Busy, Yet Pretty - Lovers Talk

Episode Date: January 24, 2022

Nothing beats lovers talk. Jadyn and her boyfriend, Ryan dive deep into all things love. They answer the most asked relationship questions you have been asking. The lovers give their opinions on self love in a relationship, long distance, friends with an ex, kids, first moves and more. Listen to Jadyn and Ryan spill their secrets to how they maintain a happy and healthy relationship. Jadyn's Social Media platforms: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jadynhaileyy/ & https://www.instagram.com/busyyetpretty/ - Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCx48PsDdAossgZjWWnXbvvg - Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fairyjadyn - Shop my Closet on Motom: http://www.motom.me/?referral_id=2otTRBb5O&client_group_token=c2cad9169bb6afa9af7a4b70abf24aad - My Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/jadynhaileyy --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/busyyetpretty/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. Let's get through our weekly bullet points and then we will get into the episode. First for the weekly review. This past week, I have finally followed through with my new year workout. I am so happy I have been working out every morning, of course, taking breaks on the weekends. I have been loving my new workout routines. This past week, I stayed home mostly like organizing, working on work. And that was mostly it. Just a low-key, week. Oh, another thing is I started drinking bone broth every morning, which sounds really weird, but people said it really improves your gut health. So I started drinking it and I am yet to notice a difference. Next to my current obsession. My current obsession is Gisu Hair Oil. I love it so much. It makes my hair feel so silky and smooth for days. Another current obsession I have right now is sitting in coffee shops doing homework. Lately, I've been sitting at coffee shops with Ryan, and it has been so fun. I just love working together and just like, I don't know.

I like having a scenery in the background rather than just like sitting at my desk. My goal of the week is to perfect my own macha recipe at home because lately I have been getting matcha out way too much and I need to start making my own and not spending too much money on Machia Out because I am back on my matcha addiction. Okay, next is a quote from the five-minute journal. Nothing new can come into your life unless you're grateful for what you have. I love that quote so much because I feel like it's so true. Every morning, I always say what I'm grateful for. Being grateful for what you have in your life already allows new and amazing opportunities to come into your life. Lastly, a self-love question. What would I never want to change about myself? Feel free to

pause this episode and journal this question. I think that's honestly such a good journaling question. Today's episode is going to be on all things love. My first ever guest on the pod, which I'm so excited about, is Ryan, aka my boyfriend. Here he is. Hello, all. I'm Ryan. I'm dating Jaden. I'm here for the podcast. Super excited. On my Instagram story, I asked you guys to ask us questions you had individually for me, Ryan, or us to answer together. So we are so excited to answer these. We're going to have so much fun, but without further ado, let's get into the episode. To introduce my beautiful, hot, sexy, smart, and talented boyfriend, give a good bio about yourself. Good bio about me. Okay, so born and raised, Southern California, you know, grew up, going to school,

playing nice hockey, love fashion from a pretty young age. would, you know, create my own fit. It's quite possible that our children photos would destroy any couple's children photos. So. A thousand percent. We were both very stylish kids growing up. I always played ice hockey.

So that's been really big in my life. Love music. Love concerts. I actually met Jaden at a concert. I know. Let's not waste any time and get straight to the questions because I feel like this is going to be a very long episode. Before we begin, our individual questions, the most asked question was, what is your guys' story?

Should we both just answer this one? Yeah, we both time in. Okay. So we met in 2019 of July. First meeting, Jane. It was through mutual friends at a concert at the Garden Amp in Garden Grove. And then throughout the months, we would see each other every once in a while. We'd hang out. And then once quarantine hit, we started talking a lot. We had Instagram like, what was it? Like photos, instant messages.

Like, story, like messages. Like, I'm not, what do you call them? Instagram. Just like, the disappearing like photos. Yeah, the disappearing photos. How did we start dating during a global pandemic? Those are like the real ones. Yeah, no.

I mean, it's like people start got a lot of time to get to know each other. We met July 2019. And then July 2020, we started dating. Both of our families were taking COVID. real seriously. We were the only people were allowed to hang out. Yeah.

I'd never left the house. I was texting jade all the time. And the very first time we'd like seen people. Forever was when we saw each other. We went out of a little date together. During the beginning of our relationship, we had to be at home like all day long. I wouldn't change anything because like,

we got to spend so much time with each other, just quality time to get to know each other and just be around each other where it wasn't necessarily, oh, let's go to a movie or something where we'd be distracted from each other. We just got to spend. I really spend like one-on-one time with each other, which is really special to me.

