Busy, Yet Pretty - Stop Caring What Other People Think

Episode Date: April 3, 2023

Have you felt held back by the fear of looking stupid or are worried what others think? In this episode, Jadyn Hailey shares how to stop caring what other people think and how to start prioritizing your own desires. It can be hard to push through when people may be in your ear, although when you shift your mindset, your entire life will change. Jadyn shares her favorite way to ulimately shut out the fear of looking stupid, and the impact that valuing your own beliefs, has on your life. Tuen into this episode with an iced mactha latte with cashew milk as you simply, stop caring what others think.   Take wellness to the next level with NextEvo Naturals Give Therapy a try with BetterHelp Jadyn's Social Media platforms:   - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram   - Youtube: Jadyn's Youtube   - Tiktok: Jadyn's Tiktok   - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Amazon   - Shop my Closet on Motom: Jadyn's Closet Favs         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my dolls. Welcome back to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcasts. I'm your host, Jane Haley. If you are new here, I'm here to help you achieve your dream life and ultimately become the best version of yourself. I'm so excited about today's episode. I actually last minute thought of this. I usually kind of know what I'm going to do the episode on for the following week. But today, I'm like, let's just get into it because I know what I want to talk about. As you know, the title, we're going to be talking about how to not care what others think. But first, let's get into our weekly review. So this week, I have just been trying to catch up since my birthday. I was having fun, enjoying the moment, being present, and it's time to get back onto work. So I just have been prioritizing, getting back on track, and it's felt so good. It's almost like the feeling when you come back from vacation, and you're almost so excited just to have that restart to, like, wash all your laundry and do everything. And just kind of like give yourself the ultimate restart. That's how I feel after a holiday or after my birthday.

So it's been really nice to get back on routine and get that like fresh start feeling. Yesterday I went to a spa on Rodeo in Beverly Hills and I had a lymphatic drainage done, which was so nice. It started off with the infrared sauna, which I am obsessed with infrared sauna. If you've been here for a while, you know I speak everything into existence. and if you don't believe me, go back to my past episode saying that I was going to live in L.A. And guess what? I'm now living in L.A. Everything I always manifest and so can you.

But like I am telling you now, I will have a house one day that has a backyard with a sauna in it. Okay? So mark my words. We'll give it a few years or a year, you know, we're going to manifest. But we're going to give it some time and I promise you it will happen. Sorry, went off on a tangent there. But I definitely love infrared sonnas. So I went into the infrared sauna yesterday.

And then that was followed by a lymphatic drainage. And it felt so good. It's basically where it kind of like detoxifies your body, smooth out your legs, help cellulite and everything. But overall, I drew it for water retention because I feel like I sometimes hold on to some extra water. I just really enjoyed it. And then, of course, I went to air one after because, you know, a spa day.

requires Airwant afterwards. So that was so lovely. But other than that, this week I have just been focusing on my calmness and just really trying to focus on my inner peace. I just think it's so beautiful and I really want to this spring, like I said in my past episode, but focus on self-care and just being with myself. Moving on to the current obsession. My current obsession this week is wearing a bathing suit around the house all day long.

literally it will be just sunny out the minute I see a tad bit of sun the bathing suit top is on the jeans are on it just is no better feeling than channeling your inner summer I know we're skipping ahead and we need just be present in spring i had just woken up one day and chose summer I'm like let's get the bathing suit top out even though it's literally freezing outside I see a little bit of sun so that means bathing suit top Okay, moving on to another cramp session. Another cramp session is my shower exfoliator gloves. I have these really nice gloves that I got from marijuana and they are like an exfoliator. So I've been loving that.

I feel like it's super nice and easy since it's a glove. I haven't linked over my Amazon storefront though. And they're only like $5, which I think is so affordable and nice. But I just love them. Another current obsession is The Sun, as I have been saying, I love the sun, been sitting outside and just sitting by the pool. Feels so lovely. My last current obsession right now is the Tautja, Dewey Skin Cream.

It's the nicest moisturizer ever. It just makes my skin feel like a glass of water was poured on it. It just makes my skin look so nice and I love it. I love the feeling, everything about it, which is also linked over my storefront, but it's just the nicest moisturizer. Moving on to the goal of the week. My goal of the week is to continue the scheduling method that I've been doing this past week, which is working on one subject and one topic per day rather than a million

different subjects a day, meaning like today I'm going to record and edit my podcast. The next day, I'm going to film content instead of doing a little filming, a little recording, and just makes it so hard to like focus on. So I have been loving just focusing on one thing a day and just taking it day by day. And I've seen so much productivity come out of that. Another goal of the week is to post a 50,000 follower. Thank you on Instagram. I hit 50,000.

