Busy, Yet Pretty - Stop & Smell The Roses (Slow down + Enjoy Life)

Episode Date: August 26, 2024

It's so easy to get tied into hustle culture and get tied into overthinking. Sometimes, we just need to stop and breathe. Right now is your time. In this episode you host, Jadyn Hailey reminds you of your purpose and it's time to take a second for you. Life is not a race and it's time to live out your purpose. Tune into this episode with a milk tea as you take a moment to pause.   Current Obsessions: - emi jay clips -  busy, yet pretty meet up!! - hire easilyyyy with indeed - grow your business Shopify     Become your own dream girl with me!! : - Instagram: Jadyn's Instagram & Busy, Yet Pretty Instagram - Busy, Yet Pretty Groupchat  - NEW!!!! Productive Day In My Life: WATCH - Tiktok: @Fairyjadyn - My Amazon Storefront: Jadyn's Storefront - Outfit Details: My Closet   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the Busy at Pretty Podcast. I'm your host, Jaden Haley. This episode is going to be a big hug for you because I feel like we all are getting ready to go back to school or back to work or just getting back on routine. And sometimes it can feel really stressful going full force into that. And maybe you've already been on routine and been back to school and are kind of feeling worn out. Then this episode is for you because something that is very, very cliche. that we forget to actually do and take the action of is stop and smell the roses. But without further ado, let's get into today's weekly review. This week, we had the first ever busy at Pretty Meetup, and let me just say, it filled me with so much joy getting to meet a few of you guys. I hosted the meetup for around nine girls, so if you were not able to get the invite to this one, don't worry, there will be more. This one, I just wanted to start off very intimate and just a few girls so I could really sit down, connect, and talk.

And it was truly the best time. We had match up, brunch, coffee. We had a custom menu for the event. We had dessert, conversation cards, and of course, goodie bags for you guys to leave with. It was truly the best time ever. And if you were one of the people who got the invite to come and joined, thank you so much for coming. and I'm so glad that we had this time to meet each other and I can't wait to meet more of you. Another thing this week is I have been absolutely PMSing, which is a blessing and a curse at the same time. A curse because it's PMSing, but a blessing because I know my period is coming. So I'm really excited for my period to hopefully start this week and get more and more on track with my menstrual cycle. because I am quite over PMSing and I've eaten every carb in sight so I'm ready just to have my period and feel good.

And my last thing this week is I have just been spending so much time with my new foster kitty, George, who is a senior cat and I'm going to be his long-term phospis, so most likely I'll have him till the end of his life. And I'm just so happy to give him a happily ever after. And if you're looking to foster, I really, really encourage it because it can feel just so rewarding. rewarding that you're knowing that you're giving a cat, specifically a senior cat, and it's so rewarding knowing that you're giving them a good rest of their life. Now on to my current obsession. My current obsession at the moment is chocolate and granola. There is nothing I love more than shoving my face with chocolate and granola before my period. Seriously, it just scratches the itch of the craving. Another current obsession right now is fresh fragrances, specifically I've been loving glossy

you and bubble bath by Mesa Margella to really just fresh out the shower scents and just smell so divine another current obsession right now is connecting with you listeners as I said I had the meetup which was so fulfilling and rewarding and I want to look into doing more things with meetups and not only that because I know not all of you guys can attend meetups but maybe doing an online call and maybe like an online motivation call let me know what you guys would like to do for a community building online or in-person thing over my Instagram, feel free to comment it, and I will definitely take note of your idea. Now on to the goal of the week. My current goal of the week is to wake up at 6 a.m., which I in fact did do this morning. So that is checked off, but I really

would like to get on a routine of waking up at 6 a.m. again. Another goal of the week right now is to get ready and do my makeup, even when I'm planning to stay home for the day. For some reason, when you wake up and actually get ready into your makeup, it can just feel like you're put together and you're not just feeling lazy, tired. So truly getting ready in the morning can just feel so good. It also just make you feel more confident throughout the day. And my last goal of the week right now is to make more healthy jello from collagen because it is so good for your hair, skin, and nails. I just made green tea jello with honey in it the other day and it tasted so divine, but I think I need a master. a better one, maybe like a fruit juice, collagen, jello. But it is such a healthy, good dessert,

and also is so good for your skin. Now on to the affirmation of the week. I am on the right path leading me to my dream life. I love that affirmation so much because it is so true, you are truly on the right path. Even if it doesn't feel like you are, you're just being led to the right place. And remember, you have to have bumps in the road in order to get where you want to be. Now on to a self-love question. What are you currently working on to improve your personal life? I love that question so much and I truly recommend asking yourself that question and journaling it. Now lastly, on to the podcast review.