Getting into the individual questions, we are going to go back and forth answering questions that you guys asked. Okay. So, getting right into the question. So the first one is going to be for Jaden. How do you balance your relationship with being an influencer? Good one. I have not heard anyone, like, really answer that who does like content creation.

We'll call it, we'll call it an influencer what I do. My job is like a full-time job. Like, it's like any other job. I don't have any set hours of when I do my job. I kind of just, like, work all the time. I'll be answering emails, like, on a Disneyland ride sometimes. There was a Disneyland ride email sent. I was in shock, guys.

I've kind of found, like, my own place and what I can help her with for her, like, job as an influencer. But I'm really grateful for all the things that, all the doors that's open for us. Like, we've honestly experienced so many opportunities, like, that if I wasn't, like, a quote, influencer, We'd never had been able to do those things, which I think is so cool and so grateful for that. Jane has a really, really strong work ethic. And if she wants to get anything done, she will do it. So that's never been an issue of her. And I think that she would find any way to cram in whatever work she had if it was to see me in any way.

We worked together at coffee shops. Like, he'll do his work for like his stuff he has to do and I'll do my own stuff. And honestly, we balanced it out so nicely. It's not even necessarily like a job job. Like, I'm still like, it's my life. life. Like that's, I'm sharing my life on the internet. All of it's like really true authentic. He definitely understands that, okay, yeah, we're going to get this amazing, beautifully comped meal. But in order to do that, we're going to have to spend 15 minutes of this food getting

cold to take my photos while I pose in front of the food. It's never been an issue. I knew like going into the relationship what her job was, right? So it was never something that I was like completely shocked by as soon as we started dating. I was like, oh, my gosh, my gosh, my gosh. I was I got to take pictures and stuff. No, it was totally good. I knew what I was, like, signing up for. I would ask you take some photos in, like, situations. Like, no one would want to be a photographer at this point.

I'm like, okay, get on the floor. I don't mind. But now, like, no shame. Like, we're just taking photos. Now for my lovely boyfriend, Ryan, here is your first individual question. Is it unattractive to play hard to get? Is it scary approaching a girl you like? So for me, I think that, like, games in,

any relationship are like really silly and I think that playing hard to get or acting dumb or what any of that kind of stuff is just like don't don't do it leave that stuff. It's very high school. High school, middle school. Like for me it's just not not the play. If I want to get to know someone, I want to know their true intentions as like as I am. I'm pretty forthright in what I'm wanting. It's not cool. It's not cool guys. Don't do it. It doesn't lead to a like, relationship in the future if you're starting it with like playing hard to get and stuff it's mentally exhausting to turn to figure stuff out like just be honest is it scary approaching a girl you like and I think that like yeah but I would never approach a girl based solely on like her

looks I think that like personality is what comes first I booming personality just caught you booming booming personality it just caught you like a fish hook yeah no that was that was what really drew me to Jaden so a little fisherman was like who I was like who I But by the time that me and Jaden were like in a stage where I was like, oh, I think I really like her and I want to date her, it was like we were already really good friends at that point. So a question for Jaden, how do you build trust in a relationship? Honestly, not much to say about this. Just action speak louder than words. Practice what you preach.

Yeah, like practice what you preach. No lies either. No lies. Don't be lying to your. Oh my gosh. Be honest. Don't be lying to your scene. Be honest.

Be honest. Be honest with your intentions. Be honest with your feelings, your thoughts. I think that. communication is definitely key in building trust not speaking for him but i'm going to speak for him we both they just say what is on our mind like we say what we think yeah absolutely okay a question for ryan where do you see yourself in five years so where have i see myself in five years well of course definitely with jaden and i think that by that time we'll probably have like a dog or a cat i'm really

really wanted dog he's allergic to cats allergic to cats so it's like kitty makes his eyes all red It makes my eyes red, makes my own nose, but it's all right. I still love kitty. So either a dog or, like, maybe a little hairless cat, a little sphinx cat. I want a job I enjoy. I'm really passionate about clothing and stuff, so hopefully something in the fashion industry would be awesome. Working together would be awesome. I mean, of course, still helping Jane out with all of her stuff, influencing and hopefully some clothes by then.

And in five years, I'm definitely going to have some insane style, like just absolutely. You do already. But, like, we're leveling up. We're leveling up in five years. I talked about the tabby boots in the past episode. The tabby boots are step one. Those were taking a big step in the right direction. Exactly.

That's how I see myself in five years. So a question for Jaden, what is your favorite thing about Ryan? Okay, I think my all-time favorite thing is, of course, his personality. But, like, regarding that, he has such a sweet, like, old-school tendencies. He's, like, a little old soul. I love it. Like, he opens the car door for me and just cute, small, like, gestures. I was just so sweet.