And I'm so beyond grateful. So thank you guys so much for following me. Moving on to a self-love question to ask yourself. What is something positive that brings me peace and comfort? I love that so much because I think when we acknowledge what we like and what brings us peace and comfort allows us to incorporate it more into our life. Moving on to an affirmation. I am my own person. Feel free to journal that affirmation. And lastly, is our challenge of the week. I challenge you to do an activity that has to do with nature. Let me know if you guys going to walk outside, just lay by the sun. You can even have the podcast going while you're

in nature. But you know what? If you do, tag me in the photo so I can repost it. I want to see how you guys are enjoying nature and listening to the podcast. This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. I remember the time I was just learning about myself after recovering from my eating disorder and just finding out how I really feel about my life and my body and my choices that I made. And it felt really good to reflect and to see my growth to wanting to make a positive difference in my life. I understand how getting to know yourself can be a lifelong process, especially because we are always growing and changing which I love about ourselves, which is why I think it's so important to deepen your understanding and self-awareness,

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to get 10% off your first month. That's better help, help.com slash busy yet pretty. Today's episode is on how to not care what others think. And I know this is something that everyone feels. I don't want you to think why do I care what other people think? No, everyone has experienced this many times in their life. It's human nature for us to care and be aware. on how other people view us, especially how society and the media over the years has taught us to please others and value people's view so much that it has brought us to be so much more self-aware of what we do. And that's led us to caring so much about what people think. So with that being said, it's very natural for us to feel this way. And if you do, do not worry, it's okay. And today I'm

going to give you lots of tips that I do to just not care what people think. Let's say you are someone who cares what people think. But now we can go from here how you can prevent caring about what other people think and ultimately stopping you from doing the things that make you happy. So based on personal experience, I definitely have had a point in my life where I was very insecure and very not confident and honestly cared so much about what other people thought. Specifically, this time frame was about middle school and high school, especially high school. And I mean, I cared what everyone thought of me because I just.

was not secure with myself. I wouldn't wear specific clothes because I didn't want a bad reaction from people. I just was nervous to be my true self. That was until the very last few months of private school that I was in before I transferred to online school or those last few months of being in private school,

I began posting over YouTube and began posting content over my socials. I loved content creation so much enough that I was willing to accept what people said to me if people were going to pick on me, if people were going to make fun of me, I was okay with that as long as I was doing content creation

because I valued that so much. There are things that I wouldn't do like I wouldn't wear certain things. I wouldn't do my makeup certain ways. I was nervous about other things, but my love kind of outweighed what other people would think of me. And sure enough, my YouTube videos were played in class. People were laughing at them. They were played at lunch.

So the majority of viewers from my content were literally from my school. of people making fun of me. And I even remember a time that a guy and a few girls came up to me at lunch and they were holding up their phone with my story playing on it. And they were like, oh, you think you're an influencer. And I remember them all laughing. And at that time, I probably had like 2,000 followers. And I remember I'd posted like a makeup video.

This was the one thing that I forced my mind to believe in myself with and just not care what other people thought. And look what came out of it. I now have all you listeners, all my followers of my socials who are so supportive. So that is because I believed in myself. And I promise you, if you always believe in yourself, it will take you places. But I was still so conscious of what other people thought of me for other things I did, whether it was my clothes, my makeup, just anything.

I wasn't secure. One day I just decided I'm not going to let others insecurities affect my happiness and I'm not going to put others on a pedestal. You have to stop bringing people up above you and viewing people as better than you and you're lower. Okay? Stop putting people on a pedestal. And from that day, I never went back

to putting anyone on a pedestal, never cared what people think. And that allowed me to never hold back from anything and I achieved so much already just by age 20. So this is the guide for you to stop caring about what other people think. Ask yourself. In an ideal world that just you live in, what job would you aim for? What hobbies would you do?

What would you wear? What would your makeup look like? What goals would you set? Honestly, ask yourself those questions as if it was just a world of your own. And if your answers look any different than the life you're living now, that means your life choices are being influenced by others. And by others, I mean those could be friends, your parents, family, school friends. friends, school peers, co-workers, or maybe you don't even have specific people in mind,

but it could just be the general fear of you looking stupid. First of all, okay, we live on a floating rock. We literally live in just this world that everyone is living their first time, okay? There is nothing that truly matters. Seriously, what does it really matter if you quit your job today and went and tried to go get your dream job? What does it matter if you completely change your style today? What doesn't matter if you post on social media? Your fear of looking stupid is so small in this world.

Okay, nobody cares in this world. There is so many people in this universe. It's unreal. And your fear of looking stupid takes up no room in this world, except it takes up the biggest room in your own world. So the minute you start caring what people think, you're not going to be happy. And let me just tell you, nobody cares.