This review is from Eiley. And Eiley said, Jaden has such a beautiful energy and I absolutely love listening to her podcast. Busy yet Pretty has helped me so much this year with confidence and self-love. I would highly recommend making this a part of your daily routine. Thank you so much, Eile. That is such a sweet review, and I love how you said it helps with your confidence. Which, speaking of, stay tuned for many more confidence episodes because we need some, especially going back to work and going back to school. It is now time for us to talk about today's episode, which is you need to stop and smell the roses because it is time to just be okay with embracing, slowing down, and going with the flow, and ultimately enjoying life. get me wrong I am miss go-getter let's do this and miss motivator but sometimes we get lost in

hustle culture and forget the meaning of life the true meaning of life which is to enjoy an experience of course it is important to put effort and strive towards achieving your goals as your life is truly made up of how you provide for yourself but while doing that you need to enjoy the process at the same time sometimes we run ourselves empty like a car we have fuel that we run on and that fuel being joy and personal time and self-care. And when that fuel runs out, we feel empty. And the same goes with our creativity. When we work, work, we have our fuel that we started with.

But when you continue to overwork yourself, you'll run out of fuel and you'll be left with creative burnout. If you want to truly live your life, you need to learn when to put on the breaks. I mean, I am one to talk as I sometimes just ignore the stop sign that is right in front of me. and I just keep going and keep working without refueling myself being me avoiding taking time to do self-care or take time into my personal life. In order to be successful and thrive in what you want to do with your career and school and work, you have to take personal time and self-care. And on the opposite end of it, school and work can truly feel like our entire life and can feel like it's our entire world, whether it be in a good or a bad way. You may absolutely love school and work non-stop and stay consistent because you want to get all your straight A's, or maybe you want to get into the best college, or maybe you just want to leave with a great GPA.

And on the opposite side, where school can also still feel like your entire life, but in a negative way, where you absolutely hate school. You feel school sucks up all your happiness because of your homework and your projects and you have no friends, and let's say you're out of school and this has to do with work. You may feel like your work pays you really well and you make lots of money, so it motivates you to work overtime and every single day, so you can make as much as you can, and ultimately that becomes your entire life. And again, on the opposite end, you may absolutely hate work

and spend every single day dreading it, which ultimately also feels like your entire life. My point is, good or bad things can easily consume you. And it's very easy to subconsciously measure your happiness depending on your success in it. Trust me, I am guilty of it. Pretty young, I had the self-motivation just to work really hard because I was receiving great outcome with my work,

which was truly just motivating me to work more and more. I then at 19 moved to LA and of course achieved many great things, but within that time, whenever it became a week or a month, things started to be a little slow with work. I would tend to measure my happiness based off of that, as well as basing my happiness, off of how productive I was throughout the day. And most of all, I would measure my happiness based off of my self-expectations.

What I mean by self-expectations, so it's so important for you to shoot high for your goals because, of course, you can achieve anything you want. And I always say if you have a vision, it is yours, it's your reality. Always shoot for the highest goal because you can achieve it. And without doubt, you will have your dream life. But begin setting your goals realistically, where they are both, challenging but realistic at the same time. Because when you set your goals way too big too often, it will leave you disappointed in yourself and feeling disappointment. Because you may

overset goals every single week or every single month and then look back and think, I can't believe I didn't achieve any of those goals. But babe, you're setting them way too high and unrealistically, or of course you're not going to be able to achieve every single goal like that. When setting goals, set a main goal of your life that you want to have, your dream life, but set that as your goal, don't put a timeline on it. Instead, break that goal down into small little sections and set them to be realistic and challenging at the same time so you can actually achieve them and make progress.

But look at us, talking about working goals again. See how easy it is for hustle culture to literally just pull you in? We've been talking about goals and work and school for the past few minutes, so let's go into the positive again. And back to what I was saying because again, we need to stop and smell the roses. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage Duny and Burke bag.

I literally was looking everywhere for it and I somehow found one on a posh mark. But not just one. I found multiple of them at such a good price. And I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy. New items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces. They really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now.

Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go on Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe. New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. Download the Poshmark app and use Code Busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase or shop now at poshmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K.com slash busy. I can't be the only one who has this like dream item of theirs that they always see, whether it's a bag, a sweater, a top, and you're like, I just need that, but it's like sold out everywhere. That's me with this one, vintage, Duny and Burke bag. I literally was looking everywhere

for it and I somehow found one on a Poshamark. But not just one. I found multiple of them. at such a good price and I was like, wait, this is just too good to be true. So if you know me, you know I am a Poshmark girl. Poshmark is a marketplace where you can list and sell, as well as buy new items, vintage pieces, gently used, luxury pieces, they really just have it all. And I feel like there's no better time to go on Poshmark now. Everyone's cleaning out their closet and listing good things. Get in bed, get cozy, and go in Pashmark to add to your new spring wardrobe.