I do my best, guys. I do my best. Question for Ryan. What did you notice first about her? I am her. You are her. Well, we're talking about Jane here, just to clarify. But first thing I noticed about her would be probably like very first impression.

It would probably be her like her cheeks, her huge cheeks. I think it was the cutest thing on the planet. So I was definitely one of the first things. And then her style, of course. She has amazing style. When I first got to the concert, I was like, whoa, let's go and dress real well. And we had met, like, and we had talked for a while. while and after we were friends, like, definitely her, like, bubbly personality.

I thought she was so cute. I thought she just had the best, like, heart and soul and mine. And, you know, how sweet her voice was. So, you know, a little cute voice. So. That is so sweet. But those would be the things that I had noticed first about, Jaden. Not as seriously the sweetest thing ever.

Question for Jaden. Can your boyfriend be friends with an ex? My boyfriend is friends with his ex and it bothers me. Definitely no. my gosh no one i think it's okay to be civil and like acquaintances with your ex be on fine terms and stuff but not actively talking or like showing interest like i don't think it's okay to reach out at all don't conversate don't show attention to an ex especially if it bothers you i mean i would think most people would respectfully not talk to their ex and already think of that if they did not realize

that they're doing it, bring it to their attention because most likely they don't even realize that it's bothering you or if it is bothering you and they're not stopping, then maybe you need to reevaluate stuff. I think that if they value your guy's relationship more than their relationship with their ex, that it shouldn't be an issue at all for them to stop talking or block them or out of them or whatever, you know, like because if it's bothering you, I think that's more important than his relationship with his ex. So perfectly said, question for Ryan. What would just say to guys that can't respect successful girls? I think that you are a silly guy if you can't respect a successful girl.

Stop being a bozo. Grow up. Read some. Just become a more well-rounded person as a whole. You lack maturity if you can't respect a successful girl. It also has to do with toxic masculinity because like... Yeah, for sure. If they can't handle them not being the like more successful or smarter.

I'm successful and you're successful. Yeah, grow up, grow up. Just grow up. That's what I would have to say to guys that don't. back successful girls grow up yes row up question for jaden do you think high school relationships are cliche yes and no hard to say because yes we started dating when i was a senior he's a year older than me like a grade older than me i had a full senior year while we were dating but we weren't at the same school yes and no i would think high school relationships are cliche it has to do with maturity i think

there are a lot of high school relationships that just from the start aren't going to work out in the sense of like you're not going to marry that person and I think both people know that so in that sense I think that it can be cliche in a way but I also think that there are people who meet each other and they really like care for each other and in that case it can totally work out but definitely really truly depends on the maturity for me if you're debating though between focusing on school or relationship in high school definitely yeah focus on yourself at that point most often Often high school relationships don't work out. So focus on yourself in your career. When it's the right time, it's the right time. Like I just think it's like when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I'd say yes and no to this question. Question for Ryan. Did you feel ready to be in a relationship?

That is my biggest fear not being ready. Yes, I felt ready to be in a relationship like emotionally. I think that like the most important thing before going into relationship is being confident in your own self. Like yourself before you love someone else. Exactly. That's the age old sentiment. I think that's like the most true because I don't think that a relationship should be you searching for validation and love from others. I think it should be like a mutual thing between the two people.

And so yes, I felt ready for a relationship in my like emotional state. I was good, you know. I think that relationships shouldn't be like chased in a way. I think that like when you find the right person in the long term, the best way to find a relationship, if you're trying to find someone who really truly cares about you and loves you, I think that that is more of an organic thing and you can't necessarily look for that. Or if you're about to be in a relationship and you don't know if you're ready, look more inward than at the relationship in a way.

That's really smart. Yeah, I totally agree with that. Question for Jaden. Do you think your significant other following girls is a red flag? Okay. And they just said significant other. So that means you are dating. So if you are dating someone and they are following girls, literally yes.

Okay. especially IG baddies. Like, I think that, yeah, IG baddies, automatic red flag. If they're still following IG bodies, like that's a maturity thing.

Okay, let's say your boyfriend is following an IG body. If I was him, I'd be embarrassed that I am literally following an IG baddy when you're in a relationship. Like, I'd be embarrassed to be following an IG body. Yeah.

That's just, I don't know. It's not, it's not the play, not the look. And if your significant other is actively following new random girls, then 100% yes, a red flag.

Set boundaries very early into your relationship. With our relationship, we kind of upfront kind of just said, like how we feel about stuff. Yeah, like, I mean, within the first couple, like, weeks or months of dating, we kind of set the ground floor for like. But we find respectful and what we find, like, disrespectful and stuff. Yeah. So, I mean, just have that chat with your significant other. If it's still early in the relationship, I mean, I'm, I'm sure it's easy to set that ground floor. But even if it's like, you've been dating your significant other for a few years. And if they're not ready to change, then.