You have to drop your ego also. Everyone thinks of themselves as the main character, which is great, I do. You should think of yourself as the main character. But you know what you have to do is stop thinking of yourself as the main character in other people's stories, okay? Nobody cares what you do. So start living for yourself. Think about this. Is your wants and desires affecting someone else?

If the answer is no, then why do you care what they think? If you're like, I'm scared they'll make fun of me or I'm scared they won't like me. If someone's really going to go out of their way to take the time to go make fun of me for what I like and what makes me happy, it goes to show that they have nothing better in their life to do and are projecting their own insecurities. And if you aren't doing what you love because you're scared other people won't like you, excuse me. Please, there's the door. Bye-bye.

I don't want you in my life. If I wear sharp kitten heels and someone thought that I have awful style because they look weird and they look so sharp like a pointy tool, then so what? What does that matter? Okay, they don't have to like my shoes. I like my shoes. I love them. They look good. Most of you guys, I'm sure, like them.

And that's their own opinion. Everyone can have their own opinion, okay? Just like you have your own opinion about things. Everyone can have their own opinions. Not all opinions are going to be positive. So why should their opinion influence what you do that makes you happy? You have to realize in life, not everyone is going to love your work. And by the word work, I mean overall what you do in life, how you dress, what job you have,

everything. That's what I mean by your work. But you have to realize, not everyone's going to love what you do. Not everyone's going to be your fan. And that's okay. That's why everyone has their own interests. if we were all the same and liked our own things, that would be a pretty dang boring life. But you know what?

You have your favorite influencers. You have your favorite friends. You have your favorite maybe family members. You have your favorite everything. Okay. That's why we all are different. Okay. That's what makes us unique.

And that's what's beautiful about the world. Don't expect everyone to love what you do. And you know what? That is good. Not everyone should love what you do. So you know what? When someone does like what you do, you can appreciate. that more. It's almost like this. Think about if every single day was amazing and every single day was

10 out of 10 for you, then slowly you'd start to get so unbelievably used to it. You don't even see how good your days are. If you have mostly 10 out of 10 days, but if you get some of those bad days in are not the best days. That's what makes those 10 out of 10 days feel so good. That's why you need not everyone to love what you do. So the people who do, it makes you feel so good. You will stay unhappy and will be held back until the day you die if all you do is care what other people think. The moment you do what makes you happy and you don't put a single thought

into what someone might think or say is when you will finally become truly happy with how you live your life. And lots of time, let's say it's job-related. If you go aim for your dream job and people just doubt you, lots of time success can come out of it and you will get that dream job.

And you know what? Those same people are going to be like, oh, wait, that's cool. Now we want to try go get that dream job. The minute people see success turn out of something is when people finally change their opinion. People doubt others, especially when they have their own insecurities. Those who are truly happy with their life will not take time to go out of their way to go dim someone else's light. Think about this.

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This is just an example that always gets to me and I swear. I just kind of made this up in my head. I'm sure this has been set out in the world before, but I just thought of this one day. I always remind myself of it if I ever start to doubt myself or somewhat care what people think. When you're on your deathbed, will you regret not doing what you loved? You don't want to be dying and wonder, what if I just tried? What if I just tried and something amazing came out of it? You don't want to have to wonder the what if.

And you don't want to have any regrets. And if you have a specific person in mind and listen to this episode, trying to think how can you not care what they think? Maybe it's your coworkers. Maybe it's your school peers. Maybe it's a friend. Let me just tell you, you will not have to know them your entire life. The minute you graduate or the minute you switch jobs,

or the minute you move, they're gone. You will not have to see them again. So stop acting like this is your entire world, okay? What's happening right now is so small in your life. Okay, it's so small. I know it feels big in the moment because we live in the present. But I promise you, give it a year. Give it five years.

Give it 10 years. You probably won't even know that person or even remember their name. They're going to be gone in your life. But you know what else will be gone? all the time that you could have spent doing things that you loved instead of caring what a temporary person thought. I hope you guys were left with a very confident mindset after this episode. I want you guys to feel like this world is your own, okay?

You don't have to worry about anyone else. I promise you success will come out of everything you do if you continue to believe in yourself. I promise what's meant to happen will happen. Don't listen to anyone else. do this for you and people who support you, thank them and show your gratitude to them. But those who don't, they don't matter to you. Don't give them the time of day.

I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. I appreciate you guys more than anything in the world. If you guys enjoyed it, please share over Instagram and TikTok. I love seeing you guys listening to the podcast. It makes me so unbelievably happy. So many exciting episodes coming soon. If you want some spring inspo on resetting your mind, body, and soul, Feel free to tune into last week's episode where I go all into that.

And I hope you guys have a lovely day. Always remember this is your own life. And the minute you stop caring what other people think, you will start living your dream life. I love you guys so much. And don't forget to stay busy yet pretty. M-a.