New deals and sales are listed every day, so don't wait. download the Poshmark app and use code busy when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase. Or shop now at Pashmark.com slash busy and get $10 off your first purchase. That's P-O-S-H-M-A-R-K dot com slash busy. It is so important for you to just give yourself a hug and truly be proud of yourself. And I know it sounds so cliche. Sometimes I say cliche things, but I'm saying things to drill them in your head because cliche sayings and cliche things are known for a real thing.

reason because they are true. You were put on this earth for a reason. You are meant to enjoy life. School and work is not your entire life. Yes, it may take up a large portion of your time in your life, but you need to prioritize, balance, and fully being present and enjoy your personal time. Allow yourself to be fully present in life and not let work or school thoughts consume your mind. That's why I believe scheduling and following a schedule is so important. because scheduling out the time that you take for work in school, okay, done. That's the time that you think about work in school, you work towards it, and that's it. When you're in your last hour of working on school or work, then you're done.

After that, enjoy your time having free time. But again, even in the times where you are working or are doing school, good or bad, whatever your feelings are towards that, be present and enjoy. Because think about this. We have to do it anyways, so we might as well just get it done and enjoy it as much as we can and incorporate balance into our life so we have personal time on the outside. And like I was saying, when it comes to your personal time, don't start worrying about school or worrying about work or worrying about future tasks that you have to do and don't dwell on past things. Just be present and enjoying your self-care.

While you're doing your face mask, don't replay the conversations. that you had and overthink things that happened at school that day. Or when you're doing your face mask, don't stress about the meeting that's going to happen tomorrow at work. Be and allow yourself to be fully present. Isn't it crazy how fast a year passes by? Every single year feels like it's going to last forever when it starts on January 1st. Then you look back and see how many years that you've actually lived.

And doing that puts everything into perspective. Because look how many years you've lived so far. And again, this isn't to scare you or make you worried that, oh my gosh, time is slipping away. But I do want you to realize that time is truly precious. And you can't waste your once-in-a-lifetime life on constantly worrying and seeking the negative. Because tomorrow is not promised. You need to start living your day and living life every day intentionally. Whether you're on the side of you're completely burnt out from overworking or just having a hard time in school or work,

or you have overworked yourself and this is your only life is work your school. You have to realize that you need to stop measuring your happiness and productivity in your own success. Success isn't how much money you make. Success isn't how great of grades that you get. Being rich, people think of money and paper and wealth. Yes, that's a part of being rich. But being rich, it just means abundant. Start living rich, okay, in every aspect of your life.

And again, I'm not saying to get, rich with money wise. That being the only way to get rich. I mean, get rich in your soul. Have a rich life. In other words, seek abundance. When you look outside, just feel how abundant you feel, being that this is your world. This is all the opportunities you have in the palm of your hands. Look how beautiful the birds chirp. Look how beautiful the sky looks. Go in a walk and smell the fresh breeze. When you are sitting down to eat dinner with your family, feel how abundant it feels. feel how rich you feel to have this great love in your life. Talking to your family and eating dinner with them is productive. Taking time for yourself and shopping is productive. Having a binge watching

moving night and eating all your favorite junk food is productive. How is that productive, you may ask? Because it feeds your soul. Your soul is starving right now. You're starving for attention and you're starving for joy. As I always say, I am preaching for you to have the best in life. We're driven by the search for better, but when it comes to hiring, the best way to search for a candidate isn't to search at all. Don't search match with Indeed. If you ever need to hire, you need Indeed. Indeed is your matching and hiring platform with over 350 million global monthly visitors according to Indeed's data in a matching engine that helps you find quality candidates fast. Ditch the busy work. Use Indeed for scheduling, screening, and messaging

so you can connect with a candidate faster. And Indeed doesn't just help you hire faster. 93% of employees agree indeed delivers the highest quality matches compared to other job sites. According to a recent indeed survey, I can't tell you how many times I have just had a little busy work that I need to get done, whether that's with editing the podcast or helping edit YouTube videos. I swear I have tried so many times to find someone to hire and I swear I needed indeed at that time because it would have saved me so much work. leveraging over 140 million qualifications and preferences every day.

Indeed's matching engine is constantly learning from your preferences. So the more you use Indeed, the better it gets. Join over 3.5 million businesses worldwide that use Indeed to hire great talent fast. And Busy Yet Pretty listeners get a $75 sponsor job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com slash busy yet pretty. Go to Indeed.com slash Busy Yet Pretty right now and support the show by saying you heard about Indeed on Busy Yet Pretty. Indeed.com slash Busy Yet Pretty. Terms and conditions apply. Sometimes we think, once I achieve this, I'll finally allow myself to be happy. Or once I achieve that,