Yeah. I think that we'll keep reiterating this, but I think the relationship should become more important than any change that they're willing to make. If Jayden had an issue with me wearing the color purple, I would totally be cool giving up the color purple. You know, like, I mean... Yeah, you don't stop wearing purple. I'm getting, I love him in purple.

If that was the issue at hand, I would totally be all right in changing it. I think that, like, you know, following girls or any of that kind of stuff isn't important. I think it's okay to follow people that, like, you're okay with following. know together. Yeah, so like Jaden follows a couple of my buddies. Like, I follow a few of of Jane's like friends who are girls. I'm following your friends for you. Yeah, yeah. Totally agreed. I think it's a red flag if you're a significant other is following girls. Okay, question for Ryan. Opinion on the right person at the wrong time. I think that right person wrong time can like totally be a thing. Oh yeah. Especially when you're younger. I think that circumstances,

maturity. It's not easy when you're even our age. Same with like high school, people are immature. Like you might actually really, sorry I'm answering your question, but like, you might actually find someone and you both are very like mutually like each other, but there's lacking maturity on a certain end or something. So it might not be the right time. But it could be the right person. And after they mature, like after a few years, like in college or something, you know, you run into them again. But I think that if you truly in your heart believe that like they're the right person for you, do everything in your power to make it work because there's no really second chances in life. So they're mutually giving it back.

Yeah, yeah. Don't, don't chase people that, like, block you and like, no, no, no, don't, don't harass anyone. Not endorsed by Busy a Pretty podcast. It is a possibility and you truly deep down your heart need to see it through. I say, go for it. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, so those are my thoughts. Question for Jaden. How do you bring positivity to the relationship, even if you're feeling down? You have to have a few situations where there are downtime so you know how to figure out, like, okay, what works for? us as a couple to get through these like times when one of us is feeling down and be honest and talking if I'm feeling something and not in the mood I'll like tell them I love you so much it's not you I'll tell them like how I'm feeling about something and same with him like we'll explain how we're feeling it has nothing to do with the other person because you never want friction

between two people due to like oh she's mad at me for something I don't even know what's up and it could just be completely unrelated and just to let them know like it's not has nothing to do with them honestly they may be able to help you too. Like if you're feeling down about something. Ask for help if you need it. Question for Ryan. When you hesitate whether you want a relationship, does that mean you just aren't into him? I think that that's like a valid question in the sense of you could just not be that into

him and maybe you're wanting that that relationship to seek like love and validation. But I think like ultimately if you know you want someone, you're going to know you want them. If you don't know or you're hesitating, like it could be the right person, but you're not ready for a relationship yet. You have to love yourself before you love someone else. I love yourself before you love others. We're going to create a few, few ideas through this spot. Right person, wrong time.

Right person, wrong time, absolutely. It can be multiple two reasons, but I think ultimately know what you want first before even going into a relationship. I think that relationships are just as much for yourself as it is with another person. And, of course, what Jane said, don't settle. Never settle for anyone. You could also be scared of getting into a relationship before we started dating. I was like, because I liked them a long.

I was like, I just don't think I'm ready for a relationship. I'm so set on my career. Like, I can't have anything in my way. After we started dating, I'm like, okay, I'm going to give this a chance. I also was just so scared. I'm like, I'm not ready for a relationship right now. Like, I'm busy. We work as a team, you know?

Yeah, no, I think it's definitely a collaboration. Know what you want before going into a relationship. Next question for Jaden. Can you please talk about how it's not based your value slash self-love on the way others love you? Again, love yourself before you love someone else. I'm going to say that so many times, but it's so true and know your worth before you get in a relationship. If someone is not serving you well, you have to move on. Also, like, you have to love yourself at the end of the day because God forbid if something happened in your relationship or your significant other,

does something in your relationship that is not good, then you have to be okay on your own. Having self-love for yourself on both ends of relationships, just improve the relationship as a whole. Absolutely. I think that going in with a healthy state of mind and all that is super important. It prevents insecurities and guilt and all that. Yeah. And I think also if you're more asking a not a relationship way, or if it's a more, how do you base others on the love that they give you in the sense of like just around people, family friends?

I think that find a way to look inward, find the things that you love. I love that answer. That's super good. Question for Ryan, how to not have a cringy relationship? Like just be the two coolest people on the planet. That's how you don't have a cringy relationship. But no, I'm kidding. I'm still laughing from that question.

