this, I'm not being your friend anymore. But you making it clear that you are not receiving the respect you want from them and they're

not changing, there's no bigger loss than walking out of their life and then later realizing how they wish they could go back and treat you better. You are on top. You are the creator of your life. So treat yourself that way. And if you ever caught yourself being rude to someone for no reason, put yourself in their place. Would you want to be treated that way? So when I say value yourself, I'm not being be a bitch to other people. I'm saying value yourself and a valued person would give valued responses. You're not going to be negative towards someone. If you don't want to be treated that way, don't treat someone else that way. And your actions are a reflection of you. So the next time someone's being rude to you, you can realize, oh, that's just a reflection of

their insecurities. So you know what? I'm, I'm happy with myself. I value myself so it's not going to get to me. So if you treat yourself and others with class, you will view yourself and be viewed by others as a high valued person. Don't go another day not valuing yourself. You deserve to live your dream life, okay? You deserve to take action on the ability to live the life you desire. You are a high valued person. So live that lifestyle.

Stop living a lifestyle that a high valued person wouldn't. Stop settling for the bare minimum from others. Guess what? I don't settle. If someone is being disrespectful to me, I'm not just going to be like, okay, yeah, you can treat me that way. No, I would hold myself with confidence and be classy about the situation, not tacky, and show that I have respect for myself and I'm not going to tolerate that. Same with looking at myself in the mirror.

I value myself so much that I'm going to take care of myself so I'm going to wake up early. I'm going to eat nutritious foods. I'm going to go on a walk today. I'm going to do things that a high valued person would. Stop settling for the mirror minimum from yourself. Get up and provide the care and love you deserve. treat yourself to the life that you deserve. I love you guys so, so much.

And I hope this episode you guys enjoyed and realized how valuable you are. And I truly believe that there's no better thing than to value yourself. I really hope you guys enjoyed this episode. Please share over your Instagram as well as TikTok. I literally love seeing the Day in the Life videos of you guys listening to the podcast. It makes me just so, so happy. I hope you guys have a lovely date. today, I want you guys to go buy some flowers for yourself at the store and treat yourself

as the beautiful inside and out person you are and treat others with love and realize how you are a high valued person. And of course, remember that life begins once you value yourself. And don't forget to stay busy yet pretty.