I will finally feel happy in life. Let me just say, once you achieve that thing, you're going to want to achieve something else. It will be a never-ending loop of you saying, once I achieve something, I will be happy. When the rich in abundance is right in front of you. It's your family. It's your friends. It's your loved ones. It's the blue skies. It's the rain. It's the farmer's markets. It's your pet. It's your fully stocked pantry. It's your fully stocked fridge. It's you having a car. It's you being able to wake up another day and live. That is what is rich in your life. And this is why you need to stop and smell the roses because we are getting so tied into what we think our world really is when really we were put here to enjoy life. And if you're not enjoying life, you're missing.

your purpose. My love, you were put here to live life, not to let work or school be your entire life. Yes, it's a part of your time, but your purpose of being here is to enjoy and spread joy to others. Take a second today and look outside. Look how beautiful life is. Don't seek out and find reasons to complain about life and don't find excuses why you aren't able to enjoy life. You may be thinking to yourself. Jaden, where I'm at right now, it's literally raining. Everyone in social media is posting about how beautiful and sunny it is. I'm so bummed that it's raining here because it's never sunny. And where someone is living their life where it's sunny, they are wishing it was rainy. They are wishing they could be cozy, watch a movie while the rain is pouring outside and

they would romanticize their life and have a candle lit. While you're wishing to be on a boat and enjoying the sunny weather. Everyone wants what they can't have. Somebody wants your life. I promise you on everything. Somebody wants your life because somebody has it worse than you and they would take your problems in a second. I know I have so many business listeners in here.

And I've seen some of your guys' work. You guys are insane with your own little shop. And since I started my podcast, I know the feeling of putting so much time to something and wanting the recognition that you deserve. So when it comes to your own shop and selling, of course you want the recognition, which is why I love Shopify. Shopify is a global commerce platform that helps sell at every stage of your business.

From the launch your online shop stage to the first real-life store stage, all the way to the we did it, we hit a million order stage. Shopify's here to help you grow. This platform I truly trust, and what I love is you can sell anything, whether it's a matcha or polo. lot of equipment, Shopify is there to help you grow your business and reach your target audience. I also love how it can allow you to put less effort into selling and allow you to be more creative with your shop because now you can sell with less effort thanks to Shopify magic, your AI-powered

All-Star. Shopify helps you turn browsers into buyers with the internet's best converting checkout, 36% better on average compared to other leading commerce platforms. I know you guys have so much potential and if you have a business, it's time to take it to the next level. Sign up for $1 per month trial at Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty all lowercase. Go to Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty now to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. Shopify.com slash busy yet pretty. I promise you guys will not regret using Shopify. If you're struggling with something that it feels like nobody can understand whether it be a physical or a mental illness or having no family, maybe you just got divorced or you're just really depressed, whatever you may be going through.

As cliche as this sounds, you are not alone. Somebody is going through the same thing, but worse. And what I mean by saying worse is your problems are not the worst. And that's not to belittle how you feel at all. I want you to embrace and cradle yourself. But I'm letting you know that I promise you don't feel discouraged because somebody does have it worse. And not. only that, if you are experiencing and struggling with anything at the moment, even if it feels so deep and bad and like no one can understand, I want you to give yourself a hug and be truly proud of yourself. Life can be hard. I promise you, it is not easy. As easy as it may look for the influencer that you're watching or the celebrity that you love or the motivational speaker

that you listen to. That may even be me. I promise you nobody's life is a picture perfect. even if it seems like it is, it is not. Everybody is struggling with something or has struggled with something behind closed doors. There are people who are more transparent and open about talking about it. I am obviously because I talk about things I've gone through in the past, such as my school life, being pretty hard and my experience with my eating disorder. But my problems were just a part of my story to where it led me today. and again, I'm still experiencing things now that are going to be a part of my future story.

So don't feel discouraged because you're not alone and you truly deserve to allow yourself to enjoy being happy and most of all enjoy living life. Stop viewing everything with the lens of glass half empty and start looking at life with glass half full. The minute you have an opportunity to have some self-care time today, turn off your phone. go have a self-care night, call your mom or go eat dinner with your parents, put on your favorite movie, journal, do things that make you happy without any guilt because you're here in a once in a lifetime experience to live life and you deserve to live life. I love you guys so much and I hope this episode made you happy and realize that you are meant to be here and enjoy things. so just don't take things so seriously.

And always remind yourself of the purpose of why you are here. I know we got a little sappy on today's episode, but I feel like it was really needed, especially with everyone going back to school and going back to work and us being very easy to get into hassle culture. So it just is a great reminder. So I hope you love today's episode. Please share this episode over TikTok and over Instagram.

As you guys know, I always repost anything you guys tag me I am so beyond grateful for all your support and all the love that you guys share. And please also support the show by reading over Spotify and leaving a review over Apple Podcasts. If you want to be featured on next week's episode, I love you with all my heart. And remember, you are here for a reason and you have a purpose. And do not forget to stay busy yet pretty.