That's a great question. But no, honestly, just be confident in a relationship. It doesn't matter if it's cringy. Who cares if it's cringy? Be cringy. Like, be as cringy as possible. Like, oh, this is for sure crongy. But then, like, honestly, like, I'll post it.

It makes me happy. I'll post it. I'm like, oh, this is cringy, but it's, like, funny. And then, like, we get, like, really good feedback. Like, yeah, no. I mean, it's just like, be yourself. Doesn't matter. People can like you're not. Yeah. Don't Google gives a hoot what other people like think about your relationship.

Be as cringy as possible. Make sure that you're happy at the end of the day. That's all that matters. The two C is confident and cringy. Confident and cringy. The most important rules to live by. A question for Jaden. Should you ever go back to an X?

Yes, no. If it was the right person wrong time, then for sure yes. I think it's great to give another chance to something. It just wasn't the right time, but you felt was the right person. If the relationship ended with your ex that had to do with them treating you wrong, them cheating or anything in that type of realm, then no. If they're going to do it once, they'll do it again. I say never go back to a toxic relationship.

Toxic ex, toxic person. Totally. A time and a place where people could go back to an ex and it can totally work out, get other opinions on it. Question for Ryan. What are some extra little ways I can show love for my girlfriend? I think that, like, you know, just like the small things I think are like the most important, showing love for your girlfriend where they would be like,

oh, well, he, like, loves me and thinks about me. Just like... You do a lot of little things that, like, gentlemanly acts, I guess. Like, opening the doors when you get in the car for her. Carry her when her feet hurt. In New York, when my feet were hurting so bad. I was wearing heels all day long. I had so many blisters and we were walking home.

We were on the same block, but he, like, carried me until we were at the hotel, which was just so sweet. Show her that you love her. You know, give her jacket if she's cold. Carrier and her feet hurt. Be attentive. Above all, flowers are a great way of just, you know, saying I love you. It's such like a small, simple gesture, but it just like makes like your day.

Yeah, no, I think it's her and they'll stay. She can keep them. Key for all the guys listen to this podcast. Don't make her ask for the flowers. Get them for her. Without her asking, don't make her, oh, you know what sounds great right now, some flowers. Because then when she gets the flowers, she's going to know that it was her thought. Yeah, don't, don't make her make you get them.

Get them for my recommendations. Tj's, Albertsons, five to ten bucks, or go pick them yourself. You know, like go make a little bouquet. I'll make her week. Look, it makes mine. Yeah, yeah. So far as... And then, you know, just like making, making plans.

I guess that's more of a big thing that you can do. Like, a little surprise things. One day, he, like, planned the entire full day, took me to the pumpkin patch, picnic. We watch movies, like, flowers and everything. Just little small things can just make someone so happy. There's even, like, writing notes. Like, you do that. Just anything.

Show her that you care. That wraps up our individual questions and honestly, like, we kind of just answered them all. I guess we were both answering for each other a little bit. But here are some questions that were directed towards us. We also received so many questions, which I was just so happy reading all of them and I wish we could answer all of them, but we'll definitely have a part two one day soon. Here are some of the questions for us. How do you guys find the time to get together despite the busy schedule? Of course, busy at pretty, that's my brand.

So I'm very, very busy. I'm always working and I love working. I have a very busy schedule, but we still manage to find time, like working coffee shops. Just working together, I think is a really big one. Just being by each other, but still working. Yeah, school and work. It can definitely add up and pile up. So just planning out things in advance, I think, is a really big thing.

If you can find a schedule and find a way to create time for each other within that, I think that's huge. Finding out what works for each other. I know not everyone is working online for school. Find the happy medium between getting your step done and seeing your lover and make it go together, work in a coffee shop together. Do your work together. Another question.

How do you work things out in your relationship? Communication. And I'm going to say this because in the very beginning of a relationship, I personally from my end, I would think something but not want to say it. I think it's hard to say in any relationship, especially in the very start, it's hard to kind of get things off your chest. Yeah. We've been dating for over a year and a half now. So just a year and a half the other day.

So throughout time, I've noticed one, I'm completely honest and communicate. Just stuff is so much better and easier. He can't read my mind and I can't read his. So honest, oh, kind of. We kind of do it. A little bit, a little bit here. We kind of do. Especially in the start, you can't read each other's minds.

Just communicate, listen, and like, take note. take note and compromise. I think compromise is like really big, especially in the start of a relationship. Like when you're trying to work things out, figure what works for both of you. Because of course, you're never going to find it where both people are completely happy about every single thing. You're going to have to work things out. And I think that compromise and just listening, communicating big, big, important things.

Totally. And I think if you're holding anything in, you're just going to end up presenting that person. Be honest. And honestly, like your significant other may not realize certain things. if it's brought to their attention and they're like, oh my gosh, I didn't even realize. I think just being honest, communication, compromising, all that will just lead to a healthy relationship. Absolutely.

Is there a way to go out and meet people even though COVID issues are happening? I think that, yeah, there's like totally ways to go out. Yeah. It's definitely harder with COVID, of course. And if you're taking like the proper precautions, it can definitely be a little bit more awkward at times with the masks and distancing and find people with the same interest. It can be online. I mean, safely, of course, you know, like, don't just reach out to random strangers.

But if you know mutual friends, like in the area, don't be nervous to reach out to people. Yeah, yeah. Just, I think online is like probably one of the biggest things for our generation. It's, it's, everyone's on it. So, I mean, there's, of course, people you can meet. COVID's going to pass one day or another. Like, it'll be done pretty soon. So it's hard right now.

Yeah. So I would definitely say you could totally meet people online in person. And so. Next question. Question. What has been one of the most memorable moments both of you had together? I would say for sure, New York. I would double down that statement. New York was the most fun trip I've ever been. Yeah, and we had already been on like independent trips and we go do stuff like all the time along.

But I'm saying like this was our first time in a different state. We kind of just figured stuff out together. Also, I hadn't talked about this. This is not a good one. Definitely not like a memory could have gone without. But I think it's a story that goes to show. Yes. But I had an alert.

reaction the moment we were getting like boarding on the plane like we were the last people to board getting on the plane i was like am i gonna die he had helped me so much benadryl got benedrill and everything and like i came out okay i'm alive realizing like we have really good teamwork really made me happy absolutely doesn't like people say like trauma we're gonna call that trauma trauma is it trauma yeah sure i think trauma builds like character strength okay yeah you know what i'm saying. Okay, who said I love you first? That wouldn't have to be me. He said I love you first, but I thought it. We were both thinking it, probably for a good while. We were thinking it for a good while, and we'd say like I, L-U-B. Yeah, yeah, we'd say it like, oh, love you. Like, yeah, start of relationship,

like, love you, like L-U-B. First time, that would be me. Of course, I said it back right after. I was like, oh my gosh, wait, I feel the same way. It was Ryan and then me right after. question for us I often need stuff repeated to me but my boyfriend hates repeating himself is this bad? I think understanding plays a huge role Yeah I completely agree

communicate with your boyfriend What you need from him He should not have a problem repeating himself There is a way to compromise about things And I don't think that he should be Mad or never mad Never mad, never mad Do you guys like to go out more

Or stay in for quality time Personally I love both I love going out of the I'm such a going out type of person, not like partying. Like, that's not what I mean. But like, hitting the city together. Yeah, like him and I just like going on a fun little date or hitting the city or just taking walks. Like that is so fun to me.

But also like I love just like staying home and cooking or like baking together at home as well. So honestly I love both. For me, I think the moments I think of like quality time together are probably like at home. We're just like sitting and talking. I feel like that's like when it's like one on one and like the most like special. Oh yeah. We have long talks. Like we'll sometimes stay up like hours.

We had to stop doing this because, like, in the beginning of us dating. Sleep schedules were bad. It was really bad. Like, guys, I'm going to bed at 9 at latest now. Fantastic quality time together, going out and stuff. Like, I love our little dates and dinners together. But yeah, totally staying at home. It's just nice.

Just to, like, play by each other. Just both. I just love talking to Jade. So question for us. Do you want kids one day? Yes, 100%. Like, I am someone who's not into rushing into kids or anything because I'm, like, we're going to be together forever.

We have all this time. Like, I really want us to experience life together first. I want to travel. Not saying you can't travel with kids, but like, yeah. Do you traveling before you have kids, guys? That's a rule that I, of course, have no experience. No kids yet, but. So I want to be completely satisfied and achieved everything I want to achieve with my career

before we have kids. So I can be fully attentive to our kids. I want to fully feel successful and proud of what I have done for my career. And same with just like living our life, though. Yeah, I think that eventually one day when we have kids, they're going to be the most important things in our lives. So accomplishing what we want to accomplish before that is important. One boy, two girls.

One boy, one girl. So my thought process is if one of them has an emergency and we have to go get the other one, we each get one. When there's three, there's one kick and left out. But the third one, what if the third one is young? What is the third one? What is they're all the same age? God forbid we get triplets.

Oh, my goodness. Wait, that would be fun. Oh. Why? I mean, I would love triplets, but I would love all of my kids. Oh my gosh, wait. On TikTok, there's a lady. They told her at her ultrasound that she would be having two boys, okay?

Two twin boys. She ended up having one girl. Someone must have, like, mixed up, like the... Oh, the ultrasound picture? Yeah, and that's what I'm thinking because she was like, they, like, they told me he was two boys. Getting prepared for that and then, oh, that's terrible. That's a terrible story, then... No, but she was so happy.

She was like, she was like, I got a princess. A little bit of bummed. Bummer, babe. It wouldn't be a bummer. I want a girl. The other one who got the picture of the one, they got two boys? Oh my God,

that would be crazy. I want a girl first 100%. I wouldn't care. I'd be happy with any, dating really wants girls, so. Well, because I have, like, outfit ideas already. Like, I am.

I just want our kids to have stye. That's most important. I have, like, an entire box of guests. I have baby Dior guys. We do have, we have insane baby clothes on the way. Baby Dior. And, like, it's pink instead of. You know what?

If it's a boy first, it doesn't matter. They're wearing it. They're wearing pink, for sure. They'll wear pink. That baby Dior is not being wasted. No, absolutely not. Where's your dream couple's vacation? So for me, I think together, our collective, if I were to rank like all of our top places and then we were to combine the scores, this one would come out first.

Okay. One, two, three. Paris. We really want to go to Paris. Oh, it's so cool, so cool. So much history, so much fashion, so much food. I like, I want to go all of Europe. Like, we can do the train and everything.

Like, my dad has done that. That would be so fun. My dad backpacked through Europe. I know. Seriously. So Paris and then Japan. Yeah, Japan. We both really want to go to Japan.

So that would probably do the close second. Like Tokyo seems like the coolest place on the planet. It's such a bummer that we can't do anything before we move, which we will get into that in a later episode. But it just like all the COVID stuff, it's not safe to travel. Yeah. Oh my gosh. Would it be so fun to go to Paris or Japan?

Absolutely. Favorite date we've been on and why? One, two, three. Legrandi. Legrandi bourgeois. Yeah. So the La Grande Bougerie in New York City was actually the most beautiful place ever. That was like by far one of the coolest place I think we've been in the other. I was like borderline tears.

First full day in New York, it felt like we were like there. Like it's the first day, you know, we just got off the plane jet lag. But then like the first night there and then like the first day, we had like. It's such a packed day. It was so much fun. I tried Escargo for the first time. So did you. Yeah, it was awesome.

La Grande Boucherie, five out of five. Yeah. I was like, five out of ten. I was like, I was like, super special night, though. Just like... But yeah, it was just such a special night. That's like, like, the, like, pinnacle of New York for me. Like, it was when I went there and just like, that was a really fun dinner.

That was just so fun. Great pictures came out of that one, too. Holy moly. How do you keep the relationship exciting? I think that just, you know, we talk every day. So I think that there's definitely room and relationships for them to get stale. But for me and Jane, I love talking to her. It's so natural.

Yeah, it's just like, I don't know. But still little things, like, since the moment we started dating, we have been typing in all caps, which I'm not saying if you do that. I'm like little things like, little things like traditions and routines can keep things like still fun and like still loving each other. Every night, we like brush our teeth together and we text or if we're not together, we'll text each other good night. Yeah, and just we'll have our, we'll send each other, like, pictures of each other before we go to bed and stuff. How is our storage not full? It's going to be up there. We send each other 20 photos.

A night, each other. A night, but, like, 40 combined between us to. Yeah, it's 20 each. But, like, that's our routine. Like, it can't break. No, no, it's just, you know, the way it is. The way life is now. Yeah, and but we have our, like, little routines.

Yeah. And we have, we're sweet little things. Nothing's ever boring. It's just like. Yeah, and it's also natural. Like, I can't tell you how to keep the relationship exciting. It doesn't even have to be monetary. just even like, hey, going to the park today.

Surprise them with an experience? Little things. Just little things. What is our favorite hobby slash interest? You two have in common? I'd say style. Yeah, no. And music, of course.

Yeah, music and concerts. I think that's another really big one. I mean, we met, like, at a concert. Yeah. But we also already both knew each other, but we've never talked. Can we throw a little side story in here? Yeah. About the, okay.

Yeah, we both know what we're talking about. The day that we met, it was the day of a golf drop, like golf. golf wing the brand and we were both in L.A. at the golf drop at that time. And we both made eye contact. He was in the store. I was outside and we just passed each other and like you saw me. I saw you but we didn't have never met her at that point. I had only ever seen a picture of her. We just knew through mutual friends and I knew you. I've seen your photo from like through the mutual friends. We like known that each other existed but I saw her like in the wind like through the glass. And I saw you. It's like that girl is familiar. And then I kind of went on my business. I was like, wait. I was like,

he looks so familiar. I was like, wait, I know who that is. And then, but I, like, have never met you or anything. Yeah. Carried on with our day. Now I'm going to say something right here. The ice cream? Yeah. July 6, 2019, at the golf drop, they were giving out free Jenny's ice cream, which was like the collaboration. The Tyler flavor, snowflake. It was this green, green mint ice cream. It was so good. He, like, camped out in the morning. So he was there really early. But I had came a little later in the day and waited, I think, six hours in line. And then as soon as I got up to the front, they're like, I'm so sorry. We just now ran out of like the scoops of ice cream. Like we just handed out our last scoop.

I'm like, oh my gosh, it was such a bummer. But like, okay, whatever. Can we meet that night through mutual friends? We met each other at the concert. Yeah, yeah. Well over a year later, started dating. We were talking about the day that we met. And then he was like, yeah, like, I got two scoops of ice cream.

I'm like, wait, what? I'm like, no, no, you got one, right? He's like, no, I got two scoops. I'm like, it's one for a person. me and then he was like, but they gave me another one. And I was like, they ran out one scoop ahead of me. So in conclusion, I stole Jaden's last scoop that she was supposed to get. And I feel terrible about it, guys.

Like, this is something that weighs on me every day. He had to enjoy two scoops of ice cream and I had none. I didn't know. I was like, this is awesome ice cream. I walked back up. Another scoop hand in right to me. And I was like, oh, you go another one? I was like, yeah.

He goes back to go to get another scoop. Like, one scoop per person. And I was like, oh, like, I just got another scoop. and my dad didn't. I was so hype. And then a year later, I come to find out that I stole it from my love. Yeah. And, you know, it still eats me away. But the funny thing is, is every single time we're in L.A., like almost like every time we go to Jenny's ice cream.

It's a little tradition of ours before we had home. It's always kind of like on the way back. It's like on the way back. Jane received a DM for one of the questions stating, I know that people say communication is key. And I truly believe that good communication is. is a big part of a strong foundation for a relationship. But do either of you feel like maybe some things are better left unset? I feel like I used to think that now, like, if anything's in my mind, same with him.

Like, we say it. Yeah, just like be honest with your partner and just let them know how you're feeling, what you think. So not let any feelings like brew inside of you. I think that's where like issues can start to pop up. I honestly feel like it's better to talk about things and leaving stuff on set. Yeah, absolutely. How often do you guys talk to each other on a lot? daily basis since you guys are somewhat long distance.

We talk every day. Yeah, we text each other all the time. We have like a nightly like FaceTime call or it's like, I don't know, sometimes it's like five minutes of one of us real tired and go to bed, but sometimes it's like a couple hours. Yeah. It's just, you know. It's just nice to even say I love you.

Yeah. Even for like one of us is really tired, but we always talk during the day. Yeah, text throughout the day. I mean, I understand some people like jobs and stuff can get in the way. And it's not, people aren't always available to be like chatting all the time. He lives an hour, 15 away from me or so. We see each other at least once a week for sure. Yeah, for sure.

But like a few times a week, I do not have my license. Yeah, so it's always me doing the drive and getting around. So if I go to his house, my mom will take me or he will drive here. I'm working on my license, guys. Do not worry. Working with quotation mark. But I am. I'm a busy yet pretty girl.

The last question of the episode. Who made the first move and how? It was like very mutual. I would say you made the first like actual move when we were in person. I kind of clarified like, okay, are we dating? Yeah, yeah. So, I mean, me and Jaden talked like every day, all hours of the day for like months. I never was like, oh, like, does this guy like me?

I'm just kind of like, I have a wall up and I'm just like, oh no, I got to focus on my own stuff. I liked him, but I didn't want to like fret too much if he liked me, you know? He says I'm cute, I'm pretty. I'm like, I don't know if he likes me. I think I probably put the first, like, I threw the first down. I was like, I kind of initiated the, like, hey, let's go see each other. Pretty mutual. Because we're both on the same page.

Very much on the same page. To wrap up this episode, this was so far. I had a blast. This has been awesome. It's my first ever podcast appearance. I know. How do you feel? This is a great, great experience.

I could talk to you forever. So this is just this little chat with my love. It's always fun. But to put it on record. Awesome. Awesome. Awesome experience. Do you want to say your socials? Catch me on Instagram at MCDRMT. Yes. Nice. Yeah, that's me. If you want to follow me, go for it. Thank you guys so much for listening to this episode. We had so much fun recording this episode. Bye, my busy yet pretty girls. Bye, busy at pretty girls. Bye. I will see you next Monday. Stay sexy and bye.